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Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...

Debilyn · Debilyn

VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...

All I can be · All I can be

A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...

Gailey · Gailey

I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...

bud · bud

Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...

clep · clep

Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....

Debilyn · Debilyn

I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...

Otie · Otie

Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...

cmarie · cmarie

hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...

Katy · Katy

Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?

guitargirl · guitargirl

My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...

Georgia · Georgia

so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.

RLC · RLC

Our program tonight at my Tuesday night meeting was on "Live And Let Live". It's never been my favorite slogan. "Don't React" and "How Important Is It" hold down #1 and #2 for me. Tonight it came to me how this program is so intertwined. If I live my life with the princ...

John · John

Hello folks, Someone has eluded to the idea that they thought their anonymity was automatically protected here, but this is a public message board. It can be crawled by google, yahoo, and another search bot that roams around the internet. If you are using your full name in your registration, inste...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

...I having a sponsor! This is the first time I've called her since she agreed to be my sponsor. I was still so hesitant to call. Why would she have the time to talk to me? She did. She had the time. She answered my called and listened and shared. I was able to talk to someone who has lived a life simil...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I just wanted to stop by and Thank each and everyone one of you here for the guidance, ESH, love and support you have shown me in the past 3/1-4 yrs since I found this board. I've always been treated with love, compassion and understanding. The knowledge and wisdom I've found here has helped me to grow a...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Indian John said of himself: "I am a very sensitive person, I get hurt easily, and I don't suffer well." Boy, I can relate. I just uncovered this quote in my daily prayer and meditation and found myself laughing out loud. I knew there was a reason why the things I stuff away come out at the mo...

Sisyphus · Sisyphus

At what point did you folks know that the person (or perhaps people) you are here because of...where alcoholics...and not someone who simply had a bad habit of drinking too much, too often? I am really struggling with finding the fine line between someone who just unknowingly drinks too much and with...

tommyecat · tommyecat

This appeared in the Alanon Forum magazine many years ago. I heard this read at my Saturday morning meeting a few weeks ago and recently got a copy. Here's to passing it on. YagottawannaA small picture frame containing the odd looking word "yagottawanna" hangs on a wall in our local Ala...

Lyn0202 · Lyn0202

I am brand new to the program. My BF, who I live with, is coming up on 5 years clean/sober. Unfortunately, not drinking/using doesn't mean he's perfect! LOL And I am codependent - I was before we met 4 years ago and seem to be repeating my own patterns. He has ADHD and we recently had a big blow out where he p...

atheos · atheos

What would you think if an Al-Anon friend who's always been at the same table as you suddenly started sitting at a different table? I am very disturbed by an incident that happened at my table at one of my F2F meetings this week: one of our members got a bit introspective and long-winded, and two women (bo...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

This evening, I spoke with my ex again. This time he was telling me that he stopped taking his medication for one of his medical condition: alcoholic neuropathy. He said the meds made him terribly depressed to the point he was thinking of suicide. He went on to say that while depressed, he thought ab...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi again, so my daughter and I had a great evening last night...and this morning. I had to take her back to her dads today and all I could think about is my mom saying: "Danielle, your daughter is sad, she asked me about depression and bi-polar disorder!" "How does she even know what bi-p...

member922 · member922

Hi all. I went to a meeting last night with a younger gf of mine. It was a little overwhelming for her, which made it so for me as well. I was a bit more emotional than usual. Man, was I wanting to cry every second of that meeting. I am actually crying right now lol. A man from the meeting came up to us in the p...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I would have never guessed this would ever happen. I have been trying to get her to come with me to Al-anon and we already go to the same bible study group. Her AH has cheated recently and I knew she was having a hard time, but to get this call tonight makes me so furious with this disease!!!! Such a beautif...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

My fiance, alcoholic, our 2m old daughter and I live in my moms house. My mom knows he's an alcoholic (hard to hide) and the things he does (doesnt come home some nights and doesnt answer his phone so he can drink). Last week was her last straw. She said if he does it again, he's out. No if's and's or but's ab...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

I feel like im flooding the boards but my mind is going a mile a minute. I know it's a possibility that I will end up, unfortunately, needing to leave my fiance. I do not want my daughter growing up around it or thinking it's ok and if nothing changes... it may have to happen. Truth be told, I cannot imagine...

KLotus · KLotus

Hi Everyone, With much gratitude, I report that my alcoholic husband finally came to an emotional surrender - with many apologies and tears, and last week I took him (voluntarily) to an inpatient recovery program. Recap: I and my one-year-old child have been living with my in-laws for two months no...

sierramorningstar · sierramorningstar

mm....I dont know i guess i just need some perspective. My fiancee just left me seven months pregnant, the day after we signed a lease on a new place and left me hanging with a thousand dollars worth of orders to fill in our mutual business, that i am not capable of filling myself...some of them with depos...

Samsgram · Samsgram

First of all, I personally feel hurt and betrayed by my 7 yr old grandaughter. I pretty much do everything for her as most of you have heard. When she is with her mother or her grandfather I get anxious because they let her stay up late and there just are no boundaries. I worry about how far she goes when she i...

Any Missouri/Joplin members? · Jerry F

Constant stream of thoughts and prayers going your way...Be careful!! (((hugs)))

youfoundme · youfoundme

This weekend my bf was away at a program for getting a DUI a year ago. It was so nice to hear from him, he was sober the whole time. We talked, but I also did a lot for me. I kept my focus on me and my kids. We laughed a lot and had some quiet time too. I spent some time at a friend's with her kids too, we made a big...

Jozie · Jozie

What a Month :0) I Currently Have so Many things going on right now, that I at times Catch myself just staring off into space Thanking HP for All the Blessings that have been Laid before me... I have found that when I am Down, it is by choice... And since I Turned My Frown Upside Down WOW has HP really opened m...

pineapple · pineapple

Well, ah who drinks every day managed to not drink all day on Friday for my birthday. But he's made up for it, now on day two of a binge. I've tried TCOMF, pretending that he isn't even here, as in reality, he isn't. His body may be here, drunk or passed out, but HE is not. I've been doing my own things, working...

atheos · atheos

I think I've burned myself out. It started five years ago when I was 19, trying to single-handedly care for my schizophrenic sister while mom and dad were still in denial about her condition. Although mom and dad are now helping her and not in denial any more, I still have often felt stressed out by her (l...

kitty5 · kitty5

Hello Everyone: I'm attending Alanon meetings and trying very hard to understand things - it's very overwhelming. My father was an alcoholic-he's deceased now 5 years. I'm a non-alcoholic married to a non-alcoholic for 20 years and very happy with with husband. I have a male friend who I do lov...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I had the most amazing Saturday~the best in months, and the only explanation I can find is that I "stopped" to smell the roses...the irony being I didn't stop all day long! We had our first sunshine filled day here in weeks it seemed, and when I woke up and saw the sunshine, I decided to soak i...

alexmaui · alexmaui

My AH is temporarily sober (who knows for how long) But my family can't seem to accept him, anymore. I moved out because of the chaos and stress his drinking brought to my life...but he was never angry or abusive to anyone...except for some unfortunate late night calls. He has been uninvited to family e...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Dear MIP family - and you are very dear to me. I am struggling at the moment with a very sick AH who is not eating - I can get my hand round his upper arm - and has a very damaged liver, gastric tract, etc.(for those who don't know - I have been married to AH for 39 years + and he has been alcohol dependant for the la...

maresie · maresie

One of my housemates has started dating her boss. They always did have an intense relationship. There were a lot of lines blurred in there. I feel uncomfortable because of course all my relationships (and most of them disasters) were started at warp speed. If someone wanted to date, get to know me...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

So my mom comes over today to drop off some flowers. She starts talking about random stuff then the conversations turns to how she feels as a result of me not telling her what's going on in my life and, in particular, how I'm not sharing with her what I do and do not tell my daughter about what's going on with...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I'm not kidding when I say that my grass is 4 feet tall in some places around my yard - places I can't reach with the riding mower. When I walk around my yard I fight dispair because its SO much work - every single step around the yard shows me things I have to try to get done. I used to have a handle on it, before I...

surfingmaestro · surfingmaestro

Hi Everyone, I feel better when I post here, much the same way I feel better when I share at a meeting. So right now I'm writing just to make the fingers do something and get the gobidilgluck out of my head. As I have shared before, my wife is 12 months sober from alcohol and benzos this coming Wednesday. ...

tommyecat · tommyecat

.......read a sign in a local state park..... D O N O T F E E D T H E A N I M A L S ...You will DESTROY their natural instinct for survival The sign reminds me of myself before I walked into the rooms of Alanon. Enabling, doing for others rather than myself, covering up lies, protecting loved ones fr...

member922 · member922

So I haven't spoken with the ABF in almost 2 wks. We have decided on a 1 month break. I am wishing that he would contact me at least to say hi. Just general conversation. I know I don't want him to and I appreciate his respect of the boundary. I am doing so well without him, not looking for emails from him s...

JustJill · JustJill

My fiance went to his moms to spend his weekend with his 11 year old son. They had usually came here, but since last weekend was a bad weekend of his drinking I asked him to please go there. I am tired of the drinking, the added flavoring, the need to drink to get work done. Actually I am just tired. He called l...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Tonight, my ex called me. He was down. He had a cold, so I wasn't certain if he meant he was down because he was physically ill. Then, he said that he was down because he lost his job, his house, and wife. That was the exact order. I've heard that for men the job is the hardest to loose. What does one say...

RLC · RLC

Sending you birthday wishes to Guatemala. I hope you have a great day, eat a lot of cake.........and don't get mad at me for telling the world. LOL. Happy Birthday HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Friday 20th of May 2011 02:26:38 AM

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

my a b/f thats what he will ever be untill i cut it off completely,i live in my own home me and my son i pay my own bills and take care of my 24 y/o son whom has several dr appt.due to severe sleep apnea and low oxygen levels he weighs 404 lbs,so yes ive got my hands full everythings in my name (thank gosh).so my a b...

oldergal · oldergal

Kinda confused about this, I am not sure what it means to have boundaries, but yet don't have expectations? Can anyone explain this. It seems to me if you have boundaries, these are like expectations....???

kitty5 · kitty5

I have a male friend who is an alcoholic. He is very nice but when he drinks which is all the time I just can't be there to see it or be part of it as I am an adult child of an alcoholic (deceased father) so it brings up horrific memories for me. I love my alcoholic friend as a brother and it kills me to see him se...

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	Can someone throw a bucket of serenity my way? (Preview) AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...	Very Very Tired	16	528	May 29, 2011 by Rora
	People, people who need people....... (Preview) VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...	Debilyn	8	839	May 28, 2011 by All I can be
	sun comen thru the green leaves (Preview) Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...	Debilyn	6	505	May 28, 2011 by Debilyn
	How Al-Anon Works... (Preview) Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...	Jerry F	14	1556	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	A Smile (Preview) A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...	All I can be	3	649	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	Finally...... (Preview) I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...	Gailey	6	400	May 27, 2011 by abbyal
	repeat as needed ... sigh (Preview) I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...	Jennifer	4	389	May 27, 2011 by Jennifer
	Ok please...???? (Preview) I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...	youfoundme	7	560	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	trouble joining chat room - please help (Preview) Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?	bud	5	359	May 27, 2011 by bud
	some music (Preview) Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...	danielle0516	2	365	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	What is rejection (Preview) Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....	clep	18	1017	May 26, 2011 by Jerry F
	ugh (Preview) I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...	Debilyn	7	481	May 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	What is my part? (Preview) Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...	canadianguy	17	744	May 26, 2011 by likemyheart
	Opening Pandora's Box (Preview) Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...	Otie	10	806	May 26, 2011 by Lyn0202
	Al-Anon newbie in a tough bind! (Preview) hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...	cmarie	8	434	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Find a face to face! and why, (Preview) Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...	Katy	6	328	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Faith (Preview) I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...	tommyecat	3	559	May 26, 2011 by youfoundme
	subscription (Preview) Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?	tommyecat	4	359	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Sponsor/relationship/friend triangle (Preview) My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...	guitargirl	8	1931	May 25, 2011 by hotrod
	Let it begin with me (Preview) I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...	youfoundme	7	1306	May 25, 2011 by GailMichelle
	too funny (sad, really) not to share (Preview) so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.	Georgia	11	1016	May 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	"Live And Let Live" Are Not Just Words To Me Anymore !! (Preview) Our program tonight at my Tuesday night meeting was on "Live And Let Live". It's never been my favorite slogan. "Don't React" and "How Important Is It" hold down #1 and #2 for me. Tonight it came to me how this program is so intertwined. If I live my life with the princ...	RLC	7	4578	May 25, 2011 by hotrod
	Your anonymity is not automatically protected here. (From John) (Preview) Hello folks, Someone has eluded to the idea that they thought their anonymity was automatically protected here, but this is a public message board. It can be crawled by google, yahoo, and another search bot that roams around the internet. If you are using your full name in your registration, inste...	John	4	787	May 25, 2011 by atheos
	Can I just say... (Preview) ...I having a sponsor! This is the first time I've called her since she agreed to be my sponsor. I was still so hesitant to call. Why would she have the time to talk to me? She did. She had the time. She answered my called and listened and shared. I was able to talk to someone who has lived a life simil...	Very Very Tired	10	976	May 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	Grateful for the past and amazed by the present...Goodbye to MIP and Thank you all (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and Thank each and everyone one of you here for the guidance, ESH, love and support you have shown me in the past 3/1-4 yrs since I found this board. I've always been treated with love, compassion and understanding. The knowledge and wisdom I've found here has helped me to grow a...	shellyj123	5	987	May 25, 2011 by RLC
	Indiana Jones (Preview) Indian John said of himself: "I am a very sensitive person, I get hurt easily, and I don't suffer well." Boy, I can relate. I just uncovered this quote in my daily prayer and meditation and found myself laughing out loud. I knew there was a reason why the things I stuff away come out at the mo...	tommyecat	1	549	May 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Alcoholism vs. Drinking Too Much Once in a While (Preview) At what point did you folks know that the person (or perhaps people) you are here because of...where alcoholics...and not someone who simply had a bad habit of drinking too much, too often? I am really struggling with finding the fine line between someone who just unknowingly drinks too much and with...	Sisyphus	11	1516	May 25, 2011 by ilovedogs
	yagottawanna (Preview) This appeared in the Alanon Forum magazine many years ago. I heard this read at my Saturday morning meeting a few weeks ago and recently got a copy. Here's to passing it on. YagottawannaA small picture frame containing the odd looking word "yagottawanna" hangs on a wall in our local Ala...	tommyecat	11	1159	May 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Control vs. Self-Care - confused!! (Preview) I am brand new to the program. My BF, who I live with, is coming up on 5 years clean/sober. Unfortunately, not drinking/using doesn't mean he's perfect! LOL And I am codependent - I was before we met 4 years ago and seem to be repeating my own patterns. He has ADHD and we recently had a big blow out where he p...	Lyn0202	17	1266	May 25, 2011 by ilovedogs
	Changing tables? (Preview) What would you think if an Al-Anon friend who's always been at the same table as you suddenly started sitting at a different table? I am very disturbed by an incident that happened at my table at one of my F2F meetings this week: one of our members got a bit introspective and long-winded, and two women (bo...	atheos	8	1216	May 25, 2011 by abbyal
	Jerry & Others: Question for You (Preview) This evening, I spoke with my ex again. This time he was telling me that he stopped taking his medication for one of his medical condition: alcoholic neuropathy. He said the meds made him terribly depressed to the point he was thinking of suicide. He went on to say that while depressed, he thought ab...	GailMichelle	16	1049	May 24, 2011 by GailMichelle
	alcoholism is a family disease cont... conversation with my daughter (Preview) Hi again, so my daughter and I had a great evening last night...and this morning. I had to take her back to her dads today and all I could think about is my mom saying: "Danielle, your daughter is sad, she asked me about depression and bi-polar disorder!" "How does she even know what bi-p...	danielle0516	5	888	May 24, 2011 by danielle0516
	New way to describe honesty (Preview) Hi all. I went to a meeting last night with a younger gf of mine. It was a little overwhelming for her, which made it so for me as well. I was a bit more emotional than usual. Man, was I wanting to cry every second of that meeting. I am actually crying right now lol. A man from the meeting came up to us in the p...	member922	7	1368	May 24, 2011 by member922
	My friend attempted suicide tonight (Preview) I would have never guessed this would ever happen. I have been trying to get her to come with me to Al-anon and we already go to the same bible study group. Her AH has cheated recently and I knew she was having a hard time, but to get this call tonight makes me so furious with this disease!!!! Such a beautif...	flopadopilus	16	1563	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	I'm in a big pickle... (Preview) My fiance, alcoholic, our 2m old daughter and I live in my moms house. My mom knows he's an alcoholic (hard to hide) and the things he does (doesnt come home some nights and doesnt answer his phone so he can drink). Last week was her last straw. She said if he does it again, he's out. No if's and's or but's ab...	MAR2011	8	1091	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	How did you rid yourself of your A? (Preview) I feel like im flooding the boards but my mind is going a mile a minute. I know it's a possibility that I will end up, unfortunately, needing to leave my fiance. I do not want my daughter growing up around it or thinking it's ok and if nothing changes... it may have to happen. Truth be told, I cannot imagine...	MAR2011	14	994	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	Beginning recovery - unexpected feelings (Preview) Hi Everyone, With much gratitude, I report that my alcoholic husband finally came to an emotional surrender - with many apologies and tears, and last week I took him (voluntarily) to an inpatient recovery program. Recap: I and my one-year-old child have been living with my in-laws for two months no...	KLotus	6	794	May 24, 2011 by kitty
	Fiancee just left me 7 months pregnant....Need any help I can get (Preview) mm....I dont know i guess i just need some perspective. My fiancee just left me seven months pregnant, the day after we signed a lease on a new place and left me hanging with a thousand dollars worth of orders to fill in our mutual business, that i am not capable of filling myself...some of them with depos...	sierramorningstar	6	718	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	Does anyone know if this is normal behavior for children of A`s (Preview) First of all, I personally feel hurt and betrayed by my 7 yr old grandaughter. I pretty much do everything for her as most of you have heard. When she is with her mother or her grandfather I get anxious because they let her stay up late and there just are no boundaries. I worry about how far she goes when she i...	Samsgram	12	1046	May 24, 2011 by Jennifer
	Any Missouri/Joplin members? (Preview) Constant stream of thoughts and prayers going your way...Be careful!! (((hugs)))	Jerry F	4	1381	May 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	I had a nice weekend... (Preview) This weekend my bf was away at a program for getting a DUI a year ago. It was so nice to hear from him, he was sober the whole time. We talked, but I also did a lot for me. I kept my focus on me and my kids. We laughed a lot and had some quiet time too. I spent some time at a friend's with her kids too, we made a big...	youfoundme	6	1258	May 23, 2011 by member922
	Seeing the Change.... (Preview) What a Month :0) I Currently Have so Many things going on right now, that I at times Catch myself just staring off into space Thanking HP for All the Blessings that have been Laid before me... I have found that when I am Down, it is by choice... And since I Turned My Frown Upside Down WOW has HP really opened m...	Jozie	4	803	May 23, 2011 by member922
	VENT (Preview) Well, ah who drinks every day managed to not drink all day on Friday for my birthday. But he's made up for it, now on day two of a binge. I've tried TCOMF, pretending that he isn't even here, as in reality, he isn't. His body may be here, drunk or passed out, but HE is not. I've been doing my own things, working...	pineapple	8	759	May 23, 2011 by pineapple
	Burnout (Preview) I think I've burned myself out. It started five years ago when I was 19, trying to single-handedly care for my schizophrenic sister while mom and dad were still in denial about her condition. Although mom and dad are now helping her and not in denial any more, I still have often felt stressed out by her (l...	atheos	4	1139	May 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	Detachment (fairly new to Alanon-adult child) (Preview) Hello Everyone: I'm attending Alanon meetings and trying very hard to understand things - it's very overwhelming. My father was an alcoholic-he's deceased now 5 years. I'm a non-alcoholic married to a non-alcoholic for 20 years and very happy with with husband. I have a male friend who I do lov...	kitty5	6	1269	May 23, 2011 by maryjane
	A Serenity Filled Saturday~AMAZING! (Preview) I had the most amazing Saturday~the best in months, and the only explanation I can find is that I "stopped" to smell the roses...the irony being I didn't stop all day long! We had our first sunshine filled day here in weeks it seemed, and when I woke up and saw the sunshine, I decided to soak i...	shellyj123	3	590	May 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	family and friends attitude (Preview) My AH is temporarily sober (who knows for how long) But my family can't seem to accept him, anymore. I moved out because of the chaos and stress his drinking brought to my life...but he was never angry or abusive to anyone...except for some unfortunate late night calls. He has been uninvited to family e...	alexmaui	8	869	May 23, 2011 by alexmaui
	Some ESH would be appreciated (Preview) Dear MIP family - and you are very dear to me. I am struggling at the moment with a very sick AH who is not eating - I can get my hand round his upper arm - and has a very damaged liver, gastric tract, etc.(for those who don't know - I have been married to AH for 39 years + and he has been alcohol dependant for the la...	Tattyhead	8	858	May 22, 2011 by maresie
	Rushing into relationships (Preview) One of my housemates has started dating her boss. They always did have an intense relationship. There were a lot of lines blurred in there. I feel uncomfortable because of course all my relationships (and most of them disasters) were started at warp speed. If someone wanted to date, get to know me...	maresie	9	1052	May 22, 2011 by maresie
	alcoholism really is a family disease... (Preview) So my mom comes over today to drop off some flowers. She starts talking about random stuff then the conversations turns to how she feels as a result of me not telling her what's going on in my life and, in particular, how I'm not sharing with her what I do and do not tell my daughter about what's going on with...	danielle0516	10	786	May 22, 2011 by danielle0516
	Battling the overwhelming (Preview) I'm not kidding when I say that my grass is 4 feet tall in some places around my yard - places I can't reach with the riding mower. When I walk around my yard I fight dispair because its SO much work - every single step around the yard shows me things I have to try to get done. I used to have a handle on it, before I...	likemyheart	16	966	May 22, 2011 by likemyheart
	Sad and Lonely Today (Preview) Hi Everyone, I feel better when I post here, much the same way I feel better when I share at a meeting. So right now I'm writing just to make the fingers do something and get the gobidilgluck out of my head. As I have shared before, my wife is 12 months sober from alcohol and benzos this coming Wednesday. ...	surfingmaestro	7	780	May 22, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Do Not Feed The Animals (Preview) .......read a sign in a local state park..... D O N O T F E E D T H E A N I M A L S ...You will DESTROY their natural instinct for survival The sign reminds me of myself before I walked into the rooms of Alanon. Enabling, doing for others rather than myself, covering up lies, protecting loved ones fr...	tommyecat	8	1310	May 22, 2011 by tommyecat
	Wavering - UGH (Preview) So I haven't spoken with the ABF in almost 2 wks. We have decided on a 1 month break. I am wishing that he would contact me at least to say hi. Just general conversation. I know I don't want him to and I appreciate his respect of the boundary. I am doing so well without him, not looking for emails from him s...	member922	21	990	May 21, 2011 by flopadopilus
	a decision finally (Preview) My fiance went to his moms to spend his weekend with his 11 year old son. They had usually came here, but since last weekend was a bad weekend of his drinking I asked him to please go there. I am tired of the drinking, the added flavoring, the need to drink to get work done. Actually I am just tired. He called l...	JustJill	6	714	May 21, 2011 by maryjane
	How to Respond? (Preview) Tonight, my ex called me. He was down. He had a cold, so I wasn't certain if he meant he was down because he was physically ill. Then, he said that he was down because he lost his job, his house, and wife. That was the exact order. I've heard that for men the job is the hardest to loose. What does one say...	GailMichelle	9	979	May 21, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Hey Everyone...........Today Is Pineapple's Birthday !! (Preview) Sending you birthday wishes to Guatemala. I hope you have a great day, eat a lot of cake.........and don't get mad at me for telling the world. LOL. Happy Birthday HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Friday 20th of May 2011 02:26:38 AM	RLC	14	1473	May 21, 2011 by Tattyhead
	tough decisions (Preview) my a b/f thats what he will ever be untill i cut it off completely,i live in my own home me and my son i pay my own bills and take care of my 24 y/o son whom has several dr appt.due to severe sleep apnea and low oxygen levels he weighs 404 lbs,so yes ive got my hands full everythings in my name (thank gosh).so my a b...	pattyann1963	4	766	May 21, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Boundaries/Expectations (Preview) Kinda confused about this, I am not sure what it means to have boundaries, but yet don't have expectations? Can anyone explain this. It seems to me if you have boundaries, these are like expectations....???	oldergal	14	9518	May 21, 2011 by Otie
	new to Alanon - please need help re: trouble with alcoholic friend help (Preview) I have a male friend who is an alcoholic. He is very nice but when he drinks which is all the time I just can't be there to see it or be part of it as I am an adult child of an alcoholic (deceased father) so it brings up horrific memories for me. I love my alcoholic friend as a brother and it kills me to see him se...	kitty5	12	20673	May 21, 2011 by hotrod
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