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Lotus · Lotus

So my husband is easing his way back into drinking after almost a year of sobriety, imposed on him by me of course. I posted a little more about this in an introduction a few days ago. A few weeks ago he mentioned drinking again, I told him no, he was nice about it, he practically begged on the 4th of Jul...

Becky1 · Becky1

The end of June, I rented a Town & Country, and set off for a trip, 900 miles, from Ohio to Kansas, to visit my 88 year old mother who just moved into assisted living. With me, was traveling my 33 year old daughter, her husband of 5 years, his two teen age sons, and my granddaughter who is 19 months old. W...

maresie · maresie

I've been really putting off getting the storage situation together. Now I've made progress the goal seems to be getting closer and things are happening for me. I know now when I get stuck I have to take action no matter how small and keep taking the action. I can just get marooned in my stuckness and n...

ESH · ESH

Can somebody PLEASE help me find the poem that is something about all of alcohol's empty promises? It talks about how the alcohol beckons the alcoholic, and how the alcoholic ultimately loses his friends, his job, his home and eventually his life. I had a copy of it, I cannot even recall one line of the...

doxie · doxie

Just to let you my friends know.........I have not been able to access the chat room lately. My middle son had a bad car accident and he is in the ICU. I am able to check this message board occasionally so I will. I just wanted you all to know and to request prayers. L. rolled his car several times, was throw...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Alright last apartment I applied for I was denied because of y bad credit. :( I just found one on Craigslist privately owned and first explained I had bad credit and asked if it was even worth me to apply for it. She says credit doesn't matter and application fee is FREE!!! I just went and drove past it have...

mary j · mary j

Hello everyone i'v just read todays Courage to Change and today its about GUILT. As the Mother of my AD i have great problem with this one. My AD started drinking as a teenager cos she had probs coping with the fact she was Gay.( I didn't know she was Gay till many years after.) My problem is, i gave birth t...

tea2 · tea2

Because this site is home to so many I really find this issue important to revisit. This a partial share I've posted before and updated to include #2 found in the FAQS * * * * * * * When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval syste...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Hello family, When I first came to Alanon all those years ago, and then returned via this family, I would never have thought that I would still think of myself as a child, but I do. I have so much to learn and it seems that as soon as I have learnt one lesson there is another just waiting in the wings for me to b...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So bf has an addict brother (oxycotton) who just got kicked out of the marines (in basic) and is now coming to live with him and his dad and step mom. He says... first thing I need to do when he gets there is take his phone... I talk to him about detaching and alanon and hope I can get him to go but if not I have to...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, have had a bad few days and in terrible form, made some bad decisions and am angry at how a neighbour has taken advantage, there is nothing I can do about same now, action done. My ex-a is doing less and less so more and more gets put onto me, I feel as if I am sliding backwards with no time for me anymo...

rach04 · rach04

God i dont know where to start............. ok im a mum of 3 kids and husband to whom ive been married to for 10 years. 16 days ago after a weekend drunk session with his "mates" he admitted he was an alcoholic of 12 years getting worse over the last 7. I was really pleased that finally he had adm...

doxie · doxie

This is a very bittersweet post for me. I will give you the good news first. Lucas is doing so well. His broken neck is healing very well after surgery. His shoulders and jaw are also healing very well. He had another CT Scan last night and his liver and spleen are no longer bleeding and the swelling is goin...

Searching for Peace · Searching for Peace

I have found my self all day wanting to read and acquire knowledge from others. Today was a good day, my AH starts drinking everyday about 4pm and drinks until 7 or so; JB on the rocks...As long as the kids and I are at home, cook dinner, etc.. he is tolerable. But should we have plans away from the house, h...

silver brumby · silver brumby

HI everyone, A short share on my progress. I have been straining my brain thinking that I feel my head will blow off! Not knowing where my life is going, single or married etc. I want to make plans that don't include my AH anymore but what if he gets sober? Any plans I make while he isn't thinking about AA are...

Bella333 · Bella333

Hi. I was reading Mr. Sponsor Pants' wonderful blog at: http://mrsponsorpants.typepad.com/mr_sponsorpants/ He is a long time AA sponsor with good insight into 12 step work that can help EVERYONE. Mr. Sponsor Pants recently posted a link to the Top 100 Overcoming Addiction blogs at : http://onli...

Mayamatty · Mayamatty

Hello, So I am the child of an alcoholic. My father was a functioning alcoholic, up until my grandma passed away when I was 14. For the next five years he lost multiple jobs, friends, ect. I've tried everyway possible to help him, through support, family, and rehab. Finally, I just ended a relationsh...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

My A has recently come into a bit of money. We are both relatively young -26 and 28. It is the first time in his life that he has money and is able to buy things like a computer, electronics, nice clothes, etc. We were sufficient before, both working but, now he has had money for these "Extras". I...

Varda57 · Varda57

Hi All, I have just recently started attending Al-Anon meetings in my local area. So far I have only been handful of times. I am committed to going but most of the time I find it really, really hard. I haven't been able to say anything during the open meeting because I just feel sick and it's hard to open t...

debilyn · debilyn

Most people here know I am a JW. Another person who considers themself a JW came down on me about some things I share here. I wanted to make it clear that I am here because I need to be here. Loving A's in my life is part of me. I learned to feel comfortable with that and make sure the pits of the disease no longer...

Jozie · Jozie

Just wanted to update and say sorry I haven't been of much help here of late, been very busy in some things and very annoyed in others... Abrother now has the family in an up roar again, and I have backed out slowly but my Mom is still the Whip'n Post for everyone else. I am trying to deal with those feelings a...

nmike · nmike

My AHsober said that he had put in a bid on a house. Although, he says he wants a divorce we are still legally married. I told him that he can't do that. And if he does he will have to sell it when we divorce. He got really angry and hung up the phone. He has always been a good provider for our family. Every few yea...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband seems to be slacking on the basic maintenance of our pool these days. The pool has always been his responsibility for as long as we've been together. We live in Arizona and it's really hot now, so the pool needs extra attention. Do I figure out how to do those things and start taking care of...

Holly09 · Holly09

I just wanted to share something nice for a change.....we had a terrific weekend! Took the kids to Storyland on Friday and just hung out the rest of the weekend. My A boyfriend did not drink at all which is strange. I'm not sure why he didn't but then we don't understand why they do anything they do. Al...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I posted a few days ago about my sister overdosing once again. To help make this clear I'll call the sister that overdosed sister #1 and the other sister #2. Yesterday sister #1's doctor asked to meet with the family today so my mother, sister #2, my brother and myself went over there. We sat for over a...

Gailey · Gailey

and how his bottom was his death. A son went to a MVA hearing today for his dui. His lawyer told him to bring someone with him as he would probably not be able to drive home after the hearing. The other day he called and made an appointment to have one of those things you blow into installed on his car. The appo...

Jozie · Jozie

I swear, I don't know why we even have a system.. I mean honestly...My Abrother has been arrested EVERY YEAR for the last 12 years, "His 1st DWI was when he was 18" he will be 30 this Fri. Now all this crap started because He DID NOT show up at court, so they call the ones that bailed him out "...

Searching for Peace · Searching for Peace

Hello, I am 48 yrs old, married 20yrs with 15yr boy/girl twins. For the last year our life has been a mess. My spouse is drinker and verbal abuser. His drinking and abuse has gotten worse over the years, last year things esclated to the point he moved out, in, out and in. I have been to counseling (alo...

Loveridden · Loveridden

Was just reading lots of posts and got to thinking.... Everyone keeps saying this is a disease, I liked the post that compared it to a mental disease - comparing it to a physical disease - I can see that straining my logic... A mental disorder can make ppl hate you, fear you, resent you, try to correct...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

My ex used to have this cloth like bracelet he wore all the time that simply had the word THINK on it.....I would love to find one for myself as I could use the constant reminder but haven't been able to locate any online and will not call and ask where he got his... Does anyone know where I can find one of thes...

inhisarms · inhisarms

Hi all, been awhile since i have posted, but i still come here every morning to get my daily dose of love, support and esh... Lived through hell of living with my fiance for years, finally got to a point where it was me dying slowly or him. Told him to leave, dug into alanon and started a new life for me and my...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Most of the time I try to live one day at a time! But lately I have been noticing that I look forward to the future a little more! It is kinda funny when you consider that I used to really look forward to dying & that I would definitely been in a better place than this "crappy" world! Today is...

barisax · barisax

Someone I care a great deal about is getting ready to do something I would normally advise against... she's going to marry an alcoholic... me!! I was married before. 5 years drinking, then 5 years sober. Then 15 years sober and single, over 12 without being in any kind of real relationship. We've b...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I have spent the majority of my life trying to protect the addicts/alcoholics in my family from themselves. I thank my higher power every night for this program for without it I hate to think where I would be right now. My sister has a long history of alcohol and prescription drug abuse. I have lost cou...

hanila · hanila

Previously, I posted my experience with my "boyfriend" and how he's treated me in our relationship. He is an alcoholic. I don't know if these are actions caused by the alcoholism or not. To review my story, I had mentioned that he was critical of me or makes side comments about how I'm t...

kinsey · kinsey

I've never done or experienced anything like this before and I need help. My husband and I just got married about 3 weeks ago. We've always been long distance, and I'm at my home wrapping things up and packing before I make a permanent move to his home in Missouri in about another month. I just got off the p...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, I love days like today. HP knew what he was doing when he woke me up before 9am this morning. I didn't have any plans, but wasn't wanting to wake up that early on my only day off. Anyways, trying to get healty I went to the grocery store and got some healty food. Washed ALL my clothes (too...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

I use java and for some reason when I click to enter chat it doesn't load at all. Never had this problem before. I've cleared cookies and all that and it still isn't working. What do I do? I see the little java icon down by the time on the destop.... Never mind got it to work now! -- Edited by Melissa21 on Sunda...

xter · xter

i am hoping to have a good week this week. i'm hoping to keep not-smoking (one day at a time with that) and try to fit in some exercise. i'm wondering where my husband is right now, but am going to turn it over to my HP before i go to sleep. love and hope and peace to all of you , -xter

Inpain · Inpain

I've faced a LOT of pain in the last 7 months. Coming to terms with the fact that my husband had an affair and is an alcoholic is overwhelming most days. I had never known the depths of depression until this time. I have done a LOT of soul searching. I realize I have a very hard time facing my own emotion...

billileli1 · billileli1

today I ws so scared of my roommate that I didn't come out of my room.

janmarie · janmarie

Hi, I am pretty new here. And I have been in the chat room and at some of the meetings. I have met some wonderful people and they have giving me some great advice. But how to you do it. I mean the advice you get. Here is a little history of my situation. Right now my husband is serving 88 days in county jail for h...

Ness · Ness

On Thursday night I packed a small rucksack with a change of clothes, a towel, toiletries, mobile phone and charger, a copy of courage to change and a copy of this....... which was posted on MIP this last week..... A Cherokee fable: One evening, a grandfather was teaching his young grandson about the...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

feel the need to defend myself? I hate that about myself! I am people pleasing, stupid, weak knee, ninny. I want to get past the point of being back on my heels, I was raised to not to confront, to keep things to yourself, no one wants to hear you complain. All the above I have taken with me through my life...

Lanchas · Lanchas

The teen board needs help. Teens are posting there again but there's no support for them. People need to reply to their posts and be there for them. I'm trying to do better again tho I don't always succeed. Lanchas

danz123 · danz123

Because of the holiday weekend we are postponing the business meeting. We will meet on Sunday July 12th at 9pm est. Please pm me if you have any agenda items. Happy 4th of July . hugs, danz

Loveridden · Loveridden

Going through my one day at a time in al anon book - I came across an entry that talks about blame and resentment. I will not post the entry here because I see that would be copyright infringement, but I would like to discuss it. My alcoholic boyfriend likes to blame EVERYTHING on me......everything an...

Lotus · Lotus

I have a few questions, but I'll explain the situation first. My husband and I have been married almost 4 years, and have a very young son. He was an alcoholic when we married, and because of his violent temper, I had to demand that he keep his drinking under control (he wouldn't stop) but he worked his way...

Eve55 · Eve55

Hello, I'm new here. I'm new to all of this in fact. I've only been to one meeting a few weeks ago to see if it "made sense" to me. Unfortunately I am finding that it did. So here my question. I heard about Detachment and I have tried to read about it some on the web. I've been reading the some of...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Update from last post where A told me he is going to inpatient treatment and will need a new liver. I think when I posted I was just really scared and angry with him. I didn't know what to think. Maybe that was it I didn't THINK at all. I just started worrying and much of what I have learned hear sort of slipped...

billileli1 · billileli1

Hello. Billi here, and I have a dysfunctional housemate. I realize he doesn't have a drinking problem, but I suffer from the same kind of problem that an "AlAnon" might. He is depressed and won't go to therapy. I am watching him slowly die right now of depression. I cant' afford to move out,...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

I am just amazed at where my mind goes sometimes...the fear and anxiety that I actually manufacture on my own self! Gotta let go - let my HP take care of things, it's always the same answer.... Serenity is the goal, right? One day at a time! Best to everyone - Christine

Jerry F · Jerry F

look elsewhere. Aloha Family. I was feeling a bit over weight in the mental, emotional and spiritual self and stopped what I was doing for a minute to look at why. It only takes a minute now LOL. What I found out was that I wasn't asking my self the "what is my part in the situation first". ...

debilyn · debilyn

Went down to the horses to check water and give scritchees. Picked up the piece of flat messed up hose that "somebody" Left acrossed the road all two weeks.... As I walked back one of those garden truck things, not very tall six wheels with a bed in back to put stuff in was coming. I went in my ga...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For some reason yesterday and today-especially today, I am consumed with the urge to snoop on EXABF's myspace page. I have no idea why, or where it came from. Perhaps it is my being sick and wanting what used to be comfort. Or an obsession- just wanting to know what/who he is doing. I don't know wher...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), This is pretty cool. Precisely at 12:34:56 today we will have a complete number sequence of 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 because today is 7/8 and the year is 2009! It happened earlier this morning too but I missed it. I had no idea until I heard it on the news. Neat stuff. Enjoy your day. Love and bl...

Rora · Rora

When I examine my behaviour towards my aH from whom I am separated I have realized that for the past several years, even while we were still together, I have this very annoying habit of trying to convince him what a jerk he is. It drives him crazy as you can imagine and actually it's pretty irritating for m...

Jeanne · Jeanne

I guess, I just need to dump a little. My son who is 28 years old had two wonderful years being clean (he had two years before too) and sober, but now he has no desire to be clean *because* he has a great job, girlfriend and life is going *great.* He has short term memory of the days he slept on a park bench or...

Tracy · Tracy

Wow once they get sober you realise how much you need to change even more so. I have been very resebtful and angrey, suffering the poor me's. Wanting everything to get better overnight now he is sober ( only been 2-3 months). I went to my f2f the subject was expectations and I realised to my shame that It...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Taking care of me--taking naps when I need them! I am again struggling with sleep but it is getting better all the time! I guess that is a Beatles song! It's getting better all the time, better better so much better! I am focusing on myself a little better, too. I am not going to let others bring me down a...

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	easing his way back into drinking (Preview) So my husband is easing his way back into drinking after almost a year of sobriety, imposed on him by me of course. I posted a little more about this in an introduction a few days ago. A few weeks ago he mentioned drinking again, I told him no, he was nice about it, he practically begged on the 4th of Jul...	Lotus	12	810	Jul 16, 2009 by ticklelulu
	Vacation from (Preview) The end of June, I rented a Town & Country, and set off for a trip, 900 miles, from Ohio to Kansas, to visit my 88 year old mother who just moved into assisted living. With me, was traveling my 33 year old daughter, her husband of 5 years, his two teen age sons, and my granddaughter who is 19 months old. W...	Becky1	6	806	Jul 16, 2009 by nmike
	Little actions make things happen. (Preview) I've been really putting off getting the storage situation together. Now I've made progress the goal seems to be getting closer and things are happening for me. I know now when I get stuck I have to take action no matter how small and keep taking the action. I can just get marooned in my stuckness and n...	maresie	2	624	Jul 16, 2009 by glad lee
	Alcohol's Empty Promises Poem (Preview) Can somebody PLEASE help me find the poem that is something about all of alcohol's empty promises? It talks about how the alcohol beckons the alcoholic, and how the alcoholic ultimately loses his friends, his job, his home and eventually his life. I had a copy of it, I cannot even recall one line of the...	ESH	5	14281	Jul 15, 2009 by clara
	Bad Accident, need prayers. (Preview) Just to let you my friends know.........I have not been able to access the chat room lately. My middle son had a bad car accident and he is in the ICU. I am able to check this message board occasionally so I will. I just wanted you all to know and to request prayers. L. rolled his car several times, was throw...	doxie	15	558	Jul 15, 2009 by Andrea12
	Say a prayer for me .. Please?!?!? (Preview) Alright last apartment I applied for I was denied because of y bad credit. :( I just found one on Craigslist privately owned and first explained I had bad credit and asked if it was even worth me to apply for it. She says credit doesn't matter and application fee is FREE!!! I just went and drove past it have...	Melissa21	10	727	Jul 15, 2009 by wp
	guilt (Preview) Hello everyone i'v just read todays Courage to Change and today its about GUILT. As the Mother of my AD i have great problem with this one. My AD started drinking as a teenager cos she had probs coping with the fact she was Gay.( I didn't know she was Gay till many years after.) My problem is, i gave birth t...	mary j	5	699	Jul 15, 2009 by mary j
	Copyrighting (a gentle reminder) (Preview) Because this site is home to so many I really find this issue important to revisit. This a partial share I've posted before and updated to include #2 found in the FAQS * * * * * * * When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval syste...	tea2	2	885	Jul 15, 2009 by barisax
	Learning my lesson (Preview) Hello family, When I first came to Alanon all those years ago, and then returned via this family, I would never have thought that I would still think of myself as a child, but I do. I have so much to learn and it seems that as soon as I have learnt one lesson there is another just waiting in the wings for me to b...	Suzannah	5	739	Jul 15, 2009 by maresie
	Boyfriend's drug addict brother (Preview) So bf has an addict brother (oxycotton) who just got kicked out of the marines (in basic) and is now coming to live with him and his dad and step mom. He says... first thing I need to do when he gets there is take his phone... I talk to him about detaching and alanon and hope I can get him to go but if not I have to...	carolinagirl	5	759	Jul 15, 2009 by maresie
	feeling resentful with bad expectations (Preview) Dear all, have had a bad few days and in terrible form, made some bad decisions and am angry at how a neighbour has taken advantage, there is nothing I can do about same now, action done. My ex-a is doing less and less so more and more gets put onto me, I feel as if I am sliding backwards with no time for me anymo...	maire rua	5	716	Jul 15, 2009 by maresie
	new here (Preview) God i dont know where to start............. ok im a mum of 3 kids and husband to whom ive been married to for 10 years. 16 days ago after a weekend drunk session with his "mates" he admitted he was an alcoholic of 12 years getting worse over the last 7. I was really pleased that finally he had adm...	rach04	7	960	Jul 15, 2009 by LoveCC
	Doxie's son update.......good news and tragic news (Preview) This is a very bittersweet post for me. I will give you the good news first. Lucas is doing so well. His broken neck is healing very well after surgery. His shoulders and jaw are also healing very well. He had another CT Scan last night and his liver and spleen are no longer bleeding and the swelling is goin...	doxie	11	904	Jul 15, 2009 by Rita G
	Good Days vs Bad Days (Preview) I have found my self all day wanting to read and acquire knowledge from others. Today was a good day, my AH starts drinking everyday about 4pm and drinks until 7 or so; JB on the rocks...As long as the kids and I are at home, cook dinner, etc.. he is tolerable. But should we have plans away from the house, h...	Searching for Peace	3	495	Jul 15, 2009 by Searching for Peace
	think think think (I think!) (Preview) HI everyone, A short share on my progress. I have been straining my brain thinking that I feel my head will blow off! Not knowing where my life is going, single or married etc. I want to make plans that don't include my AH anymore but what if he gets sober? Any plans I make while he isn't thinking about AA are...	silver brumby	8	976	Jul 15, 2009 by glad lee
	Great resources! (Preview) Hi. I was reading Mr. Sponsor Pants' wonderful blog at: http://mrsponsorpants.typepad.com/mr_sponsorpants/ He is a long time AA sponsor with good insight into 12 step work that can help EVERYONE. Mr. Sponsor Pants recently posted a link to the Top 100 Overcoming Addiction blogs at : http://onli...	Bella333	3	536	Jul 14, 2009 by Bella333
	a realization.... (Preview) Hello, So I am the child of an alcoholic. My father was a functioning alcoholic, up until my grandma passed away when I was 14. For the next five years he lost multiple jobs, friends, ect. I've tried everyway possible to help him, through support, family, and rehab. Finally, I just ended a relationsh...	Mayamatty	6	598	Jul 14, 2009 by Jozie
	Childish Reactions (Preview) My A has recently come into a bit of money. We are both relatively young -26 and 28. It is the first time in his life that he has money and is able to buy things like a computer, electronics, nice clothes, etc. We were sufficient before, both working but, now he has had money for these "Extras". I...	RunnerChick	5	548	Jul 14, 2009 by Aloha
	New to the board - where to start? (Preview) Hi All, I have just recently started attending Al-Anon meetings in my local area. So far I have only been handful of times. I am committed to going but most of the time I find it really, really hard. I haven't been able to say anything during the open meeting because I just feel sick and it's hard to open t...	Varda57	7	485	Jul 14, 2009 by RLC
	sharing something (Preview) Most people here know I am a JW. Another person who considers themself a JW came down on me about some things I share here. I wanted to make it clear that I am here because I need to be here. Loving A's in my life is part of me. I learned to feel comfortable with that and make sure the pits of the disease no longer...	debilyn	6	653	Jul 14, 2009 by Suzannah
	When does this disease just DIE/Go Away... (Preview) Just wanted to update and say sorry I haven't been of much help here of late, been very busy in some things and very annoyed in others... Abrother now has the family in an up roar again, and I have backed out slowly but my Mom is still the Whip'n Post for everyone else. I am trying to deal with those feelings a...	Jozie	1	574	Jul 14, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	There is a pattern (Preview) My AHsober said that he had put in a bid on a house. Although, he says he wants a divorce we are still legally married. I told him that he can't do that. And if he does he will have to sell it when we divorce. He got really angry and hung up the phone. He has always been a good provider for our family. Every few yea...	nmike	6	695	Jul 14, 2009 by blender_girl
	What Would Al-Anon Do? (Preview) My husband seems to be slacking on the basic maintenance of our pool these days. The pool has always been his responsibility for as long as we've been together. We live in Arizona and it's really hot now, so the pool needs extra attention. Do I figure out how to do those things and start taking care of...	N8SMOM	9	578	Jul 14, 2009 by nmike
	A nice weekend! (Preview) I just wanted to share something nice for a change.....we had a terrific weekend! Took the kids to Storyland on Friday and just hung out the rest of the weekend. My A boyfriend did not drink at all which is strange. I'm not sure why he didn't but then we don't understand why they do anything they do. Al...	Holly09	2	363	Jul 14, 2009 by nmike
	Here we go again UPDATE (Preview) I posted a few days ago about my sister overdosing once again. To help make this clear I'll call the sister that overdosed sister #1 and the other sister #2. Yesterday sister #1's doctor asked to meet with the family today so my mother, sister #2, my brother and myself went over there. We sat for over a...	Mobirdie	4	762	Jul 14, 2009 by Temple
	thinking about my dad today (Preview) and how his bottom was his death. A son went to a MVA hearing today for his dui. His lawyer told him to bring someone with him as he would probably not be able to drive home after the hearing. The other day he called and made an appointment to have one of those things you blow into installed on his car. The appo...	Gailey	4	834	Jul 14, 2009 by Rita G
	News in... Arggggg (Preview) I swear, I don't know why we even have a system.. I mean honestly...My Abrother has been arrested EVERY YEAR for the last 12 years, "His 1st DWI was when he was 18" he will be 30 this Fri. Now all this crap started because He DID NOT show up at court, so they call the ones that bailed him out "...	Jozie	5	682	Jul 14, 2009 by Christy
	JUST GETTING STARTED (Preview) Hello, I am 48 yrs old, married 20yrs with 15yr boy/girl twins. For the last year our life has been a mess. My spouse is drinker and verbal abuser. His drinking and abuse has gotten worse over the years, last year things esclated to the point he moved out, in, out and in. I have been to counseling (alo...	Searching for Peace	4	530	Jul 14, 2009 by Searching for Peace
	A disease that makes ppl HATE you.... (Preview) Was just reading lots of posts and got to thinking.... Everyone keeps saying this is a disease, I liked the post that compared it to a mental disease - comparing it to a physical disease - I can see that straining my logic... A mental disorder can make ppl hate you, fear you, resent you, try to correct...	Loveridden	4	1955	Jul 14, 2009 by Loveridden
	THINK bracelets???????Where can I find one? (Preview) My ex used to have this cloth like bracelet he wore all the time that simply had the word THINK on it.....I would love to find one for myself as I could use the constant reminder but haven't been able to locate any online and will not call and ask where he got his... Does anyone know where I can find one of thes...	shellyj123	9	1465	Jul 14, 2009 by Loupiness
	ESH needed, fast track ticket to the pit (Preview) Hi all, been awhile since i have posted, but i still come here every morning to get my daily dose of love, support and esh... Lived through hell of living with my fiance for years, finally got to a point where it was me dying slowly or him. Told him to leave, dug into alanon and started a new life for me and my...	inhisarms	7	769	Jul 13, 2009 by nmike
	Good weekend:looking forward to another one! (Preview) Most of the time I try to live one day at a time! But lately I have been noticing that I look forward to the future a little more! It is kinda funny when you consider that I used to really look forward to dying & that I would definitely been in a better place than this "crappy" world! Today is...	Hoot Nanny	1	523	Jul 13, 2009 by Overcome
	Getting Married (Preview) Someone I care a great deal about is getting ready to do something I would normally advise against... she's going to marry an alcoholic... me!! I was married before. 5 years drinking, then 5 years sober. Then 15 years sober and single, over 12 without being in any kind of real relationship. We've b...	barisax	18	963	Jul 13, 2009 by barisax
	Here we go again (Preview) I have spent the majority of my life trying to protect the addicts/alcoholics in my family from themselves. I thank my higher power every night for this program for without it I hate to think where I would be right now. My sister has a long history of alcohol and prescription drug abuse. I have lost cou...	Mobirdie	4	464	Jul 13, 2009 by nmike
	In a relationship with an alcoholic and have more questions (Preview) Previously, I posted my experience with my "boyfriend" and how he's treated me in our relationship. He is an alcoholic. I don't know if these are actions caused by the alcoholism or not. To review my story, I had mentioned that he was critical of me or makes side comments about how I'm t...	hanila	8	1737	Jul 13, 2009 by mimi70
	I'm 1,000 miles away and my husband just checked himself in to the hospital. (Preview) I've never done or experienced anything like this before and I need help. My husband and I just got married about 3 weeks ago. We've always been long distance, and I'm at my home wrapping things up and packing before I make a permanent move to his home in Missouri in about another month. I just got off the p...	kinsey	5	883	Jul 13, 2009 by kinsey
	I love days like today! (Preview) Hello and Hugs, I love days like today. HP knew what he was doing when he woke me up before 9am this morning. I didn't have any plans, but wasn't wanting to wake up that early on my only day off. Anyways, trying to get healty I went to the grocery store and got some healty food. Washed ALL my clothes (too...	Sincerely	2	443	Jul 13, 2009 by glad lee
	HELP with chatroom problems (Preview) I use java and for some reason when I click to enter chat it doesn't load at all. Never had this problem before. I've cleared cookies and all that and it still isn't working. What do I do? I see the little java icon down by the time on the destop.... Never mind got it to work now! -- Edited by Melissa21 on Sunda...	Melissa21	1	544	Jul 12, 2009 by Jerry F
	hoping for a good week (Preview) i am hoping to have a good week this week. i'm hoping to keep not-smoking (one day at a time with that) and try to fit in some exercise. i'm wondering where my husband is right now, but am going to turn it over to my HP before i go to sleep. love and hope and peace to all of you , -xter	xter	1	455	Jul 12, 2009 by hotrod
	My role in alcoholism. (Preview) I've faced a LOT of pain in the last 7 months. Coming to terms with the fact that my husband had an affair and is an alcoholic is overwhelming most days. I had never known the depths of depression until this time. I have done a LOT of soul searching. I realize I have a very hard time facing my own emotion...	Inpain	8	978	Jul 12, 2009 by Inpain
	feel like I'm three despair breaking help (Preview) today I ws so scared of my roommate that I didn't come out of my room.	billileli1	7	8834	Jul 12, 2009 by Temple
	help a couple of questions (Preview) Hi, I am pretty new here. And I have been in the chat room and at some of the meetings. I have met some wonderful people and they have giving me some great advice. But how to you do it. I mean the advice you get. Here is a little history of my situation. Right now my husband is serving 88 days in county jail for h...	janmarie	3	469	Jul 12, 2009 by Jerry F
	Boundaries and heartache (Preview) On Thursday night I packed a small rucksack with a change of clothes, a towel, toiletries, mobile phone and charger, a copy of courage to change and a copy of this....... which was posted on MIP this last week..... A Cherokee fable: One evening, a grandfather was teaching his young grandson about the...	Ness	3	517	Jul 12, 2009 by Ness
	Why Do I............... (Preview) feel the need to defend myself? I hate that about myself! I am people pleasing, stupid, weak knee, ninny. I want to get past the point of being back on my heels, I was raised to not to confront, to keep things to yourself, no one wants to hear you complain. All the above I have taken with me through my life...	DreamsOver	6	492	Jul 12, 2009 by DreamsOver
	help for the al-ateen board (Preview) The teen board needs help. Teens are posting there again but there's no support for them. People need to reply to their posts and be there for them. I'm trying to do better again tho I don't always succeed. Lanchas	Lanchas	2	309	Jul 12, 2009 by Lanchas
	Business Meeting postponed (Preview) Because of the holiday weekend we are postponing the business meeting. We will meet on Sunday July 12th at 9pm est. Please pm me if you have any agenda items. Happy 4th of July . hugs, danz	danz123	1	429	Jul 12, 2009 by Lanchas
	Blame & the resentment (Preview) Going through my one day at a time in al anon book - I came across an entry that talks about blame and resentment. I will not post the entry here because I see that would be copyright infringement, but I would like to discuss it. My alcoholic boyfriend likes to blame EVERYTHING on me......everything an...	Loveridden	5	2880	Jul 12, 2009 by Loveridden
	What is happening? (Preview) I have a few questions, but I'll explain the situation first. My husband and I have been married almost 4 years, and have a very young son. He was an alcoholic when we married, and because of his violent temper, I had to demand that he keep his drinking under control (he wouldn't stop) but he worked his way...	Lotus	8	1090	Jul 12, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Detachment - Where to draw the line? (Preview) Hello, I'm new here. I'm new to all of this in fact. I've only been to one meeting a few weeks ago to see if it "made sense" to me. Unfortunately I am finding that it did. So here my question. I heard about Detachment and I have tried to read about it some on the web. I've been reading the some of...	Eve55	3	955	Jul 12, 2009 by Loveridden
	Doing better (Preview) Update from last post where A told me he is going to inpatient treatment and will need a new liver. I think when I posted I was just really scared and angry with him. I didn't know what to think. Maybe that was it I didn't THINK at all. I just started worrying and much of what I have learned hear sort of slipped...	Melissa21	2	412	Jul 11, 2009 by Melissa21
	first post at Alanon board, roommate doesnt' drink, but is dysfunctional (Preview) Hello. Billi here, and I have a dysfunctional housemate. I realize he doesn't have a drinking problem, but I suffer from the same kind of problem that an "AlAnon" might. He is depressed and won't go to therapy. I am watching him slowly die right now of depression. I cant' afford to move out,...	billileli1	4	744	Jul 11, 2009 by debilyn
	fears..... (Preview) I am just amazed at where my mind goes sometimes...the fear and anxiety that I actually manufacture on my own self! Gotta let go - let my HP take care of things, it's always the same answer.... Serenity is the goal, right? One day at a time! Best to everyone - Christine	CAM0914	3	646	Jul 11, 2009 by Jerry F
	Look inward first and then... (Preview) look elsewhere. Aloha Family. I was feeling a bit over weight in the mental, emotional and spiritual self and stopped what I was doing for a minute to look at why. It only takes a minute now LOL. What I found out was that I wasn't asking my self the "what is my part in the situation first". ...	Jerry F	7	857	Jul 11, 2009 by Jerry F
	No wonder I am single (Preview) Went down to the horses to check water and give scritchees. Picked up the piece of flat messed up hose that "somebody" Left acrossed the road all two weeks.... As I walked back one of those garden truck things, not very tall six wheels with a bed in back to put stuff in was coming. I went in my ga...	debilyn	15	966	Jul 11, 2009 by blender_girl
	Wy do I do this to myself? What causes these triggers? In need of some ESH.... (Preview) For some reason yesterday and today-especially today, I am consumed with the urge to snoop on EXABF's myspace page. I have no idea why, or where it came from. Perhaps it is my being sick and wanting what used to be comfort. Or an obsession- just wanting to know what/who he is doing. I don't know wher...	shellyj123	10	1088	Jul 11, 2009 by Jeanne
	Twice in a century...... (Preview) ((((Family)))), This is pretty cool. Precisely at 12:34:56 today we will have a complete number sequence of 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 because today is 7/8 and the year is 2009! It happened earlier this morning too but I missed it. I had no idea until I heard it on the news. Neat stuff. Enjoy your day. Love and bl...	Karilynn	3	651	Jul 11, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	its like I'm trying to convince him... (Preview) When I examine my behaviour towards my aH from whom I am separated I have realized that for the past several years, even while we were still together, I have this very annoying habit of trying to convince him what a jerk he is. It drives him crazy as you can imagine and actually it's pretty irritating for m...	Rora	7	923	Jul 11, 2009 by kitty
	New Here but not to the topic......... (Preview) I guess, I just need to dump a little. My son who is 28 years old had two wonderful years being clean (he had two years before too) and sober, but now he has no desire to be clean because he has a great job, girlfriend and life is going great. He has short term memory of the days he slept on a park bench or...	Jeanne	4	809	Jul 11, 2009 by Jeanne
	expectations (Preview) Wow once they get sober you realise how much you need to change even more so. I have been very resebtful and angrey, suffering the poor me's. Wanting everything to get better overnight now he is sober ( only been 2-3 months). I went to my f2f the subject was expectations and I realised to my shame that It...	Tracy	7	1001	Jul 11, 2009 by debilyn
	It's getting better... (Preview) Taking care of me--taking naps when I need them! I am again struggling with sleep but it is getting better all the time! I guess that is a Beatles song! It's getting better all the time, better better so much better! I am focusing on myself a little better, too. I am not going to let others bring me down a...	Hoot Nanny	1	447	Jul 11, 2009 by ally
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