The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Attending face to face meetings, sharing, obtaining a sponsor and working the steps, breaking the isolation I learned to keep the focus on myself, permit others to own their pain, without my interfering and to live one day at a time trusting HP
You will find recovery in alanon
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 3rd of April 2013 02:09:26 PM
Now that my alcoholic ex has moved out and completely disappeared, I have had some quiet time to just sit with myself. Its been pretty uncomfortable, actually. And every time I start thinking something positive about no longer having to deal with him around, I feel guilty. How do you deal with that?
I also have a very hard time dealing with people in general. Its with all my relationships-family, coworkers, friends. I am deeply affected by the moods of other people and take everything so personal, all of the time. If someone else is in a bad mood or going through something, I feel it like it is happening to me and I even have feelings and thoughts like it IS happening too me. Where do I begin to stop this? My entire life I thought this was normal, and now it looks like it's not suppose to be like this. If that's true, I really want to change!! I didn't know there was a different way until now.
It sounds like your a co-dependent person like me. Al-anon helps me in many ways....not just with my AS. Working the steps lets you understand yourself. How and why you do the things you do. I also attend CODA meetings.
I hope this helps......but I can tell you Al-anon does work, if you work it and your worth it....
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