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So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, aired out a lot of problems. I have been trying not to go nuts and search stuff or over think it. Together we got through it, he has been clean and sober ever since. This is the first time in three years he has gone this long! No pills, no illegal drugs, No alcohol, no chew.... I think he might really get it this time. I am feeling a huge sense of relief. I don't even have that sense of dread anymore like the other shoe is going to fall.
I just usually post such dramatic sounding stuff because that is where my brain has been. (half crazy town) I thought this would be a nice. Today I can honestly say I feel relief, and peace.
I agree with Hotrod though you still need al anon.
My partner has been sober for 8 monbths he is doing really well. He has had two stints of sobriety before and then slipped back, but he keeps fighting. Al anon is my medicine I go wheather he is sober or drunk just extra when he is using. My life is so good today wheather my A is good or not.
Dear Rinn, How wonderful you have some peace, for now. Be cautious and continue YOUR recovery. Find a sponsor and continue to transform so your peace does not depend on whether he is or isn't using. Quitting substances is really a very small piece of the equation...if he does not attend AA or another 12-step program for substance abuse, he will use again. If you do not have a strong footing, down the rabbit hole you will go. I am not a Debbie Downer...just been down the same path. hugs
I am deffinatly attending meetings as much as I can. I am thankful my husband is doing better. But I have really had to practice distancing myself from his prob and setting boundries and feel like it is helping me. I had been doing alnon for two years, but not super active. But latley it has really inspired me to take time to take care of myself each day. I am trying to set some personal goals for things and focusing on healing myself instead of everyone else. I had a baby die last year with a heart defect and have been depressed and gaining weight and have PTSD since but I never really took control of that either. So I am taking care of me they way I need to and things are looking up. Its like the first time in a year I haven't felt I was carring the weight of everything for my family, business, money, addition issues it was weighing me down. Now I just take on what I can each day and leave the rest and take care of me too. its a nice change.
