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Ashley89 · Ashley89

Hey all... My partner decided to get give up the alcohol about 4 weeks ago, Said he would get help by going to AA meetings, couselling etc. Still to this day he has made no effort to get the help, making any phone calls or going to AA groups. I asked him twice in the last 4 weeks if he has rang to book an appt and...

CountryGirl · CountryGirl

It has been one year and four days since my loved one entered rehab and quickly relapsed. I set a very strict boundary that for the longest time seemed so unfair. "If you drink again, I am gone" He drank, I literally packed up everything I owned and moved 3 hours away. That was 9 months ago and in...

hope4ever · hope4ever

Hello everyone. I am so freaking happy to be here. This is my first post and I just need to be really honest and up front about my defects. I have been in alanon for about a year now and attend 2 meetings a week. I have been able to find great support in the program but am coming up against a block. Here is...

silent · silent

im haveing a diff. veiw of my ex a today after talking toa girl on my f/b about him that he had been trying to hook up with,but she told me that everytime she or he called her he would be drunk and would tell off on himself we we became freinds,which is good she is a very sweet person a has a good head on her should...

willowtree · willowtree

Has anyone tried EFT (emotional freedom technique-tapping) I have heard it is really helpful. I have tried it some but didn't feel to much of a difference. I am confused because Alanon teaches that we have to surrender and yet EFT teaches that we can tap and help our body release these negative ener...

Temple · Temple

I'm probably older than most anybody on here. Today I was thinking I may have 12 or 15 years left. No guarantees with that, of course. And I got to thinking about how I want to live these next years--however many are given to me. Mind you, in my head I don't feel any different than the youngest of you. Bu...

Fina · Fina

I'm moving back to the states Wednesday and am not sure about access to the internet or what I'll be doing the rest of this week. Will you all make an effort to cover for me for these three meetings? Thanks. Fina.

Olive · Olive

We had a bad episode two weeks ago. My AH became agressive towards our 17 year old nephew who lives with us and later became physical with him as my nephew went into the house to get away from him. The whole situation seemed to be totally unprovoked as I was ther when it happened and was shocked by my husband...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I just got back from a lovely weekend away at my son's tennis tournament. We both felt ill this AM, I think we're dehydrated and tired. He lost his match this AM so we drove home today. AH has been hiding in his office all day, as usual. We got along for the most part on the phone but what's been driving me c...

willowtree · willowtree

I haven't talked with my mom for 5 years and I really needed that time to heal and take care of myself. I have been attending alanon meetings for a year now and am making lots of progress. I saw my mom the other day at an event and asked her to come over to sit by me, I just felt this huge compassion for her. Sh...

georgem · georgem

Good evening all, Tonight is not a good night. I keep working my program and I keep trying to fix my problems. But I am at a point that I don't know if it's working anymore. I try so hard to keep things in check and if I have a slip I try to correct it right away. Well last week I was told by my A G/F (who is in AA) that...

leeranger · leeranger

Hello! I have been married for 6 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He had been to rehab and was sober for a year when we got married. He kept his sobriety for 6 years and started drinking again last year. He goes on benders where he will drink massive amounts of alcohol for a few days and then will be ashamed...

Findinghope · Findinghope

It's been only a few days since I've written. I came off a great weekend -- spent some quality time with my AH outside and managed not to nag/bother/ask him about his relapse last week. Went to an Alanon meeting and found it really comforting. My anxiety lessened significantly, mostly because I think I...

callmemara · callmemara

Woops! Something triggered in me last night. We had discussed getting chinese and renting a movie, in fact it was his idea. I waited and waited. Finally texted him after 2 hours and he said he'd be home in 5 mins. 4 hours later he stumbles in drunk. I usually do a good job at being nice, not rocking the boat,...

dragonflys · dragonflys

My AH has been gone for about a month now. I am trying to figure out what I need to do to get better and continue to move forward in my recovery. My son seems like he is happier and says he is no longer suicidal. He hasnt been talking much this past week, so I have been getting nervous and worrying about him....

PP · PP

What does it feel like to feel detached? My husband, who has been in recovery for 3 years, has been asking me for a few days what is "wrong"...his description is "subdued". I feel different. Typically I am the one wanting to talk, trying to establish a connection, but I am in a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My husband's 70th birthday went well but because I have high expectations I was a little let down. It was "his'" party & I almost made it about me. I am so sorry that I can't just enjoy myself w/o making something out of nothing. So, today is his actual birthday. I am so glad his health has im...

beckylee · beckylee

How badly, I want this to be true. I'm feeling positive about my life again. Its scary and exciting too. All my life. I've needed so badly to control people and situations. I used all my energy to try to force things to happen. They almost always ended in disappointment. I have given surrender a try for on...

Daisy Girl · Daisy Girl

Both kids are out of the house today- happy with friends. The laundry was taken care of earlier in the week. The house is clean enough for today. Ordering pizza for dinner. A whole day just for me!! I worked on my art... something I haven't had the desire or inspiration to touch in almost two months. I tur...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Today while I was shopping in a shopping centre, with 2 of my children, a fight broke out between a man and a woman. We were standing in a bakery, when the yelling and cursing started. My God, I've never heard anything like it before in public. They just didn't seem to care. The shop assistant and othe...

rehprof · rehprof

So, the exA just got about 50K of my retirement in the divorce. He's back from Vegas..bought us a big-screen TV, bought 10 year old new $70 Baseball glove (on sale), bought 15 year old a food de-hydrator (bc I mentioned he wanted one for his b-day in august) bought himself a new camera, and yesterday boug...

marycontrary · marycontrary

Hi folks. I am mary ann. I saw the nice video John posted in the sticky department and thought this might be a place to go. I have an alcoholic abusive husband. my husband and i have been together sin 1983. Been married and raised our sons to adulthood for the last 25 years. I went to an al anon meeting about 2...

Smukke · Smukke

Hi all, I thought a lot about my childhood and my AB today. Let me tell you about a situation I just had on the phone with him, as he is on a business trip in Asia right now. I told him I would love to communicate more with him about our sex life and I also suggested a relationship therapy session. After the conv...

Tigger · Tigger

I've been thinking about this a real lot lately, as this is a recurring theme in my relationship right now. My question for you is this: "How does one deal with conflicting needs in a healthy respectful way?" it often seems that my and my partner's needs clash, and while I am big oncompromise...

CDK · CDK

Hi everyone. Im doing some step worksheets from my local CODA website. I have been to 1 mtg in addition to al anon, and am looking forward to trying the steps. The part I am on is listing ways that my life reflects unmanagability. Currentlu working on "spirituality". I have been writing out m...

silent · silent

my son moved in with me last year in feb.he had been liveing out onhis own with freinds for 6 years when he came home to me in feb.he was very,very sick almost dead ,he is 26 y/o i rushed him to the er next day afer he moved back in he has severe sleep apnea and oxygen dropping down to 71,not even good scared me ,s...

pineapple · pineapple

Today is a religious holiday here. A left for the village at 9 am ¨to watch the procession¨. OK, that takes about 30 minutes. He wasn't home yet at 1 pm but I figured he was in a cantina drinking, not my business. A few minutes later our friend who was here doing some work came looking for me. He said someone...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

I'm new to the forum and in a bit of a crisis. I'm a child of an alcoholic - my own struggles with life took me down a similar path = drugs. I thought I was better than my alcoholic Father in that I was functional. My 20yr son came to me one day and said "Mom, you're doing too much of this stuff". ...

Fina · Fina

~ PAIN ~:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain."Kahlil Gibran:~*~:. .:~*~:. ....

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

This weekend I got to spend some time with a Nice Guy. It was business, not romantic, but friendly and personal. I had forgotten what it was like to be around a "normal" person. I have my good girlfriends, but it was refreshing to talk to a man in a healthy way. He looked me in my eyes, didn't w...

mstee · mstee

I have been living with my husband for over 17 years as him being an alcholic! he stops then starts again.. i need help. he has loss jobs over this and friends. we have beautiful kids together and now it is effecting them.. he is a great husband and father when he isnt drinking. and he is refusing help!! i am...

mr5191 · mr5191

As any who has read my bio, I have fought this monster for only a short period of time but have suffered so much of what this disease can bring. However, early last week, my wife suffered a brain hemorage as a result of untreated high blood pressure from her heavy drinking. Although she has regained a lo...

Oksie · Oksie

Hi I went away for a week for my work. My husband could not come with me as we couldn't afford the unpaid time off work for him. That meant me leaving him at home alone. I do not cope well with that for a variety of reasons. I spoke to my psychologist about it and she gave me some tips and also I used the steps a...

oldergal · oldergal

My ASon is drinking less lately, has a new relationship, but is not completely dry and not attending AA. I know about the 3C's. But I guess my fear is that tomorrow his wedding day "What If" he drinks too much, that keeps playing over and over again in my head. I know I have no control. I think it i...

privateshame · privateshame

Married 9 years, separated three. Two children, 8 and 9 who are now noticing. Not violent, just becomes rude and very snappy towards me. I can't reply.....sometimes I try, and he says it will stop. It doesn't. I'm lonely, as he's not always the same. He's three hours late from work, I know where he is. He...

Chaya · Chaya

Today realized a new way that my codependency harms me. I was getting upset today at work about one of the clients in our drug treatment program who we suspect is selling out in the parking lot. Now it's simple, you get caught selling you get discharged. However, I started getting upbout or him about his...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I got a call from my ex-A today. I let it go to voice mail cuz I was out with my current partner having lunch. The ex stated he wanted to talk about his latest book he is writing. He writes when drinking and sometimes it comes out pretty decent, but none of it is going to win a pulitzer or anything. That wou...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Hi all. I had a really cool experience yesterday. I went to an intuitive medium. I know I know, I wasn't a big believer in that kind of stuff but I was curious so I gave it a shot. She knew SO much about me and the things Im going through. It was beyond cool. She gave me some more confirmation that ending my rela...

Fina · Fina

:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~"You will either step forward into growth, or you will step back into safety."Abraham Maslow:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~In my early years in program, one of my sponsors told me, "You're in a very wel...

Lalu · Lalu

I see meetings listed as "Mamas and Papas AFG". What does this mean??

CDK · CDK

It seems to be a fresh set of pain everyday. Ive really kind of lost track of time. Im really frustrated. Ive been sitting at home alone basically for 3 weeks. I leave only to go to the store, work, and meetings. I come home, and sit. I watch tv, and come here. This is no life. Its nothing but some kind of bubbl...

Lilac · Lilac

I hope I'm posting in the right place - this is the first time I've used a forum, so please forgive me if I get any of the ettiquette wrong. I just need to get something 'out there', before I break. My A woke me this morning with a query about copyright. I answered as best I could but apparently in the wrong ton...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It looks like...according to the doctors; that I have authritis. For those of you who have been following me for years, I am finally going to find a solution to my condition. They have not really officially diagnosed me as I have not been to the rhumatologist yet. I am anxious to find out what is up w/ me fo...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

My AH, Stephen, died last August of alcohol related conditions. But right now I am re-living the hell I went through this time last year.Try as I might to consign it to a box with tight fitting lid, it keeps rearing it's ugly head. It's the awful things that I flung at OH that keep springing to mind. I even s...

Lalu · Lalu

Today's topic in the book One Day at a Time in Al-Anon is about courtesy. To quote the passage: "The warmth and kidness of courtesy will take the sting out fo the resentments, and give dignity and importance to the members of my household, making them feel secure and loved." Today I had a p...

CDK · CDK

Hi everyone. (hugs) Well, Ive posted a lot about how I havent been able to eat or to sleep. Aaaand now Im sick. Body ache, fever, chills...the whole shebang. And it makes me think about some things. Self-care comes to mind. Ive done my best, but my lack of self care got me here for sure. Lesson in that for...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I know that expectations are something in Al-Anon we have to really recognize and come to terms with. When we place expectations on others and they aren't met, it's a source of frustration. I find myself still working on the expectations for myself and just when I think I've recognized them and can id...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I have been exhausted for years. I have come, slowly, to believe that it is because I am still being actively controlled and abused by my aging parents who have always projected their chaos, anxiety, blame, etc onto me. As they age and are aware that I know the deal now, they are getting even more contro...

maresie · maresie

For those of us who live around alcoholics stress is a huge issue. I know when I lived aorund the ex A illness was a big issue for me. I got sick often because I was so worn down. In the last year I've been working 7 days a week in order to try to dig myself out of debt and get some needs met. Needless to say event...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I read the book the new codependency (Beaty is the aurthor I beleive) ..it was the follow up to Codependent no more... I found myself getting stronger and just connecting to the reading feeling some personal strength etc Doing great on detachment for the most part. Now Im trying to read It will neve...

Daisy Girl · Daisy Girl

Hey all, any wisdom or ideas for dealing with constantly being corrected? I want to yell and scream, "what I said is NOT wrong!" These are minor things... different adjectives for crying out loud! I am thinking about carrying a dictionary and thesaurus, to prove we are saying the same thin...

littlehawk · littlehawk

The past week has been rough, no doubt. I have been a rock. But today, I finally broke down. I allowed myself to break down, but I had a short time of feeling guilty about being emotional. That website I posted a link to this morning helped me through today.... and all of the support I feel in Al-anon and thi...

Mer · Mer

I don't really know what I hope to accomplish with posting this but I feel I need to write down how I am feeling because I am at an extreme point of loneliness and anxiety. I met my spouse about 4 years ago. During the first few years we were together there were occasions that he would binge drink too much but...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

After years of reflection, prayer, and angst, I made the decision to end my marriage to an alcoholic a few months ago. Al Anon taught me how to deal with myself and my feelings in a healthy way. It has really been a journey of learning how to live for the very first time. My experience of coping during th...

Smukke · Smukke

Hey all, I do not have many details to tell, because not much is happening. Today is one of those days when I find myself dissatisfied and angry. Every few months I am bringing this subject up, but my AB is waiting for the perfect conditions: A place (rental apartment is not good enough), a new job (he was S...

Pushka · Pushka

Hugs to all, I have had so many lessons and many of them very excruciatingly humbling .. lol. I have had much egg on my face and still fight against the tide to figure out where I need to be, in that respect I don't think I'm much different than many addicts in coming to the idea that I have to surrender. It...

Ness · Ness

He has been ill for some time with a heart problem which has been caused by stress, over the past few months he has gone more and more down hill. He was up all last night, breathless, panicy & scared, saw his doc this lunchtime who, at long last after having him swallow all kinds of pills, has had him ad...

rehprof · rehprof

wolfies post about a "blueprint" got me wondering...is there such a thing in alanon literature? is there a list somewhere of alanon materials and related books (like beatties work)?

Chaya · Chaya

After 6 days under my belt of my final goodbye to my recovering alcoholic boyfriend; 6 days of feeling strong; 6 days of insight; 6 days without regret for my decision, I have had 2 days Of bring triggered to go back. Because of my clarity for almost a week I could identify that I was triggered to call him be...

Fina · Fina

~ COMPASSION ~:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~"How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because sometime in your life you will have been all...

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	Im Lost & Scared (Preview) Hey all... My partner decided to get give up the alcohol about 4 weeks ago, Said he would get help by going to AA meetings, couselling etc. Still to this day he has made no effort to get the help, making any phone calls or going to AA groups. I asked him twice in the last 4 weeks if he has rang to book an appt and...	Ashley89	6	569	Jun 14, 2012 by jorjorjor
	Moving Back (Preview) It has been one year and four days since my loved one entered rehab and quickly relapsed. I set a very strict boundary that for the longest time seemed so unfair. "If you drink again, I am gone" He drank, I literally packed up everything I owned and moved 3 hours away. That was 9 months ago and in...	CountryGirl	5	526	Jun 14, 2012 by CountryGirl
	yup, I am messed up. (Preview) Hello everyone. I am so freaking happy to be here. This is my first post and I just need to be really honest and up front about my defects. I have been in alanon for about a year now and attend 2 meetings a week. I have been able to find great support in the program but am coming up against a block. Here is...	hope4ever	13	818	Jun 14, 2012 by orchidlover
	my feelings for my ex a (Preview) im haveing a diff. veiw of my ex a today after talking toa girl on my f/b about him that he had been trying to hook up with,but she told me that everytime she or he called her he would be drunk and would tell off on himself we we became freinds,which is good she is a very sweet person a has a good head on her should...	silent	7	631	Jun 13, 2012 by Aloha
	Question (Preview) Has anyone tried EFT (emotional freedom technique-tapping) I have heard it is really helpful. I have tried it some but didn't feel to much of a difference. I am confused because Alanon teaches that we have to surrender and yet EFT teaches that we can tap and help our body release these negative ener...	willowtree	7	542	Jun 13, 2012 by willowtree
	A Cautionary Tale (Preview) I'm probably older than most anybody on here. Today I was thinking I may have 12 or 15 years left. No guarantees with that, of course. And I got to thinking about how I want to live these next years--however many are given to me. Mind you, in my head I don't feel any different than the youngest of you. Bu...	Temple	11	755	Jun 13, 2012 by GailMichelle
	WEDNESDAY, FRIDAY AND SUNDAY NIGHT MEETINGS WEEK OF 6/11 (Preview) I'm moving back to the states Wednesday and am not sure about access to the internet or what I'll be doing the rest of this week. Will you all make an effort to cover for me for these three meetings? Thanks. Fina.	Fina	4	381	Jun 13, 2012 by Overcome
	Abuse prevention order? (Preview) We had a bad episode two weeks ago. My AH became agressive towards our 17 year old nephew who lives with us and later became physical with him as my nephew went into the house to get away from him. The whole situation seemed to be totally unprovoked as I was ther when it happened and was shocked by my husband...	Olive	8	702	Jun 13, 2012 by Olive
	He's really nice and sorry all the time (Preview) I just got back from a lovely weekend away at my son's tennis tournament. We both felt ill this AM, I think we're dehydrated and tired. He lost his match this AM so we drove home today. AH has been hiding in his office all day, as usual. We got along for the most part on the phone but what's been driving me c...	ilovedogs	4	539	Jun 13, 2012 by sookie
	Recent contact with her (Preview) I haven't talked with my mom for 5 years and I really needed that time to heal and take care of myself. I have been attending alanon meetings for a year now and am making lots of progress. I saw my mom the other day at an event and asked her to come over to sit by me, I just felt this huge compassion for her. Sh...	willowtree	6	629	Jun 12, 2012 by willowtree
	Hopeless (Preview) Good evening all, Tonight is not a good night. I keep working my program and I keep trying to fix my problems. But I am at a point that I don't know if it's working anymore. I try so hard to keep things in check and if I have a slip I try to correct it right away. Well last week I was told by my A G/F (who is in AA) that...	georgem	10	975	Jun 12, 2012 by Pushka
	New here - husband is an alcoholic. (Preview) Hello! I have been married for 6 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He had been to rehab and was sober for a year when we got married. He kept his sobriety for 6 years and started drinking again last year. He goes on benders where he will drink massive amounts of alcohol for a few days and then will be ashamed...	leeranger	9	666	Jun 12, 2012 by orchidlover
	Tough time this morning (Preview) It's been only a few days since I've written. I came off a great weekend -- spent some quality time with my AH outside and managed not to nag/bother/ask him about his relapse last week. Went to an Alanon meeting and found it really comforting. My anxiety lessened significantly, mostly because I think I...	Findinghope	6	557	Jun 12, 2012 by Pushka
	How to have a healthy me despite an unhealthy marriage? (Preview) Woops! Something triggered in me last night. We had discussed getting chinese and renting a movie, in fact it was his idea. I waited and waited. Finally texted him after 2 hours and he said he'd be home in 5 mins. 4 hours later he stumbles in drunk. I usually do a good job at being nice, not rocking the boat,...	callmemara	11	2385	Jun 12, 2012 by orchidlover
	Cutting the isolation and figuring out who I am (Preview) My AH has been gone for about a month now. I am trying to figure out what I need to do to get better and continue to move forward in my recovery. My son seems like he is happier and says he is no longer suicidal. He hasnt been talking much this past week, so I have been getting nervous and worrying about him....	dragonflys	6	615	Jun 12, 2012 by orchidlover
	Detachment? (Preview) What does it feel like to feel detached? My husband, who has been in recovery for 3 years, has been asking me for a few days what is "wrong"...his description is "subdued". I feel different. Typically I am the one wanting to talk, trying to establish a connection, but I am in a...	PP	9	1146	Jun 12, 2012 by PP
	Party went pretty well! (Preview) My husband's 70th birthday went well but because I have high expectations I was a little let down. It was "his'" party & I almost made it about me. I am so sorry that I can't just enjoy myself w/o making something out of nothing. So, today is his actual birthday. I am so glad his health has im...	Hoot Nanny	2	330	Jun 12, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	How Becky Got Her Groove Back surrender (Preview) How badly, I want this to be true. I'm feeling positive about my life again. Its scary and exciting too. All my life. I've needed so badly to control people and situations. I used all my energy to try to force things to happen. They almost always ended in disappointment. I have given surrender a try for on...	beckylee	6	6299	Jun 12, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	Taking care of me (finally) (Preview) Both kids are out of the house today- happy with friends. The laundry was taken care of earlier in the week. The house is clean enough for today. Ordering pizza for dinner. A whole day just for me!! I worked on my art... something I haven't had the desire or inspiration to touch in almost two months. I tur...	Daisy Girl	6	348	Jun 12, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	Shopping (Preview) Today while I was shopping in a shopping centre, with 2 of my children, a fight broke out between a man and a woman. We were standing in a bakery, when the yelling and cursing started. My God, I've never heard anything like it before in public. They just didn't seem to care. The shop assistant and othe...	Tracey C	1	299	Jun 12, 2012 by Jackie11
	He's in the money! (Preview) So, the exA just got about 50K of my retirement in the divorce. He's back from Vegas..bought us a big-screen TV, bought 10 year old new $70 Baseball glove (on sale), bought 15 year old a food de-hydrator (bc I mentioned he wanted one for his b-day in august) bought himself a new camera, and yesterday boug...	rehprof	9	697	Jun 12, 2012 by GailMichelle
	just now stumbling in (Preview) Hi folks. I am mary ann. I saw the nice video John posted in the sticky department and thought this might be a place to go. I have an alcoholic abusive husband. my husband and i have been together sin 1983. Been married and raised our sons to adulthood for the last 25 years. I went to an al anon meeting about 2...	marycontrary	9	638	Jun 12, 2012 by marycontrary
	Roles (Preview) Hi all, I thought a lot about my childhood and my AB today. Let me tell you about a situation I just had on the phone with him, as he is on a business trip in Asia right now. I told him I would love to communicate more with him about our sex life and I also suggested a relationship therapy session. After the conv...	Smukke	4	376	Jun 12, 2012 by Smukke
	Conflicting needs (Preview) I've been thinking about this a real lot lately, as this is a recurring theme in my relationship right now. My question for you is this: "How does one deal with conflicting needs in a healthy respectful way?" it often seems that my and my partner's needs clash, and while I am big oncompromise...	Tigger	2	361	Jun 12, 2012 by Temple
	Unmanageability: Spirituality (Preview) Hi everyone. Im doing some step worksheets from my local CODA website. I have been to 1 mtg in addition to al anon, and am looking forward to trying the steps. The part I am on is listing ways that my life reflects unmanagability. Currentlu working on "spirituality". I have been writing out m...	CDK	6	862	Jun 12, 2012 by Oksie
	helping my son (Preview) my son moved in with me last year in feb.he had been liveing out onhis own with freinds for 6 years when he came home to me in feb.he was very,very sick almost dead ,he is 26 y/o i rushed him to the er next day afer he moved back in he has severe sleep apnea and oxygen dropping down to 71,not even good scared me ,s...	silent	5	518	Jun 12, 2012 by silent
	Can I (and should I) give up this particular form of ¨saving him¨? (Preview) Today is a religious holiday here. A left for the village at 9 am ¨to watch the procession¨. OK, that takes about 30 minutes. He wasn't home yet at 1 pm but I figured he was in a cantina drinking, not my business. A few minutes later our friend who was here doing some work came looking for me. He said someone...	pineapple	13	493	Jun 11, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	Blind Sided (Preview) I'm new to the forum and in a bit of a crisis. I'm a child of an alcoholic - my own struggles with life took me down a similar path = drugs. I thought I was better than my alcoholic Father in that I was functional. My 20yr son came to me one day and said "Mom, you're doing too much of this stuff". ...	Path to Serenity	6	620	Jun 11, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	PAIN (Preview) ~ PAIN ~:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain."Kahlil Gibran:~~:. .:~*~:. ....	Fina	1	340	Jun 11, 2012 by CDK
	Mr. Nice Guy, AH texts, and yep letting go! (Preview) This weekend I got to spend some time with a Nice Guy. It was business, not romantic, but friendly and personal. I had forgotten what it was like to be around a "normal" person. I have my good girlfriends, but it was refreshing to talk to a man in a healthy way. He looked me in my eyes, didn't w...	Dolly Llama	5	586	Jun 11, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	married to an alcholic! i need advice (Preview) I have been living with my husband for over 17 years as him being an alcholic! he stops then starts again.. i need help. he has loss jobs over this and friends. we have beautiful kids together and now it is effecting them.. he is a great husband and father when he isnt drinking. and he is refusing help!! i am...	mstee	4	559	Jun 11, 2012 by littlehawk
	alcoholism battle is over (Preview) As any who has read my bio, I have fought this monster for only a short period of time but have suffered so much of what this disease can bring. However, early last week, my wife suffered a brain hemorage as a result of untreated high blood pressure from her heavy drinking. Although she has regained a lo...	mr5191	10	572	Jun 11, 2012 by Corgi2
	I went away (Preview) Hi I went away for a week for my work. My husband could not come with me as we couldn't afford the unpaid time off work for him. That meant me leaving him at home alone. I do not cope well with that for a variety of reasons. I spoke to my psychologist about it and she gave me some tips and also I used the steps a...	Oksie	5	618	Jun 11, 2012 by Pushka
	The "What If's" (Preview) My ASon is drinking less lately, has a new relationship, but is not completely dry and not attending AA. I know about the 3C's. But I guess my fear is that tomorrow his wedding day "What If" he drinks too much, that keeps playing over and over again in my head. I know I have no control. I think it i...	oldergal	4	574	Jun 11, 2012 by Oksie
	Why is this frightening? (Preview) Married 9 years, separated three. Two children, 8 and 9 who are now noticing. Not violent, just becomes rude and very snappy towards me. I can't reply.....sometimes I try, and he says it will stop. It doesn't. I'm lonely, as he's not always the same. He's three hours late from work, I know where he is. He...	privateshame	8	563	Jun 10, 2012 by privateshame
	Destructive eating (Preview) Today realized a new way that my codependency harms me. I was getting upset today at work about one of the clients in our drug treatment program who we suspect is selling out in the parking lot. Now it's simple, you get caught selling you get discharged. However, I started getting upbout or him about his...	Chaya	8	686	Jun 10, 2012 by Lucy 333
	Heard from my ex today. (Preview) I got a call from my ex-A today. I let it go to voice mail cuz I was out with my current partner having lunch. The ex stated he wanted to talk about his latest book he is writing. He writes when drinking and sometimes it comes out pretty decent, but none of it is going to win a pulitzer or anything. That wou...	pinkchip	12	750	Jun 10, 2012 by Lucy 333
	Intuition (Preview) Hi all. I had a really cool experience yesterday. I went to an intuitive medium. I know I know, I wasn't a big believer in that kind of stuff but I was curious so I gave it a shot. She knew SO much about me and the things Im going through. It was beyond cool. She gave me some more confirmation that ending my rela...	Corgi2	6	578	Jun 10, 2012 by maryjane
	COURAGE (Preview) :~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~"You will either step forward into growth, or you will step back into safety."Abraham Maslow:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~In my early years in program, one of my sponsors told me, "You're in a very wel...	Fina	2	291	Jun 10, 2012 by maryjane
	What does "Mamas and Papas" meeting mean?? (Preview) I see meetings listed as "Mamas and Papas AFG". What does this mean??	Lalu	6	4536	Jun 10, 2012 by Lucy 333
	Letting go... (Preview) It seems to be a fresh set of pain everyday. Ive really kind of lost track of time. Im really frustrated. Ive been sitting at home alone basically for 3 weeks. I leave only to go to the store, work, and meetings. I come home, and sit. I watch tv, and come here. This is no life. Its nothing but some kind of bubbl...	CDK	6	668	Jun 10, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Time to think (Preview) I hope I'm posting in the right place - this is the first time I've used a forum, so please forgive me if I get any of the ettiquette wrong. I just need to get something 'out there', before I break. My A woke me this morning with a query about copyright. I answered as best I could but apparently in the wrong ton...	Lilac	13	848	Jun 9, 2012 by Breakingfree
	it looks like... (Preview) It looks like...according to the doctors; that I have authritis. For those of you who have been following me for years, I am finally going to find a solution to my condition. They have not really officially diagnosed me as I have not been to the rhumatologist yet. I am anxious to find out what is up w/ me fo...	Hoot Nanny	2	274	Jun 10, 2012 by pineapple
	Feeling Low (Preview) My AH, Stephen, died last August of alcohol related conditions. But right now I am re-living the hell I went through this time last year.Try as I might to consign it to a box with tight fitting lid, it keeps rearing it's ugly head. It's the awful things that I flung at OH that keep springing to mind. I even s...	Tattyhead	7	495	Jun 9, 2012 by Debilyn
	Courtesy, one day at a time (Preview) Today's topic in the book One Day at a Time in Al-Anon is about courtesy. To quote the passage: "The warmth and kidness of courtesy will take the sting out fo the resentments, and give dignity and importance to the members of my household, making them feel secure and loved." Today I had a p...	Lalu	14	853	Jun 9, 2012 by pinkchip
	Sick ramblings... (Preview) Hi everyone. (hugs) Well, Ive posted a lot about how I havent been able to eat or to sleep. Aaaand now Im sick. Body ache, fever, chills...the whole shebang. And it makes me think about some things. Self-care comes to mind. Ive done my best, but my lack of self care got me here for sure. Lesson in that for...	CDK	5	593	Jun 9, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Other expectations (Preview) I know that expectations are something in Al-Anon we have to really recognize and come to terms with. When we place expectations on others and they aren't met, it's a source of frustration. I find myself still working on the expectations for myself and just when I think I've recognized them and can id...	AStrongerMe	6	523	Jun 9, 2012 by Elizabeth10
	Exhaustion (Preview) I have been exhausted for years. I have come, slowly, to believe that it is because I am still being actively controlled and abused by my aging parents who have always projected their chaos, anxiety, blame, etc onto me. As they age and are aware that I know the deal now, they are getting even more contro...	WorkingThroughIt	7	599	Jun 9, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	stress reduction (Preview) For those of us who live around alcoholics stress is a huge issue. I know when I lived aorund the ex A illness was a big issue for me. I got sick often because I was so worn down. In the last year I've been working 7 days a week in order to try to dig myself out of debt and get some needs met. Needless to say event...	maresie	7	693	Jun 9, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	reading/learning (Preview) I read the book the new codependency (Beaty is the aurthor I beleive) ..it was the follow up to Codependent no more... I found myself getting stronger and just connecting to the reading feeling some personal strength etc Doing great on detachment for the most part. Now Im trying to read It will neve...	sweeetr	6	539	Jun 8, 2012 by Daisy Girl
	Need ESH re: AH correcting me (Preview) Hey all, any wisdom or ideas for dealing with constantly being corrected? I want to yell and scream, "what I said is NOT wrong!" These are minor things... different adjectives for crying out loud! I am thinking about carrying a dictionary and thesaurus, to prove we are saying the same thin...	Daisy Girl	7	966	Jun 8, 2012 by Daisy Girl
	Please send some prayers for my Dad (Preview) The past week has been rough, no doubt. I have been a rock. But today, I finally broke down. I allowed myself to break down, but I had a short time of feeling guilty about being emotional. That website I posted a link to this morning helped me through today.... and all of the support I feel in Al-anon and thi...	littlehawk	10	374	Jun 8, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Alone and Axious (Preview) I don't really know what I hope to accomplish with posting this but I feel I need to write down how I am feeling because I am at an extreme point of loneliness and anxiety. I met my spouse about 4 years ago. During the first few years we were together there were occasions that he would binge drink too much but...	Mer	8	572	Jun 8, 2012 by Daisy Girl
	Feeling my feelings (Preview) After years of reflection, prayer, and angst, I made the decision to end my marriage to an alcoholic a few months ago. Al Anon taught me how to deal with myself and my feelings in a healthy way. It has really been a journey of learning how to live for the very first time. My experience of coping during th...	Dolly Llama	9	938	Jun 8, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	Bedtime stories (Preview) Hey all, I do not have many details to tell, because not much is happening. Today is one of those days when I find myself dissatisfied and angry. Every few months I am bringing this subject up, but my AB is waiting for the perfect conditions: A place (rental apartment is not good enough), a new job (he was S...	Smukke	5	446	Jun 8, 2012 by Smukke
	When it's right (Preview) Hugs to all, I have had so many lessons and many of them very excruciatingly humbling .. lol. I have had much egg on my face and still fight against the tide to figure out where I need to be, in that respect I don't think I'm much different than many addicts in coming to the idea that I have to surrender. It...	Pushka	5	474	Jun 8, 2012 by Jerry F
	My husband is in hospital (Preview) He has been ill for some time with a heart problem which has been caused by stress, over the past few months he has gone more and more down hill. He was up all last night, breathless, panicy & scared, saw his doc this lunchtime who, at long last after having him swallow all kinds of pills, has had him ad...	Ness	12	561	Jun 8, 2012 by oldergal
	Comprehensive List of Alanon Literature? (Preview) wolfies post about a "blueprint" got me wondering...is there such a thing in alanon literature? is there a list somewhere of alanon materials and related books (like beatties work)?	rehprof	5	3477	Jun 8, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Learning my triggers (Preview) After 6 days under my belt of my final goodbye to my recovering alcoholic boyfriend; 6 days of feeling strong; 6 days of insight; 6 days without regret for my decision, I have had 2 days Of bring triggered to go back. Because of my clarity for almost a week I could identify that I was triggered to call him be...	Chaya	4	456	Jun 8, 2012 by Breakingfree
	COMPASSION (Preview) ~ COMPASSION ~:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~~:. .:~*~"How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because sometime in your life you will have been all...	Fina	5	471	Jun 8, 2012 by Breakingfree
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