Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on one aspect of the fallout from being a child of an alcoholic. The writer describes vowing never to drink (the vow many children of alcoholics make). The writer finds another path to drunkenness though: feelings. The writer describes being unable...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

"Today my best is good enough." Today's reading is about learning to validate yourself. To stop looking for validation from outside sources. Examples were given: the work project was a success, but somehow we are not satisfied unless someone says so. Or the dinner prepared was delicious and nutrit...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT reading suggests that when something unkind is said or done to us; that hurt our feelings, that detachment is the best way to turn the hurt feelings off,until we can figure out what our responsibility is for the unkindness. Once we figure out if there was something we did to cause the unkin...

DavidG · DavidG

A word I hear a lot, coming out of the USA. Service above self. More so than any other place I have been to. Through the middle of my day- Thursday- I have watched events unfold over there. Tradition 10 here- absolutely. But I am impressed- I notice it one whole lot- how this service ethos...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

#Our common welfare should come first# How lucky I am to be in a.group.that welcomes people of all ages, all denominations and at all phases of recovery. Indeed the newcomer is always welcomed.warmly into this group After a tumultuous year full of unheard of stressors.we.have.kept this group....

Debb · Debb

I had an opportunity to practice JADE two evenings ago with AH. Believe it or not he was flipping out about a mouse that was scratching behind the corner baseboard of his bedroom. Was fit to be tied that he could not go to sleep in the room. I suggested he sleep on the couch. Sounds like a simple solutio...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

One of the things that Betty would say to me when she had listened to my problems with dysregulation is to light a candle Betty had a practice of going to church and lighting a candle for others. I really appreciated the thought of her good intentions and hope for me. I thought of Betty as in invincible a...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author was concerned that their newly sober family member would start drinking again, even trying to control other family members' behavior so they wouldn't cause the alcoholic to relapse -- and this attempt at control was rejected! Finally the author accepted that they were just as po...

DavidG · DavidG

Short- for once... Betty dug deep- made over 17,000 shares on this board. She manoevred, and she cajoled sometimes... but by and large she maintained a focus on herself. maybe 6 or 8 of us took her place. Maybe 18 or 24... her rich and deep legacy lies on. ... We honour her by continuing her legacy...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance of reaching out to other Al-Anon members between meetings. Like many Al-Anon members, the author arrived with a heavy burden due to the impact of alcoholism. Reaching out to Al-Anon members who will listen patiently helps to rel...

Lighthouse · Lighthouse

Hello, I've been thinking about going to an Al-Anon meeting for a while, I've looked up dates and times in my local area and today even thought "If I find one that's on today, I'll go"... but then when I found one WAS on today I felt too terrified and closed the browser window immediately. I find it hard to b...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author misunderstood compassion toward the alcoholic to include making excuses or covering for them monetarily. AlAnon suggests this behavior is 'enabling' the alcoholic to progress in their disease without facing the consequences. Enabling interferes by lengthening the time it tak...

cranberry · cranberry

I'm new to this board. Not new to living with an alcoholic husband. 12 years, 6 sober and some short/long stints of sobriety. The holidays have been somewhat tricky over the years. My parents come to visit as both kids live in the same city. We split the time, Dad stays one place a week and Mom the oth...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 1/4, Im beginning with the reminder: My own way of thinking often deceives me. I can see but a little way. When I realize that people are learning to solve their problems in over 30,000 alanon groups all over the world, wouldnt I be punishing myself needlessly to reject this wonderful wa...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am celebrating the anniversary of my first meeting. I didn't get here on my own. There were many people who helped me and paved the way to my recovery. I was just thinking about how many sponsors I had over the years & a lot of qualifiers. I guess I jumped in with both feet at first but then everyt...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

When I was going to face to face meetings I did not see the benefit of using each month to work on the steps and of course the traditions. Of course my focus was on how to chsnge others not myself because I wad desperately looking for co regulation rather than self regulation. I could not conceive of getti...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone and Happy New Year- Todays reading is about all of the tools that are available to us in alanon to help us make our way through our lives. The writer begins with a reminder for us to consider alcoholism as a disease, not a fault. We can recover from the effects of this disease, alth...

DavidG · DavidG

Christmas and New Year went well- smoothly... ...the previous year i fell deflated and sad. So over the year I moved more into the present. Successfully, as it appears. The year's turning I always count down from June 21st, which is midwinter here. My goal was to complete Step 12 last year and have a l...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Merry Christmas from Canada. I wasn't here for a bit. Busy busy. I was back to work for a few months but when the second wave hit, the house I work in went on lockdown again and I was laid off this time. I'm supposed to return to work in January so it was nice to have the holiday season off. Xmas Eve, I attended...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

WELCOME 2021! We have been anxiously awaiting your arrival. Be gentle with us... it's been a long, tough year.

Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie, and is a bout Healthy Limits...

Freetime · Freetime

I feel so fortunate to get to post today's reading for January 1. It's all about my favorite slogan -- One Day At A Time. The reading starts by mentioning that we live in a time of instant gratification -- instant coffee, instant money from bank machines. etc. Courage to Change was published in 1992...

Jessiray · Jessiray

I am new here, not able to go to a meeting in my area because of covid. I will try to summarize this. My daughters dad didnt come around to wanting to meet her until she was 8 months old. She is now 2 and he has been living with us for a year. He really didnt drink a lot at first. Every once awhile it was every weeke...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Happy new year Happy new year to all who have contributed to this board i have to be out at work over New Year. For once this year it will be quiet. No bars are open. No parties are allowed. No big parties are advertized It is probably the safest new year ever When I was in a relationship with the qualif...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks about the power we have over our own serenity, and the power others do not. Unpleasant things that other people say or do don't have the power to destroy our own peace of mind or ruin our days unless we allow it. The author asks if we find ourselves respon...

Debb · Debb

For today, New Years Eve, we are asked to look back on our personal progress for 2020. The question for us is: Has the day-to-day guidance we received from Al-Anon helped us to reach a betterrealization and acceptance of ourselves? If there are any regrets for errors or omissions, it is suggested t...

DavidG · DavidG

Gratitude... grateful that we live in an island nation, with no borders. We have the population of South Carolina. We lost 25 people to covid months ago- and are waiting for a vaccine. I am grateful that I married well. Not an obvious choice- at the time. The middle years were tough and gruelling. I h...

Debb · Debb

The author of todays ODAT wanted to relay a story about a young French husband of an alcoholic who wrote to the World Service Office of Al-Anon to convey his experiences as a young child in school. He relayed his memory of how difficult it was to read a chalkboard that was cleaned with a dry cloth and not w...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Tidbits of wisdom, Tuesday Keep your sobriety first to make it last.--unknownHaving the world's best idea will do you no good unless you act on it. People who wantmilk shouldn't sit on a stool in the middle of a field in hopes that a cow will back up tothem.--Curtis GrantWhen you make a mistake, make ame...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

When everything the alcoholic or another does leaves me feeling irritation, something is going on within me suggests today's contributor. Quite likely I am agitated and disturbed with some fact or detail in my life, but I am routing the blame to an easier target. Reminder: Criticizing may be as diff...

Finding grace · Finding grace

My A husband is extremely hard to purchase gifts for. Unfortunately, this is the case, if he likes the gift or not. I don't know if this has anything to do with being an A or not, actually, because his mother and siblings act somewhat similarly. I don't tend to put as much into it as I used to. I try to just kee...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/28, talks about how difficult it is to get close to people. Due to the effects of alcoholism, we have learned that it is not safe to trust, to reveal too much, or to care deeply. Alanon suggests that sponsorship is a way to improve relationships. That happens because we can...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

The reading today talks about the most useful lessons the author has learned in Al-Anon. Now I read this, and I think to myself, "Well, I think that can be different for each person." And indeed it can. But what the reading talks about today is important for all of us I believe... whether you subscribe to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about shared responsibilities. Specifically the writer connects concept 8 and the management of al anon through executive committees. Responsibilities in other areas can likewise be shared, rather than assumed by one person. The writer describes the...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Apparently after my daily reading earlier today my "Just For Today" bookmark fell out and landed on the end table. I picked it up and read it, all of it, which I don't think I have done before. Or maybe I have and forgot about it, IDK. One of the things on there says "I will not show anyone that my feelings ar...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I had a REAL bad issue with my upper back...had to go to a physical therapist to help me find relief from this searing pain that would come and go...come and go...so she evaluated me and showed me stretches and exercise that would help my hips get mroe aligned and also my upper back, cervical where there m...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

One thing that is a constant beautiful memory for me is Betty's love of the holidays. Betty was an exuberant positive person on a daily basis but the holidays were very special for her. She looked forward to them for months. Needless to say she wad also aware that the holidays were very difficult for s...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they attended their first Al-Anon meeting to support a friend. The author was surprised that they identified with almost every share that was made that day, because the author didn't think that they knew any alcoholics. F...

Freetime · Freetime

A blessed day to all MIP friends! Today's page in Hope for Today lists many definitions for Serenity. I imagine it was compiled from the offerings of many members. Here are a few of the definitions. Serenity is ....Becoming aware of and accepting my many characteristics and not judging what's 'bad...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ka haere mai ki te huri tau... -as we head towards the turning of the year-... ... A lot of people, at the moment are reading or watching "Hillbilly Elegy" which is a real testament to the addictive alcoholic family. We watched it last night together.... I have had sharing this morning w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

To all of you no matter how you spend the holiday season, I hope you have a wonderful & peaceful experience. Sometimes we disrespect each other by not sharing the time we have to offer. I am grateful that I can be honest & upfront about how I feel & hope that others don't get offended by my post...

Debb · Debb

It is Christmas Eve and I have so much to contemplate and to be thankful for! It has been a year of great change and stress indeed. But I know I will look back on this someday and know thatnot only did I live through it but that I flourished/learned from it as well.Todays ODAT tries to guide us to a better wa...

DavidG · DavidG

...being in a group- it is important to keep the focus on oneself... We don't have to be perfect- in fact it is better that we are not. I was unintelligent talented kid- but locked down afraid to budge an inch. And my ability to learn was strangled. I have had to release that capacity, after a despera...

Debb · Debb

This is such a hard time for so many of us. Between the pandemic, financial hardships, working, stress, holidays and personal/private loses, no wonder it is such a tough time of year! Gratitude for all the lovely people, nature and things in are lives sometimes take a backseat to our worries and stre...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

AlAnon is a program that encourages a change of our perspective and focus. Today's author speaks to the priceless benefits of keeping these in the present. These include reduced opportunity to flood our mind with negative thoughts of past/present and increased opportunities to find happy, pleas...

a4l · a4l

The more correct term for the IBS committee is ANTS. Automatic Negative Thoughts. Or is it another A word? Not sure but recently on my journey, its come up for attention and healing again. I'm really ridiculously hard on myself. Less than I ever was, but as I get triggered into bouts of depression and so...

Lyne · Lyne

Have I harmed myself, is the topic in C2C for Monday, 12/21. The author commented upon hearing in a meeting, that the speaker listed themself at the top of the list, for making amends. This had not occurred to the writer and in fact, they thought it selfish. Realizing that they could not care for them...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the concept of detaching with love. The writer describes struggling with this because of resentment toward an alcohol parent. When the feelings of resentment and bitterness became too much, the writer found solace in Alanon. Rather than holding o...

Overcome · Overcome

Saturday morning meeting starting in chat room at 10 a.m. Would love to have any and all that would like to come! I will sit in the room for 15-20 minutes to see if anyone shows up. We've still been having trouble getting meetings started. Have I said I would love to have ya'll join me in the room? LOL See you...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

ENTRY FOR 12/19: Alcoholism is a three-fold disease. It hits you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Because we are here, we have all been affected by another's dance with this disease. Therefore the reading today reminds us to check on our own emotional, physical, and spiritual well-bein...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I had so many Christmases with the qualifier where he went out of his way to make me unhappy. This year I was looking forwsed to smooth sailing. I had a schedule set. I had my plans of how much I could save. I had long term plans . Then I started to get a series of really big bills. I killed myself to keep up with...

Freetime · Freetime

MIP Friends, I am so excited I get to write about this reading today. Somewhere along my Al-Anon journey, I had read or heard that there is a saying among people who rely on camels for transportation -- "Trust in God, and tie your camel to a tree." I love that saying, but I didn't realize that it is found in...

Overcome · Overcome

I have been isolating recently and not getting out to my f2f al-anon meetings and just posting in here and other on-line meetings. I fear this is not a good habit to get into. I know with covid we have all been doing more isolating than we are comfortable with and that can't be helped for now. As i was thinki...

Overcome · Overcome

Being a certifiable al-anon I don't do well with change, but as we all know change is inevitable whether we like it or not. I have been through 4 alcoholic marriages (left the last one some 11 years ago) so I have been through a lot of change. Which at this venture in my life makes change all the more hard. I r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is going to be a smooth day I think. I am sleeping so good it is starting to become a habit. Wouldn't that be nice? Sleeping naturally to this insomniac. I know how much my soul awakens when I get sleep. I am a different person & I kinda like me. Christmas is coming & this is one year I am looking...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading in C2C, the author shares that they once felt that they had to take care of everything and everybody - there was no choice in the matter. With the help of their Al-Anon program, the author realizes that they do have choices. Of course, there are responsibilities, but ther...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I know this time last year I was in a panic about having to move out of my apartment temporarily. I often have this senss about things were going to be difficult Indeed I am often right in thaf respect No one could have predicted just how difficult Talk about a roller coaster Then I moved back here and i...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... my memory and concentration is improving day by day. I work another programme, and see a therapist once a month. The therapy focusses around breathing function and stored trauma in the body. It seems to be working. Not without help from me though- pushing outwards from the centre......

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author considers moderation in emotional reactions as a benefit of taking "one little" day at a time. One day can be easily managed if energy and effort are not spent where they ought not be: worrying about the past, dreading possible outcomes in the future, and raining unsolicited negativi...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Been struggling a bit lately. A current home renovation project is way behind schedule due to our contractor, who is proving to be very unpredictable. As a result, my home is a mess with no firm timeline on when to expect things to be done. I dont do well in untidy spaces for extended periods so Im becomin...

DavidG · DavidG

I never really completed my education. I was expected to go- having passed all the exams- but i needed an extra year, at least to "grow up". I had been kicked out of home- something the school was not aware of. My mum and dad had come home from the pub- at about 7 pm and criticised my sister aged 12 becaus...

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	Hope for Today Jan 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on one aspect of the fallout from being a child of an alcoholic. The writer describes vowing never to drink (the vow many children of alcoholics make). The writer finds another path to drunkenness though: feelings. The writer describes being unable...	yanksfan51	6	2718	Jan 11, 2021 by DavidG
	Courage to Change Saturday (Preview) "Today my best is good enough." Today's reading is about learning to validate yourself. To stop looking for validation from outside sources. Examples were given: the work project was a success, but somehow we are not satisfied unless someone says so. Or the dinner prepared was delicious and nutrit...	PosiesandPuppies	5	4687	Jan 10, 2021 by Maresie888
	January 7, 2021 – ODAT – Detaching From The Hurt (Preview) Todays ODAT reading suggests that when something unkind is said or done to us; that hurt our feelings, that detachment is the best way to turn the hurt feelings off,until we can figure out what our responsibility is for the unkindness. Once we figure out if there was something we did to cause the unkin...	Debb	6	2360	Jan 9, 2021 by DavidG
	S e r v i c e ... (Preview) A word I hear a lot, coming out of the USA. Service above self. More so than any other place I have been to. Through the middle of my day- Thursday- I have watched events unfold over there. Tradition 10 here- absolutely. But I am impressed- I notice it one whole lot- how this service ethos...	DavidG	7	508	Jan 9, 2021 by Maresie888
	Tradition one (Preview) #Our common welfare should come first# How lucky I am to be in a.group.that welcomes people of all ages, all denominations and at all phases of recovery. Indeed the newcomer is always welcomed.warmly into this group After a tumultuous year full of unheard of stressors.we.have.kept this group....	Maresie888	7	594	Jan 9, 2021 by Lyne
	JADE (Preview) I had an opportunity to practice JADE two evenings ago with AH. Believe it or not he was flipping out about a mouse that was scratching behind the corner baseboard of his bedroom. Was fit to be tied that he could not go to sleep in the room. I suggested he sleep on the couch. Sounds like a simple solutio...	Debb	22	1984	Jan 9, 2021 by Maresie888
	Lighting a candle for Betty (Preview) One of the things that Betty would say to me when she had listened to my problems with dysregulation is to light a candle Betty had a practice of going to church and lighting a candle for others. I really appreciated the thought of her good intentions and hope for me. I thought of Betty as in invincible a...	Maresie888	6	2268	Jan 8, 2021 by Jill
	Courage to Change - January 8 (Preview) Today's author was concerned that their newly sober family member would start drinking again, even trying to control other family members' behavior so they wouldn't cause the alcoholic to relapse -- and this attempt at control was rejected! Finally the author accepted that they were just as po...	Freetime	5	637	Jan 8, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Christmas-Family-Betty. (Preview) Short- for once... Betty dug deep- made over 17,000 shares on this board. She manoevred, and she cajoled sometimes... but by and large she maintained a focus on herself. maybe 6 or 8 of us took her place. Maybe 18 or 24... her rich and deep legacy lies on. ... We honour her by continuing her legacy...	DavidG	8	3350	Jan 7, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change January 6 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance of reaching out to other Al-Anon members between meetings. Like many Al-Anon members, the author arrived with a heavy burden due to the impact of alcoholism. Reaching out to Al-Anon members who will listen patiently helps to rel...	Skorpi	6	1743	Jan 7, 2021 by WendyP
	Holding on By a Thread (Preview) Hello, I've been thinking about going to an Al-Anon meeting for a while, I've looked up dates and times in my local area and today even thought "If I find one that's on today, I'll go"... but then when I found one WAS on today I felt too terrified and closed the browser window immediately. I find it hard to b...	Lighthouse	5	1967	Jan 6, 2021 by WendyP
	1/5/21 Courage to Change – Compassion, or Enabling? (Preview) Today's author misunderstood compassion toward the alcoholic to include making excuses or covering for them monetarily. AlAnon suggests this behavior is 'enabling' the alcoholic to progress in their disease without facing the consequences. Enabling interferes by lengthening the time it tak...	Enigmatic	9	1749	Jan 5, 2021 by Ann_Y
	New and at Fault (Preview) I'm new to this board. Not new to living with an alcoholic husband. 12 years, 6 sober and some short/long stints of sobriety. The holidays have been somewhat tricky over the years. My parents come to visit as both kids live in the same city. We split the time, Dad stays one place a week and Mom the oth...	cranberry	9	2552	Jan 5, 2021 by Maresie888
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, January 4th (Preview) For Monday, 1/4, Im beginning with the reminder: My own way of thinking often deceives me. I can see but a little way. When I realize that people are learning to solve their problems in over 30,000 alanon groups all over the world, wouldnt I be punishing myself needlessly to reject this wonderful wa...	Lyne	5	417	Jan 4, 2021 by DavidG
	35 years today! (Preview) Today I am celebrating the anniversary of my first meeting. I didn't get here on my own. There were many people who helped me and paved the way to my recovery. I was just thinking about how many sponsors I had over the years & a lot of qualifiers. I guess I jumped in with both feet at first but then everyt...	Hoot Nanny	5	446	Jan 4, 2021 by Maresie888
	Step one revisited January 2021 (Preview) When I was going to face to face meetings I did not see the benefit of using each month to work on the steps and of course the traditions. Of course my focus was on how to chsnge others not myself because I wad desperately looking for co regulation rather than self regulation. I could not conceive of getti...	Maresie888	7	692	Jan 4, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today January 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone and Happy New Year- Todays reading is about all of the tools that are available to us in alanon to help us make our way through our lives. The writer begins with a reminder for us to consider alcoholism as a disease, not a fault. We can recover from the effects of this disease, alth...	yanksfan51	6	524	Jan 4, 2021 by Maresie888
	A year's turning- goals, hopes and dreams... (Preview) Christmas and New Year went well- smoothly... ...the previous year i fell deflated and sad. So over the year I moved more into the present. Successfully, as it appears. The year's turning I always count down from June 21st, which is midwinter here. My goal was to complete Step 12 last year and have a l...	DavidG	7	477	Jan 4, 2021 by Maresie888
	Gratitude List (Preview) Merry Christmas from Canada. I wasn't here for a bit. Busy busy. I was back to work for a few months but when the second wave hit, the house I work in went on lockdown again and I was laid off this time. I'm supposed to return to work in January so it was nice to have the holiday season off. Xmas Eve, I attended...	Wolfie55	15	1246	Jan 3, 2021 by Maresie888
	Welcome 2021 - The Daily Jan 2 (Preview) WELCOME 2021! We have been anxiously awaiting your arrival. Be gentle with us... it's been a long, tough year. Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie, and is a bout Healthy Limits...	PosiesandPuppies	4	484	Jan 3, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change - January 1 (Preview) I feel so fortunate to get to post today's reading for January 1. It's all about my favorite slogan -- One Day At A Time. The reading starts by mentioning that we live in a time of instant gratification -- instant coffee, instant money from bank machines. etc. Courage to Change was published in 1992...	Freetime	18	680	Jan 3, 2021 by mamalioness
	My daughters dad (Preview) I am new here, not able to go to a meeting in my area because of covid. I will try to summarize this. My daughters dad didnt come around to wanting to meet her until she was 8 months old. She is now 2 and he has been living with us for a year. He really didnt drink a lot at first. Every once awhile it was every weeke...	Jessiray	8	503	Jan 3, 2021 by Maresie888
	Happy New Year (Preview) Happy new year Happy new year to all who have contributed to this board i have to be out at work over New Year. For once this year it will be quiet. No bars are open. No parties are allowed. No big parties are advertized It is probably the safest new year ever When I was in a relationship with the qualif...	Maresie888	11	441	Jan 1, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to change December 30 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author speaks about the power we have over our own serenity, and the power others do not. Unpleasant things that other people say or do don't have the power to destroy our own peace of mind or ruin our days unless we allow it. The author asks if we find ourselves respon...	Skorpi	8	659	Jan 1, 2021 by Debb
	December 31, 2020 – ODAT – Reflections (Preview) For today, New Years Eve, we are asked to look back on our personal progress for 2020. The question for us is: Has the day-to-day guidance we received from Al-Anon helped us to reach a betterrealization and acceptance of ourselves? If there are any regrets for errors or omissions, it is suggested t...	Debb	8	508	Dec 31, 2020 by Debb
	The turning of the year... (Preview) Gratitude... grateful that we live in an island nation, with no borders. We have the population of South Carolina. We lost 25 people to covid months ago- and are waiting for a vaccine. I am grateful that I married well. Not an obvious choice- at the time. The middle years were tough and gruelling. I h...	DavidG	19	600	Dec 31, 2020 by Debb
	December 17, 2020 - One Day At A Time – Importance of a Fresh Start (Preview) The author of todays ODAT wanted to relay a story about a young French husband of an alcoholic who wrote to the World Service Office of Al-Anon to convey his experiences as a young child in school. He relayed his memory of how difficult it was to read a chalkboard that was cleaned with a dry cloth and not w...	Debb	10	534	Dec 30, 2020 by Maresie888
	Tidbits of wisdom, Tuesday (Preview) Tidbits of wisdom, Tuesday Keep your sobriety first to make it last.--unknownHaving the world's best idea will do you no good unless you act on it. People who wantmilk shouldn't sit on a stool in the middle of a field in hopes that a cow will back up tothem.--Curtis GrantWhen you make a mistake, make ame...	mamalioness	4	375	Dec 30, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	12/29/20 Courage to Change - Criticism of Others (Preview) When everything the alcoholic or another does leaves me feeling irritation, something is going on within me suggests today's contributor. Quite likely I am agitated and disturbed with some fact or detail in my life, but I am routing the blame to an easier target. Reminder: Criticizing may be as diff...	Enigmatic	9	570	Dec 29, 2020 by Maresie888
	Thoughts on gift giving occasions (Preview) My A husband is extremely hard to purchase gifts for. Unfortunately, this is the case, if he likes the gift or not. I don't know if this has anything to do with being an A or not, actually, because his mother and siblings act somewhat similarly. I don't tend to put as much into it as I used to. I try to just kee...	Finding grace	8	543	Dec 29, 2020 by a4l
	C2C, 12/28 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/28, talks about how difficult it is to get close to people. Due to the effects of alcoholism, we have learned that it is not safe to trust, to reveal too much, or to care deeply. Alanon suggests that sponsorship is a way to improve relationships. That happens because we can...	Lyne	9	497	Dec 28, 2020 by sunmustshine
	Courage to Change Saturday (Preview) The reading today talks about the most useful lessons the author has learned in Al-Anon. Now I read this, and I think to myself, "Well, I think that can be different for each person." And indeed it can. But what the reading talks about today is important for all of us I believe... whether you subscribe to...	PosiesandPuppies	12	459	Dec 28, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Dec 27 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about shared responsibilities. Specifically the writer connects concept 8 and the management of al anon through executive committees. Responsibilities in other areas can likewise be shared, rather than assumed by one person. The writer describes the...	yanksfan51	5	516	Dec 28, 2020 by Maresie888
	The Just For Today Bookmark (Preview) Apparently after my daily reading earlier today my "Just For Today" bookmark fell out and landed on the end table. I picked it up and read it, all of it, which I don't think I have done before. Or maybe I have and forgot about it, IDK. One of the things on there says "I will not show anyone that my feelings ar...	SunnyFrogs	19	1222	Dec 27, 2020 by Maresie888
	MERRY CHRISTMAS and I am so sorry its been a while (Preview) I had a REAL bad issue with my upper back...had to go to a physical therapist to help me find relief from this searing pain that would come and go...come and go...so she evaluated me and showed me stretches and exercise that would help my hips get mroe aligned and also my upper back, cervical where there m...	mamalioness	6	395	Dec 27, 2020 by mamalioness
	Remembering Betty at her favorite time of year (Preview) One thing that is a constant beautiful memory for me is Betty's love of the holidays. Betty was an exuberant positive person on a daily basis but the holidays were very special for her. She looked forward to them for months. Needless to say she wad also aware that the holidays were very difficult for s...	Maresie888	15	1438	Dec 27, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change Dec. 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they attended their first Al-Anon meeting to support a friend. The author was surprised that they identified with almost every share that was made that day, because the author didn't think that they knew any alcoholics. F...	Skorpi	7	593	Dec 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope For Today - December 25 (Preview) A blessed day to all MIP friends! Today's page in Hope for Today lists many definitions for Serenity. I imagine it was compiled from the offerings of many members. Here are a few of the definitions. Serenity is ....Becoming aware of and accepting my many characteristics and not judging what's 'bad...	Freetime	8	1337	Dec 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	My boxing day treat... (Preview) Hi y'all... ka haere mai ki te huri tau... -as we head towards the turning of the year-... ... A lot of people, at the moment are reading or watching "Hillbilly Elegy" which is a real testament to the addictive alcoholic family. We watched it last night together.... I have had sharing this morning w...	DavidG	4	505	Dec 26, 2020 by DavidG
	a wonderful holiday season... (Preview) To all of you no matter how you spend the holiday season, I hope you have a wonderful & peaceful experience. Sometimes we disrespect each other by not sharing the time we have to offer. I am grateful that I can be honest & upfront about how I feel & hope that others don't get offended by my post...	Hoot Nanny	6	406	Dec 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	December 24, 2020 - One Day At A Time – Empty Your Mind (Preview) It is Christmas Eve and I have so much to contemplate and to be thankful for! It has been a year of great change and stress indeed. But I know I will look back on this someday and know thatnot only did I live through it but that I flourished/learned from it as well.Todays ODAT tries to guide us to a better wa...	Debb	4	385	Dec 24, 2020 by Freetime
	A Share... (Preview) ...being in a group- it is important to keep the focus on oneself... We don't have to be perfect- in fact it is better that we are not. I was unintelligent talented kid- but locked down afraid to budge an inch. And my ability to learn was strangled. I have had to release that capacity, after a despera...	DavidG	3	366	Dec 24, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	Tough Times/Call To Be Awesome!! (Preview) This is such a hard time for so many of us. Between the pandemic, financial hardships, working, stress, holidays and personal/private loses, no wonder it is such a tough time of year! Gratitude for all the lovely people, nature and things in are lives sometimes take a backseat to our worries and stre...	Debb	8	439	Dec 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	12/22/20 One Day at a Time in AlAnon – Staying in the Present (Preview) AlAnon is a program that encourages a change of our perspective and focus. Today's author speaks to the priceless benefits of keeping these in the present. These include reduced opportunity to flood our mind with negative thoughts of past/present and increased opportunities to find happy, pleas...	Enigmatic	9	497	Dec 23, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	The IBS committee. (Preview) The more correct term for the IBS committee is ANTS. Automatic Negative Thoughts. Or is it another A word? Not sure but recently on my journey, its come up for attention and healing again. I'm really ridiculously hard on myself. Less than I ever was, but as I get triggered into bouts of depression and so...	a4l	5	419	Dec 22, 2020 by a4l
	C2C, 12/21 (Preview) Have I harmed myself, is the topic in C2C for Monday, 12/21. The author commented upon hearing in a meeting, that the speaker listed themself at the top of the list, for making amends. This had not occurred to the writer and in fact, they thought it selfish. Realizing that they could not care for them...	Lyne	5	1132	Dec 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Dec 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the concept of detaching with love. The writer describes struggling with this because of resentment toward an alcohol parent. When the feelings of resentment and bitterness became too much, the writer found solace in Alanon. Rather than holding o...	yanksfan51	6	436	Dec 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Saturday Morning meeting (Preview) Saturday morning meeting starting in chat room at 10 a.m. Would love to have any and all that would like to come! I will sit in the room for 15-20 minutes to see if anyone shows up. We've still been having trouble getting meetings started. Have I said I would love to have ya'll join me in the room? LOL See you...	Overcome	9	1207	Dec 21, 2020 by DavidG
	COURAGE TO CHANGE - SATURDAY (Preview) ENTRY FOR 12/19: Alcoholism is a three-fold disease. It hits you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Because we are here, we have all been affected by another's dance with this disease. Therefore the reading today reminds us to check on our own emotional, physical, and spiritual well-bein...	PosiesandPuppies	7	1207	Dec 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Christmas time count down (Preview) I had so many Christmases with the qualifier where he went out of his way to make me unhappy. This year I was looking forwsed to smooth sailing. I had a schedule set. I had my plans of how much I could save. I had long term plans . Then I started to get a series of really big bills. I killed myself to keep up with...	Maresie888	9	1715	Dec 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change -- 12/18 -- Tie Your Camel (Preview) MIP Friends, I am so excited I get to write about this reading today. Somewhere along my Al-Anon journey, I had read or heard that there is a saying among people who rely on camels for transportation -- "Trust in God, and tie your camel to a tree." I love that saying, but I didn't realize that it is found in...	Freetime	5	917	Dec 18, 2020 by Debb
	Isolation (Preview) I have been isolating recently and not getting out to my f2f al-anon meetings and just posting in here and other on-line meetings. I fear this is not a good habit to get into. I know with covid we have all been doing more isolating than we are comfortable with and that can't be helped for now. As i was thinki...	Overcome	3	1377	Dec 18, 2020 by Iamhere
	Change (Preview) Being a certifiable al-anon I don't do well with change, but as we all know change is inevitable whether we like it or not. I have been through 4 alcoholic marriages (left the last one some 11 years ago) so I have been through a lot of change. Which at this venture in my life makes change all the more hard. I r...	Overcome	10	3070	Dec 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	I have never had it so good! (Preview) Today is going to be a smooth day I think. I am sleeping so good it is starting to become a habit. Wouldn't that be nice? Sleeping naturally to this insomniac. I know how much my soul awakens when I get sleep. I am a different person & I kinda like me. Christmas is coming & this is one year I am looking...	Hoot Nanny	12	459	Dec 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change December 16 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading in C2C, the author shares that they once felt that they had to take care of everything and everybody - there was no choice in the matter. With the help of their Al-Anon program, the author realizes that they do have choices. Of course, there are responsibilities, but ther...	Skorpi	5	472	Dec 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Looking forward (Preview) I know this time last year I was in a panic about having to move out of my apartment temporarily. I often have this senss about things were going to be difficult Indeed I am often right in thaf respect No one could have predicted just how difficult Talk about a roller coaster Then I moved back here and i...	Maresie888	6	459	Dec 17, 2020 by Maresie888
	Anger at the world in general- Step 10... (Preview) Hi y'all... my memory and concentration is improving day by day. I work another programme, and see a therapist once a month. The therapy focusses around breathing function and stored trauma in the body. It seems to be working. Not without help from me though- pushing outwards from the centre......	DavidG	4	351	Dec 16, 2020 by Debb
	12/15/20 One Day at a Time in AlAnon (Preview) Today's author considers moderation in emotional reactions as a benefit of taking "one little" day at a time. One day can be easily managed if energy and effort are not spent where they ought not be: worrying about the past, dreading possible outcomes in the future, and raining unsolicited negativi...	Enigmatic	6	433	Dec 15, 2020 by Freetime
	I keep crossing the center line (Preview) Been struggling a bit lately. A current home renovation project is way behind schedule due to our contractor, who is proving to be very unpredictable. As a result, my home is a mess with no firm timeline on when to expect things to be done. I dont do well in untidy spaces for extended periods so Im becomin...	Twinkies	4	440	Dec 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	First part of Step 12... (Preview) I never really completed my education. I was expected to go- having passed all the exams- but i needed an extra year, at least to "grow up". I had been kicked out of home- something the school was not aware of. My mum and dad had come home from the pub- at about 7 pm and criticised my sister aged 12 becaus...	DavidG	4	369	Dec 15, 2020 by Maresie888
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