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i posted a thread. ("tough question") ..i was triggered by my SHRINK...and the AWESOME points i got was totally incredible.....EVERY ONE of you had something soooo valuable for me to contemplate....
I just want to thank ALL of you for helping me.....i SOOO want to heal....I SOOO want to "lose" ANY hate and resentment i may be harboring......you guys really helped me confirm a lot of points and HUGE validation....
My prayer is that i am as much of a blessing to you all as you all are to me.....
this recovery family ROCKS!!!!! i am sooo glad i am back....
i was on this other site helping this gal build it up and i was too tired to get on this board and THIS is the place where i got the best support and love......a good recovery mate on here told me "hey Rosie, you gotta come back...the alanon board is totally awesome...tons of support....love it"........WOW....she was 100% right.....
i can rest in serenity, knowing that i am doing what my HP has prompted me to do........i am going to *honour* ME by working my program according to MY timing...MY needs....MY comfort....my decisions???
give up the hate and resentment as a gift to ME...... and yea, i will acknowledge that he sired me and LEAVE IT AT THAT
as to the therapist?? i might put a donation into her account on her site and just tell her that 12 steps works better for me and i prefer to stick with the program and my recovery family......i am praying about that...i cancelled tomorrows appt because i was so triggered by her "you gotta honour him"...thing...like i am thinking i am gaining ground and BANG!! i get this and really had to work my program to get past it.......
i don't know about pastoral, but she is christian councellor....yea, a phd. in psychology..her name says "Dr."....
i may just stick to this program only because we are more in "reality", i believe....and its FREE!!! LOL
ya know???? i think , as a survivor herself, she is in denial....her pollyanna attitude towards this crime is really shocking.....like she is "sure" her "daddy" is in heaven, and she forgave him....i don't think she has really addressed head on the pain he did.....i really think it is denial....and i aint buying into it.......
Now that explains it and I can understand her perspective...and she is "right" from that perspective, however she is, in my opinion not right to say you SHOULD...rather she would be better in qualifying and explaining further the place she is coming from in order to help you make your decision on what YOU FEEL capable of doing, as I said in my response to your original post.
Sorry, I was late 'cos I am ahead of you and I was going to bed when you were writing from America.
Take care, understanding the Christian perspective of honour is very different than secular perspective which is quite polar in many respects.
But that is a huge philosophical debate in itself.
God bless and take care, as always, your sister-in-recovery Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
Yes I have been working this board since Jan. 2009 and it does respond, sometimes not always the way "I" want it too, but the way It Should... I think it is great that the responses are picking up and the board seems to be growing even in the short time that i have been here...
I have learned that not everyone here has input on your story, or Mine, but if they can relate, then they do, for the most part... I enjoy "EVERY" response I get weather I agree or disagree... That is my "Take what you like and leave the rest" Days :)
This program has been good to me and I am grateful to say the least... To all of you as well...
Keep up the Good Work Rosie :) Glad you jumped over :)
