Feeling depressed. It's all catching up to me. Hoping for encouragement - Al-Anon Family Group

Newlife girl · ~*Service Worker*~

Feeling depressed. It's all catching up to me. Hoping for encouragement

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Newlife Girl This is indeed a difficult time for you and feeling sad and grieving is certainly apporpriate.

Meetings, prayer, AlAnon literature, living just one day at a time, refusing to project to the future or dwell on the past worked wonders for me .

Remember alcoholism is a disease that you did not cause. Beating yourself up is not an alanon tools and is very destructive to your well being.

Please know this will pass and you are not alone.

Mari1978 · Senior Member

((Newlife girl))

If nothing changes then nothing changes. We are creatures of habit and routine. I found when I began to do things differently my reflex would try to kick in back to what seemed the usual.I see your effort to make positive changes for your own recovery. That takes courage.
Keep on keeping on taking care of yourself.
Rememeber H.A.L.T. Try not to get too Hungry, angry, lonely or tired.

Know that you are not alone.

Sending support and positive thoughts your way!

M

sad_dog_mommy · Veteran Member

You are not alone. There is a common thread with every co-dependent's story. Our lives have become unmanageable because we have alcoholism in our lives.

You are on the right path. It is hard to think about the future when the current events are right in your face. Be kind to yourself. You are the only YOU you have.

yanksfan51 · ~*Service Worker*~

NLG:

My ex has been out of the house for 10 months; we have been divorced officially for 2 1/2. My emotions still go up and down about all of it. I agree that coming here, going to meetings, reading the literature, a sponsor are all healthy helpful things we can do for ourselves.

Ending a relationship is monumental. I have to remind myself not to expect that a 22 yr marriage can end with no repercussions after a few months. Take care of yourself, keep coming back and know that you are not alone.

(((NewLife Girl)))

Mary

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

My Dad once said he thought a winner was somebody who got knocked down but got back up again and started fresh. A loser, to him, was somebody who got knocked down and stayed down. You look to me like a person who is getting back up again.

tortuga · Senior Member

((((NewLifegirl)))
You are not alone in this. I can actually relate to your words very well. It's our habit..co-dependent habitour own disease dragging us back in. It has been 3 months for me, and it is not easy very hour of every day I look at it like waves, that I have to resist. the sea becomes always calm again.and the more you resist , the more they leave you in peace, for you are also at the same time developing a new habita healthier one I findand a more peaceful one. Of course we have to work through it all, it should not be ignored. and we need to talk about it.but you will find, that while working through, this urge gets less and less, until you are actually discovering your new freer self, and that becomes fun than, because that is closer the better Self you can become. Don't let yourself knock down by the waves, learn to stand strong. this too shall pass.
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big hug, in support.

hopes314 · Senior Member

It is hard not to be sad about everything that befalls us but it is good to have some happiness, joy, and serenity too.
I am finding out how alcohol and drugs destroy a family unit. It takes away my happy emotions. If this is a battle, I am not going to allow it to take away me. Stuff can be replaced but I can't. I can learn and move on. Knowledge is power. My eyes care open.
There is so much joy in this life with your name on it. It is up to you to desire to have a great life.

jillybean1 · Senior Member

It's funny isn't it how every alcohol commercial on TV shows all that fun. We know that alcohol can suck happiness out of life. I try to find something every day that is happy. Here is one for today

www.youtube.com/watch

JG123 · Newbie

((Newlife girl))

Hang in there - I have been through experiences similar to yours. Al-Anon and my Higher Power

helped me get through the anxiety and depression.

"The first word of the First Step illustrates an important concept in Al-Anon recovery: We are not alone."

- Paths to Recovery, pg 7.

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