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DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I received a visit from the son I know and love, he came by to see me this past weekend after he had a falling out with his best friends and his major supplier of drugs. We sat across the kitchen table from each other and drank Coca-Cola and ate cookies (just like when he was little) we laughed and talked abo...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Believe it or not!!! things are going good!! My husband has been home 3 days now and we haven't argued even once. I almost got frustrated last night over something and I stopped myself from going there. I just said to myself.......look, if you go there you will make yourself miserable, so don't go the...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So today I submitted all my letters to the board, to my boss, etc, etc I start packing this weekend Within the next two weeks, I meet with the board. Already questions are being raised about my resignation letter. I pointed out that somet of the activities that go on here are...less than legal. ...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Yes, it's true. I work my programme I walk the talk and then my health trips me up and I am vulnerable. Just when I was thinking that that dreadful virus-ridden-flu-infested air caught me out again and I have a raging temperature whilst I shiver 'cos my clothes are sticking to me from a temperature that i...

Mariner · Mariner

Hi All My exabf called me the other day. I hadnt heard from him in 10 days. He'd been back to his rehab for a visit and to do service work. Hadnt told anyone he was going just turned off his phone and went. He was full of good news over opportunities that had arisen, its great to hear him doing so well, I really...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Thank all of your for responding to my post yesterday. I received sooo much ESH that I felt completely blessed by it all. Alot of it applied to me and my situation, and after having thought a lot about it the past few days I have really been able to put some clarity on it and it has helped me to feel better...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am not with him because I love the man I can make him into, I'm with him because I love the man he is now.

Suzannah · Suzannah

That was my middle name, in fact it became my first name, middle name, and last name...in fact JADE was me...to an iota. ....that is... Until I changed my name and stopped - justifying (my every thought, word and deed) apologising (for the flash floods, the volcano eruptions, the toradoes, for breat...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Good Morning all ~ Not sure if this is an appropriate post, but I was wondering if there was a phone list of sorts for this forum? OR if there were any members willing to accept phone calls? Thank you in advance and please advise, if this is not the appropriate place to ask such questions.

mermaid88 · mermaid88

I am so fed up right now. I am so tired of getting angry at my AH (I don't know all the lingo yet). He is actually my AF (alcoholic fiance). I am tired of being ridiculed and manipulated. I am tired of hypocrisy and double standards. I was strong and happy before and during the first 2 years of our relatio...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband has missed his last two Intensive Out Patient Therapy appointments because he's been drunk (sorry, he claims that he's sick). I called the therapist who runs the treatment program and left a voicemail saying that the reason he has missed his last two sessions is because he's drinking aga...

funnyone · funnyone

My husband is the greatest Narcissist you would ever meet, complete with a gold medal in the blame game. I have spent most of the last decade trying to figure out if I was the object of his self hate or the dumping ground of his blame. His most recent 3 week binge landed him in rehab. He had spent $3800 on a...

tweety23 · tweety23

i am a newcomer, just starting out. i am scared of the warm weather!! for the last few years instead of looking forward to summer fun i find myself dreading the Bbq's, the patios, and all of that, because with my A it is tied into drinking opportunities. starting earlier in the day and on into the night.....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Someone or thing got past my active security program and messed with my home screen page. I did a reset with the hope that it didn't get past me to you while I was here responding to some post. It's a big sore point for me in the past and now "Only and test...do not reset your radio". ((((hugs)))...

Janne · Janne

Hello, I am new here and new to the idea that my husband may be a functioning alcoholic. Mainly, I am trying to figure out if he is or not. Would you mind giving me your opinions? Here's my story in a nutshell: My dh is an officer in the air force. We have been married for 10 years, and we have 2 small child...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok Long story ... And Sorry I don't do SHort :) About 2 weeks ago, I got a call from my Neice, "Asisters Daughter" , Telling me I was to get to her House NOW... (she lives 5 mins. away), she is but a drama queen, so I slowed her up and ask what was going on... Well my Lt. Sister, that was suppose to take...

cichlid6 · cichlid6

So here I am, I've gotten through all my steps, and Im done! lol, naw seriously, I will never be done, but there is something about "Done" that tells me I'm better then all those who aren't through them. I know what they need and such to get through it, and it's now more then ever that I need more h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For the most part I am doing well, much better than I have been in a long time, and for that I am grateful, but there is still one very big area that I am struggling with, and I feel that it is preventing me from moving on in my program/life, and that is.... Anger and forgiveness. I am still very angry with EXA...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Actually, I don't know that I simply THINK I have a bad attitude- I KNOW this. I consider myself a high strug person to begin with, so I'm not sure that the field/job I am in is the correct one for someone who is easily stressed. Most of the time I find my job exhausting. I must manage alot of different thing...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

i posted a thread. ("tough question") ..i was triggered by my SHRINK...and the AWESOME points i got was totally incredible.....EVERY ONE of you had something soooo valuable for me to contemplate.... I just want to thank ALL of you for helping me.....i SOOO want to heal....I SOOO want to...

peacewithin · peacewithin

Turning it over to your HP ! Its been working for me all week. I just had the break through where I could not handle the craziness with my son and AH. I turn it over every day I wake up. and it feels like a load off my back. I love it. Like the 3 C i remind myself of them daily when the feeling starts to build with my c...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Hi guys as you know i am in therapy and this therapist TOLD me i had to "honor thy father and thy mother".. my father never ever made amends for sexually abusing me my entire teen years...he died, thinking he was "ok" with everything.....he was a sociopath.....never felt sorrow...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

I feel so beaten down, defeated. No matter what I do or say I'm wrong. I'm trying to not put myself in positions to argue with my A-bf, who is a dry drunk. I'm never sure who I'm going to talk to. One day he tells me to deal with my problems b/c they are mine and then when he calls and I tell him I need some sp...

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning to mu MIP Family, Today is the 2nd Anniversary of my son's passing. He relapsed after 12 years of soberity and could/would not recover. The last two years of his life I lived with him in his home and did all I could to keep the focus on myself while letting the disease run its coarse. I alwa...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi there MIP family I have always tried to work in my expectations of life, but mostly family..lol... When I would visit my "Now Deseased" Afather I would say a little chant, kinda like my own little serenity prayer before I knew it existed...lol.. and it was "Ok when I get to Adad's I wi...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

Messages are coming from a new angle now...and the problem is I dont get chance to build or re-group, before he does something to upset me again. Just any contact gets to me. My sis wasnt sure what to do with this, poor thing, they always drag everyone into it. I just heard Lilly has not been well. I know she...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Hello my dear family, it is a while since I checked in here. Some of you will not know me at all, some of you will remember me as the new 'gal' on the block and some of you might even have missed me. To one and all, I say, it's good to be back in the embrace of the family. I have had sooooooooo much stuff going on......

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I went to my first AlAnon meeting when I was married to abusive/Active/dry drunk EXAH-I never went back, why I'm not sure but I think because I wanted a quick fix for EXAH that I didn't get. My second meeting,about a year later, was after he and I split up-I never went back-I figured no A=No problem-I di...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

### ROSIE NOTE_______I was so needy the "getting love" was my thing....after disappointment after disappointment, i decided, "why not love myself??? love my HP???? and let the rest take care of it self, by SHARING me with others????"....this is changing me from being so nee...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Had a moment of weakness yesterday and of course I ran to my sponsor with my tail placed firmly between my legs:) My sponsor thinks a lot of times that she causes me pain and hurt at times by her responses, and sometimes they do sting. NOT because of WHAT she says or HOW she says it but because she is rig...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I come and visit here every chance I get, reading all our situations, which are all different but so painfully the same, I think about you all during the day and how brave, caring you are. The energy it takes to function in the environment that we find ourselves in, the love it takes to "walk the line...

clara · clara

We went to Houston for grandaughter's first communion. Was a great celebration. I did not tell AD that we were going; eventhough it was on her birthday. I cannot be in two places at one time and we felt it was much more important to be for the first commuion celebration. And yes, it was precious!!!! I...

ChrissyPooh · ChrissyPooh

Since my AH has been sober he has been relying on sleeping pills to go to sleep at night every night. Before I started the program and started learning about the isms of A he told me that he needed the pills to get to sleep at night. I allowed it to go on and continued to buy them for them knowing that I shouldn...

Gailey · Gailey

My A son relapsed Saturday a week ago and got a dui. I am pretty sure he is still using something but don't know what. I think he needs an inpatient treatment this time. I told him that this morning and he will deny until the cows come home. I know better. I can tell in his voice over the phone when he is doing so...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello family! It's been quite some time since I have posted. Things in my life have improved so much, ...mostly because I learned to just take control of ME! I have been working my own program and not worrying about what anyone else is doing. Abf has been working his own program in his own way...I dont...

Saved By Grace · Saved By Grace

Hi All, Been involved with my bf for three months now. He doesn't go to meetings or call his sponsor..so I can't even say he is "in" recovery. I will say that I feel that I am dealing with a dry drunk. I have determined to detach from his attitudes and behaviors and sometimes its hit and sometime...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Okay, for the first time since November, I had my 7 days of much liked solitude. (hubby went offshore) Well, he is coming home tomorrow. I am a little nervous. I am trying to not have any expectations or projections of this or that. It is our anniversary tomorrow. Amazing we've been married for 7 yea...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, haven't posted in a while but have been reading posts which has helped at this present time. Youngest son has started smoking and acting out at school, I need to go in this wednesday to meet the teacher on same. He was absolutely a horror at home but I have been trying to use my alanon tools to get t...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well the past week has been very enlightening for me in sooo many areas, that I felt I should come and share, as so many of you helped to get me where I am right now. Today I feel awesome and so content. I've given my program a lot of thought the past week, and decided that I have to make some chan...

tweety23 · tweety23

Do you think it is a good idea to attend f2f meetings with friends you know from outside of al-anon (i was going to say from "real life" but that doesn't make sense...lol). I've found out that someone i know is looking to go to f2f meetings but i am not sure if I feel comfortable with the idea of &...

maresie · maresie

I am about to embark on one of my goals, namely getting some of the dental treatment I need. I start next week. I realize I don't really know how to manage several small goals at once. I get lost in the shoulda coulda woulda's. I'm trying to work on summer goals and what I come up with is ridiculous or I get do...

Inpain · Inpain

Today's message in ODAT is beautiful if anyone has it. It really made me think of all that IS GOOD in my life. I went to a new F2F yesterday. Completely awkward going in...went in wrong room and introduced myself to a group that had NOTHING to do with al-anon!!! GULP. So, I collected myself and stoppe...

clara · clara

As in previous post from me, you guys know Daughter was in rehab. She went for 4 weeks. She can now go once a week for a year for "after care" When I spoke to her on phone Sunday night and again on Monday morning, she was fine. I could hear it in her voice. However, by Monday afternoon, I could h...

M's Mommy · M's Mommy

Hi everyone. I am fairly new to Al-anon. I have posted on here a few times and done some online meetings. I only went to one f2f meeting and I didnt feel comfortable at all. I am in my early 20's and everyone was older, I just feel like I couldnt relate to anyone. I have some daily reader books and I lurk on here...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, As recovery takes hold, I often read on this board how one decides they are ready to start dating again and then do. This is my question... once you "decide", who do you date? I ask this because I can honestly say that with the exception of one person (keep reading) there is no one...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I have been in 12 steps 5 plus years now (jan '04) and i have been on and off this board....now i am back I started therapy first part of the year, february sometime and i just gotta say that the 12 steps/ sharing/ esh from recovery mates/ recovery books/ journalling/ being VALIDATED by my recovery mates i...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I wanted to take the time today to stop here and thank the many of you who have helped me and supported me throughout my struggles the past few months. This site is a God send and I have watched it help soooo many people. I've seen the caring and kindness of complete strangers, taking their time to help on...

RLC · RLC

I am attempting to help a fellow al-anon member who is trying to log-in on MIP - the notice that she keeps getting says e-mail address already in use as well as user name. She registered yesterday and did not receive a confirmation e-mail back. Any ideas on how I should advise her? RLC -- Edited by RLC on...

cichlid6 · cichlid6

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rosielightshines · rosielightshines

"Fear is that little darkroom where negatives develop" ~ Michael Pritchard Follow these steps everyday for thirty days - it'll take less than ten minutes day! Pray upon rising: Thank you for this day and for the rich opportunities this day will bring forward. I pray for your love and ligh...

aunitedway · aunitedway

detaching... when i was new to this program i remember being terrified just thinkin about it... the word itself. and then the action of it...omg my my AH wasnt gonna like this! this will be the end of this program for me.... but truth is i was so determined.... that i was willing to d...

ChrissyPooh · ChrissyPooh

Hello All! I have just recently started going to meetings at the end of March and am very thankful that my therapist recommended it. Since going, I have been able to be comfortable acknowledging that I need to focus on recovery of myself and not focus so much on my A and his recovery. I have been married fo...

buick23 · buick23

I just saw the movie "he's just not that into you" and could relate to some stuff. Now I wonder can we still apply this to A's and sober A's or is that a whole other story? I wonder cuz what I'm getting is he's not into me at all. Makes me wanna run. Anyone else seen it and any comments?

laurel · laurel

Hello everyone, I am new to this forum, I feel lost and confused and don't know where to turn. My husband is a alcoholic. We've been married for three years. He drinks almost every day. He has never been physically abusive but I am tired of dealing with all the emotional symptoms that go along with alc...

gngcrzy · gngcrzy

It's amazing how much easier it is to banish obsessive thoughts and to go from fury to indifference or even charity once I've slept, exercised, and taken my vitamins. If that doesn't work, coffee with friends is usually the thing that tips me over in to health again. And it's amazing how convinced I am w...

tweety23 · tweety23

Hi all This is my first post. I went to my first F2F meeting the other day and it was really good. My biggest fear came true: I saw someone I knew there and was really scared at first but it worked out great actually :) Unfortunately I cannot get to a lot of f2f meetings because of babysitting issues. I do have...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Saw this in one of my John Bradshaw books...... 1. The freedom to see and hear (perceive) what is here and now, rather than what was, will be or should be. 2. The freedom to think what one thinks, rather than what one should think. 3. The freedom to feel what one feels, rather than what one should feel. 4....

Rora · Rora

I was reading on here in another post about the A picking a fight, to get what they want. I've noticed that at this point in my relationship with my A that I pick fights with him in order to get out of having to enjoy time with him. Most times lately I sabotage any hope of enjoying any time with him. I am evas...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I am new to this board. I have been coping with an on/off alcoholic husband for several years. We have had counseling but our communication about this is poor. The biggest problem has been lying about drinking. Lack of trust makes the problem so much worse. I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings ove...

debilyn · debilyn

Even though I am not living with or involved with an A, sadly I have friends who do. I use my skills every day and want to learn more. One friends wife is very, very sick. It's been hard watching thru him, her fall apart, family be hurt. After going thru what we have, we can be there for others. This is a humble...

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	Addiction Is Cruel (Just In Case You Didn't Know)............ (Preview) I received a visit from the son I know and love, he came by to see me this past weekend after he had a falling out with his best friends and his major supplier of drugs. We sat across the kitchen table from each other and drank Coca-Cola and ate cookies (just like when he was little) we laughed and talked abo...	DreamsOver	4	453	May 9, 2009 by Sincerely
	Amazing! (Preview) Believe it or not!!! things are going good!! My husband has been home 3 days now and we haven't argued even once. I almost got frustrated last night over something and I stopped myself from going there. I just said to myself.......look, if you go there you will make yourself miserable, so don't go the...	Sincerely	4	648	May 9, 2009 by kitty
	The countdown begins (Preview) So today I submitted all my letters to the board, to my boss, etc, etc I start packing this weekend Within the next two weeks, I meet with the board. Already questions are being raised about my resignation letter. I pointed out that somet of the activities that go on here are...less than legal. ...	Tiger2006	6	645	May 9, 2009 by Maria123
	Realising that where-ever I am on my recovery road...I still remain vulernable at times that I least expect it... (Preview) Yes, it's true. I work my programme I walk the talk and then my health trips me up and I am vulnerable. Just when I was thinking that that dreadful virus-ridden-flu-infested air caught me out again and I have a raging temperature whilst I shiver 'cos my clothes are sticking to me from a temperature that i...	Suzannah	3	979	May 8, 2009 by DreamsOver
	I dont know best (Preview) Hi All My exabf called me the other day. I hadnt heard from him in 10 days. He'd been back to his rehab for a visit and to do service work. Hadnt told anyone he was going just turned off his phone and went. He was full of good news over opportunities that had arisen, its great to hear him doing so well, I really...	Mariner	7	474	May 8, 2009 by rosielightshines
	New found clarity today~Feel like a weight was lifted~ (Preview) Thank all of your for responding to my post yesterday. I received sooo much ESH that I felt completely blessed by it all. Alot of it applied to me and my situation, and after having thought a lot about it the past few days I have really been able to put some clarity on it and it has helped me to feel better...	shellyj123	2	618	May 8, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I have to remember. (Preview) I am not with him because I love the man I can make him into, I'm with him because I love the man he is now.	carolinagirl	3	470	May 8, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Justify apologise defend explain = J A D E =who? (Preview) That was my middle name, in fact it became my first name, middle name, and last name...in fact JADE was me...to an iota. ....that is... Until I changed my name and stopped - justifying (my every thought, word and deed) apologising (for the flash floods, the volcano eruptions, the toradoes, for breat...	Suzannah	13	2826	May 8, 2009 by Lanchas
	PHONE LIST/MEMBERS WILLING TO ACCEPT PHONE CALLS (Preview) Good Morning all ~ Not sure if this is an appropriate post, but I was wondering if there was a phone list of sorts for this forum? OR if there were any members willing to accept phone calls? Thank you in advance and please advise, if this is not the appropriate place to ask such questions.	RunnerChick	6	836	May 8, 2009 by RunnerChick
	I want to leave... (Preview) I am so fed up right now. I am so tired of getting angry at my AH (I don't know all the lingo yet). He is actually my AF (alcoholic fiance). I am tired of being ridiculed and manipulated. I am tired of hypocrisy and double standards. I was strong and happy before and during the first 2 years of our relatio...	mermaid88	10	500	May 8, 2009 by JaneG
	Did Something I Probably Shouldn't Have (Preview) My husband has missed his last two Intensive Out Patient Therapy appointments because he's been drunk (sorry, he claims that he's sick). I called the therapist who runs the treatment program and left a voicemail saying that the reason he has missed his last two sessions is because he's drinking aga...	N8SMOM	6	544	May 8, 2009 by stariana
	Hiding in the Program (Preview) My husband is the greatest Narcissist you would ever meet, complete with a gold medal in the blame game. I have spent most of the last decade trying to figure out if I was the object of his self hate or the dumping ground of his blame. His most recent 3 week binge landed him in rehab. He had spent $3800 on a...	funnyone	11	504	May 8, 2009 by kitty
	scared of summer :( (Preview) i am a newcomer, just starting out. i am scared of the warm weather!! for the last few years instead of looking forward to summer fun i find myself dreading the Bbq's, the patios, and all of that, because with my A it is tied into drinking opportunities. starting earlier in the day and on into the night.....	tweety23	6	414	May 8, 2009 by kitty
	keep and eye open (Preview) Someone or thing got past my active security program and messed with my home screen page. I did a reset with the hope that it didn't get past me to you while I was here responding to some post. It's a big sore point for me in the past and now "Only and test...do not reset your radio". ((((hugs)))...	Jerry F	0	423	May 8, 2009 by Jerry F
	Military family - is my DH a funtioning alcoholic? (Preview) Hello, I am new here and new to the idea that my husband may be a functioning alcoholic. Mainly, I am trying to figure out if he is or not. Would you mind giving me your opinions? Here's my story in a nutshell: My dh is an officer in the air force. We have been married for 10 years, and we have 2 small child...	Janne	5	3474	May 7, 2009 by Janne
	Family Arghhhhhh (Preview) Ok Long story ... And Sorry I don't do SHort :) About 2 weeks ago, I got a call from my Neice, "Asisters Daughter" , Telling me I was to get to her House NOW... (she lives 5 mins. away), she is but a drama queen, so I slowed her up and ask what was going on... Well my Lt. Sister, that was suppose to take...	Jozie	7	500	May 7, 2009 by Jerry F
	PROGRAM PRIDE (Preview) So here I am, I've gotten through all my steps, and Im done! lol, naw seriously, I will never be done, but there is something about "Done" that tells me I'm better then all those who aren't through them. I know what they need and such to get through it, and it's now more then ever that I need more h...	cichlid6	5	522	May 7, 2009 by cichlid6
	Wanting sooo bad to move forward and feeling so completely stuck~In need of some ESH~ (Preview) For the most part I am doing well, much better than I have been in a long time, and for that I am grateful, but there is still one very big area that I am struggling with, and I feel that it is preventing me from moving on in my program/life, and that is.... Anger and forgiveness. I am still very angry with EXA...	shellyj123	8	718	May 7, 2009 by Christy
	I think I have a bad attitude (Preview) Actually, I don't know that I simply THINK I have a bad attitude- I KNOW this. I consider myself a high strug person to begin with, so I'm not sure that the field/job I am in is the correct one for someone who is easily stressed. Most of the time I find my job exhausting. I must manage alot of different thing...	RunnerChick	6	445	May 7, 2009 by kitty
	this board ROCKS!!! (Preview) i posted a thread. ("tough question") ..i was triggered by my SHRINK...and the AWESOME points i got was totally incredible.....EVERY ONE of you had something soooo valuable for me to contemplate.... I just want to thank ALL of you for helping me.....i SOOO want to heal....I SOOO want to...	rosielightshines	8	474	May 7, 2009 by Robinks
	3rd step is working (Preview) Turning it over to your HP ! Its been working for me all week. I just had the break through where I could not handle the craziness with my son and AH. I turn it over every day I wake up. and it feels like a load off my back. I love it. Like the 3 C i remind myself of them daily when the feeling starts to build with my c...	peacewithin	4	379	May 7, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I have a REAL tough question (Preview) Hi guys as you know i am in therapy and this therapist TOLD me i had to "honor thy father and thy mother".. my father never ever made amends for sexually abusing me my entire teen years...he died, thinking he was "ok" with everything.....he was a sociopath.....never felt sorrow...	rosielightshines	30	638	May 7, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Am I awful for being on the edge of giving up? (Preview) I feel so beaten down, defeated. No matter what I do or say I'm wrong. I'm trying to not put myself in positions to argue with my A-bf, who is a dry drunk. I'm never sure who I'm going to talk to. One day he tells me to deal with my problems b/c they are mine and then when he calls and I tell him I need some sp...	lizzakiss	8	1477	May 7, 2009 by lizzakiss
	Why I Am Grateful to AlAnon (Preview) Good Morning to mu MIP Family, Today is the 2nd Anniversary of my son's passing. He relapsed after 12 years of soberity and could/would not recover. The last two years of his life I lived with him in his home and did all I could to keep the focus on myself while letting the disease run its coarse. I alwa...	hotrod	10	1865	May 7, 2009 by Loupiness
	Rejoycing in Expectations (Preview) Hi there MIP family I have always tried to work in my expectations of life, but mostly family..lol... When I would visit my "Now Deseased" Afather I would say a little chant, kinda like my own little serenity prayer before I knew it existed...lol.. and it was "Ok when I get to Adad's I wi...	Jozie	7	428	May 7, 2009 by kitty
	When will he give up on this pointless contact (Preview) Messages are coming from a new angle now...and the problem is I dont get chance to build or re-group, before he does something to upset me again. Just any contact gets to me. My sis wasnt sure what to do with this, poor thing, they always drag everyone into it. I just heard Lilly has not been well. I know she...	Lilly Burn	13	578	May 7, 2009 by Suzannah
	Reminding me that I matter...and much more to the point...YOU ALL MATTER to me :-D x (Preview) Hello my dear family, it is a while since I checked in here. Some of you will not know me at all, some of you will remember me as the new 'gal' on the block and some of you might even have missed me. To one and all, I say, it's good to be back in the embrace of the family. I have had sooooooooo much stuff going on......	Suzannah	11	517	May 7, 2009 by Mariner
	Survey Question for my MIP family... (Preview) I went to my first AlAnon meeting when I was married to abusive/Active/dry drunk EXAH-I never went back, why I'm not sure but I think because I wanted a quick fix for EXAH that I didn't get. My second meeting,about a year later, was after he and I split up-I never went back-I figured no A=No problem-I di...	shellyj123	12	498	May 7, 2009 by ThisIsBlythe
	Getting love....Being Loving.....WHICH???? (Preview) ### ROSIE NOTE_______I was so needy the "getting love" was my thing....after disappointment after disappointment, i decided, "why not love myself??? love my HP???? and let the rest take care of it self, by SHARING me with others????"....this is changing me from being so nee...	rosielightshines	3	423	May 6, 2009 by blender_girl
	I absolutely LOVE my sponsor, and my HP never ceases to amaze me! (Preview) Had a moment of weakness yesterday and of course I ran to my sponsor with my tail placed firmly between my legs:) My sponsor thinks a lot of times that she causes me pain and hurt at times by her responses, and sometimes they do sting. NOT because of WHAT she says or HOW she says it but because she is rig...	shellyj123	4	411	May 6, 2009 by Jozie
	Thinking of You All..... (Preview) I come and visit here every chance I get, reading all our situations, which are all different but so painfully the same, I think about you all during the day and how brave, caring you are. The energy it takes to function in the environment that we find ourselves in, the love it takes to "walk the line...	DreamsOver	4	639	May 6, 2009 by hotrod
	I have nothing more emotionally I can give to daughter (Preview) We went to Houston for grandaughter's first communion. Was a great celebration. I did not tell AD that we were going; eventhough it was on her birthday. I cannot be in two places at one time and we felt it was much more important to be for the first commuion celebration. And yes, it was precious!!!! I...	clara	8	1019	May 6, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Husband using son for sleeping pills (Preview) Since my AH has been sober he has been relying on sleeping pills to go to sleep at night every night. Before I started the program and started learning about the isms of A he told me that he needed the pills to get to sleep at night. I allowed it to go on and continued to buy them for them knowing that I shouldn...	ChrissyPooh	10	933	May 6, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	not in a good place (Preview) My A son relapsed Saturday a week ago and got a dui. I am pretty sure he is still using something but don't know what. I think he needs an inpatient treatment this time. I told him that this morning and he will deny until the cows come home. I know better. I can tell in his voice over the phone when he is doing so...	Gailey	8	967	May 6, 2009 by Rita G
	It's been a while.. (Preview) Hello family! It's been quite some time since I have posted. Things in my life have improved so much, ...mostly because I learned to just take control of ME! I have been working my own program and not worrying about what anyone else is doing. Abf has been working his own program in his own way...I dont...	liljeannie	5	715	May 6, 2009 by liljeannie
	Dry Drunk Detachment.. Getting Better at It (Preview) Hi All, Been involved with my bf for three months now. He doesn't go to meetings or call his sponsor..so I can't even say he is "in" recovery. I will say that I feel that I am dealing with a dry drunk. I have determined to detach from his attitudes and behaviors and sometimes its hit and sometime...	Saved By Grace	5	1375	May 6, 2009 by maresie
	Solitude Over (Preview) Okay, for the first time since November, I had my 7 days of much liked solitude. (hubby went offshore) Well, he is coming home tomorrow. I am a little nervous. I am trying to not have any expectations or projections of this or that. It is our anniversary tomorrow. Amazing we've been married for 7 yea...	Sincerely	5	363	May 6, 2009 by glad lee
	Problems with youngest son (Preview) Dear all, haven't posted in a while but have been reading posts which has helped at this present time. Youngest son has started smoking and acting out at school, I need to go in this wednesday to meet the teacher on same. He was absolutely a horror at home but I have been trying to use my alanon tools to get t...	maire rua	5	662	May 6, 2009 by maire rua
	Today is a gift~not a given! it TRULY does work if we work it:) (Preview) Well the past week has been very enlightening for me in sooo many areas, that I felt I should come and share, as so many of you helped to get me where I am right now. Today I feel awesome and so content. I've given my program a lot of thought the past week, and decided that I have to make some chan...	shellyj123	8	446	May 6, 2009 by Gailey
	A question about f2f meetings (Preview) Do you think it is a good idea to attend f2f meetings with friends you know from outside of al-anon (i was going to say from "real life" but that doesn't make sense...lol). I've found out that someone i know is looking to go to f2f meetings but i am not sure if I feel comfortable with the idea of &...	tweety23	4	594	May 6, 2009 by abbyal
	setting new goals. (Preview) I am about to embark on one of my goals, namely getting some of the dental treatment I need. I start next week. I realize I don't really know how to manage several small goals at once. I get lost in the shoulda coulda woulda's. I'm trying to work on summer goals and what I come up with is ridiculous or I get do...	maresie	5	756	May 5, 2009 by maresie
	ODAT today. 5/5/09 (Preview) Today's message in ODAT is beautiful if anyone has it. It really made me think of all that IS GOOD in my life. I went to a new F2F yesterday. Completely awkward going in...went in wrong room and introduced myself to a group that had NOTHING to do with al-anon!!! GULP. So, I collected myself and stoppe...	Inpain	8	457	May 5, 2009 by N8SMOM
	Pretty sure she is drinking again (Preview) As in previous post from me, you guys know Daughter was in rehab. She went for 4 weeks. She can now go once a week for a year for "after care" When I spoke to her on phone Sunday night and again on Monday morning, she was fine. I could hear it in her voice. However, by Monday afternoon, I could h...	clara	6	536	May 5, 2009 by Karilynn
	Dont know what to do (Preview) Hi everyone. I am fairly new to Al-anon. I have posted on here a few times and done some online meetings. I only went to one f2f meeting and I didnt feel comfortable at all. I am in my early 20's and everyone was older, I just feel like I couldnt relate to anyone. I have some daily reader books and I lurk on here...	M's Mommy	11	597	May 5, 2009 by wp
	how do you know you are "ready" and for whom? (Preview) Hi Friends, As recovery takes hold, I often read on this board how one decides they are ready to start dating again and then do. This is my question... once you "decide", who do you date? I ask this because I can honestly say that with the exception of one person (keep reading) there is no one...	Loupiness	10	446	May 5, 2009 by david62
	I just GOTTA say this (Preview) I have been in 12 steps 5 plus years now (jan '04) and i have been on and off this board....now i am back I started therapy first part of the year, february sometime and i just gotta say that the 12 steps/ sharing/ esh from recovery mates/ recovery books/ journalling/ being VALIDATED by my recovery mates i...	rosielightshines	9	818	May 5, 2009 by kitty
	Thank you MIP family...... (Preview) I wanted to take the time today to stop here and thank the many of you who have helped me and supported me throughout my struggles the past few months. This site is a God send and I have watched it help soooo many people. I've seen the caring and kindness of complete strangers, taking their time to help on...	shellyj123	4	605	May 5, 2009 by shellyj123
	Need help with a friend's new LOG-IN (Preview) I am attempting to help a fellow al-anon member who is trying to log-in on MIP - the notice that she keeps getting says e-mail address already in use as well as user name. She registered yesterday and did not receive a confirmation e-mail back. Any ideas on how I should advise her? RLC -- Edited by RLC on...	RLC	2	346	May 5, 2009 by debilyn
	mark my divorce (Preview) <!-- /* Font Definitions */ @font-face {font-family:"Cambria Math"; panose-1:2 4 5 3 5 4 6 3 2 4; mso-font-charset:1; mso-generic-font-family:roman; mso-font-format:other; mso-font-pitch:variable; mso-font-signature:0 0;} @font-face {font...	cichlid6	10	850	May 5, 2009 by peacewithin
	FEAR BUSTER (Preview) "Fear is that little darkroom where negatives develop" ~ Michael Pritchard Follow these steps everyday for thirty days - it'll take less than ten minutes day! Pray upon rising: Thank you for this day and for the rich opportunities this day will bring forward. I pray for your love and ligh...	rosielightshines	8	1385	May 5, 2009 by peacewithin
	Detaching; doesnt have to be a scary word or an unthinkable action. Loving Detachment is Possible (Preview) detaching... when i was new to this program i remember being terrified just thinkin about it... the word itself. and then the action of it...omg my my AH wasnt gonna like this! this will be the end of this program for me.... but truth is i was so determined.... that i was willing to d...	aunitedway	9	1189	May 4, 2009 by lizzakiss
	Help for a Dry Drunk (Preview) Hello All! I have just recently started going to meetings at the end of March and am very thankful that my therapist recommended it. Since going, I have been able to be comfortable acknowledging that I need to focus on recovery of myself and not focus so much on my A and his recovery. I have been married fo...	ChrissyPooh	8	1026	May 4, 2009 by lizzakiss
	he's just not that into you (Preview) I just saw the movie "he's just not that into you" and could relate to some stuff. Now I wonder can we still apply this to A's and sober A's or is that a whole other story? I wonder cuz what I'm getting is he's not into me at all. Makes me wanna run. Anyone else seen it and any comments?	buick23	8	651	May 4, 2009 by JaneG
	should i leave my husband--- newbie needs esh (Preview) Hello everyone, I am new to this forum, I feel lost and confused and don't know where to turn. My husband is a alcoholic. We've been married for three years. He drinks almost every day. He has never been physically abusive but I am tired of dealing with all the emotional symptoms that go along with alc...	laurel	11	962	May 4, 2009 by JaneG
	amazing how much my mental health is physical health (Preview) It's amazing how much easier it is to banish obsessive thoughts and to go from fury to indifference or even charity once I've slept, exercised, and taken my vitamins. If that doesn't work, coffee with friends is usually the thing that tips me over in to health again. And it's amazing how convinced I am w...	gngcrzy	6	793	May 4, 2009 by gngcrzy
	hello from a newcomer :) (Preview) Hi all This is my first post. I went to my first F2F meeting the other day and it was really good. My biggest fear came true: I saw someone I knew there and was really scared at first but it worked out great actually :) Unfortunately I cannot get to a lot of f2f meetings because of babysitting issues. I do have...	tweety23	8	786	May 4, 2009 by maresie
	the 5 freedoms (Preview) Saw this in one of my John Bradshaw books...... 1. The freedom to see and hear (perceive) what is here and now, rather than what was, will be or should be. 2. The freedom to think what one thinks, rather than what one should think. 3. The freedom to feel what one feels, rather than what one should feel. 4....	rosielightshines	3	714	May 4, 2009 by maresie
	Picking fights to force and outcome, or agenda... (Preview) I was reading on here in another post about the A picking a fight, to get what they want. I've noticed that at this point in my relationship with my A that I pick fights with him in order to get out of having to enjoy time with him. Most times lately I sabotage any hope of enjoying any time with him. I am evas...	Rora	9	1023	May 4, 2009 by maresie
	New - Need Answers (Preview) I am new to this board. I have been coping with an on/off alcoholic husband for several years. We have had counseling but our communication about this is poor. The biggest problem has been lying about drinking. Lack of trust makes the problem so much worse. I have gone to a few Al-Anon meetings ove...	wifeofalcoholic	9	1020	May 4, 2009 by maresie
	Thoughts (Preview) Even though I am not living with or involved with an A, sadly I have friends who do. I use my skills every day and want to learn more. One friends wife is very, very sick. It's been hard watching thru him, her fall apart, family be hurt. After going thru what we have, we can be there for others. This is a humble...	debilyn	4	746	May 4, 2009 by maresie
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