Ladee, I am so sorry to read of this really painful situation. I will hold your son and you in my thoughts and prayers.

Dear God, please give ladee the peace that surpasses understanding, in this difficult time and may your most Holy Will be done.

 

 

Alcohol is a mind and mood altering chemical and a chemical depressant.  Suicidal ideation is common when under the influence and I also went thru it.  It is what I was feeling and thinking about when HP lead me into the rooms of Al-Anon.  I was working on a third attempt and was led to the doors of the program after calls to Help In Emotional Trouble and the Suicide Prevention Center.  In that process I learned the difference between a failed suicide and a successful one.   The failed one would have been if I had ended my life and the successful one was changing how I lived it.  The consequence of the successful one is that of course I lost all interest in the failed one.  I am grateful to my Higher Power and the Al-Anon Family Groups for being able to commit the successful suicide.  You can share those thoughts with your son if you get the chance and he may just find himself duplicating what you have done over the past 30 years.  Congratulations on your sobriety.   ((((hugs))))

Omg. So sorry. Sending peace and comfort energy. My A brother was in this mindset. I know how scary this can be. Can't imagine my child going thru this. Are there any meets u can get to?? If a person is in danger of hurting themselves maybe a call to the local police might help. So sorry

So one more crisis averted.. will give God full credit for my sons change of mind.... even if it was manipulation, drama, self pity..... doesn't matter.... when my son threatens to kill himself... I take it seriously....BUT .... I do work my steps, I do pray, I do let my son know I love him... I don't lecture, I don't panic, or at least where he knows it....I just reassure there is a way out besides his way of getting some relief.... he is better today... I no longer feel resentment for those actions.... it is part of the disease and has nothing to do with my son... I miss him, haven't seen him in years..... and by that, I mean, the son I know, not the monster the disease created......I feel to some degree, me not running to rescue left him somewhat confused..... but have very firm boundaries with him about how he communicates with me....so when the finger pointing starts, I tell him I love him and disconnect.... it has taken me a long time to get here, lots of slips, but did it this time....and .thank all of you for your prayers and support... I know the prayers were answered...... Gods will be done....I will continue to learn to take care of me.... only with the steps, my God, my support system...... could not be here today saying a thank you that just doesn't seem enough.... thanks and prayers to all of you.

Thank you for the update. I understand what you mean about not seeing the son you know in years. There are times when my son is alive again and we can talk real person to real person. When the disease is highly operative, I have to stand way down and way back. It's not a position I want to be in and yet I know that I am not the one who can do anything but pray and wait on him and his HP. My Mom was not a codependent person in any way and sometimes I wonder when she was in her tough love stance how she really felt about it all. Sure makes me appreciate my own Mom more when my son's behavior is simply not okay with me and shouldn't be. Continued support for you as you carry out your plan for your own life and leave your son to think, be and do what he will.