The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
There are sometimes I want to blot out all memories of the ex A. I am working on decluttering and I veer between wanting to pitch a lot of stuff to being obessive about where the stuff I don't want should go. I know it will be a process. Obviously our two dogs are one bit product of the relationship and I'm certainly not about to pitch them.
I have to work on being rational rather than emotional and this project is one good way to practice that.
I find myself being obsessive about wanting to get it all done in a day and I am trying to go with Kitty's advice to take it slowly and have limits.
how do you sort thru 16 plus yrs of photos and other memorablia???
it was difficult for me - I took a couple of nites and went thru some boxes - did a box for him and a box for me and a big box for TRASH.
I know some say "oh you should throw those things away - you may want them some day"
Ya know - i really doubt it. I saved a few things for the girls & grandkids in case they want them some day - but 4 of the 5 girls aren't speaking to him right now either.
So who knows?
Just take it as you can Honey - One step at at time - Deep breaths -
HUGS to you!! Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
Self care is very very new to me. I was once motivated to do self care because I thought it made me more attractive in a relationship or it was one way I maintained a relationship now I am working on just maintaining me it seems like a big big task.
