Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...

SB · SB

Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Ah dear. Thursday, I went to stay at my mothers. I hadn't seen her since my super-fun trip away in January but all of our conversations since then have been..pleasant..sorta. For my part I ignore anything I perceive as a barb or a taunt and just steer the conversation on to happy things, and if she persi...

luv123 · luv123

This week I am working with my hp on removing some of my anxiety. It is around finding balance between "being there" for sponsees vs. having healthy boundaries/self care. I have had to learn and unlearn a lot of things about relationships while in the program. Sponsorship relationship...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I went searching for drama and found it. I went to a website where my AH posts crazy crap. I read a lot of his posts. They all hurt me really bad. He claims its satire. Keeps telling me how its annonymous. What i have written here about him is nothing compared to his lovely website. OMG. Vulgar language. Vul...

New Member (not sure how this goes) · sissy0202

Hi there, i am new to this forum so I am not quite sure how this goes or what the etiquette is. Please forgive me if this is lengthy or not in proper form. I am 35 years old and the daughter of an alcoholic mother. She has drank my whole life, with a few extended stints of sobriety. My mother has always stumb...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

I know you're drinking again. I accept that I have no control over that, and you make your own choices. I just want to remind you about that one night, what my boundaries are, and what is at stake. I truly hope you do not fall back into old habits. Just because I've forgiven you does not mean I have forgo...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I had a good day. Met my X and his wife and we were the only family there. WOW. When my son finally came in he was in the usual orange suit shackled both hands and feet. He didn't see us because he came in looking at the judge. I started crying ...couldn't help myself but I was quite about it. His court a...

el-cee · el-cee

My best friend has a son who is a lot like my eldest son, with issues, bad behaviour, addiction issues, his is less to do with alcohol though. Anyway, he has befriended my youngest son who has no alcohol issues of his own but having been brought up in an alcoholic home and seeing the disease in his Father th...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

One of those days...I know it will pass... It was a nice warm sunny afternoon and I washed a couple of loads of laundry and hung them out. I took my son to work, came home, and sat down to relax and watch a movie. I was so enthralled that I didn't hear the rain when it started again. The A, who had seen me hangi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The results of the test came back. He doesn't seem to have COPD but has had asthma in the past & it might be that only. I am still in a place where I am just so grateful. I even took care of the insurance issue yesterday. The wait was long but it was worth it. I have been at a stalemate for about two weeks. I ju...

odalis · odalis

I was on this board several years ago and for some reason just stopped coming. At that point I was going to meetings once a week. A lot has happened since then and I find myself asking where do I start AGAIN? Aside from having an AH, I also now have a little guy who's 9 months old. My oldest is in college and my A...

loveofladybug · loveofladybug

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm sitting here trying to figure out why but can't come to a good answer. I love to make all the fixings for Tacos, lay it out on the table and have at it. I make flour and corn tortilla shells and just pig out. My son loved to come over and do it with us. Last night I made the taco's but as I was eating I felt...

Jen · Jen

I'm having a rough day today. I have been an active Al-Anon member both here and in the f2f rooms for a long time, but this morning I felt like a total newcomer. I'm crabby, irritable, and critical of those around me. I feel like the ground is shifting under my feet and I don't know why. My AH has been sober fo...

SB · SB

Hi all...reaching out for all the support I can get right now, I have been a member of al anon for years but have not been going to meetings for the last 5 years or so. In this time I have gained a new alcoholic/addict in my life, my son, I now live with 2 alcoholics my husband and my son. My son is 20 and just got o...

Gaby · Gaby

I get on here daily and read. I have been working a lot and trying to stay at peace.. Update my son got a full time job.. No phone for him or car and he still has a roof over his head he sees his daughter twice a week as court ordered and is paying his child support and as of today he has 46 days clean. His hours are a...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

We started the process of an intervention for my AM. My brother, dad and I all wrote letters, my sister has yet to finish her letter because she thinks my AM is still angry over a fight they had a few weeks ago.. That is maddening because I can't control my sister's actions...just like I can't control whet...

mm830 · mm830

I need more. I deserve a good life, a partner whole loves me. I am sick and tired of being like this. I hope he has a good life. I need to start living mine again. I don't ever want to hear that snarling voice again. I want to get married and be happy. And every day I spend in this dysfunctional chaos is one more d...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57174490/alanon-step-3/

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I have to leave, get out of here right now. The A decided to start working on the broke down jeep. Mind you it has sat there for 6 months, and in that time he's worked on it maybe ten times, to be generous. So he just pulled off a giant part of the engine block, and sat it on some milk crates in the back room. It loo...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

That's all I can stands, cause I can't stands no more!! Sorry if I mangled it, it's something to that effect. I wish Popeye could fix this, lol.. I have to let my A go. I realize it now, I realized it then, but I was so far up Denial.... Now I'm trying to figure how to go about it, get myself ready for the after...

Truth · Truth

I am feeling so grateful, happy and full of joy today. I am a little nervous about what I am taking a stand on but I know that is self-imposed anxiety. (I always wonder if I have prepared enough documentation) My prayers and thoughts are with all of you

I feel their will be great blessings on your jo...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I HAVE BEEN HOME ALONE FOR 4 DAYS NOW, WITH NO TRACE OF HIM COMING HOME. ALL HE DOE IS CALL THATS ALL. HE COMES UP WITH EVERY SINGLE EXCUSE THAT HE WILL BE HOME. THE LAST TIME I SAW HIM WAS ON MY BIRTHDAY MARCH 26 AND HAVEN NOT SEEN HIM SINCE. I KNOW THAT ME BEING ALONE IS BETTER THEN BEING WITH HIM, BUT I HAVE ...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

As a rule, I want to send out the good news first. My husband doesn't have COPD according to his symptoms & probably doesn't have it at all. I am so relieved. Anyhow, my week started out kind of crazy but now I am into acceptance-mode. I spent way too much time in deep concern & not handling situati...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm doing something I should have done months ago just lacked the ability to do so. I think I'm ready. It's going to have to be a God thing. It's either going to workout or it's not .. I am praying that it does workout. It would be the best ideal situation .. who knows though .. lol .. it just is what it is an...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. So, I called my dad tonight to hang out. He was sober which he has been for awhile. He said sure but he has to leave around 9 to go visit 'some friends'. It immediately struck me as odd because anytime he's gone out he's always mentione...

el-cee · el-cee

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

This morning I went to my COPD study and blew my lungs out. I'm not liking this study but it is what it is. The money bought my groceries this week and that's a good thing. I'm at peace on one hand and upset on another. Getting a grip on what is happening to my son can really take you down if you let it. I fee...

Aloha · Aloha

Normally, when I want to scream, I'll do it. Scream come on out. But I'm having one of those days where an employee is making me completely bonkers (she's an alcoholic, so no surprise there.) I hear more and more news about her manipulating and doing stuff on the sly and I just want to SCREAM. But screamin...

tortuga · tortuga

in recovery while walking on this new path, I have to keep myself reminding 'this too shall pass', and 'if i keep on doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results, that is my insanity'. Those two really help right now. I miss him, the good times we had, and I'm resisting the surge...

milkwood · milkwood

I'm posting this in the hope that I and others might learn from my mistakes and because writing on the board here always helps me to gain some insight. The question that I'm struggling with now is why do I give so much more weight to what my AH thinks of me than I do to the voice of other people in my life? I mad...

Truth · Truth

So I trusted my gut today and reported the behaviors to the police for my son. They cannot tell me what is going on but say that my gut is 100% correct. I don't think he is using/drinking however there are highly illegal behaviors. They advised me that I should go back to my lawyer and ask for supervised vis...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It has been a week is putting it mildly and I've had the opportunity to share some Alanon with some friends even. I am grateful for the experience. What I love so much about this program I can give it away and other people don't know I'm doing it. There is a lot of addiction issues and consequences from sa...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

That was the topic of last nights meeting and I love that slogan and because of the simplicity forget it the easiest at times so it was a great reminder. This for me relates directly to my need to be right .. I have wondered if it's my need to be right .. or is it my need to be heard especially by others who are t...

Lyne · Lyne

It's a rough week for me due to having a crisis with needing helpers for my 90 yr old mom. So guess what I found myself doing this morning? Obsessing about my A. Like where the hell did that come from? I don't have enought stress already? I'm already having anxiety everyday. I'm getting the run arou...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am going to study, workout, but besides the normal hum drum, I am going to laugh and enjoy this day. I was on the pity pot most the day yesterday and wasted precious moments. Today is a brand new day and I deserve to be happy and to feel healthy. I did my al-anon readings and am going to roll with God today...

skahtul · skahtul

I have posted here some months back and I really haven't been back on the board unfortunately. The insights and thoughts I gained really helped me to see that my wife's addiction was her problem and that my co-dependency problems were mine. They were so helpful at that point in her recovery I am forever...

John · John

If you didn't know how old you are, how old would you be? What age would you place yourself at? for me... a youthful spirit, a youthful brain, shared with a 55 yr old body... I would guess I'm about 30 yrs old. or a very immature 35 yr. old. My body tells the truth but my spirit and brain don't listen to it t...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Thats the very best I can do. Aloha Family...Thursday morning in Hilo. Woke up in conversation with my HP repeating "place me where you want me...tell me what to do" and then went to my business. My office is a garden and the biggest part of my work is to have it look like the best part of th...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm good with my decisions not bailing my son out and I'm think I'm doing good but just after posting this morning I'm feeling anxious about it. I feel some fear for my son and some "what ifs" are coming into play. Why does this happen? The feelings aren't bad but they are there. Now I want t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So, another day is upon me. I am still in the waiting position. Nothing happens really on MY schedule. I am not complaining just stating a fact. I have had worse days for sure. Today is an example of going w/ the flow. I am doing what is in front of me. I am accepting the things I cannot change. I am hoping for t...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Well, my AH is out of rehab, has his phone back and is in a 1/2 way house. I started off asking how he was and it went bad. So now we talk about the weather and the little stray cat he befriended near his house. It is very weird to have to try so hard to stay out of his business after being so wrapped up in it for...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Well got paid Wed. so did a couple errands, got meds. Then took myself to get Chinese food, sit, read, be warm and do paperwork. I asked for in the back quiet... THEN they sat this grama and grampa down with two girl grandkids behind me. I am jumbled, they were loud. Grampa kept talking about a squirrel in t...

Stressedmom · Stressedmom

I am just now dealing with my grown daughters first rehab stay after learning she was on prescription drugs bought off the streets. She is getting help and I am proud of her for that. But...she has been calling wanting to know if she could move back home for a couple weeks until the rehab finds her another...

lookingup · lookingup

A/bf. has been doing soo good trying so hard working hard found a great job he was soo happy,I thought we could build us an empire the way things were going,then out of. nowhere he started acting diff.lost interest in his job,I finaly had to get him out of my home,I wanted so bad for us to make it everything...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I am sad today but grateful my son is not dead. I went online and found a booking number on the Yavapai Sheriff website. My son has been arrested. I called and he has 6 counts against him ( DUI ). In Arizona he will be doing a long of time in prison now. He has lost everything......and now his freedom....

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Wow, I am soooooo glad I found alanon and MIP when I did. I'm seeing everything with different eyes and I'm so glad of that right now. Daughter, you see, has done some fairly fast maturing of late. It started with her telling me that she wants to learn French (they don't offer languages at her little prima...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

In the last 6 weeks I left my AH. He got fired from his job too. We might be losing our house. I was really happy when I first moved out. Now my moods are all over the place. I try not to constantly think about all these changes. But I find myself thinking about my marriage a lot. Thinking about how much alcoho...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

There is a chance that my husband has COPD. The results of his first test were positive. No results yet on the 2nd one. Of course the first thing I thought was about me & having to let go of my husband which naturally I do. I am being kind of selfish only thinking of myself for a moment. I guess I feel like I...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I wish I could get a physical giant hug from everyone here. Lord knows I need 1. I have not posted on here in ages! I since have managed to disentangle myself from the throws of feeling helpless and yet controlling and accomplish some things emotionally with myself & this disease- And let go of ridin...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Hi everyone, I need to "alanon it out" again....I am finding myself feeling a strong need to help a young friend out who is under DCF investigation and afraid she will loose her 4 month old daughter. Her Alcoholic/dysfunctional family is of no support to her. They have pretty much wiped t...

Tina2014 · Tina2014

All of my life, I have had a mom who has never allowed me to express my feelings. She has always attacked me by saying "your too sensitive" or "you shouldn't feel that way" or even worse, my mother would deny every hurting my feelings by saying, "I never said that" or &qu...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Just a little thought that I have been meaning to share here. Might sound silly. But there has been a particular actor that I have been obsessed with for over a decade and a half. So recently I re-watched the TV series he is famous for and that I have loved him in for all of these years...and as i watched it, I...

whatnow4us5 · whatnow4us5

I'm here. Thanks to google. ALl of the soul searching, researching and web-searching brought me to this site. On this day. I'm feeling sad, scared, awkward and angry if I'm completely honest, and let's face it, we could all probably use a whole lot of honesty in our lives. I'm married to an addict/alco...

writeone · writeone

I am desperate for help. I have no where to turn. Went on Google and found this page. If anything, it might help that I just write something down and hopefully someone will have words of wisdom. My husband is an alcoholic. For the first 20 years of our marriage I was in deep, deep denial but the kids kne...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Everyone I got a call last night from my X and the my sons hearing is this morning. He and his wife are going to be there and so will I. I don't think our son even knows we know what happen to him because he has not tried to call us. We will go in support and pray for him. I'm looking at this as hope...

Truth · Truth

I finally got some .... I phoned the family violence line and it is without a doubt abuse. They told me how to handle the situation. So thankful today. My mind is very clear.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Supporting a Fellow Al-Anoner Without Enabling (Preview) Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...	Green Eyes	10	535	Apr 1, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Being single, had another false start (Preview) I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...	Breakingfree	9	415	Apr 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Opinions wanted (Preview) I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...	sweeetr	12	406	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	What a night... (Preview) Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...	SB	5	396	Apr 1, 2014 by el-cee
	Family fun!! (Preview) Ah dear. Thursday, I went to stay at my mothers. I hadn't seen her since my super-fun trip away in January but all of our conversations since then have been..pleasant..sorta. For my part I ignore anything I perceive as a barb or a taunt and just steer the conversation on to happy things, and if she persi...	Melly1248	8	437	Apr 1, 2014 by flopadopilus
	Sponsoring (balance) (Preview) This week I am working with my hp on removing some of my anxiety. It is around finding balance between "being there" for sponsees vs. having healthy boundaries/self care. I have had to learn and unlearn a lot of things about relationships while in the program. Sponsorship relationship...	luv123	2	404	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Vulgar activities (Preview) I went searching for drama and found it. I went to a website where my AH posts crazy crap. I read a lot of his posts. They all hurt me really bad. He claims its satire. Keeps telling me how its annonymous. What i have written here about him is nothing compared to his lovely website. OMG. Vulgar language. Vul...	Newlife girl	11	630	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	New Member (not sure how this goes) (Preview) Hi there, i am new to this forum so I am not quite sure how this goes or what the etiquette is. Please forgive me if this is lengthy or not in proper form. I am 35 years old and the daughter of an alcoholic mother. She has drank my whole life, with a few extended stints of sobriety. My mother has always stumb...	sissy0202	6	392	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	To speak or to stay silent (Preview) I know you're drinking again. I accept that I have no control over that, and you make your own choices. I just want to remind you about that one night, what my boundaries are, and what is at stake. I truly hope you do not fall back into old habits. Just because I've forgiven you does not mean I have forgo...	SpiderArcana	8	509	Apr 1, 2014 by sad_dog_mommy
	Hearing 2 (Preview) I had a good day. Met my X and his wife and we were the only family there. WOW. When my son finally came in he was in the usual orange suit shackled both hands and feet. He didn't see us because he came in looking at the judge. I started crying ...couldn't help myself but I was quite about it. His court a...	Cathyinaz	16	371	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Did I do the right thing? (Preview) My best friend has a son who is a lot like my eldest son, with issues, bad behaviour, addiction issues, his is less to do with alcohol though. Anyway, he has befriended my youngest son who has no alcohol issues of his own but having been brought up in an alcoholic home and seeing the disease in his Father th...	el-cee	12	504	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Rainy Days and Mondays (Preview) One of those days...I know it will pass... It was a nice warm sunny afternoon and I washed a couple of loads of laundry and hung them out. I took my son to work, came home, and sat down to relax and watch a movie. I was so enthralled that I didn't hear the rain when it started again. The A, who had seen me hangi...	Raven Juniper	3	252	Apr 1, 2014 by PP
	don't think he has COPD! It looks so good! (Preview) The results of the test came back. He doesn't seem to have COPD but has had asthma in the past & it might be that only. I am still in a place where I am just so grateful. I even took care of the insurance issue yesterday. The wait was long but it was worth it. I have been at a stalemate for about two weeks. I ju...	Hoot Nanny	2	276	Apr 1, 2014 by John
	I guess I need a starting point AGAIN....young children involved (Preview) I was on this board several years ago and for some reason just stopped coming. At that point I was going to meetings once a week. A lot has happened since then and I find myself asking where do I start AGAIN? Aside from having an AH, I also now have a little guy who's 9 months old. My oldest is in college and my A...	odalis	6	336	Mar 31, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	wrap them in a blanket and give them to our higher power ..where in r books ? (Preview)	loveofladybug	4	352	Mar 31, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Guilty but not to the point of enabling..... just within me (Preview) I'm sitting here trying to figure out why but can't come to a good answer. I love to make all the fixings for Tacos, lay it out on the table and have at it. I make flour and corn tortilla shells and just pig out. My son loved to come over and do it with us. Last night I made the taco's but as I was eating I felt...	Cathyinaz	7	518	Mar 31, 2014 by Debilyn
	Even after years of Al-Anon, there's no perfection here. LOL (Preview) I'm having a rough day today. I have been an active Al-Anon member both here and in the f2f rooms for a long time, but this morning I felt like a total newcomer. I'm crabby, irritable, and critical of those around me. I feel like the ground is shifting under my feet and I don't know why. My AH has been sober fo...	Jen	6	430	Mar 31, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	New to Al anon...again (Preview) Hi all...reaching out for all the support I can get right now, I have been a member of al anon for years but have not been going to meetings for the last 5 years or so. In this time I have gained a new alcoholic/addict in my life, my son, I now live with 2 alcoholics my husband and my son. My son is 20 and just got o...	SB	3	266	Mar 31, 2014 by Gaby
	Hi all.. (Preview) I get on here daily and read. I have been working a lot and trying to stay at peace.. Update my son got a full time job.. No phone for him or car and he still has a roof over his head he sees his daughter twice a week as court ordered and is paying his child support and as of today he has 46 days clean. His hours are a...	Gaby	4	213	Mar 31, 2014 by Gaby
	Lack of progress with intervention for AM...advice please! (Preview) We started the process of an intervention for my AM. My brother, dad and I all wrote letters, my sister has yet to finish her letter because she thinks my AM is still angry over a fight they had a few weeks ago.. That is maddening because I can't control my sister's actions...just like I can't control whet...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	241	Mar 31, 2014 by maryjane
	I think I am really done (Preview) I need more. I deserve a good life, a partner whole loves me. I am sick and tired of being like this. I hope he has a good life. I need to start living mine again. I don't ever want to hear that snarling voice again. I want to get married and be happy. And every day I spend in this dysfunctional chaos is one more d...	mm830	7	553	Mar 31, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	STEP 3 POSTED TO STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57174490/alanon-step-3/	hotrod	1	123	Mar 31, 2014 by loveofladybug
	What is it with him? Or what is it with me? (Preview) I have to leave, get out of here right now. The A decided to start working on the broke down jeep. Mind you it has sat there for 6 months, and in that time he's worked on it maybe ten times, to be generous. So he just pulled off a giant part of the engine block, and sat it on some milk crates in the back room. It loo...	Raven Juniper	4	314	Mar 30, 2014 by Raven Juniper
	As Popeye would say... (Preview) That's all I can stands, cause I can't stands no more!! Sorry if I mangled it, it's something to that effect. I wish Popeye could fix this, lol.. I have to let my A go. I realize it now, I realized it then, but I was so far up Denial.... Now I'm trying to figure how to go about it, get myself ready for the after...	Raven Juniper	8	401	Mar 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	Feeling Fantastic! (Preview) I am feeling so grateful, happy and full of joy today. I am a little nervous about what I am taking a stand on but I know that is self-imposed anxiety. (I always wonder if I have prepared enough documentation) My prayers and thoughts are with all of you I feel their will be great blessings on your jo...	Truth	3	422	Mar 30, 2014 by Jerry F
	How far is he going to go before he falls..... (Preview) I HAVE BEEN HOME ALONE FOR 4 DAYS NOW, WITH NO TRACE OF HIM COMING HOME. ALL HE DOE IS CALL THATS ALL. HE COMES UP WITH EVERY SINGLE EXCUSE THAT HE WILL BE HOME. THE LAST TIME I SAW HIM WAS ON MY BIRTHDAY MARCH 26 AND HAVEN NOT SEEN HIM SINCE. I KNOW THAT ME BEING ALONE IS BETTER THEN BEING WITH HIM, BUT I HAVE ...	NavySealWife	12	564	Mar 30, 2014 by NavySealWife
	good news & sad news! (Preview) As a rule, I want to send out the good news first. My husband doesn't have COPD according to his symptoms & probably doesn't have it at all. I am so relieved. Anyhow, my week started out kind of crazy but now I am into acceptance-mode. I spent way too much time in deep concern & not handling situati...	Hoot Nanny	2	192	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	Prayers again :) (Preview) I'm doing something I should have done months ago just lacked the ability to do so. I think I'm ready. It's going to have to be a God thing. It's either going to workout or it's not .. I am praying that it does workout. It would be the best ideal situation .. who knows though .. lol .. it just is what it is an...	SerenityRUS	7	300	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	My dad's behavior (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. So, I called my dad tonight to hang out. He was sober which he has been for awhile. He said sure but he has to leave around 9 to go visit 'some friends'. It immediately struck me as odd because anytime he's gone out he's always mentione...	slogan_jim	7	400	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	A few wee belters! (Preview)	el-cee	9	566	Mar 30, 2014 by bud
	Up's and Down's (Preview) This morning I went to my COPD study and blew my lungs out. I'm not liking this study but it is what it is. The money bought my groceries this week and that's a good thing. I'm at peace on one hand and upset on another. Getting a grip on what is happening to my son can really take you down if you let it. I fee...	Cathyinaz	9	396	Mar 30, 2014 by mm830
	What to do when you really, REALLY want to scream (Preview) Normally, when I want to scream, I'll do it. Scream come on out. But I'm having one of those days where an employee is making me completely bonkers (she's an alcoholic, so no surprise there.) I hear more and more news about her manipulating and doing stuff on the sly and I just want to SCREAM. But screamin...	Aloha	10	584	Mar 30, 2014 by likemyheart
	learning to love…. starting with me (Preview) in recovery while walking on this new path, I have to keep myself reminding 'this too shall pass', and 'if i keep on doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results, that is my insanity'. Those two really help right now. I miss him, the good times we had, and I'm resisting the surge...	tortuga	4	355	Mar 30, 2014 by el-cee
	Learning curve (Preview) I'm posting this in the hope that I and others might learn from my mistakes and because writing on the board here always helps me to gain some insight. The question that I'm struggling with now is why do I give so much more weight to what my AH thinks of me than I do to the voice of other people in my life? I mad...	milkwood	7	399	Mar 30, 2014 by milkwood
	Mother's Intuition (Preview) So I trusted my gut today and reported the behaviors to the police for my son. They cannot tell me what is going on but say that my gut is 100% correct. I don't think he is using/drinking however there are highly illegal behaviors. They advised me that I should go back to my lawyer and ask for supervised vis...	Truth	12	299	Mar 29, 2014 by Truth
	Prayers (Preview) It has been a week is putting it mildly and I've had the opportunity to share some Alanon with some friends even. I am grateful for the experience. What I love so much about this program I can give it away and other people don't know I'm doing it. There is a lot of addiction issues and consequences from sa...	SerenityRUS	2	177	Mar 29, 2014 by mm830
	How Important Is It? (Preview) That was the topic of last nights meeting and I love that slogan and because of the simplicity forget it the easiest at times so it was a great reminder. This for me relates directly to my need to be right .. I have wondered if it's my need to be right .. or is it my need to be heard especially by others who are t...	SerenityRUS	1	1705	Mar 29, 2014 by hotrod
	Obsessing again (Preview) It's a rough week for me due to having a crisis with needing helpers for my 90 yr old mom. So guess what I found myself doing this morning? Obsessing about my A. Like where the hell did that come from? I don't have enought stress already? I'm already having anxiety everyday. I'm getting the run arou...	Lyne	8	188	Mar 29, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Today~What can I do with it? (Preview) I am going to study, workout, but besides the normal hum drum, I am going to laugh and enjoy this day. I was on the pity pot most the day yesterday and wasted precious moments. Today is a brand new day and I deserve to be happy and to feel healthy. I did my al-anon readings and am going to roll with God today...	Breakingfree	4	236	Mar 29, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Thought I was doing good work but it takes so much longer than I ever imagined. (Preview) I have posted here some months back and I really haven't been back on the board unfortunately. The insights and thoughts I gained really helped me to see that my wife's addiction was her problem and that my co-dependency problems were mine. They were so helpful at that point in her recovery I am forever...	skahtul	9	481	Mar 29, 2014 by skahtul
	If you didn't know... (Preview) If you didn't know how old you are, how old would you be? What age would you place yourself at? for me... a youthful spirit, a youthful brain, shared with a 55 yr old body... I would guess I'm about 30 yrs old. or a very immature 35 yr. old. My body tells the truth but my spirit and brain don't listen to it t...	John	10	418	Mar 28, 2014 by Tasha
	Always Prayers...Always (Preview) Thats the very best I can do. Aloha Family...Thursday morning in Hilo. Woke up in conversation with my HP repeating "place me where you want me...tell me what to do" and then went to my business. My office is a garden and the biggest part of my work is to have it look like the best part of th...	Jerry F	9	331	Mar 28, 2014 by Tasha
	Good Morning (Preview) I'm good with my decisions not bailing my son out and I'm think I'm doing good but just after posting this morning I'm feeling anxious about it. I feel some fear for my son and some "what ifs" are coming into play. Why does this happen? The feelings aren't bad but they are there. Now I want t...	Cathyinaz	12	485	Mar 28, 2014 by oldergal
	going w/ the flow(if it is possible today) (Preview) So, another day is upon me. I am still in the waiting position. Nothing happens really on MY schedule. I am not complaining just stating a fact. I have had worse days for sure. Today is an example of going w/ the flow. I am doing what is in front of me. I am accepting the things I cannot change. I am hoping for t...	Hoot Nanny	1	258	Mar 28, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Find myself talking about the weather..... (Preview) Well, my AH is out of rehab, has his phone back and is in a 1/2 way house. I started off asking how he was and it went bad. So now we talk about the weather and the little stray cat he befriended near his house. It is very weird to have to try so hard to stay out of his business after being so wrapped up in it for...	jillybean1	2	348	Mar 28, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	withdrawal day...um I forget! (Preview) Well got paid Wed. so did a couple errands, got meds. Then took myself to get Chinese food, sit, read, be warm and do paperwork. I asked for in the back quiet... THEN they sat this grama and grampa down with two girl grandkids behind me. I am jumbled, they were loud. Grampa kept talking about a squirrel in t...	Debilyn	3	538	Mar 28, 2014 by grateful2be
	Then whose fault is it? (Preview) I am just now dealing with my grown daughters first rehab stay after learning she was on prescription drugs bought off the streets. She is getting help and I am proud of her for that. But...she has been calling wanting to know if she could move back home for a couple weeks until the rehab finds her another...	Stressedmom	6	481	Mar 28, 2014 by grateful2be
	Help me!!!! (Preview) A/bf. has been doing soo good trying so hard working hard found a great job he was soo happy,I thought we could build us an empire the way things were going,then out of. nowhere he started acting diff.lost interest in his job,I finaly had to get him out of my home,I wanted so bad for us to make it everything...	lookingup	9	453	Mar 28, 2014 by Breakingfree
	In Jail (Preview) I am sad today but grateful my son is not dead. I went online and found a booking number on the Yavapai Sheriff website. My son has been arrested. I called and he has 6 counts against him ( DUI ). In Arizona he will be doing a long of time in prison now. He has lost everything......and now his freedom....	Cathyinaz	37	552	Mar 28, 2014 by mercedes1959
	J'adore al-anon et MIP!!! (Preview) Wow, I am soooooo glad I found alanon and MIP when I did. I'm seeing everything with different eyes and I'm so glad of that right now. Daughter, you see, has done some fairly fast maturing of late. It started with her telling me that she wants to learn French (they don't offer languages at her little prima...	Melly1248	11	466	Mar 28, 2014 by Melly1248
	Feeling depressed. It's all catching up to me. Hoping for encouragement (Preview) In the last 6 weeks I left my AH. He got fired from his job too. We might be losing our house. I was really happy when I first moved out. Now my moods are all over the place. I try not to constantly think about all these changes. But I find myself thinking about my marriage a lot. Thinking about how much alcoho...	Newlife girl	9	538	Mar 27, 2014 by JG123
	prayers needed...possible bad news! (Preview) There is a chance that my husband has COPD. The results of his first test were positive. No results yet on the 2nd one. Of course the first thing I thought was about me & having to let go of my husband which naturally I do. I am being kind of selfish only thinking of myself for a moment. I guess I feel like I...	Hoot Nanny	3	380	Mar 27, 2014 by Jen
	crisis…. Not really for him, It was for me. (Preview) I wish I could get a physical giant hug from everyone here. Lord knows I need 1. I have not posted on here in ages! I since have managed to disentangle myself from the throws of feeling helpless and yet controlling and accomplish some things emotionally with myself & this disease- And let go of ridin...	giraffe13	13	473	Mar 27, 2014 by giraffe13
	Needing e/s/h (Preview) Hi everyone, I need to "alanon it out" again....I am finding myself feeling a strong need to help a young friend out who is under DCF investigation and afraid she will loose her 4 month old daughter. Her Alcoholic/dysfunctional family is of no support to her. They have pretty much wiped t...	tishrijo	6	304	Mar 27, 2014 by Jerry F
	I think I might have to disown my family.... (Preview) All of my life, I have had a mom who has never allowed me to express my feelings. She has always attacked me by saying "your too sensitive" or "you shouldn't feel that way" or even worse, my mother would deny every hurting my feelings by saying, "I never said that" or &qu...	Tina2014	6	865	Mar 27, 2014 by grateful2be
	And another thing!! (Preview) Just a little thought that I have been meaning to share here. Might sound silly. But there has been a particular actor that I have been obsessed with for over a decade and a half. So recently I re-watched the TV series he is famous for and that I have loved him in for all of these years...and as i watched it, I...	Melly1248	5	309	Mar 27, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	Thanks to Google... I'm here... New Member Intro... (Preview) I'm here. Thanks to google. ALl of the soul searching, researching and web-searching brought me to this site. On this day. I'm feeling sad, scared, awkward and angry if I'm completely honest, and let's face it, we could all probably use a whole lot of honesty in our lives. I'm married to an addict/alco...	whatnow4us5	7	401	Mar 27, 2014 by whatnow4us5
	Husband furious I told kids (Preview) I am desperate for help. I have no where to turn. Went on Google and found this page. If anything, it might help that I just write something down and hopefully someone will have words of wisdom. My husband is an alcoholic. For the first 20 years of our marriage I was in deep, deep denial but the kids kne...	writeone	36	781	Mar 27, 2014 by writeone
	Hearing (Preview) Good Morning Everyone I got a call last night from my X and the my sons hearing is this morning. He and his wife are going to be there and so will I. I don't think our son even knows we know what happen to him because he has not tried to call us. We will go in support and pray for him. I'm looking at this as hope...	Cathyinaz	9	378	Mar 27, 2014 by oldergal
	Got some answers....finally (Preview) I finally got some .... I phoned the family violence line and it is without a doubt abuse. They told me how to handle the situation. So thankful today. My mind is very clear.	Truth	9	316	Mar 27, 2014 by Truth
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