Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bobump · bobump

One of the things I was worried about was my A getting a counselor that was worried about only the patient and not the family. My contention after all is, that it is a family disease. She was released from the hospital 16 days ago. In that time she has made 3 AA meetings and she just started h...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This weekend I had another dose of deception from my "a". I found out that he has been calling the "other woman" for the last two weeks since he's been home. (no sex just calling) On Friday I only knew that he was calling her, he was trying to cover his tracks but not doing a good job of it...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi All, I have never been one that suffers from depression...maybe that's why our situation carried on so long without me realizing there was a problem. The eternal optimist passed away 2 months ago though, and now I can't seem to pull myself from this depression. I really want to have...

kspear · kspear

Hello all, Being new to this board, being new to Alanon in general, I have to ask. Is it really possible to live with the A and be happy? I asked a similar question when I was new to my other program - is it really possible? And I found out that it was. But the more stressed out I get with my s...

leo · leo

Well as we all know when the rollercoaster is up it must come down. I have had a good two weeks with my husband the A. He has been pleasant, playing Bob the Builder around the house (a rare occurrence) and most of all the communication between us has been good because there was no drink...

QOD · QOD

I have not been speaking to my husband in 2 weeks. He had a 3 day disappearing act and then a week later took my son w/him to a friends house where he was drinking. He got mad @ me b/c @ 11:00pm I came & got my son to take him home where he'd be safe. So we haven't been speaking. Last nig...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I've seen quite a number of people question this, yet I see infidelity peppered through many posts. I think that we believe that because our 'A' needs us so much that they will not do this, and many of you say it is a deal breaker. Well I thought it would be for me too, but it wasn't. The first...

Powerless · Powerless

First of all, I would like to thank everyone for the hugs, prayers, support and encouragement. I love each and everyone of you. I would also like to apologize for not handling myself well and not showing much of the program at work the past few days. I apologize that I have been so int...

peewee · peewee

D, I enjoyed your encounter with the butterfly. It was a good share I thought. I checked out ishaah and thought it a beautiful site,and I saved it to favorites to go back and read again. I'm sorry I missed your share tonight during meeting, but I had to serve up dinner...

Mollyd · Mollyd

Hi, Here's what is going on - Been married 11 years, husband has one year sobriety. I am working alanon - although early at it. I believe - I have pushed and pushed and pushed at this relationship to try and make it what I wanted it to be. Spouse and I both acknowledge - our re...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hi everyone. Have been reading these posts and going to the meetings for several months now.I have been in and out of Alanon for the last 16 years but this time I am staying because I have become humble enough to realize I need it.I need you.I have always been a loner and a hard person to get to know.I was r...

hudsond · hudsond

I swear I think my ah honestly just tries to tick me off most days!!!! Today is Sunday, a day where you are supposed to relax and rejuvenate for the week ahead (at least that's what is supposed to happen I think!!) My a hasn't gone to church with me in weeks. I haven't hounded him, I have been tr...

angel123 · angel123

Not sure if others can open attachment,Please let me know if you can or not .Thank you love angel

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - March 30 I developed a lot of confusion about relationships and intimacy while growing up in my alcoholic family. I yearned for closeness yet was terrified when I was in any sort of relationship. My father wasn't able to give me the experience of love and intimacy I needed. I used to rese...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I've been reading posts about people saying that their 'a's have tried to quit, hidden alcohol, etc. and I realize that I've never spent much time trying to get my 'a' to quit, so he's never hidden it from me. I mean - I've talked about it a lot, but have never said things like 'if you don't quit, I'll...

ditto · ditto

Every so often there will be something that makes me stop and think. About 6 years ago a man joined a web site for young widows. He was grieving the death of his wife. He had been a high-powered executive and he was fired just after his wife died. He could not find another job.&n...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. Yesterday around 5 I was about ready to jump out of my skin. My 18 YO son (one of the darling As of my life) was in a particularly foul mood and was taking it out on everyone in the house. I let him push my buttons and started reacting in kind. Got right back up in his face and pretty m...

gardengal · gardengal

When alcoholism or any addiction of another becomes an obsession in "your life" its time to stop and think what would make another happy and start worrying about yourself. Take time to become calm and centered. Get in touch with your own values. Dont react, respond: To respond takes tho...

megan · megan

I know where I was one year ago. I had 4 solid months of alanon. I had made an online friend. She helped me to see my life from another viewpoint. I walked to work, my husband did not work and controlled the money I made, He did not let me talk to anyone on my company cell phone when he was not passed out. He wok...

kitty · kitty

I was pretty depressed last week & just slept the days away ~ still recovering from the car accident, I'm sure. It definetly gave me a terrific scare! So I have been thinking a lot about my life this month. Yes, I have withdrawn from the site ~ trying to put some things into perspectiv...

kspear · kspear

Hi all, I'm having a few things going on right now that I could use some experience, strength and hope regarding. This time it is with my ex A and his girlfriend, also an A. My ex and I have been apart for 11 years. I am quite happy about the fact. I have no desire to ever reunite with h...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all, Over the 2 months, as the "story" tumbles out about my husbands addiction...its seems like everyday it's something new. I just want this to not be my life. So the new one is cheating. My sister in law called me the other day and we had been talking for about an hour when she sa...

hudsond · hudsond

Last night I spoke up honestly for myself without worrying about how he was going to react. He hurt my feelings about how I cooked supper (I always thought I was a pretty decent cook until the 2 husbands I have had both didn't/don't like my cooking). I tried not to make a big deal out of it, I ju...

ditto · ditto

I have wanted to divorce my husband ever since I realized he is an a. I simply don't deserve the treatment I face due to his alcoholism. To that end, I have been working to separate our lives. We own a store together and I put it on the market and prayed really hard and tomorrow it...

Christy · Christy

I just talked to Josey and she is moved in to her new home, the boxes anyway..lol The boys (twins, age 11) are also doing well and are excited to be in their new home. Josey is pretty exhausted as anyone would be, but she has deficits from her stroke that make things much more difficult for her. I don'...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello All, As I have posted to my negative feelings about my one bad experience in the chat room, I would like to post today about the good things. I am so very grateful to have found this place. The meeting this morning was so wonderful and full of love. There is so much help, love and kindnes...

sparkette · sparkette

Something really cool happened to me today while I was at my f2f meeting. This is a new homegroup for me. I have gone the past 3 weeks, so I am still missing my old home group as many of you can relate. I didn't move - it was more of a schedule change that necessitated the home group change. Anyways... It was...

kissers · kissers

I give up on everything. The more I try to make my situation better, the more obstacles fly in the way. I was 1 of 110 people chosen for an entreprenuer program. My family said they would watch my daughter 3 evening per week while I was in the program, then decided to pull the rug out from under me. I was termi...

Powerless · Powerless

He finally admitted tonight that he has been seeing her and sleeping with her. He admitted it while make love to me. We were in the middle of sex and he told me exactly what happened. I got up and felt like I was going to throw up. I can't believe he admitted it. I guess part...

Powerless · Powerless

I am so angry. I wanted to post earlier but couldn't calm down enough to type. The other woman called me this morning and said she had been thinking all night and couldn't live with herself for lying to me yesterday. She said that they met each other two months ago, not one and that the...

rtexas · rtexas

Happy Birthday Month to everyone with a birthday this month! You know who you are! For the rest of the year you will have to settle for Happy Serenity Day, that is a 365 day per year holiday. Boy wouldn't that be a relief! Take care everyone! -- Edited by rtexas at 11:24, 2006-0...

confusedmom · confusedmom

It's been a long time since I've posted anything. I truly thought things were going better. My husband was drinking less and staying home more. I felt like he really wanted our family to work. Now, about 2 months ago the cycle started again. I can't figure out what my bigge...

rtexas · rtexas

You know... <sigh> I can't seem to win for loosing... My A and I are not talking much. She is very put out that I am not fighting with her all the time. She refuses to do recreational things with me. Our son has done some stuff with her, which is fine with me as long as she is saf...

Barbara · Barbara

Just came back late last night/early this morn from my week at "My Happy Place" (Walt Disney World). I almost cried on the plane knowing it was time to face reality once again. I want to run away and live down there forever. Only 4.5 more months and I'll return - this time w/my son for a week before my husban...

DJ2006 · DJ2006

I love to read and getting to meetings will be tough for me since I work two jobs. I am going to try to go though. Does anyone have any good book recommendations? I have a twin, an ex-husband, and current boyfriend who are alcoholics. My parents never drank but I was molested by my dad when I was a teen. This p...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Last night my "a" had to go to work. He's been working a third shift job since returning to the home. He didn't get to sleep until 4 pm because he chose to watch a movie and then hook up with one of his buddies to smoke pot and play music. I did say to him that I'd like him to work on his sleep s...

nycbt · nycbt

Since I been in the program I have made alot of friends.

DJ2006 · DJ2006

I have never been to an al-anon meeting in person either yet. I hope to go one day soon. I'm 45 yrs old and divorced mother of a 20 year old daughter with health problems. I come from a large family of 7 kids. I have a twin who is an alcoholic and still drinking. My ex-husband was an alcoholic. I have been divor...

angel123 · angel123

another reading on step two,with love Angel

angel123 · angel123

Hi everyone,I hurt my foot and have alot of time on my hands.I am one to go go go.This foot has me sitting more.So I decided to try to put the 12 steps up here.Thru the years I have collected forums they are alanon approved litature.Some call it meeting in my pocket.I would have typed it but I do not typ as fas...

sim1kag · sim1kag

Hello to all, I am new to the online group and to Al-Anon and making the baby steps to recovery, soon to find a group to go to that is not online, however reading through the topics and such I don't understand alot of the abbreviations....I don't mean to sound stupid.

.sorry but is there a pag...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i keep seeing people post about having a sponsor. what is the purpose? i feel like if i had a sponsor i would just drag them down with me. i guess i just don't understand it.

QOD · QOD

I have tried several times to get into the chat room this week. It has been a while since I have been in there. It won't let me in....says I'm not connected or something. Any suggestions? QOD

emma · emma

I'm going through a rough patch -- too many big stressors at one time. Adversely affecting sleep. I'm trying to figure out, well, I guess I'm trying to figure my way out. No way out but through most of the stuff -- the main debilitating issue for me deals with the ex and the kids. He knows this is his last w...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, everyone! I'm looking forward to some gorgeous weather out in the Central NY area today (high of 75 - yippee!) I was wondering if anyone knew of a site or place where I could find out more about working the 12 Steps from the Al-Anon perspective. It's my understanding the st...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Instead of a gratitude list, the idea of a Positive List, seems to be working better for me. Listing all the letters of the alphabet A- Z, I put down a word for each letter that brings a smile to my face! And I do not have to work the list in order ! Anyway, wh...

flintfeet · flintfeet

how do you handle having a few drinks with dinner/night out? my dad is an A (his parents/grandparents...were also). i have a fear that my brother is following in his footsteps. he leads a normal productive life (goes to school/work/has a relationship). but a long time ago, so did my father. maybe it...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I'm so glad I found this place. It helps me so much to understand detachment. I've spent 11 years carrying the weight of all of this on my little shoulders and wondering why I've become so sick. I see that it is a process now and not something that is going to turn around or happen imm...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was replying to another topic and I found myself thinking and my ideas wandering. I got so sad, and then thinking about it made so much sense. I can detach from my husbands drinking, the problem is the behavior that goes with it. I started thinking about my parents. My Mom and dad have been married f...

rrayrray · rrayrray

this is my first time on. my ex of 4 hrs has gone into rehab again. what can i say? i need any words of wisdom you can give me. i have a 7 yr old daughter hurting terribly. i am trying to stay detached, but her pain pulls me in. thanks ::

Cyn · Cyn

Hello all Hope you are doing well - things are going great here in NJ. My job is going fanstastic and I am finishing up my other job in 20 days (FINALLY). I had some huge accomplishments this last month - 1 being a swimmer from my team making the YMCA National Championships (first time in 10...

angel123 · angel123

P practicing program every day R Recalling rules along the way I into better times ahead N never feeling the old dread C correcting habits that are bad P preparing now to live each minute L loving,caring others in it E ending daily with a prayer S saying God I'm glad I'm here Look no...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys has anyone heard from cyn at all...??? i havent seen her name in here in ages and i havent gotten an e-mail from here in over a month.... was getting kinda worried... i hope shes just too busy with work or sumthing...hope its got nothing to do with the ex, he cud have made contact. hope ye ar...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

I'm so frustrated. My a boyfriend is home today. I called the neighbor to find out if he was home since he wasn't answering his phone and I was getting worried. She said she heard him walking around upstairs. She called me later to tell me the other neighbors saw him HIDING all day s...

Gailey · Gailey

Tonight I will be attending a women's spritual retreat in Gettysburg, PA. It is for the whole weekend. It is titled "A Well Tended Soul". Valerie Bell is the author and the speaker for this retreat. I am very excited. The weather is beautiful and although things are not going that good right now...I am s...

Powerless · Powerless

I spoke with my husband and the other woman this morning separately and they both told me the same thing. They met at a truck stop (she is also a truck driver) and exchanged numbers. She doesn't live in out state and haven't seen each other since they met, but talk for several hours each day w...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Does anyone know how I can get connected to the chat room? My computer crashed last week and I've no been able to get in since then. This is what comes up. Any suggestion? Connecting...unable to connect: com.ms.security.SecurityExceptionEx: cannot connect to "irc mipcha...

Powerless · Powerless

I woke up this morning and checked my husband's cell phone. I was being nosy. I found a bunch of texts from another woman. I called the number and spoke with the woman. We have the same name, imagine that. He met her at a truck stop on his way through Georgia. They h...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i have not posted in a while. the truth is that i have not had time to sit down, think about what is wrong, and get upset about it. i have kept busy. but i had a free moment yesturday and thought about my dad. i just found out that my dad went out of town. we still are not speaking, so i found out from my brother t...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all, So, 2 months ago I discovered that my husband was addicted to cocaine. After 8 weeks of more emotions than this one girl can endure I am looking for anyone who can help me make sense of this hell. We have been married for almost 9 years and have 2 beautiful daughters, wonderful fami...

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	one of my fears might be coming true (Preview) One of the things I was worried about was my A getting a counselor that was worried about only the patient and not the family. My contention after all is, that it is a family disease. She was released from the hospital 16 days ago. In that time she has made 3 AA meetings and she just started h...	bobump	14	732	Apr 3, 2006 by Alone
	Some trouble in paradise... (Preview) This weekend I had another dose of deception from my "a". I found out that he has been calling the "other woman" for the last two weeks since he's been home. (no sex just calling) On Friday I only knew that he was calling her, he was trying to cover his tracks but not doing a good job of it...	twinmom2	4	548	Apr 3, 2006 by Rebecca
	a new plan?? (Preview) Hi All, I have never been one that suffers from depression...maybe that's why our situation carried on so long without me realizing there was a problem. The eternal optimist passed away 2 months ago though, and now I can't seem to pull myself from this depression. I really want to have...	robyn76	3	411	Apr 3, 2006 by just me
	Is it really possible? (Preview) Hello all, Being new to this board, being new to Alanon in general, I have to ask. Is it really possible to live with the A and be happy? I asked a similar question when I was new to my other program - is it really possible? And I found out that it was. But the more stressed out I get with my s...	kspear	2	434	Apr 3, 2006 by just me
	at the crossroads (Preview) Well as we all know when the rollercoaster is up it must come down. I have had a good two weeks with my husband the A. He has been pleasant, playing Bob the Builder around the house (a rare occurrence) and most of all the communication between us has been good because there was no drink...	leo	5	712	Apr 3, 2006 by leo
	Aargg! I don't get it!! (Preview) I have not been speaking to my husband in 2 weeks. He had a 3 day disappearing act and then a week later took my son w/him to a friends house where he was drinking. He got mad @ me b/c @ 11:00pm I came & got my son to take him home where he'd be safe. So we haven't been speaking. Last nig...	QOD	10	590	Apr 3, 2006 by QOD
	Is Infidelity Part of the Disease? (Preview) I've seen quite a number of people question this, yet I see infidelity peppered through many posts. I think that we believe that because our 'A' needs us so much that they will not do this, and many of you say it is a deal breaker. Well I thought it would be for me too, but it wasn't. The first...	HadEnuff	7	638	Apr 3, 2006 by Tammy
	Today is a new day (Preview) First of all, I would like to thank everyone for the hugs, prayers, support and encouragement. I love each and everyone of you. I would also like to apologize for not handling myself well and not showing much of the program at work the past few days. I apologize that I have been so int...	Powerless	4	424	Apr 3, 2006 by Tammy
	D53 and pm (Preview) D, I enjoyed your encounter with the butterfly. It was a good share I thought. I checked out ishaah and thought it a beautiful site,and I saved it to favorites to go back and read again. I'm sorry I missed your share tonight during meeting, but I had to serve up dinner...	peewee	0	377	Apr 2, 2006 by peewee
	could use some help with boudaries (Preview) Hi, Here's what is going on - Been married 11 years, husband has one year sobriety. I am working alanon - although early at it. I believe - I have pushed and pushed and pushed at this relationship to try and make it what I wanted it to be. Spouse and I both acknowledge - our re...	Mollyd	3	443	Apr 2, 2006 by Mollyd
	what if the A is not "active"? (Preview) Hi everyone. Have been reading these posts and going to the meetings for several months now.I have been in and out of Alanon for the last 16 years but this time I am staying because I have become humble enough to realize I need it.I need you.I have always been a loner and a hard person to get to know.I was r...	drucilla06	6	899	Apr 2, 2006 by drucilla06
	Why do they try so hard just to tick us off??? (Preview) I swear I think my ah honestly just tries to tick me off most days!!!! Today is Sunday, a day where you are supposed to relax and rejuvenate for the week ahead (at least that's what is supposed to happen I think!!) My a hasn't gone to church with me in weeks. I haven't hounded him, I have been tr...	hudsond	3	374	Apr 2, 2006 by kitty
	Step 3 (Preview) Not sure if others can open attachment,Please let me know if you can or not .Thank you love angel	angel123	1	324	Apr 2, 2006 by just me
	love ONE day at a time (Preview) Hope for Today - March 30 I developed a lot of confusion about relationships and intimacy while growing up in my alcoholic family. I yearned for closeness yet was terrified when I was in any sort of relationship. My father wasn't able to give me the experience of love and intimacy I needed. I used to rese...	rosie light shines	3	485	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	A Revelation ... (Preview) I've been reading posts about people saying that their 'a's have tried to quit, hidden alcohol, etc. and I realize that I've never spent much time trying to get my 'a' to quit, so he's never hidden it from me. I mean - I've talked about it a lot, but have never said things like 'if you don't quit, I'll...	HadEnuff	4	429	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	Something to think about (Preview) Every so often there will be something that makes me stop and think. About 6 years ago a man joined a web site for young widows. He was grieving the death of his wife. He had been a high-powered executive and he was fired just after his wife died. He could not find another job.&n...	ditto	7	623	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	What a difference a day makes (Preview) Good morning, all. Yesterday around 5 I was about ready to jump out of my skin. My 18 YO son (one of the darling As of my life) was in a particularly foul mood and was taking it out on everyone in the house. I let him push my buttons and started reacting in kind. Got right back up in his face and pretty m...	kspear	2	515	Apr 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	ARE YOU HUNGRY TO GET HEALTHY? (Preview) When alcoholism or any addiction of another becomes an obsession in "your life" its time to stop and think what would make another happy and start worrying about yourself. Take time to become calm and centered. Get in touch with your own values. Dont react, respond: To respond takes tho...	gardengal	2	367	Apr 2, 2006 by maresie
	Past present future (Preview) I know where I was one year ago. I had 4 solid months of alanon. I had made an online friend. She helped me to see my life from another viewpoint. I walked to work, my husband did not work and controlled the money I made, He did not let me talk to anyone on my company cell phone when he was not passed out. He wok...	megan	14	609	Apr 2, 2006 by leo
	Constantly Surrenderring (Preview) I was pretty depressed last week & just slept the days away ~ still recovering from the car accident, I'm sure. It definetly gave me a terrific scare! So I have been thinking a lot about my life this month. Yes, I have withdrawn from the site ~ trying to put some things into perspectiv...	kitty	6	539	Apr 2, 2006 by bobump
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi all, I'm having a few things going on right now that I could use some experience, strength and hope regarding. This time it is with my ex A and his girlfriend, also an A. My ex and I have been apart for 11 years. I am quite happy about the fact. I have no desire to ever reunite with h...	kspear	3	382	Apr 1, 2006 by Jeannie
	How far do I pursue truth?? (Preview) Hi all, Over the 2 months, as the "story" tumbles out about my husbands addiction...its seems like everyday it's something new. I just want this to not be my life. So the new one is cheating. My sister in law called me the other day and we had been talking for about an hour when she sa...	robyn76	6	499	Apr 1, 2006 by Powerless
	Spoke up honestly for self (Preview) Last night I spoke up honestly for myself without worrying about how he was going to react. He hurt my feelings about how I cooked supper (I always thought I was a pretty decent cook until the 2 husbands I have had both didn't/don't like my cooking). I tried not to make a big deal out of it, I ju...	hudsond	3	411	Apr 1, 2006 by Powerless
	Fearful (Preview) I have wanted to divorce my husband ever since I realized he is an a. I simply don't deserve the treatment I face due to his alcoholism. To that end, I have been working to separate our lives. We own a store together and I put it on the market and prayed really hard and tomorrow it...	ditto	11	522	Apr 1, 2006 by Powerless
	jrtjosey report :) (Preview) I just talked to Josey and she is moved in to her new home, the boxes anyway..lol The boys (twins, age 11) are also doing well and are excited to be in their new home. Josey is pretty exhausted as anyone would be, but she has deficits from her stroke that make things much more difficult for her. I don'...	Christy	6	427	Apr 1, 2006 by ErinB
	Feeling the love in chat room (Preview) Hello All, As I have posted to my negative feelings about my one bad experience in the chat room, I would like to post today about the good things. I am so very grateful to have found this place. The meeting this morning was so wonderful and full of love. There is so much help, love and kindnes...	Andrea12	8	551	Apr 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Tripping over my own ego (Preview) Something really cool happened to me today while I was at my f2f meeting. This is a new homegroup for me. I have gone the past 3 weeks, so I am still missing my old home group as many of you can relate. I didn't move - it was more of a schedule change that necessitated the home group change. Anyways... It was...	sparkette	8	700	Apr 1, 2006 by drucilla06
	I Give Up (Preview) I give up on everything. The more I try to make my situation better, the more obstacles fly in the way. I was 1 of 110 people chosen for an entreprenuer program. My family said they would watch my daughter 3 evening per week while I was in the program, then decided to pull the rug out from under me. I was termi...	kissers	9	504	Apr 1, 2006 by Diva
	The truth at last (Preview) He finally admitted tonight that he has been seeing her and sleeping with her. He admitted it while make love to me. We were in the middle of sex and he told me exactly what happened. I got up and felt like I was going to throw up. I can't believe he admitted it. I guess part...	Powerless	8	519	Apr 1, 2006 by Becky1
	The other woman (Preview) I am so angry. I wanted to post earlier but couldn't calm down enough to type. The other woman called me this morning and said she had been thinking all night and couldn't live with herself for lying to me yesterday. She said that they met each other two months ago, not one and that the...	Powerless	12	648	Apr 1, 2006 by Becky1
	Last Happy Birthday Month for March '06 (Preview) Happy Birthday Month to everyone with a birthday this month! You know who you are! For the rest of the year you will have to settle for Happy Serenity Day, that is a 365 day per year holiday. Boy wouldn't that be a relief! Take care everyone! -- Edited by rtexas at 11:24, 2006-0...	rtexas	3	342	Apr 1, 2006 by Becky1
	What do you do ? (Preview) It's been a long time since I've posted anything. I truly thought things were going better. My husband was drinking less and staying home more. I felt like he really wanted our family to work. Now, about 2 months ago the cycle started again. I can't figure out what my bigge...	confusedmom	3	419	Apr 1, 2006 by Angie
	The kids... (Preview) You know... <sigh> I can't seem to win for loosing... My A and I are not talking much. She is very put out that I am not fighting with her all the time. She refuses to do recreational things with me. Our son has done some stuff with her, which is fine with me as long as she is saf...	rtexas	5	404	Apr 1, 2006 by drucilla06
	It is extremely hard coming back to reality (Preview) Just came back late last night/early this morn from my week at "My Happy Place" (Walt Disney World). I almost cried on the plane knowing it was time to face reality once again. I want to run away and live down there forever. Only 4.5 more months and I'll return - this time w/my son for a week before my husban...	Barbara	2	386	Apr 1, 2006 by mebjk
	Books..... (Preview) I love to read and getting to meetings will be tough for me since I work two jobs. I am going to try to go though. Does anyone have any good book recommendations? I have a twin, an ex-husband, and current boyfriend who are alcoholics. My parents never drank but I was molested by my dad when I was a teen. This p...	DJ2006	4	378	Apr 1, 2006 by DJ2006
	Keeping it real for me! (Preview) Last night my "a" had to go to work. He's been working a third shift job since returning to the home. He didn't get to sleep until 4 pm because he chose to watch a movie and then hook up with one of his buddies to smoke pot and play music. I did say to him that I'd like him to work on his sleep s...	twinmom2	7	433	Apr 1, 2006 by maresie
	friend (Preview) Since I been in the program I have made alot of friends.	nycbt	4	370	Apr 1, 2006 by maresie
	Hi I'm new here..... (Preview) I have never been to an al-anon meeting in person either yet. I hope to go one day soon. I'm 45 yrs old and divorced mother of a 20 year old daughter with health problems. I come from a large family of 7 kids. I have a twin who is an alcoholic and still drinking. My ex-husband was an alcoholic. I have been divor...	DJ2006	6	510	Apr 1, 2006 by mebjk
	anoth step two reading (Preview) another reading on step two,with love Angel	angel123	0	340	Apr 1, 2006 by angel123
	Step 2 (Preview) Hi everyone,I hurt my foot and have alot of time on my hands.I am one to go go go.This foot has me sitting more.So I decided to try to put the 12 steps up here.Thru the years I have collected forums they are alanon approved litature.Some call it meeting in my pocket.I would have typed it but I do not typ as fas...	angel123	0	310	Apr 1, 2006 by angel123
	Abbreviation explanations (Preview) Hello to all, I am new to the online group and to Al-Anon and making the baby steps to recovery, soon to find a group to go to that is not online, however reading through the topics and such I don't understand alot of the abbreviations....I don't mean to sound stupid..sorry but is there a pag...	sim1kag	5	2416	Apr 1, 2006 by nycbt
	what sponsor?? (Preview) i keep seeing people post about having a sponsor. what is the purpose? i feel like if i had a sponsor i would just drag them down with me. i guess i just don't understand it.	flintfeet	4	429	Apr 1, 2006 by nycbt
	Can't get into chatroom (Preview) I have tried several times to get into the chat room this week. It has been a while since I have been in there. It won't let me in....says I'm not connected or something. Any suggestions? QOD	QOD	5	362	Apr 1, 2006 by buzzfree
	recovery and bumps along the road (Preview) I'm going through a rough patch -- too many big stressors at one time. Adversely affecting sleep. I'm trying to figure out, well, I guess I'm trying to figure my way out. No way out but through most of the stuff -- the main debilitating issue for me deals with the ex and the kids. He knows this is his last w...	emma	2	376	Apr 1, 2006 by emma
	Step Information/Other questions (Preview) Good morning, everyone! I'm looking forward to some gorgeous weather out in the Central NY area today (high of 75 - yippee!) I was wondering if anyone knew of a site or place where I could find out more about working the 12 Steps from the Al-Anon perspective. It's my understanding the st...	kspear	4	730	Apr 1, 2006 by Ria
	Positive List (Preview) Instead of a gratitude list, the idea of a Positive List, seems to be working better for me. Listing all the letters of the alphabet A- Z, I put down a word for each letter that brings a smile to my face! And I do not have to work the list in order ! Anyway, wh...	wallsal55	2	338	Mar 31, 2006 by Jeannie
	how to handle it? (Preview) how do you handle having a few drinks with dinner/night out? my dad is an A (his parents/grandparents...were also). i have a fear that my brother is following in his footsteps. he leads a normal productive life (goes to school/work/has a relationship). but a long time ago, so did my father. maybe it...	flintfeet	5	409	Mar 31, 2006 by mebjk
	So I Give In and Back to Square 1 ... (Preview) I'm so glad I found this place. It helps me so much to understand detachment. I've spent 11 years carrying the weight of all of this on my little shoulders and wondering why I've become so sick. I see that it is a process now and not something that is going to turn around or happen imm...	HadEnuff	2	431	Mar 31, 2006 by mebjk
	Just thinking (Preview) I was replying to another topic and I found myself thinking and my ideas wandering. I got so sad, and then thinking about it made so much sense. I can detach from my husbands drinking, the problem is the behavior that goes with it. I started thinking about my parents. My Mom and dad have been married f...	Jeannie	9	484	Mar 31, 2006 by cdb
	REHAB 2ND TIME AROUND (Preview) this is my first time on. my ex of 4 hrs has gone into rehab again. what can i say? i need any words of wisdom you can give me. i have a 7 yr old daughter hurting terribly. i am trying to stay detached, but her pain pulls me in. thanks ::	rrayrray	4	432	Mar 31, 2006 by cdb
	Alive and well (Preview) Hello all Hope you are doing well - things are going great here in NJ. My job is going fanstastic and I am finishing up my other job in 20 days (FINALLY). I had some huge accomplishments this last month - 1 being a swimmer from my team making the YMCA National Championships (first time in 10...	Cyn	3	366	Mar 31, 2006 by cdb
	PRINCPLES (Preview) P practicing program every day R Recalling rules along the way I into better times ahead N never feeling the old dread C correcting habits that are bad P preparing now to live each minute L loving,caring others in it E ending daily with a prayer S saying God I'm glad I'm here Look no...	angel123	5	349	Mar 31, 2006 by hudsond
	missing person... (Preview) hi guys has anyone heard from cyn at all...??? i havent seen her name in here in ages and i havent gotten an e-mail from here in over a month.... was getting kinda worried... i hope shes just too busy with work or sumthing...hope its got nothing to do with the ex, he cud have made contact. hope ye ar...	Rebecca	2	370	Mar 31, 2006 by Cyn
	Need to get it out... (Preview) I'm so frustrated. My a boyfriend is home today. I called the neighbor to find out if he was home since he wasn't answering his phone and I was getting worried. She said she heard him walking around upstairs. She called me later to tell me the other neighbors saw him HIDING all day s...	SerenityGirl	7	501	Mar 31, 2006 by Juster
	Doing something good for me (Preview) Tonight I will be attending a women's spritual retreat in Gettysburg, PA. It is for the whole weekend. It is titled "A Well Tended Soul". Valerie Bell is the author and the speaker for this retreat. I am very excited. The weather is beautiful and although things are not going that good right now...I am s...	Gailey	3	477	Mar 31, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Have a confession (Preview) I spoke with my husband and the other woman this morning separately and they both told me the same thing. They met at a truck stop (she is also a truck driver) and exchanged numbers. She doesn't live in out state and haven't seen each other since they met, but talk for several hours each day w...	Powerless	12	810	Mar 31, 2006 by hudsond
	I need help connection (Preview) Does anyone know how I can get connected to the chat room? My computer crashed last week and I've no been able to get in since then. This is what comes up. Any suggestion? Connecting...unable to connect: com.ms.security.SecurityExceptionEx: cannot connect to "irc mipcha...	SerenityGirl	2	363	Mar 31, 2006 by Jeannie
	Another woman (Preview) I woke up this morning and checked my husband's cell phone. I was being nosy. I found a bunch of texts from another woman. I called the number and spoke with the woman. We have the same name, imagine that. He met her at a truck stop on his way through Georgia. They h...	Powerless	22	754	Mar 31, 2006 by northstar
	no time to think (Preview) i have not posted in a while. the truth is that i have not had time to sit down, think about what is wrong, and get upset about it. i have kept busy. but i had a free moment yesturday and thought about my dad. i just found out that my dad went out of town. we still are not speaking, so i found out from my brother t...	flintfeet	7	387	Mar 31, 2006 by Gailey
	Newbie online and in general (Preview) Hi all, So, 2 months ago I discovered that my husband was addicted to cocaine. After 8 weeks of more emotions than this one girl can endure I am looking for anyone who can help me make sense of this hell. We have been married for almost 9 years and have 2 beautiful daughters, wonderful fami...	robyn76	8	386	Mar 31, 2006 by robyn76
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