Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

ApparentlyNOTstupid · ApparentlyNOTstupid

I am very new to this board, and new to learning of the insane world of A, although not new to living in the insane world itself. Over the last two weeks I have read anything I can get my hands on.... researched, studied, you name it. After reading another posters thread yesterday, about her feeling ba...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

I have been given by my violin teacher as a "homework assignment" a small, beautiful tune from Les Miserables to practice all week. Can you guess?? It's Drink With Me (to days gone by). There is no getting away from alcohol. Hope you all have a good week.

1976love · 1976love

After a while you get used to living certain ways. My AH has been steadily attending AA meetings and going on one day at a time. He recieved his 90 coin last week and I was happy to go and support him. Last night was the first time in about 3 months he decided to skip one night of meetings and stay home and fi...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning I just couldn't stand it anymore. My son is such a pig and his living quarters were a health concern so I went over there after work and put HIM to work. lol It took us 4 hours to get that little apartment cleaned but it made me feel better...and I think him too. Just to have a clean set of shee...

Rinn · Rinn

He fell asleep in his jeans and I tried waking him up and shook him, and felt something in his pocket and it was a well used meth pipe. I woke him up and told him to pack a few things I love him but it was time for him to go he needed to leave and sleep somewhere else tonight and for the foreseeable future. I was pr...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I am traveling with my son right now in CA for one of his tennis tournaments and I had been having some great nights of sleep up until last night. As usual for when I travel, my AH has been sweet as pie on the phone and we act like one normal happily married couple. I keep ruminating over why I am so fearful of...

mom2mna · mom2mna

This seems like such a great community! I just wanted to say hello, and introduce myself. I'm married to an alcoholic, and I'm a mom to three little girls. Yesterday, my husband drank for the first time in a month and a half. I'm just so frustrated with it, the lying, the treating me like I'm stupid. I'm su...

dponlyme · dponlyme

This past week has not been a good one for me mentally but HP has really been there for me and today I am feeling good again. AW has been so completely negative about everything and that has been hard to deal with. Today got news that we are having our food stamps decreased but I count it as a blessing as this w...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

So I get this email from my mom today telling me how it is a shame that I was fired from my job in 2010 because of my AH. Which was news to me. Yes, I got fired in 2010 but they never told me why, they just told me to leave when I got to work one Monday morning. And it just so happens that my AH had been arrested for...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Well, it's now been exactly three months since my AH passed away from complications due to his alcoholism. I'm still numb. We were in the process of getting a divorce when he suddenly died. My AD is still not in communication with me or her sister ever since her dad's memorial. She's only speaking to my o...

Jen61 · Jen61

It has been about 3 weeks since my AH drank. Has been nice but knew it would not last. It seems everytime something stressful comes up in his life he drinks. I could tell this morning that today was a drinking day and a few hours ago I confronted him. Why, I have no idea. It all goes downhill from there....

KSwiss · KSwiss

Last night while I was at my AlAnon meeting, my 14 yr. old blew up at my AH, his Dad over something stupid like laundry. My AH had to take a drive to cool down. My son told me that he was angry at his Dad for abandoning him while drinking in the past ( he has been sober since August but has no program). I told my son...

likemyheart · likemyheart

This morning checking my bank account as I do every morning, I see that my federal tax refund has posted, yea, I did my return right! (silly sounding, not happy I got the refund, but happy my return is ok and I won't get a letter from the IRS, weird eh?) And the thought it brings to mind is how it was when HE was...

norasq · norasq

One of the things I've realized through this Alanon work is how one of the ways I've been affected by my AH is that I've spent so much time in my head trying to make sense out of crazy things. I'm learning to stop my mind from circling around and and around, trying to fit puzzle pieces together, and remembe...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Peeps ;) Sorry its been so Long, Still Clawing my Way tho... Last Night I went to My F2F Meeting and the Topic was FEAR... Ya know till I started to listen around the table I Honestly didn't realize how much FEAR has held me Back in so Many Opticles in my Life, and tho some are Simpler then others, Some for...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

The last 6 months have been a nightmare thanks to my stbxah rapidly spiraling out of control. He has created tons of financial and legal issues for both of us. I was just starting to think things were starting to look up for me. And then I just found out my job is shutting down next week. For the first time in...

regina2013 · regina2013

hi there, I just joined a few weeks ago I watched my family die from alchoholism and am now living with a "dry" alcoholic who does not attend AA . I also find it very difficult to deal with the issues and abuse that come along with the disease also my work situation is similar except that it is...

Number30 · Number30

I could use some ESH... AH finally told his parents before he went to rehab. Literally, the conversation went like "I'm a drug addict, I'm going to rehab, and I love you." So now that he's there I'm the first line of contact... I'm having a hard time. I've pointed them to Al-Anon every time I'v...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I got a really strange phone call about 2 hours ago that has left me on edge. My AH called very shook up and crying and said that he had a bad dream about me. He said that someone is watching me and wants to hurt me. Just kept saying it's bad, it's really bad. Made me promise that I wouldn't let anyone in and w...

rmbergeron1 · rmbergeron1

Hello! This is my first post. I have been with al-anon now for about 1 year and still struggling. I think I have a handle and then something else happens! My AH came home from work today drunk again. Been on a binge for about a week now. Since I have been getting better, he has slightly as well until thi...

tortuga · tortuga

Hey there, I'm a thanful member of Al Anon. I have been silent for some time, giving me space and peace, and building myself up again. I split up with my ABF 2 months ago, ...I still say I wouldn't have done it by myself, because I loved him very much..but i was kind of forced to, it was so obvious the abuse and...

Jerry F · Jerry F

3 years in recovery!! You go girl!! and keep coming back also. (((((hugs)))))

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi everyone Last week I had my house all cleaned by professionals and it feels so good. The weekend was great not having one thing to do but what I wanted. Got a call from my son on Sunday and he asked if I would drive him over to look at a car. I agreed, picked him up and when over to see it. Nice and clean,...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53264714/alanon-step-1/

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.

sadsusie · sadsusie

My husband of 13 years has been abusing alcohol most of our marriage (I never really realized it until about 5 years ago). It is hard for me to believe or accept that I accepted it...he verbally abused me for most of my marriage. I had always just thought I wasn't doing a good job....so he sort of was in the...

Tasha · Tasha

Just curious if it's just our city that doesn't do it.

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

So I just googled "How long does cocaine stay in your system" because my AH has an appt w/ his probation officer this Wednesday. He just failed a drug test 2 weeks ago (+ for cocaine, THC & benzos(?) ) and I'm starting to obsess over what is going to happen. Yes, he's still been smokin...

1976love · 1976love

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npMY95o2C4g So today at my meeting, we discussed patience. One page that was read was about being patient with yourself. You may not understand all you have read, been told or experienced, but when you sit and continue with meetings and become patient and gen...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello, my name is Tonya! I am 36 years old and have been with my A for 10 years now. I have another A in my life and that is my mother. For the most part of 10 years I have focused on them and their decisions and have completely lost myself. I am great at my job and it seems like I have become my job and have no ot...

Findinghope · Findinghope

I'm so ashamed of myself -- i got really angry Tonight and yelled and screamed and was hurtful to someone who absolutely didn't deserve it. im kicking myself for letting my emotions take over, and become crazy like I was pre-alanon and wondering if I'm ever going to be at a point where I can just let thing...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Today before a group of strangers I stated my greatest concern & fear of my husband coming home from inpatient treatment. It took courage. I prayed for strength. I said them passionately, without anger or bitterness. this evening I left a group of friends who all have the same concerns and fears....

Apparentlystupid · Apparentlystupid

Hi there.... I am new to this site, and not sure if I am even posting in the right place. I'm not even positive what I need to be doing. I was never raised with anyone who had alcoholism, so this is all very new to me. All I know is that I am exhausted, and pretty sure I have tried everything under the sun with...

el-cee · el-cee

Hi I would like to share where I am at right now. Outwardly, I am living my recovery. I am out meeting with friends and fellow members. I am keeping calm and trying to do the next right thing but inwardly I feel a bit numb with everything that is going on. I am walking on egg shells and I am a bit lost. Im not real...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha kakahiaka MIP Ohana. Good evening MIP family...This is Merrie Monarch time of the year and the time for hula competition with hula groups from all over coming into my town to show off their dancing skills and very very colorful attire. It's both Women and Men groups and this is the 50th year o...

Number30 · Number30

An update to my saga - tonight we admitted my addict husband into rehab. It went better and worse than I expected at times, but he's there. It was his choice, and so I didn't mind when the ugly addiction started lashing out at me - I knew what it was and was able to calmly explain that it was his decision and fo...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.

blondie99 · blondie99

It's been a couple weeks since I've posted but I've been reading everyone's stories. So hard to see the challenges some of our Al-Anon brothers and sisters are facing. I say a prayer every day for our bretheren here on MIP and for those who haven't yet walked into the rooms. Me - I'm doing pretty good - fee...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

We had my AM's best friend and her husband come up this week from FL and so far there haven't been any difficult situations involving my AM's drinking, which I'm very grateful to my HP for. My AM was very open with her best friend about her drinking, my AM told her best friend that she's heard others say tha...

Pushka · Pushka

I thought that was the neatest concept I heard shared recently. I don't believe in praying for strength, patience, because I do believe that the God of my understanding will deliver these lessons and so not the way I enjoy them. LOL!! That whole the apple didn't fall far from the tree in terms of God'...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

It's been a huge relief for me to be able to have a confidant in both my boss and our sous chef (I work in a cafe). To be able to share with them as both an employee and friend has helped me to feel as if I'm not on this crazy roller coaster ride alone. It's been very helpful to have their support.

Sincerely · Sincerely

My city has 2 face to face meetings. 6pm Sunday Night and 10 am Friday Mornings. I have a million excuses on why they are never convenient for me. On Sundays, I'm normally winding down and getting settled in for the evening. On Fridays, i'm at work. I need to dedicate some time to go to church and an ala...

HappyToBe · HappyToBe

I feel rather sarcastic right now. I feel like I want to make a silly joke out of this behaviour, yet I know sarcasm will get me nowhere. Almost week at home with my parents and our family perfection needs to be maintained to the outsider's eye. God help me shall I decide to make a mistake or silly decision....

Pushka · Pushka

I'm trying to reconsile at the moment the past, now for me as I've stated before I'm powerless over other people, places, things and the past. However, .. that being said I don't like or appreciate being spoon fed the past and then being told ohhh sorry that's in the past. Yes, it's in the past in terms o...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi guys, I just wanted to say first how great all of the support over the years here has been amazing. Thank you! I posted a little while back about how I had come to a point where I felt I needed to leave my ABF of 4 years but felt that there was a wall between me and that outcome. He is not working a program, and w...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My life has been crazy busy going to college full time, working every weekend and raising my 2 girls all alone, although I do have a couple great friends that help me with running our kids one way and I do the other, I have accepted it is on me to do all that I can to raise my girls to the best of my abilities. I h...

cRaZyJaDe · cRaZyJaDe

Went to a F2F last night - My HP really knows what he's doing! This was my 2nd meeting with this particular group - The first meeting I went to on Tuesday, I didn't share - just wasn't ready, I guess. But I went back last night, and the reading was about "Fear" - the passage that I read was about...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

More than one good day in a row! I wish I could share more! Some days I feel like I am floating on a pink cloud. This is something I heard in early recovery but then it was a negative thing--not for me! I want to ride the cloud & the wave as long as I am able. I feel a sense of relief. My AH & I are getting alo...

forestfairy · forestfairy

So I took my son and left and went to a shelter. It's been about 10 days now, and I've been speaking to counsellors and trying to negotiate with my spouse to move out to an apt and let my son and I live in the house because it is near his school and it is way too much upheaval for a child. After much delay finall...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Hello friends AH has checked himself into detox / mental health facility again. This is the second time since the end of February. He has told his case worker that when he completes the 7 day inpatient he wants to go back to the 9-3 outpatient program. Both his case worker and I agree that he needs long-te...

HappyToBe · HappyToBe

Hi all. This great group and your shares on this page really keep me going for last few months. This is my first post and possible not last. I am currently visiting my home country, my hometown and staying with my folks that I haven't seen for past 18 months. We usually get on very well ( not surprising of co...

PP · PP

A little soulmate thought from my head.....I believe we have many soulmates hanging around for us and some come with expiration dates.

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

Our A daughter was told she has to be out of our home in June, has no money, no job and here she is, spending 9 hours today getting extensions in her hair!!!! Her birthday is tomorrow and she wants us to take her out to dinner!!!!! I don't get it, and perhaps never will............... -- Edited by LeenieBe...

cinders · cinders

So, today I decided to check the online court forum and see if my soon to be ex husband had filed any new papers that I might not have found out about yet. We had filed a joinder and were doing our divorce without any hostility or fighting. It is just going to be over. We are just walking away. Sad that it h...

milkwood · milkwood

I have just enjoyed my favourite walk in the mountains, starting near a shower of snow melt and passing through a narrow gorge where the river was tumbling in full flow. As the path climbed higher the mountain mists wrapped the wise old beech trees and when I reached the highest point of the path, where...

Red Hawk · Red Hawk

Yesterday's daily reading REALLY hit me right between the eyes, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hope you all get as much out of it as I did! Today I Accept My Mistakes I embrace my lack of perfection and I accept my mistakes. I have the right to be wrong. My self-worth does not have to evaporate when I...

Clueless Optimist · Clueless Optimist

I am so upset right now. :( AH was doing so well and he's been off the drugs for almost two weeks now and off the alcohol for two months but a few minutes ago, he just walked out of the front door to go to the smoke shop to get some spice. He's been going to his outpatient treatment classes but obviously, he'...

aroundthewayJ · aroundthewayJ

I am new to Alanon, and spent many years avoiding getting involved in Alanon until I was forced to when my life threw up. I grew up with an alcohaulic mother. She is now 16 years "sober" yet she still has all of the typical alcohaulic behaviors. Selfishness, narcassism, attention whoring. T...

shortCakeSlayer · shortCakeSlayer

Hello all! First post on here. I mostly need a place to put this all down and hopefully get some support, thoughts, and advice from others going through it. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was about 12 or 13, right after her mother passed away. I'm 100% positive she was dealing with depression a...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Is there an actual set of directions on how to do the steps in Alanon anywhere? If so, what book are they in? i don't mean where the steps are TALKED about, but an actual, clear-cut set of directions? thanks!

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	BEFORE YOU GET DOWN ON YOURSELF- REMEMBER THIS (Preview) I am very new to this board, and new to learning of the insane world of A, although not new to living in the insane world itself. Over the last two weeks I have read anything I can get my hands on.... researched, studied, you name it. After reading another posters thread yesterday, about her feeling ba...	ApparentlyNOTstupid	3	406	Apr 11, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Had to Laugh (Preview) I have been given by my violin teacher as a "homework assignment" a small, beautiful tune from Les Miserables to practice all week. Can you guess?? It's Drink With Me (to days gone by). There is no getting away from alcohol. Hope you all have a good week.	LeenieBeanie	5	354	Apr 11, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	oh my dreams (Preview) After a while you get used to living certain ways. My AH has been steadily attending AA meetings and going on one day at a time. He recieved his 90 coin last week and I was happy to go and support him. Last night was the first time in about 3 months he decided to skip one night of meetings and stay home and fi...	1976love	6	360	Apr 11, 2013 by ilovedogs
	I just couldn't stand it anymore (Preview) Good Morning I just couldn't stand it anymore. My son is such a pig and his living quarters were a health concern so I went over there after work and put HIM to work. lol It took us 4 hours to get that little apartment cleaned but it made me feel better...and I think him too. Just to have a clean set of shee...	Cathyinaz	14	816	Apr 11, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	I just asked my husband to leave (Preview) He fell asleep in his jeans and I tried waking him up and shook him, and felt something in his pocket and it was a well used meth pipe. I woke him up and told him to pack a few things I love him but it was time for him to go he needed to leave and sleep somewhere else tonight and for the foreseeable future. I was pr...	Rinn	19	3382	Apr 11, 2013 by PP
	Had a strange epiphany last night (Preview) I am traveling with my son right now in CA for one of his tennis tournaments and I had been having some great nights of sleep up until last night. As usual for when I travel, my AH has been sweet as pie on the phone and we act like one normal happily married couple. I keep ruminating over why I am so fearful of...	ilovedogs	12	594	Apr 11, 2013 by stephaniej
	Hello all... (Preview) This seems like such a great community! I just wanted to say hello, and introduce myself. I'm married to an alcoholic, and I'm a mom to three little girls. Yesterday, my husband drank for the first time in a month and a half. I'm just so frustrated with it, the lying, the treating me like I'm stupid. I'm su...	mom2mna	3	294	Apr 11, 2013 by PP
	HP is doing wonderful things for me today (Preview) This past week has not been a good one for me mentally but HP has really been there for me and today I am feeling good again. AW has been so completely negative about everything and that has been hard to deal with. Today got news that we are having our food stamps decreased but I count it as a blessing as this w...	dponlyme	2	320	Apr 11, 2013 by PP
	Blast from the past (Preview) So I get this email from my mom today telling me how it is a shame that I was fired from my job in 2010 because of my AH. Which was news to me. Yes, I got fired in 2010 but they never told me why, they just told me to leave when I got to work one Monday morning. And it just so happens that my AH had been arrested for...	NicoleDiver	4	392	Apr 11, 2013 by 1976love
	Three Months Later (Preview) Well, it's now been exactly three months since my AH passed away from complications due to his alcoholism. I'm still numb. We were in the process of getting a divorce when he suddenly died. My AD is still not in communication with me or her sister ever since her dad's memorial. She's only speaking to my o...	Green Eyes	5	358	Apr 11, 2013 by Jerry F
	I lost it tonight (Preview) It has been about 3 weeks since my AH drank. Has been nice but knew it would not last. It seems everytime something stressful comes up in his life he drinks. I could tell this morning that today was a drinking day and a few hours ago I confronted him. Why, I have no idea. It all goes downhill from there....	Jen61	7	399	Apr 10, 2013 by Jen61
	Trying hard to mind my own business (Preview) Last night while I was at my AlAnon meeting, my 14 yr. old blew up at my AH, his Dad over something stupid like laundry. My AH had to take a drive to cool down. My son told me that he was angry at his Dad for abandoning him while drinking in the past ( he has been sober since August but has no program). I told my son...	KSwiss	6	415	Apr 10, 2013 by Pushka
	Tax return (Preview) This morning checking my bank account as I do every morning, I see that my federal tax refund has posted, yea, I did my return right! (silly sounding, not happy I got the refund, but happy my return is ok and I won't get a letter from the IRS, weird eh?) And the thought it brings to mind is how it was when HE was...	likemyheart	3	712	Apr 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	Tired of trying to make sense out of crazy (Preview) One of the things I've realized through this Alanon work is how one of the ways I've been affected by my AH is that I've spent so much time in my head trying to make sense out of crazy things. I'm learning to stop my mind from circling around and and around, trying to fit puzzle pieces together, and remembe...	norasq	7	415	Apr 10, 2013 by norasq
	Still Struggling in Fear! (Preview) Hey Peeps ;) Sorry its been so Long, Still Clawing my Way tho... Last Night I went to My F2F Meeting and the Topic was FEAR... Ya know till I started to listen around the table I Honestly didn't realize how much FEAR has held me Back in so Many Opticles in my Life, and tho some are Simpler then others, Some for...	Jozie	4	755	Apr 10, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Got laid off from my job (Preview) The last 6 months have been a nightmare thanks to my stbxah rapidly spiraling out of control. He has created tons of financial and legal issues for both of us. I was just starting to think things were starting to look up for me. And then I just found out my job is shutting down next week. For the first time in...	scaredandconfused	3	359	Apr 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	new here (Preview) hi there, I just joined a few weeks ago I watched my family die from alchoholism and am now living with a "dry" alcoholic who does not attend AA . I also find it very difficult to deal with the issues and abuse that come along with the disease also my work situation is similar except that it is...	regina2013	7	480	Apr 9, 2013 by f2fmember
	AH's parents? (Preview) I could use some ESH... AH finally told his parents before he went to rehab. Literally, the conversation went like "I'm a drug addict, I'm going to rehab, and I love you." So now that he's there I'm the first line of contact... I'm having a hard time. I've pointed them to Al-Anon every time I'v...	Number30	5	486	Apr 9, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Scared (Preview) I got a really strange phone call about 2 hours ago that has left me on edge. My AH called very shook up and crying and said that he had a bad dream about me. He said that someone is watching me and wants to hurt me. Just kept saying it's bad, it's really bad. Made me promise that I wouldn't let anyone in and w...	wornoutmrsfixit	6	346	Apr 9, 2013 by pinkchip
	what affects me directly (Preview) Hello! This is my first post. I have been with al-anon now for about 1 year and still struggling. I think I have a handle and then something else happens! My AH came home from work today drunk again. Been on a binge for about a week now. Since I have been getting better, he has slightly as well until thi...	rmbergeron1	4	345	Apr 9, 2013 by pinkchip
	venting: I AM STRONG, VULNERABLE, HURT, SENSIBLE... so what? I'm NOT a VICTIM. (Preview) Hey there, I'm a thanful member of Al Anon. I have been silent for some time, giving me space and peace, and building myself up again. I split up with my ABF 2 months ago, ...I still say I wouldn't have done it by myself, because I loved him very much..but i was kind of forced to, it was so obvious the abuse and...	tortuga	2	409	Apr 9, 2013 by pinkchip
	CONGRADULATION BLONDIE.... (Preview) 3 years in recovery!! You go girl!! and keep coming back also. (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	7	343	Apr 9, 2013 by blondie99
	Nice week and weekend (Preview) Hi everyone Last week I had my house all cleaned by professionals and it feels so good. The weekend was great not having one thing to do but what I wanted. Got a call from my son on Sunday and he asked if I would drive him over to look at a car. I agreed, picked him up and when over to see it. Nice and clean,...	Cathyinaz	6	457	Apr 9, 2013 by DavidG
	STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53264714/alanon-step-1/	hotrod	5	320	Apr 9, 2013 by hotrod
	Just when I thought my AM was at a turning point this happens.... (Preview) I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.	phoenixmagicgirl	6	347	Apr 9, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Where do I find the strength to deal or support or help my alcoholic husband (Preview) My husband of 13 years has been abusing alcohol most of our marriage (I never really realized it until about 5 years ago). It is hard for me to believe or accept that I accepted it...he verbally abused me for most of my marriage. I had always just thought I wasn't doing a good job....so he sort of was in the...	sadsusie	23	496	Apr 9, 2013 by hotrod
	Do you live some place where Alanons get tokens like AA's (Preview) Just curious if it's just our city that doesn't do it.	Tasha	13	913	Apr 9, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Countdown? (Preview) So I just googled "How long does cocaine stay in your system" because my AH has an appt w/ his probation officer this Wednesday. He just failed a drug test 2 weeks ago (+ for cocaine, THC & benzos(?) ) and I'm starting to obsess over what is going to happen. Yes, he's still been smokin...	NicoleDiver	4	351	Apr 8, 2013 by hotrod
	When you see crazy coming, cross the street (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npMY95o2C4g So today at my meeting, we discussed patience. One page that was read was about being patient with yourself. You may not understand all you have read, been told or experienced, but when you sit and continue with meetings and become patient and gen...	1976love	4	488	Apr 8, 2013 by lgnutah
	Unexpectedly Noticing Progress (updating profile) (Preview) Hello, my name is Tonya! I am 36 years old and have been with my A for 10 years now. I have another A in my life and that is my mother. For the most part of 10 years I have focused on them and their decisions and have completely lost myself. I am great at my job and it seems like I have become my job and have no ot...	Sincerely	4	345	Apr 8, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	Lost my serenity tonight, big time (Preview) I'm so ashamed of myself -- i got really angry Tonight and yelled and screamed and was hurtful to someone who absolutely didn't deserve it. im kicking myself for letting my emotions take over, and become crazy like I was pre-alanon and wondering if I'm ever going to be at a point where I can just let thing...	Findinghope	6	585	Apr 8, 2013 by NicoleDiver
	Family Group @ AA Husbands Treatment (Preview) Today before a group of strangers I stated my greatest concern & fear of my husband coming home from inpatient treatment. It took courage. I prayed for strength. I said them passionately, without anger or bitterness. this evening I left a group of friends who all have the same concerns and fears....	Sincerely	2	325	Apr 8, 2013 by Tracy
	NEW TO EVERYTHING (Preview) Hi there.... I am new to this site, and not sure if I am even posting in the right place. I'm not even positive what I need to be doing. I was never raised with anyone who had alcoholism, so this is all very new to me. All I know is that I am exhausted, and pretty sure I have tried everything under the sun with...	Apparentlystupid	37	733	Apr 8, 2013 by ApparentlyNOTstupid
	Uncomfortably numb (Preview) Hi I would like to share where I am at right now. Outwardly, I am living my recovery. I am out meeting with friends and fellow members. I am keeping calm and trying to do the next right thing but inwardly I feel a bit numb with everything that is going on. I am walking on egg shells and I am a bit lost. Im not real...	el-cee	13	460	Apr 8, 2013 by PP
	An Annual Blessing.... (Preview) Aloha kakahiaka MIP Ohana. Good evening MIP family...This is Merrie Monarch time of the year and the time for hula competition with hula groups from all over coming into my town to show off their dancing skills and very very colorful attire. It's both Women and Men groups and this is the 50th year o...	Jerry F	11	357	Apr 8, 2013 by Jill
	AH is now in rehab (Preview) An update to my saga - tonight we admitted my addict husband into rehab. It went better and worse than I expected at times, but he's there. It was his choice, and so I didn't mind when the ugly addiction started lashing out at me - I knew what it was and was able to calmly explain that it was his decision and fo...	Number30	5	432	Apr 8, 2013 by Number30
	Just when I thought my AM was at a turning point this happens.... (Preview) I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.	phoenixmagicgirl	3	292	Apr 8, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Turning the corner and making up for lost time (Preview) It's been a couple weeks since I've posted but I've been reading everyone's stories. So hard to see the challenges some of our Al-Anon brothers and sisters are facing. I say a prayer every day for our bretheren here on MIP and for those who haven't yet walked into the rooms. Me - I'm doing pretty good - fee...	blondie99	7	579	Apr 7, 2013 by ilovedogs
	A step in the right direction for my AM?... (Preview) We had my AM's best friend and her husband come up this week from FL and so far there haven't been any difficult situations involving my AM's drinking, which I'm very grateful to my HP for. My AM was very open with her best friend about her drinking, my AM told her best friend that she's heard others say tha...	phoenixmagicgirl	5	330	Apr 7, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	Waiting passionately for patience .. (Preview) I thought that was the neatest concept I heard shared recently. I don't believe in praying for strength, patience, because I do believe that the God of my understanding will deliver these lessons and so not the way I enjoy them. LOL!! That whole the apple didn't fall far from the tree in terms of God'...	Pushka	4	1176	Apr 7, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Having a confidant in my boss (Preview) It's been a huge relief for me to be able to have a confidant in both my boss and our sous chef (I work in a cafe). To be able to share with them as both an employee and friend has helped me to feel as if I'm not on this crazy roller coaster ride alone. It's been very helpful to have their support.	phoenixmagicgirl	1	397	Apr 7, 2013 by PP
	Face To Face Meetings (Preview) My city has 2 face to face meetings. 6pm Sunday Night and 10 am Friday Mornings. I have a million excuses on why they are never convenient for me. On Sundays, I'm normally winding down and getting settled in for the evening. On Fridays, i'm at work. I need to dedicate some time to go to church and an ala...	Sincerely	5	348	Apr 7, 2013 by lgnutah
	There always must be a culprit in our home (Preview) I feel rather sarcastic right now. I feel like I want to make a silly joke out of this behaviour, yet I know sarcasm will get me nowhere. Almost week at home with my parents and our family perfection needs to be maintained to the outsider's eye. God help me shall I decide to make a mistake or silly decision....	HappyToBe	7	442	Apr 7, 2013 by HappyToBe
	The past .. (Preview) I'm trying to reconsile at the moment the past, now for me as I've stated before I'm powerless over other people, places, things and the past. However, .. that being said I don't like or appreciate being spoon fed the past and then being told ohhh sorry that's in the past. Yes, it's in the past in terms o...	Pushka	15	553	Apr 7, 2013 by Pushka
	After years, I am finally leaving ABF (Preview) Hi guys, I just wanted to say first how great all of the support over the years here has been amazing. Thank you! I posted a little while back about how I had come to a point where I felt I needed to leave my ABF of 4 years but felt that there was a wall between me and that outcome. He is not working a program, and w...	Sangyaa	16	665	Apr 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	Life after the A (Preview) My life has been crazy busy going to college full time, working every weekend and raising my 2 girls all alone, although I do have a couple great friends that help me with running our kids one way and I do the other, I have accepted it is on me to do all that I can to raise my girls to the best of my abilities. I h...	Breakingfree	5	450	Apr 6, 2013 by tiredtonite
	It's a good day!!! (Preview) Went to a F2F last night - My HP really knows what he's doing! This was my 2nd meeting with this particular group - The first meeting I went to on Tuesday, I didn't share - just wasn't ready, I guess. But I went back last night, and the reading was about "Fear" - the passage that I read was about...	cRaZyJaDe	4	347	Apr 6, 2013 by lgnutah
	can't believe how good it is getting; actually I can! (Preview) More than one good day in a row! I wish I could share more! Some days I feel like I am floating on a pink cloud. This is something I heard in early recovery but then it was a negative thing--not for me! I want to ride the cloud & the wave as long as I am able. I feel a sense of relief. My AH & I are getting alo...	Hoot Nanny	3	372	Apr 6, 2013 by lgnutah
	Just when I thought it couldn't get worse (Preview) So I took my son and left and went to a shelter. It's been about 10 days now, and I've been speaking to counsellors and trying to negotiate with my spouse to move out to an apt and let my son and I live in the house because it is near his school and it is way too much upheaval for a child. After much delay finall...	forestfairy	2	516	Apr 6, 2013 by pinkchip
	Asking AH to Get into a long term recovery program (Preview) Hello friends AH has checked himself into detox / mental health facility again. This is the second time since the end of February. He has told his case worker that when he completes the 7 day inpatient he wants to go back to the 9-3 outpatient program. Both his case worker and I agree that he needs long-te...	ParisMemories	5	411	Apr 6, 2013 by Mattie
	Back home, back to state of 'frozen' (Preview) Hi all. This great group and your shares on this page really keep me going for last few months. This is my first post and possible not last. I am currently visiting my home country, my hometown and staying with my folks that I haven't seen for past 18 months. We usually get on very well ( not surprising of co...	HappyToBe	3	370	Apr 5, 2013 by el-cee
	Just a little note about soulmates (Preview) A little soulmate thought from my head.....I believe we have many soulmates hanging around for us and some come with expiration dates.	PP	8	418	Apr 5, 2013 by el-cee
	Priorities (Preview) Our A daughter was told she has to be out of our home in June, has no money, no job and here she is, spending 9 hours today getting extensions in her hair!!!! Her birthday is tomorrow and she wants us to take her out to dinner!!!!! I don't get it, and perhaps never will............... -- Edited by LeenieBe...	LeenieBeanie	3	332	Apr 5, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Surprise!! You've been divorced for 11 days!! (Preview) So, today I decided to check the online court forum and see if my soon to be ex husband had filed any new papers that I might not have found out about yet. We had filed a joinder and were doing our divorce without any hostility or fighting. It is just going to be over. We are just walking away. Sad that it h...	cinders	5	419	Apr 5, 2013 by PP
	A treat to share... (Preview) I have just enjoyed my favourite walk in the mountains, starting near a shower of snow melt and passing through a narrow gorge where the river was tumbling in full flow. As the path climbed higher the mountain mists wrapped the wise old beech trees and when I reached the highest point of the path, where...	milkwood	4	309	Apr 5, 2013 by AlAnonDave
	A Daily Reading (re-posted from ACoA board) (Preview) Yesterday's daily reading REALLY hit me right between the eyes, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hope you all get as much out of it as I did! *Today I Accept My Mistakes* I embrace my lack of perfection and I accept my mistakes. I have the right to be wrong. My self-worth does not have to evaporate when I...	Red Hawk	4	5001	Apr 5, 2013 by bm5040
	Back to Zero AGAIN (Preview) I am so upset right now. :( AH was doing so well and he's been off the drugs for almost two weeks now and off the alcohol for two months but a few minutes ago, he just walked out of the front door to go to the smoke shop to get some spice. He's been going to his outpatient treatment classes but obviously, he'...	Clueless Optimist	4	444	Apr 5, 2013 by Tasha
	Dealing with my Alcohaulic Mom (Preview) I am new to Alanon, and spent many years avoiding getting involved in Alanon until I was forced to when my life threw up. I grew up with an alcohaulic mother. She is now 16 years "sober" yet she still has all of the typical alcohaulic behaviors. Selfishness, narcassism, attention whoring. T...	aroundthewayJ	6	332	Apr 5, 2013 by beckon11
	Just decided to cut off all contact with alcoholic parent (Preview) Hello all! First post on here. I mostly need a place to put this all down and hopefully get some support, thoughts, and advice from others going through it. My mother has been an alcoholic since I was about 12 or 13, right after her mother passed away. I'm 100% positive she was dealing with depression a...	shortCakeSlayer	2	1717	Apr 5, 2013 by hotrod
	Alanon 12 steps? (Preview) Is there an actual set of directions on how to do the steps in Alanon anywhere? If so, what book are they in? i don't mean where the steps are TALKED about, but an actual, clear-cut set of directions? thanks!	WorkingThroughIt	12	720	Apr 4, 2013 by el-cee
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