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Why do I find it so hard to believe that my A's HP loves the A as much as I do? Why do I think I need to intercede on the A's behalf- afraid HP will want to punish the A or "let" him die?
Do you think the A has to be receptive to HP in order for HP to work in his life?
I was asked today if I thought animals have souls. I answered that it doesn't really matter if they do or don't....I have a soul and therefore I don't want to harm an animal or anyone because it will harm me. It would scar MY soul.
So, what does it matter if the A has a HP or acknowledges a HP? What matters is that I have a HP. And I can say a prayer that HP holds the A in HP's arms. Because I am NO HP. I tried to be the A's cause God knows he needed one. But I couldn't do it.
BTW, I do believe animals have souls...how could they not?
I am not sure why you find it hard to believe that the A's HP loves the A as much as you do. In fact, HP loves him more than you do. HP is so all-powerful and supernatural, in my opinion. HP is really unfathomable. The deepest of compassionate and loving. The perfection of love- in every way. HP is love itself. The embodiment of all love of all time.
The A's HP loves him MORE than you or anyone else ever could. MUCH MUCH more. Its a love affair that you could never fathom, nor could any other human. This is also true of you and your HP. Your HP loves you so much more and with total acceptance and unconditional affection. Regardless of what you do or do not do- your HP is so constant and loving and right there at all times, loving you like you cannot even begin to imagine.
It seems to me your post is about you and your belief systems re: HP which is good progress for you, even though you are still focusing that exploration of HP via your A. Its a baby step to placing the focus on you! Nice work! Hugs, J.
I agree with what serendipity said about it not mattering whether the A needs to believe in a HP in order for HP to work in A's life.
For you, it depends on your definition of your HP whether or not you think that is possible. Is your HP a loving, caring one, or a vindictive, punishing one?
You asked "Why do I think I need to intercede on the A's behalf- afraid HP will want to punish the A or "let" him die?"
Anytime I feel the need to "intercede" that is about two things. First my old need to control and second not trusting in my Higher Power. When I started believing deep down that my HP loved me unconditionally even with all the warts I have, I started understanding that He could also love everyone, including seemingly self destructing alcoholics.
I also understand now that my intercession between someone and their HP makes it even harder for HP to communicate with someone He is already having a hard time reaching! I need to get out of the way.
Cody I was just going to jump in and respond to your question and then I decided to wait, watch and read and I'm glad I did. I am humbled by the responses you received...so much better and well put than what came to my mind. The heart is a finer mirror of a person than the mind.
You ask "why do I think I need to intercede..." The answer for me is in the answers you got from Jean, David and Serendipity and the history I had for forgetting that there is a God and that God is greater than myself, and I need to always remember that and trust the relationship my God has with It's creation not mine.
What a great question for a meeting discussion. I will try it out at one of my next ones.
For David, Jean and Serendipity your ESH brought me to tears. I'm glad I showed up here to check in before going to sleep.
One of the readers has a day that talks about how the way we relate to a tiny kitten (or puppy, if you're totally not a cat person ) is a hint of the way our HP relates to us. We see that helpless, sweet thing and pick it up, nurture it, pet it, feed it, try to teach it (!), and cry when we have to let it go live somewhere else. That natural outpouring of affection and care and wonder is just a hint of how HP marvels at US.
I think some of it is that we feel out of control and afraid. When we make decisions out of fear we do not make good ones.
I know for me when I let go of the A and let him fall it was very very difficult. I had done so much to block all kinds of falls before. When I stopped answering his calls I expected to hear that he had died or something. As far as I am aware (and I let go of that as well) he has not. I feel overly responsible for others. That is one reason why I find boundaries so difficult. I feel like to cut people off is not something I can do.
) is a hint of the way our HP relates to us. We see that helpless, sweet thing and pick it up, nurture it, pet it, feed it, try to teach it (!), and cry when we have to let it go live somewhere else. That natural outpouring of affection and care and wonder is just a hint of how HP marvels at US.