The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I took it easy when I was tired. Keep It Simple and Easy Does It at its best.
I acknowledged my feelings without beating myself up for feeling them.
I went to the chat room when I was feeling out of sorts and safely vented my feelings, received the support and validation that I needed and went on to have a decent afternoon.
I read every day out of my literature. I have 5 daily readers that I visit each day - more days than not at least 2 of them will have the same basic message for the day. HP at work
I enjoyed my whirlpool bath a couple of times. Warm, swirling water when it's cold and rainy outside - enough said!
I went to a f2f meeting - it was awesome!
I chaired my online meeting. Lots of great shares there today - as usual.
I resumed writing in my journal after slacking off for nearly 3 months. Yikes! Responding to posts on the message board and emailing with program friends doesn't count as journalling - at least not for me.
I went to bed early a couple of times this week. First Things First - if I'm not well rested, my attitude suffers.
I accepted an invitation for a girl's night tonight.
I accepted that my refusal to say "You Could Be Right" in a specific situation hurt no one but ME. "How Important Is It?" indeed.
Thanks for letting me share and for sharing your recovery with me (and the rest of us out here in MIP-land)!
(((((BG))))) - awesome list and kudos to ya! I've been 'distracted' by some medical issues, so have been 'slacking' - which is good and bad I guess!
I'll take a stab at it though!
- Have continued to read from the daily readers (I have 2 + another that can't be mentioned)
- Went to lunch today with my cousin (used to do this weekly...got away from it)
- Went to 2 meetings this week
- Went to 2 online meetings here
- Went to the assorted appointments following up from my physical
- Did my prayers each morning and night
- Took my daily bubble bath
- Did some teeth whitening
- Worked out 3 days only - *sigh* - my stitches were itching when I tried to too early
- Got my softball teams all set up - starts next week!
There may be more ---- but this is a good start!
Thanks for the topic and the list (may borrow a few)!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hey, you guys are good! I'm getting better at taking care of me. This week I've:
read my daily readers every morning, pray every morning and night
read my other alanon literature as needed (needed a lot this week)
read the message board daily, attended three online meetings. (sometimes I can't attend from start to finish, but I get there whenever I can for as long as I can)
walked my dog by the lake five days this week
spent time in my hammock with a book twice this week
transplanted some stuff in my garden, started some seeds (this may sound like work, but it's work that I enjoy)
been getting enough sleep (just being able to sleep better at night is something new to me and I love it!)
Making a conscious effort to drink more water - (good for my insides and outside)
Stayed home from a get together with friends because I wasn't feeling well. In the past I would have dragged myself there and had no fun, plus being miserable company. This week I stayed home, took some OTC medication, and went to bed. Just what I needed to do.
when we make a list of the achievements we have made everything becomes a lot clearer as to what steps we need to take next. being relatively new to this forum i have learnt so much from the rest of you and hopefully am learning to overcome my despair at this nasty, invasive, destructive disorder whilst maintaining some sort of sanity.
now lets see....what have i done to take care of me recently? 1. on a daily basis i take time out just to relax and listen to calming music 2. i have been to the doctor about the recurrence of my symptoms and am awaiting test results. 3. i have had my hair restyled 4. i dont have any literature to refer to so i check into this forum on a daily basis, even though i may not leave a post, for comfort, support, and encouragement. 5. i am exercising more and have got a new routine for training my dog 6. i am studying hard towards my qualification to be a dog trainer and behaviourist 7. i no longer sit and think about what might have been, i concentrate on what can be in the future and what i need out of life. 8. i am writting more stories and poems than ever. 9. i have joined a writers group to share and improve my works 10. i am learning a new skill on the computer - excel...never needed it before but will do when i launch the business in the summer.
thats the practical stuff, now for dealing with the emotional stuff:-
1. AH and I are on speaking terms now but when he gets defensive or aggressive I walk away 2. when AH gets too demanding I walk away 3. when AH is drunk I walk away 4. when AH talks about me behind my back to our friends I refuse to get into a conversation with them about it 5. when AH pressures me into returning home i tell him, kindly, that i cant because i need to live separate from him for my own well being but that i still care for him 6. when AH makes excuses for his behaviour in the past i tell him that the changes he is making (and to be fair he has made quite a few) need to be because he wants to make them, not because he thinks thats what i want him to do.
wow!!! i guess i am making progress too!!! thanks for the share - blender girl - this is really helpful to be able to focus on the positive and let some of the negative go!
