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In need of ESH - (long)
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Dear family,
I am having an issue to deal with that I just don't know how to handle.
My A son and dil will be finalizing a divorce next month. I have come to accept that. My 2 granddaughters, ages 4 and 6 are still asking why daddy is not coming back to live with them. It is heartbreaking! When he firs...
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Gailey
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very bad saturday nite
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well to begin with this morning AH wanted to run a few errands,so we left to do what we needed to do.around 2 on our way home he said i want to go to the river and do some fishing and have some beers..i didnt say anything...went home he got his fishing stuff together,ran him to the bait store to get worms and be...
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bev
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Thanks to all
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Just reading your encouraging words makes me feel more at ease. I do live in a small town where every one knows everybodys business, it does make it more difficult for a meeting. It has been 17 years since I last went to one, never thought I would have to again. This is wonderful getting to type out my feeel...
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Lakegirl
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Hello
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This is my first post here, just saying hello. I get to Al-Anon meetings once a week or so, but it's nice to have something in between that is available just to share, vent, or whatever.
I don't currently live with an active alcoholic, and not sure if I would or could. Been there, done that. It is very d...
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barisax
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aside from life w/your A - is your life challenging?
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Im bored at work (library), Im bored at home
I need something to strive for - a goal - something to work towards. Years ago it was weight loss for example.
What are your immediate goals? something you do every day to make yourself happy?
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Barbara
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Reward of a different kind....
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My concert was awesome. Both bands totally rocked. Several things occured to me during and after the show. The groups that played were Journey (my fav) and Def Leppard (hubs fav) so it was really apprapo that we went together. I have always loved Journey for their music but...
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AlaMom
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Now THIS is Al-Anon!
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Thought I'd share a wonderful email I got from a friend.
>>Two Horses >> >>Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it. From a >>distance, each looks like every other horse. But if you stop your car, or >>are walking by, y...
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Please pray for my friend
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((((((((Friends))))))))
I received some very bad news this week. My dearest friend from high school is dying of cancer. She has very little hope of winning the battle over cancer, since it has invaded most of her body. We have been friends for over 42 years and to think of not hav...
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Lexie
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Letter to My Alcoholic Husband, Words He'll Never Read
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OK, rtexas got me to thinking. I sometimes try to write my AH a note, or letter, and it backfires on me. I have examined my motives, and I just have wanted him to know my true feelings. But, it often angers him. Lately, I have written to him, and torn them up before I give him a chance to re...
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Get Out the Earplugs
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Last night, my AH came home from the neighbor's house, (who is also an A, and his longtime friend since they were teenagers.) He was drunk. Started putting me down, being mean.
I have tendonitis in my thumb, which is very painful, and has developed into "trigger th...
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Becky1
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Progress in me
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When I joined this program I was lost and hurt, scared, tired, troubled, full of resentment, anger, unhappiness, doubt.
What this program has done for me is it has showed me the way at a life that I have wanted but was to scared to try to have. Now I know progress is not perfect. I know that I will ha...
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DoN4me
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Still alive
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Hi roomies! I am still alive. Still dont have a computer and the one at the library wont let me into the chat room. I just wanted to say HI ! I miss you roomies (((((( erin, sparky, bump, cujo, josey, DE, john,Tea, GG, trina, joni, tt, cedar, kis)))))) and I know there were more. ...
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Serenity
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((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))),
Just had to share with you a beautiful day.
Hubby has been scoping out hunting places on state lands because he is disabled and can drive the trooper there. He has been bugging me for the past several weeks to go and look at one with him. I hav...
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Karilynn
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I am a triathlete
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What is a triathlete? Someone who competes in a race with 3 events. My events yesterday were a half mile swim, 15 mile bike and 3.1 mile run.
This course of events took me 2 hours and 14 minutes and I successfully finished without walking.
Why do I post this here?
When I found this site I was at the m...
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megan
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Letter to My A-Anon Family Which They Will Hopefully Read
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Dearest Al-Anon friends~
I love you all so very much. Although we have never met in person, I often think of each one of you as I go about my day. I work on an assembly line, so I have lots of time to think!
When I first came here, I was hesitant, I had never gotten involved in online chatroom...
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Becky1
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Rewards of doing the right things...
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Last week I posted about my feelings of missing a concert due to a death in my recovering A's family. I shared about resentments I had over his past issues vs. my want to attend this show. That night I attended a meeting in which one of the topics was step 6. During this meeting it occur...
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AlaMom
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HUGS - Women's Retreat
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I had the wonderful opportunity to attend the HUGS (Hope, Unity, Gratitude, Serenity) Women's Retreat in Spring, TX this past weekend. I also had the pleasure of sharing my story as the Saturday night Al-Anon Speaker. It was such an honor and humbling experience.
I, like many...
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Rita G
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Is it for real?
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I have currently found myself attracted to someone who is a recovering A (I have only known him sober). This is new in the fact that I have not been in a relationship with an A for years. However, I grew up surrounded by As.
The connection the two of us share is phenomenal.&nb...
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Newbie
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Al-Anon's Declaration
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Let It Begin With Me
When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help
let the hand of Al-Anon and Alateen
always be there, and - Let It Begin With Me.
JEWEL LYRICS
"Hands"
If I could tell the world just one thing
It would be that we're all OK
And not to worry 'cause worry...
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kismetstrand
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i am looking for a way to cope
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Hello to all- I am a 28 yr old woman who has had her life forever changed by alcohol. I know it started in the womb-My mother and father were both alcoholics-My mother 36 when she got pregant with me already had 5 other children whom she had givin up to different people for the disease-my father 40 an...
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faith
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when to take threats seriously...
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Hello
Me again. My husband has called me several times this afternoon begging and pleading with me for 1 more chance. I just don't think I can do it.
He's talked to a few people about killing himself. He even left me a fake suicide phone message on Monday morning. He was very drunk and high on cocaine,...
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artygirl
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Prayers for Strength
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blue
Hello Friends,
Well it's finally the last straw....I have been trying so hard to bide my time until I am a little more financially able.....all that went out the window today..after being out of work for more than 4 months and me holding us together...he got his fi...
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Andrea12
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why is he so weak?
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Why does my guy sabotage our relationship with drugs/alcohol every time things are going so good? it doesn't make sense... he uses it when he needs it the least? I'm so tired of the ups and downs, been hurt and let down more times than I can count, really having a difficult time understandi...
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by a thread
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Now What?
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I'm new here, have been to a few f2f meetings. My husband is an A, been with him for 20 years, married for 9 of those years. He was out of control when I met him, still drank, but was better most of the time. In 2000, he went on a bender while on vacation in the Carribean, went to a Dr. down there and was tol...
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Kelly M
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Feeling numb , just saw a fatal car accident & found my last 2 goats dead
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We had just gone outside with our little dogs about an hour ago. 10pm, I heard a skid then a thud. I said it sounds like a car accident. Remember now, I live in a rural county. so we have almost complete silence out here. Our dogs started howling. We thought surely someone on the blacktop heard it and will go...
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hmrnrnmm
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just need to vent
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hi havent posted in a couple weeks..but this past weekend i went away to disney with my mother in law,daughter and granddaughter{went from sat to tuesday}on friday the day before we went my AH wanted to go out so i took him to the bar{he went to the bar that deals with drugs}well anyways i went to pick him u...
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bev
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Celebrating my growth in Alanon
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It has been almost 6 weeks since my A husband and I were talking. We have been here many times and in the past it is around this time I start getting weak. I would be so devastated when my husband and I would argue and he would demand that I leave and tell me he wanted a divorce. He wo...
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JulieLynn
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the money stuff
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As some of you know I have been working a pretty low wage job and not really getting that far with my plan b. I have the opportunity tomorrow to go interview for a much better paid job and also another interview on Monday. I am hoping to do like Andrea and others have to land a job despite the odds again...
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maresie2
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I want this to be over...once and for all.
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The A I've lived with for 6 years didn't come home last night. It's not the first time and I know it won't be the last. But my kids are 10 and 12 now and they "get it" that he isn't still working at 10 pm. I don't want them to think their successful mom is a sap when it comes to relationships and what she wil...
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kicky
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boundary suggestions?
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Hi, I'm working on my list of boundaries today because I know the A will be back in town soon and I want to be prepared. So far I have he doesn't stay the night at my house or on my property. He doesn't come here or call drunk or expect to see the kids under the influence. I think he's about to lose his license fro...
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carolinagirl
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hugs and esh
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Not ready to write a proper post just yet but would like a few hugs sent my way if you guys have any to spare. Had a big fight with my husband feeling okay but I have taken my wedding and engagement rings off today which I never do. Haven't made any decisions just feeling a little in limbo right n...
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leo
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Please PRAY for me !!
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Please pray for ME, i need my HP's strength to get thru this.. I need my HP's guidance, support and LOVE right now.. My husband needs his HP to guide him too..
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Tammy
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directing my anger
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I made a lethal mistake of telling the A I am going on a job interview. This morning he starts in at 4:30 the house is a mess, then he moves onto that I buy too much dog food (he has accused me publicly before of neglecting the dogs). Now he is off on a riff about his socks being missing.&nb...
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maresie2
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detachment....
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Alright, so I attended my first Al-anon meeting on Monday. I was so scared because I didn't know what to expect, and I'm extremely shy on top of it.
By the time my 1st step meeting was over, I was alot more relaxed and somewhat relieved. I was happy to know alot of other people are feeling the same frust...
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mommaof2
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Its funny when...
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I emerge out of my cocoon to share my progress I have a "relapse" into old behavior. My A backed out of counseling yesterday and of course used all sorts of excuses to justify it. I went from that place of feeling good and happy regardless of what he does or feels right back into the poop of fee...
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twinmom2
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Response to - Letter to my AW
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((((Everyone))))
Thank you all for your kind words. Speaking from my heart is new to me since joining this program. In my family of origin we almost never blurt out "I love you" to anyone. It was understood.... I guess.
Well I acturally sent that letter to my AW. When we t...
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rtexas
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Feeling the sunshine after my removal from the pit of dispair (thanks for keeping the ladder safe all :) )
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Hi all,
Well today was a great day, and still is becasue I am not asleep yet, close lol, but not yet.
I really can't not remember much at work, it was so nuts :) just like me and just the way I like it.
At the end of this month I will be completing my second term as an AmeriCorps member and lol I will be an alu...
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Dolphin123
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I had lost my ladder to get out of the pit of depsair, I found it here, again where it alwasy is!
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Hi roomies,
My family and I returned from our vacation on Sunday. It was a great trip and I was able to meet my neice and nephew for the first time. (Neice is adopted an extremly adorable 2 year old and my nephew is 12 weeks old.)
Things were great. Hubby was such an amazing support and was...
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Dolphin123
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Letter to my AW
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Dear .......
Last night you asked me a question. You said you needed to know if you had to stop drinking for me to show you any love and affection?
Honey, it's not a simple question to answer. I can tell you this... I do love you, I always have. In the middle of our worst moments I sti...
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rtexas
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I have heard...
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I heard that an alcoholic or addict stops emotionally growing up when they start using. Has anyone else heard this? IE if they start using at 12 they act like 12 year olds and never grow up from there emotionally until they are sober for a good long time?
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carolinagirl
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my self esteem crashing
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Hi all, I've noticed my tendancy to people please a lot recently. I'm trying to undo this and create new boundaries for myself. I am actually quite surprised at how natural this was/is to me. I've come to the conclusion that my self esteem must actually be quite low. My Abf asks me what's wrong with me a lo...
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annmarie
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Alphabet Grattitude list
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Here is something fun to do. List things you are grateful for for each letter of the alphabet. Of course you don't have to post if you do not want to. I still have many more to think about. See how many you can do. A ALANON….of course B BRUCE…my husband C COMPASSION for the A D ...
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Gailey
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Still having trouble
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I am still having trouble getting into the chatroom. Was there last night after work, but can't get in this morning for meeting. It says I have been banned, something about my IP being on a "blacklist."
I have absolutely no clue what is going on or why. Anothe person said they experienced simil...
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horselover58
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Feeling a little guilty
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I was talking to a friend the other day trying to figure out why I couldn't just let go after all I have been through and I told her I couldn't stand the idea of him being with someone else. She asked me why? and I didn't know. Then she said you're afraid he's going to treat someone else like this? And I said No,...
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carolinagirl
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What Now
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Hello All- I am new here and have been looking around for a couple of days and havent seen what Im looking for...maybe just because there is no answer to the questions I have...I have been with my A for almost two years and feel like I have gave all I have to give, we have tried everything to make this w...
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acjmom
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getting into chat room problem
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I have not tried to get into the chat room for a long time. Today I decided to stop in on the 9:00 a.m. meeting. Cannot get in. This is what it says at the bottom of the white box:
Connecting...
Unable to conncet: java.net ConnectException: Connection refused: connect
Please help!!!!
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Gailey
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Overcoming the characteristics...
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Just a quick question on how to overcome the characteristics we developed in your experiences with As. Does it help to address the issues with a recovering A. Is that where the issues reside or does just working the program do it? Just curious.
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Newbie
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Is anyone else in this position?
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I am sure there are some of you who have left your A and have children in common. How do you deal with them seeing the children but not getting sucked into getting back together? How do you deal with seeing them even if you don't want to?
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carolinagirl
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One last thing about children
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I promise this is my last one tonight but I wanted to take a minute to talk about something the last post brought up. My daugher (his step) and my AH have not gotten along for many years. He constantly finds fault with everything she does. Sometimes I even think he lies about things to put her in a bad light....
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carolinagirl
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Honesty about my obsession
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Hi Everyone,
I have to vent, as many of you may remember, my ex bf A/CH and I split after he went to rehab, at the recommendation of his sponsor. No relationship in the first year, etc etc. I really understood and thought it best for me too. I held out some hope that we may reconcile an...
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beachbaby
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begging and pleading for another chance...
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Hello
Just when I start to feel really good about my decision to divorce my A/cocaine addicted husband, so that I can get on with my life and have a happy future...... he calls me and begs me to come back.
He says he promises that he won't use and will quit drinking if only I will come back to him. He says h...
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artygirl
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Grandiose Ideas, Never Action
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(((Hi everyone)))
Just thought I would see if others have the problem with their As pretty much talking all about themselves, their goals, them, them, them!!! I was wondering that lastnight as AH came home, buzzed, began to tell me the same story for the second time, bragging about who he ran...
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hersh
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A quick update
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(((Hello MIP Family)))
I have seen some big struggles on the board this week and also have been reading about alot of growth happening in so many people. I gain so much wisdom and insight from reading the post and people's honest open shares. My program is coming along very well and I'm n...
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twinmom2
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Taking care of me
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A quick note to let ya all know I won't be on for a few days.
I am heading off to Toronto tomorrow to visit friends, laze around, eat good food and shop.
I am just taking me, am only leaving an emergency number with my wife. Everyone else will have to go thru her and she will not...
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lilms
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alot of things
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I have been in Alanon for going 2yrs in Nov both on the site here and face to face meeting. Lately I have had a hard time getting my self to meeting. I have stayed in touch with my sponsor that was very important. She has helped me the whole time. She tells me that this is normal to want to space myself from the p...
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nycbt
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Treating them with respect when they are being unreasonable
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(((((Everyone)))))
So I open my ODAT and read todays selection, which essentially says it is wrong to treat the A with disrespect when they are acting out in thier disease.
I have recently been very close to that and it struck a bit close to home for me. My AW has a number of complaints about ou...
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rtexas
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A tenant
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I have not been here much. The tenant I have is insane. It is horrible. She is major A. I cannot tell you how horrible it has been.
She is lieing, says I come over and harrass her. ? Just says all this insane stuff.
Her dogs got over here and bit up my Great Pyr and killed a chicken. My Pyr was protect...
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debilyn
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He called again need some input.
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Well, the AH called again from AZ. I have been writing down all the numerous reasons that I don't want to go there again in the journal AND there are MANY! Whenever he calls he is crying and always asks the same questions. Can we be together again when I get back? Is there someone else? As if I can't just be ha...
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carolinagirl
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What type of personalities
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Hello everyone. Can someone help with understanding what type of personalities become addicted. My boyfriend is addicted to alcohol, I have a sister addicted to the same, and 2 brothers who are addicted to crack. Looking on the surface they all seem to have different personali...
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LadyLibra
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no faith in myself
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Here I am trying to face life straight ahead. Be the Captain of my Ship...all that stuff.
But honestly....all I feel is...as soon as "everyone" discovers how much of a failure I really am on the inside I will be alone. I'm trying so hard to forget how disappointed I made my ex (who is also o...
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katrina2000
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