Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Temple · Temple

As they say on the God channel. I'm new. have been lurking a few weeks, posting a few days, haven't told my story yet, will break it down into dribs and drabs cause this has been going on a long time and anybody trying to read it in one sitting would go blind. Thanks to your inspiration and nudging--even wh...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

For the first time... I let a family member in on what life is really like at my house. There is no addiction in my family of origin, and my siblings all married "well" in that they have stuck with their spouses and pretty much have stable happy marriages. Not perfect, but not full of abuse an...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Gee family, Rosie and tlc and wildthing, you are so right, I am so good at beating myself up...still an area that I need to work on. Progress not perfection is what matters. I hear you. I am so very human and David you are right too, I made a comment, I spoke the truth, I got to the point of being sick of the...

oran · oran

HI. Im new to this so not sure where to start. I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic ex-cocaine addict for three years now. He was a drug addict for 10 years and decided 2 years ago that enough was enough and gave up. He has been clean ever since. He has always been a drinker but things were just...

florida · florida

out there smoking again - every time he does i wake up and stay awake till he returns but when i get up early for the gym im quiet, no lights on, etc

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

Ive just read something about the excuses A's make, and one bit really got me. I'd be OK if it weren't for you! My AH said so many things about me for months and months when he was out, I knew nothing of it and would walk into a social situation thinking there was my husband, my loyal husband, who would have ju...

abbyal · abbyal

Yesterday I lost a dear Al-Anon friend , he was 55 yrs old he had been in program for 7 yrs , he was so grateful for his sons addiction as it led him to our program and changed his life . He was truly an enthusiatic , grateful member of Al-Anon . I sit and think of him today and am filled with gratitude that i fou...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, I am having a hard time today. I can just cry. It just can't be GODs plan for me to be married to an alcholic and not have any children. My doctor suggested he and I do invetro to concieve a child. Great...Just Great! It's his self inflected fertility issue. My problem. I'm tired and...

Suzannah · Suzannah

How do I do it? Why do I not learn? Cannot do right for doing wrong? I walk into the spider's web all the time, and by the time I realise it I cannot get out of it. My friend's mother died lost Thursday. The mother was only a couple of years older than me and we were friends too. She often told me that she though...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Friends, I feel as if this proclamation is as significant as announcing a marriage or pregnancy. Well, actually, for me it is. In one week I will be in Maui. I am going with a good friend and her mother. And, here is the good, incredibly amazing, and proof-this-program-is-a-miracle part....... ...

Katy · Katy

Well avoiding communicating your real feelings to an A is somthing I am guilty of, when I try it's met with, well you did this or you did that, thier back goes up and you close down, your dealing with someone that can't, won't, doesn't understand normal, so today this morning I said to my husband your beha...

timbotim · timbotim

My girlfriend of a year completed outpatient treatment for her prescription and marijuana abuse. It came to a head when I found I was missing adderol. She went into treatment when we got back from our vacation. She was fine during the treatment, (only one fallout), but since then, she's not taken adva...

Mik · Mik

I have been married to an alcoholic for 22 years. Our marriage hasn't been a real marriage is several years. The verbal abuse has been terrible and it has been so hard not to take it personally. My husband left in the middle of the night about 3 weeks ago. Won't tell me where he is staying, just that it's wit...

Katy · Katy

Davids mowing post has triggered me to write this, as I have been really struggling this past few weeks, and wondering why after nearly three years of my husbands sobriety I seem to have hit a really down time, I thought I was never going to feel this way again, and I think it's when I fall back into old habi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Ohana (family)!! Sitting back relaxing and getting caught up in our recovery. Nothing better to do. I was acting out today (not in the old crazy way) in a way I was taught by a former sponsor. I use to do the Serenity Prayer literally doing all the definition of what and could and could not change...

xter · xter

due to some crazy scheduling, i haven't been to a f2f in over a week and i won't be able to until saturday morning. but part of me wonders WHY i should go. please, remind me? my AH and i are over. he JUST got into AA (11 days sober) and told me last night that he can't promise he can even try to work on our marri...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! I woke up Saturday morning feeling a little under the weather. It was one of those days where I could have just stayed in bed. I managed to pull myself out of bed and headed into work and got there on time. I wasn't even there one hour before it hit me. The stomach virus! UGHHH.... I cam...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I am GRATEFUL for: my bills are paid and my needs met my body is in decent shape that my left leg is hurting NOT from something bad, but just my back spasms AND i think i am onto a new way of eating to help my inflamations in wrist and back spasms.....got a great book about new ways of eating i am grateful that to...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

During stressful periods it can be tempting to skip a meal, push ourselves until we are totally exhausted, and generally ignore our basic needs. In the midst of crisis, taking time out for an Al-Anon meet, a call to a sponsor, or a breath of fresh air may seem like a waste of all too precious moments. The...

Holly09 · Holly09

I have been with my A boyfriend for 7 yrs now. We have 2 boys 5 yrs and 1 yr and I have a 14 yr old boy from a prior marriage. To make a long story short my A thinks that just because he financially supports us he doesn't beat us (never done) or act like a raving lunatic (which he has done on occasion with me) that...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Try not to laugh too hard when you read this! I did it! I succumbed to putting myself on Twitter. I thought it might be a fun way to communicate with my friends. If anyone here is on Twitter and would like my screen name just PM please. Now my niece can't tell me that I'm not "with...

clara · clara

My daughter went to divorce court today for the finalization of the divorce. She went without an attorney to represent her. She gets $1,000.00 a month for a year. Plus she said she gets to keep her medical coverage. I really think she told me that so I would not go off and have a fit of some sort. Her ex...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I always get annoyed when Mom is drunk tho it's useless to feel that way since it doesn't change anything and just ruins things for me...... it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it do...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

Hello Dear Friend, I just wanted to thank you for always taking so much time to answer so many people's posts with such loving kindness and generosity in sharing your ESH. I have gotten SO much out of your posts! Your journey to recovery has been amazing, and I want to thank you for sharing it with us and s...

BK11 · BK11

After reading many posts, I do realize I have been trying to change my gf's drinking for nearly 7 years. She did quit for about a year when I said Alcohol or me, but eventually came back saying that she will no longer take an ultimatum. That I was trying to change who she was. That is her answer for everyt...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

My disease is powerful. It's symptoms can return at any moment. My Abf has been back up North with his family working on a project. I have had an abstract fear that he may have gotten involved again with some of his "Friends" that he once used drugs and drank with. I have that itchy feeling that...

maresie · maresie

My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...

amylynn67 · amylynn67

Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says ** admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable*****.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...

Suzannah · Suzannah

(((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...

java · java

Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...

florida · florida

here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...

debilyn · debilyn

Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...

Rora · Rora

Yesterday I phoned my sponsor. I was at my aH (really at myself) for having got sucked into the emotional games. And I was feeling a little vindictive. A few days before he had invited me and our son to his place for a family gathering he was hosting. I told him that it would be inappropriate for me to go...

Working the Steps- A USER'S GUIDE · RunnerChick

Hmm.. I DON'T have a 'User's Guide' but am finding my perfectionism bleeding through to my recovery. I've been struggling alot lately with working the steps ENOUGH. Granted, I just recently got a new sponsor that I had needed for quite sometime and started working on Step One in the Path's to Recovery...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

hey all Thanks for the loving support re: my job and my other stuff...What would I do w/out my recovery family????? I have noticed something...I am having a REAL hard time, staying in my body...staying focused and keeping my scrambling thoughts CALM and in the NOW....in otherwords I cannot RELAX....

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Hey you all if you want to have a "signature" thingy always on your posts.....you go into your name. like when your on the page, look up and right and you see yourself or click onyour name anywhere on site and you see on the left "signature".....click on it and type whatever you wa...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi... just heard from John, and though nothing intentionally was changed, it appears that the "edit post" function works, by way of the drop down arrow in the upper right hand corner of your posts.... Take care Tom

GL44 · GL44

Hello All, First time poster. This is a wonderful site I just found . . . and need. My A wife has been heavily drinking for 4 years. She just returned from rehab in Ca. after 30 days. She returned a different person, and not for the better. She is still drinking and I have a very strong suspicion that she...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

TODAY i went garage saling and got some toys for the dogs and a good book for me i cleaned up my house and did the wash i am getting my resume out so i can leave this control freak job i am eating more alkyline foods to help my inflamations in wrists and help my back i will soak in the tub tonight w/candles and jus...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

the slogan for me today is KEEP IT SIMPLE i have a bully boss...i have been complicating this issue by obsessing and doing too much thinking about it i am going to keep it simple by keeping my boundaries....look for another PT job and just do the basics....and stop letting it get to me... also the other sl...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family)), I was talking to my older niece the other day about how I suddenly had fleas in the house. How could this be since I give Pipers her fleas meds every month? I asked her if Mommy and Daddy give their dog fleas meds every month. She said no. Well that would explain the fleas in my house since m...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I believe this should have been asked of me in private....I get enough "PM's" so I know that function on this site is working....I feel very embarrassed by being ASKED this ??? on my THREAD... I deleted the post......It was a MIX....a book I read, Lord knows when, AND my take on it mixed in......

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

A few things to tell you... First, the word has come from "up high on the food chain" that, because of my whistle blowing, my food bank has lost their VISTA privleges. This means that, until the legal issues are resolved, my position has been suspended indefinately. This is more of a loss f...

nmike · nmike

Yes, him, the AHsober that I have been separated from for four years. Being separated was his idea. I cope. He helps everyone else first. Feels guilty if he doesn't. He doesn't think of his family. We had been getting together as a family on the 4th of July. He calls and says he wants to golf out of the state...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I guess I'm just glad he's not an alcoholic/drug addict. He treats me like a princess. I have a hard time being judgmental of people and realize nobody is perfect and Mr. Saint is not out there in the world. I hope that he's telling me the truth and he didn't act on it and that it will never happen again. ...

debilyn · debilyn

Every once in awhile we all need to be reminded, ME TOO, to not copy others material on the message board. Especially things that are not approved. Also we are not to sell or use this medium as a place to advertise books for sale etc. I will be honest, I don't have a list of approved literature, and reall...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Just thought I would update everyone on my situation! For the most part I am doing pretty good actually. Much better than I thought I would be. I'm staying with my Amom and Abrother. Never thought I would stay here again, but I just take it ODAAT, and use the Alanon tools I have learned. My brothers gf also...

belle1 · belle1

Hi, typing from my hosp bed va internet but unable to get into the chatroom just to let you all know where i am at, ill keep trying to get in and chat again. I was brought in with severe right kidney stone pain and being given pain meds and antibiotics through IV drip pain has subsided a lot thankfully, feve...

Mariner · Mariner

Dear (((All)) I really need to get this out and would be grateful for any ES&H. Some of you know my journey, I have for months now struggled with the ending of my relationship with my exbf. He is in early recovery after 25 years active addiction.During his rehab we decided to part. I accept he is unab...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

I have back on steps 3 and 4....found some things about me that need rooting out and turning over..... I have been fearful about going in and telling bully boss....."I have had enough...This is not working for me, I am giving my notice..."....I am not trusting in HP enough to carry me as I set...

liliana · liliana

It has been such a long time since I have visited this site, and even longer since I went to a face to face. My husband has been out of work for about 3 months. I have managed to cut extra expenses, on stuff that I enjoy, but that aren't nssasary, like getting my nails done, and sending the laundry out. I have b...

dickeybird · dickeybird

My AA husband moved out last Friday. This has been in the making for a few months. At first we were looking for a home together in my hometown. Then, it was looking for a home where we could have some time apart, but visit each other and my family, help my 83-year-old mom some, too. Now, that he's there, w...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

It's funny how the whole time since EXABF and I split that all I could see was the reasons we should be together. Now, especially now, after seeing him in Walmart and not being overrun by out of control, obsessing feelings I am seeing things so much clearer. When I called him out for not speaking to my son...

John · John

Hi Fellow Travellers, My name is John, I have been clean and sober since 12-21-1989. Thanks to both AA and NA, 3 great sponsors (through out the course of my almost 20 years of recovery) and a God, who was absolutely of my misunderstanding when I first arrived in the rooms, I have not found it nescessar...

debilyn · debilyn

Hoping it is not just me. Can anyone else write a post and edit it? My posts all have this thing that says reply then a thing ya pull down to edit ect but won't work???

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, Well, today I reacted. Something I have been doing very well avoiding. I get home from work and hubby is not home. (thats unusual sober,,,drinking..not so unusual). I call him. No answer. again, unusual sober, not so unusual drinking. Call again, no answer. OH WELL, that's i...

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	"Praise Report" (Preview) As they say on the God channel. I'm new. have been lurking a few weeks, posting a few days, haven't told my story yet, will break it down into dribs and drabs cause this has been going on a long time and anybody trying to read it in one sitting would go blind. Thanks to your inspiration and nudging--even wh...	Temple	6	664	Jun 19, 2009 by Temple
	My first day telling the truth... (Preview) For the first time... I let a family member in on what life is really like at my house. There is no addiction in my family of origin, and my siblings all married "well" in that they have stuck with their spouses and pretty much have stable happy marriages. Not perfect, but not full of abuse an...	ThisIsBlythe	8	798	Jun 18, 2009 by blender_girl
	Just sat down and gave myself permission to grieve and let go of supporting anyone else for the next few hours at least. (Preview) Gee family, Rosie and tlc and wildthing, you are so right, I am so good at beating myself up...still an area that I need to work on. Progress not perfection is what matters. I hear you. I am so very human and David you are right too, I made a comment, I spoke the truth, I got to the point of being sick of the...	Suzannah	4	758	Jun 18, 2009 by Temple
	Help!! please (Preview) HI. Im new to this so not sure where to start. I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic ex-cocaine addict for three years now. He was a drug addict for 10 years and decided 2 years ago that enough was enough and gave up. He has been clean ever since. He has always been a drinker but things were just...	oran	6	518	Jun 18, 2009 by xter
	why do they need to keep the family awake in the middle of the night? (Preview) out there smoking again - every time he does i wake up and stay awake till he returns but when i get up early for the gym im quiet, no lights on, etc	florida	6	771	Jun 18, 2009 by amylynn67
	I'd be OK if it weren't for you! (Preview) Ive just read something about the excuses A's make, and one bit really got me. I'd be OK if it weren't for you! My AH said so many things about me for months and months when he was out, I knew nothing of it and would walk into a social situation thinking there was my husband, my loyal husband, who would have ju...	Lilly Burn	10	900	Jun 18, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Not a good day . (Preview) Yesterday I lost a dear Al-Anon friend , he was 55 yrs old he had been in program for 7 yrs , he was so grateful for his sons addiction as it led him to our program and changed his life . He was truly an enthusiatic , grateful member of Al-Anon . I sit and think of him today and am filled with gratitude that i fou...	abbyal	19	937	Jun 18, 2009 by Andrea12
	I'm doubting alot today... (Preview) Hello and Hugs, I am having a hard time today. I can just cry. It just can't be GODs plan for me to be married to an alcholic and not have any children. My doctor suggested he and I do invetro to concieve a child. Great...Just Great! It's his self inflected fertility issue. My problem. I'm tired and...	Sincerely	5	777	Jun 18, 2009 by Jozie
	Screwed up again... (Preview) How do I do it? Why do I not learn? Cannot do right for doing wrong? I walk into the spider's web all the time, and by the time I realise it I cannot get out of it. My friend's mother died lost Thursday. The mother was only a couple of years older than me and we were friends too. She often told me that she though...	Suzannah	5	965	Jun 18, 2009 by Jozie
	Alooooooohaaaa! (Preview) Friends, I feel as if this proclamation is as significant as announcing a marriage or pregnancy. Well, actually, for me it is. In one week I will be in Maui. I am going with a good friend and her mother. And, here is the good, incredibly amazing, and proof-this-program-is-a-miracle part....... ...	Loupiness	8	2344	Jun 18, 2009 by Temple
	Being really honest! (Preview) Well avoiding communicating your real feelings to an A is somthing I am guilty of, when I try it's met with, well you did this or you did that, thier back goes up and you close down, your dealing with someone that can't, won't, doesn't understand normal, so today this morning I said to my husband your beha...	Katy	5	529	Jun 18, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I'm angry, hurt and things have changed... (Preview) My girlfriend of a year completed outpatient treatment for her prescription and marijuana abuse. It came to a head when I found I was missing adderol. She went into treatment when we got back from our vacation. She was fine during the treatment, (only one fallout), but since then, she's not taken adva...	timbotim	9	809	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Help please (Preview) I have been married to an alcoholic for 22 years. Our marriage hasn't been a real marriage is several years. The verbal abuse has been terrible and it has been so hard not to take it personally. My husband left in the middle of the night about 3 weeks ago. Won't tell me where he is staying, just that it's wit...	Mik	13	880	Jun 17, 2009 by Mik
	Doing the same things over and over again, and expsecting different results! (Preview) Davids mowing post has triggered me to write this, as I have been really struggling this past few weeks, and wondering why after nearly three years of my husbands sobriety I seem to have hit a really down time, I thought I was never going to feel this way again, and I think it's when I fall back into old habi...	Katy	3	968	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	"...Courage to change the thinks I can..." (Preview) Aloha Ohana (family)!! Sitting back relaxing and getting caught up in our recovery. Nothing better to do. I was acting out today (not in the old crazy way) in a way I was taught by a former sponsor. I use to do the Serenity Prayer literally doing all the definition of what and could and could not change...	Jerry F	4	790	Jun 17, 2009 by Jerry F
	over but not over (Preview) due to some crazy scheduling, i haven't been to a f2f in over a week and i won't be able to until saturday morning. but part of me wonders WHY i should go. please, remind me? my AH and i are over. he JUST got into AA (11 days sober) and told me last night that he can't promise he can even try to work on our marri...	xter	12	819	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	Was feeling blahhhh... (Preview) Hello everyone! I woke up Saturday morning feeling a little under the weather. It was one of those days where I could have just stayed in bed. I managed to pull myself out of bed and headed into work and got there on time. I wasn't even there one hour before it hit me. The stomach virus! UGHHH.... I cam...	Sincerely	1	596	Jun 17, 2009 by kitty
	What am I grateful for today???? (Preview) I am GRATEFUL for: my bills are paid and my needs met my body is in decent shape that my left leg is hurting NOT from something bad, but just my back spasms AND i think i am onto a new way of eating to help my inflamations in wrist and back spasms.....got a great book about new ways of eating i am grateful that to...	rosielightshines	8	1100	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	COURAGE to CHANGE___16 JUNE (Preview) During stressful periods it can be tempting to skip a meal, push ourselves until we are totally exhausted, and generally ignore our basic needs. In the midst of crisis, taking time out for an Al-Anon meet, a call to a sponsor, or a breath of fresh air may seem like a waste of all too precious moments. The...	rosielightshines	4	490	Jun 17, 2009 by rosielightshines
	How do you get around the anger and resentment? (Preview) I have been with my A boyfriend for 7 yrs now. We have 2 boys 5 yrs and 1 yr and I have a 14 yr old boy from a prior marriage. To make a long story short my A thinks that just because he financially supports us he doesn't beat us (never done) or act like a raving lunatic (which he has done on occasion with me) that...	Holly09	7	1172	Jun 17, 2009 by Holly09
	Anyone on Twitter? (Preview) ((((Family)))), Try not to laugh too hard when you read this! I did it! I succumbed to putting myself on Twitter. I thought it might be a fun way to communicate with my friends. If anyone here is on Twitter and would like my screen name just PM please. Now my niece can't tell me that I'm not "with...	Karilynn	6	714	Jun 17, 2009 by xter
	My heart is breaking at this moment (Preview) My daughter went to divorce court today for the finalization of the divorce. She went without an attorney to represent her. She gets $1,000.00 a month for a year. Plus she said she gets to keep her medical coverage. I really think she told me that so I would not go off and have a fit of some sort. Her ex...	clara	12	660	Jun 17, 2009 by Karilynn
	annoyed (Preview) I always get annoyed when Mom is drunk tho it's useless to feel that way since it doesn't change anything and just ruins things for me...... it's an automatic reaction tho. i'm 22. i should just suck it up and deal w/it not constantly complain about it. it'd be like complaining about it raining when it do...	Lanchas	8	767	Jun 16, 2009 by Lanchas
	thanks to "roselightshines" (Preview) Hello Dear Friend, I just wanted to thank you for always taking so much time to answer so many people's posts with such loving kindness and generosity in sharing your ESH. I have gotten SO much out of your posts! Your journey to recovery has been amazing, and I want to thank you for sharing it with us and s...	ThisIsBlythe	5	662	Jun 16, 2009 by Dave Harm
	My head is filled with so much. . . (Preview) After reading many posts, I do realize I have been trying to change my gf's drinking for nearly 7 years. She did quit for about a year when I said Alcohol or me, but eventually came back saying that she will no longer take an ultimatum. That I was trying to change who she was. That is her answer for everyt...	BK11	7	951	Jun 16, 2009 by BK11
	The Insanity (Preview) My disease is powerful. It's symptoms can return at any moment. My Abf has been back up North with his family working on a project. I have had an abstract fear that he may have gotten involved again with some of his "Friends" that he once used drugs and drank with. I have that itchy feeling that...	RunnerChick	7	859	Jun 16, 2009 by kitty
	not making it a catastrophe (Preview) My sponsor suggests keeping positive thoughts at the front. As someone who has been stuck in a negative spiral for so long I can find that a daunting prospect. I had some crazy idea that people who seemed happy just were incredibly lucky and everything fell in their lap. Now I see it is intense work to k...	maresie	2	834	Jun 16, 2009 by hotrod
	My ex ah... (Preview) My ex AH has been living in an oxford house since getting out of prison in March. We have been communicating well, he was paying support, working, seeing the kids every weekend, etc. He moved out of the house last week. I'm not sure of the real reason why - claimed it was because he wants to see his kids m...	carolinagirl	26	1163	Jun 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	Does anyone ever "get there"? (Preview) I realize that this is a journey and its going to be a looooong one, a life long one and I've spent hours today reading this board and learning soooo much and I'm thankful for every single letter, word, sentence and post that you all have taken your time to write and to help others! I am wondering if there a...	amylynn67	16	639	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	desperately seeking help/advice, anything (Preview) Hello all, I've been searching for a board like this and just found it tonight. My story is long and probably a little odd so I'll try to keep it short. Last June 4, 2008 I married my high school sweetheart after being apart for 20 years. I would have married him then but he drank all the time and I was afrai...	amylynn67	11	576	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	What STEP(s) are you working today??? (Preview) For me it is the first THREE steps... Step one----books says admitted i was powerless over the affects of xxxxxxxxx (alcohol or whatever it is that you are struggling with, i.e., food, drugs, et al)....and that my life had become unmanageable***.....Rosie says......I am powerless over this j...	rosielightshines	10	829	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Surprised by the anger I am feeling... (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) Some of you will know by now that I am very slow to anger, even quicker to forgive and not aggressive though I am assertive. I know enough of myself to be able to say that about myself. However, what is strange to me is that I cannot even begin to tell you how angry I am fee...	Suzannah	7	505	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	checking for ticks? (Preview) Hey MIP family, thought I would fill you in on my progress with divorce. My husband keeps trying to "reel" me back into the relationship, and I'll have to admit on a couple of occasions it has worked. Detaching from someone you've spent 4 years of your life with is hard. After telling him I was...	java	10	758	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	boyfriend just left to get high (Preview) here i sit he asked for a ride from me and i said no so he took his truck with very little gas he tried calling his connection but got no answer - decided to drive over there and look for his dealer	florida	8	915	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	update on all (Preview) Dear all, Some time ago I posted about the father A's desire to get me to get him on my insurance as a named driver. I refused and explained to him why it would not be good for me. He is still annoyed, despite the fact that he has got insurance now in his own name, owns his own car and is legal. I am proud that I sto...	maire rua	4	771	Jun 16, 2009 by rosielightshines
	spilling it,long soap opera, potter style (Preview) Called to talk to AH who lives with this female who is old and in her day was not known for being a nice,clean, person. Meaning she was a free love kinda gal. He was not there so we talked. Got an earful from the start. She says,"I wish he would go to rehab or jail." He is breaking everything and d...	debilyn	3	634	Jun 16, 2009 by maresie
	and THIS is why I NEED a sponsor... (Preview) Yesterday I phoned my sponsor. I was at my aH (really at myself) for having got sucked into the emotional games. And I was feeling a little vindictive. A few days before he had invited me and our son to his place for a family gathering he was hosting. I told him that it would be inappropriate for me to go...	Rora	8	857	Jun 16, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Working the Steps- A USER'S GUIDE (Preview) Hmm.. I DON'T have a 'User's Guide' but am finding my perfectionism bleeding through to my recovery. I've been struggling alot lately with working the steps ENOUGH. Granted, I just recently got a new sponsor that I had needed for quite sometime and started working on Step One in the Path's to Recovery...	RunnerChick	5	965	Jun 16, 2009 by maire rua
	Thank heaven I can come here and "let it all hang out" (Preview) hey all Thanks for the loving support re: my job and my other stuff...What would I do w/out my recovery family????? I have noticed something...I am having a REAL hard time, staying in my body...staying focused and keeping my scrambling thoughts CALM and in the NOW....in otherwords I cannot RELAX....	rosielightshines	14	848	Jun 15, 2009 by Temple
	If you want to have a "signature" thingy on your posts (Preview) Hey you all if you want to have a "signature" thingy always on your posts.....you go into your name. like when your on the page, look up and right and you see yourself or click onyour name anywhere on site and you see on the left "signature".....click on it and type whatever you wa...	rosielightshines	2	451	Jun 15, 2009 by debilyn
	Editing your own posts (Preview) Hi... just heard from John, and though nothing intentionally was changed, it appears that the "edit post" function works, by way of the drop down arrow in the upper right hand corner of your posts.... Take care Tom	canadianguy	2	864	Jun 15, 2009 by debilyn
	Why? Why? Why? (Preview) Hello All, First time poster. This is a wonderful site I just found . . . and need. My A wife has been heavily drinking for 4 years. She just returned from rehab in Ca. after 30 days. She returned a different person, and not for the better. She is still drinking and I have a very strong suspicion that she...	GL44	12	944	Jun 15, 2009 by Jerry F
	what am I doing for me today??? (Preview) TODAY i went garage saling and got some toys for the dogs and a good book for me i cleaned up my house and did the wash i am getting my resume out so i can leave this control freak job i am eating more alkyline foods to help my inflamations in wrists and help my back i will soak in the tub tonight w/candles and jus...	rosielightshines	8	754	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	what slogan are U working today???? (Preview) the slogan for me today is KEEP IT SIMPLE i have a bully boss...i have been complicating this issue by obsessing and doing too much thinking about it i am going to keep it simple by keeping my boundaries....look for another PT job and just do the basics....and stop letting it get to me... also the other sl...	rosielightshines	8	790	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Out of the mouth of babes.... (Preview) (((Family)), I was talking to my older niece the other day about how I suddenly had fleas in the house. How could this be since I give Pipers her fleas meds every month? I asked her if Mommy and Daddy give their dog fleas meds every month. She said no. Well that would explain the fleas in my house since m...	Karilynn	3	669	Jun 15, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	What is WITHIN my bounaries??? What is NOT??? (Preview) I believe this should have been asked of me in private....I get enough "PM's" so I know that function on this site is working....I feel very embarrassed by being ASKED this ??? on my THREAD... I deleted the post......It was a MIX....a book I read, Lord knows when, AND my take on it mixed in......	rosielightshines	5	708	Jun 15, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Just wanted y'all to know (Preview) A few things to tell you... First, the word has come from "up high on the food chain" that, because of my whistle blowing, my food bank has lost their VISTA privleges. This means that, until the legal issues are resolved, my position has been suspended indefinately. This is more of a loss f...	Tiger2006	8	758	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	So selfish (Preview) Yes, him, the AHsober that I have been separated from for four years. Being separated was his idea. I cope. He helps everyone else first. Feels guilty if he doesn't. He doesn't think of his family. We had been getting together as a family on the 4th of July. He calls and says he wants to golf out of the state...	nmike	7	858	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	being judgmental (Preview) I guess I'm just glad he's not an alcoholic/drug addict. He treats me like a princess. I have a hard time being judgmental of people and realize nobody is perfect and Mr. Saint is not out there in the world. I hope that he's telling me the truth and he didn't act on it and that it will never happen again. ...	carolinagirl	7	772	Jun 15, 2009 by maresie
	Advice and copyright law (Preview) Every once in awhile we all need to be reminded, ME TOO, to not copy others material on the message board. Especially things that are not approved. Also we are not to sell or use this medium as a place to advertise books for sale etc. I will be honest, I don't have a list of approved literature, and reall...	debilyn	10	919	Jun 15, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I'm doing good! (Preview) Just thought I would update everyone on my situation! For the most part I am doing pretty good actually. Much better than I thought I would be. I'm staying with my Amom and Abrother. Never thought I would stay here again, but I just take it ODAAT, and use the Alanon tools I have learned. My brothers gf also...	Melissa21	6	946	Jun 15, 2009 by blender_girl
	from my hosp bed (Preview) Hi, typing from my hosp bed va internet but unable to get into the chatroom just to let you all know where i am at, ill keep trying to get in and chat again. I was brought in with severe right kidney stone pain and being given pain meds and antibiotics through IV drip pain has subsided a lot thankfully, feve...	belle1	11	635	Jun 15, 2009 by blender_girl
	Codependant no more? (Preview) Dear (((All)) I really need to get this out and would be grateful for any ES&H. Some of you know my journey, I have for months now struggled with the ending of my relationship with my exbf. He is in early recovery after 25 years active addiction.During his rehab we decided to part. I accept he is unab...	Mariner	8	771	Jun 14, 2009 by Bella333
	So WHAT am I still doing there???? (Preview) I have back on steps 3 and 4....found some things about me that need rooting out and turning over..... I have been fearful about going in and telling bully boss....."I have had enough...This is not working for me, I am giving my notice..."....I am not trusting in HP enough to carry me as I set...	rosielightshines	9	848	Jun 14, 2009 by rosielightshines
	feeling so alone (Preview) It has been such a long time since I have visited this site, and even longer since I went to a face to face. My husband has been out of work for about 3 months. I have managed to cut extra expenses, on stuff that I enjoy, but that aren't nssasary, like getting my nails done, and sending the laundry out. I have b...	liliana	7	1161	Jun 13, 2009 by clara
	Insanity? need help (Preview) My AA husband moved out last Friday. This has been in the making for a few months. At first we were looking for a home together in my hometown. Then, it was looking for a home where we could have some time apart, but visit each other and my family, help my 83-year-old mom some, too. Now, that he's there, w...	dickeybird	3	700	Jun 13, 2009 by debilyn
	Seeing with open eyes what HP wants me to see~FINALLY:) (Preview) It's funny how the whole time since EXABF and I split that all I could see was the reasons we should be together. Now, especially now, after seeing him in Walmart and not being overrun by out of control, obsessing feelings I am seeing things so much clearer. When I called him out for not speaking to my son...	shellyj123	4	443	Jun 12, 2009 by nmike
	Miracles In Progress Story (Preview) Hi Fellow Travellers, My name is John, I have been clean and sober since 12-21-1989. Thanks to both AA and NA, 3 great sponsors (through out the course of my almost 20 years of recovery) and a God, who was absolutely of my misunderstanding when I first arrived in the rooms, I have not found it nescessar...	John	15	898	Jun 12, 2009 by Jean4444
	need help here please (Preview) Hoping it is not just me. Can anyone else write a post and edit it? My posts all have this thing that says reply then a thing ya pull down to edit ect but won't work???	debilyn	5	899	Jun 12, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I reacted...ughh (Preview) Hello and Hugs, Well, today I reacted. Something I have been doing very well avoiding. I get home from work and hubby is not home. (thats unusual sober,,,drinking..not so unusual). I call him. No answer. again, unusual sober, not so unusual drinking. Call again, no answer. OH WELL, that's i...	Sincerely	4	774	Jun 12, 2009 by xter
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