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heartless39470 · heartless39470

Hello, Yes, I am back, I need to start from day one again. Please some one lead me to the examples of detachment. Thanks, Heartless

QOD · QOD

My AH decided last night that he was going to leave. And not just leave but leave TOWN. He is thinking about moving to Arkansas (his sister lives there) or Kentucky (his dad lives there). He is planning on being gone today by the time I get home from work. All of this came about b/c he did some work around...

evey · evey

Hi "Everyone", My situation with my AH has gotten worse and I am divorcing him. If I see a lawyer and get legally separated can I make him leave? I have just had it. Last night he was stuck in a snow bank and I went to help him(yes, I know I should have left him there) and he was stewed. He did not eve...

gimmpy · gimmpy

I'm tired and trying to figure if I have reached a point of letting go or shutting down. I grew up in an alcoholic home and thought I would do a much better job at this parenting stuff. the issue now is my oldest daughter. I know she is drinking and using, not sure to what extend..She has pretty much tune...

rmazi2 · rmazi2

Hello everyone, I just wanted to introduce myself and ask a few questions. I grew up with an alcoholic father. He hit my mom; they got divorced. I haven't talked to my father in 5 years because he got himself a new family and completely dropped ours. I recently started looking up the effects of grow...

Becky1 · Becky1

Jan. 31 was my AH's 50th birthday, so I planned some special things for him. Needless to say, all that got thrown in the muck and mire of alcoholism, and things went from bad to worse. We didn't speak for days afterward. One of the gifts I got him was for a Riverboat Dinner Cruise, and I upgraded...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I went to the bingo/spaghetti night at the local synagogue (whoda thought that I'd ever set foot back in the synagogue?!

) Anyway, this is what I've realized at the end of the night: I blamed the synagogue for years that my father didn't stop drinking. I was certain that the me...

Maria123 · Maria123

I got this poem from one of my very bestest friends and it's framed and on my livingroom wall so I can remind myself daily. They may see the good you do as self serving. Continue to do good. They may see your generosity as grandstanding Continue to be generous. They may see your warm and caring nature a...

programgirl · programgirl

hey there, I have been an off again and on again here when I needed a little extra and not getting it from live real meetings. But it seems that I also have had a hard time staying connected. I just moved and am using this as a great new opportunity to find a new group and get back at it. well geographical cure...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

My 24 year old daughter (A) can be described like the literature says, "Higher functioning, treatment resistant, relapse-prone with Axis I & II disorders." If you've got one that responds to the "educational" approach, then you are fortunate. We do not. Entering Y...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

Hi all, Sorry to touch this subject again. Can anyone identify with me, I really am confused with this one. The alcoholic who is a child molester, that must be the alcoholics worst ever nightmare, but not as bad as it is for their victim. The question is are they child molesters and that way inclined, o...

Newme · Newme

Dear roomies, I am so happy today...since coming to alanon I have stopped enabling my dad financially...we lost contact for a few months...he called me yesterday saying that he loves me and he is looking for a job...it was so nice to hear his voice again, I just want to pray more and more for him to find hi...

ShelBell · ShelBell

Important life lessons:

Lesson 1: A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor....

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family))))))), Came across this quote: "We don't stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing." Herbert Spencer Not a clue who this person is. But the message is clear: keep the youngster inside of you alive! HAVE FUN! We've gone through so mu...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I don't know if this fits into the confines of this web page, but I am currently applying for a nursing program, and an organization here will give me $$$$ scholarship as soon as the application is completed. I need three interviews from RNs, nurse practitioners, LPN's ect... If you want to he...

hudsond · hudsond

I broke my step-daughter's heart yesterday. Her mother called her on Valentine's Day. This is the first time she has called her in a year. We saw her after Christmas, but haven't heard from her since--even though she is living with other step-daughter and has supposedly been sober-...

donewithitallandhappy · donewithitallandhappy

My therapist helped me understand what addiction is not. I have very rare neurological disease that my neuros started giving me anti-convulsants for last year. After a few months I decided to stop taking them because they made me so sleepy. But very few people can just stop taking an anti-convulsant...

Newme · Newme

My dear roomies, I walked into alanon rooms 6 months ago, my life was so foggy, I couldnt see things clearly but I was sure I need help...I couldnt do it on my own anymore and God bless the lady who introduced my broken heart to this great fellowship. The first few posts that I left I didnt know many of you but...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I don't know what happened, nothing exactly, just minding my own business, thinking about some things...past things...not so good things...all the things I never forgave or forgot. Then I combined those with new not so good things...and BOOM! Only I didn't go boom I just held it all in and g...

lylaanju · lylaanju

is to want to believe my AH when every week or two he says, he's sick and tired of being sick and tired, he needs help, he has to stop, etc. How do I have faith in him, keep the hope but then not completely be fooled by this disease and the promises? He's not a bad guy, he's just very sick and gett...

Lindy · Lindy

I haven't been on this board for a long, long time mostly because I feel like I don't need it quite so much. I left my AH and got my own apartment. Before I left him, I was working three jobs to get enough money to move out. With the help of a very good friend and a little extra money, I was able to move ou...

Akasha · Akasha

I feel like I'm getting ready to recite something my mother used to say to me all the time... There was a little girl who had a little curl... Right in the middle of her forehead; And when she was good, She was very, very good... But when she was bad...? She was horrid! Anyway....Things are going good....

Jill · Jill

It’s Friday evening of a 3 day weekend. When I got home from work, I got a call from AH who was on the commuter train coming home. He didn’t come home by when I calculated he would (based on when he called). Another hour went by, and I started to what-if. The panic crawled around the edges of my brain. Then I d...

Brenda · Brenda

I believe my husband is an alcoholic. He usually goes out with friends for a few hours on Wednesday nights and then plays cards at a friend's house every Friday. On those occasions, he calls me and I pick him up so that he will get home safely. This past week, both Wednesday and Friday, he drove hom...

moxafoot · moxafoot

A quick question here...is this the place too for family members of prescription drug abusers? My husband hasn't had a drink for almost 25 years (although he is an alcoholic). I just don't want to bring up anything that isn't discussed here. Thanks for the info - and sorry if I brought up s...

QOD · QOD

I guess you can say that my AH gave me a Valentine's present last night. He gave me his wedding rings. We were playing Candy Land w/our daughter and he (for the 10th time) asked if I was going to give him some Valentine's Red Hot Lovin'. I just looked at him like he was crazy and said Uh No. H...

Moon · Moon

Hi everyone, Thought I would share a little esh (experience, strength and hope) that I've found. Two years ago, on Valentine's day I hit a bottom. (a few more bottoms would occur until I found my way) My husband and I had recently added our second child, we moved to a new location, he had a new...

donewithitallandhappy · donewithitallandhappy

Just finished a couple of months of really good therapy with an addiction and stress management expert after breaking up with a wonderful woman who was battling cancer. My sister and her daughters both began addiction and suicide issues during my gf's recovery after her first bout of cancer. My...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

A New Life Awaits MeA new life awaits me I just have to be patient,and wait and seeGod will one day open my blinded eyesI can't buy into my alcoholic mother's stupid liesGod says he has a plan for me,and says he wants the best for my life The world has yet to see what he can do with one commited to hi...

Rora · Rora

I wanted to thank you all for sharing so openly your ESH on this board. I had been to f2f meetings...then stopped... I've been visiting here lately the past few weeks and your posts have encouraged me to go to a f2f meeting tonight. Mostly because I have re-learned that there is Hope for me yet for a li...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

I'm finding it difficult to forgive the A who sexually abused my son. Apoligies, if I've touched any raw nerves, just had to let this go today! Thanks, Barbs.

maresie2 · maresie2

The a's new antics are to find a way to get money out of me at anytime. He has many excuses. He says someone stole his drill and he can't work. That was the way he got the truck out of me. I say nothing just well go look for the drill it must be somewhere. Then its he needs money to go get a new mouse fo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...

Kethry · Kethry

Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I had a brilliant idea this morning. I have been frustrated with the whole NC divorce process for six months!!! Anyway my MIL called last night to ask if I would have the restraining order lifted before my husband goes to court because "it doesn't look good". Of course I just blew thi...

CJ · CJ

(Family) I've had a truly humbling week. Besides the trials and tribulations of working an 'intense' work week, my Awife and her mother are in my house, occupying 90% of the rest of my time packing her stuff for her move back to the midwest. The resentment, anger, and bitterness are quit...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It's funny how months ago I was so bored I felt like I wanted to claw my way out of my skin and now most of the time it seems like I never have enough time to get done all the things I want to get done. It seemed like time droned on and on and now it's flying by and I can't seem to keep up. Just thought...

fuzz · fuzz

Last night around 6:30 my A boyfreind called from the bar. He told me he had bought gifts and told me how much he loved me. He said he would be home in half an hour. So I waited, and waited.... he didn't come home until 9am this morning. He said he had stopped by a house with a couple of guys to smoke on the w...

horselover58 · horselover58

My problem is with my A hubby's adult daughter. She was raised by his parents who got custody of her when shen was 7. She lived with them until she turned 17, at that point she moved from Flordida back to NY. Let me tell you he did not loose custody of her due to alcohol, illegal drug use (which he doesnt d...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Well I got by what should have been my 9th wedding anniversary over the weekend. I helped my Mom and stepDad move back into the house, all fire restoration is complete, the unpacking will take a while yet. My room is there and waiting for me to make it mine, funny my Mom wants to start putting it together an...

debilyn · debilyn

don't know how else to put it. Moved into my bunkhouse. new tenants are great. Mom, my adoptive mom died Jan 16,07 as some of you know. I still have not snapped back, in fact I am worse. probably the moving. It is horribly lonely with out her. My old animals are dieing one by one. One day 3 in the same day....

Honestly · Honestly

I've lost all the information you gave me about you. I'm so sorry, will you contact me please so we can start up this relationship. Thanks much. I'm Jo in the meetings.

ollie · ollie

Hi Christy, Thank you sooo much for your most inspiring post,it was so nice to hear you and your h have found happiness through all this mess,i know it is very early days yet for us ,but every day, is a day longer,my h up, to now has shown no resemblance to the the person who he was while drinking,he is back t...

bcanuck · bcanuck

..how much power this disease has. We lost a friend at work today...to alcohol. He died a painful death, swollen from liver and kidney failure, on a ventilator. He left behind 3 young children, who no longer have any parents. The pull of alcohol so strong...stronger than the bond between a parent...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((Family)))))))),

Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

May it all be extra special for you. I love you all dearly, and if it wasn't illegal I'd marry you all!

I count my blessings for each and every one of you. Just a rem...

Rora · Rora

I've been visiting here on and off for a while now. I have an AH. I've been to f2f meetings in the past, but they are hard for me to get to for a number or reasons, including my little guy! My AH has been "dry" since October. In front of me anyways. As I am sure some of you know, that's...

ollie · ollie

HI To All, Hav,nt posted for a while,but have been here reading,taking in all i can. Would like to share with you what has happened between my h and myself.for those who remember i threw him out last may,forcing him to the salvation army.WELL,they found him a flat in december,came to stay with me for a w...

irish54 · irish54

Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...

QOD · QOD

My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, it isn't fair to involve my AFG in the drama of my Momma w/o telling you how it all came down. Woohoo, how it all came down...of course, in light of it's been almost a week since she was here, the real deal is that, to be straight, there's more drama 'round these parts than on Broad...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((Everyone)))) I don't normally post things that aren't Alanon, but tonight this story has been on my mind. Does it exist?? I believe it does. Happy Valentines to you all, especially to those of us who are home alone tonight. DREAMS The Lost Joy All day, where the sunlight played on the s...

kerry5 · kerry5

This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end! (After the story, there are some very interesting facts!): I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.The last class I had to take was Sociology.The teacher was absolutely inspir...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Sorry for all of you out there who are revelling joyously in Valentines. But for me it is a horrible glaring reminder of what I don't have. My ex(A) can be incredibly charming and fun to be with, except for that flaw of being an A. He up until last weekend was still saying he loved me and wanted us to be t...

akristab · akristab

last night. My AH is back on the wagon and going to meetings - yeah and neigh. He was recently diagnosed with a seizure disorder on top of his ADD and addictions. I know I should be concerned, but it is too reminscent of his binges - disappearing and not answering his cell phone - except now he has a seizure,...

QOD · QOD

I didn't know if I had posted that my AH came home last week. He came home Wednesday night. And he has been there ever since. He of course slept for days to recover from this last binge. He said he almost died 2 separate times during those 13 days he was gone. One time he said that his blood got so...

Maria123 · Maria123

Can anyone (Tom, John, Tea, Debilyn) help? I keep getting this message when I attempt to get into chat. Connecting... Logging in... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Looking up your hostname... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Checking ident... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Found your hostname -irc.chat4all.net- **...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello everyone, Hope you are all well out there and doing good. I am doing much better these days. I was involved with this man who is bipolar and abused alcohol and drugs. I finally found myself once again and booted him ... there will be NO more with him

...I bought me something very special t...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hi all, just wanted to share. I did have the restraining order served on him. I talked to the motel worker and found that the night he was arrested was the 2nd night he had been there with that girl. Then later I talked to the cop who arrested him and he said that they had been seeing eachother for several w...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. --Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Please give me examples of Detachment (Preview) Hello, Yes, I am back, I need to start from day one again. Please some one lead me to the examples of detachment. Thanks, Heartless	heartless39470	7	1003	Feb 19, 2007 by Leetle
	AH is leaving town. (Preview) My AH decided last night that he was going to leave. And not just leave but leave TOWN. He is thinking about moving to Arkansas (his sister lives there) or Kentucky (his dad lives there). He is planning on being gone today by the time I get home from work. All of this came about b/c he did some work around...	QOD	4	316	Feb 19, 2007 by Maria123
	How do I get him out? I've hit my bottom... (Preview) Hi "Everyone", My situation with my AH has gotten worse and I am divorcing him. If I see a lawyer and get legally separated can I make him leave? I have just had it. Last night he was stuck in a snow bank and I went to help him(yes, I know I should have left him there) and he was stewed. He did not eve...	evey	11	680	Feb 19, 2007 by maria13
	letting go or indifferent? (Preview) I'm tired and trying to figure if I have reached a point of letting go or shutting down. I grew up in an alcoholic home and thought I would do a much better job at this parenting stuff. the issue now is my oldest daughter. I know she is drinking and using, not sure to what extend..She has pretty much tune...	gimmpy	8	634	Feb 19, 2007 by gimmpy
	Newbie (Preview) Hello everyone, I just wanted to introduce myself and ask a few questions. I grew up with an alcoholic father. He hit my mom; they got divorced. I haven't talked to my father in 5 years because he got himself a new family and completely dropped ours. I recently started looking up the effects of grow...	rmazi2	6	314	Feb 19, 2007 by Rita G
	Can't He Ever Just Be HAPPY? Just ONCE? (Preview) Jan. 31 was my AH's 50th birthday, so I planned some special things for him. Needless to say, all that got thrown in the muck and mire of alcoholism, and things went from bad to worse. We didn't speak for days afterward. One of the gifts I got him was for a Riverboat Dinner Cruise, and I upgraded...	Becky1	10	608	Feb 19, 2007 by Karilynn
	Nobody is safe from the scathings of the disease (Preview) I went to the bingo/spaghetti night at the local synagogue (whoda thought that I'd ever set foot back in the synagogue?! ) Anyway, this is what I've realized at the end of the night: I blamed the synagogue for years that my father didn't stop drinking. I was certain that the me...	Tiger2006	2	530	Feb 19, 2007 by Maria123
	Continue to be ........... (Preview) I got this poem from one of my very bestest friends and it's framed and on my livingroom wall so I can remind myself daily. They may see the good you do as self serving. Continue to do good. They may see your generosity as grandstanding Continue to be generous. They may see your warm and caring nature a...	Maria123	3	440	Feb 19, 2007 by Faith73
	back to square one (Preview) hey there, I have been an off again and on again here when I needed a little extra and not getting it from live real meetings. But it seems that I also have had a hard time staying connected. I just moved and am using this as a great new opportunity to find a new group and get back at it. well geographical cure...	programgirl	3	411	Feb 18, 2007 by programgirl
	The Psychodynamic Approach (Preview) My 24 year old daughter (A) can be described like the literature says, "Higher functioning, treatment resistant, relapse-prone with Axis I & II disorders." If you've got one that responds to the "educational" approach, then you are fortunate. We do not. Entering Y...	Jeff Reynolds	10	585	Feb 18, 2007 by mel123
	Can Anyone Help Me Understand? (Preview) Hi all, Sorry to touch this subject again. Can anyone identify with me, I really am confused with this one. The alcoholic who is a child molester, that must be the alcoholics worst ever nightmare, but not as bad as it is for their victim. The question is are they child molesters and that way inclined, o...	Barbs45	8	764	Feb 18, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Relation with daddy is healing:-) (Preview) Dear roomies, I am so happy today...since coming to alanon I have stopped enabling my dad financially...we lost contact for a few months...he called me yesterday saying that he loves me and he is looking for a job...it was so nice to hear his voice again, I just want to pray more and more for him to find hi...	Newme	1	340	Feb 18, 2007 by Maria123
	How about a little funny? (Preview) Important life lessons: Lesson 1: A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor....	ShelBell	2	474	Feb 18, 2007 by Barbs45
	"Fun" for thought (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))), Came across this quote: "We don't stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing." Herbert Spencer Not a clue who this person is. But the message is clear: keep the youngster inside of you alive! HAVE FUN! We've gone through so mu...	Karilynn	3	389	Feb 18, 2007 by Barbs45
	Anybody here ever an RN? (Preview) I don't know if this fits into the confines of this web page, but I am currently applying for a nursing program, and an organization here will give me $$$$ scholarship as soon as the application is completed. I need three interviews from RNs, nurse practitioners, LPN's ect... If you want to he...	RainyJamie	1	347	Feb 18, 2007 by Barbs45
	broken hearts (Preview) I broke my step-daughter's heart yesterday. Her mother called her on Valentine's Day. This is the first time she has called her in a year. We saw her after Christmas, but haven't heard from her since--even though she is living with other step-daughter and has supposedly been sober-...	hudsond	11	487	Feb 18, 2007 by Karilynn
	What addiction is not (Preview) My therapist helped me understand what addiction is not. I have very rare neurological disease that my neuros started giving me anti-convulsants for last year. After a few months I decided to stop taking them because they made me so sleepy. But very few people can just stop taking an anti-convulsant...	donewithitallandhappy	1	389	Feb 18, 2007 by Karilynn
	Getting there... (Preview) My dear roomies, I walked into alanon rooms 6 months ago, my life was so foggy, I couldnt see things clearly but I was sure I need help...I couldnt do it on my own anymore and God bless the lady who introduced my broken heart to this great fellowship. The first few posts that I left I didnt know many of you but...	Newme	5	417	Feb 17, 2007 by nycbt
	Anger...creeping in...too weak to resist...AAAHHH!!! (Preview) I don't know what happened, nothing exactly, just minding my own business, thinking about some things...past things...not so good things...all the things I never forgave or forgot. Then I combined those with new not so good things...and BOOM! Only I didn't go boom I just held it all in and g...	RainyJamie	10	458	Feb 17, 2007 by Diva
	One of the hardest things (Preview) is to want to believe my AH when every week or two he says, he's sick and tired of being sick and tired, he needs help, he has to stop, etc. How do I have faith in him, keep the hope but then not completely be fooled by this disease and the promises? He's not a bad guy, he's just very sick and gett...	lylaanju	6	487	Feb 17, 2007 by Christy
	I left my AH and am very happy! (Preview) I haven't been on this board for a long, long time mostly because I feel like I don't need it quite so much. I left my AH and got my own apartment. Before I left him, I was working three jobs to get enough money to move out. With the help of a very good friend and a little extra money, I was able to move ou...	Lindy	3	370	Feb 17, 2007 by Maria123
	When things go good..... (Preview) I feel like I'm getting ready to recite something my mother used to say to me all the time... There was a little girl who had a little curl... Right in the middle of her forehead; And when she was good, She was very, very good... But when she was bad...? She was horrid! Anyway....Things are going good....	Akasha	7	439	Feb 17, 2007 by Maria123
	Choices for my weekend (Preview) It’s Friday evening of a 3 day weekend. When I got home from work, I got a call from AH who was on the commuter train coming home. He didn’t come home by when I calculated he would (based on when he called). Another hour went by, and I started to what-if. The panic crawled around the edges of my brain. Then I d...	Jill	3	434	Feb 17, 2007 by Maria123
	My Husband (Preview) I believe my husband is an alcoholic. He usually goes out with friends for a few hours on Wednesday nights and then plays cards at a friend's house every Friday. On those occasions, he calls me and I pick him up so that he will get home safely. This past week, both Wednesday and Friday, he drove hom...	Brenda	4	307	Feb 17, 2007 by Brenda
	newbie question (Preview) A quick question here...is this the place too for family members of prescription drug abusers? My husband hasn't had a drink for almost 25 years (although he is an alcoholic). I just don't want to bring up anything that isn't discussed here. Thanks for the info - and sorry if I brought up s...	moxafoot	8	512	Feb 17, 2007 by carolena
	AH gave me his wedding rings last night!! (Preview) I guess you can say that my AH gave me a Valentine's present last night. He gave me his wedding rings. We were playing Candy Land w/our daughter and he (for the 10th time) asked if I was going to give him some Valentine's Red Hot Lovin'. I just looked at him like he was crazy and said Uh No. H...	QOD	4	404	Feb 17, 2007 by Becky1
	When I changed, &quot;they&quot; changed (Preview) Hi everyone, Thought I would share a little esh (experience, strength and hope) that I've found. Two years ago, on Valentine's day I hit a bottom. (a few more bottoms would occur until I found my way) My husband and I had recently added our second child, we moved to a new location, he had a new...	Moon	4	620	Feb 17, 2007 by carolena
	Sister's family (Preview) Just finished a couple of months of really good therapy with an addiction and stress management expert after breaking up with a wonderful woman who was battling cancer. My sister and her daughters both began addiction and suicide issues during my gf's recovery after her first bout of cancer. My...	donewithitallandhappy	5	329	Feb 17, 2007 by lin0606
	a new life for me (Poem) (Preview) A New Life Awaits MeA new life awaits me I just have to be patient,and wait and seeGod will one day open my blinded eyesI can't buy into my alcoholic mother's stupid liesGod says he has a plan for me,and says he wants the best for my life The world has yet to see what he can do with one commited to hi...	Lauren ashley	9	538	Feb 17, 2007 by Lauren ashley
	Going to f2f because of this board... (Preview) I wanted to thank you all for sharing so openly your ESH on this board. I had been to f2f meetings...then stopped... I've been visiting here lately the past few weeks and your posts have encouraged me to go to a f2f meeting tonight. Mostly because I have re-learned that there is Hope for me yet for a li...	Rora	6	493	Feb 16, 2007 by CJ
	Finding It Difficult? (Preview) I'm finding it difficult to forgive the A who sexually abused my son. Apoligies, if I've touched any raw nerves, just had to let this go today! Thanks, Barbs.	Barbs45	7	379	Feb 16, 2007 by leo
	Fed up to the back teeth (Preview) The a's new antics are to find a way to get money out of me at anytime. He has many excuses. He says someone stole his drill and he can't work. That was the way he got the truck out of me. I say nothing just well go look for the drill it must be somewhere. Then its he needs money to go get a new mouse fo...	maresie2	3	453	Feb 16, 2007 by leo
	My AH had a relapse last night (Preview) ((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...	twinmom2	7	405	Feb 16, 2007 by Rebecca
	Not a Happy Valentine's Day (Preview) Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...	Kethry	7	538	Feb 16, 2007 by maresie2
	Brilliant Idea!!! (Preview) I had a brilliant idea this morning. I have been frustrated with the whole NC divorce process for six months!!! Anyway my MIL called last night to ask if I would have the restraining order lifted before my husband goes to court because "it doesn't look good". Of course I just blew thi...	carolinagirl	6	330	Feb 16, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Step 3 to the hilt (Preview) (Family) I've had a truly humbling week. Besides the trials and tribulations of working an 'intense' work week, my Awife and her mother are in my house, occupying 90% of the rest of my time packing her stuff for her move back to the midwest. The resentment, anger, and bitterness are quit...	CJ	13	1188	Feb 16, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	Bored not bored (Preview) It's funny how months ago I was so bored I felt like I wanted to claw my way out of my skin and now most of the time it seems like I never have enough time to get done all the things I want to get done. It seemed like time droned on and on and now it's flying by and I can't seem to keep up. Just thought...	carolinagirl	4	319	Feb 16, 2007 by QOD
	an unhappy valentines day (Preview) Last night around 6:30 my A boyfreind called from the bar. He told me he had bought gifts and told me how much he loved me. He said he would be home in half an hour. So I waited, and waited.... he didn't come home until 9am this morning. He said he had stopped by a house with a couple of guys to smoke on the w...	fuzz	4	317	Feb 16, 2007 by QOD
	Adult Step Children? (Preview) My problem is with my A hubby's adult daughter. She was raised by his parents who got custody of her when shen was 7. She lived with them until she turned 17, at that point she moved from Flordida back to NY. Let me tell you he did not loose custody of her due to alcohol, illegal drug use (which he doesnt d...	horselover58	5	373	Feb 16, 2007 by horselover58
	Getting by (Preview) Well I got by what should have been my 9th wedding anniversary over the weekend. I helped my Mom and stepDad move back into the house, all fire restoration is complete, the unpacking will take a while yet. My room is there and waiting for me to make it mine, funny my Mom wants to start putting it together an...	Jennifer	4	406	Feb 16, 2007 by debilyn
	Rough stuff (Preview) don't know how else to put it. Moved into my bunkhouse. new tenants are great. Mom, my adoptive mom died Jan 16,07 as some of you know. I still have not snapped back, in fact I am worse. probably the moving. It is horribly lonely with out her. My old animals are dieing one by one. One day 3 in the same day....	debilyn	14	517	Feb 16, 2007 by debilyn
	Dear Sponsor??? From Jo (Preview) I've lost all the information you gave me about you. I'm so sorry, will you contact me please so we can start up this relationship. Thanks much. I'm Jo in the meetings.	Honestly	0	414	Feb 15, 2007 by Honestly
	CHRISTY PLEASE READ (Preview) Hi Christy, Thank you sooo much for your most inspiring post,it was so nice to hear you and your h have found happiness through all this mess,i know it is very early days yet for us ,but every day, is a day longer,my h up, to now has shown no resemblance to the the person who he was while drinking,he is back t...	ollie	4	459	Feb 15, 2007 by david62
	It will never cease to amaze me.. (Preview) ..how much power this disease has. We lost a friend at work today...to alcohol. He died a painful death, swollen from liver and kidney failure, on a ventilator. He left behind 3 young children, who no longer have any parents. The pull of alcohol so strong...stronger than the bond between a parent...	bcanuck	11	521	Feb 15, 2007 by Sallen
	Happy Valentines Day! (Preview) (((((((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY! May it all be extra special for you. I love you all dearly, and if it wasn't illegal I'd marry you all! I count my blessings for each and every one of you. Just a rem...	Karilynn	12	520	Feb 15, 2007 by tea2
	New here...floundering :O( (Preview) I've been visiting here on and off for a while now. I have an AH. I've been to f2f meetings in the past, but they are hard for me to get to for a number or reasons, including my little guy! My AH has been "dry" since October. In front of me anyways. As I am sure some of you know, that's...	Rora	7	540	Feb 15, 2007 by QOD
	MAYBE? (Preview) HI To All, Hav,nt posted for a while,but have been here reading,taking in all i can. Would like to share with you what has happened between my h and myself.for those who remember i threw him out last may,forcing him to the salvation army.WELL,they found him a flat in december,came to stay with me for a w...	ollie	7	530	Feb 15, 2007 by ollie
	Blessed to be an Al-Anon (Preview) Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...	irish54	3	408	Feb 15, 2007 by irish54
	AH got Frazzled Today, Called Me for Support, Seems to be Pulling Through It. (Preview) My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...	QOD	5	462	Feb 15, 2007 by jaja
	VALENTINES BLUES (Preview) As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...	wbfox58	10	1589	Feb 15, 2007 by nmike
	Can someone stop the train? I've already been run over one too many times.... (Preview) So, it isn't fair to involve my AFG in the drama of my Momma w/o telling you how it all came down. Woohoo, how it all came down...of course, in light of it's been almost a week since she was here, the real deal is that, to be straight, there's more drama 'round these parts than on Broad...	Tiger2006	12	417	Feb 15, 2007 by Jen
	The Lost Joy.... (Preview) (((Everyone)))) I don't normally post things that aren't Alanon, but tonight this story has been on my mind. Does it exist?? I believe it does. Happy Valentines to you all, especially to those of us who are home alone tonight. DREAMS The Lost Joy All day, where the sunlight played on the s...	Lunamoth	2	431	Feb 15, 2007 by doxie
	Touching Story (Preview) This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end! (After the story, there are some very interesting facts!): I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.The last class I had to take was Sociology.The teacher was absolutely inspir...	kerry5	11	426	Feb 14, 2007 by mel123
	Valentines shmalentines (Preview) Sorry for all of you out there who are revelling joyously in Valentines. But for me it is a horrible glaring reminder of what I don't have. My ex(A) can be incredibly charming and fun to be with, except for that flaw of being an A. He up until last weekend was still saying he loved me and wanted us to be t...	mama_nz	7	460	Feb 14, 2007 by Rebecca
	I fell off the wagon... (Preview) last night. My AH is back on the wagon and going to meetings - yeah and neigh. He was recently diagnosed with a seizure disorder on top of his ADD and addictions. I know I should be concerned, but it is too reminscent of his binges - disappearing and not answering his cell phone - except now he has a seizure,...	akristab	5	490	Feb 14, 2007 by akristab
	He's home. Did I tell y'all that last week? (Preview) I didn't know if I had posted that my AH came home last week. He came home Wednesday night. And he has been there ever since. He of course slept for days to recover from this last binge. He said he almost died 2 separate times during those 13 days he was gone. One time he said that his blood got so...	QOD	6	454	Feb 14, 2007 by Diane43
	Banned Message (Preview) Can anyone (Tom, John, Tea, Debilyn) help? I keep getting this message when I attempt to get into chat. Connecting... Logging in... -irc.chat4all.net- * Looking up your hostname... -irc.chat4all.net- * Checking ident... -irc.chat4all.net- * Found your hostname -irc.chat4all.net- ...	Maria123	15	765	Feb 14, 2007 by bob6502
	CHEERS for me~booted him and bought me a sheltie puppy (Preview) Hello everyone, Hope you are all well out there and doing good. I am doing much better these days. I was involved with this man who is bipolar and abused alcohol and drugs. I finally found myself once again and booted him ... there will be NO more with him ...I bought me something very special t...	Diane43	10	536	Feb 14, 2007 by Diane43
	Update (Preview) Hi all, just wanted to share. I did have the restraining order served on him. I talked to the motel worker and found that the night he was arrested was the 2nd night he had been there with that girl. Then later I talked to the cop who arrested him and he said that they had been seeing eachother for several w...	carolinagirl	4	422	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Proceed to bang head against wall in frustration.... (Preview) Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. --Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...	Tiger2006	6	627	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
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