Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Nico22 · Nico22

Where to begin...first off I'm new to this website. I am reaching out for support from others. My fiance and I have been together for 4 1/2 years but only lived with one another for a year now. I have two kids in past relationship so I never spent the night at his house when we were dating. I didn't know h...

chinup · chinup

just wanna say i love all of these posts,ive learned a gr8t deal,ty all and i love each and everyone of u.

chinup · chinup

thanks for yur help ann ,i still cant figure this one out ive tried everything,lol i just wonder if the emails r coming off of a old account cause ive deleted several accounts and started new ones and every time i did it was still there even with the new accounts,i need help plz....chinup

Chelle3 · Chelle3

I'm trying to let go of resentments today, but am so far highly unsuccessful. My husband is actively drinking, but trying to gain some better coping skills in hopes that he won't have to rely on alcohol as much. He's also getting therapy and we are in marriage counseling which I applaud him for. One posi...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

This weekend has been one of the hardest in a long time. As some of you may know by reading my post from yesterday that my ex-AH is suffering from hallucinations again. This time he thinks that I had sex with one of his brothers the night of our eldest son's wedding. The ex lives on the same property as t...

sdisnie · sdisnie

In taking care of myself, and only working on myself and being there for my children, I have been able to completely block out the ExA in my life, he tries everything he can to get my goat and I just ignore it all.....the emails, the texts, and I never let him know how I'm feeling deep inside. He must think I...

TheJeanGenie · TheJeanGenie

Hi all, I was just wondering if anyone had any ES&H to share on the topic of anxiety and depression in the morning? I have this peculiar feeling, particularly on Mondays, a feeling of impending doom and hopelessness. I hate to get up. I normally try at least to do my daily reading, in an attempt t...

chinup · chinup

its all still going into my email,,,,says noreply@activeboard....new post in?how do i get this to stop.ty muches for yur help....chinup

Jennifer · Jennifer

Since I can not throw a get together and make you wear a paper plate hat with the present bows on top like my family of origin is prone to do ... I offer my congratulations. And a prayer, may your child be blessed and never want for the simple things in life. Jen

youfoundme · youfoundme

Ok, I just wanted to see what you do when that hormonal thing happens to you *every* month...how you handle that crankiness? Those that have already gone through the change, maybe you have some wisdom? And those that have worked the steps, do the hormones still affect you? I am just wondering becau...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

My A checked himself into the hospital Friday after a week of not drinking, he was still detoxing and having halucinations and losing blocks of time, snapping to in the strangest places. At the hospital, they 302'd him because he has been actively suicidal (not actually doing anything but going pla...

Evian · Evian

Hi everyone. Hope you all had a good weekend. So.. just a bit of an update. CAS has allowed AH to come home for the weekends, although it still has to be supervised. I was okay with it, even a little happy about it at first. I really needed his help with things. The first weekend was last weekend, and he came a...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Danielle reminded me. Do you guys find it hard to listen to music as it brings back memor99ies when you and A were ok,or even great? I was/am a real music person. A was a great musician, and quite famous in his time. Sadly during a time when friends were dieing from being idiots drinking and doing heroin. A...

chinup · chinup

what setting in here (message board)do i go to to stop all the messageboard topics from going to my email.my email is bogged down i must have allowed a setting the other week and didnt know what i did,plz can anyone help me to reverse this mistake?

sdisnie · sdisnie

I felt attacked by a fellow al-anon member. I had a discussion earlier this week with a friend who told me his dad 'used' to be an alcoholic. I agrued with him that there is no 'used' to be, but he claims that his dad was but now in his late years can drink socially and control it. I've always heard that alc...

maresie · maresie

When I met the ex A I had already been in therapy and in some kind of 12 step program for a long time. I really felt like I had a lot of insight and a great deal of recovery. Indeed I had come a long long way in looking at my childhood issues. I was no longer in denial about my childhood was one where I was abused...

atheos · atheos

I decided to try sitting at a different table this week -- wow am I ever glad I did! They're incredible... I don't even know how to describe it, except to say that the energy there is just amazing. And they've hit the right balance -- they're not afraid to share when they're struggling, and they also share...

Katy · Katy

Our son is twenty he lives here at home, he is a sensative lad with an heart of gold, he is always ready to help anyone, is sociable and gentle, he's gulable and daft, he likes getting drunk though and has been out of his head three times this week already, last night he came staggering home just after midn...

Otie · Otie

Hi, everyone. As many of you already know I am struggling to learn as much as I can about addiction and recovery. I often see written here, on the board, that only the alcoholic can say that he/she is an alcoholic (addict). I sense that this is some kind of "sacred rule" in alanon. I confes...

Rindaroo · Rindaroo

Hello, I went down this road many years ago with my husband and daughters father John. Alcohol and drugs ended up taking his life 7 years ago May 5th. I went to meetings and worked the steps and before and after his death. Al-anon was a blessing for me and in many ways still helps me today, but I haven't wor...

oldergal · oldergal

That our drunks, our alcoholic's are these really great, intelligent, sensitive, talented people. As I read some of the topics and think about the people I know it seems that these type of people are really special, what is it, a mere coincidence or what? Is there any truth in this, can anyone shed some...

Excavator · Excavator

I sure hope someone is around tonight. My wife just got out of ReHab 10 days ago ... 28 days in Seattle. She was so happy and positive when she got home! It was great to have her back!! Yesterday afternoon or evening she took a pill. I don't know how long she'd been taking them again or if this was the first tim...

Bettina · Bettina

Hope you all have a great weekend and no matter what your doing or where you are, enjoy yourself, let go and live in the moment. Fondly, Bettina

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Silly Little song, but it can chear me up if I'm in the right mood. [video=]

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...

Debilyn · Debilyn

VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...

All I can be · All I can be

A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...

Gailey · Gailey

I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...

bud · bud

Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...

clep · clep

Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....

Debilyn · Debilyn

I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...

Otie · Otie

Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...

cmarie · cmarie

hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...

Katy · Katy

Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?

guitargirl · guitargirl

My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...

Georgia · Georgia

so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.

RLC · RLC

Our program tonight at my Tuesday night meeting was on "Live And Let Live". It's never been my favorite slogan. "Don't React" and "How Important Is It" hold down #1 and #2 for me. Tonight it came to me how this program is so intertwined. If I live my life with the princ...

John · John

Hello folks, Someone has eluded to the idea that they thought their anonymity was automatically protected here, but this is a public message board. It can be crawled by google, yahoo, and another search bot that roams around the internet. If you are using your full name in your registration, inste...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

...I having a sponsor! This is the first time I've called her since she agreed to be my sponsor. I was still so hesitant to call. Why would she have the time to talk to me? She did. She had the time. She answered my called and listened and shared. I was able to talk to someone who has lived a life simil...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I just wanted to stop by and Thank each and everyone one of you here for the guidance, ESH, love and support you have shown me in the past 3/1-4 yrs since I found this board. I've always been treated with love, compassion and understanding. The knowledge and wisdom I've found here has helped me to grow a...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Indian John said of himself: "I am a very sensitive person, I get hurt easily, and I don't suffer well." Boy, I can relate. I just uncovered this quote in my daily prayer and meditation and found myself laughing out loud. I knew there was a reason why the things I stuff away come out at the mo...

Sisyphus · Sisyphus

At what point did you folks know that the person (or perhaps people) you are here because of...where alcoholics...and not someone who simply had a bad habit of drinking too much, too often? I am really struggling with finding the fine line between someone who just unknowingly drinks too much and with...

tommyecat · tommyecat

This appeared in the Alanon Forum magazine many years ago. I heard this read at my Saturday morning meeting a few weeks ago and recently got a copy. Here's to passing it on. YagottawannaA small picture frame containing the odd looking word "yagottawanna" hangs on a wall in our local Ala...

Lyn0202 · Lyn0202

I am brand new to the program. My BF, who I live with, is coming up on 5 years clean/sober. Unfortunately, not drinking/using doesn't mean he's perfect! LOL And I am codependent - I was before we met 4 years ago and seem to be repeating my own patterns. He has ADHD and we recently had a big blow out where he p...

atheos · atheos

What would you think if an Al-Anon friend who's always been at the same table as you suddenly started sitting at a different table? I am very disturbed by an incident that happened at my table at one of my F2F meetings this week: one of our members got a bit introspective and long-winded, and two women (bo...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

This evening, I spoke with my ex again. This time he was telling me that he stopped taking his medication for one of his medical condition: alcoholic neuropathy. He said the meds made him terribly depressed to the point he was thinking of suicide. He went on to say that while depressed, he thought ab...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi again, so my daughter and I had a great evening last night...and this morning. I had to take her back to her dads today and all I could think about is my mom saying: "Danielle, your daughter is sad, she asked me about depression and bi-polar disorder!" "How does she even know what bi-p...

member922 · member922

Hi all. I went to a meeting last night with a younger gf of mine. It was a little overwhelming for her, which made it so for me as well. I was a bit more emotional than usual. Man, was I wanting to cry every second of that meeting. I am actually crying right now lol. A man from the meeting came up to us in the p...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I would have never guessed this would ever happen. I have been trying to get her to come with me to Al-anon and we already go to the same bible study group. Her AH has cheated recently and I knew she was having a hard time, but to get this call tonight makes me so furious with this disease!!!! Such a beautif...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

My fiance, alcoholic, our 2m old daughter and I live in my moms house. My mom knows he's an alcoholic (hard to hide) and the things he does (doesnt come home some nights and doesnt answer his phone so he can drink). Last week was her last straw. She said if he does it again, he's out. No if's and's or but's ab...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

I feel like im flooding the boards but my mind is going a mile a minute. I know it's a possibility that I will end up, unfortunately, needing to leave my fiance. I do not want my daughter growing up around it or thinking it's ok and if nothing changes... it may have to happen. Truth be told, I cannot imagine...

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	One day at a time.... (Preview) Where to begin...first off I'm new to this website. I am reaching out for support from others. My fiance and I have been together for 4 1/2 years but only lived with one another for a year now. I have two kids in past relationship so I never spent the night at his house when we were dating. I didn't know h...	Nico22	4	532	May 31, 2011 by Nico22
	wonderful posts (Preview) just wanna say i love all of these posts,ive learned a gr8t deal,ty all and i love each and everyone of u.	chinup	2	406	May 31, 2011 by GailMichelle
	still getting norply@activeboard new post in????its bogging my email down ,help (Preview) thanks for yur help ann ,i still cant figure this one out ive tried everything,lol i just wonder if the emails r coming off of a old account cause ive deleted several accounts and started new ones and every time i did it was still there even with the new accounts,i need help plz....chinup	chinup	5	858	May 31, 2011 by likemyheart
	Trying to let go of resentments... (Preview) I'm trying to let go of resentments today, but am so far highly unsuccessful. My husband is actively drinking, but trying to gain some better coping skills in hopes that he won't have to rely on alcohol as much. He's also getting therapy and we are in marriage counseling which I applaud him for. One posi...	Chelle3	15	603	May 31, 2011 by kitty
	How I've Preserved My Sanity This Weekend (Preview) This weekend has been one of the hardest in a long time. As some of you may know by reading my post from yesterday that my ex-AH is suffering from hallucinations again. This time he thinks that I had sex with one of his brothers the night of our eldest son's wedding. The ex lives on the same property as t...	GailMichelle	2	445	May 31, 2011 by Debilyn
	Where does one draw the line? (Preview) In taking care of myself, and only working on myself and being there for my children, I have been able to completely block out the ExA in my life, he tries everything he can to get my goat and I just ignore it all.....the emails, the texts, and I never let him know how I'm feeling deep inside. He must think I...	sdisnie	8	667	May 31, 2011 by maff52
	Impending doom - Anxiety in the morning, ES&H? (Preview) Hi all, I was just wondering if anyone had any ES&H to share on the topic of anxiety and depression in the morning? I have this peculiar feeling, particularly on Mondays, a feeling of impending doom and hopelessness. I hate to get up. I normally try at least to do my daily reading, in an attempt t...	TheJeanGenie	7	2979	May 30, 2011 by Jerry F
	still getting the same problem with my email being backed up (Preview) its all still going into my email,,,,says noreply@activeboard....new post in?how do i get this to stop.ty muches for yur help....chinup	chinup	1	408	May 30, 2011 by likemyheart
	Pssst White Rabbit (Preview) Since I can not throw a get together and make you wear a paper plate hat with the present bows on top like my family of origin is prone to do ... I offer my congratulations. And a prayer, may your child be blessed and never want for the simple things in life. Jen	Jennifer	3	500	May 30, 2011 by youfoundme
	Ladies...question.... (Preview) Ok, I just wanted to see what you do when that hormonal thing happens to you every month...how you handle that crankiness? Those that have already gone through the change, maybe you have some wisdom? And those that have worked the steps, do the hormones still affect you? I am just wondering becau...	youfoundme	16	670	May 30, 2011 by youfoundme
	Maybe some light at the end of the tunnel... (Preview) My A checked himself into the hospital Friday after a week of not drinking, he was still detoxing and having halucinations and losing blocks of time, snapping to in the strangest places. At the hospital, they 302'd him because he has been actively suicidal (not actually doing anything but going pla...	MAR2011	3	438	May 30, 2011 by White Rabbit
	Court again this week (Preview) Hi everyone. Hope you all had a good weekend. So.. just a bit of an update. CAS has allowed AH to come home for the weekends, although it still has to be supervised. I was okay with it, even a little happy about it at first. I really needed his help with things. The first weekend was last weekend, and he came a...	Evian	6	486	May 30, 2011 by Evian
	Does music.... (Preview) Danielle reminded me. Do you guys find it hard to listen to music as it brings back memor99ies when you and A were ok,or even great? I was/am a real music person. A was a great musician, and quite famous in his time. Sadly during a time when friends were dieing from being idiots drinking and doing heroin. A...	Debilyn	9	600	May 30, 2011 by Debilyn
	problems with my email getting bogged down with mess.board topics (Preview) what setting in here (message board)do i go to to stop all the messageboard topics from going to my email.my email is bogged down i must have allowed a setting the other week and didnt know what i did,plz can anyone help me to reverse this mistake?	chinup	1	425	May 30, 2011 by canadianguy
	Wrong to ask questions? (Preview) I felt attacked by a fellow al-anon member. I had a discussion earlier this week with a friend who told me his dad 'used' to be an alcoholic. I agrued with him that there is no 'used' to be, but he claims that his dad was but now in his late years can drink socially and control it. I've always heard that alc...	sdisnie	17	1189	May 30, 2011 by sdisnie
	geting to the place of surrender (Preview) When I met the ex A I had already been in therapy and in some kind of 12 step program for a long time. I really felt like I had a lot of insight and a great deal of recovery. Indeed I had come a long long way in looking at my childhood issues. I was no longer in denial about my childhood was one where I was abused...	maresie	4	1194	May 30, 2011 by maryjane
	I love my new table! (Preview) I decided to try sitting at a different table this week -- wow am I ever glad I did! They're incredible... I don't even know how to describe it, except to say that the energy there is just amazing. And they've hit the right balance -- they're not afraid to share when they're struggling, and they also share...	atheos	5	392	May 30, 2011 by maryjane
	Learning to love the person! (Preview) Our son is twenty he lives here at home, he is a sensative lad with an heart of gold, he is always ready to help anyone, is sociable and gentle, he's gulable and daft, he likes getting drunk though and has been out of his head three times this week already, last night he came staggering home just after midn...	Katy	20	619	May 30, 2011 by Katy
	Could someone please give clarification? (Preview) Hi, everyone. As many of you already know I am struggling to learn as much as I can about addiction and recovery. I often see written here, on the board, that only the alcoholic can say that he/she is an alcoholic (addict). I sense that this is some kind of "sacred rule" in alanon. I confes...	Otie	17	1171	May 29, 2011 by sdisnie
	Here we go again (Preview) Hello, I went down this road many years ago with my husband and daughters father John. Alcohol and drugs ended up taking his life 7 years ago May 5th. I went to meetings and worked the steps and before and after his death. Al-anon was a blessing for me and in many ways still helps me today, but I haven't wor...	Rindaroo	6	552	May 29, 2011 by Jerry F
	Is it true or am I just imagining (Preview) That our drunks, our alcoholic's are these really great, intelligent, sensitive, talented people. As I read some of the topics and think about the people I know it seems that these type of people are really special, what is it, a mere coincidence or what? Is there any truth in this, can anyone shed some...	oldergal	7	508	May 29, 2011 by abbyal
	Wife is in jail tonight (Preview) I sure hope someone is around tonight. My wife just got out of ReHab 10 days ago ... 28 days in Seattle. She was so happy and positive when she got home! It was great to have her back!! Yesterday afternoon or evening she took a pill. I don't know how long she'd been taking them again or if this was the first tim...	Excavator	16	1067	May 29, 2011 by Excavator
	Happy Memorial (Preview) Hope you all have a great weekend and no matter what your doing or where you are, enjoy yourself, let go and live in the moment. Fondly, Bettina	Bettina	4	382	May 29, 2011 by tommyecat
	A Happy Song for When You're Down (Preview) Silly Little song, but it can chear me up if I'm in the right mood. [video=]	GailMichelle	3	448	May 29, 2011 by tommyecat
	Can someone throw a bucket of serenity my way? (Preview) AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...	Very Very Tired	16	578	May 29, 2011 by Rora
	People, people who need people....... (Preview) VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...	Debilyn	8	890	May 28, 2011 by All I can be
	sun comen thru the green leaves (Preview) Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...	Debilyn	6	551	May 28, 2011 by Debilyn
	How Al-Anon Works... (Preview) Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...	Jerry F	14	1613	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	A Smile (Preview) A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...	All I can be	3	700	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	Finally...... (Preview) I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...	Gailey	6	454	May 27, 2011 by abbyal
	repeat as needed ... sigh (Preview) I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...	Jennifer	4	439	May 27, 2011 by Jennifer
	Ok please...???? (Preview) I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...	youfoundme	7	609	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	trouble joining chat room - please help (Preview) Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?	bud	5	411	May 27, 2011 by bud
	some music (Preview) Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...	danielle0516	2	412	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	What is rejection (Preview) Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....	clep	18	1074	May 26, 2011 by Jerry F
	ugh (Preview) I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...	Debilyn	7	536	May 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	What is my part? (Preview) Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...	canadianguy	17	797	May 26, 2011 by likemyheart
	Opening Pandora's Box (Preview) Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...	Otie	10	854	May 26, 2011 by Lyn0202
	Al-Anon newbie in a tough bind! (Preview) hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...	cmarie	8	482	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Find a face to face! and why, (Preview) Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...	Katy	6	375	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Faith (Preview) I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...	tommyecat	3	609	May 26, 2011 by youfoundme
	subscription (Preview) Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?	tommyecat	4	412	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Sponsor/relationship/friend triangle (Preview) My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...	guitargirl	8	1997	May 25, 2011 by hotrod
	Let it begin with me (Preview) I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...	youfoundme	7	1356	May 25, 2011 by GailMichelle
	too funny (sad, really) not to share (Preview) so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.	Georgia	11	1064	May 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	"Live And Let Live" Are Not Just Words To Me Anymore !! (Preview) Our program tonight at my Tuesday night meeting was on "Live And Let Live". It's never been my favorite slogan. "Don't React" and "How Important Is It" hold down #1 and #2 for me. Tonight it came to me how this program is so intertwined. If I live my life with the princ...	RLC	7	4882	May 25, 2011 by hotrod
	Your anonymity is not automatically protected here. (From John) (Preview) Hello folks, Someone has eluded to the idea that they thought their anonymity was automatically protected here, but this is a public message board. It can be crawled by google, yahoo, and another search bot that roams around the internet. If you are using your full name in your registration, inste...	John	4	833	May 25, 2011 by atheos
	Can I just say... (Preview) ...I having a sponsor! This is the first time I've called her since she agreed to be my sponsor. I was still so hesitant to call. Why would she have the time to talk to me? She did. She had the time. She answered my called and listened and shared. I was able to talk to someone who has lived a life simil...	Very Very Tired	10	1033	May 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	Grateful for the past and amazed by the present...Goodbye to MIP and Thank you all (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and Thank each and everyone one of you here for the guidance, ESH, love and support you have shown me in the past 3/1-4 yrs since I found this board. I've always been treated with love, compassion and understanding. The knowledge and wisdom I've found here has helped me to grow a...	shellyj123	5	1037	May 25, 2011 by RLC
	Indiana Jones (Preview) Indian John said of himself: "I am a very sensitive person, I get hurt easily, and I don't suffer well." Boy, I can relate. I just uncovered this quote in my daily prayer and meditation and found myself laughing out loud. I knew there was a reason why the things I stuff away come out at the mo...	tommyecat	1	598	May 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Alcoholism vs. Drinking Too Much Once in a While (Preview) At what point did you folks know that the person (or perhaps people) you are here because of...where alcoholics...and not someone who simply had a bad habit of drinking too much, too often? I am really struggling with finding the fine line between someone who just unknowingly drinks too much and with...	Sisyphus	11	1567	May 25, 2011 by ilovedogs
	yagottawanna (Preview) This appeared in the Alanon Forum magazine many years ago. I heard this read at my Saturday morning meeting a few weeks ago and recently got a copy. Here's to passing it on. YagottawannaA small picture frame containing the odd looking word "yagottawanna" hangs on a wall in our local Ala...	tommyecat	11	1206	May 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Control vs. Self-Care - confused!! (Preview) I am brand new to the program. My BF, who I live with, is coming up on 5 years clean/sober. Unfortunately, not drinking/using doesn't mean he's perfect! LOL And I am codependent - I was before we met 4 years ago and seem to be repeating my own patterns. He has ADHD and we recently had a big blow out where he p...	Lyn0202	17	1343	May 25, 2011 by ilovedogs
	Changing tables? (Preview) What would you think if an Al-Anon friend who's always been at the same table as you suddenly started sitting at a different table? I am very disturbed by an incident that happened at my table at one of my F2F meetings this week: one of our members got a bit introspective and long-winded, and two women (bo...	atheos	8	1276	May 25, 2011 by abbyal
	Jerry & Others: Question for You (Preview) This evening, I spoke with my ex again. This time he was telling me that he stopped taking his medication for one of his medical condition: alcoholic neuropathy. He said the meds made him terribly depressed to the point he was thinking of suicide. He went on to say that while depressed, he thought ab...	GailMichelle	16	1104	May 24, 2011 by GailMichelle
	alcoholism is a family disease cont... conversation with my daughter (Preview) Hi again, so my daughter and I had a great evening last night...and this morning. I had to take her back to her dads today and all I could think about is my mom saying: "Danielle, your daughter is sad, she asked me about depression and bi-polar disorder!" "How does she even know what bi-p...	danielle0516	5	938	May 24, 2011 by danielle0516
	New way to describe honesty (Preview) Hi all. I went to a meeting last night with a younger gf of mine. It was a little overwhelming for her, which made it so for me as well. I was a bit more emotional than usual. Man, was I wanting to cry every second of that meeting. I am actually crying right now lol. A man from the meeting came up to us in the p...	member922	7	1416	May 24, 2011 by member922
	My friend attempted suicide tonight (Preview) I would have never guessed this would ever happen. I have been trying to get her to come with me to Al-anon and we already go to the same bible study group. Her AH has cheated recently and I knew she was having a hard time, but to get this call tonight makes me so furious with this disease!!!! Such a beautif...	flopadopilus	16	1615	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	I'm in a big pickle... (Preview) My fiance, alcoholic, our 2m old daughter and I live in my moms house. My mom knows he's an alcoholic (hard to hide) and the things he does (doesnt come home some nights and doesnt answer his phone so he can drink). Last week was her last straw. She said if he does it again, he's out. No if's and's or but's ab...	MAR2011	8	1141	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	How did you rid yourself of your A? (Preview) I feel like im flooding the boards but my mind is going a mile a minute. I know it's a possibility that I will end up, unfortunately, needing to leave my fiance. I do not want my daughter growing up around it or thinking it's ok and if nothing changes... it may have to happen. Truth be told, I cannot imagine...	MAR2011	14	1043	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
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