Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jeanne · Jeanne

I guess, I just need to dump a little. My son who is 28 years old had two wonderful years being clean (he had two years before too) and sober, but now he has no desire to be clean *because* he has a great job, girlfriend and life is going *great.* He has short term memory of the days he slept on a park bench or...

Tracy · Tracy

Wow once they get sober you realise how much you need to change even more so. I have been very resebtful and angrey, suffering the poor me's. Wanting everything to get better overnight now he is sober ( only been 2-3 months). I went to my f2f the subject was expectations and I realised to my shame that It...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Taking care of me--taking naps when I need them! I am again struggling with sleep but it is getting better all the time! I guess that is a Beatles song! It's getting better all the time, better better so much better! I am focusing on myself a little better, too. I am not going to let others bring me down a...

mary j · mary j

Im pleased with the way MOST things have gone this wk. Iv tried hard to look after ME with the help of my HP. last Saturday when my AD told me she was going to end her life i asked you all for help, and with your help i got through it. got up Sunday morning, AD still alive (got her HP to thank for that) still dri...

CarlosNA · CarlosNA

When my GF was active, she sent her daughter up to Tennessee from Georgia to live with her daddy that she had only known for 2 years because he wanted nothing to do with a child until the time she was 12. She stayed there for 2 years and during that time, her mom completed a 6 month drug program, outpatient, a...

hanila · hanila

I've recently started a relationship with an old friend that I've known for years. I have always had feelings for him and now we are together, only I learned that he is an alcoholic. I'm so sad about this, but I like him so much and don't want it to end. Yesterday, we spent some time together at some outdo...

danz123 · danz123

July 12, 2009 (9 PM est) Business Meeting Agenda I. Review of June minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old businessA. Helper service position update ...

RLC · RLC

This past week I was thinking about the changes the Al-Anon program has made in my life. It dawned on me that one of the most important changes was "Not Reacting" to different situations in the way I had before coming to Al-Anon. Some examples are, now I try put my mind in gear before I put...

Suzannah · Suzannah

The following is a live chat I had with my daughter last night: 19:38xx feel sick... need sleep 19:39Me What's up xx...? Is it all getting to you? 19:40xx midwife appt and HE never showed... i rang him went to voicemail.. he text while she was here... he asks what is it i want from him exactly just wound up,...

ally · ally

Wow, this is a surprise on me this week! i've not done al-anon in eighteen months f2f or online! I practice in all my movements on a daily basis! After three years continued al-anon it kind of becomes a part of you! I have remained friends with some from the site and keep in daily contact with them! I still r...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

First I want to thank each of you who read and responded to my post from yesterday. I'm happy to report that I did not snoop at all! Today the urge is still there just a little, not nearly as consuming as yesterday. The program and the people in it have given me much strength and carried me sooo many times...

Ness · Ness

All my life Ive loved music... Im open to all kinds but always veer back to old blues and rock.I havent really been into my music for at least couple of years, yes I have the radio on in the background... but to actually chill, relax and really get into it...no....... WHY.....because Ason and I love the s...

Maria123 · Maria123

I got the phone call that broke me at the time . . . my brother called to say "Mom is dead." With no warning at all, no chance to say how much I loved her and how much she meant to me, she died in her sleep at the young age of 63 and here I was at 27 with 3 young babies myself and no mother. Bar none, my mothe...

Christy · Christy

Some of you might remember the winter before last that I posted pics of my tree that looked unsavable due to a ice storm. The weight of the ice split it down the middle and the branches hung to the ground. It held many memories. The tree and my son are the same age. That spring my neighbor and I decided we w...

Christy · Christy

It is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all. Laura Ingalls Wilder said that, and she was right. This seems such simple stuff, such simplistic knowledge, yet when we truly embrace it as our living reality, our day-to-day lives begin to change in very important ways. So tak...

maresie · maresie

I've found that it isn't just in relationships that I am idealistic. Somehow I have this idea that everything I put my hand in should be this idealistic perfect creation. I'm currently going to a therapy group and while I keep my mouth shut most of the time rahter than blurt out what I'm thinking I have t...

Matt_M · Matt_M

Thankyou all who answered my last post. The information was very helpful. I am feeling better about myself just reading your posts and talking with my sposor and other AA'ers. My wife spoke with a lady from Alanon that I met at an AA meeting. The meeting went well I think, but I still don't know what she wa...

maresie · maresie

I've been working pretty hard on what I do in relationships and how they become a cycle of despair, obsession and super commitment. Basically what happens is that I idealize the person and don't see the reality of who they are, then when they disappoint me (which is inevitable) I get enraged (needles...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

I know I shouldn't sit and complain or talk about the A just worry about me. But right now I just need to. I knew something was wrong with him shortly after meeting him..he had right side pain. And drinking is all that would help. It's been getting worse especially since I moved out almost 2 months ago. Im j...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Nowhere but nowhere in this programme does it say that I will find my life perfect, free from struggle, free from disappointment, free from yearnings, free from sadness that others will not make an effort to meet me half way. Everywhere in this programme it teaches me to look at myself, change myself,...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I am warning you now, this is a vent. I've gone too long without al-anon and situations keep festering. Couldn't talk to my sponsor tonight, and I am about to blow. This may be long... Had a glorious vacation in Hawaii and now I am back to reality. By the way, it was totally worth it. Let's see...

Matt_M · Matt_M

I recently went to treatment for alcohol abuse and have 60 days of sobriety. My wife is still very hurt about the way I acted while I was a active alcoholic and wants a divorce. She doesn't think there is any way that things can get better. I am willing to do anything to save my marraige. She won't go to alano...

GlitterGirl · GlitterGirl

I had posted this... and I apologize if this is a duplicate post, but it seems the original got deleted... I think i somehow did it by accident) Original Post: Hello Folks :) I'd like a bit of input... I'm still very new to Al-Anon, but am trying to get a better understanding of what to do and not to do regard...

xter · xter

i thought my life was unmanageable already but last night i was really, truly and finally defeated. i don't even want to go into details, it's just more of the same drama with AH. i just can't bear the pain any more. last night i prayed, "i don't know who i'm talking to but you've got to help me. i c...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I am enough. Just for today I will do the best I can and make the most of what I get. I will be optimistic and hopeful. I will not dwell on yesterday but do the best I can today. I am not perfect but I am enough. It's been a crazy week for me. I've been working all week and will not be getting a break. But, like someo...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I working my steps and am floundering about trying to reach out and connect with others. I'm trying to process things and deal with them in a RECOVERY way and this board feels SAFE for me to do so. The phone feels like 1000 lbs - TRULY. I find myself gravitating towards newcomers or those who have simili...

teddybearpoet · teddybearpoet

When I first came into the program. My first meeting i was givin a assingment by the wonderfull sponser i still have.. I as surpossed to draw a picture of how i was the disease and then write about it.. So I wrote this poem.. The Disease The disappointment and broken promises.. Hopes and dreams scattered...

maire rua · maire rua

Today I met a student I had taught who had become a friend and who was very supportive last year when step mom A was diagnosed with an incurable brain tumour, she died in November 08. Her daughter has just been diagnosed with a very malignant melanoma and when I met her and her three friends they had opened...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Not from alcoholism, but from a neurological condition that contributed to the depression that contributed to the alcoholism. We have had such a long and eduring marraige and I have changed so much. I finally realized that I can make do without him and his problems, and that his being sick doesn't j...

chezza · chezza

Hi everyone I am feeling pretty fearful at the moment about asking someone I have had in mind from the moment I met them to be my sponsor. I'm almost certain this person would be ideal as she has qualities I would like to gain myself and I feel has tackled the steps thoroughly from what I have listened to in...

Rita G · Rita G

How about a positive update for a change???? Seems like so many times updates can be filled with sad news - I guess maybe it depends on perspective - hmm perspective or attitude - it appears that is one of the many lessons that I have learned in recovery . . . the majority of my battle is with my perspective a...

maresie · maresie

There are sometimes I want to blot out all memories of the ex A. I am working on decluttering and I veer between wanting to pitch a lot of stuff to being obessive about where the stuff I don't want should go. I know it will be a process. Obviously our two dogs are one bit product of the relationship and I'm...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I woke up this am and found myself again thinking about EXABF-UGHHH!!!!. There has been much progress made-he used to consume every waking thought and moment from the time my eyes opened, now though I think about him it is in fleeting moments, usually remembering a time we shared last Summer or wonde...

Ness · Ness

Our local constabulary (police) kindly brought our A son home drunk and incapable....so much for sleeping it off!! (see my last post) Had I been in the vicinity...it was husb that took delivery of him....I would not have allowed him in the house but would have let the police put him in the cells for the...

Diva · Diva

Many of you already know that my daughter and I were separated at birth, and that I have recently met her after 40+ years. She flew to San Antonio to visit with me, and wouldnt you know...Alcoholic companion took that opportunity to binge. Of course he knew how important this meeting was to me, and I b...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

Today at 5 minutes and 6 seconds after 4 it will be 04:05:06 07/08/09 This will never happen again in our lifetime. Kewl..........

Bella333 · Bella333

Should I consider reading my A's email and/or text messages to confirm whether he is lying or not? I have always believed him 100% until some recent incidents where I was told he was lying to me (and he was). Even in the face of "hard" evidence he will not admit to anything (except when he is dru...

Bella333 · Bella333

I have noticed that my active alcoholic ex-boyfriend (we have stayed close after breaking up two years ago and we have talked about maybe getting back together which would lead to marriage) is acting very detached from ME! He still stays in contact with me and we play tennis etc. but has been reconne...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

It truly is amazing when I leave things to God, and just do the next right thing. I started volunteering this summer in the medical records department at my small local hospital to get some hands-on experience for my upcoming degree (associate of applied science in medical information technology...

debilyn · debilyn

I have been here many years. We used to have a member post from ODAT every day. I missed that so I asked Overcome, aka Java to post it again. John was here a lot then so I did not think twice about it not being appropriate. It is possible we did have persmission so I am going to look into it. I am sorry about any mi...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My son and I are on vacation visiting my family. We are having a great time until my husband called me yesterday to tell me that he was in a car accident on his way to work. I guess I should be thankful alcohol wasn't involved (but will admit that was my FIRST thought). Now we don't have a 2nd vehicle becau...

Ness · Ness

Im grateful to this board, to all of you for sharing your ES&H...thank you.When I found MIP one dark day in January it started me on the path to recovery. Im a slow work in progress, building my Strength which sustains my Hope because my Experience of alcoholism took me to the end of my rope. I am sti...

Overcome · Overcome

It was pointed out to me by two other moderators of this room that my posting of the daily literature ODAAT in Al-Anon, is copyrighted literature. This is not allowed by WSO and it states in the Al-anon/Alateen service manual that "The WSO does not grant permisison for substantial reprints of C...

teddybearpoet · teddybearpoet

Hi.. Im Cathy.. A couple of weeks ago i had something happen that I have not shared with many.. Cause i did not want people to think i was crazy.. Those I have shared it with though says they thought it was a spiratial awakening and then my sponser last night said she though it was also forgivness.. It start...

Overcome · Overcome

What's so important about being right? Why do we complicate our lives and aggravate our difficulties by insisting our views be accepted? (this share is found in the daily reader) -- Edited by tea2 on Wednesday 8th of July 2009 09:19:54 PM

beacheemom · beacheemom

hi all, just wanted to update you guys. I hope all of you are doing good. Well, as some of you know I have been on a cleaning and decluttering spree for days now. It has been good for my soul!!! It's been my own way of moving forward. Like most of you all on here, I too do not want to have to make a decision on th...

Codependent · Codependent

As a codependent I am finding that my relationship insecurity is not just with As but with men in general. I am desperately lonely and so self-destructive when it comes to dating that my fears of always being alone just get reinforced. I know I am supposed to love myself, etc. But, honestly, I just WA...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All. As some of you know my job fell through for the summer because of an embargo on hiring. I took it well though I have two people in my employment who I have kept on as we are doing sterling work on the house. I have about four years of clutter to clear up and we are getting through this slowly but surely...

AliAlAnon · AliAlAnon

I have always been fairly careful with marriage but after four years of knowing each other (but I lived in another state) and one year of dating, I said yes to my fiance's proposal. I have just decided this is a man I can give my heart to but now am starting to wonder if he is an alcoholic. Since he started d...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) I read this yesterday and thought it was just a great visual for me to hold in my mind of why I need to keep coming back. I wanted to share it with you all. A Parable by a Sponsor A member of the program of recovery, who previously had been attending meetings regularly, stopped going. A...

Overcome · Overcome

As many of you know I've been going through a divorce, my 4th. I have had a tendency in the past to go from one relationship to another, to another, to another. Well, you get the picture. Recently I was fooling myself that a "friend" of mine from Texas was just a "friend" when in actu...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) I got another dose of my HP's sense of humor this week so I thought I would share it with you. I was sitting at work Monday, minding my own business, doing my job when my supervisor came in to my office and had a strange look on his face...one that said he has some news and he didn't think I wa...

Overcome · Overcome

Boy am I a gluten for punishment or what. After blocking husband's email, I get a request to be his friend on facebook. I hover over the accept or deline button. My curiousity gets the better of me and I hit "accept". I post on his wall that I need to get in touch with him for the finalizing of the d...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Okay............ this time i can't blame it on PMS. hormones are no excuse in this behavior. i have been angry and crappy. i can't stand to even be around my own self anymore. and when i get like this, the program and my faith are the last thing on my mind. i know what i gotta do, i have the tools and i'm c...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Things are changing. My AH has decided to stop drinking and I am happy about that but life as we have known it, for years now, is changing. For the better but still changing. I don't know what to expect tonight when he gets home from work. I am apprehensive, excited and scared. I am so used to life being a cer...

clara · clara

Well, I took the dive off the deep end and invited daughter out to have a family holiday celebration. She was so excited and said she would come. Then on Friday, she called and said she could make it because she was having trouble with her truck. I asked her what was wrong and her reply "I am not a m...

Mystique2009 · Mystique2009

This is my first visit to this site, and I have a feeling I'm at the right place, but perhaps the reason I'm here is "denial?" All I can say is that I'm afraid my husband may be an alcoholic, and after thorough research into the subject, I'm very afraid for him and for me. Perhaps I need for some o...

mary j · mary j

iv got a big problem, my daugther has bin on a binge for a wk, she has just text me an said she want to die. what do i do? just cant do this on my own

Codependent · Codependent

Debilyn your comment touched me. I just wanted all of you to know that through it all why I come back is because I know that here I have a safe place to say the same things over and over, make the same mistakes over and over, and be welcomed with love, support, acceptance, not judgement, but also with a remi...

MrsGratitude · MrsGratitude

Got to lots of meetings this weekend. And lots of contact. Feel like I am swimming and or floating in recovery. Made me realize that I need a lot more meetings in every single 7 day stretch. Come hell or high water or holidays or traffic. And I've very grateful for the people on this board for their sha...

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	New Here but not to the topic......... (Preview) I guess, I just need to dump a little. My son who is 28 years old had two wonderful years being clean (he had two years before too) and sober, but now he has no desire to be clean because he has a great job, girlfriend and life is going great. He has short term memory of the days he slept on a park bench or...	Jeanne	4	760	Jul 11, 2009 by Jeanne
	expectations (Preview) Wow once they get sober you realise how much you need to change even more so. I have been very resebtful and angrey, suffering the poor me's. Wanting everything to get better overnight now he is sober ( only been 2-3 months). I went to my f2f the subject was expectations and I realised to my shame that It...	Tracy	7	948	Jul 11, 2009 by debilyn
	It's getting better... (Preview) Taking care of me--taking naps when I need them! I am again struggling with sleep but it is getting better all the time! I guess that is a Beatles song! It's getting better all the time, better better so much better! I am focusing on myself a little better, too. I am not going to let others bring me down a...	Hoot Nanny	1	400	Jul 11, 2009 by ally
	one wk on (Preview) Im pleased with the way MOST things have gone this wk. Iv tried hard to look after ME with the help of my HP. last Saturday when my AD told me she was going to end her life i asked you all for help, and with your help i got through it. got up Sunday morning, AD still alive (got her HP to thank for that) still dri...	mary j	3	741	Jul 10, 2009 by Jerry F
	Recovering Addict GF is facing a custody battle (Preview) When my GF was active, she sent her daughter up to Tennessee from Georgia to live with her daddy that she had only known for 2 years because he wanted nothing to do with a child until the time she was 12. She stayed there for 2 years and during that time, her mom completed a 6 month drug program, outpatient, a...	CarlosNA	7	1357	Jul 10, 2009 by CarlosNA
	in a realtionship with an alcoholic and have questions (Preview) I've recently started a relationship with an old friend that I've known for years. I have always had feelings for him and now we are together, only I learned that he is an alcoholic. I'm so sad about this, but I like him so much and don't want it to end. Yesterday, we spent some time together at some outdo...	hanila	13	993	Jul 10, 2009 by mimi70
	July Business Meeting Agenda (Preview) July 12, 2009 (9 PM est) Business Meeting Agenda I. Review of June minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old businessA. Helper service position update ...	danz123	0	486	Jul 10, 2009 by danz123
	"Not Reacting" (Preview) This past week I was thinking about the changes the Al-Anon program has made in my life. It dawned on me that one of the most important changes was "Not Reacting" to different situations in the way I had before coming to Al-Anon. Some examples are, now I try put my mind in gear before I put...	RLC	4	1049	Jul 10, 2009 by Rora
	So, how am I doing? (Preview) The following is a live chat I had with my daughter last night: 19:38xx feel sick... need sleep 19:39Me What's up xx...? Is it all getting to you? 19:40xx midwife appt and HE never showed... i rang him went to voicemail.. he text while she was here... he asks what is it i want from him exactly just wound up,...	Suzannah	1	566	Jul 10, 2009 by debilyn
	Struggling To Find A Balance (Preview) Wow, this is a surprise on me this week! i've not done al-anon in eighteen months f2f or online! I practice in all my movements on a daily basis! After three years continued al-anon it kind of becomes a part of you! I have remained friends with some from the site and keep in daily contact with them! I still r...	ally	3	1682	Jul 10, 2009 by Suzannah
	Made it through another struggle........ (Preview) First I want to thank each of you who read and responded to my post from yesterday. I'm happy to report that I did not snoop at all! Today the urge is still there just a little, not nearly as consuming as yesterday. The program and the people in it have given me much strength and carried me sooo many times...	shellyj123	1	375	Jul 10, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Reclaiming ME....part 2.... (Preview) All my life Ive loved music... Im open to all kinds but always veer back to old blues and rock.I havent really been into my music for at least couple of years, yes I have the radio on in the background... but to actually chill, relax and really get into it...no....... WHY.....because Ason and I love the s...	Ness	3	700	Jul 10, 2009 by Christy
	My Mom, 20 years ago today . . . (Preview) I got the phone call that broke me at the time . . . my brother called to say "Mom is dead." With no warning at all, no chance to say how much I loved her and how much she meant to me, she died in her sleep at the young age of 63 and here I was at 27 with 3 young babies myself and no mother. Bar none, my mothe...	Maria123	6	848	Jul 10, 2009 by Karilynn
	Speaking of trees.... (Preview) Some of you might remember the winter before last that I posted pics of my tree that looked unsavable due to a ice storm. The weight of the ice split it down the middle and the branches hung to the ground. It held many memories. The tree and my son are the same age. That spring my neighbor and I decided we w...	Christy	8	901	Jul 10, 2009 by Karilynn
	The simple things in life.. (Preview) It is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all. Laura Ingalls Wilder said that, and she was right. This seems such simple stuff, such simplistic knowledge, yet when we truly embrace it as our living reality, our day-to-day lives begin to change in very important ways. So tak...	Christy	7	647	Jul 9, 2009 by tea2
	Idealism (Preview) I've found that it isn't just in relationships that I am idealistic. Somehow I have this idea that everything I put my hand in should be this idealistic perfect creation. I'm currently going to a therapy group and while I keep my mouth shut most of the time rahter than blurt out what I'm thinking I have t...	maresie	4	684	Jul 9, 2009 by Jean4444
	Thankyou all (Preview) Thankyou all who answered my last post. The information was very helpful. I am feeling better about myself just reading your posts and talking with my sposor and other AA'ers. My wife spoke with a lady from Alanon that I met at an AA meeting. The meeting went well I think, but I still don't know what she wa...	Matt_M	2	558	Jul 9, 2009 by Sincerely
	Abandonment issues (Preview) I've been working pretty hard on what I do in relationships and how they become a cycle of despair, obsession and super commitment. Basically what happens is that I idealize the person and don't see the reality of who they are, then when they disappoint me (which is inevitable) I get enraged (needles...	maresie	8	1123	Jul 9, 2009 by Bella333
	I need some ESH (Preview) I know I shouldn't sit and complain or talk about the A just worry about me. But right now I just need to. I knew something was wrong with him shortly after meeting him..he had right side pain. And drinking is all that would help. It's been getting worse especially since I moved out almost 2 months ago. Im j...	Melissa21	9	928	Jul 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	A waste of energy so STOP, regroup, and redirect that energy into a positive action in my own recovery programme. (Preview) Nowhere but nowhere in this programme does it say that I will find my life perfect, free from struggle, free from disappointment, free from yearnings, free from sadness that others will not make an effort to meet me half way. Everywhere in this programme it teaches me to look at myself, change myself,...	Suzannah	6	766	Jul 9, 2009 by maresie
	Home from Hawaii and I need a meeting! (Preview) Hi Friends, I am warning you now, this is a vent. I've gone too long without al-anon and situations keep festering. Couldn't talk to my sponsor tonight, and I am about to blow. This may be long... Had a glorious vacation in Hawaii and now I am back to reality. By the way, it was totally worth it. Let's see...	Loupiness	6	855	Jul 9, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Recovering alcoholic trying to save a marraige. (Preview) I recently went to treatment for alcohol abuse and have 60 days of sobriety. My wife is still very hurt about the way I acted while I was a active alcoholic and wants a divorce. She doesn't think there is any way that things can get better. I am willing to do anything to save my marraige. She won't go to alano...	Matt_M	9	1858	Jul 9, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Should I? Or Should I Not? (Preview) I had posted this... and I apologize if this is a duplicate post, but it seems the original got deleted... I think i somehow did it by accident) Original Post: Hello Folks :) I'd like a bit of input... I'm still very new to Al-Anon, but am trying to get a better understanding of what to do and not to do regard...	GlitterGirl	8	668	Jul 9, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	just sick (Preview) i thought my life was unmanageable already but last night i was really, truly and finally defeated. i don't even want to go into details, it's just more of the same drama with AH. i just can't bear the pain any more. last night i prayed, "i don't know who i'm talking to but you've got to help me. i c...	xter	7	786	Jul 9, 2009 by xter
	Enough (Preview) I am enough. Just for today I will do the best I can and make the most of what I get. I will be optimistic and hopeful. I will not dwell on yesterday but do the best I can today. I am not perfect but I am enough. It's been a crazy week for me. I've been working all week and will not be getting a break. But, like someo...	christinajeanne	4	828	Jul 9, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Sticking with the Winners (Preview) I working my steps and am floundering about trying to reach out and connect with others. I'm trying to process things and deal with them in a RECOVERY way and this board feels SAFE for me to do so. The phone feels like 1000 lbs - TRULY. I find myself gravitating towards newcomers or those who have simili...	RunnerChick	6	662	Jul 9, 2009 by RunnerChick
	The Disease (A poem I wote) (Preview) When I first came into the program. My first meeting i was givin a assingment by the wonderfull sponser i still have.. I as surpossed to draw a picture of how i was the disease and then write about it.. So I wrote this poem.. The Disease The disappointment and broken promises.. Hopes and dreams scattered...	teddybearpoet	3	767	Jul 9, 2009 by Overcome
	Feeling sad and down (Preview) Today I met a student I had taught who had become a friend and who was very supportive last year when step mom A was diagnosed with an incurable brain tumour, she died in November 08. Her daughter has just been diagnosed with a very malignant melanoma and when I met her and her three friends they had opened...	maire rua	2	500	Jul 8, 2009 by Suzannah
	Active A is really sick (Preview) Not from alcoholism, but from a neurological condition that contributed to the depression that contributed to the alcoholism. We have had such a long and eduring marraige and I have changed so much. I finally realized that I can make do without him and his problems, and that his being sick doesn't j...	RainyJamie	7	918	Jul 8, 2009 by maresie
	sponsorship (feelings of fear) (Preview) Hi everyone I am feeling pretty fearful at the moment about asking someone I have had in mind from the moment I met them to be my sponsor. I'm almost certain this person would be ideal as she has qualities I would like to gain myself and I feel has tackled the steps thoroughly from what I have listened to in...	chezza	4	546	Jul 8, 2009 by maresie
	A positive update (Preview) How about a positive update for a change???? Seems like so many times updates can be filled with sad news - I guess maybe it depends on perspective - hmm perspective or attitude - it appears that is one of the many lessons that I have learned in recovery . . . the majority of my battle is with my perspective a...	Rita G	5	757	Jul 8, 2009 by maresie
	Progress not perfection (Preview) There are sometimes I want to blot out all memories of the ex A. I am working on decluttering and I veer between wanting to pitch a lot of stuff to being obessive about where the stuff I don't want should go. I know it will be a process. Obviously our two dogs are one bit product of the relationship and I'm...	maresie	2	785	Jul 8, 2009 by maresie
	Dating confusion.....Any ESH would be appreciated (Preview) I woke up this am and found myself again thinking about EXABF-UGHHH!!!!. There has been much progress made-he used to consume every waking thought and moment from the time my eyes opened, now though I think about him it is in fleeting moments, usually remembering a time we shared last Summer or wonde...	shellyj123	6	779	Jul 8, 2009 by maresie
	Courage needed today (Preview) Our local constabulary (police) kindly brought our A son home drunk and incapable....so much for sleeping it off!! (see my last post) Had I been in the vicinity...it was husb that took delivery of him....I would not have allowed him in the house but would have let the police put him in the cells for the...	Ness	7	726	Jul 8, 2009 by maire rua
	My daughter visited in june! (Preview) Many of you already know that my daughter and I were separated at birth, and that I have recently met her after 40+ years. She flew to San Antonio to visit with me, and wouldnt you know...Alcoholic companion took that opportunity to binge. Of course he knew how important this meeting was to me, and I b...	Diva	7	766	Jul 8, 2009 by debilyn
	Once in a lifetime (Preview) Today at 5 minutes and 6 seconds after 4 it will be 04:05:06 07/08/09 This will never happen again in our lifetime. Kewl..........	Mobirdie	0	378	Jul 8, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Checking A's email or texts?????????? (Preview) Should I consider reading my A's email and/or text messages to confirm whether he is lying or not? I have always believed him 100% until some recent incidents where I was told he was lying to me (and he was). Even in the face of "hard" evidence he will not admit to anything (except when he is dru...	Bella333	15	844	Jul 8, 2009 by barisax
	Alcoholic seems very detached from ME (Preview) I have noticed that my active alcoholic ex-boyfriend (we have stayed close after breaking up two years ago and we have talked about maybe getting back together which would lead to marriage) is acting very detached from ME! He still stays in contact with me and we play tennis etc. but has been reconne...	Bella333	5	1156	Jul 8, 2009 by maresie
	Just wanted to share some good news... (Preview) It truly is amazing when I leave things to God, and just do the next right thing. I started volunteering this summer in the medical records department at my small local hospital to get some hands-on experience for my upcoming degree (associate of applied science in medical information technology...	Tenderheartsks	13	749	Jul 8, 2009 by N8SMOM
	I apologise (Preview) I have been here many years. We used to have a member post from ODAT every day. I missed that so I asked Overcome, aka Java to post it again. John was here a lot then so I did not think twice about it not being appropriate. It is possible we did have persmission so I am going to look into it. I am sorry about any mi...	debilyn	1	454	Jul 8, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Help Detaching Please (Preview) My son and I are on vacation visiting my family. We are having a great time until my husband called me yesterday to tell me that he was in a car accident on his way to work. I guess I should be thankful alcohol wasn't involved (but will admit that was my FIRST thought). Now we don't have a 2nd vehicle becau...	N8SMOM	7	922	Jul 8, 2009 by kitty
	Reclaiming ME! (Preview) Im grateful to this board, to all of you for sharing your ES&H...thank you.When I found MIP one dark day in January it started me on the path to recovery. Im a slow work in progress, building my Strength which sustains my Hope because my Experience of alcoholism took me to the end of my rope. I am sti...	Ness	4	583	Jul 8, 2009 by Ness
	Daily readings from copyrighted literature (closed) (Preview) It was pointed out to me by two other moderators of this room that my posting of the daily literature ODAAT in Al-Anon, is copyrighted literature. This is not allowed by WSO and it states in the Al-anon/Alateen service manual that "The WSO does not grant permisison for substantial reprints of C...	Overcome	2	2269	Jul 8, 2009 by canadianguy
	Spiritual awakening/Forgivness (Preview) Hi.. Im Cathy.. A couple of weeks ago i had something happen that I have not shared with many.. Cause i did not want people to think i was crazy.. Those I have shared it with though says they thought it was a spiratial awakening and then my sponser last night said she though it was also forgivness.. It start...	teddybearpoet	3	1328	Jul 8, 2009 by Overcome
	July 7th reading from One Day At A Time in Al-Anon (Preview) What's so important about being right? Why do we complicate our lives and aggravate our difficulties by insisting our views be accepted? (this share is found in the daily reader) -- Edited by tea2 on Wednesday 8th of July 2009 09:19:54 PM	Overcome	8	3020	Jul 7, 2009 by serendipity
	update! (Preview) hi all, just wanted to update you guys. I hope all of you are doing good. Well, as some of you know I have been on a cleaning and decluttering spree for days now. It has been good for my soul!!! It's been my own way of moving forward. Like most of you all on here, I too do not want to have to make a decision on th...	beacheemom	2	568	Jul 7, 2009 by beacheemom
	Realtionships in General (Preview) As a codependent I am finding that my relationship insecurity is not just with As but with men in general. I am desperately lonely and so self-destructive when it comes to dating that my fears of always being alone just get reinforced. I know I am supposed to love myself, etc. But, honestly, I just WA...	Codependent	8	980	Jul 7, 2009 by RunnerChick
	uncertainty but taking it a day at a time (Preview) Dear All. As some of you know my job fell through for the summer because of an embargo on hiring. I took it well though I have two people in my employment who I have kept on as we are doing sterling work on the house. I have about four years of clutter to clear up and we are getting through this slowly but surely...	maire rua	2	465	Jul 7, 2009 by Rita G
	Just Got Engaged and He's Probably an Alcoholic: What Do I Do? (Preview) I have always been fairly careful with marriage but after four years of knowing each other (but I lived in another state) and one year of dating, I said yes to my fiance's proposal. I have just decided this is a man I can give my heart to but now am starting to wonder if he is an alcoholic. Since he started d...	AliAlAnon	10	2345	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	A Parable by a Sponsor (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) I read this yesterday and thought it was just a great visual for me to hold in my mind of why I need to keep coming back. I wanted to share it with you all. A Parable by a Sponsor A member of the program of recovery, who previously had been attending meetings regularly, stopped going. A...	david62	11	1068	Jul 7, 2009 by teddybearpoet
	A lost soul (Preview) As many of you know I've been going through a divorce, my 4th. I have had a tendency in the past to go from one relationship to another, to another, to another. Well, you get the picture. Recently I was fooling myself that a "friend" of mine from Texas was just a "friend" when in actu...	Overcome	5	777	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	An Attitude Adjustment..with a pinch of humor (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) I got another dose of my HP's sense of humor this week so I thought I would share it with you. I was sitting at work Monday, minding my own business, doing my job when my supervisor came in to my office and had a strange look on his face...one that said he has some news and he didn't think I wa...	david62	8	592	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	Husband attacks me on Facebook (Preview) Boy am I a gluten for punishment or what. After blocking husband's email, I get a request to be his friend on facebook. I hover over the accept or deline button. My curiousity gets the better of me and I hit "accept". I post on his wall that I need to get in touch with him for the finalizing of the d...	Overcome	14	671	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	I'm my worse enemy! (Preview) Okay............ this time i can't blame it on PMS. hormones are no excuse in this behavior. i have been angry and crappy. i can't stand to even be around my own self anymore. and when i get like this, the program and my faith are the last thing on my mind. i know what i gotta do, i have the tools and i'm c...	Sincerely	4	575	Jul 7, 2009 by Ash
	He stopped drinking, but for how long? (Preview) Things are changing. My AH has decided to stop drinking and I am happy about that but life as we have known it, for years now, is changing. For the better but still changing. I don't know what to expect tonight when he gets home from work. I am apprehensive, excited and scared. I am so used to life being a cer...	wildthang86	3	744	Jul 7, 2009 by wildthang86
	Adaughter and the 4th of July week end---update (Preview) Well, I took the dive off the deep end and invited daughter out to have a family holiday celebration. She was so excited and said she would come. Then on Friday, she called and said she could make it because she was having trouble with her truck. I asked her what was wrong and her reply "I am not a m...	clara	3	694	Jul 7, 2009 by Loupiness
	Am I in trouble? (Preview) This is my first visit to this site, and I have a feeling I'm at the right place, but perhaps the reason I'm here is "denial?" All I can say is that I'm afraid my husband may be an alcoholic, and after thorough research into the subject, I'm very afraid for him and for me. Perhaps I need for some o...	Mystique2009	8	819	Jul 7, 2009 by Mystique2009
	i need help (Preview) iv got a big problem, my daugther has bin on a binge for a wk, she has just text me an said she want to die. what do i do? just cant do this on my own	mary j	12	559	Jul 7, 2009 by Diva
	Why I come back... (Preview) Debilyn your comment touched me. I just wanted all of you to know that through it all why I come back is because I know that here I have a safe place to say the same things over and over, make the same mistakes over and over, and be welcomed with love, support, acceptance, not judgement, but also with a remi...	Codependent	5	725	Jul 6, 2009 by Sincerely
	Weekend recovery... (Preview) Got to lots of meetings this weekend. And lots of contact. Feel like I am swimming and or floating in recovery. Made me realize that I need a lot more meetings in every single 7 day stretch. Come hell or high water or holidays or traffic. And I've very grateful for the people on this board for their sha...	MrsGratitude	1	416	Jul 6, 2009 by Sincerely
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