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DavidG · DavidG

The reading today is about focussing on others... I took on some of my parent's needs. My mum was far more capable than my dad, so it was dad's role I took on most... our "bathroom" was out in the horse paddock... and one night it blew over... my mum had to install a facility in a shed near to the...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Has anyone else gone through or is going through a grieving process? Did it help? How did you do it? i am trying to determine whether detaching and staying in the present moment is enough - or to release some of this grief stored up in my body & tissues. I'm probably using the good to stuff it back down....

missmeliss · missmeliss

Angry child sits at the end of our new Giganticouch, furiously brushing her hair. Why is she angry? Well just LOOK at her school dress! She has two dresses, ($110 each mind you) and I had only enough money to have one hemmed to her desired above-the-knee length by a tailor. I'm a sloppy seamstress and at t...

John · John

missmeliss · missmeliss

Sigh. For every time I said I wanted to leave ABF thee was always a reason that i "couldn't". (And these "reasons did feel overwhelming, not by any means trifles). But, you know. I couldn't afford a place on my own, I couldn't handle sharing with a stranger, i couldn't bear to go to my mo...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi everyone, I have missed you. Well we have the first week under our belts. My AH moved back in on Feb 1, 2015. The week was exhausting for not only me, but him as well. We both had anxiety, excitement, dread, fear, giddiness, and a whole host of other emotions and basically yesterday we finally admitted...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I need a safe place to vent: My son (29) pings me periodically, like tonight, usually via a text or a very brief call - sometimes it's just to say "Hi", but most times it's to allude to some type of impending problem ("stuff I can't talk about with you, or anyone else in our family") -...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My recovery in al-anon is for me. As I understand it, (and I am still pretty fresh, I move very slowly in this program, after 1.5 years I am still not all of the way through the steps but I believe in the process and work at it daily), but anyway as I understand it al-anon is a space where I can be safe to grow flo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

teachable. I was very fortunate in being gifted by my Higher Power with the sponsorship I had and now have. Coming to the understanding that being humble isn't the same as accepting humiliation was higher education. The program told and taught me "listen, learn, practice, practice, pr...

Peggy53 · Peggy53

This time last year, I was in crisis mode. My alcoholic was in turmoil and the family was on overdrive. After many months of weekend binges, emergency calls, lies...anger, frustration, tears and many, many prayers...rehab help was taken. Program completed, 60 days sober...stops taking meds....

LinSC · LinSC

Hope = H hold O on P pain E ends !

LinSC · LinSC

"guide me in all I do, sometimes waiting is the answer to some of my prayers" Its been 15 years and I have had two major prayers answered. One was that my son stop drinking and the other was that my other son stop his addiction to gaming! Well 2 yrs ago my son stopped drinking, and today I found ou...

Luiza · Luiza

So, the landlord wants me out by the 15th and I have no where else to go yet. I have been searching frenetically and sometimes I attend 2 to 3 viewings a day. Still I am not accepted anywhere because I am a single parent receiving state benefits. Even though I have 2 jobs, a glowing reference from my current...

Jen61 · Jen61

I grew up in an alcoholic home. As far back as I can remember my dad drank and came home drunk. He was in the navy and to make extra money he worked at the Chiefs Club as a bartender. I remember always looking out the window waiting for him to come home and asking my mom to not yell at my dad. Of course she did...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Yesterday I went out op-shopping (yay!) with a small amount of money and a big wish-list. I thought maybe I might find one or 2 items, all going well. I've been feeling good about not needing everything "right now" and not worrying or being upset about lacking certain items, and it's a big co...

frustrationshigh · frustrationshigh

I have to brag a bit because I'm so very proud of myself! My wife is a very active alcoholic. Over the last few weeks, it's greatly increased. Her normal rotation is where she's really drunk Monday-Friday. On the weekend, she's sober 99% of the time. Saturdays are spent recovering and feeling bad a...

Mirandac · Mirandac

Has grateful left the MIP board? I just went to check on her status Because i miss her and her wisdom it says deleted.

Layla83 · Layla83

Hope for Today - came in the mail this morning. I really like it so far - think it will help a lot :) I still get a bit angry and emotional when I think about my AH (father) and his behavior. We have closed the door on him asking him to go to rehab. But we told him we will support him if he does go so we are giving hi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The God of my understanding has a wicked sense of humor .. I mean SERIOUSLY wicked I'm pretty sure it's to keep me humble and keep my ADHD energy in check .. I'm totally telling on myself .. it is sooo worth the laugh .. First off I'm laughing a lot probably too much .. LOL .. I figure it's all good and the first...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C February 8 speaks about wanting to be friends with everybody and being hurt if someone rejects us. It points out that the Al-Anon closing says:" you may not like all of us put you love us in a very special way." It is important to understand that we can't have everybody's friendship bu...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Courage to Change today told me to do something....anything. So today I come here and give what little ESH I have inside that just might help that one person. I feel good about that. We learn so much by the books so I trust everyone has them close. February 7th.....in the year Twenty Fifteen

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am going to take care of m@2:30 plus of coursre. I am going to doctor at 11. I am getting massage therapy . Plus of course my all anon meeting at 3:30. I am taking care of me. Good news: I slept through the night. I was up for a bit but went back to bed. All I can say thanks to my HP.

oceanpine · oceanpine

So I was planning on leaving with the kids a couple days ago. I just could not find a time that felt right, with a kid recovering from sickness, my AH in and out of the house randomly, etc. He caught wind of my plans - I didn't think he would think 2 book bags with some books in them was an indication I was goin...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I dont make a habit of chasing people down but she was unwell when I last spoke to her and she has gone completely off the air and I am concerned. Anyone heard from her?

AWSmith · AWSmith

Handling it when they come home trashed is a lot easier when they just go to bed. Tonight it was the 'No, I haven't been'. Then I pointed out we have a breathalyzer at the house... and how sad it is that we have a breathalyzer at the house. She volunteered to blow. I blow... 0.000. She blows... 0.102. S...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I'm like an old dresser with many many coats of paint. The paint was put there to protect the old dresser and to make it look pretty. It worked for many years, but the paint has begun to flake and peel off, so instead of putting on a new layer of paint, I've decided to take off all of the old. As I take off laye...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

It must be nice to be the fun parent - the one who shows up to play and do all the fun stuff. Not the cleaning, trying to get the kid to clean up after himself, getting homework done, practicing reading which always ends in frustration, and on and on. And since child isnt secure in knowing dad will still lov...

el-cee · el-cee

I was at a great meeting today and i heard e.g.o can be called edging god out. Its a good way to think about it. Whenever i think ive got it sorted and i know it all then im not in contact with my higher power.

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

In the reading for ODAT today I am hearing loud and clear the message of paying it forward. Someone loved me before I loved myself when I first came into the rooms of al-anon and helped me to learn to love myself and actually take good care of me. My life has changed so much for the better and now I want to shar...

glad · glad

I think this is totally an al anon share as was Miss Mel's today! All I ever wanted was for someone to label me as acceptable, a "keeper" and I have always been destroyed when that doesn't happen... I'm not sure why but Mel's post gave me things to think about. I can relate to the family thing in...

Cooper · Cooper

My 21 year old son lost his license for drunk driving but did get work driving privileges. I own a business and he was working for me at the time of his DUI and still continues to work for me, I know that in itself is enabling but he is a good worker and earns his keep. Now his driving suspension is up and h...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today speaks about learning to accept" life on life's terms' . It points out that this simple statement opens many doors and helps us to stop trying to change people, places and things over which we have no control or power.Acceptance is an interesting word I found it sim...

DW1081 · DW1081

I am so confused and hurt right now. I need some insight to help me through this difficult time. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years in the middle of January and he has been an active opiate addict and whatever else he could get his hands on the whole time. I have been completely sober from drinking s...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Yesterday I was bringing my daughter home from school. A lot of teenagers walk by my apartment complex on their way home from school. I saw a guy laying on the sidewalk as I drove by. I told myself he must have been playing around with some kids and fell or was pretending to be hurt or something. He was at lea...

el-cee · el-cee

It seems like a battle between good and bad im ny head sometimes. Light and dark. Im trying to choose the light, the positive thinking makes living better. Its hard to be negative after writing a gratitude list. Today i am grateful for... Fridays, im knackered and im glad of the weekend The sky right now...

Kare4self · Kare4self

hi I'm new here. I apologize if I am not following proper edict for this forum. yesterday my sponsor and my counselor told me I need to come to alanon. I have been to a few face to face meetings but the timing is hard to workout. I am an alcoholic with 15 months sobriety. I attend AA meetings weekly. Right...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I'm not sure if i will be able to articulate this or not but I'm going to try. It's something I was thinking about today as I was walking, I'm not sure if I can tie it in to any al-anon principals or not but I don't think I would even be thinking about t if not for al-anon so, here goes. I was thinking about the way...

karma13 · karma13

So one of my compulsive addictions is weighing myself up to five times a day. Someone on the board said something that sparked me to really think...they said their weight was one thing they felt they could truly control. That really was thought provoking. It made me realize I am really being resistant...

Paddington36 · Paddington36

Hello I am a brand new member of Al-anon and have only been to two meetings. My first meeting was on January 25. I live in a small town in Manitoba that only has meetings once a week so that is why I am looking at the online meetings. I have not attended any online meetings yet. I have come to Al-anon because m...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Well I posted some pictures of our mess of boxes when we moved in. Here are the same pictures taken from the same angles but a week later.... It's still a mess but it's starting to resemble a home

In another week we will be ready to be photographed for Better Homes Than Yours magazine...lol. The furnit...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

Good morning my dear MIP family. I just wanted to wish you all a GREAT day. I'm chairing my f2f meetings this month, and my topic for today is going to be "helping the alcoholic", found in the Al-Anon daily reader One Day At A Time. That topic sounds kind of ironic, doesn't it? We all know there i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to say Hi to all of my supporters. I value each & everyone of you. I am thinking of slowing down posting for awhile & to get a grip!

karma13 · karma13

Todays hope for today discusses the slogan think and how as alanoners we can tend to think obsessively and compulsively. It also talks about thinking before acting out. It also gives some ideas of how to use the slogan, such as praying, reasoning things out with a Alanon friend or sponsor...and I thou...

zebrafish · zebrafish

A year ago, my s/o's brother offered to design a web page for him. he did this after seeing that I was going to be helping, and realizing how respected he is in his industry. WELL. A year later, and nothing has come of it. The brother has done a preliminary design, but my s/o has no initiative to get it goin...

el-cee · el-cee

I have enjoyed the forum here lately. Theres been a lot of love and some real effort by lots of people to be more giving in terms of daily readings being shared, books being suggested, birthdays celebrated. To me it was like a show of committment to the forum and to alanon. I felt it was a healing environme...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays little book tells us that its important to uncover our assets as well as out shortcomings and appreciate them. Recognising in ourselves the good bits like honesty, genorousity, patience, tolerance gives us something to build on. For me, its saying that our aim is to be our own best friend beca...

cheryl1983 · cheryl1983

I have been lurking here for a month or so and thought it was finally time to introduce myself. I have been married to an Alcoholic/Addict for 11 years. We have three beautiful children together ages 9, 6 and 5. I realize now I have been extremely codependent since my early teens. I always knew something...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Everyone should try it! It works wonders! Never take it for granted. It is a gift!

DavidG · DavidG

...looking back over my years in Alanon- A lot of what I shared was really veiled advice to other people... deep down I felt that I didn't matter. Someone said years ago that life was about- hatch, match and dispatch. Well today, for me it is about hatch, match, patch and dispatch... 4 week ago I was knoc...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Do any of you remember what the name of the book was that Canadian Guy used to give away? I borrowed mine out and want to order another. Thank you in advance. :)

Lyne · Lyne

I live with my A who has multiple addictions. Yesterday was extraordinary in that I realized that we spent 1 hour together, and I was completely fine to do my own thing for the whole rest of the day. Is this a great marriage you might ask? Heck no. Am I planning to change things when I retire in a couple...

hotrod · hotrod

ODA T reading for today is a powerful reflection that speaks about how many of us, myself included, would always look outside ourselves for the cause of our problems. The reading suggests that the real enemy might be our own "self-deception." It goes on to explain how easy it is to bla...

hotrod · hotrod

I love the C2C reading for today. It points out that many times, when negative things happen in our lives, we blame God. The member who has written this page shares that her sponsor always reminded her that she had lost track of the fact that her God was a loving God and not a terrorist.. It suggests that...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

AH IS COMING HOME FOM MEDICAL HOSPITAL TOMOROW. IT TOOK HIM 2 DAYS TO SOBER UP AND 2 DAYS FO AN INFECTION TO BE TREATED. CLEANING UP, I DISCOVERED 5 FULL BOTTLES OF VODKA IN THE MATTRESS WHEN I CHANGED THE SHEETS. AH HAS SAID NOTHING ABOUT DECIDING TO GO INTO REHAB. HE GETS PHYSICAL AS FAR AS HOLDING ME FROM L...

gsh126 · gsh126

Hello all. My 58 year old half-brother is an alcoholic. He has also had issues with illegal and prescription drug abuse. I was 6 when he went into the Navy at 17, and he and I have never developed a close relationship. My first major brush with his addiction issues came in 1991 when my father, his step...

mcw · mcw

Hi. I'm new here and not sure this is where I belong yet. I believe my husband is an alcoholic, but he does not agree. Problems with alcohol have been occurring for about 12 years and the problems escalate every few years. When he drinks, he gets very verbally abusive with me, calling me nasty names a...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I hope he is doing ok. Just was thinking about him. Good guy...

Kay in Crisis · Kay in Crisis

It's the constant back and forth of emotions. It's the interference and controlling issues of his parents involving my children that have resulted in serious repercussions ,and my A, their son, my husband of 20 years seems to still have no feelings of accountability. I'm new to Alanon and I'm still...

missunwritten · missunwritten

Hello All, I am the 20 year old daughter of an alcoholic who is at her wits end. My father has drank ever since I can remember but as I got older either I because more aware of it or he became worse. I think since I have been away at college that he has spun out of control. My first year at college he drunk drove ho...

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	Hope For Today...Feb 8th... (Preview) The reading today is about focussing on others... I took on some of my parent's needs. My mum was far more capable than my dad, so it was dad's role I took on most... our "bathroom" was out in the horse paddock... and one night it blew over... my mum had to install a facility in a shed near to the...	DavidG	7	656	Feb 10, 2015 by DavidG
	Grieving Process for Past Wounds? (Preview) Has anyone else gone through or is going through a grieving process? Did it help? How did you do it? i am trying to determine whether detaching and staying in the present moment is enough - or to release some of this grief stored up in my body & tissues. I'm probably using the good to stuff it back down....	WorkingThroughIt	7	1007	Feb 9, 2015 by Theoceancalls
	A little morning LOL (Preview) Angry child sits at the end of our new Giganticouch, furiously brushing her hair. Why is she angry? Well just LOOK at her school dress! She has two dresses, ($110 each mind you) and I had only enough money to have one hemmed to her desired above-the-knee length by a tailor. I'm a sloppy seamstress and at t...	missmeliss	9	717	Feb 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	humor... (Preview)	John	9	450	Feb 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Time to rip off the last band-aid I guess. (Preview) Sigh. For every time I said I wanted to leave ABF thee was always a reason that i "couldn't". (And these "reasons did feel overwhelming, not by any means trifles). But, you know. I couldn't afford a place on my own, I couldn't handle sharing with a stranger, i couldn't bear to go to my mo...	missmeliss	20	921	Feb 9, 2015 by Jaclyn
	Week one under my belt (Preview) Hi everyone, I have missed you. Well we have the first week under our belts. My AH moved back in on Feb 1, 2015. The week was exhausting for not only me, but him as well. We both had anxiety, excitement, dread, fear, giddiness, and a whole host of other emotions and basically yesterday we finally admitted...	Flower49	2	424	Feb 9, 2015 by pinkchip
	I didn't get down in the mud (Preview) I need a safe place to vent: My son (29) pings me periodically, like tonight, usually via a text or a very brief call - sometimes it's just to say "Hi", but most times it's to allude to some type of impending problem ("stuff I can't talk about with you, or anyone else in our family") -...	texas yankee	8	718	Feb 9, 2015 by texas yankee
	Why I come to MIP (Preview) My recovery in al-anon is for me. As I understand it, (and I am still pretty fresh, I move very slowly in this program, after 1.5 years I am still not all of the way through the steps but I believe in the process and work at it daily), but anyway as I understand it al-anon is a space where I can be safe to grow flo...	missmeliss	17	1201	Feb 9, 2015 by Jackie11
	Humility...being (Preview) teachable. I was very fortunate in being gifted by my Higher Power with the sponsorship I had and now have. Coming to the understanding that being humble isn't the same as accepting humiliation was higher education. The program told and taught me "listen, learn, practice, practice, pr...	Jerry F	11	818	Feb 9, 2015 by Debb
	what a difference a year makes (Preview) This time last year, I was in crisis mode. My alcoholic was in turmoil and the family was on overdrive. After many months of weekend binges, emergency calls, lies...anger, frustration, tears and many, many prayers...rehab help was taken. Program completed, 60 days sober...stops taking meds....	Peggy53	4	502	Feb 9, 2015 by Lyne
	HOPE (Preview) Hope = H hold O on P pain E ends !	LinSC	5	497	Feb 9, 2015 by John
	A well learned Ah Ha moment.... (Preview) "guide me in all I do, sometimes waiting is the answer to some of my prayers" Its been 15 years and I have had two major prayers answered. One was that my son stop drinking and the other was that my other son stop his addiction to gaming! Well 2 yrs ago my son stopped drinking, and today I found ou...	LinSC	4	585	Feb 8, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	Maybe I will have to swallow my pride. (Preview) So, the landlord wants me out by the 15th and I have no where else to go yet. I have been searching frenetically and sometimes I attend 2 to 3 viewings a day. Still I am not accepted anywhere because I am a single parent receiving state benefits. Even though I have 2 jobs, a glowing reference from my current...	Luiza	19	914	Feb 8, 2015 by glad
	My Life (Preview) I grew up in an alcoholic home. As far back as I can remember my dad drank and came home drunk. He was in the navy and to make extra money he worked at the Chiefs Club as a bartender. I remember always looking out the window waiting for him to come home and asking my mom to not yell at my dad. Of course she did...	Jen61	10	562	Feb 8, 2015 by PP
	A babble about my really nice Saturday :-) (Preview) Yesterday I went out op-shopping (yay!) with a small amount of money and a big wish-list. I thought maybe I might find one or 2 items, all going well. I've been feeling good about not needing everything "right now" and not worrying or being upset about lacking certain items, and it's a big co...	missmeliss	16	657	Feb 8, 2015 by Luiza
	Boundary success! (Preview) I have to brag a bit because I'm so very proud of myself! My wife is a very active alcoholic. Over the last few weeks, it's greatly increased. Her normal rotation is where she's really drunk Monday-Friday. On the weekend, she's sober 99% of the time. Saturdays are spent recovering and feeling bad a...	frustrationshigh	14	721	Feb 8, 2015 by hotrod
	Grateful ? (closed) (Preview) Has grateful left the MIP board? I just went to check on her status Because i miss her and her wisdom it says deleted.	Mirandac	5	628	Feb 8, 2015 by John
	My first Al Anon book (Preview) Hope for Today - came in the mail this morning. I really like it so far - think it will help a lot :) I still get a bit angry and emotional when I think about my AH (father) and his behavior. We have closed the door on him asking him to go to rehab. But we told him we will support him if he does go so we are giving hi...	Layla83	4	394	Feb 8, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	A little off topic .. still a reminder .. (Preview) The God of my understanding has a wicked sense of humor .. I mean SERIOUSLY wicked I'm pretty sure it's to keep me humble and keep my ADHD energy in check .. I'm totally telling on myself .. it is sooo worth the laugh .. First off I'm laughing a lot probably too much .. LOL .. I figure it's all good and the first...	SerenityRUS	2	488	Feb 8, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	C2C Feb 8 2015 (Preview) C2C February 8 speaks about wanting to be friends with everybody and being hurt if someone rejects us. It points out that the Al-Anon closing says:" you may not like all of us put you love us in a very special way." It is important to understand that we can't have everybody's friendship bu...	hotrod	8	329	Feb 8, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Courage to Change (Preview) Courage to Change today told me to do something....anything. So today I come here and give what little ESH I have inside that just might help that one person. I feel good about that. We learn so much by the books so I trust everyone has them close. February 7th.....in the year Twenty Fifteen	Cathyinaz	7	641	Feb 8, 2015 by milkwood
	keepin busy & is so good (Preview) Today I am going to take care of m@2:30 plus of coursre. I am going to doctor at 11. I am getting massage therapy . Plus of course my all anon meeting at 3:30. I am taking care of me. Good news: I slept through the night. I was up for a bit but went back to bed. All I can say thanks to my HP.	Hoot Nanny	6	575	Feb 8, 2015 by milkwood
	leaving isn't going so good (Preview) So I was planning on leaving with the kids a couple days ago. I just could not find a time that felt right, with a kid recovering from sickness, my AH in and out of the house randomly, etc. He caught wind of my plans - I didn't think he would think 2 book bags with some books in them was an indication I was goin...	oceanpine	31	1131	Feb 8, 2015 by Path to Serenity
	Has anyone heard from Debylin? (Preview) I dont make a habit of chasing people down but she was unwell when I last spoke to her and she has gone completely off the air and I am concerned. Anyone heard from her?	missmeliss	11	852	Feb 8, 2015 by Path to Serenity
	a better routine (Preview) Handling it when they come home trashed is a lot easier when they just go to bed. Tonight it was the 'No, I haven't been'. Then I pointed out we have a breathalyzer at the house... and how sad it is that we have a breathalyzer at the house. She volunteered to blow. I blow... 0.000. She blows... 0.102. S...	AWSmith	10	592	Feb 8, 2015 by pinkchip
	an old dresser (Preview) I'm like an old dresser with many many coats of paint. The paint was put there to protect the old dresser and to make it look pretty. It worked for many years, but the paint has begun to flake and peel off, so instead of putting on a new layer of paint, I've decided to take off all of the old. As I take off laye...	cloudyskies	11	533	Feb 7, 2015 by Path to Serenity
	Angry and Resentful (Preview) It must be nice to be the fun parent - the one who shows up to play and do all the fun stuff. Not the cleaning, trying to get the kid to clean up after himself, getting homework done, practicing reading which always ends in frustration, and on and on. And since child isnt secure in knowing dad will still lov...	Kerrymom	3	705	Feb 7, 2015 by Jerry F
	ego (Preview) I was at a great meeting today and i heard e.g.o can be called edging god out. Its a good way to think about it. Whenever i think ive got it sorted and i know it all then im not in contact with my higher power.	el-cee	7	2415	Feb 7, 2015 by Jerry F
	One Day At a Time Feb 7 (Preview) In the reading for ODAT today I am hearing loud and clear the message of paying it forward. Someone loved me before I loved myself when I first came into the rooms of al-anon and helped me to learn to love myself and actually take good care of me. My life has changed so much for the better and now I want to shar...	Breakingfree	3	708	Feb 7, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	a long vent- not sure why I needed to say all this (Preview) I think this is totally an al anon share as was Miss Mel's today! All I ever wanted was for someone to label me as acceptable, a "keeper" and I have always been destroyed when that doesn't happen... I'm not sure why but Mel's post gave me things to think about. I can relate to the family thing in...	glad	4	624	Feb 7, 2015 by likemyheart
	trying not to enable (Preview) My 21 year old son lost his license for drunk driving but did get work driving privileges. I own a business and he was working for me at the time of his DUI and still continues to work for me, I know that in itself is enabling but he is a good worker and earns his keep. Now his driving suspension is up and h...	Cooper	19	862	Feb 7, 2015 by hotrod
	Alanon Daily readings for today (Preview) The ODAT reading for today speaks about learning to accept" life on life's terms' . It points out that this simple statement opens many doors and helps us to stop trying to change people, places and things over which we have no control or power.Acceptance is an interesting word I found it sim...	hotrod	7	4854	Feb 7, 2015 by Tracey C
	Boyfriend of 4 years-and the father of my child-leaves me while in recovery ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I am so confused and hurt right now. I need some insight to help me through this difficult time. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years in the middle of January and he has been an active opiate addict and whatever else he could get his hands on the whole time. I have been completely sober from drinking s...	DW1081	48	2132	Feb 7, 2015 by glad
	I was beating myself up, then a detective set me straight (Preview) Yesterday I was bringing my daughter home from school. A lot of teenagers walk by my apartment complex on their way home from school. I saw a guy laying on the sidewalk as I drove by. I told myself he must have been playing around with some kids and fell or was pretending to be hurt or something. He was at lea...	Newlife girl	13	812	Feb 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Positive v negative (Preview) It seems like a battle between good and bad im ny head sometimes. Light and dark. Im trying to choose the light, the positive thinking makes living better. Its hard to be negative after writing a gratitude list. Today i am grateful for... Fridays, im knackered and im glad of the weekend The sky right now...	el-cee	6	749	Feb 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	New and raw emotionally (Preview) hi I'm new here. I apologize if I am not following proper edict for this forum. yesterday my sponsor and my counselor told me I need to come to alanon. I have been to a few face to face meetings but the timing is hard to workout. I am an alcoholic with 15 months sobriety. I attend AA meetings weekly. Right...	Kare4self	6	669	Feb 6, 2015 by Cooper
	I wondered as I wandered... (Preview) I'm not sure if i will be able to articulate this or not but I'm going to try. It's something I was thinking about today as I was walking, I'm not sure if I can tie it in to any al-anon principals or not but I don't think I would even be thinking about t if not for al-anon so, here goes. I was thinking about the way...	missmeliss	6	2728	Feb 6, 2015 by glad
	One of my compulsive addictions (Preview) So one of my compulsive addictions is weighing myself up to five times a day. Someone on the board said something that sparked me to really think...they said their weight was one thing they felt they could truly control. That really was thought provoking. It made me realize I am really being resistant...	karma13	6	572	Feb 6, 2015 by karma13
	My Story (Preview) Hello I am a brand new member of Al-anon and have only been to two meetings. My first meeting was on January 25. I live in a small town in Manitoba that only has meetings once a week so that is why I am looking at the online meetings. I have not attended any online meetings yet. I have come to Al-anon because m...	Paddington36	6	396	Feb 6, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Progress, Not Perfection! (Preview) Well I posted some pictures of our mess of boxes when we moved in. Here are the same pictures taken from the same angles but a week later.... It's still a mess but it's starting to resemble a home In another week we will be ready to be photographed for Better Homes Than Yours magazine...lol. The furnit...	missmeliss	9	537	Feb 5, 2015 by aquamom23
	Helping the alcoholic (Preview) Good morning my dear MIP family. I just wanted to wish you all a GREAT day. I'm chairing my f2f meetings this month, and my topic for today is going to be "helping the alcoholic", found in the Al-Anon daily reader One Day At A Time. That topic sounds kind of ironic, doesn't it? We all know there i...	cloudyskies	2	455	Feb 5, 2015 by glad
	too tire to post (Preview) I just want to say Hi to all of my supporters. I value each & everyone of you. I am thinking of slowing down posting for awhile & to get a grip!	Hoot Nanny	1	252	Feb 5, 2015 by hotrod
	Hope for today 2 5 2015 (Preview) Todays hope for today discusses the slogan think and how as alanoners we can tend to think obsessively and compulsively. It also talks about thinking before acting out. It also gives some ideas of how to use the slogan, such as praying, reasoning things out with a Alanon friend or sponsor...and I thou...	karma13	3	405	Feb 5, 2015 by hotrod
	Family member not taking non-codependence so well (Preview) A year ago, my s/o's brother offered to design a web page for him. he did this after seeing that I was going to be helping, and realizing how respected he is in his industry. WELL. A year later, and nothing has come of it. The brother has done a preliminary design, but my s/o has no initiative to get it goin...	zebrafish	9	586	Feb 5, 2015 by missmeliss
	Loving MIP (Preview) I have enjoyed the forum here lately. Theres been a lot of love and some real effort by lots of people to be more giving in terms of daily readings being shared, books being suggested, birthdays celebrated. To me it was like a show of committment to the forum and to alanon. I felt it was a healing environme...	el-cee	17	578	Feb 5, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	ODAAT 5/2/15 (Preview) Todays little book tells us that its important to uncover our assets as well as out shortcomings and appreciate them. Recognising in ourselves the good bits like honesty, genorousity, patience, tolerance gives us something to build on. For me, its saying that our aim is to be our own best friend beca...	el-cee	2	401	Feb 5, 2015 by karma13
	Sharing my story (Preview) I have been lurking here for a month or so and thought it was finally time to introduce myself. I have been married to an Alcoholic/Addict for 11 years. We have three beautiful children together ages 9, 6 and 5. I realize now I have been extremely codependent since my early teens. I always knew something...	cheryl1983	9	663	Feb 5, 2015 by cloudyskies
	Happy Birthday, Screaming Barbie (Preview)	grateful2be	5	741	Feb 5, 2015 by DavidG
	sleep sleep wonde sleep (Preview) Everyone should try it! It works wonders! Never take it for granted. It is a gift!	Hoot Nanny	1	315	Feb 4, 2015 by hotrod
	Taking care of myself... (Preview) ...looking back over my years in Alanon- A lot of what I shared was really veiled advice to other people... deep down I felt that I didn't matter. Someone said years ago that life was about- hatch, match and dispatch. Well today, for me it is about hatch, match, patch and dispatch... 4 week ago I was knoc...	DavidG	4	465	Feb 4, 2015 by cloudyskies
	Question (Preview) Do any of you remember what the name of the book was that Canadian Guy used to give away? I borrowed mine out and want to order another. Thank you in advance. :)	Sweet Stanley	3	483	Feb 4, 2015 by hotrod
	My very own happy life (Preview) I live with my A who has multiple addictions. Yesterday was extraordinary in that I realized that we spent 1 hour together, and I was completely fine to do my own thing for the whole rest of the day. Is this a great marriage you might ask? Heck no. Am I planning to change things when I retire in a couple...	Lyne	11	809	Feb 4, 2015 by Jerry F
	ODAT 2-4-2015 (Preview) ODA T reading for today is a powerful reflection that speaks about how many of us, myself included, would always look outside ourselves for the cause of our problems. The reading suggests that the real enemy might be our own "self-deception." It goes on to explain how easy it is to bla...	hotrod	2	457	Feb 4, 2015 by maryjane
	C2C 2-4-2015 (Preview) I love the C2C reading for today. It points out that many times, when negative things happen in our lives, we blame God. The member who has written this page shares that her sponsor always reminded her that she had lost track of the fact that her God was a loving God and not a terrorist.. It suggests that...	hotrod	3	432	Feb 4, 2015 by likemyheart
	ah coming home (Preview) AH IS COMING HOME FOM MEDICAL HOSPITAL TOMOROW. IT TOOK HIM 2 DAYS TO SOBER UP AND 2 DAYS FO AN INFECTION TO BE TREATED. CLEANING UP, I DISCOVERED 5 FULL BOTTLES OF VODKA IN THE MATTRESS WHEN I CHANGED THE SHEETS. AH HAS SAID NOTHING ABOUT DECIDING TO GO INTO REHAB. HE GETS PHYSICAL AS FAR AS HOLDING ME FROM L...	YARNCRAZY	4	417	Feb 4, 2015 by pinkchip
	New and at a crossroads (Preview) Hello all. My 58 year old half-brother is an alcoholic. He has also had issues with illegal and prescription drug abuse. I was 6 when he went into the Navy at 17, and he and I have never developed a close relationship. My first major brush with his addiction issues came in 1991 when my father, his step...	gsh126	4	589	Feb 4, 2015 by pinkchip
	New here (Preview) Hi. I'm new here and not sure this is where I belong yet. I believe my husband is an alcoholic, but he does not agree. Problems with alcohol have been occurring for about 12 years and the problems escalate every few years. When he drinks, he gets very verbally abusive with me, calling me nasty names a...	mcw	13	611	Feb 4, 2015 by glad
	I miss slogan jim (Preview) I hope he is doing ok. Just was thinking about him. Good guy...	pinkchip	4	403	Feb 4, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Help!!! I am paralyzed by fear!! (Preview) It's the constant back and forth of emotions. It's the interference and controlling issues of his parents involving my children that have resulted in serious repercussions ,and my A, their son, my husband of 20 years seems to still have no feelings of accountability. I'm new to Alanon and I'm still...	Kay in Crisis	24	874	Feb 4, 2015 by milkwood
	Please! Advice Needed (Preview) Hello All, I am the 20 year old daughter of an alcoholic who is at her wits end. My father has drank ever since I can remember but as I got older either I because more aware of it or he became worse. I think since I have been away at college that he has spun out of control. My first year at college he drunk drove ho...	missunwritten	7	697	Feb 4, 2015 by Jerry F
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