Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

debilyn · debilyn

Also keep everyone in mind that need some love. last week I got trampled by the gals horse who rents some pasture....was going to the doc again yesterday. right before I left to go to the doc I slipped and broke ribs on my right. it feels like a cramp that won't go away. Of course since I cannot bend over, and...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Today is my ex abf bday. I spoke to him yesterday on Christmas, not bc we were wishing each other a merry one, but more bc I found out that my sister and my brother's wife are both pregnant and both due one day after the other. I was feeling insanely jealous and resentful that this "easy" life co...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Ex ABF is sober 10yrs and in recovery-working program. I have several other people I know who are also in the program-mostly AA. eXABF says things and I hear things from others that I am struggling with....."Focus on yourself......focus on you". Seems to me that if we all were tha...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP family young and old new and old timer. I take this little bit of time to express to you all my gratitude for all the love and support and ESH that you have freely offered over the last year and beyond. I owe you and others soooo much not the least of is my very life. Without the lantern that was he...

barisax · barisax

I find when I'm playing my saxophone, that I tend to make the same mistakes in the same places in the music. Over and over. In the same way. Now I can see making a mistake the first few times through unfamiliar music, especially when things get a little fast and furious. But when I make the exact same mi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have to go to the library to communicate all the time because I don't have computer at home--so here goes! I am feeling much more in the spirit of the holiday. It took realizing that I really don't have any control over anyone else's time & that I can be as happy as I want to be! That is why I am posting...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

(((((MIP Family))))) Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your well wishes for my famliy. We are surely benefiting from your kindness. While my son and I will be gathering around the Christmas tree in the morning without hubby/dad, we are accepting as we know that he is in the right place for now...

3boysandonegirl · 3boysandonegirl

This past year has been really hard on me. I am learning a lot of things about myself that I have really known all along but didn't want to face. I am learning to stand up for myself because no one else can. That's my job. I am learning that I don't have to settle for someone who abuses me just to feel whole, I a...

3boysandonegirl · 3boysandonegirl

Well, I made it through Christmas, I only broke down hysterically crying once today - which was Christmas day, I started the day off journaling - "Well, here it is Christmas morning. I should be preparing to watch my kids open gifts around my own tree, in my own house with the man I love. But I am...

buick23 · buick23

Today was a good day. My daughter and I had fun. We went shopping with unexpected xmas money, went out to eat, got home and played ping pong, played little petshops, talked, just had fun together all day. She is so much fun to hang out with. Bf called in the afternoon, tells me he got off work early, is at a fr...

3boysandonegirl · 3boysandonegirl

Greetings! My name is Mindy, I often go by Melinda in the Chat room. I am new to the chat room as of about 3 weeks ago and new to this Group as a registered person as of today! I have found solace with the wonderful guys and gals in the chat room and am just simply thrilled to have found this site. I am working...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to take a few minutes to wish all of you a Very Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwansa & Happy Holidays. I love you all very much and am so greatful for my MIP family. You have seen me through the hardest times and the happiest times. From the bottom of m...

abbyal · abbyal

Marathon meetings start at 9 pm eastern time and go til 9pm Xmas Day -so no excuses for feeling alone . Hugs to all Louise

smileycat · smileycat

Hi All I just do not get it. We ( the kids and myself) ask are A over to open presant tonight. I get this thrid degree on how he dose not know where he is going to be and that I have not been asking question about how he is doing and where he is going to live and that I kicked him out and it is all back to it is my faul...

Ash · Ash

My AH drank some tequila at 10 am yesterday morning, then slept the entire day and night. It was his day off - he said he hasn't slept through the night in months because of his knee surgery and that he got to thinking and just drank because he wanted to go to sleep. He once had 14 years sober - until he met me...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP Family!, Just a quick post to say how grateful I am about this program. I know I have said similar things before, but today I feel even more grateful. The thing is, and this surprises me, I feel some sense of serenity, whether my AH continues drinking or not. How the heck did that happen? I know some o...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/23/health/23reha.html?partner=rss&emc=rss

Trinia2 · Trinia2

As someone helpfully suggested in an earlier post, I am trying to think about my 21-year-old son as a man and not my baby. My husband (his SF) refuses to let him back in the house even to visit. My son went to court on Thursday and didn't do what the judge ordered on Friday. I am not sure he'll follow through w...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi again MIP family, I just learned that my AH has been moved from the medical ward to ICU as he has fully entered DTs now. He was hallucinating, combative and confused. All this happened within an hour of my visit with him. During my visit with him this evening, he seemed OK. Maybe a little "fuzzy&q...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Healthy holiday wishes to all of you. I hope that you have some peace in the upcoming weeks. I haven't posted in about a month. My ExABF's birthday is the 26. Tomorrow is the birthday of my fiance who died 7 years ago--he should be turning 38. On top of that, it's Christmas week. So, basically, the on...

QuVat · QuVat

I went ahead and stood my ground with my AW yesterday. I told her that her staying at home was no longer a negotiation and that she was to either find a recovery house or I would drop her off at a homeless shelter. She finally agreed to look up recovery houses and I told her she had until Thursday to have dec...

helpme08 · helpme08

I just wanted to say thank you to those of you that have responded to my post a couple of days ago. I have not been able to get to a face2face meeting yet due to scheduling, but if there is one thing that I picked up on here is that attending a face2face meeting is very important. Until I am able to get there, I...

Lyndie · Lyndie

Over the last few weeks of reading, listening to speakers, and doing online meetings ZI am finally grasping this osncept of 'I have to change.' But, knowing this, and knowing myself, I am reacting to it not so well. My thoughts are along the lines of 'oh great, another thing you've done WRONG.' I am an ac...

helpme08 · helpme08

This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...

Codependent · Codependent

Tomorrow is Christmas at my A's mom's house. I know the A will be there, but I am not really concerned. I am feeling stronger in that area. However, my dad upset me today by stating that everyone there probably feels sorry for me like a foster child and that the A doesn't even care about me, left me with a...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I haven't been posting much, but have been here every day-usually several times a day reading and seeking the ESH from everyone's shares. I guess I haven't been posting much because right now I just don't feel I have anything good to give back. To be honest I am angry and filled with so much resentmen...

barisax · barisax

How many times have you heard, "there are two kinds of people in the world, those who xxxxxx and those who yyyyyy". It's often a joke, or used to illustrate some point. Like, there are two kinds of people in the world, those who divide everybody into two kinds of people and those who don't....

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello all, and happy holidays to you and yours! I was wondering if any of you have any experience with the drug antabuse....if so, how well does it work, etc. Thanks for your input, its always appreciated! seeking peace, jeannie

time4me · time4me

Hi all, I am new to alanon, but unfortunately not new to alcoholism. I have been with my AB for 6 years, I for some reason didn't think that that I needed to do anything for myself. I figured it was his problem. He is in a 30 day treatment center, I committed him through the courts, his drinking was once a...

QuVat · QuVat

If you're familiar with my last post "Now What" you'll know that I was trying very hard to keep any expectations I had of my newly sober wife in check. I heeded the excellent advice of fellow posters and decided to let go and wait for a sign from my HP. Unfortunately that sign came last night w...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Hello All! My story is long, so I'll just sum it up by saying that my husband isn't coming home tonight. I'd rather not see him at all, than to see him drunk AGAIN. We've been married for 9 years and have been dealing with his alcoholism for 3 years (since our son was born). He has cheated on me with a p...

Christy · Christy

This has come up a few times recently. Why do they (fill in the blank)? Why can't they promise they will stop for their family? I don't know the answers for others, but for those that have those questions here is what I DO know. Alcohol is so powerful that eventually the body literally becomes depe...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Christmas is almost here and this year I am finding it to be more difficult (emotionally) than other years. So much has changed in my life over the past year, some good, and some bad. I miss the people that I have lost in my life; either from death or because of choice. Yet I am so thankful for the relations...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I need your help. It is not a crisis, but I am getting frustrated. This year, instead of "usual" gifts, I am giving donations in people's names. For those who are in my AA/Al Anon family, I was *trying* to donate directly to World Service Office, and am finding myself running into walls. I s...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well I made it through Step 5, and thought for sure I'd have a heart attack before hand-lol......I was certain NO ONE could understand, or not judge the insanity of my past. I mean I have judged me for years, why would another not? But thanks to the best sponser a girl could have, I made it through with...

buick23 · buick23

Well, same ole, same ole. Nothing is changing, guess I need to change things for myself. The bf and I did drive around some together earlier today. Then, later on he leaves again for 5 hours. I went to the store just to get out of the house, and when I returned, we got into an argument. He tells me he was at his...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My home group meeting room is so COLD, everything white or some shade of white. We are seriously considering painting and cleaning to make the room more homey instead of so sterile. The floor which is the only thing that has any color at all in it is a tile that is shades of grey...another sterile non de...

madmom · madmom

Hi everyone! I'm having a good week and wanted to post that I feel happy . I don't fully understand why I feel happy but, this the first "happy" I've felt in the last six months since I got married and came to the realization that I married an A. I shared for the first time on an online meeting las...

peace2me · peace2me

I feel like I have basically done the same thing over and over again - only each time I get a little more serious about ending my marriage with my A. Of couse there have always been complaints about his bad behavior, and these complaints work for a time but he always goes right back to his old ways. It snea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will be making lots of meetings this holiday season--we even plan to go to one of our local AA meeting on Christmas Day! It just happens to fall on that day. There probably won't be many people but we will be there to open the door! I will be at a sort of marathon type meeting tonight, too. It will be fun-...

Trinia2 · Trinia2

My AS (possibly bipolar and drug addicted) racked up several court cases in several weeks. He has been incarcerated three times and hospitalized three times in the past 9 weeks. He went to court yesterday and was ordered to get a doctor today, get on meds, not drink or drug, and report to probation dail...

maresie · maresie

I have had a really tough week with the roommates I have. I am certain one of them is now doing crack cocaine. He has become highly aggressive with me. That was one of the hallmarks of my ex A the aggressiveness. There were signs of that on Thanksgiving and I was not perceptive enough to take care of it....

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

My youngest AD had to take me to the ER at 5 this morning. I haven't been that sick in years and thought I was going to die. Some intestinal virus is going around, and I started vomiting and getting diarrhea around 11 last night. I ended up cramping so bad I was crying and had bloody diarrhea. I was on an IV for...

Codependent · Codependent

Tonight I went to my first face to face meeting. It was not an Alanon Meeting. It was a Celebrate Recovery Meeting and then a Codependency small group. I told the group I believed my primary addiction to be to my addict and my secondary to be to alcohol- as a coping mechanism to deal with my codependenc...

helpme08 · helpme08

This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...

buick23 · buick23

Today I'm having trouble focusing on myself and not the bf. Again, he's gone today. I asked him about why he doesn't want to do things together and he said that I'm always complaining when we are somewhere and I have to stop to go to the bathroom every 5 minutes. That really hurt. I wonder if I'm that bad,...

Laurenlou · Laurenlou

Hi all, I am brand new here. I am 23 year old mother of a 2.5 year old daughter. And I am the wife of a drug addict. My husband has been addicted to pain meds for over 3 years. He has been in 5 car accidents (1 of which was very serious and caused the early birth of our daughter) and has 2 DUIs (he would have 1 more, b...

BirdGal · BirdGal

Is this the best message board for the spouse of a recovering addict? Or is there a separate..."nar anon" or something? I know this may seem like a silly question. But I'm new to all of this. And I'm pretty much still reeling from recent events in my life...struggling with how to trust/love/kn...

Jerry F · Jerry F

(((((Luna))))) if you chance to check in? Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year and as for me...you're still loved like crazy. Let us know how you are or send a messenger or something. (((((hugs)))))`

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It doesn't matter how or when you celebrate the holiday season; just celebrate! I am trying to not be a Scrooge when it comes to my mother. If she had anywhere else to go, I would suggest it this year! I am still angry at the things she has pulled the last couple of days. Time to turn her over, I guess. My Ah &am...

Lisa11397 · Lisa11397

Hi my name is Lisa I have a history of Alcohalism in my family my husband and MNL are also alcohalics and I need help coping with it. Thank you I'm nervous about this process but I want to be strong for myself and my kids.

Felicia · Felicia

Hi - My name is Felicia and I am new to the board. I have been reading it over while waiting for my membership to kick in. I am so hurt, confused, angry, devasted and carry so much guilt. I have been going to a counselor and she wanted me to check this out as well as a victim of domestic violence group. My story (...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

While driving home from work tonight in an ice storm with lightening flashing and weather forcasts of impending critical conditions...I did something I've never before done. I said a silent prayer stating "I'm going to need your help getting home tonight" as suddenly as the thoughts...

afmom03 · afmom03

Hi there everyone!!! It's been since August I have been able to get into this message board! GRRRRR!! I never know one day to the next when I log out if I'll be able to get back in here! <LOL> I have been reading everyone's posts for months now and it's driving me bonke...

QuVat · QuVat

Well here I am again. After two DUI's, losing her job, and nearly 3 months of hospitlization/rehab my wife and I are living together at home. Unfortunately as we all know things are never that easy and after 5 days together she has gone back to abusing perscription drugs (her first drug of choice is al...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi all I have had a very good day to day. Work is going ok and home live is still the three of us ( myself and the 15g, and 18b) my AH is still at his mothers and not like it but that is his problem. New problem and handleing it? The girl is in chours and having fun but dose not want dad to come see her. I an letting h...

abbyal · abbyal

I could not progress in my own recovery until I learned to focus on MY own recovery. If you want to be original -- be yourself. If we put everything in Gods hands -- Gods hands will be in everything. If you want serenity , put God between you and your problem . The only thing we can change about the past is our a...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

(Another old share from '06) I wandered into the chat room and was looking at the top of the screen where it says "topic" and was then thinking how people come in and ask "whats the topic?" which led me to thinking, gee wouldn't it be fun to have a "today's topic" every da...

hopegrace · hopegrace

Hallo all I havent visited the forum for almost two years. I previously used to attend alanon meetings regularly and i suddenly stoped when i felt better and able to cope with life. Around the same time i broke up with my recovering alcoholic. Just recently he became very interested in me again and want...

Codependent · Codependent

I know this is irrelevant really considering my circumstances, but the A told me he didn't understand why I couldn't be his friend just because he didn't want that kind of relationship with me at this particular time. Just thought I would throw that out as a topic for discussion.

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	put me on that prayer list! (Preview) Also keep everyone in mind that need some love. last week I got trampled by the gals horse who rents some pasture....was going to the doc again yesterday. right before I left to go to the doc I slipped and broke ribs on my right. it feels like a cramp that won't go away. Of course since I cannot bend over, and...	debilyn	9	686	Dec 27, 2008 by TLC2
	A's birthday is today (Preview) Today is my ex abf bday. I spoke to him yesterday on Christmas, not bc we were wishing each other a merry one, but more bc I found out that my sister and my brother's wife are both pregnant and both due one day after the other. I was feeling insanely jealous and resentful that this "easy" life co...	hopeful123	4	692	Dec 27, 2008 by Jerry F
	Struggling a bit with some program concepts(?)~need some input (Preview) Ex ABF is sober 10yrs and in recovery-working program. I have several other people I know who are also in the program-mostly AA. eXABF says things and I hear things from others that I am struggling with....."Focus on yourself......focus on you". Seems to me that if we all were tha...	shellyj123	6	604	Dec 27, 2008 by Jen
	Unwrapping the gift of Gratitude.. (Preview) Aloha MIP family young and old new and old timer. I take this little bit of time to express to you all my gratitude for all the love and support and ESH that you have freely offered over the last year and beyond. I owe you and others soooo much not the least of is my very life. Without the lantern that was he...	Jerry F	8	581	Dec 27, 2008 by ddub
	Practicing Our Mistakes (Preview) I find when I'm playing my saxophone, that I tend to make the same mistakes in the same places in the music. Over and over. In the same way. Now I can see making a mistake the first few times through unfamiliar music, especially when things get a little fast and furious. But when I make the exact same mi...	barisax	7	671	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	sitting at he library thinking about the holiday! (Preview) I have to go to the library to communicate all the time because I don't have computer at home--so here goes! I am feeling much more in the spirit of the holiday. It took realizing that I really don't have any control over anyone else's time & that I can be as happy as I want to be! That is why I am posting...	Hoot Nanny	2	493	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	The Holiday So Far (Preview) (((((MIP Family))))) Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your well wishes for my famliy. We are surely benefiting from your kindness. While my son and I will be gathering around the Christmas tree in the morning without hubby/dad, we are accepting as we know that he is in the right place for now...	Rocky38	7	736	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Progress? (Preview) This past year has been really hard on me. I am learning a lot of things about myself that I have really known all along but didn't want to face. I am learning to stand up for myself because no one else can. That's my job. I am learning that I don't have to settle for someone who abuses me just to feel whole, I a...	3boysandonegirl	5	659	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	I made it through Christmas! (Preview) Well, I made it through Christmas, I only broke down hysterically crying once today - which was Christmas day, I started the day off journaling - "Well, here it is Christmas morning. I should be preparing to watch my kids open gifts around my own tree, in my own house with the man I love. But I am...	3boysandonegirl	2	758	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	another good day thanks to alanon (Preview) Today was a good day. My daughter and I had fun. We went shopping with unexpected xmas money, went out to eat, got home and played ping pong, played little petshops, talked, just had fun together all day. She is so much fun to hang out with. Bf called in the afternoon, tells me he got off work early, is at a fr...	buick23	1	468	Dec 26, 2008 by daylight48
	Overcoming an abusive past... (Preview) Greetings! My name is Mindy, I often go by Melinda in the Chat room. I am new to the chat room as of about 3 weeks ago and new to this Group as a registered person as of today! I have found solace with the wonderful guys and gals in the chat room and am just simply thrilled to have found this site. I am working...	3boysandonegirl	1	562	Dec 26, 2008 by nmike
	Happy Holidays to my MIP Family (Preview) ((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to take a few minutes to wish all of you a Very Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwansa & Happy Holidays. I love you all very much and am so greatful for my MIP family. You have seen me through the hardest times and the happiest times. From the bottom of m...	Karilynn	6	543	Dec 25, 2008 by Andrea12
	Just a reminder of Marathon Meetings (Preview) *Marathon meetings start at 9 pm eastern time and go til 9pm Xmas Day -so no excuses for feeling alone . Hugs to all Louise*	abbyal	2	536	Dec 25, 2008 by NoVARaif
	do not understand (Preview) Hi All I just do not get it. We ( the kids and myself) ask are A over to open presant tonight. I get this thrid degree on how he dose not know where he is going to be and that I have not been asking question about how he is doing and where he is going to live and that I kicked him out and it is all back to it is my faul...	smileycat	4	589	Dec 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	Am I wrong? I need an interpreter (Preview) My AH drank some tequila at 10 am yesterday morning, then slept the entire day and night. It was his day off - he said he hasn't slept through the night in months because of his knee surgery and that he got to thinking and just drank because he wanted to go to sleep. He once had 14 years sober - until he met me...	Ash	8	562	Dec 24, 2008 by abbyal
	Serenity has arrived and I'm stunned at the power of the program (Preview) Hi MIP Family!, Just a quick post to say how grateful I am about this program. I know I have said similar things before, but today I feel even more grateful. The thing is, and this surprises me, I feel some sense of serenity, whether my AH continues drinking or not. How the heck did that happen? I know some o...	Rocky38	6	744	Dec 24, 2008 by LG
	article on drug rehab- interesting... (Preview) http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/23/health/23reha.html?partner=rss&emc=rss	Jean4444	3	541	Dec 24, 2008 by barisax
	Christmas Without AS (Preview) As someone helpfully suggested in an earlier post, I am trying to think about my 21-year-old son as a man and not my baby. My husband (his SF) refuses to let him back in the house even to visit. My son went to court on Thursday and didn't do what the judge ordered on Friday. I am not sure he'll follow through w...	Trinia2	4	452	Dec 24, 2008 by MamaMia
	Prayers for my AH Please MIP Family (Preview) Hi again MIP family, I just learned that my AH has been moved from the medical ward to ICU as he has fully entered DTs now. He was hallucinating, combative and confused. All this happened within an hour of my visit with him. During my visit with him this evening, he seemed OK. Maybe a little "fuzzy&q...	Rocky38	10	573	Dec 24, 2008 by Loupiness
	I haven't posted in a long time... (Preview) Healthy holiday wishes to all of you. I hope that you have some peace in the upcoming weeks. I haven't posted in about a month. My ExABF's birthday is the 26. Tomorrow is the birthday of my fiance who died 7 years ago--he should be turning 38. On top of that, it's Christmas week. So, basically, the on...	hopeful123	7	599	Dec 24, 2008 by hopeful123
	Help needed (Preview) I went ahead and stood my ground with my AW yesterday. I told her that her staying at home was no longer a negotiation and that she was to either find a recovery house or I would drop her off at a homeless shelter. She finally agreed to look up recovery houses and I told her she had until Thursday to have dec...	QuVat	4	599	Dec 23, 2008 by Jerry F
	Thanks! (Preview) I just wanted to say thank you to those of you that have responded to my post a couple of days ago. I have not been able to get to a face2face meeting yet due to scheduling, but if there is one thing that I picked up on here is that attending a face2face meeting is very important. Until I am able to get there, I...	helpme08	3	557	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	gaining some understanding about me and the 'its a disease' statement (Preview) Over the last few weeks of reading, listening to speakers, and doing online meetings ZI am finally grasping this osncept of 'I have to change.' But, knowing this, and knowing myself, I am reacting to it not so well. My thoughts are along the lines of 'oh great, another thing you've done WRONG.' I am an ac...	Lyndie	7	745	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	My first time (Preview) This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...	helpme08	3	573	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	Requesting Prayer or ESH for Christmas at Ex A's mom's tomorrow (Preview) Tomorrow is Christmas at my A's mom's house. I know the A will be there, but I am not really concerned. I am feeling stronger in that area. However, my dad upset me today by stating that everyone there probably feels sorry for me like a foster child and that the A doesn't even care about me, left me with a...	Codependent	4	537	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	Holiday struggles..... (Preview) I haven't been posting much, but have been here every day-usually several times a day reading and seeking the ESH from everyone's shares. I guess I haven't been posting much because right now I just don't feel I have anything good to give back. To be honest I am angry and filled with so much resentmen...	shellyj123	2	541	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	Two Kinds of People (Preview) How many times have you heard, "there are two kinds of people in the world, those who xxxxxx and those who yyyyyy". It's often a joke, or used to illustrate some point. Like, there are two kinds of people in the world, those who divide everybody into two kinds of people and those who don't....	barisax	8	605	Dec 23, 2008 by Jean4444
	just a question... (Preview) Hello all, and happy holidays to you and yours! I was wondering if any of you have any experience with the drug antabuse....if so, how well does it work, etc. Thanks for your input, its always appreciated! seeking peace, jeannie	liljeannie	6	616	Dec 23, 2008 by barisax
	New & feeling confused (Preview) Hi all, I am new to alanon, but unfortunately not new to alcoholism. I have been with my AB for 6 years, I for some reason didn't think that that I needed to do anything for myself. I figured it was his problem. He is in a 30 day treatment center, I committed him through the courts, his drinking was once a...	time4me	6	529	Dec 23, 2008 by nmike
	Making excuses? (Preview) If you're familiar with my last post "Now What" you'll know that I was trying very hard to keep any expectations I had of my newly sober wife in check. I heeded the excellent advice of fellow posters and decided to let go and wait for a sign from my HP. Unfortunately that sign came last night w...	QuVat	10	1113	Dec 23, 2008 by liljeannie
	New Here (Preview) Hello All! My story is long, so I'll just sum it up by saying that my husband isn't coming home tonight. I'd rather not see him at all, than to see him drunk AGAIN. We've been married for 9 years and have been dealing with his alcoholism for 3 years (since our son was born). He has cheated on me with a p...	N8SMOM	5	617	Dec 23, 2008 by nmike
	Why can't they just stop? (Preview) This has come up a few times recently. Why do they (fill in the blank)? Why can't they promise they will stop for their family? I don't know the answers for others, but for those that have those questions here is what I DO know. Alcohol is so powerful that eventually the body literally becomes depe...	Christy	7	832	Dec 22, 2008 by tma0413
	Do the holidays make anyone else wonder what an EX A is doing? (Preview) Christmas is almost here and this year I am finding it to be more difficult (emotionally) than other years. So much has changed in my life over the past year, some good, and some bad. I miss the people that I have lost in my life; either from death or because of choice. Yet I am so thankful for the relations...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	5	589	Dec 22, 2008 by glad lee
	Donation Frustration (Preview) I need your help. It is not a crisis, but I am getting frustrated. This year, instead of "usual" gifts, I am giving donations in people's names. For those who are in my AA/Al Anon family, I was trying to donate directly to World Service Office, and am finding myself running into walls. I s...	Tiger2006	2	730	Dec 21, 2008 by Karilynn
	Step 5-Feeling new....... (Preview) Well I made it through Step 5, and thought for sure I'd have a heart attack before hand-lol......I was certain NO ONE could understand, or not judge the insanity of my past. I mean I have judged me for years, why would another not? But thanks to the best sponser a girl could have, I made it through with...	shellyj123	1	524	Dec 21, 2008 by Jen
	fed up (Preview) Well, same ole, same ole. Nothing is changing, guess I need to change things for myself. The bf and I did drive around some together earlier today. Then, later on he leaves again for 5 hours. I went to the store just to get out of the house, and when I returned, we got into an argument. He tells me he was at his...	buick23	3	571	Dec 21, 2008 by Jen
	Decor in F2F meetings (Preview) My home group meeting room is so COLD, everything white or some shade of white. We are seriously considering painting and cleaning to make the room more homey instead of so sterile. The floor which is the only thing that has any color at all in it is a tile that is shades of grey...another sterile non de...	Mobirdie	12	595	Dec 21, 2008 by Jen
	Having a good week! (Preview) Hi everyone! I'm having a good week and wanted to post that I feel happy . I don't fully understand why I feel happy but, this the first "happy" I've felt in the last six months since I got married and came to the realization that I married an A. I shared for the first time on an online meeting las...	madmom	4	533	Dec 21, 2008 by madmom
	I'm seeing a pattern (Preview) I feel like I have basically done the same thing over and over again - only each time I get a little more serious about ending my marriage with my A. Of couse there have always been complaints about his bad behavior, and these complaints work for a time but he always goes right back to his old ways. It snea...	peace2me	24	887	Dec 21, 2008 by Christy
	Meetings meetings & more meetings! (Preview) I will be making lots of meetings this holiday season--we even plan to go to one of our local AA meeting on Christmas Day! It just happens to fall on that day. There probably won't be many people but we will be there to open the door! I will be at a sort of marathon type meeting tonight, too. It will be fun-...	Hoot Nanny	1	461	Dec 21, 2008 by ddub
	Feel So Despondent (Preview) My AS (possibly bipolar and drug addicted) racked up several court cases in several weeks. He has been incarcerated three times and hospitalized three times in the past 9 weeks. He went to court yesterday and was ordered to get a doctor today, get on meds, not drink or drug, and report to probation dail...	Trinia2	3	487	Dec 20, 2008 by DreamsOver
	another level of insight (Preview) I have had a really tough week with the roommates I have. I am certain one of them is now doing crack cocaine. He has become highly aggressive with me. That was one of the hallmarks of my ex A the aggressiveness. There were signs of that on Thanksgiving and I was not perceptive enough to take care of it....	maresie	4	683	Dec 20, 2008 by maresie
	Could use some healing thoughts... (Preview) My youngest AD had to take me to the ER at 5 this morning. I haven't been that sick in years and thought I was going to die. Some intestinal virus is going around, and I started vomiting and getting diarrhea around 11 last night. I ended up cramping so bad I was crying and had bloody diarrhea. I was on an IV for...	Tenderheartsks	10	612	Dec 20, 2008 by Jean4444
	Went to my first face to face (Preview) Tonight I went to my first face to face meeting. It was not an Alanon Meeting. It was a Celebrate Recovery Meeting and then a Codependency small group. I told the group I believed my primary addiction to be to my addict and my secondary to be to alcohol- as a coping mechanism to deal with my codependenc...	Codependent	8	5312	Dec 20, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	My first time (Preview) This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...	helpme08	5	641	Dec 20, 2008 by Lisa11397
	failing to keep the focus on myself (Preview) Today I'm having trouble focusing on myself and not the bf. Again, he's gone today. I asked him about why he doesn't want to do things together and he said that I'm always complaining when we are somewhere and I have to stop to go to the bathroom every 5 minutes. That really hurt. I wonder if I'm that bad,...	buick23	5	1259	Dec 20, 2008 by Jean4444
	New here... (Preview) Hi all, I am brand new here. I am 23 year old mother of a 2.5 year old daughter. And I am the wife of a drug addict. My husband has been addicted to pain meds for over 3 years. He has been in 5 car accidents (1 of which was very serious and caused the early birth of our daughter) and has 2 DUIs (he would have 1 more, b...	Laurenlou	9	773	Dec 20, 2008 by faithhopelove
	Newbie Question (Preview) Is this the best message board for the spouse of a recovering addict? Or is there a separate..."nar anon" or something? I know this may seem like a silly question. But I'm new to all of this. And I'm pretty much still reeling from recent events in my life...struggling with how to trust/love/kn...	BirdGal	10	607	Dec 20, 2008 by faithhopelove
	Where is Lunamoth!! (Preview) (((((Luna))))) if you chance to check in? Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year and as for me...you're still loved like crazy. Let us know how you are or send a messenger or something. (((((hugs)))))`	Jerry F	0	435	Dec 19, 2008 by Jerry F
	Just a quickie! (Preview) It doesn't matter how or when you celebrate the holiday season; just celebrate! I am trying to not be a Scrooge when it comes to my mother. If she had anywhere else to go, I would suggest it this year! I am still angry at the things she has pulled the last couple of days. Time to turn her over, I guess. My Ah &am...	Hoot Nanny	1	440	Dec 19, 2008 by Jerry F
	New to this. (Preview) Hi my name is Lisa I have a history of Alcohalism in my family my husband and MNL are also alcohalics and I need help coping with it. Thank you I'm nervous about this process but I want to be strong for myself and my kids.	Lisa11397	10	601	Dec 19, 2008 by Lisa11397
	new and not handling things well (Preview) Hi - My name is Felicia and I am new to the board. I have been reading it over while waiting for my membership to kick in. I am so hurt, confused, angry, devasted and carry so much guilt. I have been going to a counselor and she wanted me to check this out as well as a victim of domestic violence group. My story (...	Felicia	0	404	Dec 19, 2008 by Felicia
	AhHa Moment (Preview) While driving home from work tonight in an ice storm with lightening flashing and weather forcasts of impending critical conditions...I did something I've never before done. I said a silent prayer stating "I'm going to need your help getting home tonight" as suddenly as the thoughts...	Peggy7	4	654	Dec 19, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	Just in Case.... (Preview) Hi there everyone!!! It's been since August I have been able to get into this message board! GRRRRR!! I never know one day to the next when I log out if I'll be able to get back in here! <LOL> I have been reading everyone's posts for months now and it's driving me bonke...	afmom03	2	631	Dec 19, 2008 by Jerry F
	Now what? (Preview) Well here I am again. After two DUI's, losing her job, and nearly 3 months of hospitlization/rehab my wife and I are living together at home. Unfortunately as we all know things are never that easy and after 5 days together she has gone back to abusing perscription drugs (her first drug of choice is al...	QuVat	4	639	Dec 19, 2008 by Jerry F
	semihappy today (Preview) Hi all I have had a very good day to day. Work is going ok and home live is still the three of us ( myself and the 15g, and 18b) my AH is still at his mothers and not like it but that is his problem. New problem and handleing it? The girl is in chours and having fun but dose not want dad to come see her. I an letting h...	smileycat	1	592	Dec 19, 2008 by Jerry F
	SOME NEW ONE-LINERS TO THINK ABOUT (Preview) I could not progress in my own recovery until I learned to focus on MY own recovery. If you want to be original -- be yourself. If we put everything in Gods hands -- Gods hands will be in everything. If you want serenity , put God between you and your problem . The only thing we can change about the past is our a...	abbyal	7	1921	Dec 19, 2008 by Mobirdie
	Maturity vs. Immaturity (Preview) (Another old share from '06) I wandered into the chat room and was looking at the top of the screen where it says "topic" and was then thinking how people come in and ask "whats the topic?" which led me to thinking, gee wouldn't it be fun to have a "today's topic" every da...	kismetstrand	5	904	Dec 19, 2008 by carolinagirl
	rejection (Preview) Hallo all I havent visited the forum for almost two years. I previously used to attend alanon meetings regularly and i suddenly stoped when i felt better and able to cope with life. Around the same time i broke up with my recovering alcoholic. Just recently he became very interested in me again and want...	hopegrace	7	967	Dec 19, 2008 by hopegrace
	Can you ever be "friends" with someone you are in love with? (Preview) I know this is irrelevant really considering my circumstances, but the A told me he didn't understand why I couldn't be his friend just because he didn't want that kind of relationship with me at this particular time. Just thought I would throw that out as a topic for discussion.	Codependent	8	3667	Dec 18, 2008 by carolinagirl
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