Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

summerlee82 · summerlee82

I don't even know where to begin. I have no one to talk to because I haven't shared this "secret" with anyone other than one person at work. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing and he refuses to even talk about it. If I even try to express my concerns, he gets defensive. I met the guy of my drea...

clflint · clflint

Life is a journey. For me, the journey with my AH began 32 years ago. I was 20 years old and full of all the hope and excitement a new marriage brings. Over the years, it became apparent to me that this journey was not going to be anywhere close to what I was dreaming about the day I said, "I Do."...

flinn66 · flinn66

Last weekend I was away in Florida for a few days, nice to enjoy some welcome sunshine. My cat sitter was not available and as my ex A has been sober for a while now (although not in recovery) I asked if he could call round and feed the cat for a couple of days. Well you can probably already see where this is goi...

sookie · sookie

I am exhausted from living in limbo--paralyzed with fear about making the decision to divorce my already separated AH. I pray every night for the guidance--asking God, what am I supposed to do? I also pray for the strength to carry out God's Will...once I figure out what it is. We have 2 small kids and th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

My friends: As a few of you have told me, the emotions are everywhere and yes I actually feel downright manic at times! A student at my school saw me laughing with another teacher and said, 'look you made Ms. D smile--I mean really smile!'. That made me realize 1) I have not been showing my real smile nea...

blondie99 · blondie99

Don't know about you all, but I am SO grateful that it is Saturday! Even though we had last Monday off for Memorial Day, it was the l-o-n-g-e-s-t shortest week ever. HP chose to give me a break after the week from hell I had. It's been pretty quiet around here and I'm taking it as an opportunity to employ th...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone Well, I get a call from my son. He is home from his visit with his father. Heard all the ups and downs but all is OK. Now I'm told by my son that he is coming for a visit this afternoon because my PARTNER told him to come this weekend again and they will go shooting the new AR15. I didn't know anyth...

Lay · Lay

My husband's best friend (pretty much brother) committed suicide late Wednesday night. He was a Directional Oil Driller, and he was out on a rig in North Dakota when it happened. Most of his friends and family live here in Mississippi. He has a wife and 2 small children here. We are all still just so shoc...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Lately, as I've mentioned I've been feeling really down and it doesn't seem to be going away. I am questioning if this is just a down period or if I should talk to my doctor. I'm feeling very light-headed, like I am just going throug...

Melodibella · Melodibella

It is so great to read all your stories, never even thought that I was not the only one suffering with A husband and It isn't all me! I thought I was so bad to put him through all my hate, of His doings. But I see it is Him making me feel like a loser! When things are bad between us, I give in to his ways and moved on,...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: Well, unbelievably I am down to the last weekend w H in the house. I am examining the co-dependency traits that I've got which have allowed me to get pulled into some of the craziness, and am working really heard to remember that we got to this point not because of one event, or because I hav...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

My AH and I finally had a real discussion this morning about the thousand of dollars of debt he managed to accumulate over the last two years. I have been paying all the credit card bills, but the budget is so tight, we barely have anything left over each month. It is scary. In the last two weeks he starting...

Lyne · Lyne

So I'm driving to my mom's house to deliver some stuff and I see my spouse's car parked at a local bar/restaurant. This is a place she has done alot of drinking at, and she shouldn't be there at all, even if she isn't drinking. In a few seconds I hear my HP and you guys~keep driving, don't go in a make a scene...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Darn it & dang me! Why can't I stop complaining? I have the world on a silver platter w/ many blessings & good friends & good fellowship! I am blessed beyond belief: I just can't stop finding the un-silver lining in life. I am going to have the gift of a lifetime; my vision. I have been struggl...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I heard a woman in an Alanon meeting say this: "I saw I was powerless over my dependencies." What does this mean?

1976love · 1976love

The other day Canadian guy posted about the wife making her AH eggs for breakfast. Today my AH hasn't drank in 2 days and the weekend is approaching. Tonight we have tball and we are helping his parents after the game. I sent him a quick text saying I would ask his parents to watch our daughter so I can go...

Redfraggle · Redfraggle

Hi! My name is Red and i'm new to this group and Al-anon in general. I'm young (33) and have 2 young kids (not in school yet). I've been with DH since I was 18 and we got married after I graduated college in 2004. I met him when he was in the Coast Guard, he drank like a 20 year old enlisted Coastie...problem is...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Okay after mylast post and talking to my sponsor I decided to get my head back on........ Here is all that I am thankful for 1. my beautiful, precocious 4 year old daughter that is healthy, smart and funny 2. my beautiful, athletic, well thought out, brilliant 15 year old, who amazes me in the young wom...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

For the longest time, I have been suffering w/ the lack of group, let alone conscience. I am definitely done trying to please the lack of interest in our Al anon unsuccessful meeting. People have been filtering in & out unable to commit. Me & another member have been keeping this meeting going...

Jozie · Jozie

So Much Always Going on in this Disease... Seems it Latches hold of me, and I am Constantly Fighting to stay up & above where I once was... Did ya Ever Loss somthing or someone that you could talk to about anything, cry & pout or Share your Happiness... Well that is where I'm At! I am the Type that w...

oldergal · oldergal

So I have been praying for this for many years, my son to have a better life than what he had. I am sincerely happy for him, but feeling a little selfish, because now that he is sober and I can enjoy a "real" person, he is leaving the area and will be 12 hours away, This is all good stuff, but I can't c...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, I am feeling very hopeless right now. I don't have much hope that things will change for me. I don't know why? I need to stop comparing myself to others and their lives. Life is getting very routine and I am seeing little signs of change. I am alone. I am lonely. I am afraid that I will echo my fat...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

The train is in the station, but I am doing my best not to get on board. AH woke up in a weird mood and it has continued all day. Strange texts, requests for money, erratic behavior, you all know what those days are like. I dont think he was drinking today, but I know he is still smoking pot. Anyway, I call...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Was a horrible week last week. Between my guy and me, and the stupid dep sheriff thing. I am still feeling beat up but better. Did learn a ton. As far as my guy, he texted me asking if he could please call me. So he did Monday afternoon. We talked two hours. I had told him days ago to at least do this, text me some...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: This is strange; I feel....calm, resolved and know I am doing the right thing. I relive periods from my past in the struggling marriage and know that this is right for me. My soon to be ex is at the same time texting me with 'will you reconsider? I dont need drinking, I can stop yesterday an...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife and I went to dinner with my grandson and daughters on Thursday night...a going away dinner as my grandson and his wife and their two daughters are leaving, moving to the continent. The dinner was spectacular...two different chicken recipies...no its not another addiction one was a stew...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: Having a sort of 'up and down' kind of day. The weekend was tough, AH has one more week in the house and has used some of his time to get some nastiness out toward me. I know he is hurting, I know deep down he probably has self-hatred going on, but it is tough feeling those things come at me ('I a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My Mom is writing on facebook how she is on this diet that her Doctor had put her on, which I am proud of her because she is way overweight. Growing up she was always heavy, but now it is seriously dangerous and hard on her knees and she works long days and work hours. So anywho she is writing about how she is ea...

debhud · debhud

hi all, this horrid disease is killing my precious 37 year old son. his weight is down to about 100 pounds. his hands shake soon after waking up. and his body requires alcohol or he will have seizures. he has pancreatitis. he has come to the conclusion that he is just "rotting" in his ho...

Gaby · Gaby

I thought when my 21 year old went to rehab I would be able to start sleeping just knowing he is not out there high or at home stealing for his next fixed. But I am an emotional wreck. With anger hate confusion. Asking myself I did above and beyond to help him to not see him behind bars or kill himself or someon...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Oops, my AH decided to get on my case about something today and I was getting frustrated. I let my 14.5 year old pull the car out of the driveway into the cul de sac and then park it across the street. He drove about 100 feet and went about 5 MPH. The first thing out of my AH's mouth was, "Is that even le...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Thanks for your encouragement and prayers of support as I travelled to my childhood home. It was a bittersweet time. I did keep my word to myself and didn't bring everything in the house home with me. It was difficult to choose what to take and what to leave behind. My brother was not available to mee...

Britt · Britt

My girlfriend is going through detox and she is on her 7th day. I know she is sick and all but will it affect her to act as she hates me? Will it change over time? Or because she is getting clean she is losing interest in me..? please help have many more questions...

KLotus · KLotus

Today, after a recent counseling appointment and reading Courage to Change, I am realizing how much of my struggle is deeply rooted in two things: self-doubt and fear. I am 4 years into a Recovery process. I admit that I feel I should be farther along, as a recovered person. I will acknowledge that I...

willowtree · willowtree

I recently had an amazing spiritual awakening and it was so wonderful. I felt God's presence with me and it was so healing. So today I opened up my bible and read some very beautiful things and some very unsettling things that it said. I immediately felt bad inside and like i wanted to throw it away. I a...

Pushka · Pushka

It really sounds like everyone has a lot on their plate these days, .. I know I do .. lol. My mom is visiting and as I've shared in the past .. it's always entertaining and NEVER dull. Bring on the dulldom .. geeze .. LOL! So it all started yesterday and yesterday being Monday after all, I was headed out ear...

el-cee · el-cee

...I'm grateful for not giving in and rescuing my son, he's gone back to dad's. I'm grateful for meeting my ex ah and seeing that he's 'getting' AA finally. I'm grateful I have my daughter back with me after5 yrs, she's 22 now and I want to enjoy her company. I'm grateful for having good friends, includin...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

In addition to the daily work i do, around this time every year i like to do a long 10th step inventory where I list all the names where i feel most affected. I started last night. There are about 40 names on the list. I see already a very strong repetitive pattern of being used by others to deflect what is g...

sadsusie · sadsusie

So...had an enjoyable weekend with close friends (of us as a couple) The husband is a functioning alcoholic and the wife is a recovering alcoholic...waiting for a liver. So it was not as "normal" as normal could be, but not the usual isolation. It was nice to be able to connect with someone a...

1976love · 1976love

I have been posting alot lately, and I thankful to have found this site. It's an extra life line. My AH comes home from work in about an hour and again he has said today is the day he stops drinking and goes back to AA. (he threw away all his hard liquor, well drank it, and there is 2 tall buds left in the frig)...

Debilyn · Debilyn

You all know me. but I do not laugh, all I do is feel pain. the love I always felt is not there for anyone or anything. I feel nothing but hurt, let down, discouraged, alone, lost, dead. I am used to this feeling of love all the time thru everything. Its hard to explain. It radiates from my heart. guess a broke...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

So sad. It's almost impossible to sleep. My baby who just turned 19 is in the process of messing up his life and he wants my help...but I don't know what to do! If he makes no moves to recovery do I help him? He's piling on more and more issues that he cannot take care of. Legal issues as his mom I feel I should...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

This is another post about gossip. There must be something in the air lately. I let myself get dragged into somebody's drama over the past 2 weeks. It resulted in my crossing the line between wanting to be supportive of someone during a hard time, and engaging in outright mean backstabbing about a 3rd...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

WELCOME BACK BETTY!! So happy to see you ...... ((( hugs )))

MissMonty · MissMonty

Hi. I have been with my addict since we were 11 years old. We have been in a consistent relationship for the past 7 years with a few hiccups in between. We are both only 22 years old and we have a 4 year old daughter and another girl on the way! I love him more than I can say, despite every wrong doing he has done...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am closing our local meeting after years of keeping it open. I am frustrated about the lack of interest & no support for my commitment. I have been praying for awhile whether I should close the meeting. I am just grateful that it was open for many years & was the longest standing meeting in our s...

Gaby · Gaby

I have a 21 year old and he has been an opiate addict on and off since he was 15 years old. I admit I have been his worst enabler. He was dry for about 3 years but things spiraled huge at 20 with herion. He is now in rehab on his own but I live with fear and guilt every second of my days. How do I begin To heal?

Holly09 · Holly09

In my post yesterday my A boyfriend was acting out as a dry drunk and I said I wasn't going to let it ruin my day......we had a family cook out and it was fabulous! I had a great day the kids had a blast! I went about my business and enjoyed myself, he is gonna have to find his way because I can't help him anymor...

1976love · 1976love

I was really thinking that I should call one of my friends from al anon meetings (don't have a sponsor, but I do have a ton of numbers) but we are told to Let go and Let God. My AH in my opinion really needs rehab. He of course will never admit that, but drinking the way he does and yesterday driving drunk (h...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son is sober and he and my partner are talking computers, tearing down guns, cleaning and putting back together. What's so good about it I was ALWAYS in the middle talking for both of them so nothing would happen. I let go I walked away and I'm fixing a great dinner for the holiday. I can't believe w...

dponlyme · dponlyme

Today started last night. We had family game night and that went well. Whole family came over and we had a cookout and played scattergories til almost 1:30 in the morning. My AW didn't drink or smoke any weed. All good. Problem started because I couldn't or wouldn't let myself go to sleep. I stayed up unt...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I am just fuming right now. I left for a cruise with my parents a week ago, and the night before I had a conversation with my A boyfriend after not really seeing him for a week. He had started drinking again and his behavior was emotionally abusive. The night before my cruise, we calmly talked and he said...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

It has been a year since I moved an hour and a half away from the exAH this June 1. Although we have been divorced I still stayed in the same small town for some time afterwards. I wanted to move forward in every way so I moved and started school and put my kids in better schools. We are all thriving and doing m...

cinders · cinders

Yesterday I started thinking about my ex husband, my qualifier. Was thinking a little too much about the past I guess. A week ago I was contacted by an old friend I had not heard from since he and I had split in November. She lives with his best friend and coworker. I had to keep redirecting conversati...

deacon · deacon

Our son 34, had a breakdown just before Christmas. His wife had left him, he had carried an enormously heavy load for several years. She was depressed and did nothing for herself or him whatsoever. He was supporting her, doing all the housework and cooking and holding down a very stressful and underpa...

1976love · 1976love

I don't get it, and I am glad I don't...My AH has been on a raging binge ever after falling off the wagon 2 weeks ago. No need to point out all the chaos and crazyness, why repaeat the same old stories...Oh shucks, he pee'd on the brand new couch! On a serious note though, he said yesterday he would go to the...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

The alcoholic has been in control for quite a while but I had gotten about a weeks worth of messages from the person I remember so I finally answered and we talked for about an hour. He said that he was sorry for blaming me and that he was the cause of his problems and many other things that are true and ration...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Today my AM and I spent the day together, it's very rare that both she and I get off work, on the same day. We spent the day shopping, going to lunch, where she had only 2 glasses of wine, not even getting anywhere close to being tipsy. I was very proud of myself that I didn't get upset because she ordered wine...

lightblue2 · lightblue2

I haven't posted for awhile. Today I am driving my cousin to a rehab to have an appointment about entering the facility. I haven't seen alot of him in quite sometime, but I do see his mum and she has been a great support for me, unconditionally. So knowing of the appointment I called and offered to drive...

lorraine · lorraine

my boyfriend stopped drinking again 5 weeks and i starting to fear it not going to last. he has only ever got 3 weeks before (at home, he has stayed in treatment centres for months but always drank 3 weeks after coming home) and since we passed the 3 week mark i have getting this gnawing feeling of is it goin...

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	Am I giving up too much??? (Preview) I don't even know where to begin. I have no one to talk to because I haven't shared this "secret" with anyone other than one person at work. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing and he refuses to even talk about it. If I even try to express my concerns, he gets defensive. I met the guy of my drea...	summerlee82	11	565	Jun 3, 2013 by Geo
	Life is a journey (Preview) Life is a journey. For me, the journey with my AH began 32 years ago. I was 20 years old and full of all the hope and excitement a new marriage brings. Over the years, it became apparent to me that this journey was not going to be anywhere close to what I was dreaming about the day I said, "I Do."...	clflint	5	347	Jun 3, 2013 by clflint
	Trust betrayed - will I ever learn? (Preview) Last weekend I was away in Florida for a few days, nice to enjoy some welcome sunshine. My cat sitter was not available and as my ex A has been sober for a while now (although not in recovery) I asked if he could call round and feed the cat for a couple of days. Well you can probably already see where this is goi...	flinn66	11	809	Jun 3, 2013 by flinn66
	Praying for knowledge of God's Will... (Preview) I am exhausted from living in limbo--paralyzed with fear about making the decision to divorce my already separated AH. I pray every night for the guidance--asking God, what am I supposed to do? I also pray for the strength to carry out God's Will...once I figure out what it is. We have 2 small kids and th...	sookie	9	797	Jun 3, 2013 by sookie
	As promised, my daily thoughts, like it or not! (Preview) My friends: As a few of you have told me, the emotions are everywhere and yes I actually feel downright manic at times! A student at my school saw me laughing with another teacher and said, 'look you made Ms. D smile--I mean really smile!'. That made me realize 1) I have not been showing my real smile nea...	yanksfan51	11	555	Jun 3, 2013 by Lyne
	the practice of grace and thankfulness (Preview) Don't know about you all, but I am SO grateful that it is Saturday! Even though we had last Monday off for Memorial Day, it was the l-o-n-g-e-s-t shortest week ever. HP chose to give me a break after the week from hell I had. It's been pretty quiet around here and I'm taking it as an opportunity to employ th...	blondie99	6	649	Jun 2, 2013 by PP
	Mixed Feelings (Preview) Hi Everyone Well, I get a call from my son. He is home from his visit with his father. Heard all the ups and downs but all is OK. Now I'm told by my son that he is coming for a visit this afternoon because my PARTNER told him to come this weekend again and they will go shooting the new AR15. I didn't know anyth...	Cathyinaz	8	384	Jun 2, 2013 by Bettina
	AH's best friend (Preview) My husband's best friend (pretty much brother) committed suicide late Wednesday night. He was a Directional Oil Driller, and he was out on a rig in North Dakota when it happened. Most of his friends and family live here in Mississippi. He has a wife and 2 small children here. We are all still just so shoc...	Lay	9	255	Jun 1, 2013 by Lay
	I feel like I've been strong for way to long. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Lately, as I've mentioned I've been feeling really down and it doesn't seem to be going away. I am questioning if this is just a down period or if I should talk to my doctor. I'm feeling very light-headed, like I am just going throug...	slogan_jim	8	450	Jun 1, 2013 by flinn66
	Loving this site! (Preview) It is so great to read all your stories, never even thought that I was not the only one suffering with A husband and It isn't all me! I thought I was so bad to put him through all my hate, of His doings. But I see it is Him making me feel like a loser! When things are bad between us, I give in to his ways and moved on,...	Melodibella	3	245	Jun 1, 2013 by ryanhearted
	the last weekend (Preview) Hi Everybody: Well, unbelievably I am down to the last weekend w H in the house. I am examining the co-dependency traits that I've got which have allowed me to get pulled into some of the craziness, and am working really heard to remember that we got to this point not because of one event, or because I hav...	yanksfan51	12	475	Jun 1, 2013 by blondie99
	Financial Worries (Preview) My AH and I finally had a real discussion this morning about the thousand of dollars of debt he managed to accumulate over the last two years. I have been paying all the credit card bills, but the budget is so tight, we barely have anything left over each month. It is scary. In the last two weeks he starting...	ParisMemories	8	500	Jun 1, 2013 by ParisMemories
	Proud of myself today (Preview) So I'm driving to my mom's house to deliver some stuff and I see my spouse's car parked at a local bar/restaurant. This is a place she has done alot of drinking at, and she shouldn't be there at all, even if she isn't drinking. In a few seconds I hear my HP and you guys~keep driving, don't go in a make a scene...	Lyne	12	247	Jun 1, 2013 by Rumaghose
	totally complaining again: why can't I stop? (Preview) Darn it & dang me! Why can't I stop complaining? I have the world on a silver platter w/ many blessings & good friends & good fellowship! I am blessed beyond belief: I just can't stop finding the un-silver lining in life. I am going to have the gift of a lifetime; my vision. I have been struggl...	Hoot Nanny	2	398	Jun 1, 2013 by Jerry F
	What does this term mean? (Preview) I heard a woman in an Alanon meeting say this: "I saw I was powerless over my dependencies." What does this mean?	WorkingThroughIt	4	273	Jun 1, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	reminded of the egg story (Preview) The other day Canadian guy posted about the wife making her AH eggs for breakfast. Today my AH hasn't drank in 2 days and the weekend is approaching. Tonight we have tball and we are helping his parents after the game. I sent him a quick text saying I would ask his parents to watch our daughter so I can go...	1976love	4	220	Jun 1, 2013 by grateful2be
	Hi, my name is "red" new (Preview) Hi! My name is Red and i'm new to this group and Al-anon in general. I'm young (33) and have 2 young kids (not in school yet). I've been with DH since I was 18 and we got married after I graduated college in 2004. I met him when he was in the Coast Guard, he drank like a 20 year old enlisted Coastie...problem is...	Redfraggle	7	281	May 31, 2013 by Redfraggle
	Attitude of Gratitiude (Preview) Okay after mylast post and talking to my sponsor I decided to get my head back on........ Here is all that I am thankful for 1. my beautiful, precocious 4 year old daughter that is healthy, smart and funny 2. my beautiful, athletic, well thought out, brilliant 15 year old, who amazes me in the young wom...	Breakingfree	4	166	May 31, 2013 by PP
	2 people--no group conscience. (Preview) For the longest time, I have been suffering w/ the lack of group, let alone conscience. I am definitely done trying to please the lack of interest in our Al anon unsuccessful meeting. People have been filtering in & out unable to commit. Me & another member have been keeping this meeting going...	Hoot Nanny	5	396	May 31, 2013 by el-cee
	I AM a Constant Work in Progress.... (Preview) So Much Always Going on in this Disease... Seems it Latches hold of me, and I am Constantly Fighting to stay up & above where I once was... Did ya Ever Loss somthing or someone that you could talk to about anything, cry & pout or Share your Happiness... Well that is where I'm At! I am the Type that w...	Jozie	4	361	May 31, 2013 by Jozie
	Well I Guess He Is Sober (Preview) So I have been praying for this for many years, my son to have a better life than what he had. I am sincerely happy for him, but feeling a little selfish, because now that he is sober and I can enjoy a "real" person, he is leaving the area and will be 12 hours away, This is all good stuff, but I can't c...	oldergal	6	332	May 31, 2013 by pinkchip
	Tired of being tired (Preview) Hi everyone, I am feeling very hopeless right now. I don't have much hope that things will change for me. I don't know why? I need to stop comparing myself to others and their lives. Life is getting very routine and I am seeing little signs of change. I am alone. I am lonely. I am afraid that I will echo my fat...	slogan_jim	12	777	May 31, 2013 by Auntyaya
	CrazyTrain is in the station (Preview) The train is in the station, but I am doing my best not to get on board. AH woke up in a weird mood and it has continued all day. Strange texts, requests for money, erratic behavior, you all know what those days are like. I dont think he was drinking today, but I know he is still smoking pot. Anyway, I call...	ParisMemories	6	387	May 31, 2013 by Ms S
	And the beat goes on (Preview) Was a horrible week last week. Between my guy and me, and the stupid dep sheriff thing. I am still feeling beat up but better. Did learn a ton. As far as my guy, he texted me asking if he could please call me. So he did Monday afternoon. We talked two hours. I had told him days ago to at least do this, text me some...	Debilyn	6	446	May 31, 2013 by grateful2be
	ESH please, moveout looms ever closer (Preview) Hi Everybody: This is strange; I feel....calm, resolved and know I am doing the right thing. I relive periods from my past in the struggling marriage and know that this is right for me. My soon to be ex is at the same time texting me with 'will you reconsider? I dont need drinking, I can stop yesterday an...	yanksfan51	10	281	May 31, 2013 by orchidlover
	The family disease.. (Preview) My wife and I went to dinner with my grandson and daughters on Thursday night...a going away dinner as my grandson and his wife and their two daughters are leaving, moving to the continent. The dinner was spectacular...two different chicken recipies...no its not another addiction one was a stew...	Jerry F	11	593	May 31, 2013 by orchidlover
	trying to live in the now (Preview) Hi Everybody: Having a sort of 'up and down' kind of day. The weekend was tough, AH has one more week in the house and has used some of his time to get some nastiness out toward me. I know he is hurting, I know deep down he probably has self-hatred going on, but it is tough feeling those things come at me ('I a...	yanksfan51	5	653	May 30, 2013 by Lyne
	Judging my Mother again on fb in fact! (Preview) My Mom is writing on facebook how she is on this diet that her Doctor had put her on, which I am proud of her because she is way overweight. Growing up she was always heavy, but now it is seriously dangerous and hard on her knees and she works long days and work hours. So anywho she is writing about how she is ea...	Breakingfree	3	366	May 30, 2013 by Jerry F
	for the first time, i am losing hope... (Preview) hi all, this horrid disease is killing my precious 37 year old son. his weight is down to about 100 pounds. his hands shake soon after waking up. and his body requires alcohol or he will have seizures. he has pancreatitis. he has come to the conclusion that he is just "rotting" in his ho...	debhud	9	382	May 30, 2013 by el-cee
	My sons in rehab but yet I am living with fear and mixed emotions. (Preview) I thought when my 21 year old went to rehab I would be able to start sleeping just knowing he is not out there high or at home stealing for his next fixed. But I am an emotional wreck. With anger hate confusion. Asking myself I did above and beyond to help him to not see him behind bars or kill himself or someon...	Gaby	4	239	May 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Is that legal? (Preview) Oops, my AH decided to get on my case about something today and I was getting frustrated. I let my 14.5 year old pull the car out of the driveway into the cul de sac and then park it across the street. He drove about 100 feet and went about 5 MPH. The first thing out of my AH's mouth was, "Is that even le...	ilovedogs	13	493	May 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Update (Preview) Thanks for your encouragement and prayers of support as I travelled to my childhood home. It was a bittersweet time. I did keep my word to myself and didn't bring everything in the house home with me. It was difficult to choose what to take and what to leave behind. My brother was not available to mee...	tiredtonite	3	391	May 30, 2013 by tiredtonite
	I am new to all this please help me understand (Preview) My girlfriend is going through detox and she is on her 7th day. I know she is sick and all but will it affect her to act as she hates me? Will it change over time? Or because she is getting clean she is losing interest in me..? please help have many more questions...	Britt	4	350	May 30, 2013 by Magster
	My Recovery (Preview) Today, after a recent counseling appointment and reading Courage to Change, I am realizing how much of my struggle is deeply rooted in two things: self-doubt and fear. I am 4 years into a Recovery process. I admit that I feel I should be farther along, as a recovered person. I will acknowledge that I...	KLotus	6	296	May 30, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Tell me about your HP and how you experience it? (Preview) I recently had an amazing spiritual awakening and it was so wonderful. I felt God's presence with me and it was so healing. So today I opened up my bible and read some very beautiful things and some very unsettling things that it said. I immediately felt bad inside and like i wanted to throw it away. I a...	willowtree	16	552	May 29, 2013 by likemyheart
	Funny stories .. (Preview) It really sounds like everyone has a lot on their plate these days, .. I know I do .. lol. My mom is visiting and as I've shared in the past .. it's always entertaining and NEVER dull. Bring on the dulldom .. geeze .. LOL! So it all started yesterday and yesterday being Monday after all, I was headed out ear...	Pushka	3	261	May 29, 2013 by likemyheart
	just for today.... (Preview) ...I'm grateful for not giving in and rescuing my son, he's gone back to dad's. I'm grateful for meeting my ex ah and seeing that he's 'getting' AA finally. I'm grateful I have my daughter back with me after5 yrs, she's 22 now and I want to enjoy her company. I'm grateful for having good friends, includin...	el-cee	9	822	May 29, 2013 by el-cee
	Strong Pattern (Preview) In addition to the daily work i do, around this time every year i like to do a long 10th step inventory where I list all the names where i feel most affected. I started last night. There are about 40 names on the list. I see already a very strong repetitive pattern of being used by others to deflect what is g...	WorkingThroughIt	11	458	May 29, 2013 by el-cee
	I think I am making a little progress (Preview) So...had an enjoyable weekend with close friends (of us as a couple) The husband is a functioning alcoholic and the wife is a recovering alcoholic...waiting for a liver. So it was not as "normal" as normal could be, but not the usual isolation. It was nice to be able to connect with someone a...	sadsusie	1	302	May 29, 2013 by PP
	Praying for courage (Preview) I have been posting alot lately, and I thankful to have found this site. It's an extra life line. My AH comes home from work in about an hour and again he has said today is the day he stops drinking and goes back to AA. (he threw away all his hard liquor, well drank it, and there is 2 tall buds left in the frig)...	1976love	9	247	May 29, 2013 by 1976love
	will I ever be me again? (Preview) You all know me. but I do not laugh, all I do is feel pain. the love I always felt is not there for anyone or anything. I feel nothing but hurt, let down, discouraged, alone, lost, dead. I am used to this feeling of love all the time thru everything. Its hard to explain. It radiates from my heart. guess a broke...	Debilyn	7	663	May 29, 2013 by Debilyn
	But he's my son! What to do when it's a child! (Preview) So sad. It's almost impossible to sleep. My baby who just turned 19 is in the process of messing up his life and he wants my help...but I don't know what to do! If he makes no moves to recovery do I help him? He's piling on more and more issues that he cannot take care of. Legal issues as his mom I feel I should...	Katytexasmom	14	715	May 29, 2013 by Gaby
	A Searching and Scary Moral Inventory (Preview) This is another post about gossip. There must be something in the air lately. I let myself get dragged into somebody's drama over the past 2 weeks. It resulted in my crossing the line between wanting to be supportive of someone during a hard time, and engaging in outright mean backstabbing about a 3rd...	ClearTheFog	9	259	May 28, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	Welcome Back (Preview) WELCOME BACK BETTY!! So happy to see you ...... ((( hugs )))	Cathyinaz	4	238	May 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	New here - A young wife of a recovering addict new relationships addict (Preview) Hi. I have been with my addict since we were 11 years old. We have been in a consistent relationship for the past 7 years with a few hiccups in between. We are both only 22 years old and we have a 4 year old daughter and another girl on the way! I love him more than I can say, despite every wrong doing he has done...	MissMonty	3	9016	May 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	closing the meeting after prayer & hesitation (Preview) I am closing our local meeting after years of keeping it open. I am frustrated about the lack of interest & no support for my commitment. I have been praying for awhile whether I should close the meeting. I am just grateful that it was open for many years & was the longest standing meeting in our s...	Hoot Nanny	5	673	May 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	I need help to begin to heal. (Preview) I have a 21 year old and he has been an opiate addict on and off since he was 15 years old. I admit I have been his worst enabler. He was dry for about 3 years but things spiraled huge at 20 with herion. He is now in rehab on his own but I live with fear and guilt every second of my days. How do I begin To heal?	Gaby	9	587	May 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	Was a good day! (Preview) In my post yesterday my A boyfriend was acting out as a dry drunk and I said I wasn't going to let it ruin my day......we had a family cook out and it was fabulous! I had a great day the kids had a blast! I went about my business and enjoyed myself, he is gonna have to find his way because I can't help him anymor...	Holly09	3	172	May 28, 2013 by Breakingfree
	another quick question for my MIP friends (Preview) I was really thinking that I should call one of my friends from al anon meetings (don't have a sponsor, but I do have a ton of numbers) but we are told to Let go and Let God. My AH in my opinion really needs rehab. He of course will never admit that, but drinking the way he does and yesterday driving drunk (h...	1976love	7	297	May 28, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Son is here for a Visit (Preview) My son is sober and he and my partner are talking computers, tearing down guns, cleaning and putting back together. What's so good about it I was ALWAYS in the middle talking for both of them so nothing would happen. I let go I walked away and I'm fixing a great dinner for the holiday. I can't believe w...	Cathyinaz	12	490	May 28, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Today has not been good for me (Preview) Today started last night. We had family game night and that went well. Whole family came over and we had a cookout and played scattergories til almost 1:30 in the morning. My AW didn't drink or smoke any weed. All good. Problem started because I couldn't or wouldn't let myself go to sleep. I stayed up unt...	dponlyme	8	257	May 28, 2013 by PP
	irrational guilt (Preview) I am just fuming right now. I left for a cruise with my parents a week ago, and the night before I had a conversation with my A boyfriend after not really seeing him for a week. He had started drinking again and his behavior was emotionally abusive. The night before my cruise, we calmly talked and he said...	giraffe13	8	502	May 28, 2013 by Pushka
	My first birthday weekend away from ..... (Preview) It has been a year since I moved an hour and a half away from the exAH this June 1. Although we have been divorced I still stayed in the same small town for some time afterwards. I wanted to move forward in every way so I moved and started school and put my kids in better schools. We are all thriving and doing m...	Breakingfree	9	476	May 28, 2013 by Pushka
	A set back (Preview) Yesterday I started thinking about my ex husband, my qualifier. Was thinking a little too much about the past I guess. A week ago I was contacted by an old friend I had not heard from since he and I had split in November. She lives with his best friend and coworker. I had to keep redirecting conversati...	cinders	5	265	May 28, 2013 by Pushka
	So afraid we are doing the wrong wrong thing- or is it the right thing? (Preview) Our son 34, had a breakdown just before Christmas. His wife had left him, he had carried an enormously heavy load for several years. She was depressed and did nothing for herself or him whatsoever. He was supporting her, doing all the housework and cooking and holding down a very stressful and underpa...	deacon	9	713	May 28, 2013 by PP
	confused (Preview) I don't get it, and I am glad I don't...My AH has been on a raging binge ever after falling off the wagon 2 weeks ago. No need to point out all the chaos and crazyness, why repaeat the same old stories...Oh shucks, he pee'd on the brand new couch! On a serious note though, he said yesterday he would go to the...	1976love	7	277	May 28, 2013 by Mrcodie
	A Visit From My Husband (Preview) The alcoholic has been in control for quite a while but I had gotten about a weeks worth of messages from the person I remember so I finally answered and we talked for about an hour. He said that he was sorry for blaming me and that he was the cause of his problems and many other things that are true and ration...	wornoutmrsfixit	5	465	May 28, 2013 by el-cee
	A very good day today (Preview) Today my AM and I spent the day together, it's very rare that both she and I get off work, on the same day. We spent the day shopping, going to lunch, where she had only 2 glasses of wine, not even getting anywhere close to being tipsy. I was very proud of myself that I didn't get upset because she ordered wine...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	192	May 28, 2013 by el-cee
	Glad to return the support (Preview) I haven't posted for awhile. Today I am driving my cousin to a rehab to have an appointment about entering the facility. I haven't seen alot of him in quite sometime, but I do see his mum and she has been a great support for me, unconditionally. So knowing of the appointment I called and offered to drive...	lightblue2	2	198	May 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	hes sober again but i cant believe it (Preview) my boyfriend stopped drinking again 5 weeks and i starting to fear it not going to last. he has only ever got 3 weeks before (at home, he has stayed in treatment centres for months but always drank 3 weeks after coming home) and since we passed the 3 week mark i have getting this gnawing feeling of is it goin...	lorraine	8	278	May 28, 2013 by Oksie
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