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Thank you all, and, yes, I go to meetings and read these posts daily, as there is ALWAYS something I need to hear. ...and, I had not even considered the "holiday" influence...see, I am so glad I shared! Thanks, Betty for the ANTS!
-- Edited by PP on Monday 1st of April 2013 11:10:46 AM
It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else. I was even telling myself that I have nothing of relevance to say to anyone on this board....oh yuck, gag me Paula......I will replace my suckie thoughts with loving ones RIGHT NOW! Have a grand day...
Many times, I have absolutely nothing to say/share at a meeting but I have to remind myself that there is always something in the room that I need to hear.
Much like Path, I too made myself go to meetings and I had nothing to share; but always came away with a nugget of wisdom to put into practice. Love the ANTS!!
Investigate that Paula and you might find you're carrying on stuff that was handed to you from the past. That is what happened to me and when I found out I quickly went from angry to sad to elated that I knew...they were wrong...I could give me the right messages. Saying "you're wrong" to the voices of the people I gave power to...How absolutely courageous is that!!??. You're great. ((((hugs))))
I call my negative thoughts "ralph" -- and when they descend, I say "oh, there's ralph, stopping by for a visit" and then I ask him to leave. HIs company does me no good.
I hadn't considered the holidays, it's in the air. I like ANTS I hadn't heard that one before lol!!!
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Someone once said to me that when you have the 'I suck' thoughts you should think about if you'd ever say those things to one of your friends. No? Of course not. It helps me to fight back at them, imagining if I said those things to a dear friend, I wouldn't have them as a friend for much longer, so I should extend the same respect to myself.
I like what Maurice shared here. I get the poor me's and the I sucks in my head a lot too. What I try to remember is: This, too, shall pass. It's all temporary, and that particular thought keeps me going! Hope your week will be better than last, PP!
. ...and, I had not even considered the "holiday" influence...see, I am so glad I shared! Thanks, Betty for the ANTS!
