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chevygirl · chevygirl

For the past 15yrs i have been on a rollercoaster ride with my ex who is a reformed alcoholic . He is the love of my life and my best friend , i just can't to seem to move on . He says he cares for me very much and doesn't want to loose our friendship . He just is unable to commit to just me . He is recently trying to f...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Alright, so he "stopped" drinking last week but has had 2 slips since then. The most recent being last night. With that drink came resentment. I assume toward me, for our separation last year. Our oldest son has not talked to him for over a year. I could explain it to my AH but choose not to. The...

thinkstoomuch · thinkstoomuch

I was at an AA Roundup with Alanon participation this weekend in Maine. One of the Alanon workshops was a panel discussion. Someone talked about being a spouse of an A, someone talked about being the parent of an A, someone talked about being a member of both programs. The woman who talked about being...

superdebby · superdebby

My brother is now in "end stage cirrhosis". The hospital visits for his girlfriend and my mom are exhausting and horrible. I've only visited once since I live out of town. I'm looking for a book/article to help me understand what is next. Any suggestions?

Calling Members · N8SMOM

Does anyone else feel wierd (or have felt wierd) making phone calls to other members in the beginning? Last Monday I had 2 separate members tell me to give them a call and I haven't done it yet. I don't know what the big deal is. My Dad calls it the 1,000-pound phone syndrom - LOL! It's one thing to speak...

newbie46 · newbie46

I have a very busy job and life, so no time for meetings, hence using this site. My father was an alcoholic. He drank for years and then stopped drinking for 20 years. Although he stopped drinking, he was always a dry drunk. He was secretive and gave up on life. He became ill and died last year. He was...

Temple · Temple

I keep thinking about those children, your niece and nephew. Can you help the older one memorize your phone number or write it on the tag of a teddy bear or something and teach him or her how to call you collect? If the number is too hard to memorize, can the child know your last name and town by heart, and b...

linbol · linbol

He did not come home last night. I know he is using again. And of course it is all going to be my fault because get this one I spoke it into existence and had no faith in him. Or maybe this time it will be I am stupid, I don't know why I make these stupid chooses. You are the best thing that has ever been in my life, y...

linbol · linbol

Here is a little history, My husband has been an alcoholic since 14 and started using drugs when he was about 18. I knew he drank when we met but never knew he was addicted. We dated for two years, We separated then got back together ten years later son was born. This is when I realized he had a problem. we sep...

maresie · maresie

As many of you know I've been working really hard to improve my physical health. Today I learned my breathing is much much better. I started out this year at 50^ of normal lung function. Now I'm up to 85%...just 15% more and I'm 'normal". Next step is the dental work. One step at a time. I never got...

lmw · lmw

I think I might be finally getting this detachment thing down... The kids and I were at the beach today, and my ex-AH called... 17 times in 45 minutes, left four messages. He's been doing medical studies to earn money and got $50 in cash yesterday... He actually asked me to meet him at the subway statio...

hanila · hanila

I met a guy that is a military pilot. He says pilots and military men LOVE to drink on the weekends or whenever they are not having to pass physicals. Usually they have to be in perfect physical condition, so when they are not on duty, they drink a lot. Since my ex was an alcoholic, this scares me. I don't...

xter · xter

i feel that being in this program (even for such a short time) has given me the tools i need to start making changes. over the past 5 years, i have never felt the desire to quit, or even set goals for myself. since al anon is helping me focus on me, i am starting to do these things... so yay!

nabbm34 · nabbm34

4 years ago i went and got myself treatment because i felt like i was getting out of control on how much pain medication i was taking. I was going thru a divorce and just kept taking more and more to numb myself. Well i did well for a long time then i injured my back real bad (actually broke it) and my Dr prescri...

newbie46 · newbie46

about 30 years ago when I was a teenager, I lived with my alcoholic father. My parents were divorced and my mother moved away. I still had school so could not move with her, so I went to live with my Dad. To this day I will never understand how my mother can send me to live wth my dad as he was at that time dri...

LoveCC · LoveCC

Hi Everyone. I have not posted in a while. Things have been really crazy both good and bad. My BF has been sober for about 3 months now. But lately he has been really moody. I understand that things are stressful at work for him but for the past 2 weeks he has been yelling at me and getting mad at the smallest...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Our very own TLC is doing well after her surgery. I got an email from her this am-via her phone and she let me know the surgery went well. She was feeling great two hrs post op but had to spend the night. She said the hospital staff was treating her well also. She'll know more in a week and I'm sure she'll...

Stella1 · Stella1

Hello, my name is Stella. I live with an alcoholic man who is sober, but has anger issues and tends to blame me for his problems. I am here because I want to work on self-care and focusing on myself and not on him. I want to explore with othe Alanon's my feelings and my issues surrounding living with an alcoh...

RLC · RLC

To MY MIP Family, I would appreciate very much if you would keep my brother Ray in your prayers. He is a former Marine, and later went Special Forces, a true patroit, He has never been in the hospital in his life, always been in good health. He found out yesterday that he has a rare form of blood cancer. H...

ticklelulu · ticklelulu

So here I am... my AH and I have had many many ups and downs... A few months ago I just got tired of the constant pattern so I cut him off emotionally and physically. He goes through stages of recovery that last about 7-15 days. Then he starts again. I have threatned to leave him more than a few times but, for s...

debilyn · debilyn

I had planned to paste your update after I deleted it off your other share! My keyboard went bonkers...lost it could you please update TLC's condition! I apologise! Was trying to help! oh just throw me in the horses trough! hugs,debilyn

Jozie · Jozie

Well this morning I woke up with heavy thoughts about my ABrother, for today is his 30th birthday, sometimes it is hard to except that how he views life and how I veiw it, are on two very differant tracks, tho when we were growing up you couldn't seperate us from ourselves... Since I started my trip down Re...

Becky1 · Becky1

As a background to this post, I wrote "Vacation from ". Now let me tell you about the good things that were involved! As soon as I realized my son in law had taken my rented vehicle and left the state with it, (actually drove it almost 900 miles away!) I called the police and told them where to fi...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For those of you know TLC and those of you who haven't been that lucky to meet her yet......... TLC was scheduled to have surgery today for cancer.........Let's all please take a minute today to keep her in our thoughts and prayers.........All of us here know the power of HP and prayer......And a...

heatherranki · heatherranki

my h is in acoa-and it is good. I'm attending al anon. I'm very tired. For so many years, I have taken care of the house, the kids, the parents, the h, his moods, etc. I have been everything everyone has asked of me. I have put up with, I have soothed, I have "sacrificed" I have put others firs...

angeleyes · angeleyes

Hi, I'm new to this board and I don't know much about Al-Anon, but maybe someone familiar with the principles of it can help: My 30-something sister has never grown up because my parents enable her to live completely dependent on them. They bought her a house, cars and pay for everything she needs and w...

hanila · hanila

I had a panic attack and I've been crying for 3 days. I wanted so much for this to work. I liked him SO much (when he was nice) and we had mutual chemistry and I haven't felt like this for years. My questions are about how my ex boyfriend treated me. I keep wondering what I did wrong, why did he treat ME this...

Diva · Diva

Did you find it? Please tell me where it is hiding....Thanks, Diva

Lotus · Lotus

So my husband is easing his way back into drinking after almost a year of sobriety, imposed on him by me of course. I posted a little more about this in an introduction a few days ago. A few weeks ago he mentioned drinking again, I told him no, he was nice about it, he practically begged on the 4th of Jul...

Becky1 · Becky1

The end of June, I rented a Town & Country, and set off for a trip, 900 miles, from Ohio to Kansas, to visit my 88 year old mother who just moved into assisted living. With me, was traveling my 33 year old daughter, her husband of 5 years, his two teen age sons, and my granddaughter who is 19 months old. W...

maresie · maresie

I've been really putting off getting the storage situation together. Now I've made progress the goal seems to be getting closer and things are happening for me. I know now when I get stuck I have to take action no matter how small and keep taking the action. I can just get marooned in my stuckness and n...

ESH · ESH

Can somebody PLEASE help me find the poem that is something about all of alcohol's empty promises? It talks about how the alcohol beckons the alcoholic, and how the alcoholic ultimately loses his friends, his job, his home and eventually his life. I had a copy of it, I cannot even recall one line of the...

doxie · doxie

Just to let you my friends know.........I have not been able to access the chat room lately. My middle son had a bad car accident and he is in the ICU. I am able to check this message board occasionally so I will. I just wanted you all to know and to request prayers. L. rolled his car several times, was throw...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Alright last apartment I applied for I was denied because of y bad credit. :( I just found one on Craigslist privately owned and first explained I had bad credit and asked if it was even worth me to apply for it. She says credit doesn't matter and application fee is FREE!!! I just went and drove past it have...

mary j · mary j

Hello everyone i'v just read todays Courage to Change and today its about GUILT. As the Mother of my AD i have great problem with this one. My AD started drinking as a teenager cos she had probs coping with the fact she was Gay.( I didn't know she was Gay till many years after.) My problem is, i gave birth t...

tea2 · tea2

Because this site is home to so many I really find this issue important to revisit. This a partial share I've posted before and updated to include #2 found in the FAQS * * * * * * * When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval syste...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Hello family, When I first came to Alanon all those years ago, and then returned via this family, I would never have thought that I would still think of myself as a child, but I do. I have so much to learn and it seems that as soon as I have learnt one lesson there is another just waiting in the wings for me to b...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So bf has an addict brother (oxycotton) who just got kicked out of the marines (in basic) and is now coming to live with him and his dad and step mom. He says... first thing I need to do when he gets there is take his phone... I talk to him about detaching and alanon and hope I can get him to go but if not I have to...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, have had a bad few days and in terrible form, made some bad decisions and am angry at how a neighbour has taken advantage, there is nothing I can do about same now, action done. My ex-a is doing less and less so more and more gets put onto me, I feel as if I am sliding backwards with no time for me anymo...

rach04 · rach04

God i dont know where to start............. ok im a mum of 3 kids and husband to whom ive been married to for 10 years. 16 days ago after a weekend drunk session with his "mates" he admitted he was an alcoholic of 12 years getting worse over the last 7. I was really pleased that finally he had adm...

doxie · doxie

This is a very bittersweet post for me. I will give you the good news first. Lucas is doing so well. His broken neck is healing very well after surgery. His shoulders and jaw are also healing very well. He had another CT Scan last night and his liver and spleen are no longer bleeding and the swelling is goin...

Searching for Peace · Searching for Peace

I have found my self all day wanting to read and acquire knowledge from others. Today was a good day, my AH starts drinking everyday about 4pm and drinks until 7 or so; JB on the rocks...As long as the kids and I are at home, cook dinner, etc.. he is tolerable. But should we have plans away from the house, h...

silver brumby · silver brumby

HI everyone, A short share on my progress. I have been straining my brain thinking that I feel my head will blow off! Not knowing where my life is going, single or married etc. I want to make plans that don't include my AH anymore but what if he gets sober? Any plans I make while he isn't thinking about AA are...

Bella333 · Bella333

Hi. I was reading Mr. Sponsor Pants' wonderful blog at: http://mrsponsorpants.typepad.com/mr_sponsorpants/ He is a long time AA sponsor with good insight into 12 step work that can help EVERYONE. Mr. Sponsor Pants recently posted a link to the Top 100 Overcoming Addiction blogs at : http://onli...

Mayamatty · Mayamatty

Hello, So I am the child of an alcoholic. My father was a functioning alcoholic, up until my grandma passed away when I was 14. For the next five years he lost multiple jobs, friends, ect. I've tried everyway possible to help him, through support, family, and rehab. Finally, I just ended a relationsh...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

My A has recently come into a bit of money. We are both relatively young -26 and 28. It is the first time in his life that he has money and is able to buy things like a computer, electronics, nice clothes, etc. We were sufficient before, both working but, now he has had money for these "Extras". I...

Varda57 · Varda57

Hi All, I have just recently started attending Al-Anon meetings in my local area. So far I have only been handful of times. I am committed to going but most of the time I find it really, really hard. I haven't been able to say anything during the open meeting because I just feel sick and it's hard to open t...

debilyn · debilyn

Most people here know I am a JW. Another person who considers themself a JW came down on me about some things I share here. I wanted to make it clear that I am here because I need to be here. Loving A's in my life is part of me. I learned to feel comfortable with that and make sure the pits of the disease no longer...

Jozie · Jozie

Just wanted to update and say sorry I haven't been of much help here of late, been very busy in some things and very annoyed in others... Abrother now has the family in an up roar again, and I have backed out slowly but my Mom is still the Whip'n Post for everyone else. I am trying to deal with those feelings a...

nmike · nmike

My AHsober said that he had put in a bid on a house. Although, he says he wants a divorce we are still legally married. I told him that he can't do that. And if he does he will have to sell it when we divorce. He got really angry and hung up the phone. He has always been a good provider for our family. Every few yea...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband seems to be slacking on the basic maintenance of our pool these days. The pool has always been his responsibility for as long as we've been together. We live in Arizona and it's really hot now, so the pool needs extra attention. Do I figure out how to do those things and start taking care of...

Holly09 · Holly09

I just wanted to share something nice for a change.....we had a terrific weekend! Took the kids to Storyland on Friday and just hung out the rest of the weekend. My A boyfriend did not drink at all which is strange. I'm not sure why he didn't but then we don't understand why they do anything they do. Al...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I posted a few days ago about my sister overdosing once again. To help make this clear I'll call the sister that overdosed sister #1 and the other sister #2. Yesterday sister #1's doctor asked to meet with the family today so my mother, sister #2, my brother and myself went over there. We sat for over a...

Gailey · Gailey

and how his bottom was his death. A son went to a MVA hearing today for his dui. His lawyer told him to bring someone with him as he would probably not be able to drive home after the hearing. The other day he called and made an appointment to have one of those things you blow into installed on his car. The appo...

Jozie · Jozie

I swear, I don't know why we even have a system.. I mean honestly...My Abrother has been arrested EVERY YEAR for the last 12 years, "His 1st DWI was when he was 18" he will be 30 this Fri. Now all this crap started because He DID NOT show up at court, so they call the ones that bailed him out "...

Searching for Peace · Searching for Peace

Hello, I am 48 yrs old, married 20yrs with 15yr boy/girl twins. For the last year our life has been a mess. My spouse is drinker and verbal abuser. His drinking and abuse has gotten worse over the years, last year things esclated to the point he moved out, in, out and in. I have been to counseling (alo...

Loveridden · Loveridden

Was just reading lots of posts and got to thinking.... Everyone keeps saying this is a disease, I liked the post that compared it to a mental disease - comparing it to a physical disease - I can see that straining my logic... A mental disorder can make ppl hate you, fear you, resent you, try to correct...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

My ex used to have this cloth like bracelet he wore all the time that simply had the word THINK on it.....I would love to find one for myself as I could use the constant reminder but haven't been able to locate any online and will not call and ask where he got his... Does anyone know where I can find one of thes...

inhisarms · inhisarms

Hi all, been awhile since i have posted, but i still come here every morning to get my daily dose of love, support and esh... Lived through hell of living with my fiance for years, finally got to a point where it was me dying slowly or him. Told him to leave, dug into alanon and started a new life for me and my...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Most of the time I try to live one day at a time! But lately I have been noticing that I look forward to the future a little more! It is kinda funny when you consider that I used to really look forward to dying & that I would definitely been in a better place than this "crappy" world! Today is...

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	Need help moving on ...... (Preview) For the past 15yrs i have been on a rollercoaster ride with my ex who is a reformed alcoholic . He is the love of my life and my best friend , i just can't to seem to move on . He says he cares for me very much and doesn't want to loose our friendship . He just is unable to commit to just me . He is recently trying to f...	chevygirl	6	991	Jul 20, 2009 by maresie
	A slip and lots of resentment from the AH, ESH please!!! (Preview) Alright, so he "stopped" drinking last week but has had 2 slips since then. The most recent being last night. With that drink came resentment. I assume toward me, for our separation last year. Our oldest son has not talked to him for over a year. I could explain it to my AH but choose not to. The...	wildthang86	8	1013	Jul 20, 2009 by RLC
	Mobirdie - thanks for passing it on (Preview) I was at an AA Roundup with Alanon participation this weekend in Maine. One of the Alanon workshops was a panel discussion. Someone talked about being a spouse of an A, someone talked about being the parent of an A, someone talked about being a member of both programs. The woman who talked about being...	thinkstoomuch	2	444	Jul 20, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Reference material/links on what happens next (Preview) My brother is now in "end stage cirrhosis". The hospital visits for his girlfriend and my mom are exhausting and horrible. I've only visited once since I live out of town. I'm looking for a book/article to help me understand what is next. Any suggestions?	superdebby	5	1465	Jul 20, 2009 by superdebby
	Calling Members (Preview) Does anyone else feel wierd (or have felt wierd) making phone calls to other members in the beginning? Last Monday I had 2 separate members tell me to give them a call and I haven't done it yet. I don't know what the big deal is. My Dad calls it the 1,000-pound phone syndrom - LOL! It's one thing to speak...	N8SMOM	7	791	Jul 20, 2009 by Mobirdie
	confused (Preview) I have a very busy job and life, so no time for meetings, hence using this site. My father was an alcoholic. He drank for years and then stopped drinking for 20 years. Although he stopped drinking, he was always a dry drunk. He was secretive and gave up on life. He became ill and died last year. He was...	newbie46	15	1023	Jul 19, 2009 by glad lee
	Question for Josie (Preview) I keep thinking about those children, your niece and nephew. Can you help the older one memorize your phone number or write it on the tag of a teddy bear or something and teach him or her how to call you collect? If the number is too hard to memorize, can the child know your last name and town by heart, and b...	Temple	1	518	Jul 19, 2009 by debilyn
	Please help me get through this. (Preview) He did not come home last night. I know he is using again. And of course it is all going to be my fault because get this one I spoke it into existence and had no faith in him. Or maybe this time it will be I am stupid, I don't know why I make these stupid chooses. You are the best thing that has ever been in my life, y...	linbol	8	910	Jul 19, 2009 by Christy
	don't know what i am dealing with (Preview) Here is a little history, My husband has been an alcoholic since 14 and started using drugs when he was about 18. I knew he drank when we met but never knew he was addicted. We dated for two years, We separated then got back together ten years later son was born. This is when I realized he had a problem. we sep...	linbol	4	826	Jul 19, 2009 by Andrea12
	More good news (Preview) As many of you know I've been working really hard to improve my physical health. Today I learned my breathing is much much better. I started out this year at 50^ of normal lung function. Now I'm up to 85%...just 15% more and I'm 'normal". Next step is the dental work. One step at a time. I never got...	maresie	6	687	Jul 19, 2009 by Maria123
	Detaching and letting him do his thing.... (Preview) I think I might be finally getting this detachment thing down... The kids and I were at the beach today, and my ex-AH called... 17 times in 45 minutes, left four messages. He's been doing medical studies to earn money and got $50 in cash yesterday... He actually asked me to meet him at the subway statio...	lmw	4	1432	Jul 19, 2009 by Maria123
	I have questions about recognizing an alcoholic from social drinker (Preview) I met a guy that is a military pilot. He says pilots and military men LOVE to drink on the weekends or whenever they are not having to pass physicals. Usually they have to be in perfect physical condition, so when they are not on duty, they drink a lot. Since my ex was an alcoholic, this scares me. I don't...	hanila	5	1345	Jul 18, 2009 by Inpain
	9 days no cigarettes - yay! (Preview) i feel that being in this program (even for such a short time) has given me the tools i need to start making changes. over the past 5 years, i have never felt the desire to quit, or even set goals for myself. since al anon is helping me focus on me, i am starting to do these things... so yay!	xter	5	1207	Jul 18, 2009 by Sincerely
	question please help (Preview) 4 years ago i went and got myself treatment because i felt like i was getting out of control on how much pain medication i was taking. I was going thru a divorce and just kept taking more and more to numb myself. Well i did well for a long time then i injured my back real bad (actually broke it) and my Dr prescri...	nabbm34	5	667	Jul 18, 2009 by maresie
	will I get over it (Preview) about 30 years ago when I was a teenager, I lived with my alcoholic father. My parents were divorced and my mother moved away. I still had school so could not move with her, so I went to live with my Dad. To this day I will never understand how my mother can send me to live wth my dad as he was at that time dri...	newbie46	5	905	Jul 18, 2009 by maresie
	I think I am dealing with a 'Dry Drunk' now. (Preview) Hi Everyone. I have not posted in a while. Things have been really crazy both good and bad. My BF has been sober for about 3 months now. But lately he has been really moody. I understand that things are stressful at work for him but for the past 2 weeks he has been yelling at me and getting mad at the smallest...	LoveCC	5	1586	Jul 18, 2009 by everydayjane
	Update on TLC:) (Preview) Our very own TLC is doing well after her surgery. I got an email from her this am-via her phone and she let me know the surgery went well. She was feeling great two hrs post op but had to spend the night. She said the hospital staff was treating her well also. She'll know more in a week and I'm sure she'll...	shellyj123	1	648	Jul 18, 2009 by Karilynn
	hello, newbie here, grateful alanon (Preview) Hello, my name is Stella. I live with an alcoholic man who is sober, but has anger issues and tends to blame me for his problems. I am here because I want to work on self-care and focusing on myself and not on him. I want to explore with othe Alanon's my feelings and my issues surrounding living with an alcoh...	Stella1	6	551	Jul 18, 2009 by Stella1
	Prayer Request For My Brother (Preview) To MY MIP Family, I would appreciate very much if you would keep my brother Ray in your prayers. He is a former Marine, and later went Special Forces, a true patroit, He has never been in the hospital in his life, always been in good health. He found out yesterday that he has a rare form of blood cancer. H...	RLC	8	722	Jul 17, 2009 by wp
	I threatned to leave him and he sobered up... what now? (Preview) So here I am... my AH and I have had many many ups and downs... A few months ago I just got tired of the constant pattern so I cut him off emotionally and physically. He goes through stages of recovery that last about 7-15 days. Then he starts again. I have threatned to leave him more than a few times but, for s...	ticklelulu	8	1005	Jul 17, 2009 by Shaina
	OH shelly!!! (Preview) I had planned to paste your update after I deleted it off your other share! My keyboard went bonkers...lost it could you please update TLC's condition! I apologise! Was trying to help! oh just throw me in the horses trough! hugs,debilyn	debilyn	1	652	Jul 17, 2009 by shellyj123
	Thoughts of Abrother on his 30th (Preview) Well this morning I woke up with heavy thoughts about my ABrother, for today is his 30th birthday, sometimes it is hard to except that how he views life and how I veiw it, are on two very differant tracks, tho when we were growing up you couldn't seperate us from ourselves... Since I started my trip down Re...	Jozie	1	1377	Jul 17, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Angels Come in Many Disguises (Preview) As a background to this post, I wrote "Vacation from ". Now let me tell you about the good things that were involved! As soon as I realized my son in law had taken my rented vehicle and left the state with it, (actually drove it almost 900 miles away!) I called the police and told them where to fi...	Becky1	3	725	Jul 17, 2009 by debilyn
	Prayers for TLC today please (Preview) For those of you know TLC and those of you who haven't been that lucky to meet her yet......... TLC was scheduled to have surgery today for cancer.........Let's all please take a minute today to keep her in our thoughts and prayers.........All of us here know the power of HP and prayer......And a...	shellyj123	10	1059	Jul 17, 2009 by tea2
	where have I gone.... (Preview) my h is in acoa-and it is good. I'm attending al anon. I'm very tired. For so many years, I have taken care of the house, the kids, the parents, the h, his moods, etc. I have been everything everyone has asked of me. I have put up with, I have soothed, I have "sacrificed" I have put others firs...	heatherranki	4	825	Jul 17, 2009 by heatherranki
	Helping, Enabling, or Interfering? (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this board and I don't know much about Al-Anon, but maybe someone familiar with the principles of it can help: My 30-something sister has never grown up because my parents enable her to live completely dependent on them. They bought her a house, cars and pay for everything she needs and w...	angeleyes	4	1440	Jul 17, 2009 by angeleyes
	So sad and trying to heal from alcoholic relationship. Please tell, was it the alcohol or me? (Preview) I had a panic attack and I've been crying for 3 days. I wanted so much for this to work. I liked him SO much (when he was nice) and we had mutual chemistry and I haven't felt like this for years. My questions are about how my ex boyfriend treated me. I keep wondering what I did wrong, why did he treat ME this...	hanila	11	1513	Jul 16, 2009 by hanila
	Where did the "edit" button go? (Preview) Did you find it? Please tell me where it is hiding....Thanks, Diva	Diva	3	794	Jul 16, 2009 by wp
	easing his way back into drinking (Preview) So my husband is easing his way back into drinking after almost a year of sobriety, imposed on him by me of course. I posted a little more about this in an introduction a few days ago. A few weeks ago he mentioned drinking again, I told him no, he was nice about it, he practically begged on the 4th of Jul...	Lotus	12	862	Jul 16, 2009 by ticklelulu
	Vacation from (Preview) The end of June, I rented a Town & Country, and set off for a trip, 900 miles, from Ohio to Kansas, to visit my 88 year old mother who just moved into assisted living. With me, was traveling my 33 year old daughter, her husband of 5 years, his two teen age sons, and my granddaughter who is 19 months old. W...	Becky1	6	882	Jul 16, 2009 by nmike
	Little actions make things happen. (Preview) I've been really putting off getting the storage situation together. Now I've made progress the goal seems to be getting closer and things are happening for me. I know now when I get stuck I have to take action no matter how small and keep taking the action. I can just get marooned in my stuckness and n...	maresie	2	683	Jul 16, 2009 by glad lee
	Alcohol's Empty Promises Poem (Preview) Can somebody PLEASE help me find the poem that is something about all of alcohol's empty promises? It talks about how the alcohol beckons the alcoholic, and how the alcoholic ultimately loses his friends, his job, his home and eventually his life. I had a copy of it, I cannot even recall one line of the...	ESH	5	14832	Jul 15, 2009 by clara
	Bad Accident, need prayers. (Preview) Just to let you my friends know.........I have not been able to access the chat room lately. My middle son had a bad car accident and he is in the ICU. I am able to check this message board occasionally so I will. I just wanted you all to know and to request prayers. L. rolled his car several times, was throw...	doxie	15	615	Jul 15, 2009 by Andrea12
	Say a prayer for me .. Please?!?!? (Preview) Alright last apartment I applied for I was denied because of y bad credit. :( I just found one on Craigslist privately owned and first explained I had bad credit and asked if it was even worth me to apply for it. She says credit doesn't matter and application fee is FREE!!! I just went and drove past it have...	Melissa21	10	783	Jul 15, 2009 by wp
	guilt (Preview) Hello everyone i'v just read todays Courage to Change and today its about GUILT. As the Mother of my AD i have great problem with this one. My AD started drinking as a teenager cos she had probs coping with the fact she was Gay.( I didn't know she was Gay till many years after.) My problem is, i gave birth t...	mary j	5	760	Jul 15, 2009 by mary j
	Copyrighting (a gentle reminder) (Preview) Because this site is home to so many I really find this issue important to revisit. This a partial share I've posted before and updated to include #2 found in the FAQS * * * * * * * When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval syste...	tea2	2	945	Jul 15, 2009 by barisax
	Learning my lesson (Preview) Hello family, When I first came to Alanon all those years ago, and then returned via this family, I would never have thought that I would still think of myself as a child, but I do. I have so much to learn and it seems that as soon as I have learnt one lesson there is another just waiting in the wings for me to b...	Suzannah	5	796	Jul 15, 2009 by maresie
	Boyfriend's drug addict brother (Preview) So bf has an addict brother (oxycotton) who just got kicked out of the marines (in basic) and is now coming to live with him and his dad and step mom. He says... first thing I need to do when he gets there is take his phone... I talk to him about detaching and alanon and hope I can get him to go but if not I have to...	carolinagirl	5	815	Jul 15, 2009 by maresie
	feeling resentful with bad expectations (Preview) Dear all, have had a bad few days and in terrible form, made some bad decisions and am angry at how a neighbour has taken advantage, there is nothing I can do about same now, action done. My ex-a is doing less and less so more and more gets put onto me, I feel as if I am sliding backwards with no time for me anymo...	maire rua	5	772	Jul 15, 2009 by maresie
	new here (Preview) God i dont know where to start............. ok im a mum of 3 kids and husband to whom ive been married to for 10 years. 16 days ago after a weekend drunk session with his "mates" he admitted he was an alcoholic of 12 years getting worse over the last 7. I was really pleased that finally he had adm...	rach04	7	1012	Jul 15, 2009 by LoveCC
	Doxie's son update.......good news and tragic news (Preview) This is a very bittersweet post for me. I will give you the good news first. Lucas is doing so well. His broken neck is healing very well after surgery. His shoulders and jaw are also healing very well. He had another CT Scan last night and his liver and spleen are no longer bleeding and the swelling is goin...	doxie	11	957	Jul 15, 2009 by Rita G
	Good Days vs Bad Days (Preview) I have found my self all day wanting to read and acquire knowledge from others. Today was a good day, my AH starts drinking everyday about 4pm and drinks until 7 or so; JB on the rocks...As long as the kids and I are at home, cook dinner, etc.. he is tolerable. But should we have plans away from the house, h...	Searching for Peace	3	548	Jul 15, 2009 by Searching for Peace
	think think think (I think!) (Preview) HI everyone, A short share on my progress. I have been straining my brain thinking that I feel my head will blow off! Not knowing where my life is going, single or married etc. I want to make plans that don't include my AH anymore but what if he gets sober? Any plans I make while he isn't thinking about AA are...	silver brumby	8	1039	Jul 15, 2009 by glad lee
	Great resources! (Preview) Hi. I was reading Mr. Sponsor Pants' wonderful blog at: http://mrsponsorpants.typepad.com/mr_sponsorpants/ He is a long time AA sponsor with good insight into 12 step work that can help EVERYONE. Mr. Sponsor Pants recently posted a link to the Top 100 Overcoming Addiction blogs at : http://onli...	Bella333	3	595	Jul 14, 2009 by Bella333
	a realization.... (Preview) Hello, So I am the child of an alcoholic. My father was a functioning alcoholic, up until my grandma passed away when I was 14. For the next five years he lost multiple jobs, friends, ect. I've tried everyway possible to help him, through support, family, and rehab. Finally, I just ended a relationsh...	Mayamatty	6	651	Jul 14, 2009 by Jozie
	Childish Reactions (Preview) My A has recently come into a bit of money. We are both relatively young -26 and 28. It is the first time in his life that he has money and is able to buy things like a computer, electronics, nice clothes, etc. We were sufficient before, both working but, now he has had money for these "Extras". I...	RunnerChick	5	605	Jul 14, 2009 by Aloha
	New to the board - where to start? (Preview) Hi All, I have just recently started attending Al-Anon meetings in my local area. So far I have only been handful of times. I am committed to going but most of the time I find it really, really hard. I haven't been able to say anything during the open meeting because I just feel sick and it's hard to open t...	Varda57	7	539	Jul 14, 2009 by RLC
	sharing something (Preview) Most people here know I am a JW. Another person who considers themself a JW came down on me about some things I share here. I wanted to make it clear that I am here because I need to be here. Loving A's in my life is part of me. I learned to feel comfortable with that and make sure the pits of the disease no longer...	debilyn	6	705	Jul 14, 2009 by Suzannah
	When does this disease just DIE/Go Away... (Preview) Just wanted to update and say sorry I haven't been of much help here of late, been very busy in some things and very annoyed in others... Abrother now has the family in an up roar again, and I have backed out slowly but my Mom is still the Whip'n Post for everyone else. I am trying to deal with those feelings a...	Jozie	1	626	Jul 14, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	There is a pattern (Preview) My AHsober said that he had put in a bid on a house. Although, he says he wants a divorce we are still legally married. I told him that he can't do that. And if he does he will have to sell it when we divorce. He got really angry and hung up the phone. He has always been a good provider for our family. Every few yea...	nmike	6	743	Jul 14, 2009 by blender_girl
	What Would Al-Anon Do? (Preview) My husband seems to be slacking on the basic maintenance of our pool these days. The pool has always been his responsibility for as long as we've been together. We live in Arizona and it's really hot now, so the pool needs extra attention. Do I figure out how to do those things and start taking care of...	N8SMOM	9	627	Jul 14, 2009 by nmike
	A nice weekend! (Preview) I just wanted to share something nice for a change.....we had a terrific weekend! Took the kids to Storyland on Friday and just hung out the rest of the weekend. My A boyfriend did not drink at all which is strange. I'm not sure why he didn't but then we don't understand why they do anything they do. Al...	Holly09	2	426	Jul 14, 2009 by nmike
	Here we go again UPDATE (Preview) I posted a few days ago about my sister overdosing once again. To help make this clear I'll call the sister that overdosed sister #1 and the other sister #2. Yesterday sister #1's doctor asked to meet with the family today so my mother, sister #2, my brother and myself went over there. We sat for over a...	Mobirdie	4	811	Jul 14, 2009 by Temple
	thinking about my dad today (Preview) and how his bottom was his death. A son went to a MVA hearing today for his dui. His lawyer told him to bring someone with him as he would probably not be able to drive home after the hearing. The other day he called and made an appointment to have one of those things you blow into installed on his car. The appo...	Gailey	4	889	Jul 14, 2009 by Rita G
	News in... Arggggg (Preview) I swear, I don't know why we even have a system.. I mean honestly...My Abrother has been arrested EVERY YEAR for the last 12 years, "His 1st DWI was when he was 18" he will be 30 this Fri. Now all this crap started because He DID NOT show up at court, so they call the ones that bailed him out "...	Jozie	5	736	Jul 14, 2009 by Christy
	JUST GETTING STARTED (Preview) Hello, I am 48 yrs old, married 20yrs with 15yr boy/girl twins. For the last year our life has been a mess. My spouse is drinker and verbal abuser. His drinking and abuse has gotten worse over the years, last year things esclated to the point he moved out, in, out and in. I have been to counseling (alo...	Searching for Peace	4	585	Jul 14, 2009 by Searching for Peace
	A disease that makes ppl HATE you.... (Preview) Was just reading lots of posts and got to thinking.... Everyone keeps saying this is a disease, I liked the post that compared it to a mental disease - comparing it to a physical disease - I can see that straining my logic... A mental disorder can make ppl hate you, fear you, resent you, try to correct...	Loveridden	4	2167	Jul 14, 2009 by Loveridden
	THINK bracelets???????Where can I find one? (Preview) My ex used to have this cloth like bracelet he wore all the time that simply had the word THINK on it.....I would love to find one for myself as I could use the constant reminder but haven't been able to locate any online and will not call and ask where he got his... Does anyone know where I can find one of thes...	shellyj123	9	1533	Jul 14, 2009 by Loupiness
	ESH needed, fast track ticket to the pit (Preview) Hi all, been awhile since i have posted, but i still come here every morning to get my daily dose of love, support and esh... Lived through hell of living with my fiance for years, finally got to a point where it was me dying slowly or him. Told him to leave, dug into alanon and started a new life for me and my...	inhisarms	7	845	Jul 13, 2009 by nmike
	Good weekend:looking forward to another one! (Preview) Most of the time I try to live one day at a time! But lately I have been noticing that I look forward to the future a little more! It is kinda funny when you consider that I used to really look forward to dying & that I would definitely been in a better place than this "crappy" world! Today is...	Hoot Nanny	1	575	Jul 13, 2009 by Overcome
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