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Dear all, have just had distressing news in relation to employment, there is an embargo on replacing summer staff so I usually do this work but will unallowed to do so because of new rules apparently. I was gracious about same when told and am putting it into hps hands. I had to then tell my son that I would not be able to help him financially in september as a result. This upset me but I cannot commit financially at present. I will also need to let a student go that I was employing as I simply cannot see the wherewithal to pay her. However the latter was taking me for a complete fool, not completing hours and had to be monitored continuously for any quality work, so this does not upset me. I am proud of how I reacted to same, calmly and with dignity, I shocked myself, I would have been crying for days a few years ago, now I just think of plan b and know that there is one, I also think that I had too many responsibilities there in relation to other commmittments so it is time for me to think and focus on me.
yes I hear you- I just went through some program cuts myself and part of my workload just disappeared and I would have been freaking out, in the past and now I am like: "OK, less work for me to do! YAY!" I am still getting paid the same, though. Which is not much but its enough to get by.
It sounds like the toughest thing is not being able to contribute to helping your son. But we can only do what we can do and no more. Its not like you wouldn't if you could- you WOULD if you could!
Will you have a little extra time on your hands? If so, more time to attend meetings or what I really dig are attending special meetings like a women's step study or something with more focus. Those are really meaty! Who knows what a little extra time could lead to- a whole new adventure to embark upon or special healing to occur...hugs, J.
This is what I love about this program. You can use it any where and any time. I'm sorry about your job, but I know you will be able to handle it. I hope things turn around for you. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Well since you are staying in the now, and not letting it drive you crazy... I would pick back up my favorite hobbie, and start enjoying some of my down time... Good for you for doing what you have to with out letting it control you.. .
This program is wonderful... I have learned so much already that i get excited each day to see what is next :)
I am so happy that you did not over react and kept it at a calm level. I have found myself able to do this much more and must say it is a real energy saver.
So sorry about the bad news, but I am proud of the way you handled it. Stick to your program.
I too have noticed a change in the way I am handling my daughter's health problems( the stroke where she lost most of her vision). When I was at my al-anon meeting, I was telling everyone about it and I was not sobbing; sad, and worried, but in control. The program works!!!!!!
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
