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buffalo78 · buffalo78

What is wrong with me? I am serious. I kicked the alcoholic boyfriend out a few days ago and today it really hit me. I am just really hurt by all this. I feel like I keep going through this over and over and over again. Kicking him out, obsessing and worrying he is going to die.... I really thought this...

CeeBee · CeeBee

I've been in Al-Anon for almost 6 months now - and it's been an absolute roller coaster. For the first time in my life I now have the ability to sit back and see this family disease cause chaos in my family of origin - and in my own life.Today I had a huge argument with my partner. I've been ummm-ing and ahhh-i...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Today my son asked me to report his baseball home runs on a website, he couldn't figure out how to do it. I figured it out and reported them. I found myself feeling resentful again, I thought to myself, why can't my ex husband do this? Do the resentments ever go away?

dponlyme · dponlyme

I was feeling nauseated this past day and stayed in bed all day and slept. Feel better now but skipped counseling which sucks. AW wants me to take her to the store after 10 pm and since I don't have a car I would have to borrow my mothers car and she had already went to bed. AW throws tantrum because I refus...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't live in Hawaii or Heaven but I think where I live is paradise! Just saying that I would rather be here than anywhere else. I guess wherever you are if you are happy, you can find yourself exactly where you are supposed to be. I guess I am settled completely after over 18 years in the same place. I used...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Open my eyes and I see the progress. My heart softens. My nerves are a roller coaster! Yesterday I got a phone call from Husband. His insurance will not cover after 45 days on inpatient. I was upset, confused. It was a bump in the road. We have options. Today he and his counsler called me. We are worki...

LizLooking · LizLooking

I am constantly struggling with finding my boundaries with my best friend, and ensuring that I am not sacrificing myself for him too much. He is a recovering alcoholic, and has been sober for over 6 months. I am so proud of him, and send him all the love in the world. Whenever he has a problem though, or a s...

ntxalanon · ntxalanon

I have posted in the past, but my wife has struggled with alchohol addiction for 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children aged 5 (twins) and 2. She has been to rehab and managed to stay sober for a year, and since then has had a couple of relapses (now only going a couple of days without drinking) to the poin...

DoingThisForMyGuy · DoingThisForMyGuy

About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...

rainlax · rainlax

This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...

rehprof · rehprof

My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...

norasq · norasq

I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...

PP · PP

It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else

. I was even telli...

Sincerely · Sincerely

gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...

DavidG · DavidG

A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.

buffalo78 · buffalo78

Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...

Rinn · Rinn

So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...

stephaniej · stephaniej

For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...

Ms S · Ms S

my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...

John · John

I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...

John · John

While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...

Jerry F · Jerry F

really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...

texasgal · texasgal

I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...

forestfairy · forestfairy

So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...

Giggleball · Giggleball

So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...

el-cee · el-cee

My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...

MAGK55 · MAGK55

It just seems like it is the same day after day. Money problems, drama from the alcoholic, work problems. Blah, blah, blah. I have been attending AL-ANON meetings on Monday and I love going but life just seems depressing and meaningless.

John · John

On my wall is a picture of my son, who is holding his new born, first child, the day he was born. Both have their eyes closed and the love and connectedness is so obvious in that picture. My grandchild is now 10 years old. Then I have another picture... of my son's mug shot taken in jail. Not on my wall of c...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It might be the flu or whatever. It started coming on this morning just as I was waking up. I needed support to stand without wavering back and forth and I had a cup of coffee and felt better; got my truck and made it to my home meeting. God can I be more greatly blessed than what has been given to me with thi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Yesterday I received an email from my mother saying my family is going to my brother's home in another state for Easter. I only have this one sibling, its just the four of us and his wife and my only niece who Im crazy about. My brother's wife's family will be there too. We have always spent holidays togeth...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm awake at 2 AM ruminating and cooking up a resentment against 1 of my bosses. I had an idea about a training for gay and lesbian awareness, sensitivity, and resources. I have some connections outside of work and have used them to help my office/organization before. Generally speaking, I am a dy...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I just couldn't stand it anymore. This attorney is the most self-centered, rude, condescending person I have ever met. Not only that, I truly believe she is a hoarder. 50% of my day is spent searching for things that she has misplaced in that trash heap that she calls an office. The other 40% is spent m...

sheristeele · sheristeele

Over the last few days my addicted son who no longer lives with me has been contacting me and giving me a lot of grief because I will not let him have his box of 50 to 75 DVD;s (which I paid for when he lived with me). The reason I will not let him have them is because I know that he will sell them for drug money. I...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

Hi. I am posting tonight because my boyfriend has decided that he wants to look into a thirty day facility like passages. Or something cheaper obviously. He is going to call his mom tonight and tell her, and ask about insurance or what he should do. I am literally riddled with anxiety and fear??? :conf...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Back to the good old days when I was being more positive. I feel like I have been suffering from negativity. I just needed to get humble a bit to get the gratitude back. I have been a little bit uncomfortable in my own skin but today I feel like I can do almost anything that I put my mind to. If something goes wr...

Maurice · Maurice

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canadianguy · canadianguy

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texasgal · texasgal

As the holiday approaches the drama with my AH has already started. He didn't come home wednesday night and today he is off and already its a big drama about his job. I'm off all weekend from both my jobs. I know I'm going to a meeting tomorrow. But I need to make plans with family or friends the rest of weeke...

imom · imom

Hi Everyone, I haven't posted in a while because things at my house have been really really bad, and all week all I have wanted to do is come home from work and crawl in bed and hide. Today as I was walking down the hall at work, I looked out at the sun shining. I began thinking about how we finally have a bea...

Pushka · Pushka

to be angry .. lol. Now the anger was exhausting, at least I could keep up the steel gates and walls and not have to deal with the hurt. Ironically, STBAX moved out 15 months ago and I'm only NOW dealing with the hurt. Being angry afforded me not to face my pain initially and I had a lot of pain going into t...

seekinganswers · seekinganswers

Hi, This is my first post and I'm very lost right now. I hope someone can point me in the right direction. I don't live near by Al Anon meetings but I would like to find a sponsor, someone to email/talk on the phone. Does anyone know how can I do it? Thank you very much in advance!

Lupo · Lupo

After six months of relapse that seemingly continued to get worse and worse I have asked my fiance to leave our home. I can no longer bear to live with the insanity in my life. She has continued to increase her use. Typically two nights a week she will not come home. I have found drug paraphenalia all ove...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I was hopeful after yesterday's promises. AH said he was committed to recovery, blah blah blah. Today I get home from work, he is gone. There is a note on the table saying he is "planning to stay at his parents". I know him. This is how he can say he didn't lie. He "planned" to stay at h...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Sometimes when I get upset and worried and go into a tailspin I think why? I'm doing everything I should be doing to get healthy. Why do I continue to have a problem detaching... Well...I'm human. Those feelings will always be there, it's just how do I handle them to keep me safe and have pe...

Number30 · Number30

I'm doing a lot better, staying calm, working out a Plan B that actually excites me a little and then tomorrow is AH's payday (not that he's been to work in over a week!) Payday is the worst. He gets two physical checks. Cashes one and hands it to me for bills/groceries/gas, everything except his lovely m...

Jen61 · Jen61

I went to a face to face meeting on Tuesday night and this was read. Very powerful. The Al-Anon Do's and Don'tsDO:Do forgiveDo be humbleDo take it easy tension is harmfulDo play find recreation and hobbiesDo keep on trying whenever you failDo learn the facts about alcoholismDo attend Al-Anon mee...

Hopeful925 · Hopeful925

Hi everyone..so glad to have found this community of support...I'm new to all of "THIS". I started dating this wonderful man whom I had known in my community in June 2012 not knowing he was alcoholic...and not knowing the least thing about alcoholism..I don't drink..never have, didn't...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

From what I've read, when an alcoholic is recovering they become a new person. They reconstruct themselves as they are without the alcohol. I'm 99% sure my AH has been sober for about 4 weeks. Still working on myself and getting off the crazy-train/roller coaster. The thing I'm really strugglin...

lgnutah · lgnutah

My 32 year old alcoholic daughter associates with other alcoholics (they meet at least 5 nights a week at bars, plus they meet for lunch and sometimes at homes to drink at other times). All their get togethers involve hours and hours of drinking. She feels they are just having fun and what they are doi...

Sincerely · Sincerely

At the top of my lungs i want to scream! I hate this feeling I have inside. It's empty! My 2 A's are my husband and my mom. Husbandbeen seperated 18 monthsmiss him tremendouslyhe's in treatment 45 days cleani'm going see him this weekend Momboundary- i don't go to her house after work, don't wanna be ar...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

We come home from vacation to find our AD got fired from her job a few weeks ago and has been hiding that fact from us. My husband was not in the room when she confided this to me, and she just curled up in a ball and kept crying and crying, saying that is not the worst part . I know better than this after almost 3...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Two days out of the hospital and my son is already drinking. This time it hurts. I'm hurt. He is so depressed and hurting so much I'm afraid he is not going to make it. My "what ifs " kicked in big time. I'm scared and fear for his life right now. I am trying to let it pass but I had to write som...

Sun sun · Sun sun

I am tired. As I know so many others are. I posted a few days ago, and here I am again anxious and scared. after a calm 3 days, today he went to his mother's house having said he would be back here between 6.30 and 7 pm. I sent him a text saying food would be ready at 7.30 and he phoned to say he'd be back at 7.45. No s...

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	i'm just really hurt. (Preview) What is wrong with me? I am serious. I kicked the alcoholic boyfriend out a few days ago and today it really hit me. I am just really hurt by all this. I feel like I keep going through this over and over and over again. Kicking him out, obsessing and worrying he is going to die.... I really thought this...	buffalo78	4	503	Apr 3, 2013 by Sincerely
	I wish my Higher Power would hurry the hell up and help me end this relationship (Preview) I've been in Al-Anon for almost 6 months now - and it's been an absolute roller coaster. For the first time in my life I now have the ability to sit back and see this family disease cause chaos in my family of origin - and in my own life.Today I had a huge argument with my partner. I've been ummm-ing and ahhh-i...	CeeBee	9	492	Apr 3, 2013 by milkwood
	Do the resentments against the A's ever go away? (Preview) Today my son asked me to report his baseball home runs on a website, he couldn't figure out how to do it. I figured it out and reported them. I found myself feeling resentful again, I thought to myself, why can't my ex husband do this? Do the resentments ever go away?	mercedes1959	6	538	Apr 3, 2013 by Pushka
	struggling myself mentally and physically- AW angry again (Preview) I was feeling nauseated this past day and stayed in bed all day and slept. Feel better now but skipped counseling which sucks. AW wants me to take her to the store after 10 pm and since I don't have a car I would have to borrow my mothers car and she had already went to bed. AW throws tantrum because I refus...	dponlyme	3	447	Apr 3, 2013 by Aloha
	just another day in paradise... (Preview) I don't live in Hawaii or Heaven but I think where I live is paradise! Just saying that I would rather be here than anywhere else. I guess wherever you are if you are happy, you can find yourself exactly where you are supposed to be. I guess I am settled completely after over 18 years in the same place. I used...	Hoot Nanny	4	305	Apr 3, 2013 by Hopeful925
	Husband In Treatment - Roller Coaster Inside Me (Preview) Open my eyes and I see the progress. My heart softens. My nerves are a roller coaster! Yesterday I got a phone call from Husband. His insurance will not cover after 45 days on inpatient. I was upset, confused. It was a bump in the road. We have options. Today he and his counsler called me. We are worki...	Sincerely	7	360	Apr 3, 2013 by PP
	Helping or being a crutch (Preview) I am constantly struggling with finding my boundaries with my best friend, and ensuring that I am not sacrificing myself for him too much. He is a recovering alcoholic, and has been sober for over 6 months. I am so proud of him, and send him all the love in the world. Whenever he has a problem though, or a s...	LizLooking	6	684	Apr 3, 2013 by LizLooking
	Help with setting boundries and educating small children (Preview) I have posted in the past, but my wife has struggled with alchohol addiction for 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children aged 5 (twins) and 2. She has been to rehab and managed to stay sober for a year, and since then has had a couple of relapses (now only going a couple of days without drinking) to the poin...	ntxalanon	3	397	Apr 3, 2013 by Mattie
	My AA guy is doing better than I am (Preview) About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...	DoingThisForMyGuy	6	295	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	New groups for us shy folks? (Preview) This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...	rainlax	11	648	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	fearing mortality? (Preview) My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...	rehprof	9	388	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Can't Stop Thinking (Preview) I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...	norasq	4	414	Apr 2, 2013 by norasq
	A week of the "I suck voices" (Preview) It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else. I was even telli...	PP	12	983	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	i'm going to make it (Preview) gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...	Sincerely	4	286	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Keeping things in perspective.... (Preview) A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.	DavidG	4	277	Apr 2, 2013 by nmike
	I'm new & LOST. (Preview) Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...	buffalo78	4	434	Apr 2, 2013 by buffalo78
	the future's so bright(I gotta wear shades!) (Preview) Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...	Hoot Nanny	2	419	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A turning point for my AM? (Preview) Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...	phoenixmagicgirl	1	288	Apr 2, 2013 by pinkchip
	My husband is doing really good. wow! (Preview) So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...	Rinn	5	330	Apr 2, 2013 by Rinn
	I am struggling mightily tonight, and could use some ESH (Preview) For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...	stephaniej	19	485	Apr 2, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	some good news about my daughter (Preview) my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...	Ms S	4	437	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A piece of my history... (Preview) I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...	John	9	444	Apr 2, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Not the Same Old Story (Preview) I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...	ParisMemories	6	313	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Exhausted (Preview) I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...	Sincerely	5	320	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	A funny I heard last night... (Preview) While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...	John	1	282	Apr 1, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Wow you people (Preview) really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	4	375	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Fear of the mailbox (Preview) I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...	scaredandconfused	5	613	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	Time to put...something...into practice (Preview) My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...	ClearTheFog	5	2631	Apr 1, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	I have a friend who I think is an alcoholic. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...	slogan_jim	7	375	Apr 1, 2013 by slogan_jim
	my ah relapsed (Preview) I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...	texasgal	5	320	Apr 1, 2013 by Ms S
	When can we all live together again? (Preview) So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...	forestfairy	7	462	Apr 1, 2013 by forestfairy
	New Here (Preview) So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...	Giggleball	6	433	Apr 1, 2013 by Giggleball
	cant let go! (Preview) My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...	el-cee	8	439	Mar 31, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Is this ever going to change (Preview) It just seems like it is the same day after day. Money problems, drama from the alcoholic, work problems. Blah, blah, blah. I have been attending AL-ANON meetings on Monday and I love going but life just seems depressing and meaningless.	MAGK55	7	528	Mar 31, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Hurting, Loving, Believing, Trusting, Fearing, etc, etc, etc... (Preview) On my wall is a picture of my son, who is holding his new born, first child, the day he was born. Both have their eyes closed and the love and connectedness is so obvious in that picture. My grandchild is now 10 years old. Then I have another picture... of my son's mug shot taken in jail. Not on my wall of c...	John	6	460	Mar 31, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Physically sick...good! (Preview) It might be the flu or whatever. It started coming on this morning just as I was waking up. I needed support to stand without wavering back and forth and I had a cup of coffee and felt better; got my truck and made it to my home meeting. *God can I be more greatly blessed than what has been given to me with thi...*	Jerry F	9	547	Mar 31, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Oh boy, here we go again! (Preview) Yesterday I received an email from my mother saying my family is going to my brother's home in another state for Easter. I only have this one sibling, its just the four of us and his wife and my only niece who Im crazy about. My brother's wife's family will be there too. We have always spent holidays togeth...	WorkingThroughIt	11	406	Mar 31, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	People pleasing martyr complex (Preview) I'm awake at 2 AM ruminating and cooking up a resentment against 1 of my bosses. I had an idea about a training for gay and lesbian awareness, sensitivity, and resources. I have some connections outside of work and have used them to help my office/organization before. Generally speaking, I am a dy...	pinkchip	22	1159	Mar 31, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Quit My Job Yesterday (Preview) I just couldn't stand it anymore. This attorney is the most self-centered, rude, condescending person I have ever met. Not only that, I truly believe she is a hoarder. 50% of my day is spent searching for things that she has misplaced in that trash heap that she calls an office. The other 40% is spent m...	wornoutmrsfixit	7	507	Mar 31, 2013 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Give in to the addict or take a stand? (Preview) Over the last few days my addicted son who no longer lives with me has been contacting me and giving me a lot of grief because I will not let him have his box of 50 to 75 DVD;s (which I paid for when he lived with me). The reason I will not let him have them is because I know that he will sell them for drug money. I...	sheristeele	9	406	Mar 31, 2013 by Pushka
	Fear when spouse is starting rehabilitation, codependent? (Preview) Hi. I am posting tonight because my boyfriend has decided that he wants to look into a thirty day facility like passages. Or something cheaper obviously. He is going to call his mom tonight and tell her, and ask about insurance or what he should do. I am literally riddled with anxiety and fear??? :conf...	giraffe13	6	375	Mar 31, 2013 by giraffe13
	on a positive track! (Preview) Back to the good old days when I was being more positive. I feel like I have been suffering from negativity. I just needed to get humble a bit to get the gratitude back. I have been a little bit uncomfortable in my own skin but today I feel like I can do almost anything that I put my mind to. If something goes wr...	Hoot Nanny	3	333	Mar 30, 2013 by el-cee
	Rebuilding bridges (Preview) -- Edited by Maurice on Thursday 28th of March 2013 12:17:27 PM	Maurice	4	328	Mar 30, 2013 by milkwood
	Promises - for anyone and everyone.... (Preview) http://alanon.activeboard.com/t52247626/the-promises-of-alanon/	canadianguy	3	360	Mar 30, 2013 by John
	holidays :( (Preview) As the holiday approaches the drama with my AH has already started. He didn't come home wednesday night and today he is off and already its a big drama about his job. I'm off all weekend from both my jobs. I know I'm going to a meeting tomorrow. But I need to make plans with family or friends the rest of weeke...	texasgal	3	283	Mar 30, 2013 by John
	trying to stay positive (Preview) Hi Everyone, I haven't posted in a while because things at my house have been really really bad, and all week all I have wanted to do is come home from work and crawl in bed and hide. Today as I was walking down the hall at work, I looked out at the sun shining. I began thinking about how we finally have a bea...	imom	3	346	Mar 30, 2013 by tortuga
	It really was easier .. (Preview) to be angry .. lol. Now the anger was exhausting, at least I could keep up the steel gates and walls and not have to deal with the hurt. Ironically, STBAX moved out 15 months ago and I'm only NOW dealing with the hurt. Being angry afforded me not to face my pain initially and I had a lot of pain going into t...	Pushka	10	617	Mar 30, 2013 by Pushka
	Finding A Sponsor (Preview) Hi, This is my first post and I'm very lost right now. I hope someone can point me in the right direction. I don't live near by Al Anon meetings but I would like to find a sponsor, someone to email/talk on the phone. Does anyone know how can I do it? Thank you very much in advance!	seekinganswers	4	335	Mar 30, 2013 by seekinganswers
	It finally happened (Preview) After six months of relapse that seemingly continued to get worse and worse I have asked my fiance to leave our home. I can no longer bear to live with the insanity in my life. She has continued to increase her use. Typically two nights a week she will not come home. I have found drug paraphenalia all ove...	Lupo	4	340	Mar 30, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Same old story (Preview) I was hopeful after yesterday's promises. AH said he was committed to recovery, blah blah blah. Today I get home from work, he is gone. There is a note on the table saying he is "planning to stay at his parents". I know him. This is how he can say he didn't lie. He "planned" to stay at h...	ParisMemories	7	386	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	Thank you (Preview) Good Morning Sometimes when I get upset and worried and go into a tailspin I think why? I'm doing everything I should be doing to get healthy. Why do I continue to have a problem detaching... Well...I'm human. Those feelings will always be there, it's just how do I handle them to keep me safe and have pe...	Cathyinaz	7	450	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	Payday (Preview) I'm doing a lot better, staying calm, working out a Plan B that actually excites me a little and then tomorrow is AH's payday (not that he's been to work in over a week!) Payday is the worst. He gets two physical checks. Cashes one and hands it to me for bills/groceries/gas, everything except his lovely m...	Number30	5	343	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	The Do's and Don'ts (Preview) I went to a face to face meeting on Tuesday night and this was read. Very powerful. The Al-Anon Do's and Don'tsDO:Do forgiveDo be humbleDo take it easy tension is harmfulDo play find recreation and hobbiesDo keep on trying whenever you failDo learn the facts about alcoholismDo attend Al-Anon mee...	Jen61	4	9992	Mar 29, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	help!! new to all of THIS (Preview) Hi everyone..so glad to have found this community of support...I'm new to all of "THIS". I started dating this wonderful man whom I had known in my community in June 2012 not knowing he was alcoholic...and not knowing the least thing about alcoholism..I don't drink..never have, didn't...	Hopeful925	6	339	Mar 29, 2013 by canadianguy
	Who is he now? Do I even like him? (Preview) From what I've read, when an alcoholic is recovering they become a new person. They reconstruct themselves as they are without the alcohol. I'm 99% sure my AH has been sober for about 4 weeks. Still working on myself and getting off the crazy-train/roller coaster. The thing I'm really strugglin...	SpiderArcana	8	498	Mar 29, 2013 by Giggleball
	How to detach with love? Alcoholic daughter (Preview) My 32 year old alcoholic daughter associates with other alcoholics (they meet at least 5 nights a week at bars, plus they meet for lunch and sometimes at homes to drink at other times). All their get togethers involve hours and hours of drinking. She feels they are just having fun and what they are doi...	lgnutah	9	1236	Mar 29, 2013 by lgnutah
	My 2 A's (Husband & Mom) (Preview) At the top of my lungs i want to scream! I hate this feeling I have inside. It's empty! My 2 A's are my husband and my mom. Husbandbeen seperated 18 monthsmiss him tremendouslyhe's in treatment 45 days cleani'm going see him this weekend Momboundary- i don't go to her house after work, don't wanna be ar...	Sincerely	2	306	Mar 29, 2013 by Tracy
	She is sick, sick, sick (Preview) We come home from vacation to find our AD got fired from her job a few weeks ago and has been hiding that fact from us. My husband was not in the room when she confided this to me, and she just curled up in a ball and kept crying and crying, saying that is not the worst part . I know better than this after almost 3...	LeenieBeanie	7	776	Mar 29, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	He's drinking already! (Preview) Two days out of the hospital and my son is already drinking. This time it hurts. I'm hurt. He is so depressed and hurting so much I'm afraid he is not going to make it. My "what ifs " kicked in big time. I'm scared and fear for his life right now. I am trying to let it pass but I had to write som...	Cathyinaz	12	541	Mar 29, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Here we go again. (Preview) I am tired. As I know so many others are. I posted a few days ago, and here I am again anxious and scared. after a calm 3 days, today he went to his mother's house having said he would be back here between 6.30 and 7 pm. I sent him a text saying food would be ready at 7.30 and he phoned to say he'd be back at 7.45. No s...	Sun sun	2	292	Mar 29, 2013 by dponlyme
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