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Ex landlady is a little blip however. You might remember I had hoped we would be friends in some capacity, once I had moved out? Well sound the buzzer, I got that one wrong.
I think I have explained this before but to live in a room in her house i paid an agreed amount that was quite hgh to cover rent and utilities. The agreement was clear.
I moved out thinking we were good and received emails saying she missed me which i found odd as she had been extremely hostile for weeks prior to my departure, but OK...anyway I went to see her at an agreed time and she wouldn't answer the door although she was home...no problemo. But it's a long way back to that town.
Anyway she then sent me demands that I pay $240 for water usage in my 9 weeks there. I don't know about anywhere else but here, that would be a quaterly water bill for a family of 6 in a huge home showering, washing and watering a big garden. It is also roughly a years worth of water for daughter, A and I based on our previous bills. Basically its an absurdity for her to claim we used that amount of water when we were in fact very sparing. Not only that but she wanted me to pay for half of her other bills when they come in, when utilties were included in my weekly amount and when it was herself and her 2 sons and one sons girlfriend was there half the time as well so how would i be responsible for half?...anway i had replied that my bills had been included in my board as we had expressly stipulated and that wasn't going to be giving her any further money. Well I said i would LOOK at the bill when i visited but she didn't want to answer the door. Anyway. She sent me a barrage of texts regarding how she would have to go into debt after being so kind to me and it was kind of weird. As i've already explained here I had seen her water bill when i was living there and know without doubt she was being completely dishonest and trying to have me pay her delinquent bills from long before i lived there. Anway her messages were bizarre and quite long and irrelevant and abusive and i ignored them.
Yesterday I got an email to say that I had ripped her off, after she had taken me in when i had nowhere to go, out of the goodness of her heart and it went on and on, about how I had sent my "henchman" to collect the cat (lol) and how she has no choice but to accept that I have decieved her and ripped her off and could only hope karma would make me pay and it was just really mental and hysterical, but she seems to have convinced herself of this story.
I am not a dishonest person and I do not leave bills unpaid or people ripped off, in fact since i have a gambling problem and did for a time many years ago find myself in debt and acting desperately and dishonestly it is now absolutely paramount to me to behave with rigorous honesty in my financial dealings. But I know I don't owe her for bills and that she is fabricating these amounts and they are outside what we agreed. Anyway it's bizarre and her referring to A as my "henchman" made me think of cat lady, remember this lady was the one who insisted i stand up to cat lady and then put a threatening note in her letterbox and made it appear to be from me, so she knew how upset I was by that woman's harrasment and now seems to be attempting to do the exact same thing?
Anyway it's all just weird and sad. Yesterday i broke my silence and reacted with a brief but sarcastic email and I wish i hadn't because that will just stir her up and attract more communication. I don't want weird and crazy following me into my new home and I wish i had just let it be.
Anyway it is a sad ending and I need to detach and give it no more space in my head. I just needed to write it out and remind myself how absolutely pointless it is reacting to or even reading these kinds of messages. Maybe I needed some drama to keep me busy while I adjust to living without any other adults lol.
-- Edited by missmeliss on Wednesday 11th of February 2015 09:32:49 AM
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Maybe this share shouldn't have made me laugh but it did! You are so nice and put up with so much unacceptable behavior from neighbors, family, exA, but I hear it in your awareness that you now see it for what it is. You are aware of the ripples of feeding into with your email, but I have done it too, replied to the insanity. Your awareness is great and you are headed in such a great direction right now, it will just take a little while shaking off the last few remnants of old. I am amazed and excited for your journey just since your first share and to see the pictures and hear how far you have come in such a short time makes me so happy for you and your daughter. I am glad to be sharing this journey with you. Sending you love and support!
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Thanks BF I admit to being a little bit amused myself (that's a new one for me).
I do also feel sad because i am sure for a time there I got to know a really nice lady with a good heart and she really did a 180, I guess that's not much different to the A's in our lives though, they can be awesome people at times but their usual behaviour is just unbearable and i guess this is no different. Ugh.
Sending you love and support right back!!!
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I must type out that signature of yours and put it on my desktop and remember it!!
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Thanks for sharing this :) great reminder to not pick up the rope when dealing with drama kings and queens..they throw out that hook( bait) and try to get you to bite. Sometimes I still do...but try to remember to disengage as soon as possible...Ugh...Hope you can get rid of her soon :/
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Wow! Can't believe she is still trying to get money out of you. You paid the agreed upon amount already. I certainly would NOT consider paying any more. I would try to ignore her and if she continues, I would change my #. I hope she doesn't know where you live now.
