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Not from alcoholism, but from a neurological condition that contributed to the depression that contributed to the alcoholism. We have had such a long and eduring marraige and I have changed so much. I finally realized that I can make do without him and his problems, and that his being sick doesn't justify his bad behavior. But I also realized, as of today, he cannot make do without me. He just had a major event, we both thought he was going to die. The residual damage is likely permanent. I cannot imagine not being there for him.
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I'm like a pinch of tea...put me in hot water and see how strong I can be.
I'm sorry that he is sick. What you decide to do for you and him is up to you. We will always be here for you. Keeping you and your family in my prayers. Love and blessings to you.
Live strong, Karilyn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
RainyJamie, your post touched a nerve deep within my soul. I so relate. The decision is yours to make, but remember...you must care for yourself first. I am thinking of you and sending my positive thoughts and energy your way.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
The ex A I was with got hit by two major illnesses. One was the consequence of his drug use. He used that issue mercilessly to justify his self pity. I was not permitted to be sick at all and he had absolutely no compassion or concern for my health but he absolutely felt entitled to care, love and understanding for his. These days I look for a more equal partnership of needs and considerations. By the time I left him he was only able to go one way, give me give me, give me.
