Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Maxsmom · Maxsmom

I have only been a member since yesterday. I am so grateful to all of you who helped me with my dilemma. (alcoholic boyfriend) I was feeling so badly today that while at work, I kept this website minimized so I could look when I felt like i needed to. Thank you thank you thank you! I have found a place where I b...

sunnydaze · sunnydaze

New here. I want to say "I'm done." Over and done with the A's in my family. Does anybody ever just want to leave their AH/W?? Why not??? Why do we have to be the ones who bend over backward to stay sane when they make us crazy! The DUI's, the wrecked finances resulting in bankruptcy (and I'...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

For the sake of honesty and because it's on my mind alot, I feel I should open up and spill my guts on this. I began therapy about two years ago...sex therapy to be exact to address some issues my wife complained about (and although she was part of the problem, I admit were true). I called a male therapist r...

Jerry F · Jerry F

In the three seconds between what triggers me and how I respond to it. I got this echo at the morning meeting I attended. It was as if the speaker was reading my recovery journal because I heard his voice in tandem with my elder sponsor's voices. What an amazing gift because it remains the truth for me t...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

This came up in therapy not to long ago.....my therapist remarked that I worry too much about what others think of me, I assume that they do or will think negatively of me, and that I tend to judge myself or my efforts based on this....i think she's right of course.... But I cant' help but compare my life to...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi All... Here recenty I have been Covering some pretty big miles stones in my life, things have been happening so fast that at times I seem to forget the important stuff, and this week has been a HUGE Reminder of that... Yesterday My One & Only Child turned 13 and the thought of him growing up and leav...

Karilynn · Karilynn

In loving memory of my mother: June 19, 1932- August 1, 1982. Hard to believe you've been gone this long. I was only 19. But those 19 years were the best. If I can be 1/10 as good as you were, I'm doing okay. Give my love to Dad & Tim. "Your heart was made of holidays. Your smile was made of dawn....

renee · renee

My son who is 25 has had issues with alcohol since late high school. He doesn't seem to know when to stop and keeps getting into trouble. The last incident was an accident where he fell on concrete and had to have 6 hours of reconstructive surgery on his face. He is back living with me now and has to pay me...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

That phrase was a Freudian slip, that my therapist swears I uttered one day (I didn't remember saying it but have no reason to doubt her....even if she were to be wrong...it's a true statement). That is what I do....I focus on the negative stuff and don't give myself a chance to be happy......I even had...

buick23 · buick23

I'm keeping up with my meetings this time around and have been so much better with my thinking and attitude since. One thing I have noticed at the meetings nowdays. I catch myself smiling alot and can laugh about things. When I attended meetings years ago I was so serious and unhappy and I didn't underst...

Maize · Maize

I would like to recant this post. I understand what you are all saying. Thanks -- Edited by Maize on Tuesday 3rd of August 2010 08:12:39 AM -- Edited by Maize on Tuesday 3rd of August 2010 05:59:26 PM

oscarmom · oscarmom

a great lady and a great accomplishment. gotta love someone who has 10 kids, 15 grandkids and stayed sober and sane! she's aptly named Joy as for my husband, sober over 100 days now. hope it stays that way, every now and then my apprehension creeps in...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

My marriage is at a point where I'm actually grateful on the days there isn't a crisis and it proceeds normally. Of course normal in my marriage is zero affection form wife, zero help from wife and , zero common courtesy from the wife. The only saving grace is my daughter is wonderful and I love my litt...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

Well, my AH whom I recently separated from (three weeks ago) asked me for money last week. He's got a stable career, has not provided any child support for the last two weeks (as I'm letting him fix the financialy situation before we get back together).....I did give him back two hundered dollars to cat...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Considering the idea that I wouldn't be any more happy or satisfied if I met my goals and dreams. Maybe they wouldn't be good enough once I had them. That's definately something I could believe about myself. I do need to appreciate what's around me and what I do have and can do now.

hopeforme · hopeforme

Hi Friends,First, I want to say that I am usually a "lurker". Sometimes, when I am in sick thinking, I come to the boards and read your posts, and it really helps to know that there are so many people out here experiencing similar things. So- thank you! I came to Al Anon 8 months ago, after brea...

fishinmama · fishinmama

This is a show that I don't watch. Some how it ended up on that channel on Friday and it caught my eye. I pretty much had the TV on for background noise and lo and behold. As I mentioned in a previous post the show was about addiction with children and the parents were coming to Dr Phil for help. He sent the...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Well I have not mentioned this because I have been here before with my ex husband, but this time it feels different. My son is an alcoholic/addict. He has struggled for some time. He got two duii's in a month spent time in jail and I think I mentioned here he got the book thrown at him. The Judge had a dau...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

THE MEMORIAL SERVICE WENT WELL...MY PHONE RANG DURING THE END--I DIDN'T THINK IT WOULD BUT MY HUSBAND FELT HE NEEDED TO CALL! I WAS MAD AT HIM FOR QUITE A WHILE BECAUSE I WAS EMBARASSED & SOME OF IT WAS ON TV! HE WAS AN AFRICAN AMERICAN THAT RECEIVED THE MEDAL OF HONOR FROM THE ARMY IN WWII PLUS OTHER DI...

kablisnow · kablisnow

as i stated in my other post, hes been home two weeks and is already drinking and lyeing on a regular basis. They say in al anon that we dont have to accept unacceptable behavior, Im pretty much at that point. My husband has left me without a vehicle due to wrecking two in a matter of days. He is driving arou...

glad · glad

Does anyone have any special experience with a very difficulity situation, where perhaps the A "down plays" it or says it didn't happen the way you feel it did or says you have "issues" instead of just admitting his part and saying he's sorry? I truely want to forgive but seem to &...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

This seems to be a lifelong problem for me....I always feel that at best I've got one foot in the present and the other foot in some future desire, fantasy, or outcome. In other words lately I spend my days dreaming of being married to someone else, moving to a town I really like(probably couldn't affor...

Maize · Maize

I woke up feeling great. I saw a truck on my way into work that's business logo on the side read "Boundaries" (it was a landscaping truck). I know my HP was telling me to watch my boundaries today and so my ex husband is giving me a hard time. My name is on the mortgage of our condo and he is telli...

movinforward · movinforward

Hello all, I have been in a long term relationship with my partner who is a ACOA. I just reintroduced myself to ACOA literature and was very relieved to read about my ACApartner and her Afamily. We are getting ready to adopt our 2yo son and are really struggling within our relationship due to issues invo...

shadow1 · shadow1

I am very tired and have had a very emotional day so, I hope this post makes sense...... I was having a really down day and thought I would do something nice for someone to try and pick myself up a bit. I had told my soon to be ex A that I had some Grad photos of our son for him. So today was the day I decided to drop...

Desirae · Desirae

I am an adult child of an alcoholic. I am also married to an alcoholic. We have a 7 year old girl. It is difficult to put this kind of situation into simple terms but I will try: My husband is a very happy drunk... until my daughter goes to bed. He is not physically or verbally abusive at all. He just goes to wor...

bgrasp · bgrasp

Hi everyone- I am 28 and recently threw my 30 year old boyfriend (now ex) out on Wednesday because I no longer could handle his actions. He is an alcoholic (sorry for the obvious) and he simply cannot function without it. He began laying out of work and going to his buddy's house to drink rather than worki...

renee26 · renee26

Iv been with my ah for a very long time and he was sober for 10 years. He started drinking again 6 mnths ago. I left after 9 years of dealing with his crap the first time then he quit and because I love him, I came back, thinking he would never drink again. What in the hell was I thinking. We have two teenage kid...

Maize · Maize

I am working on learning to meditate. I can do it when I am in therapy, no problem, my therapist can take me down into a trance state and that is great. I am working on being able to do it on my own. I found a CD that has meditations on it that work on panic attacks (something I suffer with). So I am working on...

LIGHTBULB · LIGHTBULB

My husband is a dry drunk - he used to be such a happy man - now he went thru depression which I didnt know was a sympthom of alcoholism - learning so much here - but I feel he just blames so much on me - gets so angry at me when I questioned it and told me to leave him alone that he is sick of me - Oh boy so much fun here L...

maresie · maresie

Somedays I can manage to get through all the next right things I need to do in order to move my life to another level. I'm discovering the issue isn't the next right thing (which I can of course attend to) the issue is that I really don't want to do that. I want someone else to take responsibility for my lif...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

AH has been off of prescription clonazepam and Effexor for over a month. I have written before to describe his paranoid behaviours. Much of the time, things go reasonably well (although he still doesn't help out around the house even though he is on sick leave). However, I can usually count on somethi...

susie56543 · susie56543

I'm a newbie to the program, I just started going to meetings 3 weeks ago. My boyfriend was in a treatment center this past winter/spring and "planted the seed" that it may be good for me. I'm not exactly sure how to begin here so I'll just jump in..He and I got engaged in February and I found out...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((((Dear Friends)))))))))), Today is 3 years since the death of my soul mate my dear husband Chuck. Tomorrow he would have been 53. I find as the time goes by I don't look so much on the bad anymore and I can see how and why I loved this man so very much. The anger had control of me for a very long time...

rockernapstar · rockernapstar

I am really new to all of this, so please forgive me if I jabber on...where does one start...ok, if there is a God, do you think he/she decides who gets what kind of life? What I mean is, why are some people blessed and others not? If it's original sin then it stands to reason that all women suffer, so I don't b...

youmeandthesethree · youmeandthesethree

Hi there. Last night my husband and I had a long discussion about his soberity, and Al-anon was mentioned in the mists of it. He suggested that I look into finding my own support group. So, here I am. Now what? Will someone please direct me in where to start?

okwitt · okwitt

I am sick. My son has called twice this morning from the recovery house. He was mad and told me to come get him. I told him I couldn't. He wasn't suppose to be able to make phone calls until Monday. He was very mad. Tell me what you think... Please..... When he entered the program this week they told him in f...

myself · myself

Please explain how you can not get crazy in a crazy situation. I mean tonight my A son who is 25 and my AH are both intoxicated and they take turns tearing me down and trying to blame me. I sit here typing to you and trying to tune them out. They want me to drive them to the liquor store and that got an absolutel...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I go to a therapist who is a female, younger than me so there is no "mother figure" involved here. What I found was that, aside from my mother (who despite her faults has been pretty loving and accepting of me my whole life), my therapist is the closest female in my life. And certainly I share...

tlcate · tlcate

Posting the night before so you see it first thing in the morning!!! You are such a wonderful person, have been there for so many here at MIP, and your recovery is rock solid. Thank you so much for being a part of this family. You inspire me. I hope you have a wonderful day. Tricia

disneygirl71 · disneygirl71

Yesterday was definitely not a happy day at our house.My AH of 17 years went on a binge and came home to spread his mood around.I normally would pack the kids up and take off.I don't like to hang around and argue...because I can't get a point across to the drunk guy. Anyway...the van wouldn't start due to a...

buick23 · buick23

They are such liars. He tried to cover up for himself by getting mad at me and making assumptions. I was minding my own business. Such a liar. Enough Seriously Guess it's a duck. Had to get this out before I go on with my day. buick

neshema2 · neshema2

Hello everyone! I have been away for a while (not recovery, but the board) and I just wanted to share about my dry drunk sister Growing up in an alcoholic family and marrying problem drinkers, and also becoming problem drinkers ourselves- I do believe that mine was symptomatic of my pain- Possibly her...

Ash · Ash

I feel trapped. I thought I had a good morning. went running, prayed and meditated. then thought I set a boundary. it backfired and he again threatens the end of the relationship. this is so messed up. I am told that I shouldn't talk to him. that he hasn't got recovery and will take everything as a threat....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Please take none of this seriously cause it is light fare with a smidgen of the disease sprinkled around it. It was emailed to me by a cousin I use to partake in the disease with. I feel glad to have been throughly cracked up this joke without taking any one little piece of it seriously unlike before when...

Maize · Maize

My friend in recovery is coming home in 2 weeks. The codependent person in me is worried about how he will do when he does get back. The person in me that is changing and working on things through my learnings in Alanon is saying "live for today, you can do this, don't worry about when he gets here a...

Ness · Ness

Hi All.....Im on a right downer at the mo and not much good to man nor beast.... A damn big black cloud is surrounding me and isnt shifting. It was my birthday yesterday...yay.... and for the 1st time in 3 yrs I got a lovely card from Ason....who is currently two weeks into a 16 week rehab, ..... but I just f...

never going back · never going back

Hi ((((friends))))!! It seems I live my life with songs constantly playing in my head (usually James Taylor-love that man!!!). Maybe because I almost always have the radio or CD playing? Anyway, it occurred to me that the messages from songs are a very powerful influence in my life and always had been...

Gailey · Gailey

My son finally moved out with his girlfriend. After about 2 weeks at her house he announces that they are getting married. WTH!!!!! I truly do not believe it is love but more convenience. I know I must stay out of his business. They are having a small wedding. I have been told to just embrace their decis...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I was washing my supper dishes when the doorbell rang. He was standing at my back door, I went out to talk to him and of course I alreading knew what he was going to say before he even said it. He blamed everyone for his drug problem, his school mates taunting him, he wasn't taught about the real world by us...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM VERY HAPPY TO REPORT THAT I AM ATTENDING A MEMORIAL SERVICE FOR A FORMER HIGHLY-DECORATED WWII VETERAN. IT WILL BE A VERY HUGE CELEBRATION OF LIFE IN MY HOMETOWN TOMORROW. I FEEL HONORED TO ATTEND THIS. HE GOT THE CONGRESSIONAL MEDAL OF HONOR FROM A FORMER PRESIDENT IN THE 90'S & I JUST WANTED T...

Maize · Maize

Hi there, I am Maize. I am 35 and new to all of this. I have spent a year and a half in intense therapy, with 5 days in the hospital for feeling suicidal. I was trapped in an awful and abusive marriage. I felt alone and didn't want to go on. On to bigger and brighter things, and I am divorced and free now! I...

Aloha · Aloha

Yesterday I finally got to the court and filed for divorce. It's the beginning of the paperwork, but it was a step I finally needed to get under way. I took the day off to make sure I got down to the courthouse instead of trying to squeeze in an extra hour or two off from work. I called AH and let him know and tol...

Jerry F · Jerry F

how the arrival and presence of a child can calm rough waters and chronic negativity. Avery Leipua (flower lei) arrived at 3:20PM, 11 days early and a little light at 6lbs 11ozs and angel pink. She caused the whole family to focus for a while and smile for no other reason than she was calming. Grandso...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I've been venting alot of negative stuff lately and I thank all of you for your patience with me. I feel I have legitimate reasons to be unhappy and despite things I can do to "distract myself" (because that's all they really are, there's nothing that's truly going to bring lasting happine...

okwitt · okwitt

My A adult son got into the recovery house for 30 intense training days. I want to be hopeful..but reading on here seems they usually start back drinking. I have felt such a weight lifted off me while he is there. I could really get used to this...then reality sets in with him back with no job and on and on an...

Maize · Maize

I didn't sleep well last night. I had to fight my depression this morning alone, as when I was feeling it, I didn't feel I could call anyone that early in the morning. I fought through and I am working on staying positive now. I know that for me, when I don't sleep well, my depression and panic attacks ha...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Went to an open AA/Alanon meeting tonight. We had a video on the 12 step program. After the video, was open discussion. It just made me think to myself how grateful I was to be in attendance there and to be able to come here and share/read/vent/respond to different posts. So, I just wanted to tell you a...

tlcate · tlcate

I am in the process of trying to buy my first house. I am doing it 100% on my own with nothing but a lot of advice from others . Fear can be so destructive!!! My fear translates to procrastination. Do something other than what you are afraid of and deal with it when it gets here. Go have fun, bury myself in w...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Guys... Wow... I Just went & Looked at my last Post and somehow it has been a MONTH since you have last heard from me ;( Just wanted to let all know that I am Doing OK... The Trip to meet my New Found Friend was Wonderful, I only got to see her for about 5 hours, because they had to work the next morning, ...

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	I love this board (Preview) I have only been a member since yesterday. I am so grateful to all of you who helped me with my dilemma. (alcoholic boyfriend) I was feeling so badly today that while at work, I kept this website minimized so I could look when I felt like i needed to. Thank you thank you thank you! I have found a place where I b...	Maxsmom	3	688	Aug 4, 2010 by Jennifer
	Surrounded by Alcoholics Everywhere I go... (Preview) New here. I want to say "I'm done." Over and done with the A's in my family. Does anybody ever just want to leave their AH/W?? Why not??? Why do we have to be the ones who bend over backward to stay sane when they make us crazy! The DUI's, the wrecked finances resulting in bankruptcy (and I'...	sunnydaze	9	1514	Aug 4, 2010 by sunnydaze
	Transference issues with my therapist..... (Preview) For the sake of honesty and because it's on my mind alot, I feel I should open up and spill my guts on this. I began therapy about two years ago...sex therapy to be exact to address some issues my wife complained about (and although she was part of the problem, I admit were true). I called a male therapist r...	mjhyankees	3	1667	Aug 4, 2010 by Mattie
	God Exists... (Preview) In the three seconds between what triggers me and how I respond to it. I got this echo at the morning meeting I attended. It was as if the speaker was reading my recovery journal because I heard his voice in tandem with my elder sponsor's voices. What an amazing gift because it remains the truth for me t...	Jerry F	9	779	Aug 4, 2010 by tlcate
	I give people too much power over me.... (Preview) This came up in therapy not to long ago.....my therapist remarked that I worry too much about what others think of me, I assume that they do or will think negatively of me, and that I tend to judge myself or my efforts based on this....i think she's right of course.... But I cant' help but compare my life to...	mjhyankees	4	1818	Aug 4, 2010 by tlcate
	Tryin to get on Track.... (Preview) Hi All... Here recenty I have been Covering some pretty big miles stones in my life, things have been happening so fast that at times I seem to forget the important stuff, and this week has been a HUGE Reminder of that... Yesterday My One & Only Child turned 13 and the thought of him growing up and leav...	Jozie	6	1072	Aug 4, 2010 by Andrea12
	In loving memory of my Mom (Preview) In loving memory of my mother: June 19, 1932- August 1, 1982. Hard to believe you've been gone this long. I was only 19. But those 19 years were the best. If I can be 1/10 as good as you were, I'm doing okay. Give my love to Dad & Tim. "Your heart was made of holidays. Your smile was made of dawn....	Karilynn	9	838	Aug 4, 2010 by Andrea12
	What is a Mom to do? (Preview) My son who is 25 has had issues with alcohol since late high school. He doesn't seem to know when to stop and keeps getting into trouble. The last incident was an accident where he fell on concrete and had to have 6 hours of reconstructive surgery on his face. He is back living with me now and has to pay me...	renee	4	997	Aug 4, 2010 by Mobirdie
	Distracting myself from happiness...... (Preview) That phrase was a Freudian slip, that my therapist swears I uttered one day (I didn't remember saying it but have no reason to doubt her....even if she were to be wrong...it's a true statement). That is what I do....I focus on the negative stuff and don't give myself a chance to be happy......I even had...	mjhyankees	8	848	Aug 4, 2010 by kitty
	improvements (Preview) I'm keeping up with my meetings this time around and have been so much better with my thinking and attitude since. One thing I have noticed at the meetings nowdays. I catch myself smiling alot and can laugh about things. When I attended meetings years ago I was so serious and unhappy and I didn't underst...	buick23	6	718	Aug 4, 2010 by buick23
	Questions about Alanon face to face meeting last night (Preview) I would like to recant this post. I understand what you are all saying. Thanks -- Edited by Maize on Tuesday 3rd of August 2010 08:12:39 AM -- Edited by Maize on Tuesday 3rd of August 2010 05:59:26 PM	Maize	15	1478	Aug 3, 2010 by abbyal
	mother in law sober 43 years today! (Preview) a great lady and a great accomplishment. gotta love someone who has 10 kids, 15 grandkids and stayed sober and sane! she's aptly named Joy as for my husband, sober over 100 days now. hope it stays that way, every now and then my apprehension creeps in...	oscarmom	4	750	Aug 3, 2010 by Jerry F
	Trying to hang in there.... (Preview) My marriage is at a point where I'm actually grateful on the days there isn't a crisis and it proceeds normally. Of course normal in my marriage is zero affection form wife, zero help from wife and , zero common courtesy from the wife. The only saving grace is my daughter is wonderful and I love my litt...	mjhyankees	8	744	Aug 3, 2010 by flinn66
	Keeping my mouth shut? (Preview) Well, my AH whom I recently separated from (three weeks ago) asked me for money last week. He's got a stable career, has not provided any child support for the last two weeks (as I'm letting him fix the financialy situation before we get back together).....I did give him back two hundered dollars to cat...	RoseODAT	4	791	Aug 3, 2010 by RoseODAT
	maybe the problem is my thinking..... (Preview) Considering the idea that I wouldn't be any more happy or satisfied if I met my goals and dreams. Maybe they wouldn't be good enough once I had them. That's definately something I could believe about myself. I do need to appreciate what's around me and what I do have and can do now.	mjhyankees	11	1095	Aug 3, 2010 by tlcate
	Missing My ex (Preview) Hi Friends,First, I want to say that I am usually a "lurker". Sometimes, when I am in sick thinking, I come to the boards and read your posts, and it really helps to know that there are so many people out here experiencing similar things. So- thank you! I came to Al Anon 8 months ago, after brea...	hopeforme	8	883	Aug 3, 2010 by Mattie
	Did you happen to see Dr. Phil? (Preview) This is a show that I don't watch. Some how it ended up on that channel on Friday and it caught my eye. I pretty much had the TV on for background noise and lo and behold. As I mentioned in a previous post the show was about addiction with children and the parents were coming to Dr Phil for help. He sent the...	fishinmama	5	1110	Aug 2, 2010 by ythannah
	Watching myself (Preview) Well I have not mentioned this because I have been here before with my ex husband, but this time it feels different. My son is an alcoholic/addict. He has struggled for some time. He got two duii's in a month spent time in jail and I think I mentioned here he got the book thrown at him. The Judge had a dau...	fishinmama	6	775	Aug 2, 2010 by Rocky38
	update... (Preview) THE MEMORIAL SERVICE WENT WELL...MY PHONE RANG DURING THE END--I DIDN'T THINK IT WOULD BUT MY HUSBAND FELT HE NEEDED TO CALL! I WAS MAD AT HIM FOR QUITE A WHILE BECAUSE I WAS EMBARASSED & SOME OF IT WAS ON TV! HE WAS AN AFRICAN AMERICAN THAT RECEIVED THE MEDAL OF HONOR FROM THE ARMY IN WWII PLUS OTHER DI...	Hoot Nanny	2	597	Aug 2, 2010 by Rocky38
	here we go again (Preview) as i stated in my other post, hes been home two weeks and is already drinking and lyeing on a regular basis. They say in al anon that we dont have to accept unacceptable behavior, Im pretty much at that point. My husband has left me without a vehicle due to wrecking two in a matter of days. He is driving arou...	kablisnow	5	648	Aug 2, 2010 by tlcate
	To forgive is devine (Preview) Does anyone have any special experience with a very difficulity situation, where perhaps the A "down plays" it or says it didn't happen the way you feel it did or says you have "issues" instead of just admitting his part and saying he's sorry? I truely want to forgive but seem to &...	glad	9	553	Aug 2, 2010 by tlcate
	need help living in the present (Preview) This seems to be a lifelong problem for me....I always feel that at best I've got one foot in the present and the other foot in some future desire, fantasy, or outcome. In other words lately I spend my days dreaming of being married to someone else, moving to a town I really like(probably couldn't affor...	mjhyankees	5	935	Aug 2, 2010 by tlcate
	hard day (Preview) I woke up feeling great. I saw a truck on my way into work that's business logo on the side read "Boundaries" (it was a landscaping truck). I know my HP was telling me to watch my boundaries today and so my ex husband is giving me a hard time. My name is on the mortgage of our condo and he is telli...	Maize	4	620	Aug 2, 2010 by Maize
	My first post (Preview) Hello all, I have been in a long term relationship with my partner who is a ACOA. I just reintroduced myself to ACOA literature and was very relieved to read about my ACApartner and her Afamily. We are getting ready to adopt our 2yo son and are really struggling within our relationship due to issues invo...	movinforward	4	651	Aug 2, 2010 by movinforward
	I hate this disease!! (Preview) I am very tired and have had a very emotional day so, I hope this post makes sense...... I was having a really down day and thought I would do something nice for someone to try and pick myself up a bit. I had told my soon to be ex A that I had some Grad photos of our son for him. So today was the day I decided to drop...	shadow1	12	810	Aug 2, 2010 by All I can be
	How do I explain alcoholism to a 7 year old? Al-anon ACOA (Preview) I am an adult child of an alcoholic. I am also married to an alcoholic. We have a 7 year old girl. It is difficult to put this kind of situation into simple terms but I will try: My husband is a very happy drunk... until my daughter goes to bed. He is not physically or verbally abusive at all. He just goes to wor...	Desirae	8	10005	Aug 2, 2010 by Rose
	New here and need help (Preview) Hi everyone- I am 28 and recently threw my 30 year old boyfriend (now ex) out on Wednesday because I no longer could handle his actions. He is an alcoholic (sorry for the obvious) and he simply cannot function without it. He began laying out of work and going to his buddy's house to drink rather than worki...	bgrasp	5	670	Aug 2, 2010 by xeno59
	Someone please tell me how to do this.. (Preview) Iv been with my ah for a very long time and he was sober for 10 years. He started drinking again 6 mnths ago. I left after 9 years of dealing with his crap the first time then he quit and because I love him, I came back, thinking he would never drink again. What in the hell was I thinking. We have two teenage kid...	renee26	7	1084	Aug 2, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Changing the things I can... (Preview) I am working on learning to meditate. I can do it when I am in therapy, no problem, my therapist can take me down into a trance state and that is great. I am working on being able to do it on my own. I found a CD that has meditations on it that work on panic attacks (something I suffer with). So I am working on...	Maize	6	713	Aug 2, 2010 by maire rua
	DRY DRUNK!!!! HELP (Preview) My husband is a dry drunk - he used to be such a happy man - now he went thru depression which I didnt know was a sympthom of alcoholism - learning so much here - but I feel he just blames so much on me - gets so angry at me when I questioned it and told me to leave him alone that he is sick of me - Oh boy so much fun here L...	LIGHTBULB	9	1905	Aug 1, 2010 by LIGHTBULB
	the next right thing (Preview) Somedays I can manage to get through all the next right things I need to do in order to move my life to another level. I'm discovering the issue isn't the next right thing (which I can of course attend to) the issue is that I really don't want to do that. I want someone else to take responsibility for my lif...	maresie	7	1190	Aug 1, 2010 by Maize
	Should I do what he asks? (Preview) AH has been off of prescription clonazepam and Effexor for over a month. I have written before to describe his paranoid behaviours. Much of the time, things go reasonably well (although he still doesn't help out around the house even though he is on sick leave). However, I can usually count on somethi...	looking_for_peace	11	801	Aug 1, 2010 by maresie
	Fear, Loneliness and Confusion... (Preview) I'm a newbie to the program, I just started going to meetings 3 weeks ago. My boyfriend was in a treatment center this past winter/spring and "planted the seed" that it may be good for me. I'm not exactly sure how to begin here so I'll just jump in..He and I got engaged in February and I found out...	susie56543	7	848	Jul 31, 2010 by susie56543
	3 Years Today Since I lost my Husband and Children lost thier Father (Preview) ((((((((((((Dear Friends)))))))))), Today is 3 years since the death of my soul mate my dear husband Chuck. Tomorrow he would have been 53. I find as the time goes by I don't look so much on the bad anymore and I can see how and why I loved this man so very much. The anger had control of me for a very long time...	Andrea12	11	1009	Jul 31, 2010 by RLC
	Questions (Preview) I am really new to all of this, so please forgive me if I jabber on...where does one start...ok, if there is a God, do you think he/she decides who gets what kind of life? What I mean is, why are some people blessed and others not? If it's original sin then it stands to reason that all women suffer, so I don't b...	rockernapstar	7	699	Jul 31, 2010 by maresie
	Looking for direction. (Preview) Hi there. Last night my husband and I had a long discussion about his soberity, and Al-anon was mentioned in the mists of it. He suggested that I look into finding my own support group. So, here I am. Now what? Will someone please direct me in where to start?	youmeandthesethree	8	585	Jul 31, 2010 by ythannah
	Need to talk (Preview) I am sick. My son has called twice this morning from the recovery house. He was mad and told me to come get him. I told him I couldn't. He wasn't suppose to be able to make phone calls until Monday. He was very mad. Tell me what you think... Please..... When he entered the program this week they told him in f...	okwitt	12	591	Jul 31, 2010 by Jennifer
	PLEASE EXPLAIN HOW TO ME (Preview) Please explain how you can not get crazy in a crazy situation. I mean tonight my A son who is 25 and my AH are both intoxicated and they take turns tearing me down and trying to blame me. I sit here typing to you and trying to tune them out. They want me to drive them to the liquor store and that got an absolutel...	myself	7	812	Jul 31, 2010 by hotrod
	Anyone else find this strange or sad??? (Preview) I go to a therapist who is a female, younger than me so there is no "mother figure" involved here. What I found was that, aside from my mother (who despite her faults has been pretty loving and accepting of me my whole life), my therapist is the closest female in my life. And certainly I share...	mjhyankees	10	850	Jul 31, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Happy Birthday Hotrod!!!!! (Tomorrow) (Preview) Posting the night before so you see it first thing in the morning!!! You are such a wonderful person, have been there for so many here at MIP, and your recovery is rock solid. Thank you so much for being a part of this family. You inspire me. I hope you have a wonderful day. Tricia	tlcate	12	633	Jul 31, 2010 by hotrod
	New to al anon...but not new to living with an alcoholic. (Preview) Yesterday was definitely not a happy day at our house.My AH of 17 years went on a binge and came home to spread his mood around.I normally would pack the kids up and take off.I don't like to hang around and argue...because I can't get a point across to the drunk guy. Anyway...the van wouldn't start due to a...	disneygirl71	13	1157	Jul 31, 2010 by disneygirl71
	liars (Preview) They are such liars. He tried to cover up for himself by getting mad at me and making assumptions. I was minding my own business. Such a liar. Enough Seriously Guess it's a duck. Had to get this out before I go on with my day. buick	buick23	6	764	Jul 31, 2010 by Dyinginside
	I don't know what is worse---Dry or wet drunks (Preview) Hello everyone! I have been away for a while (not recovery, but the board) and I just wanted to share about my dry drunk sister Growing up in an alcoholic family and marrying problem drinkers, and also becoming problem drinkers ourselves- I do believe that mine was symptomatic of my pain- Possibly her...	neshema2	10	1264	Jul 31, 2010 by Dyinginside
	Help - what do you do with the pain? (Preview) I feel trapped. I thought I had a good morning. went running, prayed and meditated. then thought I set a boundary. it backfired and he again threatens the end of the relationship. this is so messed up. I am told that I shouldn't talk to him. that he hasn't got recovery and will take everything as a threat....	Ash	7	642	Jul 31, 2010 by Dyinginside
	Sharing a JOKE.... (Preview) Please take none of this seriously cause it is light fare with a smidgen of the disease sprinkled around it. It was emailed to me by a cousin I use to partake in the disease with. I feel glad to have been throughly cracked up this joke without taking any one little piece of it seriously unlike before when...	Jerry F	8	695	Jul 31, 2010 by lyndebi
	Working hard on EVERYTHING (Preview) My friend in recovery is coming home in 2 weeks. The codependent person in me is worried about how he will do when he does get back. The person in me that is changing and working on things through my learnings in Alanon is saying "live for today, you can do this, don't worry about when he gets here a...	Maize	4	536	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	Severe kick up the butt needed......thanks in advance! (Preview) Hi All.....Im on a right downer at the mo and not much good to man nor beast.... A damn big black cloud is surrounding me and isnt shifting. It was my birthday yesterday...yay.... and for the 1st time in 3 yrs I got a lovely card from Ason....who is currently two weeks into a 16 week rehab, ..... but I just f...	Ness	13	1362	Jul 30, 2010 by Jennifer
	Changed for good (Preview) Hi ((((friends))))!! It seems I live my life with songs constantly playing in my head (usually James Taylor-love that man!!!). Maybe because I almost always have the radio or CD playing? Anyway, it occurred to me that the messages from songs are a very powerful influence in my life and always had been...	never going back	4	722	Jul 30, 2010 by abbyal
	so...he moved out and now he is getting married!!!!! (Preview) My son finally moved out with his girlfriend. After about 2 weeks at her house he announces that they are getting married. WTH!!!!! I truly do not believe it is love but more convenience. I know I must stay out of his business. They are having a small wedding. I have been told to just embrace their decis...	Gailey	8	755	Jul 30, 2010 by Ness
	I Saw My AS Today.... (Preview) I was washing my supper dishes when the doorbell rang. He was standing at my back door, I went out to talk to him and of course I alreading knew what he was going to say before he even said it. He blamed everyone for his drug problem, his school mates taunting him, he wasn't taught about the real world by us...	DreamsOver	7	805	Jul 30, 2010 by Ness
	PATRIOTISM (Preview) I AM VERY HAPPY TO REPORT THAT I AM ATTENDING A MEMORIAL SERVICE FOR A FORMER HIGHLY-DECORATED WWII VETERAN. IT WILL BE A VERY HUGE CELEBRATION OF LIFE IN MY HOMETOWN TOMORROW. I FEEL HONORED TO ATTEND THIS. HE GOT THE CONGRESSIONAL MEDAL OF HONOR FROM A FORMER PRESIDENT IN THE 90'S & I JUST WANTED T...	Hoot Nanny	3	583	Jul 30, 2010 by Jerry F
	Brand new to this... (Preview) Hi there, I am Maize. I am 35 and new to all of this. I have spent a year and a half in intense therapy, with 5 days in the hospital for feeling suicidal. I was trapped in an awful and abusive marriage. I felt alone and didn't want to go on. On to bigger and brighter things, and I am divorced and free now! I...	Maize	16	794	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	Really amazing the powerful emotions I have where ex-AH is concerned. (Preview) Yesterday I finally got to the court and filed for divorce. It's the beginning of the paperwork, but it was a step I finally needed to get under way. I took the day off to make sure I got down to the courthouse instead of trying to squeeze in an extra hour or two off from work. I called AH and let him know and tol...	Aloha	2	608	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	It's Amazing (Preview) how the arrival and presence of a child can calm rough waters and chronic negativity. Avery Leipua (flower lei) arrived at 3:20PM, 11 days early and a little light at 6lbs 11ozs and angel pink. She caused the whole family to focus for a while and smile for no other reason than she was calming. Grandso...	Jerry F	16	930	Jul 30, 2010 by Ness
	Ok...gratitude time..... (Preview) I've been venting alot of negative stuff lately and I thank all of you for your patience with me. I feel I have legitimate reasons to be unhappy and despite things I can do to "distract myself" (because that's all they really are, there's nothing that's truly going to bring lasting happine...	mjhyankees	4	664	Jul 30, 2010 by xeno59
	What else? It's my son. (Preview) My A adult son got into the recovery house for 30 intense training days. I want to be hopeful..but reading on here seems they usually start back drinking. I have felt such a weight lifted off me while he is there. I could really get used to this...then reality sets in with him back with no job and on and on an...	okwitt	4	659	Jul 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Staying positive? (Preview) I didn't sleep well last night. I had to fight my depression this morning alone, as when I was feeling it, I didn't feel I could call anyone that early in the morning. I fought through and I am working on staying positive now. I know that for me, when I don't sleep well, my depression and panic attacks ha...	Maize	8	733	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	So Grateful (Preview) Went to an open AA/Alanon meeting tonight. We had a video on the 12 step program. After the video, was open discussion. It just made me think to myself how grateful I was to be in attendance there and to be able to come here and share/read/vent/respond to different posts. So, I just wanted to tell you a...	Sweet Stanley	5	467	Jul 30, 2010 by never going back
	Fear (Preview) I am in the process of trying to buy my first house. I am doing it 100% on my own with nothing but a lot of advice from others . Fear can be so destructive!!! My fear translates to procrastination. Do something other than what you are afraid of and deal with it when it gets here. Go have fun, bury myself in w...	tlcate	6	739	Jul 30, 2010 by Karilynn
	Found my way back... :) (Preview) Hey Guys... Wow... I Just went & Looked at my last Post and somehow it has been a MONTH since you have last heard from me ;( Just wanted to let all know that I am Doing OK... The Trip to meet my New Found Friend was Wonderful, I only got to see her for about 5 hours, because they had to work the next morning, ...	Jozie	6	736	Jul 30, 2010 by Karilynn
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