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Okay, so my A is going on two weeks sober. I need help keeping it simple. This is the thing: he has been gone from home 1/2 of the year for the last 10 years due to work. The time he is home he is under the influence of something 1/2 of the year. He has been home since November of 08 because he got hurt. And now that he is sober and at home, I just want it all. I think I am expecting him to make up for all of the missed time. Now that he has checked into reality, I want him here 200%. And I know that is not possible. I guess I just gotta focus on me and give it to HP. I am wanting all kinds of things from him that I guess I can get for myself. SUCH AS: I am ready to lean on him, have him "think" about taking care of me, have him fix the garage door that has been broken almost a year, have him buy me a card for a change, heck-I'd be glad if he bought a gallon of milk. Instead of him stepping up I guess I am wanting him to hit a home run and score. I gotta remind myself...just keep it simple. UGH...........its still frustrating. I have been such a biotch the last week. Thanks..
when I count on someone else for my happiness I am in big trouble , no one can be everything to everyone nor should they be , that is a big load to put on one person . I ahd to learn to be content and happy regardless of what he was doing . 200 % sounds really stiffling to me I really doubt if u could handle it . heh easy does it serenity and give yourself and him some breathing room . (hugs)
