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kath · kath

I am posting this evening to talk about the way I started to handle a situation, and the way I finally surrendered the situation. This weekend is a big holiday for my AH. And I thought Halloween was for kids. just kidding, anyway I just wanted to note my progress. I saw him today and he was just whirling wi...

bud · bud

Overcoming my fear of hearing responses, it is important to me to set my mind straight, as I feel I am, once again, taking on someone else's problems. I am aware I am not for everyone and everyone is not for me. I am trying to sort out my hurt - it seems that I allowed someone to dump their anger on me... actu...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I realized something earlier today--in spite of everything that is going on, in spite of my wife's continued drinking and depression, in spite of everything seemingly on the verge of falling apart and her potentially having a breakdown, in spite of us having to consider her going to rehab...in spit...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

I feel so much better today, just thought I would say. I really really am so glad for this board and all of your responses! Thank you so much! I went home and my bf was there for me, he made sure I had dinner, he talked with me, we took a walk together, we watched a movie and both fell asleep doing so :) It was...

Katy · Katy

I used to think it was a destination we just arrived at and stayed there, and I thought it was a place and it just would happen lol, I was always just expsecting it to just show up because I deserved it, I was so full of concete, hadn't I earned my right to be happy, wasn't my suffering worse than anyone else's...

stephaniej · stephaniej

So about us: My A husband and I have been married for a year and a half. My second marriage, his first. I have two daughters from my first marriage, and my A husband and I have a 5-month old son together. We knew each other in junior high and high school, went our separate ways, and then reconnected a few...

shardin · shardin

I am recently separated from my AH and am very sad but very glad at the same time. We have a two year old that has seen and heard alot of arguing and then the last straw was physical where he was arrested. Our two year old was very scared and that is when I told my AH he had to go somewhere else, and away from us a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am feeling better but I am only limited to so much time on this computer! I can truly say that my HP is working in my life! I am healing both physically & spiritually! I am only as sick as I allow myself to be! Recovery can really get me down but I am willing to hang in there until the miracle happens. I mea...

Katy · Katy

As some of you know, our son had started to go off the rails, so we have set clear boundaries, and enforce them when neccaserry, he wanted his motorbike last evening and I said no, not for general socialising now you have no job, he said I will go get drunk then, I said ok but you know the rules if you get so dru...

Suzannah · Suzannah

"...Beth Anne DeCiantis had to complete a 26-mile marathon in less than two hours and 45 minutes to qualify for the Olympics. She reached the final straight in 2hours43, with just two minutes left. Two hundred yards from the finish she stumbled and fell. Dazed, she stayed down for 20 seconds. Th...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

I am not having a great day and am trying to turn it around. I guess I fell of the proverbial wagon and into my seductive depression again... That hole is there still and it is so easy to fall into, and so much harder to fight back out of. I know that happiness is an inside job. I know that I have to live in the...

abbyal · abbyal

I dont know if everyone is aware of the Pod casts that are available on our WSO site . they are amazing . U just click on to site pick the language of choice , click on pod casts and you are in a meeting . there are several topics being discussed this is perfect for new commers who wonder what goes on in our meeti...

MargaretK · MargaretK

HI I am new here. I am married to an alcoholic, have been for 39 years. He was clean and sober for about 10 years and then began drinking again about 7 years ago. As you can imagine, he has become progressively worse. We live in Beijing, China and he did find an AA meeting here, though it's inconvenient...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

this probably has to do with not being satisfied with myself (or anything else for that matter) but I've come to learn that I have this need to possess everything. Here is what I mean in a few examples: 1. I play guitar, am at least decent enough (and have a degree in music - another instrument though) to...

member922 · member922

Ok. I have not been very religious during my life, nor very spiritual. I have been doing a lot of the Al-Anon reading and I seem to be struggling with the higher power stuff. How do you realize a higher power? I guess I don't really understand this. I am trying to "just live" and let happen....

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My wife & I had our weekly marriage counseling session. She is so angry at me right now and I really don't know why. I'm guessing she is displacing some of the bad feelings she has on to me? If yes, do I just ignore this? Or do I try and talk it out with her? I'm not even sure that is an option. Our counselor e...

Rora · Rora

For the past 6 months i've known that behind the shed under all the weeds and vines and overgrowth lay several small vodka bottles that my exaH has been tossing there through the last winter. He'd come to the house to visit, we'd do a trial at reconciliation sometimes, it would fall apart in days and he'...

maresie · maresie

The holidays have always been a difficult time for me. They are creeping up on me and for once rather than leave it to last minute I am making plans. None of them include taking care of anyone but me! What a difference. I remember one holiday making plans and letting them go because my then boyfriend...

Sam72 · Sam72

Hi everyone. Well we went to the doctor this morning. There is both good and bad news, The bad is the doctor said his liver is buggered, his words not mine. The good news is he said that if he stops drinking he will be ok. Rehab rang yesterday and said he can go in three weeks, so It's just a countdown now. Than...

kath · kath

I just realized today that nothing on the outside world has changed, And that everything inside of me has changed, Thus creating responses instead of reactions, I have a voice, I am an adult. I'm not that scared little girl anymore. She's growing up and changing. Today I had a huge fear grip me like chai...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Sorry for all the posting...I'm home from work - for the record I was just at the orthopedist who told me I need arthroscopic surgery in my knee (severly torn cartlidge) so I had to take the day off for the midmorning appointment. So I'm sitting here wanting to share stuff. I'm inspired to write this pos...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Each day I wake and think, "Today I will prepare for the day ahead", and I mentally draw up a plan. Each day I get that far and no further. Each day I bemoan my lack of self discipline and realise that NO ONE is going to do it for me, this is something I have to do myself. So what is different about tod...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone have not posted in a while still having big probs with my computer and financual stuff, I have really missed this site. However still attending my face to face so still moving forward backwards and sideways in my recovery he he. Feeling good today Hp has given me some constructive guidance...

Aloha · Aloha

I just wanted to let the men reaching out for help know how grateful I am to see you here. It really makes me happy, as men are not in the normal demographics of our membership. I sure hope you all spread the joy and hop over to face-to-face meetings, too. Personally speaking, it's a breath of fresh air havi...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

A big jump in my tax bill (after I refinanced, grieved taxes and thought I would actually be saving a little money) basically wiped out that savings. I suppose I should be grateful that as a result of this, the big tax increase didn't raise my payment at all ( may actually still save 1-200). However...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well, I don`t know if I mentioned it recently but for the last month my grandaughter has been obcessed about her mother`s drinking since she met up with her current boyfriend who sounds like a severe alcoholic. This kid is acting out in school at home and with me. I finally got it out of her what was bother...

Uk Members Out there · podlin

Hi everyone, This is my first post. I'm an adult child of an alcoholic father and I have an alcoholic brother, husband, uncle, brother in law & sister in law. I wondered if any UK members would like to reply to this post to share. I have just started going to Al Anon. I love reading everyone's p...

kitty · kitty

Another member wrote to me last night about the chat room not loading and today I cannot gain access either... is the system down?

Sam72 · Sam72

Hi I'm feel like I'm falling apart at the moment, My AH is now on the waiting list to go to rehab and today he got results back from tests and he was told he had a really high glucose reading and his liver is in bad shape. I came home from shopping and found him on the floor with chest pain, I called the ambulance...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Many of you will have been with me and held out a cyber hand as I have gone through many ups and downs with my AH. Recently he has been a lot better. This has followed a 3 week spell in hospital when he very nearly died but somehow pulled through and has been making good progress in his physical health. Troubl...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

I have been really working hard on keeping my head on me. I have realized where I have let people walk all over me or where I have become the victim in a relationship. I tend to allow people who know me to either control me or I become the caretaker. In the business I have on the side of my regular job, photo...

rainbojo66 · rainbojo66

I have worked so hard to try and ACCEPT that my kids are not home with me and are with their dad for school weeks. Now they dont want to come home at all. My ex is a man who has always struggled with rage, and his hatred of me is now being translated into my kids. This is terribly painful. So, I was outside, tryi...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((Friends))), As you know I posted a few day ago about a young loss of life. Well here is the kicker...he is 19 and his mother rather say he was dead than be proud that he had the guts to walk thru the doors of recovery. I have been in this crazy go round of life for years and never ever have I ever her...

Jerry F · Jerry F

The Assembly is over...my hangover is almost all gone. Most of you will know what kind of hangover that is...the headache that comes with not being involved in an intense mental, emotional, spiritual endeavor over a short period of time. Yes my HP was there helping to keep me appropriate around 60...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling again--been having trouble sleeping. Really that is nothing too hard to believe. I am recovering still from surgery & have to depend on my Ah for help still. I hate depending too much on him but my HP knows what I need & I need help! I am trying to hang in there until NOV. 10th when I g...

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

Hello. My name is Brooke and I have just recently been introduced to al-anon. I am twenty years old and I have been dating a drug addict ( he is addicted to perscription drugs) on and off for the past eleven months. He is my first and only love. We have gone through so many struggles together. He has relap...

smartkat · smartkat

Or in this case, the one special-needs child? It is one thing to let my brother make his own stupid mistakes. And I even understand about letting my mom make her mistakes in trying to rescue my brother. But how do you form good boundries when there is a special needs child who can't fend for herself and yo...

kath · kath

Just need to talk about my children. Everything is changing. I have stopped being this meek little person that allows my children to run over me. They don't like it. There are constant battles. I can't wait until the day when we actually have one day without chaos. Yeah who am I kidding. I just wish my kid...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Every goal scored in life is usually a team effort. Be like the little boy who came home from the auditions for the school play and announced, 'Mummy, I got the part. I've been chosen to sit in the audience and cheer.' When you can do that, your head finally fits your hat size. Suzannah

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Last night's meeting topic was communication. I was thinking how different my communication is than it used to be. Actually, when I got here, I had just about NO methods of effective communication. In my family of origin, I was not permitted to express my opinions, disappointment, anger, or any...

snodebb · snodebb

Since I told my AH that he could not live here until he got his act together. Told him he needed to get back to AA once he starts skipping meetings its not long before it gets real bad. People that have heard he is not living here told me well its about time you threw him out. It really hard when you know he can s...

tlcate · tlcate

I heard it driving down the road when it first came out and it made me cry. Now it is very popular and on all the time. I feel myself walking away from it. It is starting to feel less like what life should be and more like what I should be running from. That is a good thing. These are explicit lyrics . . . Emine...

xosarahox · xosarahox

I've been to about 5 meetings and I guess I should keep going... I'm just so confused about certain things, it's like a war constantly raging in my head. My ABF has been sober for almost 3 months, and things are going well. He's very active in his recovery and half of the time I feel guilty because so many p...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

Last night AH and I had an argument. He was upset with me because I am currently on medical leave, and I spent my time yesterday on the computer looking for a new job, reading the boards here, chatting with people from here, and reading a book. The kids were in school, AH was working from home, and there j...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My wife's parents have known that something is wrong with my wife for a few months now. They thought maybe it was medication or just exhaustion. But they saw her at her worse earlier this week (they live 400 miles away but happen to be visiting this week) and knew something was seriously wrong. I got the c...

ebarash · ebarash

I really hope there are some folks here that might be able to give me a little advice that gives me some relief, as I am really hurting. I am a recovering alcoholic (10 months) and despite all the warnings from others in my program, I went ahead and got into a relationship with another newcomer. Perhaps I...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(Friends), Well we lost another young man in our community today....he was going to check into rehab here in the next few days but instead he checked out of life. This beautiful young man was the tender age of 19. His name was Mike, he was a good kind hearted person. The drugs took him away from his world...

Lyn0202 · Lyn0202

I'm a newbie here, and this is my dilemma: what do you do when you set a very firm boundary, with clear consequences, and your partner crosses the line? Background: my partner has had brief relapses that he's hidden from me. Invariably I find out. I am willing to deal with the relapses as long as he gets...

sarahlm · sarahlm

So my AH has brought me to tears AGAIN. This time, over an article I sent him IN PRISON about how its a good idea for Prisoners on Parole in general to do certain things when they get out, like work, maybe transitional housing, and have a support group. Just an article I thought he might find interesting to...

crossroads · crossroads

I am new here and desperately need some advice. Sorry for the LONG post. On 10/8/10 I found emails between my H and another woman confirming affair. I confronted him and told him to leave. Needless to say, he was in the bottle for the next 8+ days. I had little or no contact. He called me and asked if he cou...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM DOING OK TODAY! I AM OUT & ABOUT! FORTUANTELY I DON'T HAVE ANY PLANS TO OVERDO IT! IT IS RAINING ON THIS NICE FALL DAY. NOT MUCH MORE TO SAY. I JUST WANTED TO CHECK IN TO LET THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE FOLLOWED MY RECOVERY THAT I AM WELL ON MY WAY TO GETTING HEALTHY AGAIN. I STILL AM VERY LIMITED BECAUSE I A...

rylzmama · rylzmama

I have not been on this site in a while because I felt i didnt need alonon if my ah wasnt drinking anymore. . . but the truth is when i am not working on my recovery it seems to be back firing on me. . . Im now waking up every morning with an anxious feeling that follows me thru the day. Im still thinking about wha...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My wife & I are going away for the weekend to a friends cottage and her parents are watching the kids. I'm extremely apprehensive about this. This is only the 2nd time since we had kids that we've had some time alone (it will be just the 2 of us). Although I and our marriage counselor have told her not to...

hazeleyes946 · hazeleyes946

Hi everyone, This is my first time doing any of all of this. I will try to give yall the cliff notes to make everything easy. Ok, I am 25, my husband is 27, we have been married 5 years and have a 4 year old girl. We met when I was in the Marines, and he is still in the Navy, we met when I got hurt and was in the hospita...

Imogen421 · Imogen421

Hello My fiance is a binge drinker, not a terrible one but he loses control of drinking with blackout and 12+/15+ drinks around once a week. I thought he was getting better when we got engaged - very little binging - but found out since fall started that he's not. I was devastated because I am too scared to...

Imogen421 · Imogen421

1. do you talk to your parents/friends about your A? Many of my friends know. I have just told my parents about my AF because of halting wedding planning and not being able to take it any more. They are very supportive and care about both of us, but especially me (which is nice, of course). I'm sad though be...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

How do you handle your fears? My AS checked himself out of rehab yesterday and called me at work to let me know. After I got off the phone my mind went into hyper-drive, I felt sick at my stomach, shaking. I hate myself for not being able to control myself better, but I could tell by how he was talking that ...

xeno59 · xeno59

I just wanted to ask you all to send up a little prayer today for my brother Jim. He has HepC from his past drug use. He has been in recovery almost 13 years now. He has the most virulant ( spelling) strain of HepC and no treatments have worked for him. He is now in last stage liver failure and as much as we all h...

dori711 · dori711

I only attended 3 meetings, missed the last 2 and was debating whether I should attend the next one. My H came home today and announced they changed his shifts to nights, so he will be home everyday now. I didn't want him to know at least for now but if I do decide to go I have to wonder how I can go without hi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

That is the theme for our Fall Assembly with this being the 4th year again we are the host again. I won't be crusing MIP but working it locally. Have got 66 members in service to the area coming to our side of the island and it will be super just like the last 2 I've done service with. The GRs and DRs will ar...

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	Just want to share (Preview) I am posting this evening to talk about the way I started to handle a situation, and the way I finally surrendered the situation. This weekend is a big holiday for my AH. And I thought Halloween was for kids. just kidding, anyway I just wanted to note my progress. I saw him today and he was just whirling wi...	kath	4	665	Oct 30, 2010 by kath
	My bad? Reality check needed, please. (Preview) Overcoming my fear of hearing responses, it is important to me to set my mind straight, as I feel I am, once again, taking on someone else's problems. I am aware I am not for everyone and everyone is not for me. I am trying to sort out my hurt - it seems that I allowed someone to dump their anger on me... actu...	bud	8	738	Oct 30, 2010 by bud
	Just realized something--I am feeling GREAT! (Preview) I realized something earlier today--in spite of everything that is going on, in spite of my wife's continued drinking and depression, in spite of everything seemingly on the verge of falling apart and her potentially having a breakdown, in spite of us having to consider her going to rehab...in spit...	usedtobeanyer	12	745	Oct 30, 2010 by Bambina10
	Everyday is a winding road... (Preview) I feel so much better today, just thought I would say. I really really am so glad for this board and all of your responses! Thank you so much! I went home and my bf was there for me, he made sure I had dinner, he talked with me, we took a walk together, we watched a movie and both fell asleep doing so :) It was...	sunflowergirl	2	403	Oct 30, 2010 by Jerry F
	Happiness! (Preview) I used to think it was a destination we just arrived at and stayed there, and I thought it was a place and it just would happen lol, I was always just expsecting it to just show up because I deserved it, I was so full of concete, hadn't I earned my right to be happy, wasn't my suffering worse than anyone else's...	Katy	5	608	Oct 29, 2010 by mjhyankees
	New Here, with a basic, general question (Preview) So about us: My A husband and I have been married for a year and a half. My second marriage, his first. I have two daughters from my first marriage, and my A husband and I have a 5-month old son together. We knew each other in junior high and high school, went our separate ways, and then reconnected a few...	stephaniej	11	691	Oct 29, 2010 by mdh
	Separated from my AH (Preview) I am recently separated from my AH and am very sad but very glad at the same time. We have a two year old that has seen and heard alot of arguing and then the last straw was physical where he was arrested. Our two year old was very scared and that is when I told my AH he had to go somewhere else, and away from us a...	shardin	6	722	Oct 29, 2010 by mdh
	I am feeling better... (Preview) I am feeling better but I am only limited to so much time on this computer! I can truly say that my HP is working in my life! I am healing both physically & spiritually! I am only as sick as I allow myself to be! Recovery can really get me down but I am willing to hang in there until the miracle happens. I mea...	Hoot Nanny	1	347	Oct 29, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	He said sorry mum, result! (Preview) As some of you know, our son had started to go off the rails, so we have set clear boundaries, and enforce them when neccaserry, he wanted his motorbike last evening and I said no, not for general socialising now you have no job, he said I will go get drunk then, I said ok but you know the rules if you get so dru...	Katy	1	469	Oct 29, 2010 by Jerry F
	Get up and keep going, don't give up (Preview) "...Beth Anne DeCiantis had to complete a 26-mile marathon in less than two hours and 45 minutes to qualify for the Olympics. She reached the final straight in 2hours43, with just two minutes left. Two hundred yards from the finish she stumbled and fell. Dazed, she stayed down for 20 seconds. Th...	Suzannah	1	809	Oct 29, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Fallen off the cusp today... (Preview) I am not having a great day and am trying to turn it around. I guess I fell of the proverbial wagon and into my seductive depression again... That hole is there still and it is so easy to fall into, and so much harder to fight back out of. I know that happiness is an inside job. I know that I have to live in the...	sunflowergirl	11	692	Oct 29, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Something for everyone (Preview) I dont know if everyone is aware of the Pod casts that are available on our WSO site . they are amazing . U just click on to site pick the language of choice , click on pod casts and you are in a meeting . there are several topics being discussed this is perfect for new commers who wonder what goes on in our meeti...	abbyal	8	774	Oct 29, 2010 by Wolfie
	New here (Preview) HI I am new here. I am married to an alcoholic, have been for 39 years. He was clean and sober for about 10 years and then began drinking again about 7 years ago. As you can imagine, he has become progressively worse. We live in Beijing, China and he did find an AA meeting here, though it's inconvenient...	MargaretK	9	618	Oct 29, 2010 by MargaretK
	the need to possess......... (Preview) this probably has to do with not being satisfied with myself (or anything else for that matter) but I've come to learn that I have this need to possess everything. Here is what I mean in a few examples: 1. I play guitar, am at least decent enough (and have a degree in music - another instrument though) to...	mjhyankees	12	861	Oct 29, 2010 by tlcate
	Higher Power Question (Preview) Ok. I have not been very religious during my life, nor very spiritual. I have been doing a lot of the Al-Anon reading and I seem to be struggling with the higher power stuff. How do you realize a higher power? I guess I don't really understand this. I am trying to "just live" and let happen....	member922	13	2098	Oct 29, 2010 by troyc
	She is SO angry at me (Preview) My wife & I had our weekly marriage counseling session. She is so angry at me right now and I really don't know why. I'm guessing she is displacing some of the bad feelings she has on to me? If yes, do I just ignore this? Or do I try and talk it out with her? I'm not even sure that is an option. Our counselor e...	usedtobeanyer	9	793	Oct 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	clean up behind the shed... (Preview) For the past 6 months i've known that behind the shed under all the weeds and vines and overgrowth lay several small vodka bottles that my exaH has been tossing there through the last winter. He'd come to the house to visit, we'd do a trial at reconciliation sometimes, it would fall apart in days and he'...	Rora	8	871	Oct 28, 2010 by thundermother
	Making a plan be (Preview) The holidays have always been a difficult time for me. They are creeping up on me and for once rather than leave it to last minute I am making plans. None of them include taking care of anyone but me! What a difference. I remember one holiday making plans and letting them go because my then boyfriend...	maresie	2	608	Oct 28, 2010 by Aloha
	Update on last post (Preview) Hi everyone. Well we went to the doctor this morning. There is both good and bad news, The bad is the doctor said his liver is buggered, his words not mine. The good news is he said that if he stops drinking he will be ok. Rehab rang yesterday and said he can go in three weeks, so It's just a countdown now. Than...	Sam72	3	369	Oct 28, 2010 by member922
	he he he.... (Preview) I just realized today that nothing on the outside world has changed, And that everything inside of me has changed, Thus creating responses instead of reactions, I have a voice, I am an adult. I'm not that scared little girl anymore. She's growing up and changing. Today I had a huge fear grip me like chai...	kath	5	507	Oct 28, 2010 by xeno59
	the road so far....... (Preview) Sorry for all the posting...I'm home from work - for the record I was just at the orthopedist who told me I need arthroscopic surgery in my knee (severly torn cartlidge) so I had to take the day off for the midmorning appointment. So I'm sitting here wanting to share stuff. I'm inspired to write this pos...	mjhyankees	9	672	Oct 28, 2010 by canadianguy
	Getting ready for the day ahead... (Preview) Each day I wake and think, "Today I will prepare for the day ahead", and I mentally draw up a plan. Each day I get that far and no further. Each day I bemoan my lack of self discipline and realise that NO ONE is going to do it for me, this is something I have to do myself. So what is different about tod...	Suzannah	5	772	Oct 28, 2010 by maresie
	quick visit (Preview) Hi everyone have not posted in a while still having big probs with my computer and financual stuff, I have really missed this site. However still attending my face to face so still moving forward backwards and sideways in my recovery he he. Feeling good today Hp has given me some constructive guidance...	Tracy	3	519	Oct 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	Real happy to see more men here. (Preview) I just wanted to let the men reaching out for help know how grateful I am to see you here. It really makes me happy, as men are not in the normal demographics of our membership. I sure hope you all spread the joy and hop over to face-to-face meetings, too. Personally speaking, it's a breath of fresh air havi...	Aloha	5	491	Oct 28, 2010 by RLC
	So why don't I feel better???? (Preview) A big jump in my tax bill (after I refinanced, grieved taxes and thought I would actually be saving a little money) basically wiped out that savings. I suppose I should be grateful that as a result of this, the big tax increase didn't raise my payment at all ( may actually still save 1-200). However...	mjhyankees	4	811	Oct 28, 2010 by mjhyankees
	This Poor Kid .. How is she functioning? (Preview) Well, I don`t know if I mentioned it recently but for the last month my grandaughter has been obcessed about her mother`s drinking since she met up with her current boyfriend who sounds like a severe alcoholic. This kid is acting out in school at home and with me. I finally got it out of her what was bother...	Samsgram	8	1469	Oct 28, 2010 by oklahoma momof5
	Uk Members Out there (Preview) Hi everyone, This is my first post. I'm an adult child of an alcoholic father and I have an alcoholic brother, husband, uncle, brother in law & sister in law. I wondered if any UK members would like to reply to this post to share. I have just started going to Al Anon. I love reading everyone's p...	podlin	6	1005	Oct 28, 2010 by podlin
	chat room not loading (Preview) Another member wrote to me last night about the chat room not loading and today I cannot gain access either... is the system down?	kitty	6	665	Oct 27, 2010 by WWG
	Looking for support (Preview) Hi I'm feel like I'm falling apart at the moment, My AH is now on the waiting list to go to rehab and today he got results back from tests and he was told he had a really high glucose reading and his liver is in bad shape. I came home from shopping and found him on the floor with chest pain, I called the ambulance...	Sam72	14	868	Oct 27, 2010 by member922
	I'm scared (Preview) Many of you will have been with me and held out a cyber hand as I have gone through many ups and downs with my AH. Recently he has been a lot better. This has followed a 3 week spell in hospital when he very nearly died but somehow pulled through and has been making good progress in his physical health. Troubl...	Tattyhead	9	879	Oct 27, 2010 by Tattyhead
	On the cusp...major changes... (Preview) I have been really working hard on keeping my head on me. I have realized where I have let people walk all over me or where I have become the victim in a relationship. I tend to allow people who know me to either control me or I become the caretaker. In the business I have on the side of my regular job, photo...	sunflowergirl	11	714	Oct 27, 2010 by mjhyankees
	ok...NOW I am really stuck... (Preview) I have worked so hard to try and ACCEPT that my kids are not home with me and are with their dad for school weeks. Now they dont want to come home at all. My ex is a man who has always struggled with rage, and his hatred of me is now being translated into my kids. This is terribly painful. So, I was outside, tryi...	rainbojo66	5	735	Oct 27, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	PLEASE READ THIS IS UNBELEIVABLE (Preview) ((((((((((Friends))), As you know I posted a few day ago about a young loss of life. Well here is the kicker...he is 19 and his mother rather say he was dead than be proud that he had the guts to walk thru the doors of recovery. I have been in this crazy go round of life for years and never ever have I ever her...	Andrea12	3	856	Oct 27, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Aloha...I'm home!! (Preview) The Assembly is over...my hangover is almost all gone. Most of you will know what kind of hangover that is...the headache that comes with not being involved in an intense mental, emotional, spiritual endeavor over a short period of time. Yes my HP was there helping to keep me appropriate around 60...	Jerry F	11	843	Oct 27, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	I hope it gets better soon... (Preview) I am struggling again--been having trouble sleeping. Really that is nothing too hard to believe. I am recovering still from surgery & have to depend on my Ah for help still. I hate depending too much on him but my HP knows what I need & I need help! I am trying to hang in there until NOV. 10th when I g...	Hoot Nanny	5	766	Oct 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Advice please (Preview) Hello. My name is Brooke and I have just recently been introduced to al-anon. I am twenty years old and I have been dating a drug addict ( he is addicted to perscription drugs) on and off for the past eleven months. He is my first and only love. We have gone through so many struggles together. He has relap...	Brookiebabe222	6	728	Oct 27, 2010 by xeno59
	What about the children? (Preview) Or in this case, the one special-needs child? It is one thing to let my brother make his own stupid mistakes. And I even understand about letting my mom make her mistakes in trying to rescue my brother. But how do you form good boundries when there is a special needs child who can't fend for herself and yo...	smartkat	3	1040	Oct 27, 2010 by xeno59
	support (Preview) Just need to talk about my children. Everything is changing. I have stopped being this meek little person that allows my children to run over me. They don't like it. There are constant battles. I can't wait until the day when we actually have one day without chaos. Yeah who am I kidding. I just wish my kid...	kath	4	630	Oct 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Just had to share this snippet... it's a gem... (Preview) Every goal scored in life is usually a team effort. Be like the little boy who came home from the auditions for the school play and announced, 'Mummy, I got the part. I've been chosen to sit in the audience and cheer.' When you can do that, your head finally fits your hat size. Suzannah	Suzannah	4	728	Oct 27, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Communication (Preview) Last night's meeting topic was communication. I was thinking how different my communication is than it used to be. Actually, when I got here, I had just about NO methods of effective communication. In my family of origin, I was not permitted to express my opinions, disappointment, anger, or any...	White Rabbit	6	2442	Oct 27, 2010 by podlin
	Getting lots of advice from people not living in my shoes!!! (Preview) Since I told my AH that he could not live here until he got his act together. Told him he needed to get back to AA once he starts skipping meetings its not long before it gets real bad. People that have heard he is not living here told me well its about time you threw him out. It really hard when you know he can s...	snodebb	9	1259	Oct 27, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Every time I hear this song . . . (Preview) I heard it driving down the road when it first came out and it made me cry. Now it is very popular and on all the time. I feel myself walking away from it. It is starting to feel less like what life should be and more like what I should be running from. That is a good thing. These are explicit lyrics . . . Emine...	tlcate	7	1131	Oct 27, 2010 by podlin
	My first post (Preview) I've been to about 5 meetings and I guess I should keep going... I'm just so confused about certain things, it's like a war constantly raging in my head. My ABF has been sober for almost 3 months, and things are going well. He's very active in his recovery and half of the time I feel guilty because so many p...	xosarahox	4	660	Oct 27, 2010 by tiredtonite
	My life is in shambles right now (Preview) Last night AH and I had an argument. He was upset with me because I am currently on medical leave, and I spent my time yesterday on the computer looking for a new job, reading the boards here, chatting with people from here, and reading a book. The kids were in school, AH was working from home, and there j...	kimmy1975	11	947	Oct 27, 2010 by Lizz
	Told my wife's parents everything--mistake or no? (Preview) My wife's parents have known that something is wrong with my wife for a few months now. They thought maybe it was medication or just exhaustion. But they saw her at her worse earlier this week (they live 400 miles away but happen to be visiting this week) and knew something was seriously wrong. I got the c...	usedtobeanyer	10	1218	Oct 26, 2010 by maire rua
	I'm having A really tough time - some advice would really be appreciated... (Preview) I really hope there are some folks here that might be able to give me a little advice that gives me some relief, as I am really hurting. I am a recovering alcoholic (10 months) and despite all the warnings from others in my program, I went ahead and got into a relationship with another newcomer. Perhaps I...	ebarash	7	1247	Oct 26, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Another Senseless Young Death (Preview) (Friends), Well we lost another young man in our community today....he was going to check into rehab here in the next few days but instead he checked out of life. This beautiful young man was the tender age of 19. His name was Mike, he was a good kind hearted person. The drugs took him away from his world...	Andrea12	7	854	Oct 26, 2010 by kitty
	Crossing Boundaries (Preview) I'm a newbie here, and this is my dilemma: what do you do when you set a very firm boundary, with clear consequences, and your partner crosses the line? Background: my partner has had brief relapses that he's hidden from me. Invariably I find out. I am willing to deal with the relapses as long as he gets...	Lyn0202	7	975	Oct 26, 2010 by david62
	Well, he has done it again-ESH needed (Preview) So my AH has brought me to tears AGAIN. This time, over an article I sent him IN PRISON about how its a good idea for Prisoners on Parole in general to do certain things when they get out, like work, maybe transitional housing, and have a support group. Just an article I thought he might find interesting to...	sarahlm	4	453	Oct 26, 2010 by ashiqur
	Husband leaving detox tomorrow- do I let him come home? (Preview) I am new here and desperately need some advice. Sorry for the LONG post. On 10/8/10 I found emails between my H and another woman confirming affair. I confronted him and told him to leave. Needless to say, he was in the bottle for the next 8+ days. I had little or no contact. He called me and asked if he cou...	crossroads	8	1688	Oct 25, 2010 by crossroads
	I am OK today! (Preview) I AM DOING OK TODAY! I AM OUT & ABOUT! FORTUANTELY I DON'T HAVE ANY PLANS TO OVERDO IT! IT IS RAINING ON THIS NICE FALL DAY. NOT MUCH MORE TO SAY. I JUST WANTED TO CHECK IN TO LET THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE FOLLOWED MY RECOVERY THAT I AM WELL ON MY WAY TO GETTING HEALTHY AGAIN. I STILL AM VERY LIMITED BECAUSE I A...	Hoot Nanny	5	903	Oct 25, 2010 by Jerry F
	my ah is 1yr sober and my thoughts still race (Preview) I have not been on this site in a while because I felt i didnt need alonon if my ah wasnt drinking anymore. . . but the truth is when i am not working on my recovery it seems to be back firing on me. . . Im now waking up every morning with an anxious feeling that follows me thru the day. Im still thinking about wha...	rylzmama	4	441	Oct 25, 2010 by Jerry F
	Going away together this weekend--no kids (Preview) My wife & I are going away for the weekend to a friends cottage and her parents are watching the kids. I'm extremely apprehensive about this. This is only the 2nd time since we had kids that we've had some time alone (it will be just the 2 of us). Although I and our marriage counselor have told her not to...	usedtobeanyer	6	828	Oct 25, 2010 by hotrod
	Really need advice, new to all this (Preview) Hi everyone, This is my first time doing any of all of this. I will try to give yall the cliff notes to make everything easy. Ok, I am 25, my husband is 27, we have been married 5 years and have a 4 year old girl. We met when I was in the Marines, and he is still in the Navy, we met when I got hurt and was in the hospita...	hazeleyes946	10	1178	Oct 25, 2010 by Diva
	paused wedding planning - feel lost, fear fiance postpone wedding binge drinking boundaries (Preview) Hello My fiance is a binge drinker, not a terrible one but he loses control of drinking with blackout and 12+/15+ drinks around once a week. I thought he was getting better when we got engaged - very little binging - but found out since fall started that he's not. I was devastated because I am too scared to...	Imogen421	10	6679	Oct 24, 2010 by ythannah
	three newbie questions (Preview) 1. do you talk to your parents/friends about your A? Many of my friends know. I have just told my parents about my AF because of halting wedding planning and not being able to take it any more. They are very supportive and care about both of us, but especially me (which is nice, of course). I'm sad though be...	Imogen421	8	808	Oct 24, 2010 by xeno59
	A Question..... (Preview) How do you handle your fears? My AS checked himself out of rehab yesterday and called me at work to let me know. After I got off the phone my mind went into hyper-drive, I felt sick at my stomach, shaking. I hate myself for not being able to control myself better, but I could tell by how he was talking that ...	DreamsOver	3	743	Oct 24, 2010 by xeno59
	Asking for Prayers (Preview) I just wanted to ask you all to send up a little prayer today for my brother Jim. He has HepC from his past drug use. He has been in recovery almost 13 years now. He has the most virulant ( spelling) strain of HepC and no treatments have worked for him. He is now in last stage liver failure and as much as we all h...	xeno59	6	929	Oct 24, 2010 by member922
	Does your A spouse know you attend meetings? (Preview) I only attended 3 meetings, missed the last 2 and was debating whether I should attend the next one. My H came home today and announced they changed his shifts to nights, so he will be home everyday now. I didn't want him to know at least for now but if I do decide to go I have to wonder how I can go without hi...	dori711	8	1085	Oct 24, 2010 by abbyal
	Welcoming Miracles... (Preview) That is the theme for our Fall Assembly with this being the 4th year again we are the host again. I won't be crusing MIP but working it locally. Have got 66 members in service to the area coming to our side of the island and it will be super just like the last 2 I've done service with. The GRs and DRs will ar...	Jerry F	5	793	Oct 23, 2010 by Andrea12
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