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maresie · maresie

These are my first holidays without the A in 7 years. I am lost. I did not do well on Thanksgiving at all. I am going to try to make a huge effort for the Christmas. My issue is that I will be laid off for 10 days so I need to find something to tide me over during that time. I'm doing much much better on the money is...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, I want to aplogize for not making the meeting tonight. We have had a lot (ok probably not really, but for this area yes) of snow and my power was off and on all day. I couldn't get on. I also want to aologize to my partner. :) Let's do next week. Have any topics you want partner? Yours in recovery, Ma...

boysmum · boysmum

Hello, I'm new to Alanon, I hope its the right forum for my problem. My mother is an alcoholic, though it wasn't always so, she and my dad only started drinking in their 30's, so even though drink was always around and she could be a messy drunk I couldn't say it caused any problems in our lives, it just was...

Lookingforpeace · Lookingforpeace

I know I haven't posted in a while. I have been reading though and working on taking care of my own things instead of my a's. Still have not been to a F2f meeting though. I have felt strongly complelled to do so though. My husband (my a) had a seizure on Tuesday night. It was his first one ever. We think...

acaporali · acaporali

Hi, This is my first time at any meeting/discussion. So, Here is a little history- My husband and I met 12 years ago, we lived together a few years before getting married. Just before we got married, he started drinking more than he had before, and said he was " building up so he could drink at the rec...

peace · peace

I have been reading this board since May, Iove it. so much insight]gt thank you. My AH and Ihave been marridw 19yrs in aug, he moved out in May, he got involved with a woman from his work, I really don't think they are involved anymore. He moved up to our cottage that we just got the year before - speak of re...

chick29 · chick29

I know it not for me to work out but I'm feeling it harder and harder to crawl out of bed. Just really fed up and upset and missing my A who seems to have turned into an alien. I managed to get through the wedding where he really was trying to set us up to argue but I recognised this. But now suddenly in the last mo...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am going to be done with grad school soon and off into the job market (I am excited about this). I have been separated from my AH for most of this time (almost 2 years). In the part of the world where I am in school, I have been working internships and some temp jobs in my new field to gain real life experience...

cen616 · cen616

I posted a few weeks ago about my clean A's relapse talk. It has stopped, for now, and he hasn't given in to his impulses. I'm proud of him. He's back to Red Bull or Pepsi when he goes out, forgoing the "non-alcoholic" beer. He passed up a couple of opportunities to buy/smoke weed, as well....

justme11 · justme11

I am a mom I think my husband has a drinking problem but im not sure...he doesnt drink everyday sometimes for weeks but when he does he is angry usually towards me and has gotten worse over the years and now i am physically sick when i know he is going to go out with his friends because i dont know if he is ok or g...

MIDGET · MIDGET

Wow what a day I had !!! My AH was loaded last nite and actually got soo drunk he peed on the couch cause he ws too drunk to get up.I was soo angry I told him he had to do something today,had to go somewhere,I didnt care where.So he said he wanted to go into in pt . YEA!! So today I left to take the kids to school and t...

Jill · Jill

hi everyone i'm coming up on the end of year 2 of the year of Jill. i have a long way to go so that it's not all about the a. i figure it will take me 7 years, and i have to constantly fight against my own inclination to put the spotlight on anyone else. is that why i'm sitting on a saturday night watching some war m...

Maria123 · Maria123

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42762&p=1

Aloha · Aloha

Aloha to all from Hawaii. I'm new here, but not entirely new to Al-anon meetings. While I'm not an alcoholic/recovering alcoholic, I seem to find myself in situations where I'm around them. I also have my own personal compulsive vices, which are overeating - sugar is a huge vice in particular. I'm n...

david62 · david62

((((Family)))) Tonight (Sunday, Dec. 2nd) is our next business meeting. Where: The MIP Alanon Chatroom When: 9:00 pm EST Dress: Casual Old Business: Discussion of Step/Traditions meetings New Business: None, so show up with some! BYOS - Bring Your Own Serenity! See ya there!!!

kissers · kissers

Switchback or living with an alcoholic I love a person, addicted to alcohol. When hes sober this is a wonderful lover, husband, father, partner. A question of treatment is no longer relevant, we discussed it lots of times. Hes a doctor himself its impossible to persuade him or cure, we tried. Should I...

bev · bev

out of the blue,lastnite my daughter called me..havent heard from her in a month or 2..must be she senened that i missed her and the babies.we talked for about an hour..she told me that my son in law is going in the army..he leaves jan4 for basic training..he is going to be a sniper..im a little nervous ab...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

I am grateful that I have found Alanon. Thinking back to last year during the holiday, it was a miserable time. My AH had quit drinking in October, but was abusing his RX meds. He was grouchy and irritable. During the course of the past year he started methadone to kick the RX abuse, that lasted until t...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

thank you for your help whomever you are!

david62 · david62

I respond either, I am sure the situation will be corrected eventually.

bev · bev

i cant reply either,nothing but a blank white screen,when you hit submit post

Diva · Diva

White screen here too. So, good morning to all. I am sure we'll be back in "bidness" soon. Have a good one. Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

Good morning family, Is anyone else having trouble responding to posts? When I click the submit button, I get a white screen. Hmmm..... must be the computer gremlins again. So I may have to find a new way to respond to your posts. Have a wonderful weekend. Love and blessings to you all. Live stron...

lilms · lilms

We almost lost her a week ago today. I can't fathom how much alcohol she had put into her body. She is still in hospital and will be for a bit longer. She is finally scared and is waiting on re-hab. We are tired but carrying on. Asking for good thoughts heading our way. We are hoping this is actually her b...

Completely Heartbroken · Completely Heartbroken

Ok My H has acted as an A since last spring it excelerated recently.Then over Thanksgiving we had a talk and I told him how I feel and my worries.Now he hasn't had a drink that I'm aware of since Thanksgiving day? Can a real alcoholic just stop like that? Is he just a ticking time bomb. I don't know what to thi...

bev · bev

i forgot one big news that my daughter told me..she is expecting again,her due date is march 5.she is having a girl that makes 3 grandchildren from my daughter..i am going to save the money so i can be there when she has the baby.i was there when my grandaughter destiny was born,my grandson payton and im g...

round3 · round3

I'm fairly new here (less than a week!), but I've so been comforted by reading these posts. So much wisdom. My A SO is overseas and "dropped out" on Saturday. No cell, no computer......no communication at all. This was after a phone call in which it sounded like he had a slip and was morb...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi All, Not sure where I am going with this, I just have some random thoughts I need to express. Took my older two to family counseling and then ran some errands today, and you know what? We had more fun than we have had in a long time! Awesome young counselor whom my son loves because he is cool and my daughte...

bev · bev

hey all,not posted in awhile..but im a little down,christmas is coming and this will be the first xmas without my kids..cant afford to go up north and they cant afford to come here..SAH stopped going to aa meetings,not sure if he will relapse..i dont think he will since he just a goverment job working a...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...I recently had to take some time out and step backwards for a while for several reasons. The first reason was because I felt that I had got out of my depth again; the second reason was because I had a crisis at home and ended up with no heating or hot water due to a faulty boiler just as a really cold belt of w...

roygbiv · roygbiv

What a bright shining light she was... a wonderful person, only 33, with the disease of alcoholism... she hung herself last Saturday night 11/24. She was found today, my daughter called me in tears. I had gently told Tracey that AA would help her. She put it on her "to-do" list for t...

Belladay · Belladay

I haven't been here for a few weeks and it has felt good to have a reprieve, to feel some peace. My dad has started calling me every day, says he needs a friend. That is ok, we talk and as long as he stays sane it is ok. But today he called and I heard that "cotton on the roof of your mouth" and my heart j...

Jen · Jen

My A just got a card from his b who is in jail. He says that he has had our address for a long time but never written because he thought I wouldn't give my A the letter. So I am hurt and upset. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it really hurts. My A has told so many lies to his family about me, either directly or...

marmare · marmare

I find that sometimes I get lazy and don't work my program as much as I should. Other times I work the program with the most unlikely person, like a co-worker. You know the person that is filled with negative energy at work that brings you down, I now remove myself from where that person is working. I tr...

Chetch · Chetch

I should have started out posting this separately but started off putting it under my yesterday's post about my husband's DUI and him looking for a program that he could go to for 6 weeks and get a certificate saying he was no longer an A. The program he is looking for doesn't exist, which must be why he's h...

maresie2 · maresie2

I feel like I have got really strong after my melt down the other day. I feel like I can make a plan to pull myself out of this mess and execute it. Right now I think its all workable and I can move along through it. I feel motivated and resilient. I did not feel that on Monday I felt alone, isolated and totally h...

Chetch · Chetch

My husband, who has a DUI trial comming up, casually says to me this morning as we are getting dressed for work, that an the advise of his attorney, he was going to the faciality where he was in detox this afternoon for an "alcohol assessment" whatever that is. Just to refresh memories he go...

gknee · gknee

Hi Al-Anon Family- I haven 't been on this board since 7/11 of this year. So much happened that I want to share with you. Last time I was here, my AH had been in AA for about a month after an intense binge of drinking and drug use (pot and prescription sleeping pills) of about a month. He has about 35 years...

klm4446 · klm4446

Bear with me as I am still learning. I have read through more of the posts and replies. Detatching seems to be such a big part of al-anon as the best way to "handle" the A while sustaining ourselves.(or maybe the way to make living with the A bearable, allowing you to continue loving them) An...

souljoy · souljoy

Last night AH and I talked about the inane subject of being from a city or being a suburbanite. Now I am from a city outside of Chicago that has a population of 100,000. So when people ask where I am from I say I am a city girl and I grew up outside of Chicago. So last night, the AH was determined to get me to &qu...

wishing · wishing

ok - a first time visitor, poster, natural skeptic my h is not mean, angry, abusive, etc. He hoes drink too much, daily, to the point that he is forgetting conversations we have, and last night he was in charge of our 5 month old while I worked a late meeting - came home to find him trashed - they werefine, b...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

About 3 days ago my son (he's 5) says mom when can I talk to my dad on the phone? Out of the blue... It's been at least 6 months since he talked to him. Then WHAM, the A calls the next day. So I put my son on the phone and the tv is up loud so I send him into the bedroom to talk so he can hear. Then almost instantl...

round3 · round3

Hi all, This is my first post here, but I've been in and out of al-anon rooms for years. L-o-n-g (oh so long) story - but here's the quick version. Known this man for 30 years. Dated him moons ago. Broke up. Got back together years later and got engaged. Engagement broken due to vicious alcoholism,...

klm4446 · klm4446

I am very appreciative of all the replies I received. Thank you to everybody. I feel like a broken record, and know I will probably be repeating myself again. This has been the most traumatic experience of my life (and I thought I'd been through some things). But, your support and understanding is he...

maresie2 · maresie2

I spoke to the consumer credit place today. They want a huge payment every month. I've actually made more than that payment monthly for the past few months. I must admit huge gops of rage came up at the A. The money I spent on him, how I tried till I was almost vertical to get him to sanity. I am not rushing i...

meerkat · meerkat

Hi all. I'm heading to my first Al-Anon meeting this Friday and a little nervous. Have a wonderful husband who has binged off and on for years (I know that sounds like it doesnt make sense.) He's gone to a doctor who encouraged him to go to AA, however he refuses. He takes Campral...but it hasnt stopp...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Anger helps straighten out a problem like a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers. --Susan Marcotte Some of us have temper tantrums. Like black clouds, we threaten an outburst at any moment. Other people learn to check us out for storm warnings. They want time to clear out or at least to put on a prote...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I don't know how to phrase this without really ruining the whole anonymity thing, so I'll just try to be clear and to the point. When I met my AH (12 years ago) he told me he had HepC. We've always taken precautions with eachother and with the kids (no sharing toothbrushes ect...). I had to get a HepC test d...

maire rua · maire rua

Guys am on holidays, no shortage of drama, raging toothache, safe had to be fixed in room, had all passports, flights back etc, instead of a having a fit while waiting for repair man got on this site, love it, made a gratitude list instead of having a fit, this could have happened just as we were going home...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi all, did a temporary filling on the tooth, have an appointment for dentist next tuesday, and got some stuff from the chemist, yea, seems to be ok, safe is fixed, and am going down memory lane with this holiday as the last time my a brother was with me and my youngest son, no comparisons. I am having some...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am feeling much much much better today. Absolutely nothing about my situation has changed. I am still broke, fed up, tired, worn out, living in absolute craziness. I may get fired today and they may hold off for a few weeks. Who knows. I know I will deal with it whatever happens. I know I can deal with it t...

Becky1 · Becky1

My granddaughter was born last night, she was not supposed to be here until today! The docs were going to induce this morning, so she was checked in last night, 3 weeks early. When they checked the mommy she was dialated to 3! Checked into hospital at 5 after a big Lone Star Steakhouse dinner, water bro...

barisax · barisax

Sometimes when I look at people around me outside of the program, I get the feeling that I'm looking at the "other side". Those people who have been fortunate enough to have gotten through life so far without a significant alcoholic in their lives. They don't have the isms, they don't see...

david62 · david62

I got some really sad news yesterday. A person that came to one of my face to face al-anon groups took her own life on Thanksgiving Day. When I got the news, I could not believe it. I still see her smiling face and hear her laughter. She was such an enthusiastic person, the person I knew. She was one of...

Gailey · Gailey

I sent you a private message yesterday. Did you get it? Gail

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello family,I have an urgent need for prayer. Something I have been trying to prepare for has occured tonight. My sweet birdie, Angel, passed away last night. I feel absolutely numb, except for pain in my heart.My friends I spoke to tonight have told me that I did all I could to keep her alive, but it wa...

NightWatcher · NightWatcher

I want to thank everyone for your support since the passing of my son James... James was a talented artist and tattoo artist .. and also a person with this disease of alcholism/additction... and he found bottom on Nov 7th 2007.... for those who have been asking and of course anyone who would like to se...

maresie2 · maresie2

I learend today that I am going to leaving this job I have been in for almost 8 months. They are going to let me go. I may not be here beyond the end of this week. I have really super struggled at this job as teh commute is horrendous and the woman I work for is horrible. I have also been doing a second job and I am a...

Heather72 · Heather72

My AH "disappeared" over a week ago. Apparently he had lived out of his car for a number of days. He then, through his work at the hotel, was given a room to use until he could find a place to rent. He called Friday and wanted to see our daughter. We agreed he would come over this afternoon to s...

hersh · hersh

Hello everyone!! I just wanted to drop a line and let you all know how wonderful this board is, and how much I truly believe my life has changed from this program. I just cherish the tools and wisdom I have learned from Alanon. I am so grateful to have learned that if things go badly in my life, I can reach ou...

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	the next holidays (Preview) These are my first holidays without the A in 7 years. I am lost. I did not do well on Thanksgiving at all. I am going to try to make a huge effort for the Christmas. My issue is that I will be laid off for 10 days so I need to find something to tide me over during that time. I'm doing much much better on the money is...	maresie	10	558	Dec 3, 2007 by maresie2
	Sunday Night Meeting (Preview) Hi family, I want to aplogize for not making the meeting tonight. We have had a lot (ok probably not really, but for this area yes) of snow and my power was off and on all day. I couldn't get on. I also want to aologize to my partner. :) Let's do next week. Have any topics you want partner? Yours in recovery, Ma...	Mandy123	0	253	Dec 3, 2007 by Mandy123
	Hello New here and looking for advice .. (Preview) Hello, I'm new to Alanon, I hope its the right forum for my problem. My mother is an alcoholic, though it wasn't always so, she and my dad only started drinking in their 30's, so even though drink was always around and she could be a messy drunk I couldn't say it caused any problems in our lives, it just was...	boysmum	4	516	Dec 2, 2007 by nmike
	Scared (Preview) I know I haven't posted in a while. I have been reading though and working on taking care of my own things instead of my a's. Still have not been to a F2f meeting though. I have felt strongly complelled to do so though. My husband (my a) had a seizure on Tuesday night. It was his first one ever. We think...	Lookingforpeace	5	453	Dec 2, 2007 by nmike
	MY FIRST TIME, WHERE TO START? (Preview) Hi, This is my first time at any meeting/discussion. So, Here is a little history- My husband and I met 12 years ago, we lived together a few years before getting married. Just before we got married, he started drinking more than he had before, and said he was " building up so he could drink at the rec...	acaporali	4	599	Dec 2, 2007 by maresie
	another newbie (Preview) I have been reading this board since May, Iove it. so much insight]gt thank you. My AH and Ihave been marridw 19yrs in aug, he moved out in May, he got involved with a woman from his work, I really don't think they are involved anymore. He moved up to our cottage that we just got the year before - speak of re...	peace	2	421	Dec 2, 2007 by maresie
	4 years and now empty (Preview) I know it not for me to work out but I'm feeling it harder and harder to crawl out of bed. Just really fed up and upset and missing my A who seems to have turned into an alien. I managed to get through the wedding where he really was trying to set us up to argue but I recognised this. But now suddenly in the last mo...	chick29	8	535	Dec 2, 2007 by aunitedway
	Could use some perspective on this... (Preview) I am going to be done with grad school soon and off into the job market (I am excited about this). I have been separated from my AH for most of this time (almost 2 years). In the part of the world where I am in school, I have been working internships and some temp jobs in my new field to gain real life experience...	Jean4444	7	566	Dec 2, 2007 by lin0606
	so far, so good... (Preview) I posted a few weeks ago about my clean A's relapse talk. It has stopped, for now, and he hasn't given in to his impulses. I'm proud of him. He's back to Red Bull or Pepsi when he goes out, forgoing the "non-alcoholic" beer. He passed up a couple of opportunities to buy/smoke weed, as well....	cen616	2	458	Dec 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	im new to this please help (Preview) I am a mom I think my husband has a drinking problem but im not sure...he doesnt drink everyday sometimes for weeks but when he does he is angry usually towards me and has gotten worse over the years and now i am physically sick when i know he is going to go out with his friends because i dont know if he is ok or g...	justme11	7	729	Dec 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	what a day (Preview) Wow what a day I had !!! My AH was loaded last nite and actually got soo drunk he peed on the couch cause he ws too drunk to get up.I was soo angry I told him he had to do something today,had to go somewhere,I didnt care where.So he said he wanted to go into in pt . YEA!! So today I left to take the kids to school and t...	MIDGET	2	288	Dec 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	my work is between my ears (Preview) hi everyone i'm coming up on the end of year 2 of the year of Jill. i have a long way to go so that it's not all about the a. i figure it will take me 7 years, and i have to constantly fight against my own inclination to put the spotlight on anyone else. is that why i'm sitting on a saturday night watching some war m...	Jill	3	477	Dec 2, 2007 by NightWatcher
	help - if you can (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42762&p=1	Maria123	1	341	Dec 2, 2007 by getoverit
	Aloha everyone - new here (Preview) Aloha to all from Hawaii. I'm new here, but not entirely new to Al-anon meetings. While I'm not an alcoholic/recovering alcoholic, I seem to find myself in situations where I'm around them. I also have my own personal compulsive vices, which are overeating - sugar is a huge vice in particular. I'm n...	Aloha	7	582	Dec 2, 2007 by Aloha
	December business meeting tonight! (Preview) ((((Family)))) Tonight (Sunday, Dec. 2nd) is our next business meeting. Where: The MIP Alanon Chatroom When: 9:00 pm EST Dress: Casual Old Business: Discussion of Step/Traditions meetings New Business: None, so show up with some! BYOS - Bring Your Own Serenity! See ya there!!!	david62	0	245	Dec 2, 2007 by david62
	Article I found on living with an alcoholic (Preview) Switchback or living with an alcoholic I love a person, addicted to alcohol. When hes sober this is a wonderful lover, husband, father, partner. A question of treatment is no longer relevant, we discussed it lots of times. Hes a doctor himself its impossible to persuade him or cure, we tried. Should I...	kissers	1	577	Dec 2, 2007 by ddub
	got a nice call (Preview) out of the blue,lastnite my daughter called me..havent heard from her in a month or 2..must be she senened that i missed her and the babies.we talked for about an hour..she told me that my son in law is going in the army..he leaves jan4 for basic training..he is going to be a sniper..im a little nervous ab...	bev	1	361	Dec 1, 2007 by SLS
	I am grateful.... (Preview) I am grateful that I have found Alanon. Thinking back to last year during the holiday, it was a miserable time. My AH had quit drinking in October, but was abusing his RX meds. He was grouchy and irritable. During the course of the past year he started methadone to kick the RX abuse, that lasted until t...	Denoraphy	3	355	Dec 1, 2007 by SLS
	I am no longer having problems posting/replying- (Preview) thank you for your help whomever you are!	Jean4444	2	363	Dec 1, 2007 by Jean4444
	me too! (Preview) I respond either, I am sure the situation will be corrected eventually.	david62	1	314	Dec 1, 2007 by rtexas
	u are not alone (Preview) i cant reply either,nothing but a blank white screen,when you hit submit post	bev	2	360	Dec 1, 2007 by Jean4444
	No response... (Preview) White screen here too. So, good morning to all. I am sure we'll be back in "bidness" soon. Have a good one. Diva	Diva	0	308	Dec 1, 2007 by Diva
	Having trouble responding to posts (Preview) Good morning family, Is anyone else having trouble responding to posts? When I click the submit button, I get a white screen. Hmmm..... must be the computer gremlins again. So I may have to find a new way to respond to your posts. Have a wonderful weekend. Love and blessings to you all. Live stron...	Karilynn	0	351	Dec 1, 2007 by Karilynn
	We almost lost her (Preview) We almost lost her a week ago today. I can't fathom how much alcohol she had put into her body. She is still in hospital and will be for a bit longer. She is finally scared and is waiting on re-hab. We are tired but carrying on. Asking for good thoughts heading our way. We are hoping this is actually her b...	lilms	11	514	Nov 30, 2007 by tea2
	Confused (Preview) Ok My H has acted as an A since last spring it excelerated recently.Then over Thanksgiving we had a talk and I told him how I feel and my worries.Now he hasn't had a drink that I'm aware of since Thanksgiving day? Can a real alcoholic just stop like that? Is he just a ticking time bomb. I don't know what to thi...	Completely Heartbroken	5	337	Nov 30, 2007 by Lunamoth
	forgot one thing (Preview) i forgot one big news that my daughter told me..she is expecting again,her due date is march 5.she is having a girl that makes 3 grandchildren from my daughter..i am going to save the money so i can be there when she has the baby.i was there when my grandaughter destiny was born,my grandson payton and im g...	bev	2	269	Nov 30, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Brighter day (Preview) I'm fairly new here (less than a week!), but I've so been comforted by reading these posts. So much wisdom. My A SO is overseas and "dropped out" on Saturday. No cell, no computer......no communication at all. This was after a phone call in which it sounded like he had a slip and was morb...	round3	2	351	Nov 30, 2007 by maire rua
	Random thoughts (Preview) Hi All, Not sure where I am going with this, I just have some random thoughts I need to express. Took my older two to family counseling and then ran some errands today, and you know what? We had more fun than we have had in a long time! Awesome young counselor whom my son loves because he is cool and my daughte...	Loupiness	4	508	Nov 30, 2007 by Leetle
	not looking forward to the holidays (Preview) hey all,not posted in awhile..but im a little down,christmas is coming and this will be the first xmas without my kids..cant afford to go up north and they cant afford to come here..SAH stopped going to aa meetings,not sure if he will relapse..i dont think he will since he just a goverment job working a...	bev	8	630	Nov 30, 2007 by Karilynn
	Crazy mixed up me... (Preview) ...I recently had to take some time out and step backwards for a while for several reasons. The first reason was because I felt that I had got out of my depth again; the second reason was because I had a crisis at home and ended up with no heating or hot water due to a faulty boiler just as a really cold belt of w...	Heartbroken	6	493	Nov 30, 2007 by ddub
	Good-bye Tracey (Preview) What a bright shining light she was... a wonderful person, only 33, with the disease of alcoholism... she hung herself last Saturday night 11/24. She was found today, my daughter called me in tears. I had gently told Tracey that AA would help her. She put it on her "to-do" list for t...	roygbiv	9	414	Nov 30, 2007 by leo
	RE: Not A Pretty Place (Preview) I haven't been here for a few weeks and it has felt good to have a reprieve, to feel some peace. My dad has started calling me every day, says he needs a friend. That is ok, we talk and as long as he stays sane it is ok. But today he called and I heard that "cotton on the roof of your mouth" and my heart j...	Belladay	2	830	Nov 30, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Short vent and a ? (Preview) My A just got a card from his b who is in jail. He says that he has had our address for a long time but never written because he thought I wouldn't give my A the letter. So I am hurt and upset. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it really hurts. My A has told so many lies to his family about me, either directly or...	Jen	1	447	Nov 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	Keep working it (Preview) I find that sometimes I get lazy and don't work my program as much as I should. Other times I work the program with the most unlikely person, like a co-worker. You know the person that is filled with negative energy at work that brings you down, I now remove myself from where that person is working. I tr...	marmare	6	433	Nov 29, 2007 by Jen
	My A's "assessment" (Preview) I should have started out posting this separately but started off putting it under my yesterday's post about my husband's DUI and him looking for a program that he could go to for 6 weeks and get a certificate saying he was no longer an A. The program he is looking for doesn't exist, which must be why he's h...	Chetch	5	997	Nov 29, 2007 by Chetch
	getting stronger (Preview) I feel like I have got really strong after my melt down the other day. I feel like I can make a plan to pull myself out of this mess and execute it. Right now I think its all workable and I can move along through it. I feel motivated and resilient. I did not feel that on Monday I felt alone, isolated and totally h...	maresie2	2	316	Nov 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	My AH just doesn't get it! (Preview) My husband, who has a DUI trial comming up, casually says to me this morning as we are getting dressed for work, that an the advise of his attorney, he was going to the faciality where he was in detox this afternoon for an "alcohol assessment" whatever that is. Just to refresh memories he go...	Chetch	8	740	Nov 29, 2007 by Chetch
	its been a while (long post) (Preview) Hi Al-Anon Family- I haven 't been on this board since 7/11 of this year. So much happened that I want to share with you. Last time I was here, my AH had been in AA for about a month after an intense binge of drinking and drug use (pot and prescription sleeping pills) of about a month. He has about 35 years...	gknee	5	543	Nov 29, 2007 by maresie2
	Confusion re: detatching (Preview) Bear with me as I am still learning. I have read through more of the posts and replies. Detatching seems to be such a big part of al-anon as the best way to "handle" the A while sustaining ourselves.(or maybe the way to make living with the A bearable, allowing you to continue loving them) An...	klm4446	12	830	Nov 29, 2007 by Jen
	Dang it Alanon works! (Preview) Last night AH and I talked about the inane subject of being from a city or being a suburbanite. Now I am from a city outside of Chicago that has a population of 100,000. So when people ask where I am from I say I am a city girl and I grew up outside of Chicago. So last night, the AH was determined to get me to &qu...	souljoy	4	405	Nov 29, 2007 by cookie1971
	new (Preview) ok - a first time visitor, poster, natural skeptic my h is not mean, angry, abusive, etc. He hoes drink too much, daily, to the point that he is forgetting conversations we have, and last night he was in charge of our 5 month old while I worked a late meeting - came home to find him trashed - they werefine, b...	wishing	12	596	Nov 29, 2007 by klm4446
	I think I really messed up (Preview) About 3 days ago my son (he's 5) says mom when can I talk to my dad on the phone? Out of the blue... It's been at least 6 months since he talked to him. Then WHAM, the A calls the next day. So I put my son on the phone and the tv is up loud so I send him into the bedroom to talk so he can hear. Then almost instantl...	carolinagirl	12	621	Nov 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	First Post (Preview) Hi all, This is my first post here, but I've been in and out of al-anon rooms for years. L-o-n-g (oh so long) story - but here's the quick version. Known this man for 30 years. Dated him moons ago. Broke up. Got back together years later and got engaged. Engagement broken due to vicious alcoholism,...	round3	9	612	Nov 29, 2007 by klm4446
	Thank yous (Preview) I am very appreciative of all the replies I received. Thank you to everybody. I feel like a broken record, and know I will probably be repeating myself again. This has been the most traumatic experience of my life (and I thought I'd been through some things). But, your support and understanding is he...	klm4446	1	431	Nov 29, 2007 by abbyal
	repairing the damage (Preview) I spoke to the consumer credit place today. They want a huge payment every month. I've actually made more than that payment monthly for the past few months. I must admit huge gops of rage came up at the A. The money I spent on him, how I tried till I was almost vertical to get him to sanity. I am not rushing i...	maresie2	3	309	Nov 29, 2007 by maire rua
	Ready to take the plunge (Preview) Hi all. I'm heading to my first Al-Anon meeting this Friday and a little nervous. Have a wonderful husband who has binged off and on for years (I know that sounds like it doesnt make sense.) He's gone to a doctor who encouraged him to go to AA, however he refuses. He takes Campral...but it hasnt stopp...	meerkat	6	602	Nov 29, 2007 by meerkat
	Managing our anger and responding to other's (Preview) Anger helps straighten out a problem like a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers. --Susan Marcotte Some of us have temper tantrums. Like black clouds, we threaten an outburst at any moment. Other people learn to check us out for storm warnings. They want time to clear out or at least to put on a prote...	Tiger2006	7	551	Nov 28, 2007 by kissers
	Another Psycho Denial Issue (Preview) I don't know how to phrase this without really ruining the whole anonymity thing, so I'll just try to be clear and to the point. When I met my AH (12 years ago) he told me he had HepC. We've always taken precautions with eachother and with the kids (no sharing toothbrushes ect...). I had to get a HepC test d...	RainyJamie	11	574	Nov 28, 2007 by RainyJamie
	no screaming and shouting (Preview) Guys am on holidays, no shortage of drama, raging toothache, safe had to be fixed in room, had all passports, flights back etc, instead of a having a fit while waiting for repair man got on this site, love it, made a gratitude list instead of having a fit, this could have happened just as we were going home...	maire rua	4	536	Nov 28, 2007 by maresie2
	update on tooth and safe and all (Preview) Hi all, did a temporary filling on the tooth, have an appointment for dentist next tuesday, and got some stuff from the chemist, yea, seems to be ok, safe is fixed, and am going down memory lane with this holiday as the last time my a brother was with me and my youngest son, no comparisons. I am having some...	maire rua	0	276	Nov 28, 2007 by maire rua
	much better today (Preview) I am feeling much much much better today. Absolutely nothing about my situation has changed. I am still broke, fed up, tired, worn out, living in absolute craziness. I may get fired today and they may hold off for a few weeks. Who knows. I know I will deal with it whatever happens. I know I can deal with it t...	maresie2	5	416	Nov 28, 2007 by maire rua
	Granddaughter Born Last Night (Preview) My granddaughter was born last night, she was not supposed to be here until today! The docs were going to induce this morning, so she was checked in last night, 3 weeks early. When they checked the mommy she was dialated to 3! Checked into hospital at 5 after a big Lone Star Steakhouse dinner, water bro...	Becky1	13	616	Nov 28, 2007 by chris52
	Affected by Alcoholism? Who Isn't? (Preview) Sometimes when I look at people around me outside of the program, I get the feeling that I'm looking at the "other side". Those people who have been fortunate enough to have gotten through life so far without a significant alcoholic in their lives. They don't have the isms, they don't see...	barisax	12	750	Nov 28, 2007 by barisax
	Lessons from the Loss of a Friend (Preview) I got some really sad news yesterday. A person that came to one of my face to face al-anon groups took her own life on Thanksgiving Day. When I got the news, I could not believe it. I still see her smiling face and hear her laughter. She was such an enthusiastic person, the person I knew. She was one of...	david62	17	703	Nov 28, 2007 by NightWatcher
	For Kissers (Preview) I sent you a private message yesterday. Did you get it? Gail	Gailey	0	276	Nov 28, 2007 by Gailey
	VERY SAD NEWS TO SHARE---ESH requested (Preview) Hello family,I have an urgent need for prayer. Something I have been trying to prepare for has occured tonight. My sweet birdie, Angel, passed away last night. I feel absolutely numb, except for pain in my heart.My friends I spoke to tonight have told me that I did all I could to keep her alive, but it wa...	hippietrippiechick	10	696	Nov 27, 2007 by carosie
	Thanks to all (Preview) I want to thank everyone for your support since the passing of my son James... James was a talented artist and tattoo artist .. and also a person with this disease of alcholism/additction... and he found bottom on Nov 7th 2007.... for those who have been asking and of course anyone who would like to se...	NightWatcher	16	505	Nov 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	hard times (Preview) I learend today that I am going to leaving this job I have been in for almost 8 months. They are going to let me go. I may not be here beyond the end of this week. I have really super struggled at this job as teh commute is horrendous and the woman I work for is horrible. I have also been doing a second job and I am a...	maresie2	10	717	Nov 27, 2007 by Loupiness
	I need support (Preview) My AH "disappeared" over a week ago. Apparently he had lived out of his car for a number of days. He then, through his work at the hotel, was given a room to use until he could find a place to rent. He called Friday and wanted to see our daughter. We agreed he would come over this afternoon to s...	Heather72	11	656	Nov 27, 2007 by Leetle
	Grateful for tools and change.... (Preview) Hello everyone!! I just wanted to drop a line and let you all know how wonderful this board is, and how much I truly believe my life has changed from this program. I just cherish the tools and wisdom I have learned from Alanon. I am so grateful to have learned that if things go badly in my life, I can reach ou...	hersh	4	485	Nov 27, 2007 by rtexas
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