Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

el-cee · el-cee

This program has taught me that whatever discomfort Im feeling its all about me. I mean, I have a friend that has clear issues and she can be a bit mean and she can put you down in a sly way, she is a real negative thinker but can also be really really over the top happy. I think there are mental health issues an...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It looks like we will be moving .. I have 3 hours until I get the keys and things are CRAZY is putting it mildly. This happened all so fast and it's so great for the kids and for me. It's a beautiful 3brd 1 1/2 bath which is what I have wanted for years a town house!! The hard part is letting go of what the STBAX...

mm830 · mm830

I feel just lost right now. I am really struggling and why do I think I would get support from an A really I know better. I want so bad to just curl up in a ball and hide from everyone and everything and just stop feeling like this. I cry at my stupid desk at work, who does that. I am just so worn down to nothing. So...

Living508 · Living508

I'm feeling very preoccupied w/ thoughts about my A father. I havent seen him drink in almost a year b/c he has been "sober"...though I think he just hides it from me. Next week we are having a family reunion & I am very anxious about him drinking in front of me. I am actually always anxio...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Even though I have moved out and away from my AH, I find myself checking up on him. Last week I could tell by talking to him on the phone that he was drinking. It was a very slight clue in his voice...what I call cotton mouth. So, being the sick person I am, I kept talking to him on purpose to be sure he didn't sou...

bud · bud

Last week I sent a fruit arrangement to the nursing home staff in care taking my parents as a small thank you. Just a small token of my gratitude. It seems more than a coincidence that shortly afterwards my sister indirectly accused me of throwing her photo across my parent's room and breaking the fra...

SB · SB

Hello to all, I went a meeting on Tuesday night and drove an hour to get there...well worth my time! This meeting I went to was the very 1st one I was taken to by my sponsor probably 30 years ago! I was so scared to go in there and I've never been scared to go to a meeting, but it felt like my first time again. when...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Wow, I actually feel happy today! Even though my AH woke me up at 5am lol. I then played with my cat for about 45minutes with a new toy I bought her. Elcee, I really do think I had a spiritual awakening. I have let most of my resentment go (well at least I am on the other side of the Hill with that one; ). I am stil...

Needsomeone · Needsomeone

Hi every one I am new here. Is there anyone who wants to talk? Needsomeone

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having an average day I guess. I feel some serenity but am concerned about my mom. I know she is in good hands. I am so grateful for a day w/o too many distractions or drama. Now I have to go on & make something out of my day. I have to focus on what matters the most & do what is in front of me. I am going...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

worries. . we fret and lose sleep. my big thing. . i.hopefully going to soon be interviewining for two new job possibikities. . wonderful-get me out of at least one highly dysfunctional place. . but. im terrified. the folks i wrk with now. .the few i trust. ihave been with for 15yrs. they know my story. t...

Tiff314 · Tiff314

Just wanted to introduce myself. I've been in AlAnon for a year now...just celebrated my birthday. And I have a REAL birthday next Wednesday. In the past year I've been through a lot. In the past two, a helluva lot. I just began to type out a few of the things I've endured but I decided to delete them....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Well, day five of my AH not being home. I usually go out for breakfast on sunday's with my parents and today I rather stayed home and take care of alot of laundrey I had to wash. I have been doing that all day until my AH calls me and tells me he will be home later after he supposely put some door locks on, as if he...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

April 3 ODAT It really isnt so hard to believe in miracles in Al Anon. We see such miraculous changes in people who came as newcomers filled with self pity and resentment and beset with fears. There may not even have been any improvements in their alcoholic situation at home, but what they learn in Al Ano...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I made the decision to let my 5 year old live by her dad around Christmas time. I was in my clinical and had exams every other day, with work and her coming home from school everyday crying, meeting with the principle twice and hearing them say my kid was a problem, I just wanted to remove her from that schoo...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

Crazymaid? LOL. Bad grammar, I know. The break up is still in progress. I am managing to keep in mind 24/7 all the unreasonable behaviors and blaming/shaming/scolding that came my way during the relationship, averaging about 3 per hour if we were together in person. Less on the phone because I could...

lookingup · lookingup

Ok,now this thing we call alcoholic desease is beginning to frighten me cause my a is back home we'll to my house anyway he considers my home his home too,he is sober as far as I can tell.but it's like when he comes in messed up I wait till the next morning when he is sober and ask him what happened and he simpl...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

food! I have been working out 5 days a week for a few months now and I am toning up and feeling better. BUT, I am still sabotaging myself with over eating. It just pisses me off that after all I have learned and come through I know better. I am an emotional eater and know my triggers and still haven't put a stop...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

after all this time I finally went and spoke up to the guy who character assassinated me several years ago. It had gotten so bad and was so widespread I was never going to ever have any semblance of a life in this state. I needed to speak up. yes I tried to rescue him but he was there too WITH HIS OWN MOTIVES. N...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Had dinner with a friend this evening. It had been quite some time since we had caught up and I relayed the tale of the crazy cat lady to her. She thought it was horrifying and hilarious, and after I had finished describing what had gone down, I mentioned that even though she apparently has a huge collecti...

Jerry F · Jerry F

....Family. I was reminded at my home group meeting on the Courage To Change page of the day that Change doesn't only take time, for me it also took and takes an entire army of Al-Anon members who have changed and saved my life. The "forest for the trees" is a grateful, humble example of f...

Milo · Milo

Hi, My daughter has been an alcoholic for about a year now, and just returned from an inpatient rehab center. She has started work again, and asked to be put on anabuse. She has been home a week(she does not live in my state) and has been sick with a bad cold, so she has not attended AA yet. She says she want...

tortuga · tortuga

I have been enjoying Peace of mind more or less the past month. The reason being zero contact with ex A. Of course memories come back and i was mourning my losses.but that's part of healing right. The waves of emotion get less and less now for some reason he wrote me an email. Recalling ALL the memoriesal...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I just want to say, during a meditation this came into my mind. It seems like the biggest battle we have is the A. . but really it is our thoughts. If my thoughts are ok and I am in control, who can hurt me? Or control me? We all know this disease is not just physical, it is mental and in my experience he was ofte...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

lol. Got suckered into a "deep and meaningful" conversation with A tonight. I felt that euphoric moment- he was asking me how I FEEL and I found just the right words and got on a roll and expressed myself...I've barely said a word to him for weeks...and he almost held up one of those old-fashi...

sadsusie · sadsusie

So, I really thought that I was going to have to move out. I got myself a place, even paid extra (go me) for a DVR. the funny thing is that I didn't move in. I think that many times the PROCESS of doing things for myself and making BIG decisions and STICKING to them (to a degree) is more healing than actually f...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

many of you have reached out to me so i need to reach back. you are an AMAZING grouo of of friends, yes friends. my non cyber friends are limited and judging. . . after almost walking out 8 days ago, i am still home. i am taking a slight break from therapy as i need a break from ME. LOL.i havent pushed marr cnslg...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything."

Deceived · Deceived

I have known that my. Husband(of 31 years) had a drinking problem for approx 15 years. 7 years ago he declared he was an alchoholic and joined AA. I went to one Alanon meeting, read a few books - he got his drinking under control ( only one relapse in the past 7 years) and continued to attend AA sporadicall...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"Running away from things you find unpleasant causes suffering. But facing and challenging such situations will enrich your life." Daisaku Ikeda Buddhist philosopher

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am blessed .. I am so blessed sometimes I forget how blessed I am .. seriously speaking I just keep taking things one day at a time and God (HP) is teaching me to trust .. holy COW .. God teaches me to trust Him and myself. Right now I'm in the process of moving literally packing up and moving a house in 4 days...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I did a simple surgery on my gums... yep I could not find any help! Was just too painful to do nothing. My son reminded me of Tom Hanks on that movie where he got stranded, using a ice skate and a rock I think it was. Well no one cared that it could kill me, but me. Meaning dentist. er said they could do nothing...

genie1000 · genie1000

When he drinks his vodka shooters in the driveway after he gets home from work, stumbles in the house and says something really stupid, I just want to push him down the stairs, shoot him or stab him, or something. No dinner tonight, honey. He brings out the violence in me. One time, I took his glasse...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I didn't know how to title this thread. Some of you may remember that AH was planning on taking ds(our son) on a whirlwind 2 week around the world trip in October. AH was all excited about it and ds....not so much. The grandiosity of the trip, itself, was quite astonishing. He wanted to go to Tokyo, So...

lucymae · lucymae

I have attended Alanon for about 11 years but stop going about 5 months ago. It's been hard for me to go due to my schedule so I thought I would check out this forum. I currently live with an active high functioning alcoholic. My marriage is almost at an end. We are going to try counseling at my husbands req...

Truth · Truth

So I had my lawyer appointment basically I have to be a cop to get anything changed. Now what?

PP · PP

I just read this prayer and would like to include all of us into its grace... Today I ask that the grace of healing flow in abundance to all humanity. This world shivers in turmoil and though I do not understand the power of grace or the influence of prayer, I need to believe that it matters when I pray for th...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. I was reading about people talking slogans and how they are used way to much. It upset me some...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...

SB · SB

Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Ah dear. Thursday, I went to stay at my mothers. I hadn't seen her since my super-fun trip away in January but all of our conversations since then have been..pleasant..sorta. For my part I ignore anything I perceive as a barb or a taunt and just steer the conversation on to happy things, and if she persi...

luv123 · luv123

This week I am working with my hp on removing some of my anxiety. It is around finding balance between "being there" for sponsees vs. having healthy boundaries/self care. I have had to learn and unlearn a lot of things about relationships while in the program. Sponsorship relationship...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I went searching for drama and found it. I went to a website where my AH posts crazy crap. I read a lot of his posts. They all hurt me really bad. He claims its satire. Keeps telling me how its annonymous. What i have written here about him is nothing compared to his lovely website. OMG. Vulgar language. Vul...

New Member (not sure how this goes) · sissy0202

Hi there, i am new to this forum so I am not quite sure how this goes or what the etiquette is. Please forgive me if this is lengthy or not in proper form. I am 35 years old and the daughter of an alcoholic mother. She has drank my whole life, with a few extended stints of sobriety. My mother has always stumb...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

I know you're drinking again. I accept that I have no control over that, and you make your own choices. I just want to remind you about that one night, what my boundaries are, and what is at stake. I truly hope you do not fall back into old habits. Just because I've forgiven you does not mean I have forgo...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I had a good day. Met my X and his wife and we were the only family there. WOW. When my son finally came in he was in the usual orange suit shackled both hands and feet. He didn't see us because he came in looking at the judge. I started crying ...couldn't help myself but I was quite about it. His court a...

el-cee · el-cee

My best friend has a son who is a lot like my eldest son, with issues, bad behaviour, addiction issues, his is less to do with alcohol though. Anyway, he has befriended my youngest son who has no alcohol issues of his own but having been brought up in an alcoholic home and seeing the disease in his Father th...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

One of those days...I know it will pass... It was a nice warm sunny afternoon and I washed a couple of loads of laundry and hung them out. I took my son to work, came home, and sat down to relax and watch a movie. I was so enthralled that I didn't hear the rain when it started again. The A, who had seen me hangi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The results of the test came back. He doesn't seem to have COPD but has had asthma in the past & it might be that only. I am still in a place where I am just so grateful. I even took care of the insurance issue yesterday. The wait was long but it was worth it. I have been at a stalemate for about two weeks. I ju...

odalis · odalis

I was on this board several years ago and for some reason just stopped coming. At that point I was going to meetings once a week. A lot has happened since then and I find myself asking where do I start AGAIN? Aside from having an AH, I also now have a little guy who's 9 months old. My oldest is in college and my A...

loveofladybug · loveofladybug

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm sitting here trying to figure out why but can't come to a good answer. I love to make all the fixings for Tacos, lay it out on the table and have at it. I make flour and corn tortilla shells and just pig out. My son loved to come over and do it with us. Last night I made the taco's but as I was eating I felt...

Jen · Jen

I'm having a rough day today. I have been an active Al-Anon member both here and in the f2f rooms for a long time, but this morning I felt like a total newcomer. I'm crabby, irritable, and critical of those around me. I feel like the ground is shifting under my feet and I don't know why. My AH has been sober fo...

SB · SB

Hi all...reaching out for all the support I can get right now, I have been a member of al anon for years but have not been going to meetings for the last 5 years or so. In this time I have gained a new alcoholic/addict in my life, my son, I now live with 2 alcoholics my husband and my son. My son is 20 and just got o...

Gaby · Gaby

I get on here daily and read. I have been working a lot and trying to stay at peace.. Update my son got a full time job.. No phone for him or car and he still has a roof over his head he sees his daughter twice a week as court ordered and is paying his child support and as of today he has 46 days clean. His hours are a...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

We started the process of an intervention for my AM. My brother, dad and I all wrote letters, my sister has yet to finish her letter because she thinks my AM is still angry over a fight they had a few weeks ago.. That is maddening because I can't control my sister's actions...just like I can't control whet...

mm830 · mm830

I need more. I deserve a good life, a partner whole loves me. I am sick and tired of being like this. I hope he has a good life. I need to start living mine again. I don't ever want to hear that snarling voice again. I want to get married and be happy. And every day I spend in this dysfunctional chaos is one more d...

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	Its always me (Preview) This program has taught me that whatever discomfort Im feeling its all about me. I mean, I have a friend that has clear issues and she can be a bit mean and she can put you down in a sly way, she is a real negative thinker but can also be really really over the top happy. I think there are mental health issues an...	el-cee	4	532	Apr 5, 2014 by Theoceancalls
	Moving :) (Preview) It looks like we will be moving .. I have 3 hours until I get the keys and things are CRAZY is putting it mildly. This happened all so fast and it's so great for the kids and for me. It's a beautiful 3brd 1 1/2 bath which is what I have wanted for years a town house!! The hard part is letting go of what the STBAX...	SerenityRUS	10	655	Apr 5, 2014 by likemyheart
	One of those days (Preview) I feel just lost right now. I am really struggling and why do I think I would get support from an A really I know better. I want so bad to just curl up in a ball and hide from everyone and everything and just stop feeling like this. I cry at my stupid desk at work, who does that. I am just so worn down to nothing. So...	mm830	10	490	Apr 5, 2014 by xohhhgirlx
	Bad day...need some help please. (Preview) I'm feeling very preoccupied w/ thoughts about my A father. I havent seen him drink in almost a year b/c he has been "sober"...though I think he just hides it from me. Next week we are having a family reunion & I am very anxious about him drinking in front of me. I am actually always anxio...	Living508	4	359	Apr 5, 2014 by Mimi3
	The roller coaster continues (Preview) Even though I have moved out and away from my AH, I find myself checking up on him. Last week I could tell by talking to him on the phone that he was drinking. It was a very slight clue in his voice...what I call cotton mouth. So, being the sick person I am, I kept talking to him on purpose to be sure he didn't sou...	Newlife girl	3	488	Apr 5, 2014 by el-cee
	I did WHAT?!!! (Preview) Last week I sent a fruit arrangement to the nursing home staff in care taking my parents as a small thank you. Just a small token of my gratitude. It seems more than a coincidence that shortly afterwards my sister indirectly accused me of throwing her photo across my parent's room and breaking the fra...	bud	7	640	Apr 5, 2014 by bud
	Very concerned...don't know what to do (Preview) Hello to all, I went a meeting on Tuesday night and drove an hour to get there...well worth my time! This meeting I went to was the very 1st one I was taken to by my sponsor probably 30 years ago! I was so scared to go in there and I've never been scared to go to a meeting, but it felt like my first time again. when...	SB	8	468	Apr 5, 2014 by pinkchip
	Feeling Happy, wow. (Preview) Wow, I actually feel happy today! Even though my AH woke me up at 5am lol. I then played with my cat for about 45minutes with a new toy I bought her. Elcee, I really do think I had a spiritual awakening. I have let most of my resentment go (well at least I am on the other side of the Hill with that one; ). I am stil...	sadsusie	9	732	Apr 5, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	New (Preview) Hi every one I am new here. Is there anyone who wants to talk? Needsomeone	Needsomeone	6	351	Apr 5, 2014 by milkwood
	just another day in recovery (Preview) I am having an average day I guess. I feel some serenity but am concerned about my mom. I know she is in good hands. I am so grateful for a day w/o too many distractions or drama. Now I have to go on & make something out of my day. I have to focus on what matters the most & do what is in front of me. I am going...	Hoot Nanny	1	229	Apr 5, 2014 by el-cee
	sane people sleep.at this hour (Preview) worries. . we fret and lose sleep. my big thing. . i.hopefully going to soon be interviewining for two new job possibikities. . wonderful-get me out of at least one highly dysfunctional place. . but. im terrified. the folks i wrk with now. .the few i trust. ihave been with for 15yrs. they know my story. t...	Theoceancalls	8	524	Apr 5, 2014 by Jerry F
	Hello...I'm New Here... (Preview) Just wanted to introduce myself. I've been in AlAnon for a year now...just celebrated my birthday. And I have a REAL birthday next Wednesday. In the past year I've been through a lot. In the past two, a helluva lot. I just began to type out a few of the things I've endured but I decided to delete them....	Tiff314	13	541	Apr 4, 2014 by Tiff314
	Im not going to let him break me down.... (Preview) Well, day five of my AH not being home. I usually go out for breakfast on sunday's with my parents and today I rather stayed home and take care of alot of laundrey I had to wash. I have been doing that all day until my AH calls me and tells me he will be home later after he supposely put some door locks on, as if he...	NavySealWife	9	552	Apr 4, 2014 by NavySealWife
	April 3 ODAT (Preview) April 3 ODAT It really isnt so hard to believe in miracles in Al Anon. We see such miraculous changes in people who came as newcomers filled with self pity and resentment and beset with fears. There may not even have been any improvements in their alcoholic situation at home, but what they learn in Al Ano...	kismetstrand	3	378	Apr 4, 2014 by grateful2be
	Okay so I have honestly been in in a funk lately...... (Preview) I made the decision to let my 5 year old live by her dad around Christmas time. I was in my clinical and had exams every other day, with work and her coming home from school everyday crying, meeting with the principle twice and hearing them say my kid was a problem, I just wanted to remove her from that schoo...	Breakingfree	9	477	Apr 4, 2014 by Melly1248
	I won't be crazymade any more (Preview) Crazymaid? LOL. Bad grammar, I know. The break up is still in progress. I am managing to keep in mind 24/7 all the unreasonable behaviors and blaming/shaming/scolding that came my way during the relationship, averaging about 3 per hour if we were together in person. Less on the phone because I could...	ClearTheFog	9	537	Apr 4, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	I'm back with new news (Preview) Ok,now this thing we call alcoholic desease is beginning to frighten me cause my a is back home we'll to my house anyway he considers my home his home too,he is sober as far as I can tell.but it's like when he comes in messed up I wait till the next morning when he is sober and ask him what happened and he simpl...	lookingup	4	471	Apr 4, 2014 by lookingup
	My addiction...... (Preview) food! I have been working out 5 days a week for a few months now and I am toning up and feeling better. BUT, I am still sabotaging myself with over eating. It just pisses me off that after all I have learned and come through I know better. I am an emotional eater and know my triggers and still haven't put a stop...	Breakingfree	14	384	Apr 3, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spoke up. Finally. (Preview) after all this time I finally went and spoke up to the guy who character assassinated me several years ago. It had gotten so bad and was so widespread I was never going to ever have any semblance of a life in this state. I needed to speak up. yes I tried to rescue him but he was there too WITH HIS OWN MOTIVES. N...	WorkingThroughIt	2	321	Apr 3, 2014 by bud
	My Silver Lining. (Preview) Had dinner with a friend this evening. It had been quite some time since we had caught up and I relayed the tale of the crazy cat lady to her. She thought it was horrifying and hilarious, and after I had finished describing what had gone down, I mentioned that even though she apparently has a huge collecti...	Melly1248	4	344	Apr 3, 2014 by Breakingfree
	A Humble Mahalo to my MIP Ohana (Preview) ....Family. I was reminded at my home group meeting on the Courage To Change page of the day that Change doesn't only take time, for me it also took and takes an entire army of Al-Anon members who have changed and saved my life. The "forest for the trees" is a grateful, humble example of f...	Jerry F	12	399	Apr 3, 2014 by tortuga
	What to do? (Preview) Hi, My daughter has been an alcoholic for about a year now, and just returned from an inpatient rehab center. She has started work again, and asked to be put on anabuse. She has been home a week(she does not live in my state) and has been sick with a bad cold, so she has not attended AA yet. She says she want...	Milo	4	298	Apr 3, 2014 by grateful2be
	been there, done that,….but still triggers! (Preview) I have been enjoying Peace of mind more or less the past month. The reason being zero contact with ex A. Of course memories come back and i was mourning my losses.but that's part of healing right. The waves of emotion get less and less now for some reason he wrote me an email. Recalling ALL the memoriesal...	tortuga	10	441	Apr 3, 2014 by giraffe13
	our thoughts are our worst enemies (Preview) I just want to say, during a meditation this came into my mind. It seems like the biggest battle we have is the A. . but really it is our thoughts. If my thoughts are ok and I am in control, who can hurt me? Or control me? We all know this disease is not just physical, it is mental and in my experience he was ofte...	giraffe13	12	422	Apr 3, 2014 by giraffe13
	Concerto in BS major. (Preview) lol. Got suckered into a "deep and meaningful" conversation with A tonight. I felt that euphoric moment- he was asking me how I FEEL and I found just the right words and got on a roll and expressed myself...I've barely said a word to him for weeks...and he almost held up one of those old-fashi...	Melly1248	20	779	Apr 3, 2014 by el-cee
	Detachment and other lessons learned (Preview) So, I really thought that I was going to have to move out. I got myself a place, even paid extra (go me) for a DVR. the funny thing is that I didn't move in. I think that many times the PROCESS of doing things for myself and making BIG decisions and STICKING to them (to a degree) is more healing than actually f...	sadsusie	10	687	Apr 3, 2014 by el-cee
	new update (Preview) many of you have reached out to me so i need to reach back. you are an AMAZING grouo of of friends, yes friends. my non cyber friends are limited and judging. . . after almost walking out 8 days ago, i am still home. i am taking a slight break from therapy as i need a break from ME. LOL.i havent pushed marr cnslg...	Theoceancalls	6	314	Apr 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Irish Proverb (Preview) "A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything."	Beatrice	8	400	Apr 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Beginner (Preview) I have known that my. Husband(of 31 years) had a drinking problem for approx 15 years. 7 years ago he declared he was an alchoholic and joined AA. I went to one Alanon meeting, read a few books - he got his drinking under control ( only one relapse in the past 7 years) and continued to attend AA sporadicall...	Deceived	4	1088	Apr 2, 2014 by oldergal
	Thoughts (Preview) "Running away from things you find unpleasant causes suffering. But facing and challenging such situations will enrich your life." Daisaku Ikeda Buddhist philosopher	Beatrice	9	370	Apr 2, 2014 by bud
	Good News :) (Preview) I am blessed .. I am so blessed sometimes I forget how blessed I am .. seriously speaking I just keep taking things one day at a time and God (HP) is teaching me to trust .. holy COW .. God teaches me to trust Him and myself. Right now I'm in the process of moving literally packing up and moving a house in 4 days...	SerenityRUS	9	465	Apr 2, 2014 by bud
	I am better!!!!! (Preview) I did a simple surgery on my gums... yep I could not find any help! Was just too painful to do nothing. My son reminded me of Tom Hanks on that movie where he got stranded, using a ice skate and a rock I think it was. Well no one cared that it could kill me, but me. Meaning dentist. er said they could do nothing...	Debilyn	9	558	Apr 2, 2014 by Diva
	I really want to kill him!! (Preview) When he drinks his vodka shooters in the driveway after he gets home from work, stumbles in the house and says something really stupid, I just want to push him down the stairs, shoot him or stab him, or something. No dinner tonight, honey. He brings out the violence in me. One time, I took his glasse...	genie1000	10	680	Apr 2, 2014 by Diva
	Proud of my son; fallout from AH (Preview) I didn't know how to title this thread. Some of you may remember that AH was planning on taking ds(our son) on a whirlwind 2 week around the world trip in October. AH was all excited about it and ds....not so much. The grandiosity of the trip, itself, was quite astonishing. He wanted to go to Tokyo, So...	ilovedogs	9	368	Apr 2, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	New to the forum (Preview) I have attended Alanon for about 11 years but stop going about 5 months ago. It's been hard for me to go due to my schedule so I thought I would check out this forum. I currently live with an active high functioning alcoholic. My marriage is almost at an end. We are going to try counseling at my husbands req...	lucymae	14	589	Apr 2, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Well my bubble got burst (Preview) So I had my lawyer appointment basically I have to be a cop to get anything changed. Now what?	Truth	19	607	Apr 2, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Awesome prayer (Preview) I just read this prayer and would like to include all of us into its grace... Today I ask that the grace of healing flow in abundance to all humanity. This world shivers in turmoil and though I do not understand the power of grace or the influence of prayer, I need to believe that it matters when I pray for th...	PP	6	302	Apr 2, 2014 by mm830
	Just for Today (Preview) Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. I was reading about people talking slogans and how they are used way to much. It upset me some...	Cathyinaz	10	542	Apr 1, 2014 by Jerry F
	For Cathy and anyone who needs a warm fuzzy;) (Preview)	Raven Juniper	7	371	Apr 1, 2014 by Jerry F
	Supporting a Fellow Al-Anoner Without Enabling (Preview) Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...	Green Eyes	10	621	Apr 1, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Being single, had another false start (Preview) I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...	Breakingfree	9	500	Apr 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Opinions wanted (Preview) I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...	sweeetr	12	478	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	What a night... (Preview) Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...	SB	5	482	Apr 1, 2014 by el-cee
	Family fun!! (Preview) Ah dear. Thursday, I went to stay at my mothers. I hadn't seen her since my super-fun trip away in January but all of our conversations since then have been..pleasant..sorta. For my part I ignore anything I perceive as a barb or a taunt and just steer the conversation on to happy things, and if she persi...	Melly1248	8	563	Apr 1, 2014 by flopadopilus
	Sponsoring (balance) (Preview) This week I am working with my hp on removing some of my anxiety. It is around finding balance between "being there" for sponsees vs. having healthy boundaries/self care. I have had to learn and unlearn a lot of things about relationships while in the program. Sponsorship relationship...	luv123	2	473	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Vulgar activities (Preview) I went searching for drama and found it. I went to a website where my AH posts crazy crap. I read a lot of his posts. They all hurt me really bad. He claims its satire. Keeps telling me how its annonymous. What i have written here about him is nothing compared to his lovely website. OMG. Vulgar language. Vul...	Newlife girl	11	713	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	New Member (not sure how this goes) (Preview) Hi there, i am new to this forum so I am not quite sure how this goes or what the etiquette is. Please forgive me if this is lengthy or not in proper form. I am 35 years old and the daughter of an alcoholic mother. She has drank my whole life, with a few extended stints of sobriety. My mother has always stumb...	sissy0202	6	473	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	To speak or to stay silent (Preview) I know you're drinking again. I accept that I have no control over that, and you make your own choices. I just want to remind you about that one night, what my boundaries are, and what is at stake. I truly hope you do not fall back into old habits. Just because I've forgiven you does not mean I have forgo...	SpiderArcana	8	595	Apr 1, 2014 by sad_dog_mommy
	Hearing 2 (Preview) I had a good day. Met my X and his wife and we were the only family there. WOW. When my son finally came in he was in the usual orange suit shackled both hands and feet. He didn't see us because he came in looking at the judge. I started crying ...couldn't help myself but I was quite about it. His court a...	Cathyinaz	16	456	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Did I do the right thing? (Preview) My best friend has a son who is a lot like my eldest son, with issues, bad behaviour, addiction issues, his is less to do with alcohol though. Anyway, he has befriended my youngest son who has no alcohol issues of his own but having been brought up in an alcoholic home and seeing the disease in his Father th...	el-cee	12	583	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Rainy Days and Mondays (Preview) One of those days...I know it will pass... It was a nice warm sunny afternoon and I washed a couple of loads of laundry and hung them out. I took my son to work, came home, and sat down to relax and watch a movie. I was so enthralled that I didn't hear the rain when it started again. The A, who had seen me hangi...	Raven Juniper	3	331	Apr 1, 2014 by PP
	don't think he has COPD! It looks so good! (Preview) The results of the test came back. He doesn't seem to have COPD but has had asthma in the past & it might be that only. I am still in a place where I am just so grateful. I even took care of the insurance issue yesterday. The wait was long but it was worth it. I have been at a stalemate for about two weeks. I ju...	Hoot Nanny	2	352	Apr 1, 2014 by John
	I guess I need a starting point AGAIN....young children involved (Preview) I was on this board several years ago and for some reason just stopped coming. At that point I was going to meetings once a week. A lot has happened since then and I find myself asking where do I start AGAIN? Aside from having an AH, I also now have a little guy who's 9 months old. My oldest is in college and my A...	odalis	6	414	Mar 31, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	wrap them in a blanket and give them to our higher power ..where in r books ? (Preview)	loveofladybug	4	429	Mar 31, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Guilty but not to the point of enabling..... just within me (Preview) I'm sitting here trying to figure out why but can't come to a good answer. I love to make all the fixings for Tacos, lay it out on the table and have at it. I make flour and corn tortilla shells and just pig out. My son loved to come over and do it with us. Last night I made the taco's but as I was eating I felt...	Cathyinaz	7	609	Mar 31, 2014 by Debilyn
	Even after years of Al-Anon, there's no perfection here. LOL (Preview) I'm having a rough day today. I have been an active Al-Anon member both here and in the f2f rooms for a long time, but this morning I felt like a total newcomer. I'm crabby, irritable, and critical of those around me. I feel like the ground is shifting under my feet and I don't know why. My AH has been sober fo...	Jen	6	512	Mar 31, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	New to Al anon...again (Preview) Hi all...reaching out for all the support I can get right now, I have been a member of al anon for years but have not been going to meetings for the last 5 years or so. In this time I have gained a new alcoholic/addict in my life, my son, I now live with 2 alcoholics my husband and my son. My son is 20 and just got o...	SB	3	351	Mar 31, 2014 by Gaby
	Hi all.. (Preview) I get on here daily and read. I have been working a lot and trying to stay at peace.. Update my son got a full time job.. No phone for him or car and he still has a roof over his head he sees his daughter twice a week as court ordered and is paying his child support and as of today he has 46 days clean. His hours are a...	Gaby	4	299	Mar 31, 2014 by Gaby
	Lack of progress with intervention for AM...advice please! (Preview) We started the process of an intervention for my AM. My brother, dad and I all wrote letters, my sister has yet to finish her letter because she thinks my AM is still angry over a fight they had a few weeks ago.. That is maddening because I can't control my sister's actions...just like I can't control whet...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	322	Mar 31, 2014 by maryjane
	I think I am really done (Preview) I need more. I deserve a good life, a partner whole loves me. I am sick and tired of being like this. I hope he has a good life. I need to start living mine again. I don't ever want to hear that snarling voice again. I want to get married and be happy. And every day I spend in this dysfunctional chaos is one more d...	mm830	7	634	Mar 31, 2014 by SerenityRUS
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