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First, I'd like to thank everyone here who has helped give acceptance and support. I am understanding I am not alone in all my thoughts, and it is much appreciated.
I am always nervous to post here because I never know if it's the "right" thing to say, but I realize, maybe everyone here thinks the same...but I don't reply a lot on threads because I'm just nervous that I have nothing to give being so new in this program.
Second, I have to laugh because either my MOM has turned into me or I've TURNED INTO HER!! LOL...
She has been sick with a cold for a few days. This is sort of a big thing. She is 79 years old. Between her and my 83 year old father, one of them is either up or down. So I called her last night and asked her if she wanted me to do some grocery shopping for her. She hesitated because she hates asking for help, but agreed. Today, I called her and asked for her list and she explained she was letting my Dad do it. I had to sit and laugh but say "ok" - She enables my dad to the HILT and does everything for him, so the sheer fact he offered to do it, I was pretty happy. He's physically able to do these things but honestly can be depressed and sits around a lot so I was happy to see him get out of the house, but I could see the writing on the wall.
Here I am in my house angry and resentful sometimes when I have to grocery shop knowing my AH doesn't, but what makes me laugh about how STUPID that is is when he DOES shop, I HATE IT. He never buys what I think he should and spends way more money and when he gets home I get all pissy because a grocery bill that should be $150 ends up $225.
So, I grocery shop and get resentful. Isn't that the stupidest thing EVER!!
So guess who called me this afternoon about the groceries!!!!! LOL She sent him with $40 and he had to use "his own money" and paid $65...I just sat back and giggled about the whole thing because I could have written the story for her.
LOL...It's sooo funny if you really think about it. My UBER control issues get me pissed over GROCERIES! It's ridiculous. My AH can't win either way. The poor guy...
Now my poor dad cant win either.
Ahhhh...Al-anon, HP, thank you for helping me recognize all my CRAZY CRAZY FAULTS!!!
-- Edited by Inpain on Thursday 11th of June 2009 03:50:58 PM
-- Edited by debilyn on Friday 12th of June 2009 08:22:32 PM
my cousin used to fear she would be like her mother....my auntie was a wonderful woman...my cousin sees that now, however i think a lot of people mirror the parent who had the most impact on them..
thank God i never took after my evil father....i am more like she was......looks and personality...hoewver working the program, i am making a new me....independent of all that dysfunction.......
