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maresie2 · maresie2

About 5 years ago I read a book on People pleasing by Harriett Braiker (my apologies if I am not supposed to mention non al anon books). I was absolutely flabbergasted. I could see clearly I was a people pleaser but I was also in denial. I would people please myself into positions where I was really ang...

acaporali · acaporali

Well, today is the day! My husband decided today is the day he is quitting drinking! I am trying to be supportive and have positive attitude, but it is hard, will he actually quit this time??? To many times of oh I am quitting this day!!! However, this time he has joined AA. So hopefully yes today is the day...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

what do you do when your A sends you bullying, dismissive, sarcastic emails? Ignore them?

ChicknLittle · ChicknLittle

Hi y'all, I was on here under the name LisaF, but only posted a couple of times... I'm sorry, this is gonna be a long ramble probably (my posts usually are lol) but I have so much going through my mind right now and I just can't get my mind to slow down... I don't really know much about alanon... I went to a co...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am in a work situation that is very very trying for me. Normally I would totally melt under this kind of stuaiton. I always has teh A to fall back on to a certain extent before. He never listened to me ever about any of my issues. At the same time he was "there" as a physical presence and to some ex...

chick29 · chick29

Well I have really been struggling, as in stress at work, feeling down and my Aboyf going back to his own place. However we are both appreciating the space and I am not there to take his bad mood swings. He is struggling so am I, but I'm pleased to say the time we have spent tog has been really enjoyable and I a...

maresie2 · maresie2

2 years ago when I was brainstorming how I needed to leave the A, one of my failing blocks was that I simply could not accept reality. I wanted the A to change. I stood on my head to make him change. He did change of course, he got much much worse. Now I am making a plan A, B, C about the future I still don't like r...

Jill · Jill

I had already decided against gifts this year. I'm buying livestock in people's names. They're getting a picture of a critter given to someone whose life will be so much better for this. Just that decision has brought me such peace - now the benefits multiply as I have free time otherwise spent in the in...

Chetch · Chetch

My AH casually announced to me last night that he has to go to Court tomorrow and the Judge wants him to bring proof that he is in an alcohol treatment program. Of course he can't do that because he's still looking for that 6 week program that will give him a certificate saying he is no longer an A. He had pro...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...got to feel good about this as I think I am experiencing a breakthrough from the brick wall I seem to have come up again just lately; and it is all because I have friends here to talk to, who listen and them discuss and share their experiences and what has worked for them [and sometimes what has NOT worke...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I heard from a girlfriend I talked to on the phone today that the first big snow storm of the season was hitting back home. So, I texted my AH "snow?" and got nothing back. I know I cannot control him in any way but what is so hard about responding to something as pure and simple as this? What doe...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, When will I learn to shut my mouth and not react? I had a tough week. It started with a coworker calling me a liar. Then another coworker flipped me off, missed a meeting. So by Friday I was carrying all those victim/resentments with me. In walks the President and we talk. I complained about...

Notthisagain · Notthisagain

Hi there, I am a bit confused and unsure if I am even on the right site. My husband is a recovering alcoholic, but is addicted to Vicoden and Soma, here's the kicker.. he gets the script filled (very legally by the way) once a month for his "back Pain" and within 7 days has consumed all the...

Mambo Queen · Mambo Queen

Hey all. I have not yet been to my first al-anon meeting, but I'm planning on going on Friday, when they have babysitting. I have told my AH time and time again that I would leave him if he didn't get help, go to AA. etc. He did quit drinking for 4 months this last time but now we're back to the same ol' same o...

belle1 · belle1

Does anyone have jcarney pic site addie? ive always had it, and cant access it now seems its changed server/site wanted to add my pic. -- Edited by belle1 at 18:18, 2007-12-03 -- Edited by belle1 at 18:18, 2007-12-03

tea2 · tea2

Hello everyone,I apologize for not replying to as many as I use to I typically use private messaging to offer E, S and H or sometimes simply *hugs* of support.I happen to be in a rather bad place at the moment and using all the tools HP has shown me through this program the best I can. Time for me to let my HP ta...

maresie2 · maresie2

I feel like I am transitioning from leaving the A to having left the A. I have so much up in the air, job, home, finances, health, dental, vision, isolation. There are moments when I can be at peace, I walked my dogs last night a long long walk for them. For once I did not feel weighed down by the bombardmen...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))), To my loving family here who celebrate Hanukkah, may you all have a wonderful and joyous celebration. It's is a beautiful time of year. Much love and blessings to you all. Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Our son's birthday is on Sunday. Already I have gotten emails and calls asking if he's going to be able to talk to his son on his birthday. I am really regretting ever letting him talk to him in the first place now. Of course he's going to think he's entitled every time he gets the urge now. I am planning...

steadfast · steadfast

My second post of the day . . . I'm in a bit of a crisis. My ABIL showed up at our door yesterday afternoon. He lives 2 1/2 hours away and just showed up. I was very upset with him over Thanksgiving because he was so drunk. It just really disgusts me. My AH is better (relatively speaking) than he has been i...

hudsond · hudsond

Sounds so gross huh?! Anway I have been having a sore spot with my sober AH and it is getting bigger and bigger!! It is a very touchy topic for lots of people who don't even have alcoholic issues. The subject is church. I grew up going to church and I happen to have a wonderful christian family. I do get...

QOD · QOD

Ok, so it has been 3 or 4 weeks since I have been able to really log on. We moved our office and were without internet forever. Shew...good to be back on. Sure have needed my Al-anon family lately. My AH has been a real booger. We got into the dumbest fight a few weeks back. Rather he fought w/me and I cho...

justme11 · justme11

I have went to my first meeting last night and just wanted to thank you for all your kind responses on here over the weekend and just for this site in general i dont know how many pages of bulletins i read the past couple days...i woke up yesterday on a mission to get out of bed...yea its been that bad...i ran...

Bradman · Bradman

Hello All: My AW belongs to a very large, strong AA group that has been meeting for about 20 years in a large auditorium at a local hospital. The group meets at 7-9pm on Friday nights. The meeting often attracts over a hundred people in large part because the parking is free at that time of night. However,...

serenity62 · serenity62

December Business Meeting Minutes; MIP December 2/2007 Chairperson opened meeting with the Serenity Prayer 1st thing on agenda was the OP schedule which was posted. some Alternative positions were also filled. General guidelines and responsibilities on being a chairperson were also pos...

Christy · Christy

Hubby passed this on to me. I'm sure in his mind he was thinking of his A-ism and the choices he's made, but if I'm being honest, I can see myself too. I thought It was a good message to share. Imagine a Road a Beautiful wide and straight Road of Gold stretching as far as the eye can see A Road that Feels-Go...

CJ098 · CJ098

Hi all, I haven't written in months, but here's the story, My AH was fired from his job, a good job, for being intoxicated at work - in October. He's 28, so am I. Then he drank more and more, found a full and part-time job, and we were in the middle of moving across town, did that. He drank more. He got arr...

Mariedl05 · Mariedl05

My boyfriend of two years was admitted to ICU about a week ago for numerous problems due to his drinking. The first year we were together everything was great and then this time last year I get a phone call from his mom telling me he was in the ER and I needed to come right away. He spent a couple of weeks in t...

steadfast · steadfast

Hello all, I went to my second f2f meeting this weekend (a beginners class) and they were discussing different slogans. I am struggling on how I can apply this to my life. They discussed how we should take care of ourselves. They also discussed how we should keep an open mind and not project certain o...

ddub · ddub

I don't understand how al anon works but it does even when I don't want it to work so well sometimes. Has anyone else felt that way? I think maybe just changing the focus and having some wonderful al anon folks to acknowledge and relate to how we feel, somehow clears my head so I function better plus learn...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have at most 6 weeks at this job I am at. There are good things and bad things about this job. The commute is a killer, the hours are a killer. The money I earn though really helps. I have managed to save a tiny tiny amount of money and am working towards paying down my debt. I need two solid years of paying...

maresie · maresie

These are my first holidays without the A in 7 years. I am lost. I did not do well on Thanksgiving at all. I am going to try to make a huge effort for the Christmas. My issue is that I will be laid off for 10 days so I need to find something to tide me over during that time. I'm doing much much better on the money is...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, I want to aplogize for not making the meeting tonight. We have had a lot (ok probably not really, but for this area yes) of snow and my power was off and on all day. I couldn't get on. I also want to aologize to my partner. :) Let's do next week. Have any topics you want partner? Yours in recovery, Ma...

boysmum · boysmum

Hello, I'm new to Alanon, I hope its the right forum for my problem. My mother is an alcoholic, though it wasn't always so, she and my dad only started drinking in their 30's, so even though drink was always around and she could be a messy drunk I couldn't say it caused any problems in our lives, it just was...

Lookingforpeace · Lookingforpeace

I know I haven't posted in a while. I have been reading though and working on taking care of my own things instead of my a's. Still have not been to a F2f meeting though. I have felt strongly complelled to do so though. My husband (my a) had a seizure on Tuesday night. It was his first one ever. We think...

acaporali · acaporali

Hi, This is my first time at any meeting/discussion. So, Here is a little history- My husband and I met 12 years ago, we lived together a few years before getting married. Just before we got married, he started drinking more than he had before, and said he was " building up so he could drink at the rec...

peace · peace

I have been reading this board since May, Iove it. so much insight]gt thank you. My AH and Ihave been marridw 19yrs in aug, he moved out in May, he got involved with a woman from his work, I really don't think they are involved anymore. He moved up to our cottage that we just got the year before - speak of re...

chick29 · chick29

I know it not for me to work out but I'm feeling it harder and harder to crawl out of bed. Just really fed up and upset and missing my A who seems to have turned into an alien. I managed to get through the wedding where he really was trying to set us up to argue but I recognised this. But now suddenly in the last mo...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am going to be done with grad school soon and off into the job market (I am excited about this). I have been separated from my AH for most of this time (almost 2 years). In the part of the world where I am in school, I have been working internships and some temp jobs in my new field to gain real life experience...

cen616 · cen616

I posted a few weeks ago about my clean A's relapse talk. It has stopped, for now, and he hasn't given in to his impulses. I'm proud of him. He's back to Red Bull or Pepsi when he goes out, forgoing the "non-alcoholic" beer. He passed up a couple of opportunities to buy/smoke weed, as well....

justme11 · justme11

I am a mom I think my husband has a drinking problem but im not sure...he doesnt drink everyday sometimes for weeks but when he does he is angry usually towards me and has gotten worse over the years and now i am physically sick when i know he is going to go out with his friends because i dont know if he is ok or g...

MIDGET · MIDGET

Wow what a day I had !!! My AH was loaded last nite and actually got soo drunk he peed on the couch cause he ws too drunk to get up.I was soo angry I told him he had to do something today,had to go somewhere,I didnt care where.So he said he wanted to go into in pt . YEA!! So today I left to take the kids to school and t...

Jill · Jill

hi everyone i'm coming up on the end of year 2 of the year of Jill. i have a long way to go so that it's not all about the a. i figure it will take me 7 years, and i have to constantly fight against my own inclination to put the spotlight on anyone else. is that why i'm sitting on a saturday night watching some war m...

Maria123 · Maria123

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42762&p=1

Aloha · Aloha

Aloha to all from Hawaii. I'm new here, but not entirely new to Al-anon meetings. While I'm not an alcoholic/recovering alcoholic, I seem to find myself in situations where I'm around them. I also have my own personal compulsive vices, which are overeating - sugar is a huge vice in particular. I'm n...

david62 · david62

((((Family)))) Tonight (Sunday, Dec. 2nd) is our next business meeting. Where: The MIP Alanon Chatroom When: 9:00 pm EST Dress: Casual Old Business: Discussion of Step/Traditions meetings New Business: None, so show up with some! BYOS - Bring Your Own Serenity! See ya there!!!

kissers · kissers

Switchback or living with an alcoholic I love a person, addicted to alcohol. When hes sober this is a wonderful lover, husband, father, partner. A question of treatment is no longer relevant, we discussed it lots of times. Hes a doctor himself its impossible to persuade him or cure, we tried. Should I...

bev · bev

out of the blue,lastnite my daughter called me..havent heard from her in a month or 2..must be she senened that i missed her and the babies.we talked for about an hour..she told me that my son in law is going in the army..he leaves jan4 for basic training..he is going to be a sniper..im a little nervous ab...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

I am grateful that I have found Alanon. Thinking back to last year during the holiday, it was a miserable time. My AH had quit drinking in October, but was abusing his RX meds. He was grouchy and irritable. During the course of the past year he started methadone to kick the RX abuse, that lasted until t...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

thank you for your help whomever you are!

david62 · david62

I respond either, I am sure the situation will be corrected eventually.

bev · bev

i cant reply either,nothing but a blank white screen,when you hit submit post

Diva · Diva

White screen here too. So, good morning to all. I am sure we'll be back in "bidness" soon. Have a good one. Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

Good morning family, Is anyone else having trouble responding to posts? When I click the submit button, I get a white screen. Hmmm..... must be the computer gremlins again. So I may have to find a new way to respond to your posts. Have a wonderful weekend. Love and blessings to you all. Live stron...

lilms · lilms

We almost lost her a week ago today. I can't fathom how much alcohol she had put into her body. She is still in hospital and will be for a bit longer. She is finally scared and is waiting on re-hab. We are tired but carrying on. Asking for good thoughts heading our way. We are hoping this is actually her b...

Completely Heartbroken · Completely Heartbroken

Ok My H has acted as an A since last spring it excelerated recently.Then over Thanksgiving we had a talk and I told him how I feel and my worries.Now he hasn't had a drink that I'm aware of since Thanksgiving day? Can a real alcoholic just stop like that? Is he just a ticking time bomb. I don't know what to thi...

bev · bev

i forgot one big news that my daughter told me..she is expecting again,her due date is march 5.she is having a girl that makes 3 grandchildren from my daughter..i am going to save the money so i can be there when she has the baby.i was there when my grandaughter destiny was born,my grandson payton and im g...

round3 · round3

I'm fairly new here (less than a week!), but I've so been comforted by reading these posts. So much wisdom. My A SO is overseas and "dropped out" on Saturday. No cell, no computer......no communication at all. This was after a phone call in which it sounded like he had a slip and was morb...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi All, Not sure where I am going with this, I just have some random thoughts I need to express. Took my older two to family counseling and then ran some errands today, and you know what? We had more fun than we have had in a long time! Awesome young counselor whom my son loves because he is cool and my daughte...

bev · bev

hey all,not posted in awhile..but im a little down,christmas is coming and this will be the first xmas without my kids..cant afford to go up north and they cant afford to come here..SAH stopped going to aa meetings,not sure if he will relapse..i dont think he will since he just a goverment job working a...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	People pleasing (Preview) About 5 years ago I read a book on People pleasing by Harriett Braiker (my apologies if I am not supposed to mention non al anon books). I was absolutely flabbergasted. I could see clearly I was a people pleaser but I was also in denial. I would people please myself into positions where I was really ang...	maresie2	1	1924	Dec 6, 2007 by Christy
	today is the day!!!!!????? (Preview) Well, today is the day! My husband decided today is the day he is quitting drinking! I am trying to be supportive and have positive attitude, but it is hard, will he actually quit this time??? To many times of oh I am quitting this day!!! However, this time he has joined AA. So hopefully yes today is the day...	acaporali	1	370	Dec 6, 2007 by Gotta_Vent
	A simple question (Preview) what do you do when your A sends you bullying, dismissive, sarcastic emails? Ignore them?	Jean4444	4	527	Dec 6, 2007 by Jen
	Struggling with accepting/letting go/detaching (Preview) Hi y'all, I was on here under the name LisaF, but only posted a couple of times... I'm sorry, this is gonna be a long ramble probably (my posts usually are lol) but I have so much going through my mind right now and I just can't get my mind to slow down... I don't really know much about alanon... I went to a co...	ChicknLittle	8	596	Dec 6, 2007 by Karilynn
	geting the bigger picture (Preview) I am in a work situation that is very very trying for me. Normally I would totally melt under this kind of stuaiton. I always has teh A to fall back on to a certain extent before. He never listened to me ever about any of my issues. At the same time he was "there" as a physical presence and to some ex...	maresie2	3	727	Dec 5, 2007 by RainyJamie
	bad behaviour from me (Preview) Well I have really been struggling, as in stress at work, feeling down and my Aboyf going back to his own place. However we are both appreciating the space and I am not there to take his bad mood swings. He is struggling so am I, but I'm pleased to say the time we have spent tog has been really enjoyable and I a...	chick29	4	735	Dec 5, 2007 by Jerry F
	not liking reality and being stubborn about it. (Preview) 2 years ago when I was brainstorming how I needed to leave the A, one of my failing blocks was that I simply could not accept reality. I wanted the A to change. I stood on my head to make him change. He did change of course, he got much much worse. Now I am making a plan A, B, C about the future I still don't like r...	maresie2	5	509	Dec 5, 2007 by ChicknLittle
	December is good for me - so far (Preview) I had already decided against gifts this year. I'm buying livestock in people's names. They're getting a picture of a critter given to someone whose life will be so much better for this. Just that decision has brought me such peace - now the benefits multiply as I have free time otherwise spent in the in...	Jill	3	583	Dec 5, 2007 by maresie2
	Court tomorrow (Preview) My AH casually announced to me last night that he has to go to Court tomorrow and the Judge wants him to bring proof that he is in an alcohol treatment program. Of course he can't do that because he's still looking for that 6 week program that will give him a certificate saying he is no longer an A. He had pro...	Chetch	4	437	Dec 5, 2007 by carolinagirl
	My break through....a new attitude... (Preview) ...got to feel good about this as I think I am experiencing a breakthrough from the brick wall I seem to have come up again just lately; and it is all because I have friends here to talk to, who listen and them discuss and share their experiences and what has worked for them [and sometimes what has NOT worke...	Heartbroken	5	601	Dec 5, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	A Whole Lot of Nothin' (Preview) I heard from a girlfriend I talked to on the phone today that the first big snow storm of the season was hitting back home. So, I texted my AH "snow?" and got nothing back. I know I cannot control him in any way but what is so hard about responding to something as pure and simple as this? What doe...	Jean4444	4	601	Dec 5, 2007 by round3
	When will I learn? (Preview) Hi Alanoners, When will I learn to shut my mouth and not react? I had a tough week. It started with a coworker calling me a liar. Then another coworker flipped me off, missed a meeting. So by Friday I was carrying all those victim/resentments with me. In walks the President and we talk. I complained about...	nmike	7	595	Dec 5, 2007 by round3
	New and a bit confused (Preview) Hi there, I am a bit confused and unsure if I am even on the right site. My husband is a recovering alcoholic, but is addicted to Vicoden and Soma, here's the kicker.. he gets the script filled (very legally by the way) once a month for his "back Pain" and within 7 days has consumed all the...	Notthisagain	7	660	Dec 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	New at this--a few questions (Preview) Hey all. I have not yet been to my first al-anon meeting, but I'm planning on going on Friday, when they have babysitting. I have told my AH time and time again that I would leave him if he didn't get help, go to AA. etc. He did quit drinking for 4 months this last time but now we're back to the same ol' same o...	Mambo Queen	6	634	Dec 4, 2007 by Lookingforpeace
	Does Anyone Have (Preview) Does anyone have jcarney pic site addie? ive always had it, and cant access it now seems its changed server/site wanted to add my pic. -- Edited by belle1 at 18:18, 2007-12-03 -- Edited by belle1 at 18:18, 2007-12-03	belle1	3	421	Dec 4, 2007 by jrtjosey
	Trusting my HP at the wheel (Preview) Hello everyone,I apologize for not replying to as many as I use to I typically use private messaging to offer E, S and H or sometimes simply hugs of support.I happen to be in a rather bad place at the moment and using all the tools HP has shown me through this program the best I can. Time for me to let my HP ta...	tea2	12	681	Dec 4, 2007 by aunitedway
	transition transition transition (Preview) I feel like I am transitioning from leaving the A to having left the A. I have so much up in the air, job, home, finances, health, dental, vision, isolation. There are moments when I can be at peace, I walked my dogs last night a long long walk for them. For once I did not feel weighed down by the bombardmen...	maresie2	2	544	Dec 4, 2007 by Jean4444
	Happy Hanukkah! (Preview) (((((((Family)))))), To my loving family here who celebrate Hanukkah, may you all have a wonderful and joyous celebration. It's is a beautiful time of year. Much love and blessings to you all. Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	7	507	Dec 4, 2007 by Christy
	The next thing (Preview) Our son's birthday is on Sunday. Already I have gotten emails and calls asking if he's going to be able to talk to his son on his birthday. I am really regretting ever letting him talk to him in the first place now. Of course he's going to think he's entitled every time he gets the urge now. I am planning...	carolinagirl	2	483	Dec 4, 2007 by maresie2
	How to set/enforce boundaries (Preview) My second post of the day . . . I'm in a bit of a crisis. My ABIL showed up at our door yesterday afternoon. He lives 2 1/2 hours away and just showed up. I was very upset with him over Thanksgiving because he was so drunk. It just really disgusts me. My AH is better (relatively speaking) than he has been i...	steadfast	11	741	Dec 4, 2007 by abbyal
	sore spot really starting to fester--long (Preview) Sounds so gross huh?! Anway I have been having a sore spot with my sober AH and it is getting bigger and bigger!! It is a very touchy topic for lots of people who don't even have alcoholic issues. The subject is church. I grew up going to church and I happen to have a wonderful christian family. I do get...	hudsond	10	540	Dec 4, 2007 by barisax
	I'm back! - Been a while (Preview) Ok, so it has been 3 or 4 weeks since I have been able to really log on. We moved our office and were without internet forever. Shew...good to be back on. Sure have needed my Al-anon family lately. My AH has been a real booger. We got into the dumbest fight a few weeks back. Rather he fought w/me and I cho...	QOD	5	518	Dec 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	my first meeting thank you! (Preview) I have went to my first meeting last night and just wanted to thank you for all your kind responses on here over the weekend and just for this site in general i dont know how many pages of bulletins i read the past couple days...i woke up yesterday on a mission to get out of bed...yea its been that bad...i ran...	justme11	6	633	Dec 4, 2007 by nmike
	Public Campaign for AA (Preview) Hello All: My AW belongs to a very large, strong AA group that has been meeting for about 20 years in a large auditorium at a local hospital. The group meets at 7-9pm on Friday nights. The meeting often attracts over a hundred people in large part because the parking is free at that time of night. However,...	Bradman	5	691	Dec 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	December Business Meeting Minutes: (Preview) December Business Meeting Minutes; MIP December 2/2007 Chairperson opened meeting with the Serenity Prayer 1st thing on agenda was the OP schedule which was posted. some Alternative positions were also filled. General guidelines and responsibilities on being a chairperson were also pos...	serenity62	0	426	Dec 3, 2007 by serenity62
	Imagine a road (Preview) Hubby passed this on to me. I'm sure in his mind he was thinking of his A-ism and the choices he's made, but if I'm being honest, I can see myself too. I thought It was a good message to share. Imagine a Road a Beautiful wide and straight Road of Gold stretching as far as the eye can see A Road that Feels-Go...	Christy	5	534	Dec 3, 2007 by Jean4444
	Too overwhelmed, when will it end? (Preview) Hi all, I haven't written in months, but here's the story, My AH was fired from his job, a good job, for being intoxicated at work - in October. He's 28, so am I. Then he drank more and more, found a full and part-time job, and we were in the middle of moving across town, did that. He drank more. He got arr...	CJ098	9	762	Dec 3, 2007 by CJ098
	New to Al-Anon Need some advice (Preview) My boyfriend of two years was admitted to ICU about a week ago for numerous problems due to his drinking. The first year we were together everything was great and then this time last year I get a phone call from his mom telling me he was in the ER and I needed to come right away. He spent a couple of weeks in t...	Mariedl05	5	636	Dec 3, 2007 by serendipity
	Trying to understand how NOT to project (Preview) Hello all, I went to my second f2f meeting this weekend (a beginners class) and they were discussing different slogans. I am struggling on how I can apply this to my life. They discussed how we should take care of ourselves. They also discussed how we should keep an open mind and not project certain o...	steadfast	4	562	Dec 3, 2007 by steadfast
	Resentments (Preview) I don't understand how al anon works but it does even when I don't want it to work so well sometimes. Has anyone else felt that way? I think maybe just changing the focus and having some wonderful al anon folks to acknowledge and relate to how we feel, somehow clears my head so I function better plus learn...	ddub	11	634	Dec 3, 2007 by Jean4444
	Looking for work again, looking to the new year (Preview) I have at most 6 weeks at this job I am at. There are good things and bad things about this job. The commute is a killer, the hours are a killer. The money I earn though really helps. I have managed to save a tiny tiny amount of money and am working towards paying down my debt. I need two solid years of paying...	maresie2	1	375	Dec 3, 2007 by Jean4444
	the next holidays (Preview) These are my first holidays without the A in 7 years. I am lost. I did not do well on Thanksgiving at all. I am going to try to make a huge effort for the Christmas. My issue is that I will be laid off for 10 days so I need to find something to tide me over during that time. I'm doing much much better on the money is...	maresie	10	635	Dec 3, 2007 by maresie2
	Sunday Night Meeting (Preview) Hi family, I want to aplogize for not making the meeting tonight. We have had a lot (ok probably not really, but for this area yes) of snow and my power was off and on all day. I couldn't get on. I also want to aologize to my partner. :) Let's do next week. Have any topics you want partner? Yours in recovery, Ma...	Mandy123	0	321	Dec 3, 2007 by Mandy123
	Hello New here and looking for advice .. (Preview) Hello, I'm new to Alanon, I hope its the right forum for my problem. My mother is an alcoholic, though it wasn't always so, she and my dad only started drinking in their 30's, so even though drink was always around and she could be a messy drunk I couldn't say it caused any problems in our lives, it just was...	boysmum	4	583	Dec 2, 2007 by nmike
	Scared (Preview) I know I haven't posted in a while. I have been reading though and working on taking care of my own things instead of my a's. Still have not been to a F2f meeting though. I have felt strongly complelled to do so though. My husband (my a) had a seizure on Tuesday night. It was his first one ever. We think...	Lookingforpeace	5	537	Dec 2, 2007 by nmike
	MY FIRST TIME, WHERE TO START? (Preview) Hi, This is my first time at any meeting/discussion. So, Here is a little history- My husband and I met 12 years ago, we lived together a few years before getting married. Just before we got married, he started drinking more than he had before, and said he was " building up so he could drink at the rec...	acaporali	4	680	Dec 2, 2007 by maresie
	another newbie (Preview) I have been reading this board since May, Iove it. so much insight]gt thank you. My AH and Ihave been marridw 19yrs in aug, he moved out in May, he got involved with a woman from his work, I really don't think they are involved anymore. He moved up to our cottage that we just got the year before - speak of re...	peace	2	494	Dec 2, 2007 by maresie
	4 years and now empty (Preview) I know it not for me to work out but I'm feeling it harder and harder to crawl out of bed. Just really fed up and upset and missing my A who seems to have turned into an alien. I managed to get through the wedding where he really was trying to set us up to argue but I recognised this. But now suddenly in the last mo...	chick29	8	605	Dec 2, 2007 by aunitedway
	Could use some perspective on this... (Preview) I am going to be done with grad school soon and off into the job market (I am excited about this). I have been separated from my AH for most of this time (almost 2 years). In the part of the world where I am in school, I have been working internships and some temp jobs in my new field to gain real life experience...	Jean4444	7	633	Dec 2, 2007 by lin0606
	so far, so good... (Preview) I posted a few weeks ago about my clean A's relapse talk. It has stopped, for now, and he hasn't given in to his impulses. I'm proud of him. He's back to Red Bull or Pepsi when he goes out, forgoing the "non-alcoholic" beer. He passed up a couple of opportunities to buy/smoke weed, as well....	cen616	2	530	Dec 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	im new to this please help (Preview) I am a mom I think my husband has a drinking problem but im not sure...he doesnt drink everyday sometimes for weeks but when he does he is angry usually towards me and has gotten worse over the years and now i am physically sick when i know he is going to go out with his friends because i dont know if he is ok or g...	justme11	7	801	Dec 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	what a day (Preview) Wow what a day I had !!! My AH was loaded last nite and actually got soo drunk he peed on the couch cause he ws too drunk to get up.I was soo angry I told him he had to do something today,had to go somewhere,I didnt care where.So he said he wanted to go into in pt . YEA!! So today I left to take the kids to school and t...	MIDGET	2	358	Dec 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	my work is between my ears (Preview) hi everyone i'm coming up on the end of year 2 of the year of Jill. i have a long way to go so that it's not all about the a. i figure it will take me 7 years, and i have to constantly fight against my own inclination to put the spotlight on anyone else. is that why i'm sitting on a saturday night watching some war m...	Jill	3	556	Dec 2, 2007 by NightWatcher
	help - if you can (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42762&p=1	Maria123	1	413	Dec 2, 2007 by getoverit
	Aloha everyone - new here (Preview) Aloha to all from Hawaii. I'm new here, but not entirely new to Al-anon meetings. While I'm not an alcoholic/recovering alcoholic, I seem to find myself in situations where I'm around them. I also have my own personal compulsive vices, which are overeating - sugar is a huge vice in particular. I'm n...	Aloha	7	655	Dec 2, 2007 by Aloha
	December business meeting tonight! (Preview) ((((Family)))) Tonight (Sunday, Dec. 2nd) is our next business meeting. Where: The MIP Alanon Chatroom When: 9:00 pm EST Dress: Casual Old Business: Discussion of Step/Traditions meetings New Business: None, so show up with some! BYOS - Bring Your Own Serenity! See ya there!!!	david62	0	315	Dec 2, 2007 by david62
	Article I found on living with an alcoholic (Preview) Switchback or living with an alcoholic I love a person, addicted to alcohol. When hes sober this is a wonderful lover, husband, father, partner. A question of treatment is no longer relevant, we discussed it lots of times. Hes a doctor himself its impossible to persuade him or cure, we tried. Should I...	kissers	1	646	Dec 2, 2007 by ddub
	got a nice call (Preview) out of the blue,lastnite my daughter called me..havent heard from her in a month or 2..must be she senened that i missed her and the babies.we talked for about an hour..she told me that my son in law is going in the army..he leaves jan4 for basic training..he is going to be a sniper..im a little nervous ab...	bev	1	432	Dec 1, 2007 by SLS
	I am grateful.... (Preview) I am grateful that I have found Alanon. Thinking back to last year during the holiday, it was a miserable time. My AH had quit drinking in October, but was abusing his RX meds. He was grouchy and irritable. During the course of the past year he started methadone to kick the RX abuse, that lasted until t...	Denoraphy	3	422	Dec 1, 2007 by SLS
	I am no longer having problems posting/replying- (Preview) thank you for your help whomever you are!	Jean4444	2	436	Dec 1, 2007 by Jean4444
	me too! (Preview) I respond either, I am sure the situation will be corrected eventually.	david62	1	393	Dec 1, 2007 by rtexas
	u are not alone (Preview) i cant reply either,nothing but a blank white screen,when you hit submit post	bev	2	433	Dec 1, 2007 by Jean4444
	No response... (Preview) White screen here too. So, good morning to all. I am sure we'll be back in "bidness" soon. Have a good one. Diva	Diva	0	384	Dec 1, 2007 by Diva
	Having trouble responding to posts (Preview) Good morning family, Is anyone else having trouble responding to posts? When I click the submit button, I get a white screen. Hmmm..... must be the computer gremlins again. So I may have to find a new way to respond to your posts. Have a wonderful weekend. Love and blessings to you all. Live stron...	Karilynn	0	427	Dec 1, 2007 by Karilynn
	We almost lost her (Preview) We almost lost her a week ago today. I can't fathom how much alcohol she had put into her body. She is still in hospital and will be for a bit longer. She is finally scared and is waiting on re-hab. We are tired but carrying on. Asking for good thoughts heading our way. We are hoping this is actually her b...	lilms	11	584	Nov 30, 2007 by tea2
	Confused (Preview) Ok My H has acted as an A since last spring it excelerated recently.Then over Thanksgiving we had a talk and I told him how I feel and my worries.Now he hasn't had a drink that I'm aware of since Thanksgiving day? Can a real alcoholic just stop like that? Is he just a ticking time bomb. I don't know what to thi...	Completely Heartbroken	5	412	Nov 30, 2007 by Lunamoth
	forgot one thing (Preview) i forgot one big news that my daughter told me..she is expecting again,her due date is march 5.she is having a girl that makes 3 grandchildren from my daughter..i am going to save the money so i can be there when she has the baby.i was there when my grandaughter destiny was born,my grandson payton and im g...	bev	2	341	Nov 30, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Brighter day (Preview) I'm fairly new here (less than a week!), but I've so been comforted by reading these posts. So much wisdom. My A SO is overseas and "dropped out" on Saturday. No cell, no computer......no communication at all. This was after a phone call in which it sounded like he had a slip and was morb...	round3	2	421	Nov 30, 2007 by maire rua
	Random thoughts (Preview) Hi All, Not sure where I am going with this, I just have some random thoughts I need to express. Took my older two to family counseling and then ran some errands today, and you know what? We had more fun than we have had in a long time! Awesome young counselor whom my son loves because he is cool and my daughte...	Loupiness	4	583	Nov 30, 2007 by Leetle
	not looking forward to the holidays (Preview) hey all,not posted in awhile..but im a little down,christmas is coming and this will be the first xmas without my kids..cant afford to go up north and they cant afford to come here..SAH stopped going to aa meetings,not sure if he will relapse..i dont think he will since he just a goverment job working a...	bev	8	707	Nov 30, 2007 by Karilynn
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