Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kissers · kissers

Switchback or living with an alcoholic I love a person, addicted to alcohol. When hes sober this is a wonderful lover, husband, father, partner. A question of treatment is no longer relevant, we discussed it lots of times. Hes a doctor himself its impossible to persuade him or cure, we tried. Should I...

bev · bev

out of the blue,lastnite my daughter called me..havent heard from her in a month or 2..must be she senened that i missed her and the babies.we talked for about an hour..she told me that my son in law is going in the army..he leaves jan4 for basic training..he is going to be a sniper..im a little nervous ab...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

I am grateful that I have found Alanon. Thinking back to last year during the holiday, it was a miserable time. My AH had quit drinking in October, but was abusing his RX meds. He was grouchy and irritable. During the course of the past year he started methadone to kick the RX abuse, that lasted until t...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

thank you for your help whomever you are!

david62 · david62

I respond either, I am sure the situation will be corrected eventually.

bev · bev

i cant reply either,nothing but a blank white screen,when you hit submit post

Diva · Diva

White screen here too. So, good morning to all. I am sure we'll be back in "bidness" soon. Have a good one. Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

Good morning family, Is anyone else having trouble responding to posts? When I click the submit button, I get a white screen. Hmmm..... must be the computer gremlins again. So I may have to find a new way to respond to your posts. Have a wonderful weekend. Love and blessings to you all. Live stron...

lilms · lilms

We almost lost her a week ago today. I can't fathom how much alcohol she had put into her body. She is still in hospital and will be for a bit longer. She is finally scared and is waiting on re-hab. We are tired but carrying on. Asking for good thoughts heading our way. We are hoping this is actually her b...

Completely Heartbroken · Completely Heartbroken

Ok My H has acted as an A since last spring it excelerated recently.Then over Thanksgiving we had a talk and I told him how I feel and my worries.Now he hasn't had a drink that I'm aware of since Thanksgiving day? Can a real alcoholic just stop like that? Is he just a ticking time bomb. I don't know what to thi...

bev · bev

i forgot one big news that my daughter told me..she is expecting again,her due date is march 5.she is having a girl that makes 3 grandchildren from my daughter..i am going to save the money so i can be there when she has the baby.i was there when my grandaughter destiny was born,my grandson payton and im g...

round3 · round3

I'm fairly new here (less than a week!), but I've so been comforted by reading these posts. So much wisdom. My A SO is overseas and "dropped out" on Saturday. No cell, no computer......no communication at all. This was after a phone call in which it sounded like he had a slip and was morb...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi All, Not sure where I am going with this, I just have some random thoughts I need to express. Took my older two to family counseling and then ran some errands today, and you know what? We had more fun than we have had in a long time! Awesome young counselor whom my son loves because he is cool and my daughte...

bev · bev

hey all,not posted in awhile..but im a little down,christmas is coming and this will be the first xmas without my kids..cant afford to go up north and they cant afford to come here..SAH stopped going to aa meetings,not sure if he will relapse..i dont think he will since he just a goverment job working a...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...I recently had to take some time out and step backwards for a while for several reasons. The first reason was because I felt that I had got out of my depth again; the second reason was because I had a crisis at home and ended up with no heating or hot water due to a faulty boiler just as a really cold belt of w...

roygbiv · roygbiv

What a bright shining light she was... a wonderful person, only 33, with the disease of alcoholism... she hung herself last Saturday night 11/24. She was found today, my daughter called me in tears. I had gently told Tracey that AA would help her. She put it on her "to-do" list for t...

Belladay · Belladay

I haven't been here for a few weeks and it has felt good to have a reprieve, to feel some peace. My dad has started calling me every day, says he needs a friend. That is ok, we talk and as long as he stays sane it is ok. But today he called and I heard that "cotton on the roof of your mouth" and my heart j...

Jen · Jen

My A just got a card from his b who is in jail. He says that he has had our address for a long time but never written because he thought I wouldn't give my A the letter. So I am hurt and upset. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it really hurts. My A has told so many lies to his family about me, either directly or...

marmare · marmare

I find that sometimes I get lazy and don't work my program as much as I should. Other times I work the program with the most unlikely person, like a co-worker. You know the person that is filled with negative energy at work that brings you down, I now remove myself from where that person is working. I tr...

Chetch · Chetch

I should have started out posting this separately but started off putting it under my yesterday's post about my husband's DUI and him looking for a program that he could go to for 6 weeks and get a certificate saying he was no longer an A. The program he is looking for doesn't exist, which must be why he's h...

maresie2 · maresie2

I feel like I have got really strong after my melt down the other day. I feel like I can make a plan to pull myself out of this mess and execute it. Right now I think its all workable and I can move along through it. I feel motivated and resilient. I did not feel that on Monday I felt alone, isolated and totally h...

Chetch · Chetch

My husband, who has a DUI trial comming up, casually says to me this morning as we are getting dressed for work, that an the advise of his attorney, he was going to the faciality where he was in detox this afternoon for an "alcohol assessment" whatever that is. Just to refresh memories he go...

gknee · gknee

Hi Al-Anon Family- I haven 't been on this board since 7/11 of this year. So much happened that I want to share with you. Last time I was here, my AH had been in AA for about a month after an intense binge of drinking and drug use (pot and prescription sleeping pills) of about a month. He has about 35 years...

klm4446 · klm4446

Bear with me as I am still learning. I have read through more of the posts and replies. Detatching seems to be such a big part of al-anon as the best way to "handle" the A while sustaining ourselves.(or maybe the way to make living with the A bearable, allowing you to continue loving them) An...

souljoy · souljoy

Last night AH and I talked about the inane subject of being from a city or being a suburbanite. Now I am from a city outside of Chicago that has a population of 100,000. So when people ask where I am from I say I am a city girl and I grew up outside of Chicago. So last night, the AH was determined to get me to &qu...

wishing · wishing

ok - a first time visitor, poster, natural skeptic my h is not mean, angry, abusive, etc. He hoes drink too much, daily, to the point that he is forgetting conversations we have, and last night he was in charge of our 5 month old while I worked a late meeting - came home to find him trashed - they werefine, b...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

About 3 days ago my son (he's 5) says mom when can I talk to my dad on the phone? Out of the blue... It's been at least 6 months since he talked to him. Then WHAM, the A calls the next day. So I put my son on the phone and the tv is up loud so I send him into the bedroom to talk so he can hear. Then almost instantl...

round3 · round3

Hi all, This is my first post here, but I've been in and out of al-anon rooms for years. L-o-n-g (oh so long) story - but here's the quick version. Known this man for 30 years. Dated him moons ago. Broke up. Got back together years later and got engaged. Engagement broken due to vicious alcoholism,...

klm4446 · klm4446

I am very appreciative of all the replies I received. Thank you to everybody. I feel like a broken record, and know I will probably be repeating myself again. This has been the most traumatic experience of my life (and I thought I'd been through some things). But, your support and understanding is he...

maresie2 · maresie2

I spoke to the consumer credit place today. They want a huge payment every month. I've actually made more than that payment monthly for the past few months. I must admit huge gops of rage came up at the A. The money I spent on him, how I tried till I was almost vertical to get him to sanity. I am not rushing i...

meerkat · meerkat

Hi all. I'm heading to my first Al-Anon meeting this Friday and a little nervous. Have a wonderful husband who has binged off and on for years (I know that sounds like it doesnt make sense.) He's gone to a doctor who encouraged him to go to AA, however he refuses. He takes Campral...but it hasnt stopp...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Anger helps straighten out a problem like a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers. --Susan Marcotte Some of us have temper tantrums. Like black clouds, we threaten an outburst at any moment. Other people learn to check us out for storm warnings. They want time to clear out or at least to put on a prote...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I don't know how to phrase this without really ruining the whole anonymity thing, so I'll just try to be clear and to the point. When I met my AH (12 years ago) he told me he had HepC. We've always taken precautions with eachother and with the kids (no sharing toothbrushes ect...). I had to get a HepC test d...

maire rua · maire rua

Guys am on holidays, no shortage of drama, raging toothache, safe had to be fixed in room, had all passports, flights back etc, instead of a having a fit while waiting for repair man got on this site, love it, made a gratitude list instead of having a fit, this could have happened just as we were going home...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi all, did a temporary filling on the tooth, have an appointment for dentist next tuesday, and got some stuff from the chemist, yea, seems to be ok, safe is fixed, and am going down memory lane with this holiday as the last time my a brother was with me and my youngest son, no comparisons. I am having some...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am feeling much much much better today. Absolutely nothing about my situation has changed. I am still broke, fed up, tired, worn out, living in absolute craziness. I may get fired today and they may hold off for a few weeks. Who knows. I know I will deal with it whatever happens. I know I can deal with it t...

Becky1 · Becky1

My granddaughter was born last night, she was not supposed to be here until today! The docs were going to induce this morning, so she was checked in last night, 3 weeks early. When they checked the mommy she was dialated to 3! Checked into hospital at 5 after a big Lone Star Steakhouse dinner, water bro...

barisax · barisax

Sometimes when I look at people around me outside of the program, I get the feeling that I'm looking at the "other side". Those people who have been fortunate enough to have gotten through life so far without a significant alcoholic in their lives. They don't have the isms, they don't see...

david62 · david62

I got some really sad news yesterday. A person that came to one of my face to face al-anon groups took her own life on Thanksgiving Day. When I got the news, I could not believe it. I still see her smiling face and hear her laughter. She was such an enthusiastic person, the person I knew. She was one of...

Gailey · Gailey

I sent you a private message yesterday. Did you get it? Gail

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello family,I have an urgent need for prayer. Something I have been trying to prepare for has occured tonight. My sweet birdie, Angel, passed away last night. I feel absolutely numb, except for pain in my heart.My friends I spoke to tonight have told me that I did all I could to keep her alive, but it wa...

NightWatcher · NightWatcher

I want to thank everyone for your support since the passing of my son James... James was a talented artist and tattoo artist .. and also a person with this disease of alcholism/additction... and he found bottom on Nov 7th 2007.... for those who have been asking and of course anyone who would like to se...

maresie2 · maresie2

I learend today that I am going to leaving this job I have been in for almost 8 months. They are going to let me go. I may not be here beyond the end of this week. I have really super struggled at this job as teh commute is horrendous and the woman I work for is horrible. I have also been doing a second job and I am a...

Heather72 · Heather72

My AH "disappeared" over a week ago. Apparently he had lived out of his car for a number of days. He then, through his work at the hotel, was given a room to use until he could find a place to rent. He called Friday and wanted to see our daughter. We agreed he would come over this afternoon to s...

hersh · hersh

Hello everyone!! I just wanted to drop a line and let you all know how wonderful this board is, and how much I truly believe my life has changed from this program. I just cherish the tools and wisdom I have learned from Alanon. I am so grateful to have learned that if things go badly in my life, I can reach ou...

maresie2 · maresie2

The more I pull away from the A the better I am able to discern who can and can't meet my needs. I live in an insane household where everyone is afraid, enmeshed and every single day is total chaos and confusion. There is abolutley no doubt for me that there is no one there who can meet my needs. This situatio...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I found this recently and felt it warrented sharing, I hope you find it as helpful on this subject as I have. Barb *To ``let go'' does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else. *To ``let go'' is not to cut myself off. It's the realization I can't control anothe...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone, My rent is going up $90 per month, gas prices have risen, and my daughter needs glasses. I will be applying for a 2nd job down the road. I am hoping the manager will allow me to bring my 10 year old to work with me. There's only one way for me to find out, and that is to ask. As things are going, I have...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My holiday was good, we had lots of pies and junk as that was what each child chose to have LOL. We watched lots of movies, and went out to see Enchanted. I worked several days and made extra money and we enjoyed that at the theater and having lunch before. Got free pics of the kids with Santa at walmart. ...

maire rua · maire rua

Yes, the lady got the job and rang me to give me some interview tips this morning, I stayed calm and congratulated her and told her I was on holidays and needed to go, grrrh, grrh, grrh, thank you all, I needed to do that, still delighted I went for interview and did not get intimidated out of it,

kissers · kissers

I found this online: I can be a winner. I am the best friend I have. I have solved problems like this before. I have the ability to handle this. I am a capable human being. I deserve to love and to be loved. I am a skillful and artistic person. I can show others a good example. Letting go is best for them and for m...

chick29 · chick29

Well just got back from the wedding that I went to with my A but we are currently having space, I really hope its not permanantley! I first turned up and we were genuinley pleased to see each other, he told me how nice I looked and he was so smart in his morning suit. It was hard day for both of us, in the sense of...

chick29 · chick29

Having carried on posting which is the good thing I hope, please refer to my last post on the original that is my response, I just think of this a forum as a circle I hope we all continue to meet each other in our needs. looking back perhaps my response sounds angry, but its honest i wish i could get to a ftf jus...

chick29 · chick29

Well where do I start if I were to right down everything wrong my alcohlic boyf has done over the past four years people would think I was absolutley insane to have stayed but the truth is that sometimes it actually feels like it hurts more to actually sit with splitting up and him not being there than to pu...

HopeinVA · HopeinVA

Hello, I just found this site last night after doing some searches on AA in an effort to help my H. I had never heard of al anon before so that's how new I am to all of this. My H of 12 years I fear is an A. We have 3 small children. He never drinks at home it is always at the local bars. I also feel he suffers fr...

Allie · Allie

I have some? I would like to ask?What gives a addict the right to give some body a choice they have to make? The way I look at it is for how long did we beg and plea for them to stop using or go for help? They think they have the right to bark orders at every one. I understand fully that they are sick but they are all...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Hi everyone! Some of you might know about the evil eye- it's basically the wrath incurred from envy. I think it's like a supernatural superstition where if you have something good, you might make other people jealous, and that jealousy turns into bad vibes that eventually make something bad happen....

maresie2 · maresie2

When I was with the A one of my huge huge fears was that when I wa sout on my own I would not be able to make it financially. Of course I had some idea of how hard it will be. I have been on a contract job for a few months now. I am pretty certain this contract will not last more than another 2 months. That is good and b...

maresie · maresie

When it came to recovery from child abuse issues I did a geographic. I did not see or talk to my family of origin for more than 10 years. Then I briefly very briefly for a year or two interaced with my mother before she died. That interaction was very very distant. I thought I had put all my child abuse stuff...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

so much sadness. So much grieving...I just met for a few hours with my A today for the first time in several months. We have not lived together for 2 years but I moved to a distant place so we see each other quite rarely. We have been trying to work on things thru email, phone, etc. but its just been a giant fai...

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	Article I found on living with an alcoholic (Preview) Switchback or living with an alcoholic I love a person, addicted to alcohol. When hes sober this is a wonderful lover, husband, father, partner. A question of treatment is no longer relevant, we discussed it lots of times. Hes a doctor himself its impossible to persuade him or cure, we tried. Should I...	kissers	1	569	Dec 2, 2007 by ddub
	got a nice call (Preview) out of the blue,lastnite my daughter called me..havent heard from her in a month or 2..must be she senened that i missed her and the babies.we talked for about an hour..she told me that my son in law is going in the army..he leaves jan4 for basic training..he is going to be a sniper..im a little nervous ab...	bev	1	353	Dec 1, 2007 by SLS
	I am grateful.... (Preview) I am grateful that I have found Alanon. Thinking back to last year during the holiday, it was a miserable time. My AH had quit drinking in October, but was abusing his RX meds. He was grouchy and irritable. During the course of the past year he started methadone to kick the RX abuse, that lasted until t...	Denoraphy	3	347	Dec 1, 2007 by SLS
	I am no longer having problems posting/replying- (Preview) thank you for your help whomever you are!	Jean4444	2	355	Dec 1, 2007 by Jean4444
	me too! (Preview) I respond either, I am sure the situation will be corrected eventually.	david62	1	306	Dec 1, 2007 by rtexas
	u are not alone (Preview) i cant reply either,nothing but a blank white screen,when you hit submit post	bev	2	352	Dec 1, 2007 by Jean4444
	No response... (Preview) White screen here too. So, good morning to all. I am sure we'll be back in "bidness" soon. Have a good one. Diva	Diva	0	300	Dec 1, 2007 by Diva
	Having trouble responding to posts (Preview) Good morning family, Is anyone else having trouble responding to posts? When I click the submit button, I get a white screen. Hmmm..... must be the computer gremlins again. So I may have to find a new way to respond to your posts. Have a wonderful weekend. Love and blessings to you all. Live stron...	Karilynn	0	342	Dec 1, 2007 by Karilynn
	We almost lost her (Preview) We almost lost her a week ago today. I can't fathom how much alcohol she had put into her body. She is still in hospital and will be for a bit longer. She is finally scared and is waiting on re-hab. We are tired but carrying on. Asking for good thoughts heading our way. We are hoping this is actually her b...	lilms	11	507	Nov 30, 2007 by tea2
	Confused (Preview) Ok My H has acted as an A since last spring it excelerated recently.Then over Thanksgiving we had a talk and I told him how I feel and my worries.Now he hasn't had a drink that I'm aware of since Thanksgiving day? Can a real alcoholic just stop like that? Is he just a ticking time bomb. I don't know what to thi...	Completely Heartbroken	5	329	Nov 30, 2007 by Lunamoth
	forgot one thing (Preview) i forgot one big news that my daughter told me..she is expecting again,her due date is march 5.she is having a girl that makes 3 grandchildren from my daughter..i am going to save the money so i can be there when she has the baby.i was there when my grandaughter destiny was born,my grandson payton and im g...	bev	2	261	Nov 30, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Brighter day (Preview) I'm fairly new here (less than a week!), but I've so been comforted by reading these posts. So much wisdom. My A SO is overseas and "dropped out" on Saturday. No cell, no computer......no communication at all. This was after a phone call in which it sounded like he had a slip and was morb...	round3	2	343	Nov 30, 2007 by maire rua
	Random thoughts (Preview) Hi All, Not sure where I am going with this, I just have some random thoughts I need to express. Took my older two to family counseling and then ran some errands today, and you know what? We had more fun than we have had in a long time! Awesome young counselor whom my son loves because he is cool and my daughte...	Loupiness	4	500	Nov 30, 2007 by Leetle
	not looking forward to the holidays (Preview) hey all,not posted in awhile..but im a little down,christmas is coming and this will be the first xmas without my kids..cant afford to go up north and they cant afford to come here..SAH stopped going to aa meetings,not sure if he will relapse..i dont think he will since he just a goverment job working a...	bev	8	622	Nov 30, 2007 by Karilynn
	Crazy mixed up me... (Preview) ...I recently had to take some time out and step backwards for a while for several reasons. The first reason was because I felt that I had got out of my depth again; the second reason was because I had a crisis at home and ended up with no heating or hot water due to a faulty boiler just as a really cold belt of w...	Heartbroken	6	485	Nov 30, 2007 by ddub
	Good-bye Tracey (Preview) What a bright shining light she was... a wonderful person, only 33, with the disease of alcoholism... she hung herself last Saturday night 11/24. She was found today, my daughter called me in tears. I had gently told Tracey that AA would help her. She put it on her "to-do" list for t...	roygbiv	9	406	Nov 30, 2007 by leo
	RE: Not A Pretty Place (Preview) I haven't been here for a few weeks and it has felt good to have a reprieve, to feel some peace. My dad has started calling me every day, says he needs a friend. That is ok, we talk and as long as he stays sane it is ok. But today he called and I heard that "cotton on the roof of your mouth" and my heart j...	Belladay	2	817	Nov 30, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Short vent and a ? (Preview) My A just got a card from his b who is in jail. He says that he has had our address for a long time but never written because he thought I wouldn't give my A the letter. So I am hurt and upset. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it really hurts. My A has told so many lies to his family about me, either directly or...	Jen	1	439	Nov 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	Keep working it (Preview) I find that sometimes I get lazy and don't work my program as much as I should. Other times I work the program with the most unlikely person, like a co-worker. You know the person that is filled with negative energy at work that brings you down, I now remove myself from where that person is working. I tr...	marmare	6	425	Nov 29, 2007 by Jen
	My A's "assessment" (Preview) I should have started out posting this separately but started off putting it under my yesterday's post about my husband's DUI and him looking for a program that he could go to for 6 weeks and get a certificate saying he was no longer an A. The program he is looking for doesn't exist, which must be why he's h...	Chetch	5	983	Nov 29, 2007 by Chetch
	getting stronger (Preview) I feel like I have got really strong after my melt down the other day. I feel like I can make a plan to pull myself out of this mess and execute it. Right now I think its all workable and I can move along through it. I feel motivated and resilient. I did not feel that on Monday I felt alone, isolated and totally h...	maresie2	2	308	Nov 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	My AH just doesn't get it! (Preview) My husband, who has a DUI trial comming up, casually says to me this morning as we are getting dressed for work, that an the advise of his attorney, he was going to the faciality where he was in detox this afternoon for an "alcohol assessment" whatever that is. Just to refresh memories he go...	Chetch	8	732	Nov 29, 2007 by Chetch
	its been a while (long post) (Preview) Hi Al-Anon Family- I haven 't been on this board since 7/11 of this year. So much happened that I want to share with you. Last time I was here, my AH had been in AA for about a month after an intense binge of drinking and drug use (pot and prescription sleeping pills) of about a month. He has about 35 years...	gknee	5	534	Nov 29, 2007 by maresie2
	Confusion re: detatching (Preview) Bear with me as I am still learning. I have read through more of the posts and replies. Detatching seems to be such a big part of al-anon as the best way to "handle" the A while sustaining ourselves.(or maybe the way to make living with the A bearable, allowing you to continue loving them) An...	klm4446	12	815	Nov 29, 2007 by Jen
	Dang it Alanon works! (Preview) Last night AH and I talked about the inane subject of being from a city or being a suburbanite. Now I am from a city outside of Chicago that has a population of 100,000. So when people ask where I am from I say I am a city girl and I grew up outside of Chicago. So last night, the AH was determined to get me to &qu...	souljoy	4	396	Nov 29, 2007 by cookie1971
	new (Preview) ok - a first time visitor, poster, natural skeptic my h is not mean, angry, abusive, etc. He hoes drink too much, daily, to the point that he is forgetting conversations we have, and last night he was in charge of our 5 month old while I worked a late meeting - came home to find him trashed - they werefine, b...	wishing	12	588	Nov 29, 2007 by klm4446
	I think I really messed up (Preview) About 3 days ago my son (he's 5) says mom when can I talk to my dad on the phone? Out of the blue... It's been at least 6 months since he talked to him. Then WHAM, the A calls the next day. So I put my son on the phone and the tv is up loud so I send him into the bedroom to talk so he can hear. Then almost instantl...	carolinagirl	12	613	Nov 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	First Post (Preview) Hi all, This is my first post here, but I've been in and out of al-anon rooms for years. L-o-n-g (oh so long) story - but here's the quick version. Known this man for 30 years. Dated him moons ago. Broke up. Got back together years later and got engaged. Engagement broken due to vicious alcoholism,...	round3	9	606	Nov 29, 2007 by klm4446
	Thank yous (Preview) I am very appreciative of all the replies I received. Thank you to everybody. I feel like a broken record, and know I will probably be repeating myself again. This has been the most traumatic experience of my life (and I thought I'd been through some things). But, your support and understanding is he...	klm4446	1	423	Nov 29, 2007 by abbyal
	repairing the damage (Preview) I spoke to the consumer credit place today. They want a huge payment every month. I've actually made more than that payment monthly for the past few months. I must admit huge gops of rage came up at the A. The money I spent on him, how I tried till I was almost vertical to get him to sanity. I am not rushing i...	maresie2	3	301	Nov 29, 2007 by maire rua
	Ready to take the plunge (Preview) Hi all. I'm heading to my first Al-Anon meeting this Friday and a little nervous. Have a wonderful husband who has binged off and on for years (I know that sounds like it doesnt make sense.) He's gone to a doctor who encouraged him to go to AA, however he refuses. He takes Campral...but it hasnt stopp...	meerkat	6	588	Nov 29, 2007 by meerkat
	Managing our anger and responding to other's (Preview) Anger helps straighten out a problem like a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers. --Susan Marcotte Some of us have temper tantrums. Like black clouds, we threaten an outburst at any moment. Other people learn to check us out for storm warnings. They want time to clear out or at least to put on a prote...	Tiger2006	7	539	Nov 28, 2007 by kissers
	Another Psycho Denial Issue (Preview) I don't know how to phrase this without really ruining the whole anonymity thing, so I'll just try to be clear and to the point. When I met my AH (12 years ago) he told me he had HepC. We've always taken precautions with eachother and with the kids (no sharing toothbrushes ect...). I had to get a HepC test d...	RainyJamie	11	563	Nov 28, 2007 by RainyJamie
	no screaming and shouting (Preview) Guys am on holidays, no shortage of drama, raging toothache, safe had to be fixed in room, had all passports, flights back etc, instead of a having a fit while waiting for repair man got on this site, love it, made a gratitude list instead of having a fit, this could have happened just as we were going home...	maire rua	4	528	Nov 28, 2007 by maresie2
	update on tooth and safe and all (Preview) Hi all, did a temporary filling on the tooth, have an appointment for dentist next tuesday, and got some stuff from the chemist, yea, seems to be ok, safe is fixed, and am going down memory lane with this holiday as the last time my a brother was with me and my youngest son, no comparisons. I am having some...	maire rua	0	268	Nov 28, 2007 by maire rua
	much better today (Preview) I am feeling much much much better today. Absolutely nothing about my situation has changed. I am still broke, fed up, tired, worn out, living in absolute craziness. I may get fired today and they may hold off for a few weeks. Who knows. I know I will deal with it whatever happens. I know I can deal with it t...	maresie2	5	408	Nov 28, 2007 by maire rua
	Granddaughter Born Last Night (Preview) My granddaughter was born last night, she was not supposed to be here until today! The docs were going to induce this morning, so she was checked in last night, 3 weeks early. When they checked the mommy she was dialated to 3! Checked into hospital at 5 after a big Lone Star Steakhouse dinner, water bro...	Becky1	13	608	Nov 28, 2007 by chris52
	Affected by Alcoholism? Who Isn't? (Preview) Sometimes when I look at people around me outside of the program, I get the feeling that I'm looking at the "other side". Those people who have been fortunate enough to have gotten through life so far without a significant alcoholic in their lives. They don't have the isms, they don't see...	barisax	12	737	Nov 28, 2007 by barisax
	Lessons from the Loss of a Friend (Preview) I got some really sad news yesterday. A person that came to one of my face to face al-anon groups took her own life on Thanksgiving Day. When I got the news, I could not believe it. I still see her smiling face and hear her laughter. She was such an enthusiastic person, the person I knew. She was one of...	david62	17	690	Nov 28, 2007 by NightWatcher
	For Kissers (Preview) I sent you a private message yesterday. Did you get it? Gail	Gailey	0	268	Nov 28, 2007 by Gailey
	VERY SAD NEWS TO SHARE---ESH requested (Preview) Hello family,I have an urgent need for prayer. Something I have been trying to prepare for has occured tonight. My sweet birdie, Angel, passed away last night. I feel absolutely numb, except for pain in my heart.My friends I spoke to tonight have told me that I did all I could to keep her alive, but it wa...	hippietrippiechick	10	688	Nov 27, 2007 by carosie
	Thanks to all (Preview) I want to thank everyone for your support since the passing of my son James... James was a talented artist and tattoo artist .. and also a person with this disease of alcholism/additction... and he found bottom on Nov 7th 2007.... for those who have been asking and of course anyone who would like to se...	NightWatcher	16	497	Nov 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	hard times (Preview) I learend today that I am going to leaving this job I have been in for almost 8 months. They are going to let me go. I may not be here beyond the end of this week. I have really super struggled at this job as teh commute is horrendous and the woman I work for is horrible. I have also been doing a second job and I am a...	maresie2	10	705	Nov 27, 2007 by Loupiness
	I need support (Preview) My AH "disappeared" over a week ago. Apparently he had lived out of his car for a number of days. He then, through his work at the hotel, was given a room to use until he could find a place to rent. He called Friday and wanted to see our daughter. We agreed he would come over this afternoon to s...	Heather72	11	646	Nov 27, 2007 by Leetle
	Grateful for tools and change.... (Preview) Hello everyone!! I just wanted to drop a line and let you all know how wonderful this board is, and how much I truly believe my life has changed from this program. I just cherish the tools and wisdom I have learned from Alanon. I am so grateful to have learned that if things go badly in my life, I can reach ou...	hersh	4	475	Nov 27, 2007 by rtexas
	meeting my needs (Preview) The more I pull away from the A the better I am able to discern who can and can't meet my needs. I live in an insane household where everyone is afraid, enmeshed and every single day is total chaos and confusion. There is abolutley no doubt for me that there is no one there who can meet my needs. This situatio...	maresie2	4	373	Nov 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	Letting Go (Preview) I found this recently and felt it warrented sharing, I hope you find it as helpful on this subject as I have. Barb To ``let go'' does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else. To ``let go'' is not to cut myself off. It's the realization I can't control anothe...	Mobirdie	7	524	Nov 27, 2007 by Karilynn
	Applying for a 2nd job tomorrow (Preview) Hi everyone, My rent is going up $90 per month, gas prices have risen, and my daughter needs glasses. I will be applying for a 2nd job down the road. I am hoping the manager will allow me to bring my 10 year old to work with me. There's only one way for me to find out, and that is to ask. As things are going, I have...	kissers	4	346	Nov 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	Update (Preview) My holiday was good, we had lots of pies and junk as that was what each child chose to have LOL. We watched lots of movies, and went out to see Enchanted. I worked several days and made extra money and we enjoyed that at the theater and having lunch before. Got free pics of the kids with Santa at walmart. ...	carolinagirl	5	478	Nov 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	job interview result (Preview) Yes, the lady got the job and rang me to give me some interview tips this morning, I stayed calm and congratulated her and told her I was on holidays and needed to go, grrrh, grrh, grrh, thank you all, I needed to do that, still delighted I went for interview and did not get intimidated out of it,	maire rua	7	418	Nov 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	Positive Affirmations (Preview) I found this online: I can be a winner. I am the best friend I have. I have solved problems like this before. I have the ability to handle this. I am a capable human being. I deserve to love and to be loved. I am a skillful and artistic person. I can show others a good example. Letting go is best for them and for m...	kissers	4	4520	Nov 26, 2007 by cookie1971
	Cant put a name to a topic (Preview) Well just got back from the wedding that I went to with my A but we are currently having space, I really hope its not permanantley! I first turned up and we were genuinley pleased to see each other, he told me how nice I looked and he was so smart in his morning suit. It was hard day for both of us, in the sense of...	chick29	3	526	Nov 26, 2007 by maresie2
	My original post insane and obsessional thinking (Preview) Having carried on posting which is the good thing I hope, please refer to my last post on the original that is my response, I just think of this a forum as a circle I hope we all continue to meet each other in our needs. looking back perhaps my response sounds angry, but its honest i wish i could get to a ftf jus...	chick29	7	782	Nov 26, 2007 by maresie2
	Insane obsessional thinking (Preview) Well where do I start if I were to right down everything wrong my alcohlic boyf has done over the past four years people would think I was absolutley insane to have stayed but the truth is that sometimes it actually feels like it hurts more to actually sit with splitting up and him not being there than to pu...	chick29	13	880	Nov 26, 2007 by maresie2
	New to all of this, to stay or to go?? (Preview) Hello, I just found this site last night after doing some searches on AA in an effort to help my H. I had never heard of al anon before so that's how new I am to all of this. My H of 12 years I fear is an A. We have 3 small children. He never drinks at home it is always at the local bars. I also feel he suffers fr...	HopeinVA	10	864	Nov 26, 2007 by maire rua
	Who do they think they are? (Preview) I have some? I would like to ask?What gives a addict the right to give some body a choice they have to make? The way I look at it is for how long did we beg and plea for them to stop using or go for help? They think they have the right to bark orders at every one. I understand fully that they are sick but they are all...	Allie	2	508	Nov 26, 2007 by Mandy123
	The Evil Eye (Preview) Hi everyone! Some of you might know about the evil eye- it's basically the wrath incurred from envy. I think it's like a supernatural superstition where if you have something good, you might make other people jealous, and that jealousy turns into bad vibes that eventually make something bad happen....	RainyJamie	7	777	Nov 26, 2007 by carolinagirl
	moving on mixed bag (Preview) When I was with the A one of my huge huge fears was that when I wa sout on my own I would not be able to make it financially. Of course I had some idea of how hard it will be. I have been on a contract job for a few months now. I am pretty certain this contract will not last more than another 2 months. That is good and b...	maresie2	4	450	Nov 26, 2007 by carolinagirl
	HP has a sense of humor (Preview) When it came to recovery from child abuse issues I did a geographic. I did not see or talk to my family of origin for more than 10 years. Then I briefly very briefly for a year or two interaced with my mother before she died. That interaction was very very distant. I thought I had put all my child abuse stuff...	maresie	5	539	Nov 26, 2007 by maire rua
	vent (Preview) so much sadness. So much grieving...I just met for a few hours with my A today for the first time in several months. We have not lived together for 2 years but I moved to a distant place so we see each other quite rarely. We have been trying to work on things thru email, phone, etc. but its just been a giant fai...	Jean4444	7	467	Nov 26, 2007 by maire rua
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