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ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Hello friends AH has checked himself into detox / mental health facility again. This is the second time since the end of February. He has told his case worker that when he completes the 7 day inpatient he wants to go back to the 9-3 outpatient program. Both his case worker and I agree that he needs long-te...

HappyToBe · HappyToBe

Hi all. This great group and your shares on this page really keep me going for last few months. This is my first post and possible not last. I am currently visiting my home country, my hometown and staying with my folks that I haven't seen for past 18 months. We usually get on very well ( not surprising of co...

PP · PP

A little soulmate thought from my head.....I believe we have many soulmates hanging around for us and some come with expiration dates.

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

Our A daughter was told she has to be out of our home in June, has no money, no job and here she is, spending 9 hours today getting extensions in her hair!!!! Her birthday is tomorrow and she wants us to take her out to dinner!!!!! I don't get it, and perhaps never will............... -- Edited by LeenieBe...

cinders · cinders

So, today I decided to check the online court forum and see if my soon to be ex husband had filed any new papers that I might not have found out about yet. We had filed a joinder and were doing our divorce without any hostility or fighting. It is just going to be over. We are just walking away. Sad that it h...

milkwood · milkwood

I have just enjoyed my favourite walk in the mountains, starting near a shower of snow melt and passing through a narrow gorge where the river was tumbling in full flow. As the path climbed higher the mountain mists wrapped the wise old beech trees and when I reached the highest point of the path, where...

Red Hawk · Red Hawk

Yesterday's daily reading REALLY hit me right between the eyes, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hope you all get as much out of it as I did! Today I Accept My Mistakes I embrace my lack of perfection and I accept my mistakes. I have the right to be wrong. My self-worth does not have to evaporate when I...

Clueless Optimist · Clueless Optimist

I am so upset right now. :( AH was doing so well and he's been off the drugs for almost two weeks now and off the alcohol for two months but a few minutes ago, he just walked out of the front door to go to the smoke shop to get some spice. He's been going to his outpatient treatment classes but obviously, he'...

aroundthewayJ · aroundthewayJ

I am new to Alanon, and spent many years avoiding getting involved in Alanon until I was forced to when my life threw up. I grew up with an alcohaulic mother. She is now 16 years "sober" yet she still has all of the typical alcohaulic behaviors. Selfishness, narcassism, attention whoring. T...

shortCakeSlayer · shortCakeSlayer

Hello all! First post on here. I mostly need a place to put this all down and hopefully get some support, thoughts, and advice from others going through it. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was about 12 or 13, right after her mother passed away. I'm 100% positive she was dealing with depression a...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Is there an actual set of directions on how to do the steps in Alanon anywhere? If so, what book are they in? i don't mean where the steps are TALKED about, but an actual, clear-cut set of directions? thanks!

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My adult son is going down hill physically and I can't get him to start taking care of himself by eating right and resting as he should. The years of drug abuse is now showing on him so very bad and I am helpless and I know it, but I love my son very much and remember the good times before drugs took him over. I...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My AH had another black out binge about 2 weeks ago. He was traveling for work and when he came home he committed himself to NOT drinking....AGAIN. He says he knows I've heard it all before. He's still not going to go to AA and is basically doing this on willpower alone, as he's done so many other times i...

skytraveler · skytraveler

Usual story: Dad lifelong heavy drinker, now textbook alcoholic. He has liver disease, quite advanced but not quite sure what stage. He has jaundice so its bad. He has good days and bad days. He cuts down, get stronger and then crashes and becomes a raging monster. I live 200 miles away and he is alone ha...

cinders · cinders

Its been a while since I posted anything. Mainly been really busy with the kids and working. Life just keeps going and there is so much going on. When I was married to my AH I always felt like a single parent, did everything myself, got little help from him. They are not his kids, but still he was a part o...

Jlr76 · Jlr76

Short version of my story I have been with my husband twelve years And about a year go he told me wanted divorce. Well I love him and told him this could be fixed. Well the back story is mom ther died unexpectedly three years ago and he never grieved her. And last week I found out he had an affair. This man is so...

Rinn · Rinn

My husband has a friend I really don't like. He has done alot of drugs with him and his friend has been known to buy and sell stuff. Each time my husband has done something really bad it has been with or fromthis particular friend. He claims they are close like brothers and won't cut him off he just sneaks a...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

Hello all,Hope everyone at MIP had a wonderful weekend.Now for the rest of the story. For the past week our A daughter has been receiving unsolicited letters /post cards from defense attorneys. We knew something was up. Now, we find our A daughter not only got fired three weeks ago, she was arrested an...

imom · imom

Hi everyone. I am trying to move on with my life with my children, but my AH just keeps coming back. He relapses, I kick him out, then he comes back. I am working on my legal and financial issues to protect myself and my kids, but it is so hard to maintain my sanity when he is physically near me. He and I don'...

seekinganswers · seekinganswers

Hi, I'm new here and I'm a mess right now so please bare with me. Has anyone here have the A go dark on you? Totally ignore you? Cut contact with you out of nowhere? and literally disappear? Let you in complet dispair not knowing what happened or why they did it? The A in my life has done this several times and...

pixie · pixie

Hi everyone,haven't posted in a while.Hope everyone is doing good. My alcoholic father in law is 80 and showing signs of dementia or alzheimers.He drinks constantly and has for years.Taught my husband everything he knows.I'm wondering what will happen to him if he needs to be put in a nursing home an...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

AH had his last outpatient day today. He was drinking most of the weekend, so it is pretty clear that he can't do this on his own. A week ago he said he couldnt wait for IOP to end so he could go to AA everday, but who knows if he will follow through. I am feeling pretty accepting of the drinking, he's gonna do...

Sincerely · Sincerely

over the last 18 months i've been living totally seperately from my husband. went for months without even seeing him. i did talk to him each day. however i avoided seeing him, as his behavior was competely unacceptable to me. he was using and drinking excessively. my heart always wished he'd get h...

sweeetr · sweeetr

.. this wkend, I did a lot of "me" stuff (painting etc) My AH did a lot of yard work, no telling how much he drank but by every night he couldnt talk and would stumble in the house. I just did my thing, and he did his. Our son came home Sat evening, my mother in law dropped him off 3 hours early with m...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I thought I was over letting my stbxah lure me into an arguement. I know what he's doing and I've been doing so good at not responding to his nonsense but tonight I let him bait me into the crazy ranting and raving that I know he wanted. I have not heard from him for 3 weeks. Despite having serious financial...

buffalo78 · buffalo78

Now that my alcoholic ex has moved out and completely disappeared, I have had some quiet time to just sit with myself. Its been pretty uncomfortable, actually. And every time I start thinking something positive about no longer having to deal with him around, I feel guilty. How do you deal with that?...

1976love · 1976love

Tonight is the night I go to my AH 90 day celebration meeting. Don't know why I am a little nervous. I have never been to an AA meeting ever. My husband says he has to speak and wants me there. I will go. I am proud of him for controlling the disease for 90 days...he's longest stretch ever. Every day is a...

buffalo78 · buffalo78

What is wrong with me? I am serious. I kicked the alcoholic boyfriend out a few days ago and today it really hit me. I am just really hurt by all this. I feel like I keep going through this over and over and over again. Kicking him out, obsessing and worrying he is going to die.... I really thought this...

CeeBee · CeeBee

I've been in Al-Anon for almost 6 months now - and it's been an absolute roller coaster. For the first time in my life I now have the ability to sit back and see this family disease cause chaos in my family of origin - and in my own life.Today I had a huge argument with my partner. I've been ummm-ing and ahhh-i...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Today my son asked me to report his baseball home runs on a website, he couldn't figure out how to do it. I figured it out and reported them. I found myself feeling resentful again, I thought to myself, why can't my ex husband do this? Do the resentments ever go away?

dponlyme · dponlyme

I was feeling nauseated this past day and stayed in bed all day and slept. Feel better now but skipped counseling which sucks. AW wants me to take her to the store after 10 pm and since I don't have a car I would have to borrow my mothers car and she had already went to bed. AW throws tantrum because I refus...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't live in Hawaii or Heaven but I think where I live is paradise! Just saying that I would rather be here than anywhere else. I guess wherever you are if you are happy, you can find yourself exactly where you are supposed to be. I guess I am settled completely after over 18 years in the same place. I used...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Open my eyes and I see the progress. My heart softens. My nerves are a roller coaster! Yesterday I got a phone call from Husband. His insurance will not cover after 45 days on inpatient. I was upset, confused. It was a bump in the road. We have options. Today he and his counsler called me. We are worki...

LizLooking · LizLooking

I am constantly struggling with finding my boundaries with my best friend, and ensuring that I am not sacrificing myself for him too much. He is a recovering alcoholic, and has been sober for over 6 months. I am so proud of him, and send him all the love in the world. Whenever he has a problem though, or a s...

ntxalanon · ntxalanon

I have posted in the past, but my wife has struggled with alchohol addiction for 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children aged 5 (twins) and 2. She has been to rehab and managed to stay sober for a year, and since then has had a couple of relapses (now only going a couple of days without drinking) to the poin...

DoingThisForMyGuy · DoingThisForMyGuy

About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...

rainlax · rainlax

This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...

rehprof · rehprof

My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...

norasq · norasq

I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...

PP · PP

It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else

. I was even telli...

Sincerely · Sincerely

gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...

DavidG · DavidG

A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.

buffalo78 · buffalo78

Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...

Rinn · Rinn

So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...

stephaniej · stephaniej

For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...

Ms S · Ms S

my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...

John · John

I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...

John · John

While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...

Jerry F · Jerry F

really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...

texasgal · texasgal

I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...

forestfairy · forestfairy

So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...

Giggleball · Giggleball

So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...

el-cee · el-cee

My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...

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	Asking AH to Get into a long term recovery program (Preview) Hello friends AH has checked himself into detox / mental health facility again. This is the second time since the end of February. He has told his case worker that when he completes the 7 day inpatient he wants to go back to the 9-3 outpatient program. Both his case worker and I agree that he needs long-te...	ParisMemories	5	327	Apr 6, 2013 by Mattie
	Back home, back to state of 'frozen' (Preview) Hi all. This great group and your shares on this page really keep me going for last few months. This is my first post and possible not last. I am currently visiting my home country, my hometown and staying with my folks that I haven't seen for past 18 months. We usually get on very well ( not surprising of co...	HappyToBe	3	291	Apr 5, 2013 by el-cee
	Just a little note about soulmates (Preview) A little soulmate thought from my head.....I believe we have many soulmates hanging around for us and some come with expiration dates.	PP	8	337	Apr 5, 2013 by el-cee
	Priorities (Preview) Our A daughter was told she has to be out of our home in June, has no money, no job and here she is, spending 9 hours today getting extensions in her hair!!!! Her birthday is tomorrow and she wants us to take her out to dinner!!!!! I don't get it, and perhaps never will............... -- Edited by LeenieBe...	LeenieBeanie	3	254	Apr 5, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Surprise!! You've been divorced for 11 days!! (Preview) So, today I decided to check the online court forum and see if my soon to be ex husband had filed any new papers that I might not have found out about yet. We had filed a joinder and were doing our divorce without any hostility or fighting. It is just going to be over. We are just walking away. Sad that it h...	cinders	5	333	Apr 5, 2013 by PP
	A treat to share... (Preview) I have just enjoyed my favourite walk in the mountains, starting near a shower of snow melt and passing through a narrow gorge where the river was tumbling in full flow. As the path climbed higher the mountain mists wrapped the wise old beech trees and when I reached the highest point of the path, where...	milkwood	4	231	Apr 5, 2013 by AlAnonDave
	A Daily Reading (re-posted from ACoA board) (Preview) Yesterday's daily reading REALLY hit me right between the eyes, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hope you all get as much out of it as I did! *Today I Accept My Mistakes* I embrace my lack of perfection and I accept my mistakes. I have the right to be wrong. My self-worth does not have to evaporate when I...	Red Hawk	4	4709	Apr 5, 2013 by bm5040
	Back to Zero AGAIN (Preview) I am so upset right now. :( AH was doing so well and he's been off the drugs for almost two weeks now and off the alcohol for two months but a few minutes ago, he just walked out of the front door to go to the smoke shop to get some spice. He's been going to his outpatient treatment classes but obviously, he'...	Clueless Optimist	4	359	Apr 5, 2013 by Tasha
	Dealing with my Alcohaulic Mom (Preview) I am new to Alanon, and spent many years avoiding getting involved in Alanon until I was forced to when my life threw up. I grew up with an alcohaulic mother. She is now 16 years "sober" yet she still has all of the typical alcohaulic behaviors. Selfishness, narcassism, attention whoring. T...	aroundthewayJ	6	251	Apr 5, 2013 by beckon11
	Just decided to cut off all contact with alcoholic parent (Preview) Hello all! First post on here. I mostly need a place to put this all down and hopefully get some support, thoughts, and advice from others going through it. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was about 12 or 13, right after her mother passed away. I'm 100% positive she was dealing with depression a...	shortCakeSlayer	2	1626	Apr 5, 2013 by hotrod
	Alanon 12 steps? (Preview) Is there an actual set of directions on how to do the steps in Alanon anywhere? If so, what book are they in? i don't mean where the steps are TALKED about, but an actual, clear-cut set of directions? thanks!	WorkingThroughIt	12	633	Apr 4, 2013 by el-cee
	I Scared..... (Preview) My adult son is going down hill physically and I can't get him to start taking care of himself by eating right and resting as he should. The years of drug abuse is now showing on him so very bad and I am helpless and I know it, but I love my son very much and remember the good times before drugs took him over. I...	DreamsOver	3	396	Apr 4, 2013 by hotrod
	Resentful that AH 'seems' better (Preview) My AH had another black out binge about 2 weeks ago. He was traveling for work and when he came home he committed himself to NOT drinking....AGAIN. He says he knows I've heard it all before. He's still not going to go to AA and is basically doing this on willpower alone, as he's done so many other times i...	ilovedogs	12	497	Apr 4, 2013 by shortCakeSlayer
	Alcoholic father, drink himself to death, liver disease. Need to learn how to cope better. (Preview) Usual story: Dad lifelong heavy drinker, now textbook alcoholic. He has liver disease, quite advanced but not quite sure what stage. He has jaundice so its bad. He has good days and bad days. He cuts down, get stronger and then crashes and becomes a raging monster. I live 200 miles away and he is alone ha...	skytraveler	6	474	Apr 4, 2013 by Jerry F
	One day at a time (Preview) Its been a while since I posted anything. Mainly been really busy with the kids and working. Life just keeps going and there is so much going on. When I was married to my AH I always felt like a single parent, did everything myself, got little help from him. They are not his kids, but still he was a part o...	cinders	5	438	Apr 4, 2013 by ilovedogs
	I am new here (Preview) Short version of my story I have been with my husband twelve years And about a year go he told me wanted divorce. Well I love him and told him this could be fixed. Well the back story is mom ther died unexpectedly three years ago and he never grieved her. And last week I found out he had an affair. This man is so...	Jlr76	3	248	Apr 4, 2013 by nmike
	how to handle and keep true to steps.... (Preview) My husband has a friend I really don't like. He has done alot of drugs with him and his friend has been known to buy and sell stuff. Each time my husband has done something really bad it has been with or fromthis particular friend. He claims they are close like brothers and won't cut him off he just sneaks a...	Rinn	5	428	Apr 4, 2013 by PP
	She is sick, sick, sick part 2 (Preview) Hello all,Hope everyone at MIP had a wonderful weekend.Now for the rest of the story. For the past week our A daughter has been receiving unsolicited letters /post cards from defense attorneys. We knew something was up. Now, we find our A daughter not only got fired three weeks ago, she was arrested an...	LeenieBeanie	6	342	Apr 4, 2013 by Pushka
	Trying to move on (Preview) Hi everyone. I am trying to move on with my life with my children, but my AH just keeps coming back. He relapses, I kick him out, then he comes back. I am working on my legal and financial issues to protect myself and my kids, but it is so hard to maintain my sanity when he is physically near me. He and I don'...	imom	2	268	Apr 4, 2013 by el-cee
	Anyone had this happened??? How do you cope??? (Preview) Hi, I'm new here and I'm a mess right now so please bare with me. Has anyone here have the A go dark on you? Totally ignore you? Cut contact with you out of nowhere? and literally disappear? Let you in complet dispair not knowing what happened or why they did it? The A in my life has done this several times and...	seekinganswers	8	611	Apr 4, 2013 by Help
	alcoholic father in law and dementia (Preview) Hi everyone,haven't posted in a while.Hope everyone is doing good. My alcoholic father in law is 80 and showing signs of dementia or alzheimers.He drinks constantly and has for years.Taught my husband everything he knows.I'm wondering what will happen to him if he needs to be put in a nursing home an...	pixie	5	432	Apr 4, 2013 by Mattie
	Need to stay strong and focused (Preview) AH had his last outpatient day today. He was drinking most of the weekend, so it is pretty clear that he can't do this on his own. A week ago he said he couldnt wait for IOP to end so he could go to AA everday, but who knows if he will follow through. I am feeling pretty accepting of the drinking, he's gonna do...	ParisMemories	5	440	Apr 4, 2013 by ParisMemories
	i'm not perfect (Preview) over the last 18 months i've been living totally seperately from my husband. went for months without even seeing him. i did talk to him each day. however i avoided seeing him, as his behavior was competely unacceptable to me. he was using and drinking excessively. my heart always wished he'd get h...	Sincerely	5	294	Apr 3, 2013 by hotrod
	lil binge drinking? no sympathy from "accidents" that happen from me (Preview) .. this wkend, I did a lot of "me" stuff (painting etc) My AH did a lot of yard work, no telling how much he drank but by every night he couldnt talk and would stumble in the house. I just did my thing, and he did his. Our son came home Sat evening, my mother in law dropped him off 3 hours early with m...	sweeetr	5	397	Apr 3, 2013 by sweeetr
	Once again I take the bait (Preview) I thought I was over letting my stbxah lure me into an arguement. I know what he's doing and I've been doing so good at not responding to his nonsense but tonight I let him bait me into the crazy ranting and raving that I know he wanted. I have not heard from him for 3 weeks. Despite having serious financial...	scaredandconfused	6	354	Apr 3, 2013 by NicoleDiver
	Will Al-Anon help me with this..... (Preview) Now that my alcoholic ex has moved out and completely disappeared, I have had some quiet time to just sit with myself. Its been pretty uncomfortable, actually. And every time I start thinking something positive about no longer having to deal with him around, I feel guilty. How do you deal with that?...	buffalo78	3	334	Apr 3, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	a little nervous (Preview) Tonight is the night I go to my AH 90 day celebration meeting. Don't know why I am a little nervous. I have never been to an AA meeting ever. My husband says he has to speak and wants me there. I will go. I am proud of him for controlling the disease for 90 days...he's longest stretch ever. Every day is a...	1976love	4	262	Apr 3, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	i'm just really hurt. (Preview) What is wrong with me? I am serious. I kicked the alcoholic boyfriend out a few days ago and today it really hit me. I am just really hurt by all this. I feel like I keep going through this over and over and over again. Kicking him out, obsessing and worrying he is going to die.... I really thought this...	buffalo78	4	421	Apr 3, 2013 by Sincerely
	I wish my Higher Power would hurry the hell up and help me end this relationship (Preview) I've been in Al-Anon for almost 6 months now - and it's been an absolute roller coaster. For the first time in my life I now have the ability to sit back and see this family disease cause chaos in my family of origin - and in my own life.Today I had a huge argument with my partner. I've been ummm-ing and ahhh-i...	CeeBee	9	412	Apr 3, 2013 by milkwood
	Do the resentments against the A's ever go away? (Preview) Today my son asked me to report his baseball home runs on a website, he couldn't figure out how to do it. I figured it out and reported them. I found myself feeling resentful again, I thought to myself, why can't my ex husband do this? Do the resentments ever go away?	mercedes1959	6	451	Apr 3, 2013 by Pushka
	struggling myself mentally and physically- AW angry again (Preview) I was feeling nauseated this past day and stayed in bed all day and slept. Feel better now but skipped counseling which sucks. AW wants me to take her to the store after 10 pm and since I don't have a car I would have to borrow my mothers car and she had already went to bed. AW throws tantrum because I refus...	dponlyme	3	370	Apr 3, 2013 by Aloha
	just another day in paradise... (Preview) I don't live in Hawaii or Heaven but I think where I live is paradise! Just saying that I would rather be here than anywhere else. I guess wherever you are if you are happy, you can find yourself exactly where you are supposed to be. I guess I am settled completely after over 18 years in the same place. I used...	Hoot Nanny	4	228	Apr 3, 2013 by Hopeful925
	Husband In Treatment - Roller Coaster Inside Me (Preview) Open my eyes and I see the progress. My heart softens. My nerves are a roller coaster! Yesterday I got a phone call from Husband. His insurance will not cover after 45 days on inpatient. I was upset, confused. It was a bump in the road. We have options. Today he and his counsler called me. We are worki...	Sincerely	7	286	Apr 3, 2013 by PP
	Helping or being a crutch (Preview) I am constantly struggling with finding my boundaries with my best friend, and ensuring that I am not sacrificing myself for him too much. He is a recovering alcoholic, and has been sober for over 6 months. I am so proud of him, and send him all the love in the world. Whenever he has a problem though, or a s...	LizLooking	6	611	Apr 3, 2013 by LizLooking
	Help with setting boundries and educating small children (Preview) I have posted in the past, but my wife has struggled with alchohol addiction for 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children aged 5 (twins) and 2. She has been to rehab and managed to stay sober for a year, and since then has had a couple of relapses (now only going a couple of days without drinking) to the poin...	ntxalanon	3	319	Apr 3, 2013 by Mattie
	My AA guy is doing better than I am (Preview) About a year ago, my boyfriend declared himself an addict. He actually had a problem with cocaine more than anything and after losing his job, decided to start going to NA meetings. He started going to AA meetings as well, since there were more AA meetings he could go to in our area and at certain times...	DoingThisForMyGuy	6	222	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	New groups for us shy folks? (Preview) This wknd there was a big AA conference in my city, which my partner attended. He took me to hear an al-anon speaker yesterday morning, who was amazing. The person chairing that meeting was an al-anon member who is also the al-anon chair for the conference. My partner is on the conference planning comm...	rainlax	11	568	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	fearing mortality? (Preview) My exA has been relatively quiet. This week he called, and started in on me...the first time he called, I was able to use my alanon tools...I posted about it... He has been very ill, so ill that my 10yo asked me "is Dad gonna die?" He has no health insurance (my fault for divorcing him, you see),...	rehprof	9	310	Apr 2, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Can't Stop Thinking (Preview) I separated from my husband of 19 years about 2 months ago. The separation was preceded by years of trying to work on our marriage, lots of marriage counseling, and my being so confused and frustrated by his always forgetting, his seeming checked out on so many levels, his lack of interest in doing any...	norasq	4	334	Apr 2, 2013 by norasq
	A week of the "I suck voices" (Preview) It is time for a face to face meeting...I missed my meeting last week and chose to do some volunteer work instead, so now I have the "I suck" voices popping up. A testimony as to how quickly I can fall back into old patterns. Since I know better, I cannot blame anyone else. I was even telli...	PP	12	866	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	i'm going to make it (Preview) gezz, this morning at 6am 5pm seemed sooooo far away. almost too far away. well, i'm almost there, made it through my work day. even going to pick up some dinner for me and my bestfriend. she'll prolly make me go exercise (we walk 2 miles on an overpass). maybe tonight won't seem as dark as yesterday was...	Sincerely	4	214	Apr 2, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Keeping things in perspective.... (Preview) A woman leaves an Alanon meeting, punching her fist in the air: I'm free, I'm free! A little boy bowls up to her and fixes her gaze: That's nothing, ma'am, I'm four.	DavidG	4	203	Apr 2, 2013 by nmike
	I'm new & LOST. (Preview) Hi, I went to my first al-anon meeting two days ago and felt very welcomed. I plan on going again, but in between, I just need to share and get this out of my head. I hope I am in the right place and if not, please let me know... Anyways, for about 16 years, right after high school, I got together with a guy who...	buffalo78	4	362	Apr 2, 2013 by buffalo78
	the future's so bright(I gotta wear shades!) (Preview) Yeah for those who know this: this is definitely lyrics to a song! I am so grateful for the good days & promise of a bright future. I really have nothing to complain about today! I can wear my shades even when the sun isn't out: optimism! I hope that everyone who reads this will find hope & some insp...	Hoot Nanny	2	338	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A turning point for my AM? (Preview) Yesterday, my AM told me, whilst sober (at the moment) that she would like to get back into going to church with me. This is the first time she's ever said anything like this before...is this a sign from her HP, who she calls God to help her? has anyone else had this experience? I'm hopeful that this is a new...	phoenixmagicgirl	1	216	Apr 2, 2013 by pinkchip
	My husband is doing really good. wow! (Preview) So I freaked out about 3 weeks ago, He stopped pills and found him doing something else WAY worse. It was horrible. I almost left. I laid down some bounderies, and stuck by them and he has respected that. But we worked through it, I have been doing alanon online in evenings. We have talked a lot, air...	Rinn	5	261	Apr 2, 2013 by Rinn
	I am struggling mightily tonight, and could use some ESH (Preview) For those of you who don't know my story, in a nutshell, I work a regular 8-5 job, and my AH works second shift (3-11). He does the very large majority of his drinking at home after work, when I am asleep and it doesn't interfere directly with family time. My AH has had periods where he is very emotionally...	stephaniej	19	414	Apr 2, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	some good news about my daughter (Preview) my daughter is 20 she's been having a bit of a hard time recently as she broke up with her boyfriend and one of her university flatmates she is finding difficult to live with The upshot is that she's been spending more time at home and it's just what I needed We've had lots of lovely conversations and been...	Ms S	4	369	Apr 2, 2013 by hotrod
	A piece of my history... (Preview) I read a good number of post here tonight and even replied to a few of them. One really hit me hard. It was someone asking if anyone else had a alcoholic do a disappearing act on them, and how did they cope with it. It brought back so many different memories of my own life that before I even decided to reply...	John	9	363	Apr 2, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Not the Same Old Story (Preview) I wrote a couple days ago that my AH relapsed in a post title "Same Old Story". But I realized just now, it is not the same old story. Instead of freaking out, I used my program skills, prayed to my HP and survived the last two days without much stress, relatively speaking of course. This is his...	ParisMemories	6	245	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Exhausted (Preview) I stayed in bed all day today. Last weekend too. I'm exhausted. Depressed too. Full of anxiety. I'm tired. I want my bounce back. My husband is in treatment. It's just me and my new puppy. (bad timing for the puppy, he's work!) i could sleep all day. Ill get anxiety tonight cause I might not be able to sleep...	Sincerely	5	253	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	A funny I heard last night... (Preview) While standing in line at a grocery store, I had the entertainment of a young girl and young boy behind me... they were all googly eyed at each other, in their very early teens. The boy asked the girl... do you think you'll ever get married? The girl replied..."I'm not sure, I saw my mom do it and it never w...	John	1	216	Apr 1, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Wow you people (Preview) really have the connection with your HP!! That and the chicken soup made the flu fly...just a 24 hour thing. Mahalo to all of you. Used my MIP meds...lol (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	4	310	Apr 1, 2013 by Pushka
	Fear of the mailbox (Preview) I've become afraid of my mailbox. Not really the mailbox but all the bad news and threatening letters it contains everyday. All the result of my stbxah completely abandoning all his responsibilities and leaving me to deal with the aftermath. Since I can't drink to escape reality like him I find myse...	scaredandconfused	5	537	Apr 1, 2013 by PP
	Time to put...something...into practice (Preview) My daughter has been drinking all afternoon and evening with her Stepmother, and posting tweets and instagram photos about how drunk they are. Then she DROVE her stepmother 3 miles to get home, and called me from their driveway and asked/begged me to let her come over here to my place to sleep. I answer...	ClearTheFog	5	2337	Apr 1, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	I have a friend who I think is an alcoholic. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In the past I have mentioned that I have a friend who I have become more and more distant from. The reason for this is that I think he is an alcoholic. This person grew up in an alcoholic home and we've discussed it in the past, but ultim...	slogan_jim	7	305	Apr 1, 2013 by slogan_jim
	my ah relapsed (Preview) I tried so hard to keep calm and have peace tonight but my ah walked in and smells of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm so sad I had suspected he had relapsed but now I have confirmation. I feel awful and I cried for awhile. I know only he can help himself. I think I should move out but I can't afford it until the firs...	texasgal	5	257	Apr 1, 2013 by Ms S
	When can we all live together again? (Preview) So I finally moved out with my son to a shelter because he just kept getting more insane. After two days of his frantic calling to my cell phone it appears the message finally sunk in: you need to work on your issues, call a therapist, not me. I can't fix it. He made an appointment. This is Heruculean for h...	forestfairy	7	398	Apr 1, 2013 by forestfairy
	New Here (Preview) So, I'm new here and new to this world. My AH is in an inpatient treatment facility -- due out a week from Sunday. He's been really taking rehab seriously and the 12 steps. I'm so proud of him and what he is doing for himself. I am scared, though... I am scared because he is more like the man I married now t...	Giggleball	6	365	Apr 1, 2013 by Giggleball
	cant let go! (Preview) My son, 19, who is showing signs of progressing in his quest to not feel what he feels or think what he thinks about himself. He is currently homeless, he has a court case coming up in the next couple of weeks, there is a real chance he will go to prison for failing twice to comply with probation, so he is...	el-cee	8	374	Mar 31, 2013 by MeTwo2
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