Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

aquamom23 · aquamom23

Where is our resident artist? Has anyone heard from her?

missmeliss · missmeliss

OK so my daughter's father pays his court-ordered child support. To the exact cent, not a penny more or a penny less and that is IT. It's not much, it maybe pays for about 1/4 of her most essential and basic expenses, but it does help a bit. At the same time he has refused to EVER pay for anything beyond this c...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My valentine party went so well that I am so happy that my friends were there & especially the fellowship moved me. I never imagined that I would be able to share such a special time w close women friends. Each lady there had something special to share. I am so blessed I didn't even have to cry because...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to wish y'all a happy day! For some it is SAD. Single awareness day. I just hope no matter you situation married single or whatever you give yourself special care. I am going to soak my feet to start this new day.

To be loved · To be loved

Heading to al anima tomorrow at 130. Not sure what to expect and hope I don't turn up then walk away but I am going!

mjferg · mjferg

This morning I took my daughter to school,she wanted to stop at McDonald's, it is a very busy intersection. I was in a hit and run accident a few months ago,a woman ran a red light and totaled my car,I spun clear around in the road, so I am more careful when I drive and sometimes I have anxiety now when I am i...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I don't share often anymore because my life is pretty darn good. But today I wanted to share how blessed I feel. My AH spends winters in Arizona...this is the third year...because of pain issues. We live in northern Minnesota and it can get bitterly cold here. Today, his sponsor stopped by my house and d...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

In August I let my 16 year olds best friend move in with us so she could go to a bigger high school with my kid. So 6 months later I am having issues with her that I haven't had with my kids. She is sneaky and causing a rift between my oldest and I. I find her to be a lot like my exAH, manipulative and behind the scen...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I definitely have been on the helped side, the car I drive was given to me at a very low point in my life. I like thinking of myself as God's light sent to someone in need! Sometimes its just a smile someone needs. -- Edited by likemyheart on Friday 13th of February 2015 10:21:12 AM

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope I am not beating a dead horse. My valentine's party is tomorrow. I have invited 20 women. It is for all the ladies married or single. You can't bring a date but maybe a plus one. I am so excited. I think it will be fun w/ food, games & door prizes. Another thing that is included is things to be gratef...

el-cee · el-cee

This reading is about how we ourselves contributed to the destruction in our homes. It says 'this was no vacuum we were living in' it wasnt only the alcoholic who caused damage, we reacted to and made things worse. It talks about how it can be difficult to face our own shortcomings but its easier to do t...

joanlee13 · joanlee13

Hello, was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. My family was once happy and fun, but in 2009 my adult daughter started having issues with alcohol. Her husband travels all the time and would leave her every week with two little boys, and she couldn't cope. Thankfully she has been a com...

Arizona Intergroup · Arizona Intergroup

Hi Recovery Friends, We just received two registrations from Finland for our 2015 September Retreat. You too are invited. Watch our video and read more at www.aca-arizona.org Yours in service, ACA Arizona Retreat Committee

John · John

Truth · Truth

I know this does not have a lot to do with recovery but it does!!!! I just finished the Valentine bags for my son's party tomorrow!!! It was so much fun helping him learn to write his name. I really know that I need this type of activities to stay sane !!!!!

The greatest joy I have is when I am around childr...

Mirandac · Mirandac

I feel like i turned a corner in my recovery on monday. I started to feel more like myself again. I am still grieving but that will take some time to get over. I started to feel happy and normal again. What a great feeling! I sent off my tax returns to my accountant and had taken some time off to do them. My b...

mjferg · mjferg

I am so proud of my teenage daughter,she has been working at a fast food job for several months She is a hard worker and has been working very late every weekend.Well she got a new manager and she started having problems at work.This manager not only had her in tears, but the other young girls as well.Sh...

Peace Always · Peace Always

Hi. I'm looking for a place to heal. In the past month, I have finally heen able to admit that I am married to an alcoholic. Life seems pretty empty. I guess I'm looking for someone who understands.

Jessmine · Jessmine

After 3 months of AH drinking off & on, I couldn't take it anymore. Even though he was going to 5 meetings a week, he continued to drink in various amounts depending on his work schedule. Six weeks ago, I told my AH (married for 21 years) that one of my 5 boundaries is that if he drinks, he has to stay at a m...

To be loved · To be loved

Hello, I'm new. The reason I'm here is the 1% as says in the title. Bit of background, my partner has been sober for 11 years. He's amazing to me and the two kids, he desperately wants another so we have been taking no precautions and seeing what happens. He has never been violent or horrible to the kids in a...

el-cee · el-cee

Its a good one for me. When we get frustrated that the program ideas are not becoming automatic just yet. We might question ourselves, 'Why dont they penetrate my mind?' 'Why cant I absorb them?' It reminds us of the slogan 'Think' It suggests we stop all our talking and start listening. We can benef...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I need a break" I hope he goes to the gym. I spend too much time w him because it is not quality time anymore. He needs to find somewhere to go right now. & he talks too much & I need some mental health moments. I wish I could have a whole day!

Truth · Truth

I got the message from HP today loud and clear that he has an abundant life planned for me and to totally let go of all communication with ex-A even if we have a child. He told me let go of this toxic relationship ... No boundaries, no communication, no contact. No fear, no guilt, no obligation.... The only...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Life is good right now in many, many ways. Ex landlady is a little blip however. You might remember I had hoped we would be friends in some capacity, once I had moved out? Well sound the buzzer, I got that one wrong. I think I have explained this before but to live in a room in her house i paid an agreed amount t...

Holly09 · Holly09

After being emotionally beaten up again today and treated like the enemy yesterday by my A boyfriend I know in my heart I have to get out of this sick relationship. 12 1/2 years with him and I am feeling so broken and torn apart that I don't think I can heal being with him even though he's in therapy working...

drywit44 · drywit44

I am examining steps 4 and on, recall two explanations previously offered to me, and am confused. My former group therapist, 40 years in AA, assured me that feeling bad for having committed an offense was not required, or even preferable. Merely wishing that one had acted differently was sufficien...

Andy1969 · Andy1969

Hi I've read these boards for quite a long time and taken a lot of advice and comfort from them. I have been married to my husband 28 years and he was always a big social drinker, leaving me home with 4 kids at weekends, staying out till 4am etc etc., causing the usual rows and problems you would expect. Abo...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

This just has to be test from my hp I just know it lol. I applied for a healthcare related job last week but had not thoroughly researched before sending my application. It seems addiction is trending and my interview is with someone in the medical professional who is offering an alternative to our 12 s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been really bad for some time now. Last night I was character assinated. I am to blame for him becoming stressed out according to him. He has a choice & made a poor one. So off he went to sleep. I called the crisis line & then went to sleep.With help of God the tools I made it through another nig...

andromeda · andromeda

The movers are coming in an hour. I have most of my stuff at the new house but tonight will be our first night over there....dog included, lol. I have no idea what my future holds but I am working through a lot of fear and, of course, exhaustion right now. It's been a long two weeks and I'm ready for them to...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah is about 70 days sober and we have been getting along well which seems to be a cycle for us. I have noticed that their is a cycle where we get along, he gets more and more moody, then the verbal bash comes and then we have recovery and then good again. It seems to be a two to three week cycle. Example is toni...

ryanhearted · ryanhearted

THURSDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Detachment, Self-Awareness, and Love. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org,...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

In summary the daily reader talks about the First step and admitting we are powerless over our alcoholics. For me this is so true having been raised by them and marrying them, I tried to control, manage and enable them all. I wanted them to change and tried with all my might, but ended up a miserable and sa...

mjferg · mjferg

I haven't posted in a while,but I just realized I haven't been obsessing on anything,I haven't had any drama. I am realizing that most of the things I have wasted time obsessing over are things I can't change anyway.I have been feeling very different, almost like I have an empty spot in my head that I ca...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Simply put: why I am still here? I was lost awhile ago. I wasn't sleeping well. I wasn't miserable. I still had a positive state of mind. I was able to go anywhere & do anything. I am a work in progress. You all know my story. I know that over 29 years ago in 1986 I found this program. I wasn't ready at the ti...

shimo · shimo

i HAVE JUST BEEN CALLED AWAY TO THE DENTIST FOR A FLAGGED APPOINTMENT AND I AM UNABLE TO CHAIR THIS MORNING'S MEETING. I HAVE ASKED FOR ANOTHER CHAIR TO FILL IN FOR ME IS IT IS POSSIBLE AT THIS LATE DATE. SO SORRY FOR THIS INCONVENIENCE TO EVERYONE. SHIMO/AKA JERI

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Facing Reality; Powerlessness; Responsibility The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4...

To be loved · To be loved

I only joined here the other day for advice on my other half but as I type this I am in absolute tears. Growing up I always knew my mother was different, she would always make everything be about her, every time she fell out with her sis and brother it was always their fault never hers, as that transpired she...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: Today's reading speaks to the roles we may have played as people affected by alcoholism. Caretaker, fixer, nurturer, guard? I grew up in a large family--I am the youngest of six children. Besides being the baby, there were enough years between my siblings and me (the surprise at t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am waiting on a friend. She is in the hospital. She is a member of anotherttwelfth step program. We don't' have a lot in this other program. But that is part of the o overall Program. Prayers needed. Would not have posted if this wasn't seeuos. Her name is Mary.

John · John

When I die and I'm being buried, I don't want there to be this very prime body, with no scares, no wrinkles, no grey hair, perfect smile, dressed in a tux with everything all primp lookin' and everything in order like a choreographed event. I want it to look like I lived. Fully, as though I lived to the v...

flagbabe83 · flagbabe83

I'm posting here instead of engaging with my active AH right now. He had been doing this 30 day no alcohol thing to prove that he didn't have a problem to me. Well tonight was day 27 and he went out to the bar. People on here had warned me that when As go back to drinking it is usually worse than before. I can say...

John · John

this is the story of Lois Wilson, the founder of Al-Anon Family Groups. She was married to Bill Wilson, the co- founder of AA, years before they were gifted with sharing such beautiful programs with those whose lives are adversely effected by Alcoholism. They found freedom and have now passed it on...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not sure if this will go through. If it does everyone have a great day!

luv123 · luv123

I was at a meeting the other day and someone shared that they had a huge thing in their lives that they could not seem to turn over to their HP. The person's sponsor replied "Well, I guess if I had your HP, I wouldn't be able to turn that over either". The group all laughed when this was shared--re...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C for today, speaks about the slogan:"Keep it simple." It suggests that taking care of our emotional and our spiritual needs is extremely important so that -in the beginning of program - Simplifying each task,and our lives is key to serenity. .Letting go of some unnecessary t...

frustrationshigh · frustrationshigh

I went to my first meeting last night. It certainly was an overall good experience. My brother in-law went with me, he's a recovering alcoholic who thought a face to face meeting would benefit me after the week I've had - I'll update my last post with that information. So we go to the meeting place and...

DavidG · DavidG

The reading today is about focussing on others... I took on some of my parent's needs. My mum was far more capable than my dad, so it was dad's role I took on most... our "bathroom" was out in the horse paddock... and one night it blew over... my mum had to install a facility in a shed near to the...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Has anyone else gone through or is going through a grieving process? Did it help? How did you do it? i am trying to determine whether detaching and staying in the present moment is enough - or to release some of this grief stored up in my body & tissues. I'm probably using the good to stuff it back down....

missmeliss · missmeliss

Angry child sits at the end of our new Giganticouch, furiously brushing her hair. Why is she angry? Well just LOOK at her school dress! She has two dresses, ($110 each mind you) and I had only enough money to have one hemmed to her desired above-the-knee length by a tailor. I'm a sloppy seamstress and at t...

John · John

missmeliss · missmeliss

Sigh. For every time I said I wanted to leave ABF thee was always a reason that i "couldn't". (And these "reasons did feel overwhelming, not by any means trifles). But, you know. I couldn't afford a place on my own, I couldn't handle sharing with a stranger, i couldn't bear to go to my mo...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi everyone, I have missed you. Well we have the first week under our belts. My AH moved back in on Feb 1, 2015. The week was exhausting for not only me, but him as well. We both had anxiety, excitement, dread, fear, giddiness, and a whole host of other emotions and basically yesterday we finally admitted...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I need a safe place to vent: My son (29) pings me periodically, like tonight, usually via a text or a very brief call - sometimes it's just to say "Hi", but most times it's to allude to some type of impending problem ("stuff I can't talk about with you, or anyone else in our family") -...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My recovery in al-anon is for me. As I understand it, (and I am still pretty fresh, I move very slowly in this program, after 1.5 years I am still not all of the way through the steps but I believe in the process and work at it daily), but anyway as I understand it al-anon is a space where I can be safe to grow flo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

teachable. I was very fortunate in being gifted by my Higher Power with the sponsorship I had and now have. Coming to the understanding that being humble isn't the same as accepting humiliation was higher education. The program told and taught me "listen, learn, practice, practice, pr...

Peggy53 · Peggy53

This time last year, I was in crisis mode. My alcoholic was in turmoil and the family was on overdrive. After many months of weekend binges, emergency calls, lies...anger, frustration, tears and many, many prayers...rehab help was taken. Program completed, 60 days sober...stops taking meds....

LinSC · LinSC

Hope = H hold O on P pain E ends !

LinSC · LinSC

"guide me in all I do, sometimes waiting is the answer to some of my prayers" Its been 15 years and I have had two major prayers answered. One was that my son stop drinking and the other was that my other son stop his addiction to gaming! Well 2 yrs ago my son stopped drinking, and today I found ou...

Luiza · Luiza

So, the landlord wants me out by the 15th and I have no where else to go yet. I have been searching frenetically and sometimes I attend 2 to 3 viewings a day. Still I am not accepted anywhere because I am a single parent receiving state benefits. Even though I have 2 jobs, a glowing reference from my current...

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	Paula? (Preview) Where is our resident artist? Has anyone heard from her?	aquamom23	14	811	Feb 15, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Sad for my girl. (Preview) OK so my daughter's father pays his court-ordered child support. To the exact cent, not a penny more or a penny less and that is IT. It's not much, it maybe pays for about 1/4 of her most essential and basic expenses, but it does help a bit. At the same time he has refused to EVER pay for anything beyond this c...	missmeliss	12	889	Feb 15, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Valentine party (Preview) My valentine party went so well that I am so happy that my friends were there & especially the fellowship moved me. I never imagined that I would be able to share such a special time w close women friends. Each lady there had something special to share. I am so blessed I didn't even have to cry because...	Hoot Nanny	2	449	Feb 15, 2015 by el-cee
	Happy Valentine's Day (Preview) Just want to wish y'all a happy day! For some it is SAD. Single awareness day. I just hope no matter you situation married single or whatever you give yourself special care. I am going to soak my feet to start this new day.	Hoot Nanny	12	478	Feb 15, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Starting the healing process properly. (Preview) Heading to al anima tomorrow at 130. Not sure what to expect and hope I don't turn up then walk away but I am going!	To be loved	14	744	Feb 15, 2015 by Mirandac
	dealing with ridiculous drivers! (Preview) This morning I took my daughter to school,she wanted to stop at McDonald's, it is a very busy intersection. I was in a hit and run accident a few months ago,a woman ran a red light and totaled my car,I spun clear around in the road, so I am more careful when I drive and sometimes I have anxiety now when I am i...	mjferg	7	782	Feb 15, 2015 by Newlife girl
	Feeling blessed.... (Preview) I don't share often anymore because my life is pretty darn good. But today I wanted to share how blessed I feel. My AH spends winters in Arizona...this is the third year...because of pain issues. We live in northern Minnesota and it can get bitterly cold here. Today, his sponsor stopped by my house and d...	Sweet Stanley	2	449	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	My daughters friend lives with us.... (Preview) In August I let my 16 year olds best friend move in with us so she could go to a bigger high school with my kid. So 6 months later I am having issues with her that I haven't had with my kids. She is sneaky and causing a rift between my oldest and I. I find her to be a lot like my exAH, manipulative and behind the scen...	Breakingfree	7	708	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	One of my favorite concepts (Preview) I definitely have been on the helped side, the car I drive was given to me at a very low point in my life. I like thinking of myself as God's light sent to someone in need! Sometimes its just a smile someone needs. -- Edited by likemyheart on Friday 13th of February 2015 10:21:12 AM	likemyheart	1	453	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	here I go again! (Preview) I hope I am not beating a dead horse. My valentine's party is tomorrow. I have invited 20 women. It is for all the ladies married or single. You can't bring a date but maybe a plus one. I am so excited. I think it will be fun w/ food, games & door prizes. Another thing that is included is things to be gratef...	Hoot Nanny	2	448	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	one day at a time reading 13th feb. (Preview) This reading is about how we ourselves contributed to the destruction in our homes. It says 'this was no vacuum we were living in' it wasnt only the alcoholic who caused damage, we reacted to and made things worse. It talks about how it can be difficult to face our own shortcomings but its easier to do t...	el-cee	4	613	Feb 14, 2015 by Mirandac
	Family is completely broken divorce alcoholic daughter family (Preview) Hello, was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. My family was once happy and fun, but in 2009 my adult daughter started having issues with alcohol. Her husband travels all the time and would leave her every week with two little boys, and she couldn't cope. Thankfully she has been a com...	joanlee13	5	8174	Feb 13, 2015 by Truth
	ACA Arizona Sept. Retreat Video (Preview) Hi Recovery Friends, We just received two registrations from Finland for our 2015 September Retreat. You too are invited. Watch our video and read more at www.aca-arizona.org Yours in service, ACA Arizona Retreat Committee	Arizona Intergroup	0	397	Feb 13, 2015 by Arizona Intergroup
	I want happiness! (Preview)	John	5	592	Feb 13, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Valentine Bags (Preview) I know this does not have a lot to do with recovery but it does!!!! I just finished the Valentine bags for my son's party tomorrow!!! It was so much fun helping him learn to write his name. I really know that I need this type of activities to stay sane !!!!! The greatest joy I have is when I am around childr...	Truth	6	453	Feb 13, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Turned a corner (Preview) I feel like i turned a corner in my recovery on monday. I started to feel more like myself again. I am still grieving but that will take some time to get over. I started to feel happy and normal again. What a great feeling! I sent off my tax returns to my accountant and had taken some time off to do them. My b...	Mirandac	13	672	Feb 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	Good results from being assertive!! (Preview) I am so proud of my teenage daughter,she has been working at a fast food job for several months She is a hard worker and has been working very late every weekend.Well she got a new manager and she started having problems at work.This manager not only had her in tears, but the other young girls as well.Sh...	mjferg	2	556	Feb 13, 2015 by Sweet Stanley
	first post (Preview) Hi. I'm looking for a place to heal. In the past month, I have finally heen able to admit that I am married to an alcoholic. Life seems pretty empty. I guess I'm looking for someone who understands.	Peace Always	8	541	Feb 13, 2015 by frustrationshigh
	Paralyzed by guilt (Preview) After 3 months of AH drinking off & on, I couldn't take it anymore. Even though he was going to 5 meetings a week, he continued to drink in various amounts depending on his work schedule. Six weeks ago, I told my AH (married for 21 years) that one of my 5 boundaries is that if he drinks, he has to stay at a m...	Jessmine	6	812	Feb 13, 2015 by Lyne
	99% good but we are in that 1% now (Preview) Hello, I'm new. The reason I'm here is the 1% as says in the title. Bit of background, my partner has been sober for 11 years. He's amazing to me and the two kids, he desperately wants another so we have been taking no precautions and seeing what happens. He has never been violent or horrible to the kids in a...	To be loved	23	1059	Feb 13, 2015 by Mirandac
	One Day at a Time Reading (Preview) Its a good one for me. When we get frustrated that the program ideas are not becoming automatic just yet. We might question ourselves, 'Why dont they penetrate my mind?' 'Why cant I absorb them?' It reminds us of the slogan 'Think' It suggests we stop all our talking and start listening. We can benef...	el-cee	8	1932	Feb 13, 2015 by Truth
	nredy (Preview) I need a break" I hope he goes to the gym. I spend too much time w him because it is not quality time anymore. He needs to find somewhere to go right now. & he talks too much & I need some mental health moments. I wish I could have a whole day!	Hoot Nanny	2	361	Feb 12, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	I got the message loud and clear... (Preview) I got the message from HP today loud and clear that he has an abundant life planned for me and to totally let go of all communication with ex-A even if we have a child. He told me let go of this toxic relationship ... No boundaries, no communication, no contact. No fear, no guilt, no obligation.... The only...	Truth	7	694	Feb 12, 2015 by Truth
	I do not need hysterics!!! (Preview) Life is good right now in many, many ways. Ex landlady is a little blip however. You might remember I had hoped we would be friends in some capacity, once I had moved out? Well sound the buzzer, I got that one wrong. I think I have explained this before but to live in a room in her house i paid an agreed amount t...	missmeliss	7	672	Feb 12, 2015 by Debb
	Finding the courage to leave a sick relationship (Preview) After being emotionally beaten up again today and treated like the enemy yesterday by my A boyfriend I know in my heart I have to get out of this sick relationship. 12 1/2 years with him and I am feeling so broken and torn apart that I don't think I can heal being with him even though he's in therapy working...	Holly09	10	3239	Feb 12, 2015 by Auntyaya
	defects of character and offensive behavior remorse regret contrition amends (Preview) I am examining steps 4 and on, recall two explanations previously offered to me, and am confused. My former group therapist, 40 years in AA, assured me that feeling bad for having committed an offense was not required, or even preferable. Merely wishing that one had acted differently was sufficien...	drywit44	1	7370	Feb 12, 2015 by pinkchip
	Numb to it all.. (Preview) Hi I've read these boards for quite a long time and taken a lot of advice and comfort from them. I have been married to my husband 28 years and he was always a big social drinker, leaving me home with 4 kids at weekends, staying out till 4am etc etc., causing the usual rows and problems you would expect. Abo...	Andy1969	5	695	Feb 12, 2015 by Jaclyn
	Just Needed to Share (Preview) This just has to be test from my hp I just know it lol. I applied for a healthcare related job last week but had not thoroughly researched before sending my application. It seems addiction is trending and my interview is with someone in the medical professional who is offering an alternative to our 12 s...	tiredtonite	6	735	Feb 12, 2015 by pinkchip
	my marriage (Preview) It has been really bad for some time now. Last night I was character assinated. I am to blame for him becoming stressed out according to him. He has a choice & made a poor one. So off he went to sleep. I called the crisis line & then went to sleep.With help of God the tools I made it through another nig...	Hoot Nanny	7	476	Feb 12, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Moving day today! Expectations issue, too (Preview) The movers are coming in an hour. I have most of my stuff at the new house but tonight will be our first night over there....dog included, lol. I have no idea what my future holds but I am working through a lot of fear and, of course, exhaustion right now. It's been a long two weeks and I'm ready for them to...	andromeda	17	664	Feb 12, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Awareness of the dry drunk? (Preview) My ah is about 70 days sober and we have been getting along well which seems to be a cycle for us. I have noticed that their is a cycle where we get along, he gets more and more moody, then the verbal bash comes and then we have recovery and then good again. It seems to be a two to three week cycle. Example is toni...	Helpangel	12	727	Feb 12, 2015 by Mirandac
	Thursday AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) THURSDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Detachment, Self-Awareness, and Love. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org,...	ryanhearted	0	366	Feb 12, 2015 by ryanhearted
	February 11 One Day at a Time (Preview) In summary the daily reader talks about the First step and admitting we are powerless over our alcoholics. For me this is so true having been raised by them and marrying them, I tried to control, manage and enable them all. I wanted them to change and tried with all my might, but ended up a miserable and sa...	Breakingfree	2	566	Feb 11, 2015 by Lyne
	just enjoying life (Preview) I haven't posted in a while,but I just realized I haven't been obsessing on anything,I haven't had any drama. I am realizing that most of the things I have wasted time obsessing over are things I can't change anyway.I have been feeling very different, almost like I have an empty spot in my head that I ca...	mjferg	7	531	Feb 11, 2015 by karma13
	why I am still here(why I can't stay away) (Preview) Simply put: why I am still here? I was lost awhile ago. I wasn't sleeping well. I wasn't miserable. I still had a positive state of mind. I was able to go anywhere & do anything. I am a work in progress. You all know my story. I know that over 29 years ago in 1986 I found this program. I wasn't ready at the ti...	Hoot Nanny	10	727	Feb 11, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	PLEASE FORGIVE ME (Preview) i HAVE JUST BEEN CALLED AWAY TO THE DENTIST FOR A FLAGGED APPOINTMENT AND I AM UNABLE TO CHAIR THIS MORNING'S MEETING. I HAVE ASKED FOR ANOTHER CHAIR TO FILL IN FOR ME IS IT IS POSSIBLE AT THIS LATE DATE. SO SORRY FOR THIS INCONVENIENCE TO EVERYONE. SHIMO/AKA JERI	shimo	0	356	Feb 11, 2015 by shimo
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Facing Reality; Powerlessness; Responsibility The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4...	shimo	0	332	Feb 11, 2015 by shimo
	The fAmily feud now makes perfect sense (Preview) I only joined here the other day for advice on my other half but as I type this I am in absolute tears. Growing up I always knew my mother was different, she would always make everything be about her, every time she fell out with her sis and brother it was always their fault never hers, as that transpired she...	To be loved	28	1407	Feb 11, 2015 by To be loved
	Hope For Today Feb 10 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: Today's reading speaks to the roles we may have played as people affected by alcoholism. Caretaker, fixer, nurturer, guard? I grew up in a large family--I am the youngest of six children. Besides being the baby, there were enough years between my siblings and me (the surprise at t...	yanksfan51	5	753	Feb 10, 2015 by karma13
	waiting... (Preview) I am waiting on a friend. She is in the hospital. She is a member of anotherttwelfth step program. We don't' have a lot in this other program. But that is part of the o overall Program. Prayers needed. Would not have posted if this wasn't seeuos. Her name is Mary.	Hoot Nanny	4	289	Feb 10, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Life in the fast lane, with curves and cliffs... (Preview) When I die and I'm being buried, I don't want there to be this very prime body, with no scares, no wrinkles, no grey hair, perfect smile, dressed in a tux with everything all primp lookin' and everything in order like a choreographed event. I want it to look like I lived. Fully, as though I lived to the v...	John	6	868	Feb 10, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Ugh! (Preview) I'm posting here instead of engaging with my active AH right now. He had been doing this 30 day no alcohol thing to prove that he didn't have a problem to me. Well tonight was day 27 and he went out to the bar. People on here had warned me that when As go back to drinking it is usually worse than before. I can say...	flagbabe83	9	561	Feb 10, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	When Love Is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story (Movie) (Preview) this is the story of Lois Wilson, the founder of Al-Anon Family Groups. She was married to Bill Wilson, the co- founder of AA, years before they were gifted with sharing such beautiful programs with those whose lives are adversely effected by Alcoholism. They found freedom and have now passed it on...	John	5	2790	Feb 10, 2015 by el-cee
	wondering... (Preview) Not sure if this will go through. If it does everyone have a great day!	Hoot Nanny	3	282	Feb 10, 2015 by el-cee
	Step 2 via step 3 (Preview) I was at a meeting the other day and someone shared that they had a huge thing in their lives that they could not seem to turn over to their HP. The person's sponsor replied "Well, I guess if I had your HP, I wouldn't be able to turn that over either". The group all laughed when this was shared--re...	luv123	4	672	Feb 10, 2015 by pinkchip
	Going on Vacation and c2c reading for 2-9 -2015 (Preview) C2C for today, speaks about the slogan:"Keep it simple." It suggests that taking care of our emotional and our spiritual needs is extremely important so that -in the beginning of program - Simplifying each task,and our lives is key to serenity. .Letting go of some unnecessary t...	hotrod	13	812	Feb 10, 2015 by PP
	First Al-anon meeting (Preview) I went to my first meeting last night. It certainly was an overall good experience. My brother in-law went with me, he's a recovering alcoholic who thought a face to face meeting would benefit me after the week I've had - I'll update my last post with that information. So we go to the meeting place and...	frustrationshigh	9	1009	Feb 10, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Hope For Today...Feb 8th... (Preview) The reading today is about focussing on others... I took on some of my parent's needs. My mum was far more capable than my dad, so it was dad's role I took on most... our "bathroom" was out in the horse paddock... and one night it blew over... my mum had to install a facility in a shed near to the...	DavidG	7	858	Feb 10, 2015 by DavidG
	Grieving Process for Past Wounds? (Preview) Has anyone else gone through or is going through a grieving process? Did it help? How did you do it? i am trying to determine whether detaching and staying in the present moment is enough - or to release some of this grief stored up in my body & tissues. I'm probably using the good to stuff it back down....	WorkingThroughIt	7	1158	Feb 9, 2015 by Theoceancalls
	A little morning LOL (Preview) Angry child sits at the end of our new Giganticouch, furiously brushing her hair. Why is she angry? Well just LOOK at her school dress! She has two dresses, ($110 each mind you) and I had only enough money to have one hemmed to her desired above-the-knee length by a tailor. I'm a sloppy seamstress and at t...	missmeliss	9	812	Feb 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	humor... (Preview)	John	9	562	Feb 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Time to rip off the last band-aid I guess. (Preview) Sigh. For every time I said I wanted to leave ABF thee was always a reason that i "couldn't". (And these "reasons did feel overwhelming, not by any means trifles). But, you know. I couldn't afford a place on my own, I couldn't handle sharing with a stranger, i couldn't bear to go to my mo...	missmeliss	20	1037	Feb 9, 2015 by Jaclyn
	Week one under my belt (Preview) Hi everyone, I have missed you. Well we have the first week under our belts. My AH moved back in on Feb 1, 2015. The week was exhausting for not only me, but him as well. We both had anxiety, excitement, dread, fear, giddiness, and a whole host of other emotions and basically yesterday we finally admitted...	Flower49	2	526	Feb 9, 2015 by pinkchip
	I didn't get down in the mud (Preview) I need a safe place to vent: My son (29) pings me periodically, like tonight, usually via a text or a very brief call - sometimes it's just to say "Hi", but most times it's to allude to some type of impending problem ("stuff I can't talk about with you, or anyone else in our family") -...	texas yankee	8	832	Feb 9, 2015 by texas yankee
	Why I come to MIP (Preview) My recovery in al-anon is for me. As I understand it, (and I am still pretty fresh, I move very slowly in this program, after 1.5 years I am still not all of the way through the steps but I believe in the process and work at it daily), but anyway as I understand it al-anon is a space where I can be safe to grow flo...	missmeliss	17	1342	Feb 9, 2015 by Jackie11
	Humility...being (Preview) teachable. I was very fortunate in being gifted by my Higher Power with the sponsorship I had and now have. Coming to the understanding that being humble isn't the same as accepting humiliation was higher education. The program told and taught me "listen, learn, practice, practice, pr...	Jerry F	11	921	Feb 9, 2015 by Debb
	what a difference a year makes (Preview) This time last year, I was in crisis mode. My alcoholic was in turmoil and the family was on overdrive. After many months of weekend binges, emergency calls, lies...anger, frustration, tears and many, many prayers...rehab help was taken. Program completed, 60 days sober...stops taking meds....	Peggy53	4	617	Feb 9, 2015 by Lyne
	HOPE (Preview) Hope = H hold O on P pain E ends !	LinSC	5	602	Feb 9, 2015 by John
	A well learned Ah Ha moment.... (Preview) "guide me in all I do, sometimes waiting is the answer to some of my prayers" Its been 15 years and I have had two major prayers answered. One was that my son stop drinking and the other was that my other son stop his addiction to gaming! Well 2 yrs ago my son stopped drinking, and today I found ou...	LinSC	4	676	Feb 8, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	Maybe I will have to swallow my pride. (Preview) So, the landlord wants me out by the 15th and I have no where else to go yet. I have been searching frenetically and sometimes I attend 2 to 3 viewings a day. Still I am not accepted anywhere because I am a single parent receiving state benefits. Even though I have 2 jobs, a glowing reference from my current...	Luiza	19	1018	Feb 8, 2015 by glad
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