Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

StephanieKay · StephanieKay

Hello all. My name is Stephanie and I'm a 26 - year old daughter of a recovering addict. Make that a daughter, niece, granddaughter, sister, etc of several current / recovering addicts. I have found this place after many years of detaching. The purpose I want to achieve is to let go of the hurt and be...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family....I was out side doing some carpentry stuff and just focusing and then free wheeling with my brain and then I got locked up on some current events that are growing here in the islands and also up where you all are at. Lots of guns sales. Lots of angry out of control guys out there with guns. ...

HangingOn · HangingOn

Hi All...AH came home from 30 day rehab yesterday. He is saying all the right things and attended AA last night and tonight. I left him alone for 1.5 hours tonight after he returned from his AA meeting. When I got back he seemed high. He took one 100 mg. seroquel (provided by his rehab doc) and claimed...

florida · florida

tried to sign up for DUI class (first time offense) in Florida. Told since it was a MA license I need to do the MA hours requirement. In FL first DUI is 12 hrs, subsequent is 22? - anyone know the amount in MA? I may need to take the 2nd offense DUI class hours YES I got stuck for my boyfriends DUI! changed seats...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I finally took the kids to visit my ex ah. He was released from prison about 6 weeks ago and is living in an oxford house. He paid $500 on his child support this month and I agreed to bring them down to see him. He took them to the beach and out shopping and the kids had a good day. Even the oldest went (...

GypsyRose71 · GypsyRose71

Well, I just wanted to say helllo to all the al-anon members, i have been one for a few years though havent posted in a long time, much has happened since my last post, My A has been on and off the wagon, he made it 16 months, since then he has struggled to get back to where he was. I have learned a lot in the past...

Gailey · Gailey

I had a nice weekend planned at our beach home in Delaware. The weather was about 75 degrees on Saturday. My older A son went to NC for a fishing tournament. My youngerr A son lives in Japan. I could not settle my mind thinking that things were not right with either one of them. I was awake half the night on Sa...

debilyn · debilyn

debilyn here. Karilynn I am so sad about the theft. You are such a nice person and I know you took it hard. When I think about how my aunt did not give me my gma's rings as gma wanted..rrrr I think how I had a special love with grama. I am like you and hold sentimental value for my jewely from others. My daughter...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, I went with my AH to the beach this easter weekend. Had fun. This is the fist vacation since I got pregnant that he didn't get drunk. Our daughter is so attached to him, she cries when he leaves for the supermarket. As I posted before, we are not currently living together, although we do have a relation...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Although I've mostly posted about my life with my AH, I have a brother who is an A too. His disease came to a head about the same time as my AH's (about 3 yrs ago) but emotionally I could just barely handle my own life. It became obvious very early on that there was nothing I could do but add to my craziness. M...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I know some of you out there have dealt with or are dealing with an A who has a disease or condition that normally would require them to stop drinking and the keep drinking anyway. The way of their addiction/disease. My Ah has cardiomyopathy, thickening of the heart muscle, this is partially due to untr...

clara · clara

To say I am exhausted would be putting it mildly. Some of you remember my post about my friend being in the hospital. She is in a medically induced coma. I think they are waiting for her sister from California to get to her bedside. Then they plan on disconnecting life support. My friend fought the go...

chezza · chezza

Hello everyone I'd like to share with you people who have helped me so much through your continued posting on here sharing what's really going on. I yesterday realised how far along the way I come due to working my program. I openly admitted fault to playing games and the lying about my deepest feeling...

rosepaull07 · rosepaull07

Hi, I'm rose. I have been to about 3 Al Anon meetings but haven't gone in 3 weeks. Im kind of in a slump and cant seem to make myself do anything. Ive been reading the board for the past few days and decided I want to write. Im hoping there will be some inspirational words here for me, but if not that maybe just...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Happy Sunday too ya all... I am in a slump...I have stend two days this weekend, trim grass at Dad's and going thru all his belongings, it is draining me of all I have left...I think I spent half the afternoon here once I got back going to his old clothes, see what I can pass on and give away to good wil...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

I'm new to posting but have been lurking for a while. You have all been very insirational and helpful. I see a myself in all of you. I have been using detachment and boundaries for a while now, and it finally had an impact on my AH. He finally understood over the weekend that he has a huge problem, and...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), My mother's jewlery was taken from my apartment. I noticed this morning when I went to look for a specific pair of earrings and I couldn't find them. I thought I had leant them to my niece for her vacation and couldn't remember doing so. When I went to look for them in my box I noticed some o...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Dear All, Thank you to the people who facilitate this. I am going to just give it a whirl, and am grateful for the opportuinty. I moved to the UK four years ago and W-O-W are there some cultural differences. Istarted my recovery in NEw York City. I am very much in stress over how to proceed with my recovery...

Ness · Ness

Before I found the ES&H here at MIP, and my f2f meetings, I would not have been able to do what I'm doing now to give support to my son. I feel I have progressed (slowly), step by step, since January when the days seemed so dark I didn't want to get out of bed ever again. In detaching from my A son's d...

Rora · Rora

I've been thinking a lot about acceptance lately. I've always considered myself as one whom is pretty in touch with reality...funny, "considered" does not necessarily mean truth. Having given it further thought, I think that what I do when I don't like my reality or when I find it painfu...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I had mentioned to my husband the other day that I was thinking about going to the 2009 Arizona Area Al-Anon/Alateen Convention being held June 5 - 7 in Tucson. I wasn't sure if I could definitely go since I wasn't sure what my husband's schedule would be like (whether or not he'd be back to work by then)...

TheArtOf · TheArtOf

My former spouse has been fighting the disease for going on ten years. Finally, last year she entered a treatment program to which she bought in to; admitting to herself that she has a problem and wanting to overcome it. She completed that treatment last fall and has had a relapse or two along the way....

clara · clara

A very good friend of mine is in the hospital and is not expected to live. I have known Helen for over 27 years. She and her husband were the first friendship my husband and I formed after we first got married. She survived cancer only to probably die from pneumonia. She is on a respirator and cannot sp...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Good morning my family. Needless to say, it hasn't been a fun couple of days. I am still uncomfortable in my home. Even though there was no forced entry I am sleeping with a light on in the other room. I am double checking my locks, etc. I know this is normal after this. It's gonna take s...

david62 · david62

Good morning, (((Family))) Today is the 5 yr anniversary of the first time I drug myself to a recovery meeting. This meeting was at an AA/Al-Anon conference that my now ex-wife's sponsor asked my ex to suggest I attend. I will be leaving after lunch today to go to that very same conference (I have made...

jiver76 · jiver76

When my (now sober) Abf and I got back together last year I think we were both being niave and unrealistic. I think we thought it would all work out now that he's sober. Unfortunately it's harder than both of us thought it would be. And I think that might be mainly down to me. I'm finding it hard to trust...

RLC · RLC

Hello All, Taking care of yourself first was one of the first things I heard when I walked through the doors of Al-Anon 2 1/2 years ago. After a few meetings it hit home with me and I have done my best to do that very thing. Yet, I was reminded once again last Tuesday night at my Al-Anon meeting that I don't al...

Jozie · Jozie

I haven't been much of a help these last couple of days to anyone, including myself, those that are following along with my "Drama" Know that it has been Long & Drug out when it comes to Abrother, and Deseased Afather's belongings... I am starting to feel more Strength in the things I am g...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband will more than likely be getting out of detox today (been in since Friday). He doesn't want to stay at the facility for their In-Patient program because he's already done that (3 years ago). He said that he plans to go to AA meetings until he can find an Out-Patient Program that works for him...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Yes, PURRRRRFECTION is better than PERFECTION NO, I have NOT LOST THE PLOT: read on... The last couple of weeks have been trying to say the least, however, I am now quite certain that the programme is beginning to work for me in a most incredible way. Some of you will know that my relationship with my daug...

Inpain · Inpain

None of my friends would call me an introvert. However in the past few months, I'm a hermit. I hate leaving my house. My husband has cheated on me and I honestly felt like I had PTSD. I have a very hard time leaving the house. The phone will ring and it shakes me to the core. I'm VERY happy in my comfort zo...

Tracy · Tracy

A new comer is reaching out to me I have given her my number and have given her a lift to meetings ect. I have answered her texts and tried to encourage her to keep coming back. Has anyone got any ESH on the first time in their recovery when new people began to turn to them. I have only been in recovery for 18...

Inpain · Inpain

I am seriously dysfunctional. For many reasons...hey, aren't we all? I'm NOW learning all this about myself and slowly, daily trying to recover from years of self loathing and never feeling worthy enough. If you were to have asked me about my parents BEFORE my husband's infidelity and our big brea...

Dakota111 · Dakota111

Hello I'm new to the board/forum as I need help coping with my wife who is a drunk. she's a funtional drunk as she holds a very good job and when she comes home she starts drinking. yes we've had words about it and now she attempts to hide the bottles all over the house. she doesn't believe she has a drinking p...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I've been attending several Al-Anon meetings for almost 3 weeks now and have found a few "favorites," one of them being Monday night at 8:00 (I really like all the people there). Well I just found out that the Out-Patient Program my husband wants to get into is on Mon., Tue., and Thur. I can...

Holly09 · Holly09

I finally ordered Getting Them Sober. A highly recommended book by al-anoners. I am looking forward to reading it and learning from it! Just another baby step for me. Holly

barisax · barisax

All non-instinctive human behavior is learned. Instinctive would be breathing, eating, going to the bathroom, seeking shelter, a desire for companionship, and a drive to procreate. Pretty much everything else is learned. So where have we learned to be normal? Most of us who grew up in alcohol...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family... Part of my day was taking some "stuff" to the local AA club that they might use in their meetings. It was raining (duh...) still and there was a young fellow sitting in a chair outside in the covered waiting area smoking cigarettes. No eye contact no body language to signa...

Rita G · Rita G

This weekend is the Lake Area Round-Up AA Convention in Lake Charles, Louisiana. On Saturday I will be the Al-Anon Speaker at 1 pm. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. This will be my first time to share my story since leaving my ex in November. My ex is still attending meetings and "play...

clara · clara

Have not heard from daughter since her phone call admonishing us for not taking her to Houston with us for Easter. She has not called, and neither have I. After listening again to her message, we are very sure she was drinking. She is supposed to be in therapy for the mental part of her addiction. I am n...

Inpain · Inpain

Yes. You would see my picture in the dictionary next to the definition. I can't make a decision to save my life. So, I'm hoping others here can give opinions and at least I can TRY to make a decision. First a small history...My AH cheated on me last fall. I found out in December and it's been a horrific e...

aunitedway · aunitedway

acceptance.... came to me to fill my heart as i walked thru the first three steps. ... i knew my life had become unmanageable ... i had accepted i needed alanons help. once i had this .. the will the ability to allow my higher power to help me came easier. it got easier each day to...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Why can't people just say what they're thinking/feeling and let the chips fall where they may? Seems as if it's always I'm gonna tell em this but I'm really thinking that or I'm only gonna tell part of what I'm feeling and not say the rest for fear of what the other may say or do. The other thing is why can'...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

For the strangest reason, i find myself missing my ex AH more not less, even though my life is calmer. Because he got in touch via silent phone calls, i thought he missed me, he was just waiting to have a go at me (see previous post) but now his sister has asked him to leave me alone, now i feel left alone..fri...

Aquastrm · Aquastrm

I just wanted to let everyone know i thank you for all your advise and help on the board. My dad the night b-4 came to me and stated that he wanted me to give my AH a message from him about that he love's and cares about him like a son and he hope's that him and i work it out. I told him why dont you tell him? He said ok...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

...it seems as if its a broken record- try to attend some face to face al-anon meetings and see what happens! All you have to lose is an hour of your time or less because you can always choose to walk out if you want. Its the most basic and most relevant piece of information on this board that is often repea...

Aquastrm · Aquastrm

Hello all, Ok gotta get it off my chest and get opinions on the coversation with my AH this weekend. Well it started off with him getting drunk to the point of falling out of the shower 3 times while taking a 15 min shower. Then when it came down to dinner he wouldnt come into the house due to the fact my parent...

Maria123 · Maria123

The other night my son was sucker punched, dragged from the metro in D.C., kicked while he was down on the ground by 6 black punks. 6 against 1. Wheres the justice in that? He's all of 150 lbs. and 5'8". And all because he stood up for other people who he felt were more vulnerable than he was. No one else...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The ex got a cell phone and we have been talking and texting. It has been friendly and polite although I know he wants me back and I'm not interested in going down that road again not to mention I'm very happy with someone else now. I'm hoping we can be "friends" and he can see the kids and maint...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So yesterday was Easter and I made all the phone calls to wish folks a happy easter. Momma called me back and tells me up front that Sarah Sperry, my step sister, had a huge fiasco. She had moved down to TX with her boyfriend and moved in with him, not engaged, no backup plan, etc. And I was like, from the begi...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

As much as I wish I wasn't...I am.... still stuck. Still unable to move forward just yet. I'm getting to work, and taking care of my son and other things are still falling behind-laundry, yard work and other chores, and being a single parent this is not good. Haven't heard from EXABF and I can'...

Tracy · Tracy

Havent posted for a bit my computer playing up again. I was doing so well after the convention really got the focus on me although I decided to let AB go to be able to do this. Does recovery count if you can only do it when single its not detaching with love. But I never did it to make him change I did it cause...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

my AS just called, he is working on his bathroom (he stays rent free in a home I own), now he says he need a new hot water heater, we have helped with buying the fixtures he has needed. Also, he needs new tires, he needs to pay a ticket ($500) next week for not having car insurance, he needs to buy the car insur...

odaat · odaat

Hello all! I am returning to the board after realizing I can not do this alone anymore. My husbands drinking is spiraling out of control. We have a beautiful 8 year old daughter that deserves a normal childhood. She rarely has friends over since he is so unpredictable. I am a teacher in a local pub...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I just got back from a wonderful holiday with my kids to Southern California, Disneyland, etc... One of our many highlights was to take in an LA Angels v. Oakland A's baseball game, and we did so on April 8th. The starting pitcher for the A's that night was a young 23-year old - Nick Adenhart - who pitche...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Just wanted to thank you for everything yesterday. I needed to be mad to get to the serenity. I'm feeling alot better today. Thanks again.

Jozie · Jozie

OK, So... Tonight i have to call the land owners and see if they will agree to let baby Sister move in the trailer, they have done said... NO WAY Abrother, but I am HOPING for HP to carry me thru on this one... Here's the thing... When I got the certified letter, I called and told Abrother that he had till the...

Holly9 · Holly9

My husband and I have been together for 14 years now. We were 20 when we met. Drinking and partying were part of the age we were in but he had never slowed down. He has always been so easy going, funny, great sense of humor. He has been sober now for about 3 1/2 months. I know it's not that long but he is a to...

Jehnifer · Jehnifer

...my stomach hurts becasue of this recurring issue. I am mad at myself for not being able to handle it... Ive been remarried almost three years. My husband doesnt like it when my teenage daughter has friends over. I think its because his own daughters don't live with us and he feels jealous or sad. Bu...

Ness · Ness

sapped my Strength of late, but still hanging on to Hope by my fingernails. ALCOHOLISM is an EXPERIENCE of the last six years that has taken me to my knees.... My strength finally departed a few weeks ago...... after weeks of cries for help from my Ason, with him rejecting suggestions (all which ha...

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	Starting (Preview) Hello all. My name is Stephanie and I'm a 26 - year old daughter of a recovering addict. Make that a daughter, niece, granddaughter, sister, etc of several current / recovering addicts. I have found this place after many years of detaching. The purpose I want to achieve is to let go of the hurt and be...	StephanieKay	5	539	Apr 21, 2009 by Jerry F
	My ESH... (Preview) Aloha Family....I was out side doing some carpentry stuff and just focusing and then free wheeling with my brain and then I got locked up on some current events that are growing here in the islands and also up where you all are at. Lots of guns sales. Lots of angry out of control guys out there with guns. ...	Jerry F	7	985	Apr 20, 2009 by Jean4444
	AH home yesterday from rehab...seroquel response or booze???? (Preview) Hi All...AH came home from 30 day rehab yesterday. He is saying all the right things and attended AA last night and tonight. I left him alone for 1.5 hours tonight after he returned from his AA meeting. When I got back he seemed high. He took one 100 mg. seroquel (provided by his rehab doc) and claimed...	HangingOn	9	1063	Apr 20, 2009 by HangingOn
	how many hours first time DUI in Massachusetts? (Preview) tried to sign up for DUI class (first time offense) in Florida. Told since it was a MA license I need to do the MA hours requirement. In FL first DUI is 12 hrs, subsequent is 22? - anyone know the amount in MA? I may need to take the 2nd offense DUI class hours YES I got stuck for my boyfriends DUI! changed seats...	florida	3	3354	Apr 20, 2009 by Sincerely
	Took the kids to visit (Preview) Well, I finally took the kids to visit my ex ah. He was released from prison about 6 weeks ago and is living in an oxford house. He paid $500 on his child support this month and I agreed to bring them down to see him. He took them to the beach and out shopping and the kids had a good day. Even the oldest went (...	carolinagirl	3	591	Apr 20, 2009 by wildthang86
	I have returned (Preview) Well, I just wanted to say helllo to all the al-anon members, i have been one for a few years though havent posted in a long time, much has happened since my last post, My A has been on and off the wagon, he made it 16 months, since then he has struggled to get back to where he was. I have learned a lot in the past...	GypsyRose71	1	556	Apr 20, 2009 by Karilynn
	my immagination ruined my weekend (Preview) I had a nice weekend planned at our beach home in Delaware. The weather was about 75 degrees on Saturday. My older A son went to NC for a fishing tournament. My youngerr A son lives in Japan. I could not settle my mind thinking that things were not right with either one of them. I was awake half the night on Sa...	Gailey	8	831	Apr 20, 2009 by abbyal
	Hi, missed ya'll so much (Preview) debilyn here. Karilynn I am so sad about the theft. You are such a nice person and I know you took it hard. When I think about how my aunt did not give me my gma's rings as gma wanted..rrrr I think how I had a special love with grama. I am like you and hold sentimental value for my jewely from others. My daughter...	debilyn	6	852	Apr 20, 2009 by Rita G
	This is so hard! (Preview) So, I went with my AH to the beach this easter weekend. Had fun. This is the fist vacation since I got pregnant that he didn't get drunk. Our daughter is so attached to him, she cries when he leaves for the supermarket. As I posted before, we are not currently living together, although we do have a relation...	Priscilla83	7	1854	Apr 20, 2009 by maresie
	is it worth it? (Preview) Although I've mostly posted about my life with my AH, I have a brother who is an A too. His disease came to a head about the same time as my AH's (about 3 yrs ago) but emotionally I could just barely handle my own life. It became obvious very early on that there was nothing I could do but add to my craziness. M...	Loupiness	8	1032	Apr 20, 2009 by maresie
	How sick am I? (Preview) I know some of you out there have dealt with or are dealing with an A who has a disease or condition that normally would require them to stop drinking and the keep drinking anyway. The way of their addiction/disease. My Ah has cardiomyopathy, thickening of the heart muscle, this is partially due to untr...	wildthang86	5	902	Apr 20, 2009 by hotrod
	Did not know a person could be this tired!!!! (Preview) To say I am exhausted would be putting it mildly. Some of you remember my post about my friend being in the hospital. She is in a medically induced coma. I think they are waiting for her sister from California to get to her bedside. Then they plan on disconnecting life support. My friend fought the go...	clara	2	759	Apr 20, 2009 by Tiger2006
	breaking the chain of lies and deceit (Preview) Hello everyone I'd like to share with you people who have helped me so much through your continued posting on here sharing what's really going on. I yesterday realised how far along the way I come due to working my program. I openly admitted fault to playing games and the lying about my deepest feeling...	chezza	3	643	Apr 20, 2009 by Jozie
	new to the board, new to al anon (Preview) Hi, I'm rose. I have been to about 3 Al Anon meetings but haven't gone in 3 weeks. Im kind of in a slump and cant seem to make myself do anything. Ive been reading the board for the past few days and decided I want to write. Im hoping there will be some inspirational words here for me, but if not that maybe just...	rosepaull07	6	843	Apr 20, 2009 by rosepaull07
	Blahhhh (Preview) Welp... Happy Sunday too ya all... I am in a slump...I have stend two days this weekend, trim grass at Dad's and going thru all his belongings, it is draining me of all I have left...I think I spent half the afternoon here once I got back going to his old clothes, see what I can pass on and give away to good wil...	Jozie	6	779	Apr 20, 2009 by rosepaull07
	How to Prepare for Hubby home from detox (Preview) I'm new to posting but have been lurking for a while. You have all been very insirational and helpful. I see a myself in all of you. I have been using detachment and boundaries for a while now, and it finally had an impact on my AH. He finally understood over the weekend that he has a huge problem, and...	MissyPoo	10	878	Apr 20, 2009 by MissyPoo
	Robbed (Preview) (((Family))), My mother's jewlery was taken from my apartment. I noticed this morning when I went to look for a specific pair of earrings and I couldn't find them. I thought I had leant them to my niece for her vacation and couldn't remember doing so. When I went to look for them in my box I noticed some o...	Karilynn	16	961	Apr 20, 2009 by Jean4444
	new to group - need suggestions: sick meetings (Preview) Dear All, Thank you to the people who facilitate this. I am going to just give it a whirl, and am grateful for the opportuinty. I moved to the UK four years ago and W-O-W are there some cultural differences. Istarted my recovery in NEw York City. I am very much in stress over how to proceed with my recovery...	alanonicScotland	4	609	Apr 19, 2009 by hotrod
	Coping.... (Preview) Before I found the ES&H here at MIP, and my f2f meetings, I would not have been able to do what I'm doing now to give support to my son. I feel I have progressed (slowly), step by step, since January when the days seemed so dark I didn't want to get out of bed ever again. In detaching from my A son's d...	Ness	3	733	Apr 19, 2009 by debilyn
	Accepting my reality...even if it is painful (Preview) I've been thinking a lot about acceptance lately. I've always considered myself as one whom is pretty in touch with reality...funny, "considered" does not necessarily mean truth. Having given it further thought, I think that what I do when I don't like my reality or when I find it painfu...	Rora	5	1111	Apr 18, 2009 by nmike
	That was a Shock!! (Preview) I had mentioned to my husband the other day that I was thinking about going to the 2009 Arizona Area Al-Anon/Alateen Convention being held June 5 - 7 in Tucson. I wasn't sure if I could definitely go since I wasn't sure what my husband's schedule would be like (whether or not he'd be back to work by then)...	N8SMOM	2	810	Apr 18, 2009 by Jerry F
	Recovery (Preview) My former spouse has been fighting the disease for going on ten years. Finally, last year she entered a treatment program to which she bought in to; admitting to herself that she has a problem and wanting to overcome it. She completed that treatment last fall and has had a relapse or two along the way....	TheArtOf	1	708	Apr 18, 2009 by Jerry F
	So sad tonight!!!! (Preview) A very good friend of mine is in the hospital and is not expected to live. I have known Helen for over 27 years. She and her husband were the first friendship my husband and I formed after we first got married. She survived cancer only to probably die from pneumonia. She is on a respirator and cannot sp...	clara	11	835	Apr 18, 2009 by RLC
	Coping & Gratitude (Preview) (((Family))), Good morning my family. Needless to say, it hasn't been a fun couple of days. I am still uncomfortable in my home. Even though there was no forced entry I am sleeping with a light on in the other room. I am double checking my locks, etc. I know this is normal after this. It's gonna take s...	Karilynn	4	708	Apr 18, 2009 by RLC
	The 12 Steps of Pre-Program (Preview) Good morning, (((Family))) Today is the 5 yr anniversary of the first time I drug myself to a recovery meeting. This meeting was at an AA/Al-Anon conference that my now ex-wife's sponsor asked my ex to suggest I attend. I will be leaving after lunch today to go to that very same conference (I have made...	david62	12	848	Apr 18, 2009 by masspedirn
	Reality (Preview) When my (now sober) Abf and I got back together last year I think we were both being niave and unrealistic. I think we thought it would all work out now that he's sober. Unfortunately it's harder than both of us thought it would be. And I think that might be mainly down to me. I'm finding it hard to trust...	jiver76	4	887	Apr 18, 2009 by Inpain
	Always Take Care Of Yourself First (Preview) Hello All, Taking care of yourself first was one of the first things I heard when I walked through the doors of Al-Anon 2 1/2 years ago. After a few meetings it hit home with me and I have done my best to do that very thing. Yet, I was reminded once again last Tuesday night at my Al-Anon meeting that I don't al...	RLC	6	1713	Apr 18, 2009 by wildthang86
	Still Learning My Strengths & Weakness's (Preview) I haven't been much of a help these last couple of days to anyone, including myself, those that are following along with my "Drama" Know that it has been Long & Drug out when it comes to Abrother, and Deseased Afather's belongings... I am starting to feel more Strength in the things I am g...	Jozie	3	1034	Apr 18, 2009 by Jerry F
	Is this being too controlling (Preview) My husband will more than likely be getting out of detox today (been in since Friday). He doesn't want to stay at the facility for their In-Patient program because he's already done that (3 years ago). He said that he plans to go to AA meetings until he can find an Out-Patient Program that works for him...	N8SMOM	6	811	Apr 17, 2009 by debilyn
	Purrrrrfection is better than perfection... (Preview) Yes, PURRRRRFECTION is better than PERFECTION NO, I have NOT LOST THE PLOT: read on... The last couple of weeks have been trying to say the least, however, I am now quite certain that the programme is beginning to work for me in a most incredible way. Some of you will know that my relationship with my daug...	Suzannah	4	744	Apr 17, 2009 by debilyn
	Introverted anyone? (Preview) None of my friends would call me an introvert. However in the past few months, I'm a hermit. I hate leaving my house. My husband has cheated on me and I honestly felt like I had PTSD. I have a very hard time leaving the house. The phone will ring and it shakes me to the core. I'm VERY happy in my comfort zo...	Inpain	7	810	Apr 17, 2009 by Maria123
	sponsorship (Preview) A new comer is reaching out to me I have given her my number and have given her a lift to meetings ect. I have answered her texts and tried to encourage her to keep coming back. Has anyone got any ESH on the first time in their recovery when new people began to turn to them. I have only been in recovery for 18...	Tracy	2	566	Apr 17, 2009 by Maria123
	Family of Origin! (Preview) I am seriously dysfunctional. For many reasons...hey, aren't we all? I'm NOW learning all this about myself and slowly, daily trying to recover from years of self loathing and never feeling worthy enough. If you were to have asked me about my parents BEFORE my husband's infidelity and our big brea...	Inpain	2	813	Apr 17, 2009 by Maria123
	Hello everybody (Preview) Hello I'm new to the board/forum as I need help coping with my wife who is a drunk. she's a funtional drunk as she holds a very good job and when she comes home she starts drinking. yes we've had words about it and now she attempts to hide the bottles all over the house. she doesn't believe she has a drinking p...	Dakota111	11	782	Apr 17, 2009 by maresie
	Feeling very Selfish (Preview) I've been attending several Al-Anon meetings for almost 3 weeks now and have found a few "favorites," one of them being Monday night at 8:00 (I really like all the people there). Well I just found out that the Out-Patient Program my husband wants to get into is on Mon., Tue., and Thur. I can...	N8SMOM	10	795	Apr 17, 2009 by glad lee
	For Myself (Preview) I finally ordered Getting Them Sober. A highly recommended book by al-anoners. I am looking forward to reading it and learning from it! Just another baby step for me. Holly	Holly09	3	416	Apr 17, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Where Did We Learn To Be Normal? (Preview) All non-instinctive human behavior is learned. Instinctive would be breathing, eating, going to the bathroom, seeking shelter, a desire for companionship, and a drive to procreate. Pretty much everything else is learned. So where have we learned to be normal? Most of us who grew up in alcohol...	barisax	15	1050	Apr 16, 2009 by barisax
	Can't outdistance my HP... (Preview) Aloha Family... Part of my day was taking some "stuff" to the local AA club that they might use in their meetings. It was raining (duh...) still and there was a young fellow sitting in a chair outside in the covered waiting area smoking cigarettes. No eye contact no body language to signa...	Jerry F	6	1110	Apr 16, 2009 by Tracy
	Lake Area Round-Up Convention (Preview) This weekend is the Lake Area Round-Up AA Convention in Lake Charles, Louisiana. On Saturday I will be the Al-Anon Speaker at 1 pm. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. This will be my first time to share my story since leaving my ex in November. My ex is still attending meetings and "play...	Rita G	6	890	Apr 16, 2009 by Rita G
	Is this the calm before the storm (Preview) Have not heard from daughter since her phone call admonishing us for not taking her to Houston with us for Easter. She has not called, and neither have I. After listening again to her message, we are very sure she was drinking. She is supposed to be in therapy for the mental part of her addiction. I am n...	clara	3	825	Apr 16, 2009 by abbyal
	Typical Co-Dependent (Preview) Yes. You would see my picture in the dictionary next to the definition. I can't make a decision to save my life. So, I'm hoping others here can give opinions and at least I can TRY to make a decision. First a small history...My AH cheated on me last fall. I found out in December and it's been a horrific e...	Inpain	8	762	Apr 16, 2009 by Inpain
	acceptance.... (Preview) *acceptance....* came to me to fill my heart as i walked thru the first three steps. ... i knew my life had become unmanageable ... i had accepted i needed alanons help. once i had this .. the will the ability to allow my higher power to help me came easier. it got easier each day to...	aunitedway	4	1102	Apr 16, 2009 by david62
	Why cant???? (Preview) Why can't people just say what they're thinking/feeling and let the chips fall where they may? Seems as if it's always I'm gonna tell em this but I'm really thinking that or I'm only gonna tell part of what I'm feeling and not say the rest for fear of what the other may say or do. The other thing is why can'...	carolinagirl	5	622	Apr 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	How can I miss him..am I delusional (Preview) For the strangest reason, i find myself missing my ex AH more not less, even though my life is calmer. Because he got in touch via silent phone calls, i thought he missed me, he was just waiting to have a go at me (see previous post) but now his sister has asked him to leave me alone, now i feel left alone..fri...	Lilly Burn	10	701	Apr 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	Thanks (Preview) I just wanted to let everyone know i thank you for all your advise and help on the board. My dad the night b-4 came to me and stated that he wanted me to give my AH a message from him about that he love's and cares about him like a son and he hope's that him and i work it out. I told him why dont you tell him? He said ok...	Aquastrm	2	602	Apr 16, 2009 by Jerry F
	F2F (Preview) ...it seems as if its a broken record- try to attend some face to face al-anon meetings and see what happens! All you have to lose is an hour of your time or less because you can always choose to walk out if you want. Its the most basic and most relevant piece of information on this board that is often repea...	Jean4444	7	785	Apr 15, 2009 by Maria123
	Ruff Weekend (Preview) Hello all, Ok gotta get it off my chest and get opinions on the coversation with my AH this weekend. Well it started off with him getting drunk to the point of falling out of the shower 3 times while taking a 15 min shower. Then when it came down to dinner he wouldnt come into the house due to the fact my parent...	Aquastrm	6	875	Apr 15, 2009 by freefalling
	I am trying not to be so angry (Preview) The other night my son was sucker punched, dragged from the metro in D.C., kicked while he was down on the ground by 6 black punks. 6 against 1. Wheres the justice in that? He's all of 150 lbs. and 5'8". And all because he stood up for other people who he felt were more vulnerable than he was. No one else...	Maria123	14	950	Apr 15, 2009 by Maria123
	Been talking to the ex AH (Preview) The ex got a cell phone and we have been talking and texting. It has been friendly and polite although I know he wants me back and I'm not interested in going down that road again not to mention I'm very happy with someone else now. I'm hoping we can be "friends" and he can see the kids and maint...	carolinagirl	4	704	Apr 15, 2009 by maresie
	I'll feel better eventually (Preview) So yesterday was Easter and I made all the phone calls to wish folks a happy easter. Momma called me back and tells me up front that Sarah Sperry, my step sister, had a huge fiasco. She had moved down to TX with her boyfriend and moved in with him, not engaged, no backup plan, etc. And I was like, from the begi...	Tiger2006	6	765	Apr 15, 2009 by maresie
	Still stuck in this feelingless, confusing, numb fog.....What is HP trying to tell me? (Preview) As much as I wish I wasn't...I am.... still stuck. Still unable to move forward just yet. I'm getting to work, and taking care of my son and other things are still falling behind-laundry, yard work and other chores, and being a single parent this is not good. Haven't heard from EXABF and I can'...	shellyj123	6	1613	Apr 15, 2009 by gngcrzy
	my recovery (Preview) Havent posted for a bit my computer playing up again. I was doing so well after the convention really got the focus on me although I decided to let AB go to be able to do this. Does recovery count if you can only do it when single its not detaching with love. But I never did it to make him change I did it cause...	Tracy	3	839	Apr 15, 2009 by RunnerChick
	I Can't Keep All The Balls In The Air....... (Preview) my AS just called, he is working on his bathroom (he stays rent free in a home I own), now he says he need a new hot water heater, we have helped with buying the fixtures he has needed. Also, he needs new tires, he needs to pay a ticket ($500) next week for not having car insurance, he needs to buy the car insur...	DreamsOver	9	639	Apr 15, 2009 by clara
	Not Sure What Will Happen Next... (Preview) Hello all! I am returning to the board after realizing I can not do this alone anymore. My husbands drinking is spiraling out of control. We have a beautiful 8 year old daughter that deserves a normal childhood. She rarely has friends over since he is so unpredictable. I am a teacher in a local pub...	odaat	10	735	Apr 14, 2009 by Jerry F
	Three Sad Sports Related Stories - one common theme.... alcohol (Preview) I just got back from a wonderful holiday with my kids to Southern California, Disneyland, etc... One of our many highlights was to take in an LA Angels v. Oakland A's baseball game, and we did so on April 8th. The starting pitcher for the A's that night was a young 23-year old - Nick Adenhart - who pitche...	canadianguy	7	954	Apr 14, 2009 by Jerry F
	Just wanted to say thank you (Preview) Just wanted to thank you for everything yesterday. I needed to be mad to get to the serenity. I'm feeling alot better today. Thanks again.	Tiger2006	1	507	Apr 14, 2009 by Jerry F
	A Touch Conflicted ??? (Preview) OK, So... Tonight i have to call the land owners and see if they will agree to let baby Sister move in the trailer, they have done said... NO WAY Abrother, but I am HOPING for HP to carry me thru on this one... Here's the thing... When I got the certified letter, I called and told Abrother that he had till the...	Jozie	3	786	Apr 14, 2009 by Jozie
	He's a different person now (Preview) My husband and I have been together for 14 years now. We were 20 when we met. Drinking and partying were part of the age we were in but he had never slowed down. He has always been so easy going, funny, great sense of humor. He has been sober now for about 3 1/2 months. I know it's not that long but he is a to...	Holly9	9	915	Apr 14, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	He doesnt like when my daughter... (Preview) ...my stomach hurts becasue of this recurring issue. I am mad at myself for not being able to handle it... Ive been remarried almost three years. My husband doesnt like it when my teenage daughter has friends over. I think its because his own daughters don't live with us and he feels jealous or sad. Bu...	Jehnifer	4	1003	Apr 14, 2009 by hotrod
	Experience has..... (Preview) sapped my Strength of late, but still hanging on to Hope by my fingernails. ALCOHOLISM is an EXPERIENCE of the last six years that has taken me to my knees.... My strength finally departed a few weeks ago...... after weeks of cries for help from my Ason, with him rejecting suggestions (all which ha...	Ness	6	771	Apr 14, 2009 by Ness
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