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ParisMemories · ParisMemories

My AH and I finally had a real discussion this morning about the thousand of dollars of debt he managed to accumulate over the last two years. I have been paying all the credit card bills, but the budget is so tight, we barely have anything left over each month. It is scary. In the last two weeks he starting...

Lyne · Lyne

So I'm driving to my mom's house to deliver some stuff and I see my spouse's car parked at a local bar/restaurant. This is a place she has done alot of drinking at, and she shouldn't be there at all, even if she isn't drinking. In a few seconds I hear my HP and you guys~keep driving, don't go in a make a scene...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Darn it & dang me! Why can't I stop complaining? I have the world on a silver platter w/ many blessings & good friends & good fellowship! I am blessed beyond belief: I just can't stop finding the un-silver lining in life. I am going to have the gift of a lifetime; my vision. I have been struggl...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I heard a woman in an Alanon meeting say this: "I saw I was powerless over my dependencies." What does this mean?

1976love · 1976love

The other day Canadian guy posted about the wife making her AH eggs for breakfast. Today my AH hasn't drank in 2 days and the weekend is approaching. Tonight we have tball and we are helping his parents after the game. I sent him a quick text saying I would ask his parents to watch our daughter so I can go...

Redfraggle · Redfraggle

Hi! My name is Red and i'm new to this group and Al-anon in general. I'm young (33) and have 2 young kids (not in school yet). I've been with DH since I was 18 and we got married after I graduated college in 2004. I met him when he was in the Coast Guard, he drank like a 20 year old enlisted Coastie...problem is...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Okay after mylast post and talking to my sponsor I decided to get my head back on........ Here is all that I am thankful for 1. my beautiful, precocious 4 year old daughter that is healthy, smart and funny 2. my beautiful, athletic, well thought out, brilliant 15 year old, who amazes me in the young wom...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

For the longest time, I have been suffering w/ the lack of group, let alone conscience. I am definitely done trying to please the lack of interest in our Al anon unsuccessful meeting. People have been filtering in & out unable to commit. Me & another member have been keeping this meeting going...

Jozie · Jozie

So Much Always Going on in this Disease... Seems it Latches hold of me, and I am Constantly Fighting to stay up & above where I once was... Did ya Ever Loss somthing or someone that you could talk to about anything, cry & pout or Share your Happiness... Well that is where I'm At! I am the Type that w...

oldergal · oldergal

So I have been praying for this for many years, my son to have a better life than what he had. I am sincerely happy for him, but feeling a little selfish, because now that he is sober and I can enjoy a "real" person, he is leaving the area and will be 12 hours away, This is all good stuff, but I can't c...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, I am feeling very hopeless right now. I don't have much hope that things will change for me. I don't know why? I need to stop comparing myself to others and their lives. Life is getting very routine and I am seeing little signs of change. I am alone. I am lonely. I am afraid that I will echo my fat...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

The train is in the station, but I am doing my best not to get on board. AH woke up in a weird mood and it has continued all day. Strange texts, requests for money, erratic behavior, you all know what those days are like. I dont think he was drinking today, but I know he is still smoking pot. Anyway, I call...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Was a horrible week last week. Between my guy and me, and the stupid dep sheriff thing. I am still feeling beat up but better. Did learn a ton. As far as my guy, he texted me asking if he could please call me. So he did Monday afternoon. We talked two hours. I had told him days ago to at least do this, text me some...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: This is strange; I feel....calm, resolved and know I am doing the right thing. I relive periods from my past in the struggling marriage and know that this is right for me. My soon to be ex is at the same time texting me with 'will you reconsider? I dont need drinking, I can stop yesterday an...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife and I went to dinner with my grandson and daughters on Thursday night...a going away dinner as my grandson and his wife and their two daughters are leaving, moving to the continent. The dinner was spectacular...two different chicken recipies...no its not another addiction one was a stew...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: Having a sort of 'up and down' kind of day. The weekend was tough, AH has one more week in the house and has used some of his time to get some nastiness out toward me. I know he is hurting, I know deep down he probably has self-hatred going on, but it is tough feeling those things come at me ('I a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My Mom is writing on facebook how she is on this diet that her Doctor had put her on, which I am proud of her because she is way overweight. Growing up she was always heavy, but now it is seriously dangerous and hard on her knees and she works long days and work hours. So anywho she is writing about how she is ea...

debhud · debhud

hi all, this horrid disease is killing my precious 37 year old son. his weight is down to about 100 pounds. his hands shake soon after waking up. and his body requires alcohol or he will have seizures. he has pancreatitis. he has come to the conclusion that he is just "rotting" in his ho...

Gaby · Gaby

I thought when my 21 year old went to rehab I would be able to start sleeping just knowing he is not out there high or at home stealing for his next fixed. But I am an emotional wreck. With anger hate confusion. Asking myself I did above and beyond to help him to not see him behind bars or kill himself or someon...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Oops, my AH decided to get on my case about something today and I was getting frustrated. I let my 14.5 year old pull the car out of the driveway into the cul de sac and then park it across the street. He drove about 100 feet and went about 5 MPH. The first thing out of my AH's mouth was, "Is that even le...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Thanks for your encouragement and prayers of support as I travelled to my childhood home. It was a bittersweet time. I did keep my word to myself and didn't bring everything in the house home with me. It was difficult to choose what to take and what to leave behind. My brother was not available to mee...

Britt · Britt

My girlfriend is going through detox and she is on her 7th day. I know she is sick and all but will it affect her to act as she hates me? Will it change over time? Or because she is getting clean she is losing interest in me..? please help have many more questions...

KLotus · KLotus

Today, after a recent counseling appointment and reading Courage to Change, I am realizing how much of my struggle is deeply rooted in two things: self-doubt and fear. I am 4 years into a Recovery process. I admit that I feel I should be farther along, as a recovered person. I will acknowledge that I...

willowtree · willowtree

I recently had an amazing spiritual awakening and it was so wonderful. I felt God's presence with me and it was so healing. So today I opened up my bible and read some very beautiful things and some very unsettling things that it said. I immediately felt bad inside and like i wanted to throw it away. I a...

Pushka · Pushka

It really sounds like everyone has a lot on their plate these days, .. I know I do .. lol. My mom is visiting and as I've shared in the past .. it's always entertaining and NEVER dull. Bring on the dulldom .. geeze .. LOL! So it all started yesterday and yesterday being Monday after all, I was headed out ear...

el-cee · el-cee

...I'm grateful for not giving in and rescuing my son, he's gone back to dad's. I'm grateful for meeting my ex ah and seeing that he's 'getting' AA finally. I'm grateful I have my daughter back with me after5 yrs, she's 22 now and I want to enjoy her company. I'm grateful for having good friends, includin...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

In addition to the daily work i do, around this time every year i like to do a long 10th step inventory where I list all the names where i feel most affected. I started last night. There are about 40 names on the list. I see already a very strong repetitive pattern of being used by others to deflect what is g...

sadsusie · sadsusie

So...had an enjoyable weekend with close friends (of us as a couple) The husband is a functioning alcoholic and the wife is a recovering alcoholic...waiting for a liver. So it was not as "normal" as normal could be, but not the usual isolation. It was nice to be able to connect with someone a...

1976love · 1976love

I have been posting alot lately, and I thankful to have found this site. It's an extra life line. My AH comes home from work in about an hour and again he has said today is the day he stops drinking and goes back to AA. (he threw away all his hard liquor, well drank it, and there is 2 tall buds left in the frig)...

Debilyn · Debilyn

You all know me. but I do not laugh, all I do is feel pain. the love I always felt is not there for anyone or anything. I feel nothing but hurt, let down, discouraged, alone, lost, dead. I am used to this feeling of love all the time thru everything. Its hard to explain. It radiates from my heart. guess a broke...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

So sad. It's almost impossible to sleep. My baby who just turned 19 is in the process of messing up his life and he wants my help...but I don't know what to do! If he makes no moves to recovery do I help him? He's piling on more and more issues that he cannot take care of. Legal issues as his mom I feel I should...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

This is another post about gossip. There must be something in the air lately. I let myself get dragged into somebody's drama over the past 2 weeks. It resulted in my crossing the line between wanting to be supportive of someone during a hard time, and engaging in outright mean backstabbing about a 3rd...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

WELCOME BACK BETTY!! So happy to see you ...... ((( hugs )))

MissMonty · MissMonty

Hi. I have been with my addict since we were 11 years old. We have been in a consistent relationship for the past 7 years with a few hiccups in between. We are both only 22 years old and we have a 4 year old daughter and another girl on the way! I love him more than I can say, despite every wrong doing he has done...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am closing our local meeting after years of keeping it open. I am frustrated about the lack of interest & no support for my commitment. I have been praying for awhile whether I should close the meeting. I am just grateful that it was open for many years & was the longest standing meeting in our s...

Gaby · Gaby

I have a 21 year old and he has been an opiate addict on and off since he was 15 years old. I admit I have been his worst enabler. He was dry for about 3 years but things spiraled huge at 20 with herion. He is now in rehab on his own but I live with fear and guilt every second of my days. How do I begin To heal?

Holly09 · Holly09

In my post yesterday my A boyfriend was acting out as a dry drunk and I said I wasn't going to let it ruin my day......we had a family cook out and it was fabulous! I had a great day the kids had a blast! I went about my business and enjoyed myself, he is gonna have to find his way because I can't help him anymor...

1976love · 1976love

I was really thinking that I should call one of my friends from al anon meetings (don't have a sponsor, but I do have a ton of numbers) but we are told to Let go and Let God. My AH in my opinion really needs rehab. He of course will never admit that, but drinking the way he does and yesterday driving drunk (h...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son is sober and he and my partner are talking computers, tearing down guns, cleaning and putting back together. What's so good about it I was ALWAYS in the middle talking for both of them so nothing would happen. I let go I walked away and I'm fixing a great dinner for the holiday. I can't believe w...

dponlyme · dponlyme

Today started last night. We had family game night and that went well. Whole family came over and we had a cookout and played scattergories til almost 1:30 in the morning. My AW didn't drink or smoke any weed. All good. Problem started because I couldn't or wouldn't let myself go to sleep. I stayed up unt...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I am just fuming right now. I left for a cruise with my parents a week ago, and the night before I had a conversation with my A boyfriend after not really seeing him for a week. He had started drinking again and his behavior was emotionally abusive. The night before my cruise, we calmly talked and he said...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

It has been a year since I moved an hour and a half away from the exAH this June 1. Although we have been divorced I still stayed in the same small town for some time afterwards. I wanted to move forward in every way so I moved and started school and put my kids in better schools. We are all thriving and doing m...

cinders · cinders

Yesterday I started thinking about my ex husband, my qualifier. Was thinking a little too much about the past I guess. A week ago I was contacted by an old friend I had not heard from since he and I had split in November. She lives with his best friend and coworker. I had to keep redirecting conversati...

deacon · deacon

Our son 34, had a breakdown just before Christmas. His wife had left him, he had carried an enormously heavy load for several years. She was depressed and did nothing for herself or him whatsoever. He was supporting her, doing all the housework and cooking and holding down a very stressful and underpa...

1976love · 1976love

I don't get it, and I am glad I don't...My AH has been on a raging binge ever after falling off the wagon 2 weeks ago. No need to point out all the chaos and crazyness, why repaeat the same old stories...Oh shucks, he pee'd on the brand new couch! On a serious note though, he said yesterday he would go to the...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

The alcoholic has been in control for quite a while but I had gotten about a weeks worth of messages from the person I remember so I finally answered and we talked for about an hour. He said that he was sorry for blaming me and that he was the cause of his problems and many other things that are true and ration...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Today my AM and I spent the day together, it's very rare that both she and I get off work, on the same day. We spent the day shopping, going to lunch, where she had only 2 glasses of wine, not even getting anywhere close to being tipsy. I was very proud of myself that I didn't get upset because she ordered wine...

lightblue2 · lightblue2

I haven't posted for awhile. Today I am driving my cousin to a rehab to have an appointment about entering the facility. I haven't seen alot of him in quite sometime, but I do see his mum and she has been a great support for me, unconditionally. So knowing of the appointment I called and offered to drive...

lorraine · lorraine

my boyfriend stopped drinking again 5 weeks and i starting to fear it not going to last. he has only ever got 3 weeks before (at home, he has stayed in treatment centres for months but always drank 3 weeks after coming home) and since we passed the 3 week mark i have getting this gnawing feeling of is it goin...

Holly09 · Holly09

Give me strength not to inflict bodily harm on him while he is acting his dry drunk self! That is how I'm feeling right now. Yesterday was all about how he doesn't want to feel like this anymore and how sorry he is and doesn't know what to do...today it's about I don't see why I can't do what I want (not bout...

Debilyn · Debilyn

When my son took me to the jail to fill out papers.... processed, I went to the restroom, he was waiting in the lobby. I came back and he said,"DARN!" "I was hoping you would be gone when they came back so I could tell them you took off!" I slugged him. (here is this big handsome guy ho...

Malsey · Malsey

Hello everyone. I just found this site and am just starting with the steps. I have a friend that I have known for over 4 years, we became close like brother and sister. He is an alcoholic and has used me in every and anyway he could. He just got his 4th DWI and his wife finally kicked him out, He has lived...

Debilyn · Debilyn

The hoarder across the road has caused me insurmountable pain. Now she and ignored what a sargent told her and harrassed me again. To the point that she lyed and lyed about me and I got charged with disorderly conduct. My family probably many generations back have NEVER been in trouble. never. It wi...

el-cee · el-cee

Tonight my son is sleeping on my couch. He is running out of friends to stay with. Putting the anger and guilt trip on me. I told him one night, he's going to see about a room tomorrow, he says. Hes upset he's not welcome anywhere. Feel sorry and want to rescue. My insanity is still alive. I'm sad and feeling...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I recently wrote about my son and his upcoming release from prison for a technical violation (basically drinking/drugging and not reporting because he'd been drinking/drugging). I was feeling like a cheese because I wouldn't make my home an option for a place to go because I know it won't work, I'v...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone I was sitting here doing a little reading and journal in my book. I ended it with a little prayer for me and my son. I asked God if he could help my son ( 6 days sober) that he finally found a therapy for this deadly disease of Alcoholism. That this time will be the right combination of therapy...

sweeetr · sweeetr

My AH thinks his blood pressure and temper issues have been helped by new doctors med. (Our family doctor kicked him out as a patient after getting popped on a synthetic drug test and showing his butt at the office) Any way ... he found new doctor that did NO blood work and asked for NO medical records.. He...

Laura Baker · Laura Baker

should i call back?

Jerry F · Jerry F

I was brought up in Al-Anon to constantly look for balance...serenity...sanity...peace of mind. God knows that when the disease was raging in my life none of that or those were present. Its not that the tools were not there; as most of you know now or knew then I was way too preoccupied fighting the...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

For some stupid codependent reason I feel the 'need to know'. I feel that I have to know everything, good, bad, whatever. And, even when my intuition tells me something that is most likely true, I feel the need to seek out that truth to validate my intuition. What's up with that???? For example: AH te...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Financial Worries (Preview) My AH and I finally had a real discussion this morning about the thousand of dollars of debt he managed to accumulate over the last two years. I have been paying all the credit card bills, but the budget is so tight, we barely have anything left over each month. It is scary. In the last two weeks he starting...	ParisMemories	8	488	Jun 1, 2013 by ParisMemories
	Proud of myself today (Preview) So I'm driving to my mom's house to deliver some stuff and I see my spouse's car parked at a local bar/restaurant. This is a place she has done alot of drinking at, and she shouldn't be there at all, even if she isn't drinking. In a few seconds I hear my HP and you guys~keep driving, don't go in a make a scene...	Lyne	12	235	Jun 1, 2013 by Rumaghose
	totally complaining again: why can't I stop? (Preview) Darn it & dang me! Why can't I stop complaining? I have the world on a silver platter w/ many blessings & good friends & good fellowship! I am blessed beyond belief: I just can't stop finding the un-silver lining in life. I am going to have the gift of a lifetime; my vision. I have been struggl...	Hoot Nanny	2	382	Jun 1, 2013 by Jerry F
	What does this term mean? (Preview) I heard a woman in an Alanon meeting say this: "I saw I was powerless over my dependencies." What does this mean?	WorkingThroughIt	4	259	Jun 1, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	reminded of the egg story (Preview) The other day Canadian guy posted about the wife making her AH eggs for breakfast. Today my AH hasn't drank in 2 days and the weekend is approaching. Tonight we have tball and we are helping his parents after the game. I sent him a quick text saying I would ask his parents to watch our daughter so I can go...	1976love	4	208	Jun 1, 2013 by grateful2be
	Hi, my name is "red" new (Preview) Hi! My name is Red and i'm new to this group and Al-anon in general. I'm young (33) and have 2 young kids (not in school yet). I've been with DH since I was 18 and we got married after I graduated college in 2004. I met him when he was in the Coast Guard, he drank like a 20 year old enlisted Coastie...problem is...	Redfraggle	7	269	May 31, 2013 by Redfraggle
	Attitude of Gratitiude (Preview) Okay after mylast post and talking to my sponsor I decided to get my head back on........ Here is all that I am thankful for 1. my beautiful, precocious 4 year old daughter that is healthy, smart and funny 2. my beautiful, athletic, well thought out, brilliant 15 year old, who amazes me in the young wom...	Breakingfree	4	151	May 31, 2013 by PP
	2 people--no group conscience. (Preview) For the longest time, I have been suffering w/ the lack of group, let alone conscience. I am definitely done trying to please the lack of interest in our Al anon unsuccessful meeting. People have been filtering in & out unable to commit. Me & another member have been keeping this meeting going...	Hoot Nanny	5	381	May 31, 2013 by el-cee
	I AM a Constant Work in Progress.... (Preview) So Much Always Going on in this Disease... Seems it Latches hold of me, and I am Constantly Fighting to stay up & above where I once was... Did ya Ever Loss somthing or someone that you could talk to about anything, cry & pout or Share your Happiness... Well that is where I'm At! I am the Type that w...	Jozie	4	346	May 31, 2013 by Jozie
	Well I Guess He Is Sober (Preview) So I have been praying for this for many years, my son to have a better life than what he had. I am sincerely happy for him, but feeling a little selfish, because now that he is sober and I can enjoy a "real" person, he is leaving the area and will be 12 hours away, This is all good stuff, but I can't c...	oldergal	6	320	May 31, 2013 by pinkchip
	Tired of being tired (Preview) Hi everyone, I am feeling very hopeless right now. I don't have much hope that things will change for me. I don't know why? I need to stop comparing myself to others and their lives. Life is getting very routine and I am seeing little signs of change. I am alone. I am lonely. I am afraid that I will echo my fat...	slogan_jim	12	764	May 31, 2013 by Auntyaya
	CrazyTrain is in the station (Preview) The train is in the station, but I am doing my best not to get on board. AH woke up in a weird mood and it has continued all day. Strange texts, requests for money, erratic behavior, you all know what those days are like. I dont think he was drinking today, but I know he is still smoking pot. Anyway, I call...	ParisMemories	6	375	May 31, 2013 by Ms S
	And the beat goes on (Preview) Was a horrible week last week. Between my guy and me, and the stupid dep sheriff thing. I am still feeling beat up but better. Did learn a ton. As far as my guy, he texted me asking if he could please call me. So he did Monday afternoon. We talked two hours. I had told him days ago to at least do this, text me some...	Debilyn	6	434	May 31, 2013 by grateful2be
	ESH please, moveout looms ever closer (Preview) Hi Everybody: This is strange; I feel....calm, resolved and know I am doing the right thing. I relive periods from my past in the struggling marriage and know that this is right for me. My soon to be ex is at the same time texting me with 'will you reconsider? I dont need drinking, I can stop yesterday an...	yanksfan51	10	268	May 31, 2013 by orchidlover
	The family disease.. (Preview) My wife and I went to dinner with my grandson and daughters on Thursday night...a going away dinner as my grandson and his wife and their two daughters are leaving, moving to the continent. The dinner was spectacular...two different chicken recipies...no its not another addiction one was a stew...	Jerry F	11	577	May 31, 2013 by orchidlover
	trying to live in the now (Preview) Hi Everybody: Having a sort of 'up and down' kind of day. The weekend was tough, AH has one more week in the house and has used some of his time to get some nastiness out toward me. I know he is hurting, I know deep down he probably has self-hatred going on, but it is tough feeling those things come at me ('I a...	yanksfan51	5	640	May 30, 2013 by Lyne
	Judging my Mother again on fb in fact! (Preview) My Mom is writing on facebook how she is on this diet that her Doctor had put her on, which I am proud of her because she is way overweight. Growing up she was always heavy, but now it is seriously dangerous and hard on her knees and she works long days and work hours. So anywho she is writing about how she is ea...	Breakingfree	3	351	May 30, 2013 by Jerry F
	for the first time, i am losing hope... (Preview) hi all, this horrid disease is killing my precious 37 year old son. his weight is down to about 100 pounds. his hands shake soon after waking up. and his body requires alcohol or he will have seizures. he has pancreatitis. he has come to the conclusion that he is just "rotting" in his ho...	debhud	9	367	May 30, 2013 by el-cee
	My sons in rehab but yet I am living with fear and mixed emotions. (Preview) I thought when my 21 year old went to rehab I would be able to start sleeping just knowing he is not out there high or at home stealing for his next fixed. But I am an emotional wreck. With anger hate confusion. Asking myself I did above and beyond to help him to not see him behind bars or kill himself or someon...	Gaby	4	227	May 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Is that legal? (Preview) Oops, my AH decided to get on my case about something today and I was getting frustrated. I let my 14.5 year old pull the car out of the driveway into the cul de sac and then park it across the street. He drove about 100 feet and went about 5 MPH. The first thing out of my AH's mouth was, "Is that even le...	ilovedogs	13	481	May 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Update (Preview) Thanks for your encouragement and prayers of support as I travelled to my childhood home. It was a bittersweet time. I did keep my word to myself and didn't bring everything in the house home with me. It was difficult to choose what to take and what to leave behind. My brother was not available to mee...	tiredtonite	3	376	May 30, 2013 by tiredtonite
	I am new to all this please help me understand (Preview) My girlfriend is going through detox and she is on her 7th day. I know she is sick and all but will it affect her to act as she hates me? Will it change over time? Or because she is getting clean she is losing interest in me..? please help have many more questions...	Britt	4	338	May 30, 2013 by Magster
	My Recovery (Preview) Today, after a recent counseling appointment and reading Courage to Change, I am realizing how much of my struggle is deeply rooted in two things: self-doubt and fear. I am 4 years into a Recovery process. I admit that I feel I should be farther along, as a recovered person. I will acknowledge that I...	KLotus	6	284	May 30, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Tell me about your HP and how you experience it? (Preview) I recently had an amazing spiritual awakening and it was so wonderful. I felt God's presence with me and it was so healing. So today I opened up my bible and read some very beautiful things and some very unsettling things that it said. I immediately felt bad inside and like i wanted to throw it away. I a...	willowtree	16	538	May 29, 2013 by likemyheart
	Funny stories .. (Preview) It really sounds like everyone has a lot on their plate these days, .. I know I do .. lol. My mom is visiting and as I've shared in the past .. it's always entertaining and NEVER dull. Bring on the dulldom .. geeze .. LOL! So it all started yesterday and yesterday being Monday after all, I was headed out ear...	Pushka	3	246	May 29, 2013 by likemyheart
	just for today.... (Preview) ...I'm grateful for not giving in and rescuing my son, he's gone back to dad's. I'm grateful for meeting my ex ah and seeing that he's 'getting' AA finally. I'm grateful I have my daughter back with me after5 yrs, she's 22 now and I want to enjoy her company. I'm grateful for having good friends, includin...	el-cee	9	809	May 29, 2013 by el-cee
	Strong Pattern (Preview) In addition to the daily work i do, around this time every year i like to do a long 10th step inventory where I list all the names where i feel most affected. I started last night. There are about 40 names on the list. I see already a very strong repetitive pattern of being used by others to deflect what is g...	WorkingThroughIt	11	442	May 29, 2013 by el-cee
	I think I am making a little progress (Preview) So...had an enjoyable weekend with close friends (of us as a couple) The husband is a functioning alcoholic and the wife is a recovering alcoholic...waiting for a liver. So it was not as "normal" as normal could be, but not the usual isolation. It was nice to be able to connect with someone a...	sadsusie	1	288	May 29, 2013 by PP
	Praying for courage (Preview) I have been posting alot lately, and I thankful to have found this site. It's an extra life line. My AH comes home from work in about an hour and again he has said today is the day he stops drinking and goes back to AA. (he threw away all his hard liquor, well drank it, and there is 2 tall buds left in the frig)...	1976love	9	235	May 29, 2013 by 1976love
	will I ever be me again? (Preview) You all know me. but I do not laugh, all I do is feel pain. the love I always felt is not there for anyone or anything. I feel nothing but hurt, let down, discouraged, alone, lost, dead. I am used to this feeling of love all the time thru everything. Its hard to explain. It radiates from my heart. guess a broke...	Debilyn	7	651	May 29, 2013 by Debilyn
	But he's my son! What to do when it's a child! (Preview) So sad. It's almost impossible to sleep. My baby who just turned 19 is in the process of messing up his life and he wants my help...but I don't know what to do! If he makes no moves to recovery do I help him? He's piling on more and more issues that he cannot take care of. Legal issues as his mom I feel I should...	Katytexasmom	14	701	May 29, 2013 by Gaby
	A Searching and Scary Moral Inventory (Preview) This is another post about gossip. There must be something in the air lately. I let myself get dragged into somebody's drama over the past 2 weeks. It resulted in my crossing the line between wanting to be supportive of someone during a hard time, and engaging in outright mean backstabbing about a 3rd...	ClearTheFog	9	247	May 28, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	Welcome Back (Preview) WELCOME BACK BETTY!! So happy to see you ...... ((( hugs )))	Cathyinaz	4	226	May 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	New here - A young wife of a recovering addict new relationships addict (Preview) Hi. I have been with my addict since we were 11 years old. We have been in a consistent relationship for the past 7 years with a few hiccups in between. We are both only 22 years old and we have a 4 year old daughter and another girl on the way! I love him more than I can say, despite every wrong doing he has done...	MissMonty	3	8470	May 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	closing the meeting after prayer & hesitation (Preview) I am closing our local meeting after years of keeping it open. I am frustrated about the lack of interest & no support for my commitment. I have been praying for awhile whether I should close the meeting. I am just grateful that it was open for many years & was the longest standing meeting in our s...	Hoot Nanny	5	655	May 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	I need help to begin to heal. (Preview) I have a 21 year old and he has been an opiate addict on and off since he was 15 years old. I admit I have been his worst enabler. He was dry for about 3 years but things spiraled huge at 20 with herion. He is now in rehab on his own but I live with fear and guilt every second of my days. How do I begin To heal?	Gaby	9	575	May 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	Was a good day! (Preview) In my post yesterday my A boyfriend was acting out as a dry drunk and I said I wasn't going to let it ruin my day......we had a family cook out and it was fabulous! I had a great day the kids had a blast! I went about my business and enjoyed myself, he is gonna have to find his way because I can't help him anymor...	Holly09	3	160	May 28, 2013 by Breakingfree
	another quick question for my MIP friends (Preview) I was really thinking that I should call one of my friends from al anon meetings (don't have a sponsor, but I do have a ton of numbers) but we are told to Let go and Let God. My AH in my opinion really needs rehab. He of course will never admit that, but drinking the way he does and yesterday driving drunk (h...	1976love	7	285	May 28, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Son is here for a Visit (Preview) My son is sober and he and my partner are talking computers, tearing down guns, cleaning and putting back together. What's so good about it I was ALWAYS in the middle talking for both of them so nothing would happen. I let go I walked away and I'm fixing a great dinner for the holiday. I can't believe w...	Cathyinaz	12	477	May 28, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Today has not been good for me (Preview) Today started last night. We had family game night and that went well. Whole family came over and we had a cookout and played scattergories til almost 1:30 in the morning. My AW didn't drink or smoke any weed. All good. Problem started because I couldn't or wouldn't let myself go to sleep. I stayed up unt...	dponlyme	8	245	May 28, 2013 by PP
	irrational guilt (Preview) I am just fuming right now. I left for a cruise with my parents a week ago, and the night before I had a conversation with my A boyfriend after not really seeing him for a week. He had started drinking again and his behavior was emotionally abusive. The night before my cruise, we calmly talked and he said...	giraffe13	8	490	May 28, 2013 by Pushka
	My first birthday weekend away from ..... (Preview) It has been a year since I moved an hour and a half away from the exAH this June 1. Although we have been divorced I still stayed in the same small town for some time afterwards. I wanted to move forward in every way so I moved and started school and put my kids in better schools. We are all thriving and doing m...	Breakingfree	9	462	May 28, 2013 by Pushka
	A set back (Preview) Yesterday I started thinking about my ex husband, my qualifier. Was thinking a little too much about the past I guess. A week ago I was contacted by an old friend I had not heard from since he and I had split in November. She lives with his best friend and coworker. I had to keep redirecting conversati...	cinders	5	252	May 28, 2013 by Pushka
	So afraid we are doing the wrong wrong thing- or is it the right thing? (Preview) Our son 34, had a breakdown just before Christmas. His wife had left him, he had carried an enormously heavy load for several years. She was depressed and did nothing for herself or him whatsoever. He was supporting her, doing all the housework and cooking and holding down a very stressful and underpa...	deacon	9	697	May 28, 2013 by PP
	confused (Preview) I don't get it, and I am glad I don't...My AH has been on a raging binge ever after falling off the wagon 2 weeks ago. No need to point out all the chaos and crazyness, why repaeat the same old stories...Oh shucks, he pee'd on the brand new couch! On a serious note though, he said yesterday he would go to the...	1976love	7	261	May 28, 2013 by Mrcodie
	A Visit From My Husband (Preview) The alcoholic has been in control for quite a while but I had gotten about a weeks worth of messages from the person I remember so I finally answered and we talked for about an hour. He said that he was sorry for blaming me and that he was the cause of his problems and many other things that are true and ration...	wornoutmrsfixit	5	447	May 28, 2013 by el-cee
	A very good day today (Preview) Today my AM and I spent the day together, it's very rare that both she and I get off work, on the same day. We spent the day shopping, going to lunch, where she had only 2 glasses of wine, not even getting anywhere close to being tipsy. I was very proud of myself that I didn't get upset because she ordered wine...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	179	May 28, 2013 by el-cee
	Glad to return the support (Preview) I haven't posted for awhile. Today I am driving my cousin to a rehab to have an appointment about entering the facility. I haven't seen alot of him in quite sometime, but I do see his mum and she has been a great support for me, unconditionally. So knowing of the appointment I called and offered to drive...	lightblue2	2	184	May 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	hes sober again but i cant believe it (Preview) my boyfriend stopped drinking again 5 weeks and i starting to fear it not going to last. he has only ever got 3 weeks before (at home, he has stayed in treatment centres for months but always drank 3 weeks after coming home) and since we passed the 3 week mark i have getting this gnawing feeling of is it goin...	lorraine	8	263	May 28, 2013 by Oksie
	Give me strength (Preview) Give me strength not to inflict bodily harm on him while he is acting his dry drunk self! That is how I'm feeling right now. Yesterday was all about how he doesn't want to feel like this anymore and how sorry he is and doesn't know what to do...today it's about I don't see why I can't do what I want (not bout...	Holly09	0	282	May 27, 2013 by Holly09
	couple little things.... (Preview) When my son took me to the jail to fill out papers.... processed, I went to the restroom, he was waiting in the lobby. I came back and he said,"DARN!" "I was hoping you would be gone when they came back so I could tell them you took off!" I slugged him. (here is this big handsome guy ho...	Debilyn	1	738	May 27, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Hello, I am new here (Preview) Hello everyone. I just found this site and am just starting with the steps. I have a friend that I have known for over 4 years, we became close like brother and sister. He is an alcoholic and has used me in every and anyway he could. He just got his 4th DWI and his wife finally kicked him out, He has lived...	Malsey	3	249	May 27, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Living in the numb and tears ab (Preview) The hoarder across the road has caused me insurmountable pain. Now she and ignored what a sargent told her and harrassed me again. To the point that she lyed and lyed about me and I got charged with disorderly conduct. My family probably many generations back have NEVER been in trouble. never. It wi...	Debilyn	5	1022	May 27, 2013 by Breakingfree
	unlearning (Preview) Tonight my son is sleeping on my couch. He is running out of friends to stay with. Putting the anger and guilt trip on me. I told him one night, he's going to see about a room tomorrow, he says. Hes upset he's not welcome anywhere. Feel sorry and want to rescue. My insanity is still alive. I'm sad and feeling...	el-cee	9	392	May 27, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	AS returns from prison in a few days (Preview) I recently wrote about my son and his upcoming release from prison for a technical violation (basically drinking/drugging and not reporting because he'd been drinking/drugging). I was feeling like a cheese because I wouldn't make my home an option for a place to go because I know it won't work, I'v...	grateful2be	6	379	May 27, 2013 by Debilyn
	Prayers (Preview) Hi Everyone I was sitting here doing a little reading and journal in my book. I ended it with a little prayer for me and my son. I asked God if he could help my son ( 6 days sober) that he finally found a therapy for this deadly disease of Alcoholism. That this time will be the right combination of therapy...	Cathyinaz	8	849	May 27, 2013 by el-cee
	doctors that keep giving more pills ???? (Preview) My AH thinks his blood pressure and temper issues have been helped by new doctors med. (Our family doctor kicked him out as a patient after getting popped on a synthetic drug test and showing his butt at the office) Any way ... he found new doctor that did NO blood work and asked for NO medical records.. He...	sweeetr	7	1757	May 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	Calling again! (Preview) should i call back?	Laura Baker	5	330	May 26, 2013 by Laura Baker
	New Avatar (Preview) I was brought up in Al-Anon to constantly look for balance...serenity...sanity...peace of mind. God knows that when the disease was raging in my life none of that or those were present. Its not that the tools were not there; as most of you know now or knew then I was way too preoccupied fighting the...	Jerry F	11	469	May 26, 2013 by Pushka
	Stay on my side of the street (Preview) For some stupid codependent reason I feel the 'need to know'. I feel that I have to know everything, good, bad, whatever. And, even when my intuition tells me something that is most likely true, I feel the need to seek out that truth to validate my intuition. What's up with that???? For example: AH te...	ilovedogs	5	1098	May 26, 2013 by Pushka
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