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So I'm driving to my mom's house to deliver some stuff and I see my spouse's car parked at a local bar/restaurant. This is a place she has done alot of drinking at, and she shouldn't be there at all, even if she isn't drinking. In a few seconds I hear my HP and you guys~keep driving, don't go in a make a scene, you can't control her, etc. And guess what? I went to my mom's & I did my thing. I did text her and said I saw her car, considered going in, but that alanon has taught me I can't control her. No drama, no fighting, and so, THANK YOU! Lyne
God if I could have texted my alcoholic/addict that I saw her car at one of the watering holes and thought of going in she would have left town. I use to track her drinking trails and the one time I found her I pulled her away from the bar and sat her down at a single table and gave her a lesson on "how its done" (drinking my style that is). When the lesson was done I told her to go home cause dinner was done and waiting and I would follow to which the bartender tried to stop me with "You mean you're gonna try to drive home after drinking like that"??!! I had never investigate my own drinking so I was hurt that he and others there would think that there was something wrong with me. How dare they. I did make it home...just couldn't remember the route I took...hmmmmm. Now I practice the program that's preached. I stopped trying to direct my wife's attention at me totally...it wasn't about me at all. I stopped looking for her and her car and just left it up to God and God led me to her at the times I could be of use...other times God took care of it without me. It works when you work it. ((((hugs))))
Yuh did d right thing.......