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I have school now, which is a strain and it is very cold here,I didn't have any water this morning,I am having problems with my washing machine and I don't have a dryer so I have to lug clothes to the laundromat to dry them.My hot water tank was leaking and the water damaged a bathroom cabinet, it is covered in black mold.The landlord replaced the hot water tank and told me to scrub the cabinet with a bleach solution and apply kilz paint to it,ok I will add that to my list!All the while she was complaining about her 1200.00 dollar a month house payment,waah! and I have to live with a crappy molded cabinet.She is one of those intimidating landlords that can make life hard if you get on her bad side,but I still think I deserve a new cabinet,but my experience with landlords has been they just want to collect the cash and not be bothered.I am just tired and frustrated right now.I am totally responsible for everything around the house,and the car, and I just feel overwhelmed and angry.
I've had days like that - when I didn't know if I was coming or going. A few program suggestions/slogans come to me: First things first, This too will pass, How important is it, Do what you can and leave the rest. And frankly, I'm impressed that with all that going, you didn't stand out in the snow and scream.
I had a friend who taught me what she called her "quiet panic." She'd simply open her mouth, use all her muscles to scream with no sound, and she always felt better. I used that method of relaxation when I was in my office and everybody in the world (large exaggeration) seemed to need to talk with me "right now," I had grants to write, the phone was ringing off the hook, somebody was having a meltdown, the doorbell was ringing, my assistants were gone, roots had plugged our sewage system and the basement shower had filled up with sewage with the plumber nowhere to be found.
It's got to be difficult to get into a brand new routine in the winter time?
If your landlady stalls, there are always tenant rights to help you get what she agreed to do and isn't to pursue.
I've had days and times like that and I've used what Grateful suggest and more cause we have a lot of tools in our recovery. I like the easy does it and one day/step at a time suggestions because they help me reduce the priorities into small bites and leave the others behind boundaries. This comes under the subject title of being kind with yourself. Keep coming back (((((hugs)))))
I can relate to your post! When it's possible, if I am feeling overwhelmed as you have described...I try to find a few moments to do some big breathing. Big breaths in, noisy breaths out. Big breaths in, silent breaths out. And every other variation I can think of. Some days it feels like everything is on the plate, and someone threw the plate at me when I wasn't looking!
Hugs Mary, I hear you and so hope things ease up for you soon.
I feel the same way about some landlords, the previous one refused to fix anything and we went without heating for the first year and could not get water from the taps in the laundry and had to have that fixed myself in the end! But having said that I've also had a couple of really wonderful landlords.
I deal with mould by filling a spray bottle with bleach, spray it all over and walk away, no need to scrub or inhale those toxic mould spores, they can make u really sick.
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I think it is the landlord thing making me the angriest,she has a ton of rentals and brings in good money but constantly complains about the work she has.She is difficult to deal with, and it can be a touchy situation when dealing with landlords because they are in control.I just think all people should be respected even renters and we are not,it makes me angry,and like missmeliss said she went without heat and had to fix things herself!It isn't right and they don't get that when they are landlords they also have a responsibilty to the tenants but they don't see that part of it they just want to rake in the cash.
And yes,grateful2be,just driving to school is stressful right now.We have had a lot of cold and snow,I have already missed 2 days because of weather and today it is freezing rain.They don't close down like regular school does.I feel like I am going to get behind,but I don't like to drive on bad roads.
Me, either. I've found myself utilizing the 3rd and 11th step for that, too, when I absolutely have to be on the roads. If I don't have to be on the roads, I stay home. I have also remembered if HP took me to it, HP will bring me through it. I'll be riding with you in the car today in spirit, understanding how scary it is on the roads if you go and reminding you, you aren't alone. You can do this if its your HP's will for you.
