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DoingThisForMyGuy · DoingThisForMyGuy

About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...

rainlax · rainlax

This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...

rehprof · rehprof

My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...

norasq · norasq

I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...

PP · PP

It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else

. I was even telli...

Sincerely · Sincerely

gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...

DavidG · DavidG

A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.

buffalo78 · buffalo78

Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...

Rinn · Rinn

So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...

stephaniej · stephaniej

For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...

Ms S · Ms S

my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...

John · John

I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...

John · John

While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...

Jerry F · Jerry F

really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...

texasgal · texasgal

I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...

forestfairy · forestfairy

So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...

Giggleball · Giggleball

So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...

el-cee · el-cee

My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...

MAGK55 · MAGK55

It just seems like it is the same day after day. Money problems, drama from the alcoholic, work problems. Blah, blah, blah. I have been attending AL-ANON meetings on Monday and I love going but life just seems depressing and meaningless.

John · John

On my wall is a picture of my son, who is holding his new born, first child, the day he was born. Both have their eyes closed and the love and connectedness is so obvious in that picture. My grandchild is now 10 years old. Then I have another picture... of my son's mug shot taken in jail. Not on my wall of c...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It might be the flu or whatever. It started coming on this morning just as I was waking up. I needed support to stand without wavering back and forth and I had a cup of coffee and felt better; got my truck and made it to my home meeting. God can I be more greatly blessed than what has been given to me with thi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Yesterday I received an email from my mother saying my family is going to my brother's home in another state for Easter. I only have this one sibling, its just the four of us and his wife and my only niece who Im crazy about. My brother's wife's family will be there too. We have always spent holidays togeth...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm awake at 2 AM ruminating and cooking up a resentment against 1 of my bosses. I had an idea about a training for gay and lesbian awareness, sensitivity, and resources. I have some connections outside of work and have used them to help my office/organization before. Generally speaking, I am a dy...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I just couldn't stand it anymore. This attorney is the most self-centered, rude, condescending person I have ever met. Not only that, I truly believe she is a hoarder. 50% of my day is spent searching for things that she has misplaced in that trash heap that she calls an office. The other 40% is spent m...

sheristeele · sheristeele

Over the last few days my addicted son who no longer lives with me has been contacting me and giving me a lot of grief because I will not let him have his box of 50 to 75 DVD;s (which I paid for when he lived with me). The reason I will not let him have them is because I know that he will sell them for drug money. I...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

Hi. I am posting tonight because my boyfriend has decided that he wants to look into a thirty day facility like passages. Or something cheaper obviously. He is going to call his mom tonight and tell her, and ask about insurance or what he should do. I am literally riddled with anxiety and fear??? :conf...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Back to the good old days when I was being more positive. I feel like I have been suffering from negativity. I just needed to get humble a bit to get the gratitude back. I have been a little bit uncomfortable in my own skin but today I feel like I can do almost anything that I put my mind to. If something goes wr...

Maurice · Maurice

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canadianguy · canadianguy

http://alanon.activeboard.com/t52247626/the-promises-of-alanon/

texasgal · texasgal

As the holiday approaches the drama with my AH has already started. He didn't come home wednesday night and today he is off and already its a big drama about his job. I'm off all weekend from both my jobs. I know I'm going to a meeting tomorrow. But I need to make plans with family or friends the rest of weeke...

imom · imom

Hi Everyone, I haven't posted in a while because things at my house have been really really bad, and all week all I have wanted to do is come home from work and crawl in bed and hide. Today as I was walking down the hall at work, I looked out at the sun shining. I began thinking about how we finally have a bea...

Pushka · Pushka

to be angry .. lol. Now the anger was exhausting, at least I could keep up the steel gates and walls and not have to deal with the hurt. Ironically, STBAX moved out 15 months ago and I'm only NOW dealing with the hurt. Being angry afforded me not to face my pain initially and I had a lot of pain going into t...

seekinganswers · seekinganswers

Hi, This is my first post and I'm very lost right now. I hope someone can point me in the right direction. I don't live near by Al Anon meetings but I would like to find a sponsor, someone to email/talk on the phone. Does anyone know how can I do it? Thank you very much in advance!

Lupo · Lupo

After six months of relapse that seemingly continued to get worse and worse I have asked my fiance to leave our home. I can no longer bear to live with the insanity in my life. She has continued to increase her use. Typically two nights a week she will not come home. I have found drug paraphenalia all ove...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I was hopeful after yesterday's promises. AH said he was committed to recovery, blah blah blah. Today I get home from work, he is gone. There is a note on the table saying he is "planning to stay at his parents". I know him. This is how he can say he didn't lie. He "planned" to stay at h...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Sometimes when I get upset and worried and go into a tailspin I think why? I'm doing everything I should be doing to get healthy. Why do I continue to have a problem detaching... Well...I'm human. Those feelings will always be there, it's just how do I handle them to keep me safe and have pe...

Number30 · Number30

I'm doing a lot better, staying calm, working out a Plan B that actually excites me a little and then tomorrow is AH's payday (not that he's been to work in over a week!) Payday is the worst. He gets two physical checks. Cashes one and hands it to me for bills/groceries/gas, everything except his lovely m...

Jen61 · Jen61

I went to a face to face meeting on Tuesday night and this was read. Very powerful. The Al-Anon Do's and Don'tsDO:Do forgiveDo be humbleDo take it easy tension is harmfulDo play find recreation and hobbiesDo keep on trying whenever you failDo learn the facts about alcoholismDo attend Al-Anon mee...

Hopeful925 · Hopeful925

Hi everyone..so glad to have found this community of support...I'm new to all of "THIS". I started dating this wonderful man whom I had known in my community in June 2012 not knowing he was alcoholic...and not knowing the least thing about alcoholism..I don't drink..never have, didn't...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

From what I've read, when an alcoholic is recovering they become a new person. They reconstruct themselves as they are without the alcohol. I'm 99% sure my AH has been sober for about 4 weeks. Still working on myself and getting off the crazy-train/roller coaster. The thing I'm really strugglin...

lgnutah · lgnutah

My 32 year old alcoholic daughter associates with other alcoholics (they meet at least 5 nights a week at bars, plus they meet for lunch and sometimes at homes to drink at other times). All their get togethers involve hours and hours of drinking. She feels they are just having fun and what they are doi...

Sincerely · Sincerely

At the top of my lungs i want to scream! I hate this feeling I have inside. It's empty! My 2 A's are my husband and my mom. Husbandbeen seperated 18 monthsmiss him tremendouslyhe's in treatment 45 days cleani'm going see him this weekend Momboundary- i don't go to her house after work, don't wanna be ar...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

We come home from vacation to find our AD got fired from her job a few weeks ago and has been hiding that fact from us. My husband was not in the room when she confided this to me, and she just curled up in a ball and kept crying and crying, saying that is not the worst part . I know better than this after almost 3...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Two days out of the hospital and my son is already drinking. This time it hurts. I'm hurt. He is so depressed and hurting so much I'm afraid he is not going to make it. My "what ifs " kicked in big time. I'm scared and fear for his life right now. I am trying to let it pass but I had to write som...

Sun sun · Sun sun

I am tired. As I know so many others are. I posted a few days ago, and here I am again anxious and scared. after a calm 3 days, today he went to his mother's house having said he would be back here between 6.30 and 7 pm. I sent him a text saying food would be ready at 7.30 and he phoned to say he'd be back at 7.45. No s...

lnc12 · lnc12

I wrote about my AH being drunk at 8:00 yesterday. Well, apparently he just kept drinking. I got a call from his grandmother at 1:00 PM telling me that he had fallen and he had a big knot on his head. She wanted me to come over to look at it, and I told her that it wouldn't do any good for me to be there, and that if...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Have found myself much happier doing what is innately me, a bit of rehab and rescue. A gal and her family are rening the 20 acres across the road from me. She has everything...they are all sooo sweet and healthy. I ended up rescuing Augy my Berkshire/guinea hog mix. He is gorgious, won't be as big as a regu...

dponlyme · dponlyme

My AW is having a really hard time mentally right now.. I see alot of depression and thinking errors going on but I am frustrated that it always ends up with her being angry with me. Yesterday she woke me up and asked if she could take my NEW tablet outside so she could listen to music while she cooked on the...

gorby928 · gorby928

Hi all Well my AW kicked off again on Sunday,she went into total meltdown while the kids where still up.I tried to get her to stop as I hate the kids to see her like that but I was talking to the wall.I remembered the steps and tried with all my heart to stay calm but when she kept on screaming at me over and over...

rehprof · rehprof

So the exA called me tonight to tell me how concerned he is about our kids...playing too many video games, and my 16 yo not doing well in school. The exA is telling me all these things I need to do...and that it's probably "too late" to turn things around for my 16yo. He says "you are so bus...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

And so that's it. But I still feel like it's out of my control how soon all this ends. Tuesday morning I called his probation officer's boss and told her everything. Just the right time apparently. Unfortunately his probation officer actually died 3 weeks ago. So he was going to be reassigned an...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling w/ being patient & compassionate. I just want it to happen now--whatever it is! I am having a pretty good day today. I need a nap, though. I have been struggling w/ yesterday's reading in Hope for Today. It was talking about having compassion for others. My mom is my toughest one. Tha...

tortuga · tortuga

I noticed that my trust got hurt the most in my history with the A. trust in myself and my 'judgments' of situations and people, and trust in others not to hurt me. it has a lot to do with my expectations. I somewhat expected heathy nehavior from unhealthy people, including myself. Well, than life opene...

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	My AA guy is doing better than I am (Preview) About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...	DoingThisForMyGuy	6	275	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	New groups for us shy folks? (Preview) This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...	rainlax	11	629	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	fearing mortality? (Preview) My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...	rehprof	9	367	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Can't Stop Thinking (Preview) I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...	norasq	4	393	Apr 2, 2013 by norasq
	A week of the "I suck voices" (Preview) It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else. I was even telli...	PP	12	949	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	i'm going to make it (Preview) gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...	Sincerely	4	264	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Keeping things in perspective.... (Preview) A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.	DavidG	4	253	Apr 2, 2013 by nmike
	I'm new & LOST. (Preview) Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...	buffalo78	4	411	Apr 2, 2013 by buffalo78
	the future's so bright(I gotta wear shades!) (Preview) Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...	Hoot Nanny	2	397	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A turning point for my AM? (Preview) Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...	phoenixmagicgirl	1	267	Apr 2, 2013 by pinkchip
	My husband is doing really good. wow! (Preview) So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...	Rinn	5	306	Apr 2, 2013 by Rinn
	I am struggling mightily tonight, and could use some ESH (Preview) For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...	stephaniej	19	462	Apr 2, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	some good news about my daughter (Preview) my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...	Ms S	4	415	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A piece of my history... (Preview) I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...	John	9	421	Apr 2, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Not the Same Old Story (Preview) I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...	ParisMemories	6	289	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Exhausted (Preview) I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...	Sincerely	5	299	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	A funny I heard last night... (Preview) While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...	John	1	259	Apr 1, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Wow you people (Preview) really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	4	355	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Fear of the mailbox (Preview) I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...	scaredandconfused	5	589	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	Time to put...something...into practice (Preview) My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...	ClearTheFog	5	2575	Apr 1, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	I have a friend who I think is an alcoholic. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...	slogan_jim	7	354	Apr 1, 2013 by slogan_jim
	my ah relapsed (Preview) I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...	texasgal	5	297	Apr 1, 2013 by Ms S
	When can we all live together again? (Preview) So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...	forestfairy	7	442	Apr 1, 2013 by forestfairy
	New Here (Preview) So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...	Giggleball	6	409	Apr 1, 2013 by Giggleball
	cant let go! (Preview) My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...	el-cee	8	418	Mar 31, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Is this ever going to change (Preview) It just seems like it is the same day after day. Money problems, drama from the alcoholic, work problems. Blah, blah, blah. I have been attending AL-ANON meetings on Monday and I love going but life just seems depressing and meaningless.	MAGK55	7	506	Mar 31, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Hurting, Loving, Believing, Trusting, Fearing, etc, etc, etc... (Preview) On my wall is a picture of my son, who is holding his new born, first child, the day he was born. Both have their eyes closed and the love and connectedness is so obvious in that picture. My grandchild is now 10 years old. Then I have another picture... of my son's mug shot taken in jail. Not on my wall of c...	John	6	439	Mar 31, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Physically sick...good! (Preview) It might be the flu or whatever. It started coming on this morning just as I was waking up. I needed support to stand without wavering back and forth and I had a cup of coffee and felt better; got my truck and made it to my home meeting. *God can I be more greatly blessed than what has been given to me with thi...*	Jerry F	9	525	Mar 31, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Oh boy, here we go again! (Preview) Yesterday I received an email from my mother saying my family is going to my brother's home in another state for Easter. I only have this one sibling, its just the four of us and his wife and my only niece who Im crazy about. My brother's wife's family will be there too. We have always spent holidays togeth...	WorkingThroughIt	11	378	Mar 31, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	People pleasing martyr complex (Preview) I'm awake at 2 AM ruminating and cooking up a resentment against 1 of my bosses. I had an idea about a training for gay and lesbian awareness, sensitivity, and resources. I have some connections outside of work and have used them to help my office/organization before. Generally speaking, I am a dy...	pinkchip	22	1134	Mar 31, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Quit My Job Yesterday (Preview) I just couldn't stand it anymore. This attorney is the most self-centered, rude, condescending person I have ever met. Not only that, I truly believe she is a hoarder. 50% of my day is spent searching for things that she has misplaced in that trash heap that she calls an office. The other 40% is spent m...	wornoutmrsfixit	7	485	Mar 31, 2013 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Give in to the addict or take a stand? (Preview) Over the last few days my addicted son who no longer lives with me has been contacting me and giving me a lot of grief because I will not let him have his box of 50 to 75 DVD;s (which I paid for when he lived with me). The reason I will not let him have them is because I know that he will sell them for drug money. I...	sheristeele	9	384	Mar 31, 2013 by Pushka
	Fear when spouse is starting rehabilitation, codependent? (Preview) Hi. I am posting tonight because my boyfriend has decided that he wants to look into a thirty day facility like passages. Or something cheaper obviously. He is going to call his mom tonight and tell her, and ask about insurance or what he should do. I am literally riddled with anxiety and fear??? :conf...	giraffe13	6	351	Mar 31, 2013 by giraffe13
	on a positive track! (Preview) Back to the good old days when I was being more positive. I feel like I have been suffering from negativity. I just needed to get humble a bit to get the gratitude back. I have been a little bit uncomfortable in my own skin but today I feel like I can do almost anything that I put my mind to. If something goes wr...	Hoot Nanny	3	312	Mar 30, 2013 by el-cee
	Rebuilding bridges (Preview) -- Edited by Maurice on Thursday 28th of March 2013 12:17:27 PM	Maurice	4	306	Mar 30, 2013 by milkwood
	Promises - for anyone and everyone.... (Preview) http://alanon.activeboard.com/t52247626/the-promises-of-alanon/	canadianguy	3	338	Mar 30, 2013 by John
	holidays :( (Preview) As the holiday approaches the drama with my AH has already started. He didn't come home wednesday night and today he is off and already its a big drama about his job. I'm off all weekend from both my jobs. I know I'm going to a meeting tomorrow. But I need to make plans with family or friends the rest of weeke...	texasgal	3	262	Mar 30, 2013 by John
	trying to stay positive (Preview) Hi Everyone, I haven't posted in a while because things at my house have been really really bad, and all week all I have wanted to do is come home from work and crawl in bed and hide. Today as I was walking down the hall at work, I looked out at the sun shining. I began thinking about how we finally have a bea...	imom	3	325	Mar 30, 2013 by tortuga
	It really was easier .. (Preview) to be angry .. lol. Now the anger was exhausting, at least I could keep up the steel gates and walls and not have to deal with the hurt. Ironically, STBAX moved out 15 months ago and I'm only NOW dealing with the hurt. Being angry afforded me not to face my pain initially and I had a lot of pain going into t...	Pushka	10	591	Mar 30, 2013 by Pushka
	Finding A Sponsor (Preview) Hi, This is my first post and I'm very lost right now. I hope someone can point me in the right direction. I don't live near by Al Anon meetings but I would like to find a sponsor, someone to email/talk on the phone. Does anyone know how can I do it? Thank you very much in advance!	seekinganswers	4	315	Mar 30, 2013 by seekinganswers
	It finally happened (Preview) After six months of relapse that seemingly continued to get worse and worse I have asked my fiance to leave our home. I can no longer bear to live with the insanity in my life. She has continued to increase her use. Typically two nights a week she will not come home. I have found drug paraphenalia all ove...	Lupo	4	317	Mar 30, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Same old story (Preview) I was hopeful after yesterday's promises. AH said he was committed to recovery, blah blah blah. Today I get home from work, he is gone. There is a note on the table saying he is "planning to stay at his parents". I know him. This is how he can say he didn't lie. He "planned" to stay at h...	ParisMemories	7	358	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	Thank you (Preview) Good Morning Sometimes when I get upset and worried and go into a tailspin I think why? I'm doing everything I should be doing to get healthy. Why do I continue to have a problem detaching... Well...I'm human. Those feelings will always be there, it's just how do I handle them to keep me safe and have pe...	Cathyinaz	7	430	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	Payday (Preview) I'm doing a lot better, staying calm, working out a Plan B that actually excites me a little and then tomorrow is AH's payday (not that he's been to work in over a week!) Payday is the worst. He gets two physical checks. Cashes one and hands it to me for bills/groceries/gas, everything except his lovely m...	Number30	5	316	Mar 29, 2013 by maryjane
	The Do's and Don'ts (Preview) I went to a face to face meeting on Tuesday night and this was read. Very powerful. The Al-Anon Do's and Don'tsDO:Do forgiveDo be humbleDo take it easy tension is harmfulDo play find recreation and hobbiesDo keep on trying whenever you failDo learn the facts about alcoholismDo attend Al-Anon mee...	Jen61	4	9595	Mar 29, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	help!! new to all of THIS (Preview) Hi everyone..so glad to have found this community of support...I'm new to all of "THIS". I started dating this wonderful man whom I had known in my community in June 2012 not knowing he was alcoholic...and not knowing the least thing about alcoholism..I don't drink..never have, didn't...	Hopeful925	6	318	Mar 29, 2013 by canadianguy
	Who is he now? Do I even like him? (Preview) From what I've read, when an alcoholic is recovering they become a new person. They reconstruct themselves as they are without the alcohol. I'm 99% sure my AH has been sober for about 4 weeks. Still working on myself and getting off the crazy-train/roller coaster. The thing I'm really strugglin...	SpiderArcana	8	478	Mar 29, 2013 by Giggleball
	How to detach with love? Alcoholic daughter (Preview) My 32 year old alcoholic daughter associates with other alcoholics (they meet at least 5 nights a week at bars, plus they meet for lunch and sometimes at homes to drink at other times). All their get togethers involve hours and hours of drinking. She feels they are just having fun and what they are doi...	lgnutah	9	1210	Mar 29, 2013 by lgnutah
	My 2 A's (Husband & Mom) (Preview) At the top of my lungs i want to scream! I hate this feeling I have inside. It's empty! My 2 A's are my husband and my mom. Husbandbeen seperated 18 monthsmiss him tremendouslyhe's in treatment 45 days cleani'm going see him this weekend Momboundary- i don't go to her house after work, don't wanna be ar...	Sincerely	2	281	Mar 29, 2013 by Tracy
	She is sick, sick, sick (Preview) We come home from vacation to find our AD got fired from her job a few weeks ago and has been hiding that fact from us. My husband was not in the room when she confided this to me, and she just curled up in a ball and kept crying and crying, saying that is not the worst part . I know better than this after almost 3...	LeenieBeanie	7	753	Mar 29, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	He's drinking already! (Preview) Two days out of the hospital and my son is already drinking. This time it hurts. I'm hurt. He is so depressed and hurting so much I'm afraid he is not going to make it. My "what ifs " kicked in big time. I'm scared and fear for his life right now. I am trying to let it pass but I had to write som...	Cathyinaz	12	517	Mar 29, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Here we go again. (Preview) I am tired. As I know so many others are. I posted a few days ago, and here I am again anxious and scared. after a calm 3 days, today he went to his mother's house having said he would be back here between 6.30 and 7 pm. I sent him a text saying food would be ready at 7.30 and he phoned to say he'd be back at 7.45. No s...	Sun sun	2	268	Mar 29, 2013 by dponlyme
	All the chaos that can fit in one day... (Preview) I wrote about my AH being drunk at 8:00 yesterday. Well, apparently he just kept drinking. I got a call from his grandmother at 1:00 PM telling me that he had fallen and he had a big knot on his head. She wanted me to come over to look at it, and I told her that it wouldn't do any good for me to be there, and that if...	lnc12	10	398	Mar 29, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Some pictures to brighten your day! (Preview) Have found myself much happier doing what is innately me, a bit of rehab and rescue. A gal and her family are rening the 20 acres across the road from me. She has everything...they are all sooo sweet and healthy. I ended up rescuing Augy my Berkshire/guinea hog mix. He is gorgious, won't be as big as a regu...	Debilyn	4	330	Mar 29, 2013 by Breakingfree
	AW is struggling mentally and I am frustrated (Preview) My AW is having a really hard time mentally right now.. I see alot of depression and thinking errors going on but I am frustrated that it always ends up with her being angry with me. Yesterday she woke me up and asked if she could take my NEW tablet outside so she could listen to music while she cooked on the...	dponlyme	4	340	Mar 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	She kicked off again ! (Preview) Hi all Well my AW kicked off again on Sunday,she went into total meltdown while the kids where still up.I tried to get her to stop as I hate the kids to see her like that but I was talking to the wall.I remembered the steps and tried with all my heart to stay calm but when she kept on screaming at me over and over...	gorby928	5	476	Mar 29, 2013 by gorby928
	Whoa...I HAVE changed (Preview) So the exA called me tonight to tell me how concerned he is about our kids...playing too many video games, and my 16 yo not doing well in school. The exA is telling me all these things I need to do...and that it's probably "too late" to turn things around for my 16yo. He says "you are so bus...	rehprof	7	473	Mar 29, 2013 by Pushka
	He will never be clean (Preview) And so that's it. But I still feel like it's out of my control how soon all this ends. Tuesday morning I called his probation officer's boss and told her everything. Just the right time apparently. Unfortunately his probation officer actually died 3 weeks ago. So he was going to be reassigned an...	NicoleDiver	1	283	Mar 29, 2013 by lgnutah
	Patience (Preview) I am struggling w/ being patient & compassionate. I just want it to happen now--whatever it is! I am having a pretty good day today. I need a nap, though. I have been struggling w/ yesterday's reading in Hope for Today. It was talking about having compassion for others. My mom is my toughest one. Tha...	Hoot Nanny	1	212	Mar 28, 2013 by Sincerely
	i am working on 'SIMPLE' and 'TRUST' (Preview) I noticed that my trust got hurt the most in my history with the A. trust in myself and my 'judgments' of situations and people, and trust in others not to hurt me. it has a lot to do with my expectations. I somewhat expected heathy nehavior from unhealthy people, including myself. Well, than life opene...	tortuga	5	444	Mar 28, 2013 by dponlyme
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