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omg this is soo funny and scary
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I put myself out there on Match.com looking for someone to have as a good, casual relationship, to start with because I was really feeling left out with friends being the only one on my own. It would be nice to have someone to take to cook outs and stuff like that. I feel like such a fifth wheel otherwise....
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New here
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New here and so many questions and worries. My husband admitted to being an alcoholic (with no provacation on my part) three weeks ago and has been going to AA meetings ever since. He hasn't drank as far as I'm aware and I truly believe he did this for himself, not for me or our children. This is th...
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thumper
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day 5 update..he's still here
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Howdy, Just an update, my Ah is still here. He will not leave. His parents will not let him stay with them( how convenient).Quite frankly I think letting him so I could pull my end together would be beneficial to everyone, including him. Contacted a lawyer, told me not to leave if I felt "sa...
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evey
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AH IS GONE!!!
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If you read my post from yesterday and last week....here is the latest: My AH did leave yesterday. He was gone by the time I got off of work @ 4:00. He loaded up his clothes, put his car on his trailer and hooked that to his truck and off he went. He got my yard done, finished up some projects around my house...
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QOD
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Alcoholic sandbox
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Hi all, yes I am expected to stick my head in the alcoholic sandbox again, last saturday, my youngest son got into an altercation with another boy and bloodied his nose after being hit in the stomach. No not the end of it, the boy's parents are baying for more blood, and are preparing to make this a who...
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maire rua
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How many steps backward can I take????
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I was doing well not too long ago - then we had the big mess-up at my parents' house two weeks ago when they saw my husband staggering around their kitchen drunk on a Sunday morning. The outcome was a lot of "talks" that I probably should never have initiated, because frankly, I don'...
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fozzie
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Applying Alanon principals to my non-A husband
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Let me first begin by saying my husband is not an A. I have been reading alot of posts today about wives living with a sober A. I am not living with a sober A but I feel I need to apply the same principals to my marriage. We are empty nesters and my oldest son is the A that has gotten the focus the past year. This se...
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Gailey
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As usual, it's all about HIM!!!
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For as many years as I can remember, I have wanted a Mustang. The car, not the horse....Well, today I went out and bought myself a gorgeous dark metallic blue one with two wide white stripes all the way up the trunk lid, over the top, and down the hood. THis is a classy machine. I spent my own money. Didn'...
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isolating
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hi all i know i have not been posting much and i miss you all the times i am here and respond and read have continued to help me on my healing path i have so many thing to share in a day...so many questions... but i don't come here and start a topic. partly because my boyfriend is home a lot and i don't have much pr...
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Fifi
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Do you want to be right or happy? (And why can't I be both?)
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Being Right Recovery is not about being right; it's about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are. That concept can be difficult for many of us if we have lived in systems that functioned on the "right/wrong" justice scale. The person who was right was okay;...
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Tiger2006
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Still not happy
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Okay, have gone from needing anger management skills to pure frustration, loss (of what I am not sure yet) and nausea. And I don't even get the drunk to go with it. At least I get to stay in my home for now. Altho at the moment a week away sounds good. Need to get a hold of the boss and see how soon I can a...
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I am right but definitely not happy!!!
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((((Everyone))))) Our A got herself evicted. Not sure exactly what happened. Have heard two versions. She was housesitting up until today apparantly. Her Mom said last week that she may need to stay here for a bit. I told her to let me know when that would be happening and I would be elsewhere. He...
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lilms
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If he's sober he can care for the kids...
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I've heard a few times, that if your A is sober, then it's okay to leave the kid (s) with him, so I could get to a meeting and have ME time, etc. Yesterday, after working all day, I called on the way home from work to see how my non-drinking AH was and my 2 year old son. There was no answer. Called back. N...
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Rora
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Forgiveness...
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Hello to all of you…Hubby came back home late last night & couldn’t keep his word once more…he forgot his keys so he woke me up @ 1:30 am…I opened the door a little bit & saw him standing back to the wall with his head down… I knew how guilty he feels. I left to the room without any eye contact or a singl...
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i have been wondering........,
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i have been wondering........, WHY? why is it all about them [alcoholics] or should i ask, why do we let it be all about them? i know they are sick. but, that isn't an excuse to ''do unto others what they would never do unto themselves''. when i was a girl, i and two of my sisters was m...
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jewely
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Alone Again, Naturally....
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Well, it is Monday afternoon 3:30. Still no word from hubby. And I will be darned if I will call him. He told me not to, and I ALWAYS do what he says....yeah, right. Anyway, I am still breathing. Heart hurts, but I made it thru the day at work without incident. He has been gone since I got home Sat. after...
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Getting better all the time...
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Hello everyone!
Although I haven't posted in a really long time, I've been here often, mostly just reading.
I don't have any contact at all with my soon-to-be ex-AH. My divorce will be final in about 3 or 4 weeks.
He chose alcohol and cocaine over our life together. I left him in September. It...
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artygirl
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back from being offline for a long time--hope I am still welcome
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Hello everyone. I know it has been a while since I have posted. It was not intentional. I lost access to my internet, and now that I am back on I am very happy. I have much to tell. My A has had to move out and is staying in a hotel down the street so it gives me a lot more space, but I really miss having someone here...
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Letting him go
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My hub called to say he wants to be sober. I say 'Good for you' and he asked me if that was all I had to say. I asked him what else he wanted me to say and he asked for me to help him not drink. He wants me to come home and sit with him, not let him buy beer, and make sure he doesn't get too sick. He sa...
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father-in-law died
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Hi Everyone I haven't been on in a while. For past two weeks my father-in-law was in the hospital. I was going the hospital all the time. On Tuesday my father-in-law died. Today was the wake the funeral.
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Good Read for anyone "supporting$" their Alcoholic Spouse
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http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeAndFamily/SuddenlySingle/WhenExHusbandsGetAlimony.aspx-- Edited by evey at 11:23, 2007-02-17
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evey
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today was well worth it
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Hello all. Thanks for all the supportive comments to my last post. I woke up at 3am, called my A to say hello. He was fine, just woke him up. He had left a message last night for me to call after I went to bed, so I returned it today. I still love the man. He is here right now. I left him to the living room (finally h...
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hippietrippiechick
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just between me and you
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my ex ah has been trying to start with me since valentines day when he tried to kiss me and i turned my head. i have been trying to be divorced since last march. i have an idiot for a lawyer who always has an excuse as to why things haven't progressed. meanwhile i have this crazy,although sober, husban...
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serendipity
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Money Money here we go again
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AH had the tax return in his account, I told him I wanted half of it. He had to agree I was entitled to it, but he sure wasn't happy about it. Had to be persitant in getting a check from him. He wanted me to account for the money I requested. I resented it, but I did it anyway. The truth is, I need more tha...
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RainyJamie
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Happy Mardi Gras
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Happy Mardi Gras - from Southwest Louisiana - I looked for an emoticon that was in the likeness of "Beads" but couldn't find one - so can't have a virtual parade to "Throw me somethin' Mister" or share a piece of "King Cake" - If you get the baby, you have to...
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Rita G
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conversation with my...........,
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a typical conversation with my husband................., me: ''oh look honey it's green.'' husband: ''uhhh no......, i really don't think so . it looks green to me.'' me: ''are you sure? i could have sworn it was green.'' husband...
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jewely
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Please give me examples of Detachment
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Hello, Yes, I am back, I need to start from day one again. Please some one lead me to the examples of detachment. Thanks, Heartless
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AH is leaving town.
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My AH decided last night that he was going to leave. And not just leave but leave TOWN. He is thinking about moving to Arkansas (his sister lives there) or Kentucky (his dad lives there). He is planning on being gone today by the time I get home from work. All of this came about b/c he did some work around...
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QOD
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How do I get him out? I've hit my bottom...
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Hi "Everyone", My situation with my AH has gotten worse and I am divorcing him. If I see a lawyer and get legally separated can I make him leave? I have just had it. Last night he was stuck in a snow bank and I went to help him(yes, I know I should have left him there) and he was stewed. He did not eve...
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evey
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letting go or indifferent?
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I'm tired and trying to figure if I have reached a point of letting go or shutting down. I grew up in an alcoholic home and thought I would do a much better job at this parenting stuff. the issue now is my oldest daughter. I know she is drinking and using, not sure to what extend..She has pretty much tune...
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gimmpy
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Newbie
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Hello everyone, I just wanted to introduce myself and ask a few questions. I grew up with an alcoholic father. He hit my mom; they got divorced. I haven't talked to my father in 5 years because he got himself a new family and completely dropped ours. I recently started looking up the effects of grow...
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rmazi2
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Can't He Ever Just Be HAPPY? Just ONCE?
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Jan. 31 was my AH's 50th birthday, so I planned some special things for him. Needless to say, all that got thrown in the muck and mire of alcoholism, and things went from bad to worse. We didn't speak for days afterward. One of the gifts I got him was for a Riverboat Dinner Cruise, and I upgraded...
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Becky1
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Nobody is safe from the scathings of the disease
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I went to the bingo/spaghetti night at the local synagogue (whoda thought that I'd ever set foot back in the synagogue?!  ) Anyway, this is what I've realized at the end of the night: I blamed the synagogue for years that my father didn't stop drinking. I was certain that the me...
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Tiger2006
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Continue to be ...........
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I got this poem from one of my very bestest friends and it's framed and on my livingroom wall so I can remind myself daily. They may see the good you do as self serving. Continue to do good. They may see your generosity as grandstanding Continue to be generous. They may see your warm and caring nature a...
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Maria123
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back to square one
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hey there, I have been an off again and on again here when I needed a little extra and not getting it from live real meetings. But it seems that I also have had a hard time staying connected. I just moved and am using this as a great new opportunity to find a new group and get back at it. well geographical cure...
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programgirl
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The Psychodynamic Approach
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My 24 year old daughter (A) can be described like the literature says, "Higher functioning, treatment resistant, relapse-prone with Axis I & II disorders." If you've got one that responds to the "educational" approach, then you are fortunate. We do not. Entering Y...
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Jeff Reynolds
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Can Anyone Help Me Understand?
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Hi all, Sorry to touch this subject again. Can anyone identify with me, I really am confused with this one. The alcoholic who is a child molester, that must be the alcoholics worst ever nightmare, but not as bad as it is for their victim. The question is are they child molesters and that way inclined, o...
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Barbs45
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Relation with daddy is healing:-)
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Dear roomies, I am so happy today...since coming to alanon I have stopped enabling my dad financially...we lost contact for a few months...he called me yesterday saying that he loves me and he is looking for a job...it was so nice to hear his voice again, I just want to pray more and more for him to find hi...
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Newme
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How about a little funny?
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Important life lessons:  Lesson 1: A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor....
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ShelBell
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"Fun" for thought
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(((((((((Family))))))), Came across this quote: "We don't stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing." Herbert Spencer Not a clue who this person is. But the message is clear: keep the youngster inside of you alive! HAVE FUN! We've gone through so mu...
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Karilynn
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Anybody here ever an RN?
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I don't know if this fits into the confines of this web page, but I am currently applying for a nursing program, and an organization here will give me $$$$ scholarship as soon as the application is completed. I need three interviews from RNs, nurse practitioners, LPN's ect... If you want to he...
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RainyJamie
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broken hearts
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I broke my step-daughter's heart yesterday. Her mother called her on Valentine's Day. This is the first time she has called her in a year. We saw her after Christmas, but haven't heard from her since--even though she is living with other step-daughter and has supposedly been sober-...
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hudsond
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What addiction is not
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My therapist helped me understand what addiction is not. I have very rare neurological disease that my neuros started giving me anti-convulsants for last year. After a few months I decided to stop taking them because they made me so sleepy. But very few people can just stop taking an anti-convulsant...
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donewithitallandhappy
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Getting there...
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My dear roomies, I walked into alanon rooms 6 months ago, my life was so foggy, I couldnt see things clearly but I was sure I need help...I couldnt do it on my own anymore and God bless the lady who introduced my broken heart to this great fellowship. The first few posts that I left I didnt know many of you but...
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Newme
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Anger...creeping in...too weak to resist...AAAHHH!!!
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I don't know what happened, nothing exactly, just minding my own business, thinking about some things...past things...not so good things...all the things I never forgave or forgot. Then I combined those with new not so good things...and BOOM! Only I didn't go boom I just held it all in and g...
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RainyJamie
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One of the hardest things
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is to want to believe my AH when every week or two he says, he's sick and tired of being sick and tired, he needs help, he has to stop, etc. How do I have faith in him, keep the hope but then not completely be fooled by this disease and the promises? He's not a bad guy, he's just very sick and gett...
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lylaanju
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I left my AH and am very happy!
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I haven't been on this board for a long, long time mostly because I feel like I don't need it quite so much. I left my AH and got my own apartment. Before I left him, I was working three jobs to get enough money to move out. With the help of a very good friend and a little extra money, I was able to move ou...
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Lindy
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When things go good.....
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I feel like I'm getting ready to recite something my mother used to say to me all the time... There was a little girl who had a little curl... Right in the middle of her forehead; And when she was good, She was very, very good... But when she was bad...? She was horrid! Anyway....Things are going good....
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Akasha
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Choices for my weekend
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It’s Friday evening of a 3 day weekend. When I got home from work, I got a call from AH who was on the commuter train coming home. He didn’t come home by when I calculated he would (based on when he called). Another hour went by, and I started to what-if. The panic crawled around the edges of my brain. Then I d...
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Jill
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My Husband
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I believe my husband is an alcoholic. He usually goes out with friends for a few hours on Wednesday nights and then plays cards at a friend's house every Friday. On those occasions, he calls me and I pick him up so that he will get home safely. This past week, both Wednesday and Friday, he drove hom...
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Brenda
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newbie question
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A quick question here...is this the place too for family members of prescription drug abusers? My husband hasn't had a drink for almost 25 years (although he is an alcoholic). I just don't want to bring up anything that isn't discussed here. Thanks for the info - and sorry if I brought up s...
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moxafoot
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AH gave me his wedding rings last night!!
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I guess you can say that my AH gave me a Valentine's present last night. He gave me his wedding rings. We were playing Candy Land w/our daughter and he (for the 10th time) asked if I was going to give him some Valentine's Red Hot Lovin'. I just looked at him like he was crazy and said Uh No. H...
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QOD
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When I changed, "they" changed
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Hi everyone, Thought I would share a little esh (experience, strength and hope) that I've found. Two years ago, on Valentine's day I hit a bottom. (a few more bottoms would occur until I found my way) My husband and I had recently added our second child, we moved to a new location, he had a new...
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Moon
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Sister's family
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Just finished a couple of months of really good therapy with an addiction and stress management expert after breaking up with a wonderful woman who was battling cancer. My sister and her daughters both began addiction and suicide issues during my gf's recovery after her first bout of cancer. My...
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donewithitallandhappy
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a new life for me (Poem)
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A New Life Awaits MeA new life awaits me I just have to be patient,and wait and seeGod will one day open my blinded eyesI can't buy into my alcoholic mother's stupid liesGod says he has a plan for me,and says he wants the best for my life The world has yet to see what he can do with one commited to hi...
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Lauren ashley
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Going to f2f because of this board...
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I wanted to thank you all for sharing so openly your ESH on this board. I had been to f2f meetings...then stopped... I've been visiting here lately the past few weeks and your posts have encouraged me to go to a f2f meeting tonight. Mostly because I have re-learned that there is Hope for me yet for a li...
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Rora
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Finding It Difficult?
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I'm finding it difficult to forgive the A who sexually abused my son. Apoligies, if I've touched any raw nerves, just had to let this go today! Thanks, Barbs.
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Barbs45
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Fed up to the back teeth
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The a's new antics are to find a way to get money out of me at anytime. He has many excuses. He says someone stole his drill and he can't work. That was the way he got the truck out of me. I say nothing just well go look for the drill it must be somewhere. Then its he needs money to go get a new mouse fo...
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maresie2
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My AH had a relapse last night
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((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...
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twinmom2
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Not a Happy Valentine's Day
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Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...
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