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hotrod · hotrod

C2C January 19 speaks about acceptance of ourselves. It points out that we are all imperfect humans and that we are all still children of God who are committed to growing spiritually and changing. Since we are committed to seeing our limitations and flaws, this page urges us to discard our nega...

grateful2be · grateful2be

There is an interesting study that might be of help to parents feeling guilty because their children/adult children are/were often depressed - with or without alcohol. Scientists have discovered a link between brain function and excessive guilt in children that can develop into depression in l...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Tonight my sister called me and asked me if I had a particular movie she wants to watch (I keep an extensive library of movies as well as books, it's a "thing" of mine) and could I set up a computer with the television so she can watch it when she gets here. (The technology in this house is kind of....

Katrina324 · Katrina324

So here I am working on Step one, and I get angry at my ABF on the phone and lash out, again, I am such an idiot. I haven't seen him since Christmas Day when I walked out after finding him drunk again. Then he started AA, and he keeps telling me how much fun he has there, and hasn't drank a drop since. The onl...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I spoke on the phone to my mother today. She is still away and due to return tomorrow. She asked what I am planning for daughter's birthday next Sunday. I remind her that I have said several times it would be nice if we could join her at her beach house for the birthday weekend, as daughter loves it there or o...

neshema2 · neshema2

the bio sister appeared on my text again...no worries, i am keeping my distance and i knew she would re-contact me which , again, no worries b/c i am keeping my distance, being nice...not putting myself out there re: hot topics for her to push any buttons...not going anywhere with her but our mutual lo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife and I contacted a virus suspecting that we got it from a member in our home group. Anyhow I don't often get sick and this time I've never been so sick. My wife got some OTC meds from the drug store which I dutifully took yesterday afternoon and night and then wasn't able to sleep and ended up hal...

bud · bud

Hi Dear MIP family! I'm working so hard for my baby photos! The drama, the chaos, the insanity- all of which I am choosing to walk through just to have my childhood memories returned to me. For those that didn't see earlier posts, my sister took the entire contents of my parent's estate last year witho...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I have been really tired lately. I have missed three weeks of my f2f meetings and I feel like I'm floundering for my life preserver. Confusion seems to be clouding my judgment. I've been still so that I could hear God speaking to me. He has given me direction, but then I feel doubt and confusion creeping b...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Darn it I had something typed out and it got erased as I'm having connection issues. I wanted to share some experience that I had over the past weekend, that really tells me how far I've come in the last 3 years and I'm hoping I'm not repeating myself. Sometimes I have a lot to say and sometimes not so much...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T January 17 speaks about the destructive tools that we, who live with the disease develop over the course of time while living in the insanity. Here is an example of the weapons that most of us use: indignation irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria and self-righteousne...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I posted on something that rippled me a little and instead of stopping and thinking I reacted and posted. I now am of course rethinking the whole thing, but you can never take it back, so my learning lesson in it all is to calm the waters and not to further add ripples or waves. We come here broken and batter...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

Well its been a nice month without chaos in my living space. Seperation has been the best thing for me all round though not as clear cut as it "should" be. Although we are not living together, some aspects of our lives remain entwined. Coming from a small island, there's no chance of forgett...

AinWisconsin · AinWisconsin

Hello all , I am new here. My loved one recently went to jail last week due to his addictions. I have been through 2 years of him being in and out of rehab several times. The last rehab he was in I wrote a letter to him and laid out my boundaries. In that letter I said that I would end the relationship if he crosse...

Hullibee · Hullibee

I haven't posted in a while. I still read posts daily and I appreciate everyone's advice. I am bogged down with his alcoholic behaviors. I try and try to stay out of it then he goes off drinking and doesn't come home til 4:30 am. I just don't understand how he can be out drinking for over 12 hours. He's o...

drywit44 · drywit44

I'm a civilian and my wife has 30 years in Al-Anon. We are newly married (things are really good, I'm so glad that I married her) and are beginning to try to integrate our prayer lives. She is a devout Roman Catholic and I was raised an Evangelical Protestant, now attending Episcopalian. Most of her p...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I just want to share that I am truly filled with happiness right now. Just two years ago, my AH had passed away suddenly right in the midst of our divorce proceedings, I was living in a very small small apartment by myself, my AD was not speaking to me and did not want to see me, I didn't have a dime to my name an...

flagbabe83 · flagbabe83

So my husband decided to throw out all of the alcohol in our house, including his hidden alcohol (I knew about it but never told him) on Monday. He told me that he had it hidden, which gives me hope that he's trying to move forward since he didn't realize that I knew about it. He is stopping for 30 days to prov...

ssilver · ssilver

So, when my husband was actively drinking and continuously intoxicated, I locked up the guns in their cabinet and took the keys as I moved out. He never noticed the two weeks before he collapsed and went by ambulance to the hospital for two weeks then to rehab for 30 days. However, now sober and home, he h...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I signed a lease yesterday. And paid some rent and generally secured a house for myself and my girl. Let's start with the important stuff. Here's where we will be walking the dog each evening (a 2 minute drive away or maybe 20 minute walk)

So it's in town, which will take some getting used to, but it is...

grateful2be · grateful2be

The writer refers to her early Al-Anon days. It was difficult for her to understand humility and how to develop it. Being teachable was a concept that she could grasp. She decided to look at how she could change herself so that she could become more open and willing to learn. She decided that skippi...

DavidG · DavidG

I was an artistic kid in the sporty frontier style community... ...drinking was 'a way of life' for quite a body of people. An alcoholic was someone who 'drank with the flies' in a corner of the bar.... My rural community is no longer really rural- so many changes! I am still finding my family and my com...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I carpool with a younger woman who lives at home with her parents. To save money, because we travel one hour each way to college Monday-Friday we carpool. It is no longer worth it for me, nobody else frustrates me the way she does and I walk away most days wondering if she is trying to undermine me on purpos...

mjferg · mjferg

I have a long weekend,no school today or Monday.My daughter and I are going to have some fun.Thrift store shopping and eating out.It feels so good to be able to have fun and not worry about coming home to chaos!!!Have a great weekend.

missmeliss · missmeliss

I don't laugh so much at A these days unless he makes a joke; I guess now that I don't live with him, I don't live in a constant state of desperation where I have to choose between laughing or losing my mind. But this made me giggle. I was telling him about my new place. It's small, only 2 bedrooms, no spare sp...

neshema2 · neshema2

I get a call from my beloved daughter #1 just now, she says "mama , are you working???" and she had "that tone" like I could feel myself bracing for something terrible her SIL went to doctor after doctor, complaining of pain in her stomache, and they tested her and tested her and...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 12 has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59419276/alanon-step-1...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I was told years ago it takes 28 days to form a habit. (A reason for rehabs and 28 days). I never tested it out with active commitment. But I am going to try now. When I miss a day I'll start again. So I'm one day in (again, lol). The 28 day habit I'm trying to form is self care by going to bed before 10.30 pm and ris...

ladee · ladee

Suicidal texts from my A son tonight..... this has been coming for a long time..... I am scared.... but I will not rescue him.... I am a recovering A myself... 30 yrs sober this last Dec...... and I KNOW where he is right now..... I have been there myself.... been there a time or two sober...... only a High...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Sometimes people post things that don't particularly sit well with me, so I hit the back button and step away from that particular table. Sometimes a post will get me thinking and I have to take time to process what the post means to me and if I want to do anything about it. Sometimes I will pm a friend for th...

hotrod · hotrod

The C 2 C 1-14 reading for today speaks about being powerless over alcohol and letting go of the battle that we are bound to lose. By letting go we become free and in taking the path to personal freedom and serenity that begins when we surrender--- our spiritual growth and rewards are unlimited- .esp...

mjferg · mjferg

The last couple of weeks have been quite a challenge,starting college,icy roads,car problems,landlord problems a difficult instructor,etc.Well I have learned a lot about myself.Number one I am stronger than I thought, with all of these things hitting when I start something new,I am getting rea...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Speaks about how we pray for sobriety for the alcoholic because we believe this will solve all our problems. It points out that sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. Unless we both work to overcome the emotional conflicts within ourselves, we remain at a standstill. Our troubles st...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

My new job is exhausting and demanding. I suppose I'm doing better than I was in the past. I can make decisions without trying to people please. I'm up against a lot right now. This is a hit the ground running kind of job with no down time. In fact, I have a mandatory sixty hours a week right now and they'd li...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I have been trying to find guidelines to posting on this forum and I cant find them. can a moderator help with this? thanks

hotrod · hotrod

Dear Catherine ( aka G2B) I pray that you have a very memorable day and that you enjoy a little of the comfort and love that you bring to others on this your special day.

Flower49 · Flower49

My AH has found out he will be coming home probably within 2 weeks from the 3/4 way house. I don't know how to feel about it really. I had hoped the transition from sober living to home would have been done a lot differently such as building up time and days of being home rather than every other weekend, but i...

Bostonpugwoman · Bostonpugwoman

This is a bit of a long story and all very new to me just a heads up... I'm just trying to understand everything. I began dating this guy about 3 months ago. I really fell for him in the beginning because we have similar careers and passions. We both work with children with special needs and I loved talkin...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

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expertatdenial · expertatdenial

Im following the steps of AlAnon for my own healing with regard to my A husband of 20 years. 10 years ago he quit drinking And hasn't had a drink since. Little did I know that that was only half the battle. I grew to be a sicker co-dependent as the years went on, even though there was no drinking. His person...

Fairlee · Fairlee

hi strangers! I am missing this board and really need to get back to being more active! The holidays were fast and furious and now life is getting back to our "normal". Hope the New Year has been good for ya'll! i have 3 teenagers. My middle teen is really struggling and last night she and I had a...

MooseWork · MooseWork

My wife has spent 6 of the last 9 weeks in rehab. During the family program visit she told me that she had removed her wedding band the day she got there and it was "freeing". One week later she was home. She stayed with us for two nights. However, each day she would drive back to the treatment c...

Dean P · Dean P

Greetings, My girlfriend of almost 3 years entered a womens retreat last Thursday after a almost tragic single vehicle accident on Tuesday. She went willingly and says she is ready to get sober and deal with her painful past. There is no communication allowed during the first week, and very little i...

mjferg · mjferg

Well I went to class today, I was ten minutes late because of car problems and I apologized to the instructor, this class has been laid back with people cross talking and interrupting, so the girl in front of me was showing me where we were at and all of a sudden he got upset and told us he didn't like talking...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah came out of rehab about two weeks ago and was suppose to stay in a apt we paid for the month. He has stayed two days out of two weeks. Not sure I like that, seems like he's taken back his territory. He was nice for about 6 days Rest if the time it is hit or miss. We have a lot of up and downs, He has been complai...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am really discovering how important my friendships are these days. Not that I really didn't realize what they mean to me. I just know that is very easy for me to be a friend & have very meaningful friendships. Recently through this program, I started to finally get to know my neighbor of 15 years. I...

mjferg · mjferg

Well, dealing with people isn't my strong suit.I am rough around the edges and I can be very blunt at times.I don't like to be jerked around and I can be very defensive.I have been called the B word.I need to deal with my landlord in a firm assertive way without getting angry and spouting off.That will be a...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Changed Attitudes; Honesty with Self; Principles above Personalities The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...

hotrod · hotrod

The One Day at a Time reading for today is a powerful reminder to examine our motives and discover what, within us, is keeping us ina destructive relationship and accepting of negative behavior and humiliation. The reading points out that every human being is entitled to live without fear, uncert...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I know several of us attend face to face meetings. If you are like me, you missed the memo on the fact that Al-Anon decided to start a working copy of a 4th Reader for Al-Anon members. They are asking for members to sign in at their webpage using your group's name with afg, going to the individuals/membe...

little miss daredevil · little miss daredevil

Hi, I have been a long time lurker and finally decided to make an account. The things that have been shared on this forum have been very helpful to me and I suppose it's time I outed myself to possibly have a little more specific advice to my situation because it is somewhat complicated. (I apologize in ad...

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

hey all, been in al anon a few years, working my 8th step right now, coming up against a lot of confusion about my higher powers will for me these days. I do a lot of social justice work and witness a lot of terrible things in the world, and i don't understand why my higher power would allow these things to be,...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

I was going through taking screen shots of text messages (evidence) this afternoon. It's amazing to me that declarations of forever "love" and "waiting as long as it takes" lasted, as long as it took to send the message.Realistically I know and understand that my marriage was...

nic · nic

About 6 month ago I found out my partner, who I had always suspected of being an alcoholic, had gambled over 50K during the last few years while out on drinking binges. He promised to stop drinking, and swore that the gambling only happened when he was drinking and was not a problem in and of itself. Well...

hotrod · hotrod

ODAT for today states that and if I learn to look at my life as an adventure I will discover thousands of little things that occur in daily that can enriches my day.If I stay in the present moment I can enjoy the sunrise, the sound of the birds, a long walk and all the interesting things I see a long way....

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I have to desribe what my brain does to me. I guess this might be called "stinking thinking". not sure. If one thing bothers me, then i start thinking about multiple bad things and my day spirals downward. I am trying to prevent that from happening today. I take martial arts. it isnt easy. I a...

DavidG · DavidG

The Alanon concepts might seem to be a long way off to some people. But I think it begins when a person comes to their first meeting. Simply coming along is the first stage of participation. We don't have to be getting it right- at least not all of the time. We have all bin there, done that... there is nothi...

hotrod · hotrod

As I said in a previous post, there has been a few days of confusion and controversy here and it is unsettling. I engaged with a member and other issues surfaced. If this happened at a face to face meeting we would hold a moment of silence followed by the serenity payer and proceed Maybe we coul...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I have so many other things I want to share... I keep typing out these longer thoughts/vents, but I guess first I want to ask this question that has been bugging me. My AH quit drinking 7 months ago. He started going to AA the very night we staged an intervention, and starting working with his priest, who...

Katrina324 · Katrina324

Hi all, This is a rant, so hear me through please...... I have yet to go to another Al anon meeting, I went to one in December and wasn't sure what it all meant. I felt like it meant that the problem was mine, and I do understand that I need to stop trying to fix others. That I get. But I see that the steps are t...

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	Today's alanon reading (Preview) C2C January 19 speaks about acceptance of ourselves. It points out that we are all imperfect humans and that we are all still children of God who are committed to growing spiritually and changing. Since we are committed to seeing our limitations and flaws, this page urges us to discard our nega...	hotrod	6	3481	Jan 19, 2015 by hotrod
	Childhood guilt, depression, the brain and science (Preview) There is an interesting study that might be of help to parents feeling guilty because their children/adult children are/were often depressed - with or without alcohol. Scientists have discovered a link between brain function and excessive guilt in children that can develop into depression in l...	grateful2be	13	847	Jan 19, 2015 by grateful2be
	Seeing it in myself. (Preview) Tonight my sister called me and asked me if I had a particular movie she wants to watch (I keep an extensive library of movies as well as books, it's a "thing" of mine) and could I set up a computer with the television so she can watch it when she gets here. (The technology in this house is kind of....	missmeliss	6	511	Jan 19, 2015 by likemyheart
	Lashed out at my ABF over the phone, beating myself up for getting angry at him. (Preview) So here I am working on Step one, and I get angry at my ABF on the phone and lash out, again, I am such an idiot. I haven't seen him since Christmas Day when I walked out after finding him drunk again. Then he started AA, and he keeps telling me how much fun he has there, and hasn't drank a drop since. The onl...	Katrina324	14	732	Jan 19, 2015 by mjferg
	Tree houses and muddy dogs. (Preview) I spoke on the phone to my mother today. She is still away and due to return tomorrow. She asked what I am planning for daughter's birthday next Sunday. I remind her that I have said several times it would be nice if we could join her at her beach house for the birthday weekend, as daughter loves it there or o...	missmeliss	16	857	Jan 18, 2015 by aquamom23
	avoided some quick sand and did it ala Al-anon (Preview) the bio sister appeared on my text again...no worries, i am keeping my distance and i knew she would re-contact me which , again, no worries b/c i am keeping my distance, being nice...not putting myself out there re: hot topics for her to push any buttons...not going anywhere with her but our mutual lo...	neshema2	10	612	Jan 18, 2015 by grateful2be
	Weird!!! (Preview) My wife and I contacted a virus suspecting that we got it from a member in our home group. Anyhow I don't often get sick and this time I've never been so sick. My wife got some OTC meds from the drug store which I dutifully took yesterday afternoon and night and then wasn't able to sleep and ended up hal...	Jerry F	14	661	Jan 18, 2015 by PP
	So hard! So frustrated! (Preview) Hi Dear MIP family! I'm working so hard for my baby photos! The drama, the chaos, the insanity- all of which I am choosing to walk through just to have my childhood memories returned to me. For those that didn't see earlier posts, my sister took the entire contents of my parent's estate last year witho...	bud	15	691	Jan 18, 2015 by Jerry F
	I'm tired... (Preview) I have been really tired lately. I have missed three weeks of my f2f meetings and I feel like I'm floundering for my life preserver. Confusion seems to be clouding my judgment. I've been still so that I could hear God speaking to me. He has given me direction, but then I feel doubt and confusion creeping b...	cloudyskies	11	659	Jan 18, 2015 by grateful2be
	Working on some things .. (Preview) Darn it I had something typed out and it got erased as I'm having connection issues. I wanted to share some experience that I had over the past weekend, that really tells me how far I've come in the last 3 years and I'm hoping I'm not repeating myself. Sometimes I have a lot to say and sometimes not so much...	SerenityRUS	3	759	Jan 18, 2015 by hotrod
	Summary of Today's C2C and ODAT Reading (Preview) The ODA T January 17 speaks about the destructive tools that we, who live with the disease develop over the course of time while living in the insanity. Here is an example of the weapons that most of us use: indignation irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria and self-righteousne...	hotrod	4	723	Jan 18, 2015 by grateful2be
	Many of us come here already stirred up like a lady bug in a tornado the last thing we need is more drama (Preview) I posted on something that rippled me a little and instead of stopping and thinking I reacted and posted. I now am of course rethinking the whole thing, but you can never take it back, so my learning lesson in it all is to calm the waters and not to further add ripples or waves. We come here broken and batter...	Breakingfree	15	1033	Jan 18, 2015 by PP
	blindsided by revengeful feelings. (Preview) Well its been a nice month without chaos in my living space. Seperation has been the best thing for me all round though not as clear cut as it "should" be. Although we are not living together, some aspects of our lives remain entwined. Coming from a small island, there's no chance of forgett...	aquamom23	20	959	Jan 18, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Trying to stick to boundaries-much support needed (Preview) Hello all , I am new here. My loved one recently went to jail last week due to his addictions. I have been through 2 years of him being in and out of rehab several times. The last rehab he was in I wrote a letter to him and laid out my boundaries. In that letter I said that I would end the relationship if he crosse...	AinWisconsin	4	514	Jan 18, 2015 by Lyne
	Bogged Down ... (Preview) I haven't posted in a while. I still read posts daily and I appreciate everyone's advice. I am bogged down with his alcoholic behaviors. I try and try to stay out of it then he goes off drinking and doesn't come home til 4:30 am. I just don't understand how he can be out drinking for over 12 hours. He's o...	Hullibee	22	742	Jan 18, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	a challenge to joint prayer time prayer Higher Power religion fear (Preview) I'm a civilian and my wife has 30 years in Al-Anon. We are newly married (things are really good, I'm so glad that I married her) and are beginning to try to integrate our prayer lives. She is a devout Roman Catholic and I was raised an Evangelical Protestant, now attending Episcopalian. Most of her p...	drywit44	10	7872	Jan 18, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Gratitude (Preview) I just want to share that I am truly filled with happiness right now. Just two years ago, my AH had passed away suddenly right in the midst of our divorce proceedings, I was living in a very small small apartment by myself, my AD was not speaking to me and did not want to see me, I didn't have a dime to my name an...	Green Eyes	3	810	Jan 17, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Needing Info (Preview) So my husband decided to throw out all of the alcohol in our house, including his hidden alcohol (I knew about it but never told him) on Monday. He told me that he had it hidden, which gives me hope that he's trying to move forward since he didn't realize that I knew about it. He is stopping for 30 days to prov...	flagbabe83	8	718	Jan 17, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	guns (Preview) So, when my husband was actively drinking and continuously intoxicated, I locked up the guns in their cabinet and took the keys as I moved out. He never noticed the two weeks before he collapsed and went by ambulance to the hospital for two weeks then to rehab for 30 days. However, now sober and home, he h...	ssilver	17	868	Jan 17, 2015 by Jerry F
	Tears of relief!!!!! (Preview) I signed a lease yesterday. And paid some rent and generally secured a house for myself and my girl. Let's start with the important stuff. Here's where we will be walking the dog each evening (a 2 minute drive away or maybe 20 minute walk) So it's in town, which will take some getting used to, but it is...	missmeliss	18	674	Jan 16, 2015 by Sweet Stanley
	Hope for Today - January 16 (Preview) The writer refers to her early Al-Anon days. It was difficult for her to understand humility and how to develop it. Being teachable was a concept that she could grasp. She decided to look at how she could change herself so that she could become more open and willing to learn. She decided that skippi...	grateful2be	9	862	Jan 16, 2015 by grateful2be
	He~art and she~art... (Preview) I was an artistic kid in the sporty frontier style community... ...drinking was 'a way of life' for quite a body of people. An alcoholic was someone who 'drank with the flies' in a corner of the bar.... My rural community is no longer really rural- so many changes! I am still finding my family and my com...	DavidG	10	584	Jan 16, 2015 by tiredtonite
	I'm so over one of my so called school friends (Preview) I carpool with a younger woman who lives at home with her parents. To save money, because we travel one hour each way to college Monday-Friday we carpool. It is no longer worth it for me, nobody else frustrates me the way she does and I walk away most days wondering if she is trying to undermine me on purpos...	Breakingfree	9	714	Jan 16, 2015 by neshema2
	Sweet Freedom (Preview) I have a long weekend,no school today or Monday.My daughter and I are going to have some fun.Thrift store shopping and eating out.It feels so good to be able to have fun and not worry about coming home to chaos!!!Have a great weekend.	mjferg	3	405	Jan 16, 2015 by mjferg
	lol (Preview) I don't laugh so much at A these days unless he makes a joke; I guess now that I don't live with him, I don't live in a constant state of desperation where I have to choose between laughing or losing my mind. But this made me giggle. I was telling him about my new place. It's small, only 2 bedrooms, no spare sp...	missmeliss	5	753	Jan 16, 2015 by DavidG
	the Disease got another one!!!! My darling daughter's SIL KILLED HERSELF LAST NIGHT (Preview) I get a call from my beloved daughter #1 just now, she says "mama , are you working???" and she had "that tone" like I could feel myself bracing for something terrible her SIL went to doctor after doctor, complaining of pain in her stomache, and they tested her and tested her and...	neshema2	21	806	Jan 16, 2015 by Katy
	Step 12 (Preview) Step 12 has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59419276/alanon-step-1...	hotrod	1	443	Jan 16, 2015 by grateful2be
	28 days to form a habit. (Preview) I was told years ago it takes 28 days to form a habit. (A reason for rehabs and 28 days). I never tested it out with active commitment. But I am going to try now. When I miss a day I'll start again. So I'm one day in (again, lol). The 28 day habit I'm trying to form is self care by going to bed before 10.30 pm and ris...	aquamom23	9	3131	Jan 15, 2015 by missmeliss
	Suicidal texts (Preview) Suicidal texts from my A son tonight..... this has been coming for a long time..... I am scared.... but I will not rescue him.... I am a recovering A myself... 30 yrs sober this last Dec...... and I KNOW where he is right now..... I have been there myself.... been there a time or two sober...... only a High...	ladee	11	647	Jan 15, 2015 by hotrod
	Continually Practicing Detachment (Preview) Sometimes people post things that don't particularly sit well with me, so I hit the back button and step away from that particular table. Sometimes a post will get me thinking and I have to take time to process what the post means to me and if I want to do anything about it. Sometimes I will pm a friend for th...	likemyheart	3	1751	Jan 15, 2015 by unique
	Today's Reading and need prayers (Preview) The C 2 C 1-14 reading for today speaks about being powerless over alcohol and letting go of the battle that we are bound to lose. By letting go we become free and in taking the path to personal freedom and serenity that begins when we surrender--- our spiritual growth and rewards are unlimited- .esp...	hotrod	25	847	Jan 15, 2015 by Jackie11
	just call me Annie Oakley (Preview) The last couple of weeks have been quite a challenge,starting college,icy roads,car problems,landlord problems a difficult instructor,etc.Well I have learned a lot about myself.Number one I am stronger than I thought, with all of these things hitting when I start something new,I am getting rea...	mjferg	4	616	Jan 15, 2015 by andromeda
	One Day At a Time January 15 (Preview) Speaks about how we pray for sobriety for the alcoholic because we believe this will solve all our problems. It points out that sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. Unless we both work to overcome the emotional conflicts within ourselves, we remain at a standstill. Our troubles st...	Breakingfree	4	761	Jan 15, 2015 by neshema2
	It's a tough job (Preview) My new job is exhausting and demanding. I suppose I'm doing better than I was in the past. I can make decisions without trying to people please. I'm up against a lot right now. This is a hit the ground running kind of job with no down time. In fact, I have a mandatory sixty hours a week right now and they'd li...	tiredtonite	19	817	Jan 15, 2015 by PP
	Forum guidelines/rules...where are they?? (Preview) I have been trying to find guidelines to posting on this forum and I cant find them. can a moderator help with this? thanks	Newlife girl	2	583	Jan 15, 2015 by Debilyn
	Happy Birthday G2B (Preview) Dear Catherine ( aka G2B) I pray that you have a very memorable day and that you enjoy a little of the comfort and love that you bring to others on this your special day.	hotrod	27	924	Jan 14, 2015 by grateful2be
	Coming Home (Preview) My AH has found out he will be coming home probably within 2 weeks from the 3/4 way house. I don't know how to feel about it really. I had hoped the transition from sober living to home would have been done a lot differently such as building up time and days of being home rather than every other weekend, but i...	Flower49	13	647	Jan 14, 2015 by Helpangel
	Started dating newly recovering alcoholic (Preview) This is a bit of a long story and all very new to me just a heads up... I'm just trying to understand everything. I began dating this guy about 3 months ago. I really fell for him in the beginning because we have similar careers and passions. We both work with children with special needs and I loved talkin...	Bostonpugwoman	33	1275	Jan 14, 2015 by Jerry F
	PP heres the look LOL (Preview) JK	Cathyinaz	5	579	Jan 14, 2015 by neshema2
	A little guidance... (Preview) Im following the steps of AlAnon for my own healing with regard to my A husband of 20 years. 10 years ago he quit drinking And hasn't had a drink since. Little did I know that that was only half the battle. I grew to be a sicker co-dependent as the years went on, even though there was no drinking. His person...	expertatdenial	6	519	Jan 14, 2015 by Debilyn
	Alateen ? (Preview) hi strangers! I am missing this board and really need to get back to being more active! The holidays were fast and furious and now life is getting back to our "normal". Hope the New Year has been good for ya'll! i have 3 teenagers. My middle teen is really struggling and last night she and I had a...	Fairlee	3	441	Jan 14, 2015 by DavidG
	Alcoholic Wife Disaster (Preview) My wife has spent 6 of the last 9 weeks in rehab. During the family program visit she told me that she had removed her wedding band the day she got there and it was "freeing". One week later she was home. She stayed with us for two nights. However, each day she would drive back to the treatment c...	MooseWork	11	918	Jan 14, 2015 by Newlife girl
	Newbie seeking advice (Preview) Greetings, My girlfriend of almost 3 years entered a womens retreat last Thursday after a almost tragic single vehicle accident on Tuesday. She went willingly and says she is ready to get sober and deal with her painful past. There is no communication allowed during the first week, and very little i...	Dean P	8	718	Jan 14, 2015 by Newlife girl
	feeling 12 years old (Preview) Well I went to class today, I was ten minutes late because of car problems and I apologized to the instructor, this class has been laid back with people cross talking and interrupting, so the girl in front of me was showing me where we were at and all of a sudden he got upset and told us he didn't like talking...	mjferg	28	663	Jan 14, 2015 by Jerry F
	Suggestions how how to deal with recovering alcoholics (Preview) My ah came out of rehab about two weeks ago and was suppose to stay in a apt we paid for the month. He has stayed two days out of two weeks. Not sure I like that, seems like he's taken back his territory. He was nice for about 6 days Rest if the time it is hit or miss. We have a lot of up and downs, He has been complai...	Helpangel	1	562	Jan 14, 2015 by Flower49
	friendships: new & old (Preview) I am really discovering how important my friendships are these days. Not that I really didn't realize what they mean to me. I just know that is very easy for me to be a friend & have very meaningful friendships. Recently through this program, I started to finally get to know my neighbor of 15 years. I...	Hoot Nanny	4	547	Jan 14, 2015 by Breakingfree
	practice,practice,practice (Preview) Well, dealing with people isn't my strong suit.I am rough around the edges and I can be very blunt at times.I don't like to be jerked around and I can be very defensive.I have been called the B word.I need to deal with my landlord in a firm assertive way without getting angry and spouting off.That will be a...	mjferg	4	596	Jan 14, 2015 by Breakingfree
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Changed Attitudes; Honesty with Self; Principles above Personalities The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...	shimo	0	500	Jan 14, 2015 by shimo
	Thoughts on ODAT for today (Preview) The One Day at a Time reading for today is a powerful reminder to examine our motives and discover what, within us, is keeping us ina destructive relationship and accepting of negative behavior and humiliation. The reading points out that every human being is entitled to live without fear, uncert...	hotrod	11	679	Jan 13, 2015 by Truth
	World Service Office of Al-Anon's request for member submissions for 4th reader (Preview) I know several of us attend face to face meetings. If you are like me, you missed the memo on the fact that Al-Anon decided to start a working copy of a 4th Reader for Al-Anon members. They are asking for members to sign in at their webpage using your group's name with afg, going to the individuals/membe...	grateful2be	5	972	Jan 13, 2015 by grateful2be
	Hello and thank you (Preview) Hi, I have been a long time lurker and finally decided to make an account. The things that have been shared on this forum have been very helpful to me and I suppose it's time I outed myself to possibly have a little more specific advice to my situation because it is somewhat complicated. (I apologize in ad...	little miss daredevil	9	539	Jan 13, 2015 by PP
	seeking thoughts on dropping the rock (Preview) hey all, been in al anon a few years, working my 8th step right now, coming up against a lot of confusion about my higher powers will for me these days. I do a lot of social justice work and witness a lot of terrible things in the world, and i don't understand why my higher power would allow these things to be,...	jorjorjor	5	583	Jan 12, 2015 by Debilyn
	Why I need to keep coming back (Preview) I was going through taking screen shots of text messages (evidence) this afternoon. It's amazing to me that declarations of forever "love" and "waiting as long as it takes" lasted, as long as it took to send the message.Realistically I know and understand that my marriage was...	Jackie11	6	531	Jan 12, 2015 by grateful2be
	Alcoholic partner just lied to me after 5 months of trust (Preview) About 6 month ago I found out my partner, who I had always suspected of being an alcoholic, had gambled over 50K during the last few years while out on drinking binges. He promised to stop drinking, and swore that the gambling only happened when he was drinking and was not a problem in and of itself. Well...	nic	6	625	Jan 12, 2015 by aquamom23
	ODAT Thought for Today (Preview) ODAT for today states that and if I learn to look at my life as an adventure I will discover thousands of little things that occur in daily that can enriches my day.If I stay in the present moment I can enjoy the sunrise, the sound of the birds, a long walk and all the interesting things I see a long way....	hotrod	13	633	Jan 12, 2015 by Jerry F
	Beating myself up isn't good....need ESH (Preview) I have to desribe what my brain does to me. I guess this might be called "stinking thinking". not sure. If one thing bothers me, then i start thinking about multiple bad things and my day spirals downward. I am trying to prevent that from happening today. I take martial arts. it isnt easy. I a...	Newlife girl	9	656	Jan 12, 2015 by Newlife girl
	Alanon Concept 4: Participation is the key to harmony... (Preview) The Alanon concepts might seem to be a long way off to some people. But I think it begins when a person comes to their first meeting. Simply coming along is the first stage of participation. We don't have to be getting it right- at least not all of the time. We have all bin there, done that... there is nothi...	DavidG	3	1431	Jan 12, 2015 by hotrod
	MIP Unity (Preview) As I said in a previous post, there has been a few days of confusion and controversy here and it is unsettling. I engaged with a member and other issues surfaced. If this happened at a face to face meeting we would hold a moment of silence followed by the serenity payer and proceed Maybe we coul...	hotrod	9	663	Jan 12, 2015 by Flower49
	Other models besides AA? (Preview) I have so many other things I want to share... I keep typing out these longer thoughts/vents, but I guess first I want to ask this question that has been bugging me. My AH quit drinking 7 months ago. He started going to AA the very night we staged an intervention, and starting working with his priest, who...	oceanpine	9	901	Jan 12, 2015 by milkwood
	Struggling with all of this, I don't really understand the steps of Al anon and AA (Preview) Hi all, This is a rant, so hear me through please...... I have yet to go to another Al anon meeting, I went to one in December and wasn't sure what it all meant. I felt like it meant that the problem was mine, and I do understand that I need to stop trying to fix others. That I get. But I see that the steps are t...	Katrina324	16	1487	Jan 12, 2015 by PP
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