Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

maresie · maresie

When I met the ex A I had already been in therapy and in some kind of 12 step program for a long time. I really felt like I had a lot of insight and a great deal of recovery. Indeed I had come a long long way in looking at my childhood issues. I was no longer in denial about my childhood was one where I was abused...

atheos · atheos

I decided to try sitting at a different table this week -- wow am I ever glad I did! They're incredible... I don't even know how to describe it, except to say that the energy there is just amazing. And they've hit the right balance -- they're not afraid to share when they're struggling, and they also share...

Katy · Katy

Our son is twenty he lives here at home, he is a sensative lad with an heart of gold, he is always ready to help anyone, is sociable and gentle, he's gulable and daft, he likes getting drunk though and has been out of his head three times this week already, last night he came staggering home just after midn...

Otie · Otie

Hi, everyone. As many of you already know I am struggling to learn as much as I can about addiction and recovery. I often see written here, on the board, that only the alcoholic can say that he/she is an alcoholic (addict). I sense that this is some kind of "sacred rule" in alanon. I confes...

Rindaroo · Rindaroo

Hello, I went down this road many years ago with my husband and daughters father John. Alcohol and drugs ended up taking his life 7 years ago May 5th. I went to meetings and worked the steps and before and after his death. Al-anon was a blessing for me and in many ways still helps me today, but I haven't wor...

oldergal · oldergal

That our drunks, our alcoholic's are these really great, intelligent, sensitive, talented people. As I read some of the topics and think about the people I know it seems that these type of people are really special, what is it, a mere coincidence or what? Is there any truth in this, can anyone shed some...

Excavator · Excavator

I sure hope someone is around tonight. My wife just got out of ReHab 10 days ago ... 28 days in Seattle. She was so happy and positive when she got home! It was great to have her back!! Yesterday afternoon or evening she took a pill. I don't know how long she'd been taking them again or if this was the first tim...

Bettina · Bettina

Hope you all have a great weekend and no matter what your doing or where you are, enjoy yourself, let go and live in the moment. Fondly, Bettina

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Silly Little song, but it can chear me up if I'm in the right mood. [video=]

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...

Debilyn · Debilyn

VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...

All I can be · All I can be

A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...

Gailey · Gailey

I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...

bud · bud

Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...

clep · clep

Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....

Debilyn · Debilyn

I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...

Otie · Otie

Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...

cmarie · cmarie

hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...

Katy · Katy

Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?

guitargirl · guitargirl

My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...

Georgia · Georgia

so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.

RLC · RLC

Our program tonight at my Tuesday night meeting was on "Live And Let Live". It's never been my favorite slogan. "Don't React" and "How Important Is It" hold down #1 and #2 for me. Tonight it came to me how this program is so intertwined. If I live my life with the princ...

John · John

Hello folks, Someone has eluded to the idea that they thought their anonymity was automatically protected here, but this is a public message board. It can be crawled by google, yahoo, and another search bot that roams around the internet. If you are using your full name in your registration, inste...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

...I having a sponsor! This is the first time I've called her since she agreed to be my sponsor. I was still so hesitant to call. Why would she have the time to talk to me? She did. She had the time. She answered my called and listened and shared. I was able to talk to someone who has lived a life simil...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I just wanted to stop by and Thank each and everyone one of you here for the guidance, ESH, love and support you have shown me in the past 3/1-4 yrs since I found this board. I've always been treated with love, compassion and understanding. The knowledge and wisdom I've found here has helped me to grow a...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Indian John said of himself: "I am a very sensitive person, I get hurt easily, and I don't suffer well." Boy, I can relate. I just uncovered this quote in my daily prayer and meditation and found myself laughing out loud. I knew there was a reason why the things I stuff away come out at the mo...

Sisyphus · Sisyphus

At what point did you folks know that the person (or perhaps people) you are here because of...where alcoholics...and not someone who simply had a bad habit of drinking too much, too often? I am really struggling with finding the fine line between someone who just unknowingly drinks too much and with...

tommyecat · tommyecat

This appeared in the Alanon Forum magazine many years ago. I heard this read at my Saturday morning meeting a few weeks ago and recently got a copy. Here's to passing it on. YagottawannaA small picture frame containing the odd looking word "yagottawanna" hangs on a wall in our local Ala...

Lyn0202 · Lyn0202

I am brand new to the program. My BF, who I live with, is coming up on 5 years clean/sober. Unfortunately, not drinking/using doesn't mean he's perfect! LOL And I am codependent - I was before we met 4 years ago and seem to be repeating my own patterns. He has ADHD and we recently had a big blow out where he p...

atheos · atheos

What would you think if an Al-Anon friend who's always been at the same table as you suddenly started sitting at a different table? I am very disturbed by an incident that happened at my table at one of my F2F meetings this week: one of our members got a bit introspective and long-winded, and two women (bo...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

This evening, I spoke with my ex again. This time he was telling me that he stopped taking his medication for one of his medical condition: alcoholic neuropathy. He said the meds made him terribly depressed to the point he was thinking of suicide. He went on to say that while depressed, he thought ab...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi again, so my daughter and I had a great evening last night...and this morning. I had to take her back to her dads today and all I could think about is my mom saying: "Danielle, your daughter is sad, she asked me about depression and bi-polar disorder!" "How does she even know what bi-p...

member922 · member922

Hi all. I went to a meeting last night with a younger gf of mine. It was a little overwhelming for her, which made it so for me as well. I was a bit more emotional than usual. Man, was I wanting to cry every second of that meeting. I am actually crying right now lol. A man from the meeting came up to us in the p...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I would have never guessed this would ever happen. I have been trying to get her to come with me to Al-anon and we already go to the same bible study group. Her AH has cheated recently and I knew she was having a hard time, but to get this call tonight makes me so furious with this disease!!!! Such a beautif...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

My fiance, alcoholic, our 2m old daughter and I live in my moms house. My mom knows he's an alcoholic (hard to hide) and the things he does (doesnt come home some nights and doesnt answer his phone so he can drink). Last week was her last straw. She said if he does it again, he's out. No if's and's or but's ab...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

I feel like im flooding the boards but my mind is going a mile a minute. I know it's a possibility that I will end up, unfortunately, needing to leave my fiance. I do not want my daughter growing up around it or thinking it's ok and if nothing changes... it may have to happen. Truth be told, I cannot imagine...

KLotus · KLotus

Hi Everyone, With much gratitude, I report that my alcoholic husband finally came to an emotional surrender - with many apologies and tears, and last week I took him (voluntarily) to an inpatient recovery program. Recap: I and my one-year-old child have been living with my in-laws for two months no...

sierramorningstar · sierramorningstar

mm....I dont know i guess i just need some perspective. My fiancee just left me seven months pregnant, the day after we signed a lease on a new place and left me hanging with a thousand dollars worth of orders to fill in our mutual business, that i am not capable of filling myself...some of them with depos...

Samsgram · Samsgram

First of all, I personally feel hurt and betrayed by my 7 yr old grandaughter. I pretty much do everything for her as most of you have heard. When she is with her mother or her grandfather I get anxious because they let her stay up late and there just are no boundaries. I worry about how far she goes when she i...

Any Missouri/Joplin members? · Jerry F

Constant stream of thoughts and prayers going your way...Be careful!! (((hugs)))

youfoundme · youfoundme

This weekend my bf was away at a program for getting a DUI a year ago. It was so nice to hear from him, he was sober the whole time. We talked, but I also did a lot for me. I kept my focus on me and my kids. We laughed a lot and had some quiet time too. I spent some time at a friend's with her kids too, we made a big...

Jozie · Jozie

What a Month :0) I Currently Have so Many things going on right now, that I at times Catch myself just staring off into space Thanking HP for All the Blessings that have been Laid before me... I have found that when I am Down, it is by choice... And since I Turned My Frown Upside Down WOW has HP really opened m...

pineapple · pineapple

Well, ah who drinks every day managed to not drink all day on Friday for my birthday. But he's made up for it, now on day two of a binge. I've tried TCOMF, pretending that he isn't even here, as in reality, he isn't. His body may be here, drunk or passed out, but HE is not. I've been doing my own things, working...

atheos · atheos

I think I've burned myself out. It started five years ago when I was 19, trying to single-handedly care for my schizophrenic sister while mom and dad were still in denial about her condition. Although mom and dad are now helping her and not in denial any more, I still have often felt stressed out by her (l...

kitty5 · kitty5

Hello Everyone: I'm attending Alanon meetings and trying very hard to understand things - it's very overwhelming. My father was an alcoholic-he's deceased now 5 years. I'm a non-alcoholic married to a non-alcoholic for 20 years and very happy with with husband. I have a male friend who I do lov...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I had the most amazing Saturday~the best in months, and the only explanation I can find is that I "stopped" to smell the roses...the irony being I didn't stop all day long! We had our first sunshine filled day here in weeks it seemed, and when I woke up and saw the sunshine, I decided to soak i...

alexmaui · alexmaui

My AH is temporarily sober (who knows for how long) But my family can't seem to accept him, anymore. I moved out because of the chaos and stress his drinking brought to my life...but he was never angry or abusive to anyone...except for some unfortunate late night calls. He has been uninvited to family e...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Dear MIP family - and you are very dear to me. I am struggling at the moment with a very sick AH who is not eating - I can get my hand round his upper arm - and has a very damaged liver, gastric tract, etc.(for those who don't know - I have been married to AH for 39 years + and he has been alcohol dependant for the la...

maresie · maresie

One of my housemates has started dating her boss. They always did have an intense relationship. There were a lot of lines blurred in there. I feel uncomfortable because of course all my relationships (and most of them disasters) were started at warp speed. If someone wanted to date, get to know me...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

So my mom comes over today to drop off some flowers. She starts talking about random stuff then the conversations turns to how she feels as a result of me not telling her what's going on in my life and, in particular, how I'm not sharing with her what I do and do not tell my daughter about what's going on with...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I'm not kidding when I say that my grass is 4 feet tall in some places around my yard - places I can't reach with the riding mower. When I walk around my yard I fight dispair because its SO much work - every single step around the yard shows me things I have to try to get done. I used to have a handle on it, before I...

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	geting to the place of surrender (Preview) When I met the ex A I had already been in therapy and in some kind of 12 step program for a long time. I really felt like I had a lot of insight and a great deal of recovery. Indeed I had come a long long way in looking at my childhood issues. I was no longer in denial about my childhood was one where I was abused...	maresie	4	1158	May 30, 2011 by maryjane
	I love my new table! (Preview) I decided to try sitting at a different table this week -- wow am I ever glad I did! They're incredible... I don't even know how to describe it, except to say that the energy there is just amazing. And they've hit the right balance -- they're not afraid to share when they're struggling, and they also share...	atheos	5	355	May 30, 2011 by maryjane
	Learning to love the person! (Preview) Our son is twenty he lives here at home, he is a sensative lad with an heart of gold, he is always ready to help anyone, is sociable and gentle, he's gulable and daft, he likes getting drunk though and has been out of his head three times this week already, last night he came staggering home just after midn...	Katy	20	582	May 30, 2011 by Katy
	Could someone please give clarification? (Preview) Hi, everyone. As many of you already know I am struggling to learn as much as I can about addiction and recovery. I often see written here, on the board, that only the alcoholic can say that he/she is an alcoholic (addict). I sense that this is some kind of "sacred rule" in alanon. I confes...	Otie	17	1102	May 29, 2011 by sdisnie
	Here we go again (Preview) Hello, I went down this road many years ago with my husband and daughters father John. Alcohol and drugs ended up taking his life 7 years ago May 5th. I went to meetings and worked the steps and before and after his death. Al-anon was a blessing for me and in many ways still helps me today, but I haven't wor...	Rindaroo	6	512	May 29, 2011 by Jerry F
	Is it true or am I just imagining (Preview) That our drunks, our alcoholic's are these really great, intelligent, sensitive, talented people. As I read some of the topics and think about the people I know it seems that these type of people are really special, what is it, a mere coincidence or what? Is there any truth in this, can anyone shed some...	oldergal	7	470	May 29, 2011 by abbyal
	Wife is in jail tonight (Preview) I sure hope someone is around tonight. My wife just got out of ReHab 10 days ago ... 28 days in Seattle. She was so happy and positive when she got home! It was great to have her back!! Yesterday afternoon or evening she took a pill. I don't know how long she'd been taking them again or if this was the first tim...	Excavator	16	1031	May 29, 2011 by Excavator
	Happy Memorial (Preview) Hope you all have a great weekend and no matter what your doing or where you are, enjoy yourself, let go and live in the moment. Fondly, Bettina	Bettina	4	345	May 29, 2011 by tommyecat
	A Happy Song for When You're Down (Preview) Silly Little song, but it can chear me up if I'm in the right mood. [video=]	GailMichelle	3	410	May 29, 2011 by tommyecat
	Can someone throw a bucket of serenity my way? (Preview) AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...	Very Very Tired	16	542	May 29, 2011 by Rora
	People, people who need people....... (Preview) VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...	Debilyn	8	852	May 28, 2011 by All I can be
	sun comen thru the green leaves (Preview) Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...	Debilyn	6	518	May 28, 2011 by Debilyn
	How Al-Anon Works... (Preview) Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...	Jerry F	14	1573	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	A Smile (Preview) A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...	All I can be	3	664	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	Finally...... (Preview) I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...	Gailey	6	415	May 27, 2011 by abbyal
	repeat as needed ... sigh (Preview) I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...	Jennifer	4	403	May 27, 2011 by Jennifer
	Ok please...???? (Preview) I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...	youfoundme	7	574	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	trouble joining chat room - please help (Preview) Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?	bud	5	373	May 27, 2011 by bud
	some music (Preview) Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...	danielle0516	2	378	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	What is rejection (Preview) Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....	clep	18	1033	May 26, 2011 by Jerry F
	ugh (Preview) I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...	Debilyn	7	497	May 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	What is my part? (Preview) Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...	canadianguy	17	759	May 26, 2011 by likemyheart
	Opening Pandora's Box (Preview) Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...	Otie	10	820	May 26, 2011 by Lyn0202
	Al-Anon newbie in a tough bind! (Preview) hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...	cmarie	8	448	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Find a face to face! and why, (Preview) Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...	Katy	6	341	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Faith (Preview) I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...	tommyecat	3	573	May 26, 2011 by youfoundme
	subscription (Preview) Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?	tommyecat	4	374	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Sponsor/relationship/friend triangle (Preview) My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...	guitargirl	8	1954	May 25, 2011 by hotrod
	Let it begin with me (Preview) I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...	youfoundme	7	1320	May 25, 2011 by GailMichelle
	too funny (sad, really) not to share (Preview) so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.	Georgia	11	1029	May 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	"Live And Let Live" Are Not Just Words To Me Anymore !! (Preview) Our program tonight at my Tuesday night meeting was on "Live And Let Live". It's never been my favorite slogan. "Don't React" and "How Important Is It" hold down #1 and #2 for me. Tonight it came to me how this program is so intertwined. If I live my life with the princ...	RLC	7	4651	May 25, 2011 by hotrod
	Your anonymity is not automatically protected here. (From John) (Preview) Hello folks, Someone has eluded to the idea that they thought their anonymity was automatically protected here, but this is a public message board. It can be crawled by google, yahoo, and another search bot that roams around the internet. If you are using your full name in your registration, inste...	John	4	800	May 25, 2011 by atheos
	Can I just say... (Preview) ...I having a sponsor! This is the first time I've called her since she agreed to be my sponsor. I was still so hesitant to call. Why would she have the time to talk to me? She did. She had the time. She answered my called and listened and shared. I was able to talk to someone who has lived a life simil...	Very Very Tired	10	991	May 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	Grateful for the past and amazed by the present...Goodbye to MIP and Thank you all (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and Thank each and everyone one of you here for the guidance, ESH, love and support you have shown me in the past 3/1-4 yrs since I found this board. I've always been treated with love, compassion and understanding. The knowledge and wisdom I've found here has helped me to grow a...	shellyj123	5	1001	May 25, 2011 by RLC
	Indiana Jones (Preview) Indian John said of himself: "I am a very sensitive person, I get hurt easily, and I don't suffer well." Boy, I can relate. I just uncovered this quote in my daily prayer and meditation and found myself laughing out loud. I knew there was a reason why the things I stuff away come out at the mo...	tommyecat	1	563	May 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Alcoholism vs. Drinking Too Much Once in a While (Preview) At what point did you folks know that the person (or perhaps people) you are here because of...where alcoholics...and not someone who simply had a bad habit of drinking too much, too often? I am really struggling with finding the fine line between someone who just unknowingly drinks too much and with...	Sisyphus	11	1531	May 25, 2011 by ilovedogs
	yagottawanna (Preview) This appeared in the Alanon Forum magazine many years ago. I heard this read at my Saturday morning meeting a few weeks ago and recently got a copy. Here's to passing it on. YagottawannaA small picture frame containing the odd looking word "yagottawanna" hangs on a wall in our local Ala...	tommyecat	11	1172	May 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Control vs. Self-Care - confused!! (Preview) I am brand new to the program. My BF, who I live with, is coming up on 5 years clean/sober. Unfortunately, not drinking/using doesn't mean he's perfect! LOL And I am codependent - I was before we met 4 years ago and seem to be repeating my own patterns. He has ADHD and we recently had a big blow out where he p...	Lyn0202	17	1280	May 25, 2011 by ilovedogs
	Changing tables? (Preview) What would you think if an Al-Anon friend who's always been at the same table as you suddenly started sitting at a different table? I am very disturbed by an incident that happened at my table at one of my F2F meetings this week: one of our members got a bit introspective and long-winded, and two women (bo...	atheos	8	1235	May 25, 2011 by abbyal
	Jerry & Others: Question for You (Preview) This evening, I spoke with my ex again. This time he was telling me that he stopped taking his medication for one of his medical condition: alcoholic neuropathy. He said the meds made him terribly depressed to the point he was thinking of suicide. He went on to say that while depressed, he thought ab...	GailMichelle	16	1064	May 24, 2011 by GailMichelle
	alcoholism is a family disease cont... conversation with my daughter (Preview) Hi again, so my daughter and I had a great evening last night...and this morning. I had to take her back to her dads today and all I could think about is my mom saying: "Danielle, your daughter is sad, she asked me about depression and bi-polar disorder!" "How does she even know what bi-p...	danielle0516	5	902	May 24, 2011 by danielle0516
	New way to describe honesty (Preview) Hi all. I went to a meeting last night with a younger gf of mine. It was a little overwhelming for her, which made it so for me as well. I was a bit more emotional than usual. Man, was I wanting to cry every second of that meeting. I am actually crying right now lol. A man from the meeting came up to us in the p...	member922	7	1382	May 24, 2011 by member922
	My friend attempted suicide tonight (Preview) I would have never guessed this would ever happen. I have been trying to get her to come with me to Al-anon and we already go to the same bible study group. Her AH has cheated recently and I knew she was having a hard time, but to get this call tonight makes me so furious with this disease!!!! Such a beautif...	flopadopilus	16	1577	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	I'm in a big pickle... (Preview) My fiance, alcoholic, our 2m old daughter and I live in my moms house. My mom knows he's an alcoholic (hard to hide) and the things he does (doesnt come home some nights and doesnt answer his phone so he can drink). Last week was her last straw. She said if he does it again, he's out. No if's and's or but's ab...	MAR2011	8	1105	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	How did you rid yourself of your A? (Preview) I feel like im flooding the boards but my mind is going a mile a minute. I know it's a possibility that I will end up, unfortunately, needing to leave my fiance. I do not want my daughter growing up around it or thinking it's ok and if nothing changes... it may have to happen. Truth be told, I cannot imagine...	MAR2011	14	1008	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	Beginning recovery - unexpected feelings (Preview) Hi Everyone, With much gratitude, I report that my alcoholic husband finally came to an emotional surrender - with many apologies and tears, and last week I took him (voluntarily) to an inpatient recovery program. Recap: I and my one-year-old child have been living with my in-laws for two months no...	KLotus	6	809	May 24, 2011 by kitty
	Fiancee just left me 7 months pregnant....Need any help I can get (Preview) mm....I dont know i guess i just need some perspective. My fiancee just left me seven months pregnant, the day after we signed a lease on a new place and left me hanging with a thousand dollars worth of orders to fill in our mutual business, that i am not capable of filling myself...some of them with depos...	sierramorningstar	6	732	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	Does anyone know if this is normal behavior for children of A`s (Preview) First of all, I personally feel hurt and betrayed by my 7 yr old grandaughter. I pretty much do everything for her as most of you have heard. When she is with her mother or her grandfather I get anxious because they let her stay up late and there just are no boundaries. I worry about how far she goes when she i...	Samsgram	12	1060	May 24, 2011 by Jennifer
	Any Missouri/Joplin members? (Preview) Constant stream of thoughts and prayers going your way...Be careful!! (((hugs)))	Jerry F	4	1395	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	I had a nice weekend... (Preview) This weekend my bf was away at a program for getting a DUI a year ago. It was so nice to hear from him, he was sober the whole time. We talked, but I also did a lot for me. I kept my focus on me and my kids. We laughed a lot and had some quiet time too. I spent some time at a friend's with her kids too, we made a big...	youfoundme	6	1272	May 23, 2011 by member922
	Seeing the Change.... (Preview) What a Month :0) I Currently Have so Many things going on right now, that I at times Catch myself just staring off into space Thanking HP for All the Blessings that have been Laid before me... I have found that when I am Down, it is by choice... And since I Turned My Frown Upside Down WOW has HP really opened m...	Jozie	4	817	May 23, 2011 by member922
	VENT (Preview) Well, ah who drinks every day managed to not drink all day on Friday for my birthday. But he's made up for it, now on day two of a binge. I've tried TCOMF, pretending that he isn't even here, as in reality, he isn't. His body may be here, drunk or passed out, but HE is not. I've been doing my own things, working...	pineapple	8	774	May 23, 2011 by pineapple
	Burnout (Preview) I think I've burned myself out. It started five years ago when I was 19, trying to single-handedly care for my schizophrenic sister while mom and dad were still in denial about her condition. Although mom and dad are now helping her and not in denial any more, I still have often felt stressed out by her (l...	atheos	4	1161	May 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	Detachment (fairly new to Alanon-adult child) (Preview) Hello Everyone: I'm attending Alanon meetings and trying very hard to understand things - it's very overwhelming. My father was an alcoholic-he's deceased now 5 years. I'm a non-alcoholic married to a non-alcoholic for 20 years and very happy with with husband. I have a male friend who I do lov...	kitty5	6	1283	May 23, 2011 by maryjane
	A Serenity Filled Saturday~AMAZING! (Preview) I had the most amazing Saturday~the best in months, and the only explanation I can find is that I "stopped" to smell the roses...the irony being I didn't stop all day long! We had our first sunshine filled day here in weeks it seemed, and when I woke up and saw the sunshine, I decided to soak i...	shellyj123	3	604	May 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	family and friends attitude (Preview) My AH is temporarily sober (who knows for how long) But my family can't seem to accept him, anymore. I moved out because of the chaos and stress his drinking brought to my life...but he was never angry or abusive to anyone...except for some unfortunate late night calls. He has been uninvited to family e...	alexmaui	8	883	May 23, 2011 by alexmaui
	Some ESH would be appreciated (Preview) Dear MIP family - and you are very dear to me. I am struggling at the moment with a very sick AH who is not eating - I can get my hand round his upper arm - and has a very damaged liver, gastric tract, etc.(for those who don't know - I have been married to AH for 39 years + and he has been alcohol dependant for the la...	Tattyhead	8	872	May 22, 2011 by maresie
	Rushing into relationships (Preview) One of my housemates has started dating her boss. They always did have an intense relationship. There were a lot of lines blurred in there. I feel uncomfortable because of course all my relationships (and most of them disasters) were started at warp speed. If someone wanted to date, get to know me...	maresie	9	1068	May 22, 2011 by maresie
	alcoholism really is a family disease... (Preview) So my mom comes over today to drop off some flowers. She starts talking about random stuff then the conversations turns to how she feels as a result of me not telling her what's going on in my life and, in particular, how I'm not sharing with her what I do and do not tell my daughter about what's going on with...	danielle0516	10	800	May 22, 2011 by danielle0516
	Battling the overwhelming (Preview) I'm not kidding when I say that my grass is 4 feet tall in some places around my yard - places I can't reach with the riding mower. When I walk around my yard I fight dispair because its SO much work - every single step around the yard shows me things I have to try to get done. I used to have a handle on it, before I...	likemyheart	16	982	May 22, 2011 by likemyheart
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