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Melly1248 · Melly1248

Had dinner with a friend this evening. It had been quite some time since we had caught up and I relayed the tale of the crazy cat lady to her. She thought it was horrifying and hilarious, and after I had finished describing what had gone down, I mentioned that even though she apparently has a huge collecti...

Jerry F · Jerry F

....Family. I was reminded at my home group meeting on the Courage To Change page of the day that Change doesn't only take time, for me it also took and takes an entire army of Al-Anon members who have changed and saved my life. The "forest for the trees" is a grateful, humble example of f...

Milo · Milo

Hi, My daughter has been an alcoholic for about a year now, and just returned from an inpatient rehab center. She has started work again, and asked to be put on anabuse. She has been home a week(she does not live in my state) and has been sick with a bad cold, so she has not attended AA yet. She says she want...

tortuga · tortuga

I have been enjoying Peace of mind more or less the past month. The reason being zero contact with ex A. Of course memories come back and i was mourning my losses.but that's part of healing right. The waves of emotion get less and less now for some reason he wrote me an email. Recalling ALL the memoriesal...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I just want to say, during a meditation this came into my mind. It seems like the biggest battle we have is the A. . but really it is our thoughts. If my thoughts are ok and I am in control, who can hurt me? Or control me? We all know this disease is not just physical, it is mental and in my experience he was ofte...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

lol. Got suckered into a "deep and meaningful" conversation with A tonight. I felt that euphoric moment- he was asking me how I FEEL and I found just the right words and got on a roll and expressed myself...I've barely said a word to him for weeks...and he almost held up one of those old-fashi...

sadsusie · sadsusie

So, I really thought that I was going to have to move out. I got myself a place, even paid extra (go me) for a DVR. the funny thing is that I didn't move in. I think that many times the PROCESS of doing things for myself and making BIG decisions and STICKING to them (to a degree) is more healing than actually f...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

many of you have reached out to me so i need to reach back. you are an AMAZING grouo of of friends, yes friends. my non cyber friends are limited and judging. . . after almost walking out 8 days ago, i am still home. i am taking a slight break from therapy as i need a break from ME. LOL.i havent pushed marr cnslg...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything."

Deceived · Deceived

I have known that my. Husband(of 31 years) had a drinking problem for approx 15 years. 7 years ago he declared he was an alchoholic and joined AA. I went to one Alanon meeting, read a few books - he got his drinking under control ( only one relapse in the past 7 years) and continued to attend AA sporadicall...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"Running away from things you find unpleasant causes suffering. But facing and challenging such situations will enrich your life." Daisaku Ikeda Buddhist philosopher

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am blessed .. I am so blessed sometimes I forget how blessed I am .. seriously speaking I just keep taking things one day at a time and God (HP) is teaching me to trust .. holy COW .. God teaches me to trust Him and myself. Right now I'm in the process of moving literally packing up and moving a house in 4 days...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I did a simple surgery on my gums... yep I could not find any help! Was just too painful to do nothing. My son reminded me of Tom Hanks on that movie where he got stranded, using a ice skate and a rock I think it was. Well no one cared that it could kill me, but me. Meaning dentist. er said they could do nothing...

genie1000 · genie1000

When he drinks his vodka shooters in the driveway after he gets home from work, stumbles in the house and says something really stupid, I just want to push him down the stairs, shoot him or stab him, or something. No dinner tonight, honey. He brings out the violence in me. One time, I took his glasse...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I didn't know how to title this thread. Some of you may remember that AH was planning on taking ds(our son) on a whirlwind 2 week around the world trip in October. AH was all excited about it and ds....not so much. The grandiosity of the trip, itself, was quite astonishing. He wanted to go to Tokyo, So...

lucymae · lucymae

I have attended Alanon for about 11 years but stop going about 5 months ago. It's been hard for me to go due to my schedule so I thought I would check out this forum. I currently live with an active high functioning alcoholic. My marriage is almost at an end. We are going to try counseling at my husbands req...

Truth · Truth

So I had my lawyer appointment basically I have to be a cop to get anything changed. Now what?

PP · PP

I just read this prayer and would like to include all of us into its grace... Today I ask that the grace of healing flow in abundance to all humanity. This world shivers in turmoil and though I do not understand the power of grace or the influence of prayer, I need to believe that it matters when I pray for th...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. I was reading about people talking slogans and how they are used way to much. It upset me some...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...

SB · SB

Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Ah dear. Thursday, I went to stay at my mothers. I hadn't seen her since my super-fun trip away in January but all of our conversations since then have been..pleasant..sorta. For my part I ignore anything I perceive as a barb or a taunt and just steer the conversation on to happy things, and if she persi...

luv123 · luv123

This week I am working with my hp on removing some of my anxiety. It is around finding balance between "being there" for sponsees vs. having healthy boundaries/self care. I have had to learn and unlearn a lot of things about relationships while in the program. Sponsorship relationship...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I went searching for drama and found it. I went to a website where my AH posts crazy crap. I read a lot of his posts. They all hurt me really bad. He claims its satire. Keeps telling me how its annonymous. What i have written here about him is nothing compared to his lovely website. OMG. Vulgar language. Vul...

New Member (not sure how this goes) · sissy0202

Hi there, i am new to this forum so I am not quite sure how this goes or what the etiquette is. Please forgive me if this is lengthy or not in proper form. I am 35 years old and the daughter of an alcoholic mother. She has drank my whole life, with a few extended stints of sobriety. My mother has always stumb...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

I know you're drinking again. I accept that I have no control over that, and you make your own choices. I just want to remind you about that one night, what my boundaries are, and what is at stake. I truly hope you do not fall back into old habits. Just because I've forgiven you does not mean I have forgo...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I had a good day. Met my X and his wife and we were the only family there. WOW. When my son finally came in he was in the usual orange suit shackled both hands and feet. He didn't see us because he came in looking at the judge. I started crying ...couldn't help myself but I was quite about it. His court a...

el-cee · el-cee

My best friend has a son who is a lot like my eldest son, with issues, bad behaviour, addiction issues, his is less to do with alcohol though. Anyway, he has befriended my youngest son who has no alcohol issues of his own but having been brought up in an alcoholic home and seeing the disease in his Father th...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

One of those days...I know it will pass... It was a nice warm sunny afternoon and I washed a couple of loads of laundry and hung them out. I took my son to work, came home, and sat down to relax and watch a movie. I was so enthralled that I didn't hear the rain when it started again. The A, who had seen me hangi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The results of the test came back. He doesn't seem to have COPD but has had asthma in the past & it might be that only. I am still in a place where I am just so grateful. I even took care of the insurance issue yesterday. The wait was long but it was worth it. I have been at a stalemate for about two weeks. I ju...

odalis · odalis

I was on this board several years ago and for some reason just stopped coming. At that point I was going to meetings once a week. A lot has happened since then and I find myself asking where do I start AGAIN? Aside from having an AH, I also now have a little guy who's 9 months old. My oldest is in college and my A...

loveofladybug · loveofladybug

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm sitting here trying to figure out why but can't come to a good answer. I love to make all the fixings for Tacos, lay it out on the table and have at it. I make flour and corn tortilla shells and just pig out. My son loved to come over and do it with us. Last night I made the taco's but as I was eating I felt...

Jen · Jen

I'm having a rough day today. I have been an active Al-Anon member both here and in the f2f rooms for a long time, but this morning I felt like a total newcomer. I'm crabby, irritable, and critical of those around me. I feel like the ground is shifting under my feet and I don't know why. My AH has been sober fo...

SB · SB

Hi all...reaching out for all the support I can get right now, I have been a member of al anon for years but have not been going to meetings for the last 5 years or so. In this time I have gained a new alcoholic/addict in my life, my son, I now live with 2 alcoholics my husband and my son. My son is 20 and just got o...

Gaby · Gaby

I get on here daily and read. I have been working a lot and trying to stay at peace.. Update my son got a full time job.. No phone for him or car and he still has a roof over his head he sees his daughter twice a week as court ordered and is paying his child support and as of today he has 46 days clean. His hours are a...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

We started the process of an intervention for my AM. My brother, dad and I all wrote letters, my sister has yet to finish her letter because she thinks my AM is still angry over a fight they had a few weeks ago.. That is maddening because I can't control my sister's actions...just like I can't control whet...

mm830 · mm830

I need more. I deserve a good life, a partner whole loves me. I am sick and tired of being like this. I hope he has a good life. I need to start living mine again. I don't ever want to hear that snarling voice again. I want to get married and be happy. And every day I spend in this dysfunctional chaos is one more d...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57174490/alanon-step-3/

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I have to leave, get out of here right now. The A decided to start working on the broke down jeep. Mind you it has sat there for 6 months, and in that time he's worked on it maybe ten times, to be generous. So he just pulled off a giant part of the engine block, and sat it on some milk crates in the back room. It loo...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

That's all I can stands, cause I can't stands no more!! Sorry if I mangled it, it's something to that effect. I wish Popeye could fix this, lol.. I have to let my A go. I realize it now, I realized it then, but I was so far up Denial.... Now I'm trying to figure how to go about it, get myself ready for the after...

Truth · Truth

I am feeling so grateful, happy and full of joy today. I am a little nervous about what I am taking a stand on but I know that is self-imposed anxiety. (I always wonder if I have prepared enough documentation) My prayers and thoughts are with all of you

I feel their will be great blessings on your jo...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I HAVE BEEN HOME ALONE FOR 4 DAYS NOW, WITH NO TRACE OF HIM COMING HOME. ALL HE DOE IS CALL THATS ALL. HE COMES UP WITH EVERY SINGLE EXCUSE THAT HE WILL BE HOME. THE LAST TIME I SAW HIM WAS ON MY BIRTHDAY MARCH 26 AND HAVEN NOT SEEN HIM SINCE. I KNOW THAT ME BEING ALONE IS BETTER THEN BEING WITH HIM, BUT I HAVE ...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

As a rule, I want to send out the good news first. My husband doesn't have COPD according to his symptoms & probably doesn't have it at all. I am so relieved. Anyhow, my week started out kind of crazy but now I am into acceptance-mode. I spent way too much time in deep concern & not handling situati...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm doing something I should have done months ago just lacked the ability to do so. I think I'm ready. It's going to have to be a God thing. It's either going to workout or it's not .. I am praying that it does workout. It would be the best ideal situation .. who knows though .. lol .. it just is what it is an...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. So, I called my dad tonight to hang out. He was sober which he has been for awhile. He said sure but he has to leave around 9 to go visit 'some friends'. It immediately struck me as odd because anytime he's gone out he's always mentione...

el-cee · el-cee

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

This morning I went to my COPD study and blew my lungs out. I'm not liking this study but it is what it is. The money bought my groceries this week and that's a good thing. I'm at peace on one hand and upset on another. Getting a grip on what is happening to my son can really take you down if you let it. I fee...

Aloha · Aloha

Normally, when I want to scream, I'll do it. Scream come on out. But I'm having one of those days where an employee is making me completely bonkers (she's an alcoholic, so no surprise there.) I hear more and more news about her manipulating and doing stuff on the sly and I just want to SCREAM. But screamin...

tortuga · tortuga

in recovery while walking on this new path, I have to keep myself reminding 'this too shall pass', and 'if i keep on doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results, that is my insanity'. Those two really help right now. I miss him, the good times we had, and I'm resisting the surge...

milkwood · milkwood

I'm posting this in the hope that I and others might learn from my mistakes and because writing on the board here always helps me to gain some insight. The question that I'm struggling with now is why do I give so much more weight to what my AH thinks of me than I do to the voice of other people in my life? I mad...

Truth · Truth

So I trusted my gut today and reported the behaviors to the police for my son. They cannot tell me what is going on but say that my gut is 100% correct. I don't think he is using/drinking however there are highly illegal behaviors. They advised me that I should go back to my lawyer and ask for supervised vis...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It has been a week is putting it mildly and I've had the opportunity to share some Alanon with some friends even. I am grateful for the experience. What I love so much about this program I can give it away and other people don't know I'm doing it. There is a lot of addiction issues and consequences from sa...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

That was the topic of last nights meeting and I love that slogan and because of the simplicity forget it the easiest at times so it was a great reminder. This for me relates directly to my need to be right .. I have wondered if it's my need to be right .. or is it my need to be heard especially by others who are t...

Lyne · Lyne

It's a rough week for me due to having a crisis with needing helpers for my 90 yr old mom. So guess what I found myself doing this morning? Obsessing about my A. Like where the hell did that come from? I don't have enought stress already? I'm already having anxiety everyday. I'm getting the run arou...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am going to study, workout, but besides the normal hum drum, I am going to laugh and enjoy this day. I was on the pity pot most the day yesterday and wasted precious moments. Today is a brand new day and I deserve to be happy and to feel healthy. I did my al-anon readings and am going to roll with God today...

skahtul · skahtul

I have posted here some months back and I really haven't been back on the board unfortunately. The insights and thoughts I gained really helped me to see that my wife's addiction was her problem and that my co-dependency problems were mine. They were so helpful at that point in her recovery I am forever...

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	My Silver Lining. (Preview) Had dinner with a friend this evening. It had been quite some time since we had caught up and I relayed the tale of the crazy cat lady to her. She thought it was horrifying and hilarious, and after I had finished describing what had gone down, I mentioned that even though she apparently has a huge collecti...	Melly1248	4	322	Apr 3, 2014 by Breakingfree
	A Humble Mahalo to my MIP Ohana (Preview) ....Family. I was reminded at my home group meeting on the Courage To Change page of the day that Change doesn't only take time, for me it also took and takes an entire army of Al-Anon members who have changed and saved my life. The "forest for the trees" is a grateful, humble example of f...	Jerry F	12	370	Apr 3, 2014 by tortuga
	What to do? (Preview) Hi, My daughter has been an alcoholic for about a year now, and just returned from an inpatient rehab center. She has started work again, and asked to be put on anabuse. She has been home a week(she does not live in my state) and has been sick with a bad cold, so she has not attended AA yet. She says she want...	Milo	4	267	Apr 3, 2014 by grateful2be
	been there, done that,….but still triggers! (Preview) I have been enjoying Peace of mind more or less the past month. The reason being zero contact with ex A. Of course memories come back and i was mourning my losses.but that's part of healing right. The waves of emotion get less and less now for some reason he wrote me an email. Recalling ALL the memoriesal...	tortuga	10	410	Apr 3, 2014 by giraffe13
	our thoughts are our worst enemies (Preview) I just want to say, during a meditation this came into my mind. It seems like the biggest battle we have is the A. . but really it is our thoughts. If my thoughts are ok and I am in control, who can hurt me? Or control me? We all know this disease is not just physical, it is mental and in my experience he was ofte...	giraffe13	12	394	Apr 3, 2014 by giraffe13
	Concerto in BS major. (Preview) lol. Got suckered into a "deep and meaningful" conversation with A tonight. I felt that euphoric moment- he was asking me how I FEEL and I found just the right words and got on a roll and expressed myself...I've barely said a word to him for weeks...and he almost held up one of those old-fashi...	Melly1248	20	753	Apr 3, 2014 by el-cee
	Detachment and other lessons learned (Preview) So, I really thought that I was going to have to move out. I got myself a place, even paid extra (go me) for a DVR. the funny thing is that I didn't move in. I think that many times the PROCESS of doing things for myself and making BIG decisions and STICKING to them (to a degree) is more healing than actually f...	sadsusie	10	655	Apr 3, 2014 by el-cee
	new update (Preview) many of you have reached out to me so i need to reach back. you are an AMAZING grouo of of friends, yes friends. my non cyber friends are limited and judging. . . after almost walking out 8 days ago, i am still home. i am taking a slight break from therapy as i need a break from ME. LOL.i havent pushed marr cnslg...	Theoceancalls	6	290	Apr 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Irish Proverb (Preview) "A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything."	Beatrice	8	377	Apr 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Beginner (Preview) I have known that my. Husband(of 31 years) had a drinking problem for approx 15 years. 7 years ago he declared he was an alchoholic and joined AA. I went to one Alanon meeting, read a few books - he got his drinking under control ( only one relapse in the past 7 years) and continued to attend AA sporadicall...	Deceived	4	1019	Apr 2, 2014 by oldergal
	Thoughts (Preview) "Running away from things you find unpleasant causes suffering. But facing and challenging such situations will enrich your life." Daisaku Ikeda Buddhist philosopher	Beatrice	9	348	Apr 2, 2014 by bud
	Good News :) (Preview) I am blessed .. I am so blessed sometimes I forget how blessed I am .. seriously speaking I just keep taking things one day at a time and God (HP) is teaching me to trust .. holy COW .. God teaches me to trust Him and myself. Right now I'm in the process of moving literally packing up and moving a house in 4 days...	SerenityRUS	9	439	Apr 2, 2014 by bud
	I am better!!!!! (Preview) I did a simple surgery on my gums... yep I could not find any help! Was just too painful to do nothing. My son reminded me of Tom Hanks on that movie where he got stranded, using a ice skate and a rock I think it was. Well no one cared that it could kill me, but me. Meaning dentist. er said they could do nothing...	Debilyn	9	528	Apr 2, 2014 by Diva
	I really want to kill him!! (Preview) When he drinks his vodka shooters in the driveway after he gets home from work, stumbles in the house and says something really stupid, I just want to push him down the stairs, shoot him or stab him, or something. No dinner tonight, honey. He brings out the violence in me. One time, I took his glasse...	genie1000	10	648	Apr 2, 2014 by Diva
	Proud of my son; fallout from AH (Preview) I didn't know how to title this thread. Some of you may remember that AH was planning on taking ds(our son) on a whirlwind 2 week around the world trip in October. AH was all excited about it and ds....not so much. The grandiosity of the trip, itself, was quite astonishing. He wanted to go to Tokyo, So...	ilovedogs	9	342	Apr 2, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	New to the forum (Preview) I have attended Alanon for about 11 years but stop going about 5 months ago. It's been hard for me to go due to my schedule so I thought I would check out this forum. I currently live with an active high functioning alcoholic. My marriage is almost at an end. We are going to try counseling at my husbands req...	lucymae	14	559	Apr 2, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Well my bubble got burst (Preview) So I had my lawyer appointment basically I have to be a cop to get anything changed. Now what?	Truth	19	577	Apr 2, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Awesome prayer (Preview) I just read this prayer and would like to include all of us into its grace... Today I ask that the grace of healing flow in abundance to all humanity. This world shivers in turmoil and though I do not understand the power of grace or the influence of prayer, I need to believe that it matters when I pray for th...	PP	6	279	Apr 2, 2014 by mm830
	Just for Today (Preview) Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. I was reading about people talking slogans and how they are used way to much. It upset me some...	Cathyinaz	10	513	Apr 1, 2014 by Jerry F
	For Cathy and anyone who needs a warm fuzzy;) (Preview)	Raven Juniper	7	342	Apr 1, 2014 by Jerry F
	Supporting a Fellow Al-Anoner Without Enabling (Preview) Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...	Green Eyes	10	595	Apr 1, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Being single, had another false start (Preview) I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...	Breakingfree	9	471	Apr 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Opinions wanted (Preview) I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...	sweeetr	12	455	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	What a night... (Preview) Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...	SB	5	450	Apr 1, 2014 by el-cee
	Family fun!! (Preview) Ah dear. Thursday, I went to stay at my mothers. I hadn't seen her since my super-fun trip away in January but all of our conversations since then have been..pleasant..sorta. For my part I ignore anything I perceive as a barb or a taunt and just steer the conversation on to happy things, and if she persi...	Melly1248	8	521	Apr 1, 2014 by flopadopilus
	Sponsoring (balance) (Preview) This week I am working with my hp on removing some of my anxiety. It is around finding balance between "being there" for sponsees vs. having healthy boundaries/self care. I have had to learn and unlearn a lot of things about relationships while in the program. Sponsorship relationship...	luv123	2	451	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Vulgar activities (Preview) I went searching for drama and found it. I went to a website where my AH posts crazy crap. I read a lot of his posts. They all hurt me really bad. He claims its satire. Keeps telling me how its annonymous. What i have written here about him is nothing compared to his lovely website. OMG. Vulgar language. Vul...	Newlife girl	11	689	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	New Member (not sure how this goes) (Preview) Hi there, i am new to this forum so I am not quite sure how this goes or what the etiquette is. Please forgive me if this is lengthy or not in proper form. I am 35 years old and the daughter of an alcoholic mother. She has drank my whole life, with a few extended stints of sobriety. My mother has always stumb...	sissy0202	6	443	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	To speak or to stay silent (Preview) I know you're drinking again. I accept that I have no control over that, and you make your own choices. I just want to remind you about that one night, what my boundaries are, and what is at stake. I truly hope you do not fall back into old habits. Just because I've forgiven you does not mean I have forgo...	SpiderArcana	8	566	Apr 1, 2014 by sad_dog_mommy
	Hearing 2 (Preview) I had a good day. Met my X and his wife and we were the only family there. WOW. When my son finally came in he was in the usual orange suit shackled both hands and feet. He didn't see us because he came in looking at the judge. I started crying ...couldn't help myself but I was quite about it. His court a...	Cathyinaz	16	425	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Did I do the right thing? (Preview) My best friend has a son who is a lot like my eldest son, with issues, bad behaviour, addiction issues, his is less to do with alcohol though. Anyway, he has befriended my youngest son who has no alcohol issues of his own but having been brought up in an alcoholic home and seeing the disease in his Father th...	el-cee	12	555	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Rainy Days and Mondays (Preview) One of those days...I know it will pass... It was a nice warm sunny afternoon and I washed a couple of loads of laundry and hung them out. I took my son to work, came home, and sat down to relax and watch a movie. I was so enthralled that I didn't hear the rain when it started again. The A, who had seen me hangi...	Raven Juniper	3	308	Apr 1, 2014 by PP
	don't think he has COPD! It looks so good! (Preview) The results of the test came back. He doesn't seem to have COPD but has had asthma in the past & it might be that only. I am still in a place where I am just so grateful. I even took care of the insurance issue yesterday. The wait was long but it was worth it. I have been at a stalemate for about two weeks. I ju...	Hoot Nanny	2	324	Apr 1, 2014 by John
	I guess I need a starting point AGAIN....young children involved (Preview) I was on this board several years ago and for some reason just stopped coming. At that point I was going to meetings once a week. A lot has happened since then and I find myself asking where do I start AGAIN? Aside from having an AH, I also now have a little guy who's 9 months old. My oldest is in college and my A...	odalis	6	390	Mar 31, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	wrap them in a blanket and give them to our higher power ..where in r books ? (Preview)	loveofladybug	4	406	Mar 31, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Guilty but not to the point of enabling..... just within me (Preview) I'm sitting here trying to figure out why but can't come to a good answer. I love to make all the fixings for Tacos, lay it out on the table and have at it. I make flour and corn tortilla shells and just pig out. My son loved to come over and do it with us. Last night I made the taco's but as I was eating I felt...	Cathyinaz	7	581	Mar 31, 2014 by Debilyn
	Even after years of Al-Anon, there's no perfection here. LOL (Preview) I'm having a rough day today. I have been an active Al-Anon member both here and in the f2f rooms for a long time, but this morning I felt like a total newcomer. I'm crabby, irritable, and critical of those around me. I feel like the ground is shifting under my feet and I don't know why. My AH has been sober fo...	Jen	6	484	Mar 31, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	New to Al anon...again (Preview) Hi all...reaching out for all the support I can get right now, I have been a member of al anon for years but have not been going to meetings for the last 5 years or so. In this time I have gained a new alcoholic/addict in my life, my son, I now live with 2 alcoholics my husband and my son. My son is 20 and just got o...	SB	3	323	Mar 31, 2014 by Gaby
	Hi all.. (Preview) I get on here daily and read. I have been working a lot and trying to stay at peace.. Update my son got a full time job.. No phone for him or car and he still has a roof over his head he sees his daughter twice a week as court ordered and is paying his child support and as of today he has 46 days clean. His hours are a...	Gaby	4	271	Mar 31, 2014 by Gaby
	Lack of progress with intervention for AM...advice please! (Preview) We started the process of an intervention for my AM. My brother, dad and I all wrote letters, my sister has yet to finish her letter because she thinks my AM is still angry over a fight they had a few weeks ago.. That is maddening because I can't control my sister's actions...just like I can't control whet...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	294	Mar 31, 2014 by maryjane
	I think I am really done (Preview) I need more. I deserve a good life, a partner whole loves me. I am sick and tired of being like this. I hope he has a good life. I need to start living mine again. I don't ever want to hear that snarling voice again. I want to get married and be happy. And every day I spend in this dysfunctional chaos is one more d...	mm830	7	606	Mar 31, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	STEP 3 POSTED TO STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57174490/alanon-step-3/	hotrod	1	175	Mar 31, 2014 by loveofladybug
	What is it with him? Or what is it with me? (Preview) I have to leave, get out of here right now. The A decided to start working on the broke down jeep. Mind you it has sat there for 6 months, and in that time he's worked on it maybe ten times, to be generous. So he just pulled off a giant part of the engine block, and sat it on some milk crates in the back room. It loo...	Raven Juniper	4	362	Mar 30, 2014 by Raven Juniper
	As Popeye would say... (Preview) That's all I can stands, cause I can't stands no more!! Sorry if I mangled it, it's something to that effect. I wish Popeye could fix this, lol.. I have to let my A go. I realize it now, I realized it then, but I was so far up Denial.... Now I'm trying to figure how to go about it, get myself ready for the after...	Raven Juniper	8	449	Mar 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	Feeling Fantastic! (Preview) I am feeling so grateful, happy and full of joy today. I am a little nervous about what I am taking a stand on but I know that is self-imposed anxiety. (I always wonder if I have prepared enough documentation) My prayers and thoughts are with all of you I feel their will be great blessings on your jo...	Truth	3	474	Mar 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	How far is he going to go before he falls..... (Preview) I HAVE BEEN HOME ALONE FOR 4 DAYS NOW, WITH NO TRACE OF HIM COMING HOME. ALL HE DOE IS CALL THATS ALL. HE COMES UP WITH EVERY SINGLE EXCUSE THAT HE WILL BE HOME. THE LAST TIME I SAW HIM WAS ON MY BIRTHDAY MARCH 26 AND HAVEN NOT SEEN HIM SINCE. I KNOW THAT ME BEING ALONE IS BETTER THEN BEING WITH HIM, BUT I HAVE ...	NavySealWife	12	619	Mar 30, 2014 by NavySealWife
	good news & sad news! (Preview) As a rule, I want to send out the good news first. My husband doesn't have COPD according to his symptoms & probably doesn't have it at all. I am so relieved. Anyhow, my week started out kind of crazy but now I am into acceptance-mode. I spent way too much time in deep concern & not handling situati...	Hoot Nanny	2	240	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	Prayers again :) (Preview) I'm doing something I should have done months ago just lacked the ability to do so. I think I'm ready. It's going to have to be a God thing. It's either going to workout or it's not .. I am praying that it does workout. It would be the best ideal situation .. who knows though .. lol .. it just is what it is an...	SerenityRUS	7	356	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	My dad's behavior (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. So, I called my dad tonight to hang out. He was sober which he has been for awhile. He said sure but he has to leave around 9 to go visit 'some friends'. It immediately struck me as odd because anytime he's gone out he's always mentione...	slogan_jim	7	451	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	A few wee belters! (Preview)	el-cee	9	619	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	Up's and Down's (Preview) This morning I went to my COPD study and blew my lungs out. I'm not liking this study but it is what it is. The money bought my groceries this week and that's a good thing. I'm at peace on one hand and upset on another. Getting a grip on what is happening to my son can really take you down if you let it. I fee...	Cathyinaz	9	449	Mar 30, 2014 by mm830
	What to do when you really, REALLY want to scream (Preview) Normally, when I want to scream, I'll do it. Scream come on out. But I'm having one of those days where an employee is making me completely bonkers (she's an alcoholic, so no surprise there.) I hear more and more news about her manipulating and doing stuff on the sly and I just want to SCREAM. But screamin...	Aloha	10	641	Mar 30, 2014 by likemyheart
	learning to love…. starting with me (Preview) in recovery while walking on this new path, I have to keep myself reminding 'this too shall pass', and 'if i keep on doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results, that is my insanity'. Those two really help right now. I miss him, the good times we had, and I'm resisting the surge...	tortuga	4	406	Mar 30, 2014 by el-cee
	Learning curve (Preview) I'm posting this in the hope that I and others might learn from my mistakes and because writing on the board here always helps me to gain some insight. The question that I'm struggling with now is why do I give so much more weight to what my AH thinks of me than I do to the voice of other people in my life? I mad...	milkwood	7	447	Mar 30, 2014 by milkwood
	Mother's Intuition (Preview) So I trusted my gut today and reported the behaviors to the police for my son. They cannot tell me what is going on but say that my gut is 100% correct. I don't think he is using/drinking however there are highly illegal behaviors. They advised me that I should go back to my lawyer and ask for supervised vis...	Truth	12	348	Mar 29, 2014 by Truth
	Prayers (Preview) It has been a week is putting it mildly and I've had the opportunity to share some Alanon with some friends even. I am grateful for the experience. What I love so much about this program I can give it away and other people don't know I'm doing it. There is a lot of addiction issues and consequences from sa...	SerenityRUS	2	232	Mar 29, 2014 by mm830
	How Important Is It? (Preview) That was the topic of last nights meeting and I love that slogan and because of the simplicity forget it the easiest at times so it was a great reminder. This for me relates directly to my need to be right .. I have wondered if it's my need to be right .. or is it my need to be heard especially by others who are t...	SerenityRUS	1	1838	Mar 29, 2014 by hotrod
	Obsessing again (Preview) It's a rough week for me due to having a crisis with needing helpers for my 90 yr old mom. So guess what I found myself doing this morning? Obsessing about my A. Like where the hell did that come from? I don't have enought stress already? I'm already having anxiety everyday. I'm getting the run arou...	Lyne	8	236	Mar 29, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Today~What can I do with it? (Preview) I am going to study, workout, but besides the normal hum drum, I am going to laugh and enjoy this day. I was on the pity pot most the day yesterday and wasted precious moments. Today is a brand new day and I deserve to be happy and to feel healthy. I did my al-anon readings and am going to roll with God today...	Breakingfree	4	288	Mar 29, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Thought I was doing good work but it takes so much longer than I ever imagined. (Preview) I have posted here some months back and I really haven't been back on the board unfortunately. The insights and thoughts I gained really helped me to see that my wife's addiction was her problem and that my co-dependency problems were mine. They were so helpful at that point in her recovery I am forever...	skahtul	9	538	Mar 29, 2014 by skahtul
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