Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

joanlee · joanlee

Hello I am new to Al-anon, and I'm having a problem with the detachment theory in one area, and that is drinking and driving. It does not make common sense to me to let someone get in a car if they are drunk. Is this supposed to make him suffer consequences and teach him a lesson? How about the fact that he cou...

lmw · lmw

I have sole custody of my three kids, and the day-to-day stuff is all mine: meals, homework, baths, bedtime, laundry, etc. Visits with Dad are always playtime - he has none of the responsibility of parenting, just the fun stuff. (I'm stating a fact here; but I wouldn't change places for him for a...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

One of the things my seminar stressed this weekend and that really helped pull me out of my self pity, was the idea that I must take responsibility for my future. There is a pay-off when I remain in self-pity - there is no risk and I believe that I am somehow hedging against future pain. Yesterday and this m...

speck31 · speck31

I am finally to the point that I want to ask my ex-Abf to not contact me for at least a month. I probably should ask for more but that's what I can start with. I wrote a letter earlier trying to explain how I feel and how I have a hard time telling others how I really feel...but I am trying to now. And that I need...

QOD · QOD

I have not heard from my exAH/bf since the last Thursday texting wars. Well, actually he did text me on Saturday to see if I had his birth certificate. I don't and I have let him know that in the past. I have no clue what he needs it for, it cannot be good but I just don't give a rip. I have actualy enjoyed som...

late4kay · late4kay

I am a recovery alcoholic with a lot of time in recovery. I've also spent 3 1/2 years in alanon following a difficult marriage to a non-recovering alcoholic. I'm currently in a terrific relationship with a wonderful man with just a little more sobriety than I have. The difficulty for us is his 26-ye...

Bettina · Bettina

Hi everyone, Im back, I was invited back and am grateful and appreciate the invite. When I left I was in a very ugly place and want to apologize if I offended anyone or caused any dis unity. Im here to get encouraged and to give any encouragement when I can. I feel my experiences can help another family al-a...

Katy · Katy

It's been a bit of a time here lately, at christmas I caught swine flu gave it to my husband, and that caused him to have acute liver failure, his buisiness is struggling in this ressesion, and then his mother passed away suddenly,so this week we had the funeral, my husband is in recovery and after the fun...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi Everyone, Tonight is our Step Tradition Meeting, We are on Tradition 10 tonight. We have had a hard time in these meetings getting people to share on these topics because there are more newcomers and they dont share on these topics. The meetings are usually ended early. I am asking for the help of...

mom25 · mom25

This is my 1st post here. Wasn't sure if I really belonged here, but after doing some reading here, I do. I have been married to my AH for 21 years, not always too happily because of his drinking. I have left him twice both within the first 5 yrs. Only for a few days. I almost divorced him in 2003 because he...

Gailey · Gailey

I have been thinking about what to do with my A son for quite some time now. The other morning I woke up early and I had somehow made a decision in my sleep (answer from HP) that he needs to go, sober or not, for my own sanity. Now, he really doesn't give me any grief but I just cannot continue watching him go dow...

Slugcat · Slugcat

not sure if this belongs here. my husband has not drunk since his last bout..... not going there atm. but ihave a father figure, a very close relative who will not stop over eating. he also smokes, has diabetes now, high blood pressure and is obese, i would say morbidly obese. hes waiting for a stomach st...

Panda5 · Panda5

I am just starting with accepting that I need Al-Anon support. I have been married almost 3 years and with my AH for almost 5 years. He is out tonight. His phone is off and I am not anxious. I have no control over his usage or binge. I feel like I can only keep myself and our children safe. I can only pray for him...

MapleMom · MapleMom

I have had it with AH. He was on a bender for the better part of last week, after we had what I thought was a very deep connection a few days prior. I did well not saying anything to him, I worked hard to let it go(wasn't easy) and on Saturday he mislead me as to what he was doing and I thought he was going to be ho...

miss lucy · miss lucy

i knew in my own mind that my marriage to AH was almost definitely over - i just didnt think the ending of it would have been quite so unpleasant. AH and i have been living apart since January and i had given him an ultimatum that if he hadnt sorted himself out by August (my birthday) then our marriage was ove...

BetterLife · BetterLife

Hi! Short intro, I had a flirtation with Al-Anon 2 years ago when I was having trouble dealing with others bad habits. Turns out i felt that I had some of my own. Too immature. I didn't know myself. Then I hit a spiral that involved a guy who i thought I loved...and a best friend who dumped her fiance and...

Katy · Katy

Jeez I thought it meant deception! like I thought humility was humiliation! and I often wondered why my husband could talk the talk and not walk the walk, but now I tend to rely on ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER TO ME THAN WORDS! Jerry F, if you had of adopted me earlier I would of been ok sooner? Katyx that you came in...

roygbiv · roygbiv

them.http://www.recoveryspeakers.org/Home/FileCatalog.aspx?SearchText=alanon

Tulsa4604 · Tulsa4604

I am chairing a meeting on Humility tomorrow night, so I want everyone's input on where their humility in Al-Anon came from. What humbled you?

FreudinSlip · FreudinSlip

Hello All, I'm new to this. My therapist suggested I check out Al-anon meetings or ACOA meetings. I found an al-anon meeting in my area, I've gone a couple of times, but I'm a bit lost. I mostly just sit in the back and listen because I don't really get what is going on, some things that people say I can relat...

addictiondoc · addictiondoc

Hi Everyone!I am a doctor that specializes in drug addiction/alcoholism. I am committed to helping family members who have a loved on with an addiction. It's a tough disease that destroys a lot of families so I try to help people in many different ways.Thanks

skootr73 · skootr73

Hi! I'm new to this board. Just wanted to put a quick shout out that I'm glad to find y'all. It will be nice to have a supplement to my f2f meeting. Looking forward to being blessed with lots of ES&H! Thanx-Skootr

sdisnie · sdisnie

Which is worse? Wondering where your drunk husband is for an entire week while he's on a bender and then having to take him to the hospital when he can't stop....about twice a year..... Or.....having to send your kids off with him and his new girlfriend every Saturday and soon every other weekend for t...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So today, AH had huge melt down resulting in relapsing after 4 days of sobriety. He got two guns and brought them to bed with him., I called 911. I managed to remove the guns from his possession and locked all weapons in my car. The sheriff's officer spoke with him and he admitted to wanting to hurt himsel...

Festfan · Festfan

Hello friends at MIP, Wow, I am really seeking ESH today. I haven't posted in a while, but I have been keeping up on reading. I am struggling with my relationship with my AexBF. I ended our relationship at the beginning of February and had begun to be accustomed to more peace in my life - at least as it re...

Bluelady · Bluelady

Hello, I just wanted too give you a update on how we are doing. Chris has been sober 1 month. Yesterday she got a promotion at her work, she will get her Masters in a month on got top grade in her mid term. I won't tell you everything is just great but I won't give up on her. We are working on it together. She is ge...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

So I went to an amazing seminar this weekend that is supposed to "change lives". I got ALOT out of it and I FEEL great, but there is a part of me still wrapped up in the obsession and abandonment I felt in my relationship. It is a complicated one, that's for sure. Today I just feel that familiar tu...

Katy · Katy

Doing the same thing's over and over and getting the same results? practice practice practice, it works it really does, light bulb moment, what can I take form that? Well, I have been practicing learning learning learning, and now I am just on the cusp of ok I get that now what? Just do it, ya can't just th...

cdngirl · cdngirl

A week ago, I was talking to my sponsor about how to pray, what to ask for, etc, as sometimes I feel like I'm doing it wrong because I wasn't getting anything out of it. She suggested to ask God for a sign that he is there for me, guiding me. So I prayed on that the past week. Yesterday, I had a horrendous day...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's one thing to be able to detach from the ex AH....I can do that a little better....my problem is trying to detach from the new girlfriend who is now in control of his life. For whatever reason she decides to pick up where I left off. My problem with her is I know her, and I know the type of person she is, a...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi wondered I live in Englad and would love to watch when love is not enough. I have SKY (digital television) which has about 4 different CBS american channels. I also have to Hallmark channels. Then there is the time differences to consider. not sure if I will b able to get this movie , can you buy it?...

Sunset · Sunset

Hello everyone, I go by the nick hummer, but use to be sunset. I am just apologizing for the other nite when I was a bit disgruntled over a lady reading her poetry in the chatroom. I just thought that because it was not conference approved literature that it should not have been shared in the chatroom. ...

Kiki52 · Kiki52

I'm new to MIP, but not to Al Anon. I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone. I think this will be a great addition to my recovery program

bluerose · bluerose

I am feeling very troubled at the momment. I am 4 weeks from my divorce from my AH being final. But I am not free from the ravages of this awful disease. My AH comes to my house as he pleases, most visits are nasty and unpleasant. He has made so many threats from burning my house down, raping me and promises to...

Gailey · Gailey

Thank you! You are a lovely, caring person. Gail

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I'll keep this simple. I have been married for 25+ years to a wonderful man who happens to have the disease of alcoholism. He relapses every 3-5 months. He is active in support groups. I can hardly deal with the relapses after a 10 year period of going through this. It is ugly. I have anxiety and ins...

Nicomanti · Nicomanti

I'll try to make this as short as possible! My mother is a severe alcoholic, the problem is that she hides it pretty well. Her husband works out of town and is very rarely ever home (he also drinks A LOT). She only really has one friend who also drinks a lot, and who she very rarely sees, so no one really sees h...

david62 · david62

Hi Family, I just finished reading "When Love is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story" this morning. In it mention is made of the Stepping Stones Foundation that was created near the end of her life to provide for, among other things, the preservation of the home she and Bill shared which they c...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Well, what a week, last week has been. To make a long story short, I went on vacation with my sister. I knew that my AH was hitting the bottle hard, I didn't know the last time he had been to work, I didn't check and I didn't call him in. I decided that this was it. He is responsible for himself. I spoke with my d...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))), With St. Patrick's Day right around the corner, I'd like to offer a suggestion. We all know how hard it can be on all of us - especially with an active A in the house. AS if addicts needed another excuse to drink or drug. (They do it b/c they are addicts.) If things are tough remember th...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Wow I have sat here for a half an hour looking at the computer screen knowing I want to post but what do I want to say. Daughter took my car on Thursday she has a suspended license for DUI. I called her and she let the call go to voice mail...I left message and she called back..Told her to bring car back and s...

Katy · Katy

I think I can change that feeling now into acceptance and humility, I have carried resentment around with me way to long, and when I looked deep into myself, I thought ermmmmmm it's only me keeping this resentment a live, let it go, and swap it for acceptence and low and behold I feel lighter, light bulb m...

MapleMom · MapleMom

So today, I think my lesson for myself is learning to take it one day at a time. AH has his weekly curling game to go to and usually he comes home drunk from this. Since we had our big talk a week ago, things were good and in the past couple of days he has come home after having a couple to last night I know he had...

breezee · breezee

Just heard this recently and wanted to pass along the word... mark your calendars! There will be a hallmark presentation of "Love Is Not Enough: the Lois Wilson Story" starring Winona Ryder to air on sunday, apr 25th, 2010 at 9pm EST on CBS. How's that for alanon going mainstream?! For t...

John · John

Please take a moment or two of your time to read the sticky post title "Message Board Decision Meeting 3/28/10" at the top of this board. Thank you,John

sgac · sgac

Hi,I recently had a resentment with a sponsee. We worked it out and each apologized but now I am experiencing 2 people ion our group that are avoiding eye contact with me. She is friends with these two people, as am I. I want to say something to all parties but am at a loss as to what I would say. I did not go to a...

elzzap · elzzap

Hi all So, 7 months ago I left my alcoholic husband. Technically, he threw me and the kids out in one of his nastier tirades when I told him I was leaving. He had been emotionally and verbally abusive for years, preaching how his drunkeness was always my fault, if only i was more this, or less that, or bet...

fishinmama · fishinmama

This was sent to me via email....I just had to share it. 'To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.' When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this sentence... 'The will...

moonchild · moonchild

Hello Everyone, I just wanted to let you know that it has been a week since I spoke to my A son. As far as I know he is still in hosiptal and trying to find a sober house to go too. Yesturday was tough alot of tears, and questioning my decision to cut him loose. But I made it through and today is a new day, Does it ge...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...this morning while getting ready to park my truck before going to a morning meeting I had an affair!! LOL Don't paint your own picture let me do it. The affair was that while preparing to turn across the on coming lane into the parking stall the person I had an affair with was exercising...

miss lucy · miss lucy

i got a call from the doctor today telling me my blood tests have shown a deterioration in my bone density and it looks like i may have osteoporosis. this, two days after being told i need another operation to remove another non cancerous lump!!! that puts my plans back another 3 months! everything,...

mgr · mgr

I just recently kicked my addicted daughter out of our house which put her four children with their dad full-time. Of course we are still helping with the care. Question, should we allow our addicted daughter refusing treatment to visit the girls age 11, 9 3 & 2?

DragoN · DragoN

Hello, I'm new to Alanon but not the effects of alcohol in my marriage to my AH. Have been reading here and can relate to far too many of the frustrations and sadness and...the list goes on and on. Long story short...I'm tired of it. I know that I cannot change, cure nor control him...and his lying is pissi...

maire rua · maire rua

hi guys, mother's day here but not in this house, not a card or wish anywhere in site. I did bring it up and had a meltdown and have cleared all members out of my house, am now making a nice pot of coffee, getting ready to go to a meeting and kind of chuckling to myself as I handed it all over to my hp just about 10 m...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))))), Good morning to you all. After MANY long hours of contemplation, talking with old & new friends I have had a change of heart about leaving MIP. It's been a very long few days. Neither the decision to leave or remain has come lightly and w/o serious consideration. But I h...

Destynee · Destynee

I went to a F2F meeting and they all agreed that you have to play the mind games and let them back in since you don't know if they will follow though or not. My drug addicted husband will go and use on his days off and not come home, will miss a day of work and then call and say "I wrote letters to you and the k...

MapleMom · MapleMom

Warning this is totally a pity post. Today I am feeling so blue, my emotions are just so raw. I am full of why's. Like why is the man I love an alcoholic, why is my dad an A, why is my brother an A, why is alcohol such an issue with my mother, why is every family function a booze fest, why do I seem to be the only on...

indigo1 · indigo1

I just joined this group tonight because I am currently in a relationship with an active alcoholic, and I am trying to figure out if it is possible to have a truly healthy relationship. We have been together for a little over two years and were friends for a year prior to that. Shortly after we began &quo...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I don't know about you but here at my home when the weather starts to turn nice and warm my AH drinks more and tends to go out to drink. Like stopping on his way home from work and then driving home. Over the years I have come to this conclusion. Things always get worse when things get nice outside. Like he wa...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family, Just a quick update on how I'm doing. Not great, not terrible. I'm mostly numb. I heard this is a part of grief. The terrible flashbacks are less frequent, but so too are meaningful and comforting memories of my AH. I remembered I had saved all his letters from rehab, so I read them toni...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	driving (Preview) Hello I am new to Al-anon, and I'm having a problem with the detachment theory in one area, and that is drinking and driving. It does not make common sense to me to let someone get in a car if they are drunk. Is this supposed to make him suffer consequences and teach him a lesson? How about the fact that he cou...	joanlee	5	764	Mar 19, 2010 by joanlee
	A Good Day! (Preview) I have sole custody of my three kids, and the day-to-day stuff is all mine: meals, homework, baths, bedtime, laundry, etc. Visits with Dad are always playtime - he has none of the responsibility of parenting, just the fun stuff. (I'm stating a fact here; but I wouldn't change places for him for a...	lmw	4	754	Mar 19, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	Responsibility for ME and my quality of life... (Preview) One of the things my seminar stressed this weekend and that really helped pull me out of my self pity, was the idea that I must take responsibility for my future. There is a pay-off when I remain in self-pity - there is no risk and I believe that I am somehow hedging against future pain. Yesterday and this m...	RunnerChick	7	968	Mar 19, 2010 by glad
	I wrote a letter... (Preview) I am finally to the point that I want to ask my ex-Abf to not contact me for at least a month. I probably should ask for more but that's what I can start with. I wrote a letter earlier trying to explain how I feel and how I have a hard time telling others how I really feel...but I am trying to now. And that I need...	speck31	3	595	Mar 19, 2010 by speck31
	Still no word (Preview) I have not heard from my exAH/bf since the last Thursday texting wars. Well, actually he did text me on Saturday to see if I had his birth certificate. I don't and I have let him know that in the past. I have no clue what he needs it for, it cannot be good but I just don't give a rip. I have actualy enjoyed som...	QOD	5	687	Mar 19, 2010 by QOD
	Help! (Preview) I am a recovery alcoholic with a lot of time in recovery. I've also spent 3 1/2 years in alanon following a difficult marriage to a non-recovering alcoholic. I'm currently in a terrific relationship with a wonderful man with just a little more sobriety than I have. The difficulty for us is his 26-ye...	late4kay	5	836	Mar 19, 2010 by John
	Hello everyone, Im back! (Preview) Hi everyone, Im back, I was invited back and am grateful and appreciate the invite. When I left I was in a very ugly place and want to apologize if I offended anyone or caused any dis unity. Im here to get encouraged and to give any encouragement when I can. I feel my experiences can help another family al-a...	Bettina	4	711	Mar 19, 2010 by John
	Just thoughts! (Preview) It's been a bit of a time here lately, at christmas I caught swine flu gave it to my husband, and that caused him to have acute liver failure, his buisiness is struggling in this ressesion, and then his mother passed away suddenly,so this week we had the funeral, my husband is in recovery and after the fun...	Katy	2	583	Mar 19, 2010 by Katy
	Calling All Oldtimers Need Help Tonight! AT Meeting (Preview) Hi Everyone, Tonight is our Step Tradition Meeting, We are on Tradition 10 tonight. We have had a hard time in these meetings getting people to share on these topics because there are more newcomers and they dont share on these topics. The meetings are usually ended early. I am asking for the help of...	kerry5	4	715	Mar 19, 2010 by kerry5
	Hello (Preview) This is my 1st post here. Wasn't sure if I really belonged here, but after doing some reading here, I do. I have been married to my AH for 21 years, not always too happily because of his drinking. I have left him twice both within the first 5 yrs. Only for a few days. I almost divorced him in 2003 because he...	mom25	3	632	Mar 18, 2010 by pineapple
	boundaries (Preview) I have been thinking about what to do with my A son for quite some time now. The other morning I woke up early and I had somehow made a decision in my sleep (answer from HP) that he needs to go, sober or not, for my own sanity. Now, he really doesn't give me any grief but I just cannot continue watching him go dow...	Gailey	5	868	Mar 18, 2010 by Karilynn
	dont know if this belongs here i need to rant (Preview) not sure if this belongs here. my husband has not drunk since his last bout..... not going there atm. but ihave a father figure, a very close relative who will not stop over eating. he also smokes, has diabetes now, high blood pressure and is obese, i would say morbidly obese. hes waiting for a stomach st...	Slugcat	10	1086	Mar 18, 2010 by Kiki52
	New Here, hello (Preview) I am just starting with accepting that I need Al-Anon support. I have been married almost 3 years and with my AH for almost 5 years. He is out tonight. His phone is off and I am not anxious. I have no control over his usage or binge. I feel like I can only keep myself and our children safe. I can only pray for him...	Panda5	4	1000	Mar 18, 2010 by abbyal
	Gave my final ultimatumn (Preview) I have had it with AH. He was on a bender for the better part of last week, after we had what I thought was a very deep connection a few days prior. I did well not saying anything to him, I worked hard to let it go(wasn't easy) and on Saturday he mislead me as to what he was doing and I thought he was going to be ho...	MapleMom	6	759	Mar 18, 2010 by Bettina
	the straw that broke the camel's back! (Preview) i knew in my own mind that my marriage to AH was almost definitely over - i just didnt think the ending of it would have been quite so unpleasant. AH and i have been living apart since January and i had given him an ultimatum that if he hadnt sorted himself out by August (my birthday) then our marriage was ove...	miss lucy	8	881	Mar 17, 2010 by miss lucy
	New here, revisiting the Al anon life. (Preview) Hi! Short intro, I had a flirtation with Al-Anon 2 years ago when I was having trouble dealing with others bad habits. Turns out i felt that I had some of my own. Too immature. I didn't know myself. Then I hit a spiral that involved a guy who i thought I loved...and a best friend who dumped her fiance and...	BetterLife	5	858	Mar 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	PERCEPTION! (Preview) Jeez I thought it meant deception! like I thought humility was humiliation! and I often wondered why my husband could talk the talk and not walk the walk, but now I tend to rely on ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER TO ME THAN WORDS! Jerry F, if you had of adopted me earlier I would of been ok sooner? Katyx that you came in...	Katy	1	663	Mar 17, 2010 by nmike
	RecoverySpeakers.org (Preview) them.http://www.recoveryspeakers.org/Home/FileCatalog.aspx?SearchText=alanon	roygbiv	3	2258	Mar 17, 2010 by abbyal
	Humility (Preview) I am chairing a meeting on Humility tomorrow night, so I want everyone's input on where their humility in Al-Anon came from. What humbled you?	Tulsa4604	6	1927	Mar 17, 2010 by xeno59
	Hello All I'm new to this. (Preview) Hello All, I'm new to this. My therapist suggested I check out Al-anon meetings or ACOA meetings. I found an al-anon meeting in my area, I've gone a couple of times, but I'm a bit lost. I mostly just sit in the back and listen because I don't really get what is going on, some things that people say I can relat...	FreudinSlip	7	1076	Mar 17, 2010 by xeno59
	Introducing myself (Preview) Hi Everyone!I am a doctor that specializes in drug addiction/alcoholism. I am committed to helping family members who have a loved on with an addiction. It's a tough disease that destroys a lot of families so I try to help people in many different ways.Thanks	addictiondoc	9	679	Mar 17, 2010 by kitty
	New & Want to Say Glad to Be Here (Preview) Hi! I'm new to this board. Just wanted to put a quick shout out that I'm glad to find y'all. It will be nice to have a supplement to my f2f meeting. Looking forward to being blessed with lots of ES&H! Thanx-Skootr	skootr73	5	673	Mar 17, 2010 by Tracy
	Which is Worse? (Preview) Which is worse? Wondering where your drunk husband is for an entire week while he's on a bender and then having to take him to the hospital when he can't stop....about twice a year..... Or.....having to send your kids off with him and his new girlfriend every Saturday and soon every other weekend for t...	sdisnie	6	759	Mar 17, 2010 by nmike
	So Angry With Crisis Center (Preview) So today, AH had huge melt down resulting in relapsing after 4 days of sobriety. He got two guns and brought them to bed with him., I called 911. I managed to remove the guns from his possession and locked all weapons in my car. The sheriff's officer spoke with him and he admitted to wanting to hurt himsel...	Acatnip	11	827	Mar 17, 2010 by Acatnip
	ESH needed to deal with AexBF (Preview) Hello friends at MIP, Wow, I am really seeking ESH today. I haven't posted in a while, but I have been keeping up on reading. I am struggling with my relationship with my AexBF. I ended our relationship at the beginning of February and had begun to be accustomed to more peace in my life - at least as it re...	Festfan	7	874	Mar 16, 2010 by Festfan
	update on daughter (Preview) Hello, I just wanted too give you a update on how we are doing. Chris has been sober 1 month. Yesterday she got a promotion at her work, she will get her Masters in a month on got top grade in her mid term. I won't tell you everything is just great but I won't give up on her. We are working on it together. She is ge...	Bluelady	3	865	Mar 16, 2010 by Rocky38
	One of those days... (Preview) So I went to an amazing seminar this weekend that is supposed to "change lives". I got ALOT out of it and I FEEL great, but there is a part of me still wrapped up in the obsession and abandonment I felt in my relationship. It is a complicated one, that's for sure. Today I just feel that familiar tu...	RunnerChick	2	679	Mar 16, 2010 by hotrod
	A ha moments! (Preview) Doing the same thing's over and over and getting the same results? practice practice practice, it works it really does, light bulb moment, what can I take form that? Well, I have been practicing learning learning learning, and now I am just on the cusp of ok I get that now what? Just do it, ya can't just th...	Katy	4	610	Mar 16, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	A sign (Preview) A week ago, I was talking to my sponsor about how to pray, what to ask for, etc, as sometimes I feel like I'm doing it wrong because I wasn't getting anything out of it. She suggested to ask God for a sign that he is there for me, guiding me. So I prayed on that the past week. Yesterday, I had a horrendous day...	cdngirl	2	786	Mar 16, 2010 by hotrod
	Need help detaching from A's new girlfriend (Preview) It's one thing to be able to detach from the ex AH....I can do that a little better....my problem is trying to detach from the new girlfriend who is now in control of his life. For whatever reason she decides to pick up where I left off. My problem with her is I know her, and I know the type of person she is, a...	sdisnie	4	820	Mar 16, 2010 by lizzakiss
	Movie (Preview) Hi wondered I live in Englad and would love to watch when love is not enough. I have SKY (digital television) which has about 4 different CBS american channels. I also have to Hallmark channels. Then there is the time differences to consider. not sure if I will b able to get this movie , can you buy it?...	Tracy	3	615	Mar 16, 2010 by Melissa21
	Apology (Preview) Hello everyone, I go by the nick hummer, but use to be sunset. I am just apologizing for the other nite when I was a bit disgruntled over a lady reading her poetry in the chatroom. I just thought that because it was not conference approved literature that it should not have been shared in the chatroom. ...	Sunset	6	758	Mar 16, 2010 by blender_girl
	Hey Everyone (Preview) I'm new to MIP, but not to Al Anon. I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone. I think this will be a great addition to my recovery program	Kiki52	3	652	Mar 16, 2010 by blender_girl
	Do I have to go into hiding? (Preview) I am feeling very troubled at the momment. I am 4 weeks from my divorce from my AH being final. But I am not free from the ravages of this awful disease. My AH comes to my house as he pleases, most visits are nasty and unpleasant. He has made so many threats from burning my house down, raping me and promises to...	bluerose	13	784	Mar 15, 2010 by bluerose
	For Hotrod (Preview) Thank you! You are a lovely, caring person. Gail	Gailey	1	632	Mar 15, 2010 by hotrod
	HOW DO I DETACH??? (Preview) I'll keep this simple. I have been married for 25+ years to a wonderful man who happens to have the disease of alcoholism. He relapses every 3-5 months. He is active in support groups. I can hardly deal with the relapses after a 10 year period of going through this. It is ugly. I have anxiety and ins...	wifeofalcoholic	8	1753	Mar 15, 2010 by xter
	Desperate for advice! (Preview) I'll try to make this as short as possible! My mother is a severe alcoholic, the problem is that she hides it pretty well. Her husband works out of town and is very rarely ever home (he also drinks A LOT). She only really has one friend who also drinks a lot, and who she very rarely sees, so no one really sees h...	Nicomanti	9	1220	Mar 15, 2010 by skootr73
	An Early morning lesson from Lois (Preview) Hi Family, I just finished reading "When Love is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story" this morning. In it mention is made of the Stepping Stones Foundation that was created near the end of her life to provide for, among other things, the preservation of the home she and Bill shared which they c...	david62	3	661	Mar 15, 2010 by maresie
	back in treatment (Preview) Well, what a week, last week has been. To make a long story short, I went on vacation with my sister. I knew that my AH was hitting the bottle hard, I didn't know the last time he had been to work, I didn't check and I didn't call him in. I decided that this was it. He is responsible for himself. I spoke with my d...	Sweet Stanley	4	680	Mar 15, 2010 by Karilynn
	A positive twist on St. Patrick's Day (Preview) (((((Family))), With St. Patrick's Day right around the corner, I'd like to offer a suggestion. We all know how hard it can be on all of us - especially with an active A in the house. AS if addicts needed another excuse to drink or drug. (They do it b/c they are addicts.) If things are tough remember th...	Karilynn	3	824	Mar 15, 2010 by MaryPoppins
	I just need to post this... (Preview) Wow I have sat here for a half an hour looking at the computer screen knowing I want to post but what do I want to say. Daughter took my car on Thursday she has a suspended license for DUI. I called her and she let the call go to voice mail...I left message and she called back..Told her to bring car back and s...	fishinmama	7	926	Mar 15, 2010 by fishinmama
	Resentment! (Preview) I think I can change that feeling now into acceptance and humility, I have carried resentment around with me way to long, and when I looked deep into myself, I thought ermmmmmm it's only me keeping this resentment a live, let it go, and swap it for acceptence and low and behold I feel lighter, light bulb m...	Katy	8	873	Mar 15, 2010 by blender_girl
	Me learning one day at a time. (Preview) So today, I think my lesson for myself is learning to take it one day at a time. AH has his weekly curling game to go to and usually he comes home drunk from this. Since we had our big talk a week ago, things were good and in the past couple of days he has come home after having a couple to last night I know he had...	MapleMom	3	636	Mar 15, 2010 by pineapple
	Lois W. story to air on CBS in April (Preview) Just heard this recently and wanted to pass along the word... mark your calendars! There will be a hallmark presentation of "Love Is Not Enough: the Lois Wilson Story" starring Winona Ryder to air on sunday, apr 25th, 2010 at 9pm EST on CBS. How's that for alanon going mainstream?! For t...	breezee	1	935	Mar 15, 2010 by serching-sandy
	While here, please read.... (Preview) Please take a moment or two of your time to read the sticky post title "Message Board Decision Meeting 3/28/10" at the top of this board. Thank you,John	John	0	556	Mar 15, 2010 by John
	resentment (Preview) Hi,I recently had a resentment with a sponsee. We worked it out and each apologized but now I am experiencing 2 people ion our group that are avoiding eye contact with me. She is friends with these two people, as am I. I want to say something to all parties but am at a loss as to what I would say. I did not go to a...	sgac	4	735	Mar 15, 2010 by abbyal
	If I am happy to be out, why does seeing him make me feel crazy? (Preview) Hi all So, 7 months ago I left my alcoholic husband. Technically, he threw me and the kids out in one of his nastier tirades when I told him I was leaving. He had been emotionally and verbally abusive for years, preaching how his drunkeness was always my fault, if only i was more this, or less that, or bet...	elzzap	5	681	Mar 15, 2010 by Jerry F
	liked this and just wanted to share :) (Preview) This was sent to me via email....I just had to share it. 'To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.' When God takes something from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely opening your hands to receive something better. Concentrate on this sentence... 'The will...	fishinmama	3	703	Mar 14, 2010 by Jerry F
	It's been a week ! (Preview) Hello Everyone, I just wanted to let you know that it has been a week since I spoke to my A son. As far as I know he is still in hosiptal and trying to find a sober house to go too. Yesturday was tough alot of tears, and questioning my decision to cut him loose. But I made it through and today is a new day, Does it ge...	moonchild	7	791	Mar 14, 2010 by moonchild
	"...Practice these principles in all our affairs" (Preview) Aloha Family...this morning while getting ready to park my truck before going to a morning meeting I had an affair!! LOL Don't paint your own picture let me do it. The affair was that while preparing to turn across the on coming lane into the parking stall the person I had an affair with was exercising...	Jerry F	4	1343	Mar 14, 2010 by Maria123
	just when everything was going so well....... (Preview) i got a call from the doctor today telling me my blood tests have shown a deterioration in my bone density and it looks like i may have osteoporosis. this, two days after being told i need another operation to remove another non cancerous lump!!! that puts my plans back another 3 months! everything,...	miss lucy	6	948	Mar 14, 2010 by miss lucy
	addicted parent visiting children (Preview) I just recently kicked my addicted daughter out of our house which put her four children with their dad full-time. Of course we are still helping with the care. Question, should we allow our addicted daughter refusing treatment to visit the girls age 11, 9 3 & 2?	mgr	9	798	Mar 14, 2010 by Nicomanti
	Lurker in the jungle... (Preview) Hello, I'm new to Alanon but not the effects of alcohol in my marriage to my AH. Have been reading here and can relate to far too many of the frustrations and sadness and...the list goes on and on. Long story short...I'm tired of it. I know that I cannot change, cure nor control him...and his lying is pissi...	DragoN	5	712	Mar 14, 2010 by maresie
	Feeling sorry for myself (Preview) hi guys, mother's day here but not in this house, not a card or wish anywhere in site. I did bring it up and had a meltdown and have cleared all members out of my house, am now making a nice pot of coffee, getting ready to go to a meeting and kind of chuckling to myself as I handed it all over to my hp just about 10 m...	maire rua	5	771	Mar 14, 2010 by maire rua
	Change of heart.... (Preview) (((((((Family))))))), Good morning to you all. After MANY long hours of contemplation, talking with old & new friends I have had a change of heart about leaving MIP. It's been a very long few days. Neither the decision to leave or remain has come lightly and w/o serious consideration. But I h...	Karilynn	21	964	Mar 14, 2010 by Diva
	How do I end the mind games?? (Preview) I went to a F2F meeting and they all agreed that you have to play the mind games and let them back in since you don't know if they will follow though or not. My drug addicted husband will go and use on his days off and not come home, will miss a day of work and then call and say "I wrote letters to you and the k...	Destynee	7	1032	Mar 14, 2010 by Mattie
	So full of whys (Preview) Warning this is totally a pity post. Today I am feeling so blue, my emotions are just so raw. I am full of why's. Like why is the man I love an alcoholic, why is my dad an A, why is my brother an A, why is alcohol such an issue with my mother, why is every family function a booze fest, why do I seem to be the only on...	MapleMom	4	680	Mar 14, 2010 by tlcate
	is it possible to have a healthy relationship? (Preview) I just joined this group tonight because I am currently in a relationship with an active alcoholic, and I am trying to figure out if it is possible to have a truly healthy relationship. We have been together for a little over two years and were friends for a year prior to that. Shortly after we began &quo...	indigo1	28	2170	Mar 14, 2010 by DreamXL
	With warm weather comes more drinking (Preview) I don't know about you but here at my home when the weather starts to turn nice and warm my AH drinks more and tends to go out to drink. Like stopping on his way home from work and then driving home. Over the years I have come to this conclusion. Things always get worse when things get nice outside. Like he wa...	wildthang86	5	1222	Mar 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Letters from rehab (Preview) Hi MIP family, Just a quick update on how I'm doing. Not great, not terrible. I'm mostly numb. I heard this is a part of grief. The terrible flashbacks are less frequent, but so too are meaningful and comforting memories of my AH. I remembered I had saved all his letters from rehab, so I read them toni...	Rocky38	4	742	Mar 14, 2010 by Iamhere
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