Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Cilla · Cilla

Its been a very perplexing couple of years in dealing wth yet another view of the affects of the disease of alcoholism within the family. It has been four years since my ah and I have separated yet during the course of that time our 13 yo son has picked up where his father has left off. Even arm...

jaja · jaja

He started this past Friday late afternoon an hour after he told me he was feeling sick, couldn't eat dinner with me and daughter, and was going to go home to his place to lay down. And he said his phone wouldn't be on that night because it needed to b...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Friends))) No sugar coating it, my weekend was aweful. Just when I begin to feel secure in my relationship and homelife, my AH turns into a raving lunatic!! This weekend he spent most of the weekend bashing me because he's sick and tired of me talking down to him, talking to...

Gailey · Gailey

I have felt very controlling the last couple of days. I want the people in my life to make the decisions that I want for them. I want to control how they spend their money and what they do with their day. It is very hard to take care of me when I am still trying to control issues that are not mine to control....

maresie2 · maresie2

The A's mother paid a visit. As some of you will recall I had a lot of feelings around her up and running off in a marriage. The A spent days cleaning and organizing and gearing up for her visit. I did very little in terms of talking to him about it. I used to totally obsess about her and ef...

babysteps · babysteps

This is such a great place for us to learn how to handle life and work on our own self-improvement. Sometimes, however, I find it hard to remember all of the tools we have at our disposal thanks to this program. This is especially important for newcomers who don't know much about al-anon. I thought it wou...

alora_red · alora_red

Hi Everyone

I need some......stories. I know people try not to give advice, so I was wondering if any people here could tell me about their experiences living with their A's and some things they did to cope, or "live with it". I'm specificlly talking about when they've gone drinking....what did...

serendipity · serendipity

the details: my dad died in may. his house has been on the market since june. his friend/excutor has been living there and taking care of it before and since dad died. i am renting a little house and my lease is up in march. so my dad's friend has suggested that the kids and i move in there and he'll move out. b...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, He showed right back up about 25 minutes later, claimining that he was trying to help me deal with a nosy, snoopy neighbor who I really don't want in my house. I would not have let her in anyway, but she was acting like some kind of crackhead--strange. Charlie really does love me, but when he showed b...

fluffy · fluffy

I am back now, but as fluffy. I have family members that may run across this site and know my other name. This was not a problem before. They will not notice if they see the name fluffy. I changed my name so they don't run across my posts that are from my heart and very open. If you w...

jewely · jewely

he has been gone for days........................, and, i find my mind slipping back into old thought patterns. where is he? is he okay? in jail? got his own place? out at the campround? the other morning, it was thirty below zero. when i went out to start my vehicle the stingi...

lmt123 · lmt123

Just curious what you were just wondering...your post titled "was just wondering" doesn't have any text in it.

Kathi

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

babysteps · babysteps

Hi - I read and reply a lot, but don't start new threads often. This situation has me stumped, however. My AH went to rehab a year and a half ago. For a few months prior to going he turned yellow, his liver function tests were off the chart (in the 400's when they should be in the 40's), he was anemic due to maln...

doxie · doxie

I am in my new state/town. I just needed to touch base with someone, something familiar. It is so comforting to be able to come here and get that. It is wonderful to be with hubby again. I did miss him. I don't like being away from my boys though. But they are all on their own for a long time now and they nee...

snoopy · snoopy

I just read some information about Bill W. Frankly, I was shocked that he would do the things he did even after sobering up. What's your take on this? Do you think it is even true? He is held up as some sort of a pagan god when it sounds like he was a womanizing creep.

barisax · barisax

One of the best things to me about having a program is that no matter what is going on in my life, good, bad, or just another day, I always have someone I can talk to about it. Not looking for advice, but someone who can listen, and more importantly so I can hear myself saying what is on my mind. Of...

benedetta · benedetta

There are certain "veteran" members out there and there are very few of them, so please don't take offense to this if this doesn't apply to you. Certain people who've made mistake after mistake and have learned to twist and turn the principles of the program to fit their situation and make it okay inste...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

OMG it's been a weekend...But I want to talk to you anyway, so here goes. I swore when I left Wittenberg behind me I was gonna have a whole new life, a whole new being, a whole new thinking. A whole new...yeah. That idea? hasn't panned out. I'm finding out the more "writing intensiv...

bev · bev

he decided yesterday,that he wanted to go to rehab,but he had to get drunk first before going..he says that is the only way he can into detox is if he is drunk..him going into rehab is going to make moving back north a little harder,cause now i have a whole house to pack and figure out where i am going to put h...

hudsond · hudsond

O.k. for those who know a little of my history--you are going to say "not again", but it seems yes again. I have taken a pregnancy test and it would appear- I am yet again! I need prayers please that I can handle whatever comes. I doubt this one will "come to fruitition" I'm sorry I do...

Gailey · Gailey

I have changed my" post by" at the bottom of the page to "last modofied" but it keeps going back to "start date". Am I doing something wrong? When I click on a post to read, I have to start at the bottom where the original post is. Thanks for help in advance...Gail

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I was away for the weekend working on some things for my new living arrangements. When I came home yesterday I found bail papers on the kitchen counter, seems my A went to jail was bailed out and went back again all in one night. I've been praying for this to happen since I learned of t...

marty · marty

I have a problem with a women friends i told her to day that i need to break away from her on the phone i told her i love her but she says she dont love me,i have push my feeling for her to the back of my head more times than you can count but it builds up and drive me nuts about, in the past i have post...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

I used to see all the new posts sorted to the top...now it seems each post is "locked" in the order it was orignally started, regardless of when any replies were added. I kinda liked to see the new posts sorted to the top. I've dug around for a setting, but can't seem to find it. Has someth...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

It is 4:49 am, and I am just now calming down. I woke up and was the most major "Oscar the Grouch" to my A and life itself. I just bitched and whined. I don't know why. I just went off.. I am feeling tired. My body hurts and I know I need to get to the doctor but I have no way to get there. Maybe mom or dad will take me t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

HI....It's that time of year. I am a SAD sufferer and married to a now sober alcoholic. Anyway, there is a new book released in 2005 by Dr. Norman Rosenthal on Seasonal Affective Disorder. www.normanrosenthal.com I was able to check one...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((Friends))))))))), Today is a meloncollie type of day for me....just can't seem to shake it....I am still really liking my job...kids seem to be getting better.....zach has even been getting out of the house and started weight lifting at school again...so happy about that..... the chi...

lmt123 · lmt123

Ok, so I thought I was going nutso when I replied to someone's post, and it posted as if they replied to mine...go figure...

Then I read a post and started seeing that it is happening to everyone else! Yayyyyy!!!!! I've not lost my mind AFTER ALL!

...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Why do I do it to myself? On Saturday night I went out with a girl friend and her boyfriend, to catch up and listen to some good live music. I had been waiting to hear from my A just before I left home to tell him that I was sorry for the way I had reacted to him that morning and that I wanted to give things...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello everyone, I haven't posted for a while. I like to be able to share good stuff and the problems too, so first of all, I would like to give you all a little gift before I get into my topic: Maybe writing this can help me too: This is for today, Jan, 14, and I am rewrting it some to not break copywright...

why · why

I AM SO CODEPENDANT THAT I JUST WANT TO SCREAM! I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING BUT I CANT ALWAYS CHANGE MY REACTIONS. MY HUSBAND IS OR WAS LIKE HE SAYS ADDICTED TO SEX. HE WAS FIANLLY AFTER YEARS OF THIS GOING ON AND GOING THROUGH SO MUCH THERAPY HE FINALLY HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED BI-POLAR. I AM EXHAUSTED AND LOST. I WENT T...

confused · confused

Just a question... i understand now that the information posted on this board is put out there into cyberspace. I guess I never really thought much about it, but yeah, it does make sense. My question is...and forgive my ignorance, but... Is all that is said in chat available as easily???...

bev · bev

well he is home,how he got out of paying a bond i dont know,first thing he said when he walked in was im sorry,i didnt say anything..he went in the bedroom..i went in awhile later and asked him if he still had the watch{it cost 300.00 ayear ago,and wanted to make sure he didnt pawn it}he still had it,but rem...

Rita G · Rita G

Yesterday, a good family friends laid to rest two sons - Q. 23 yrs old & C. 30 yrs old - Q. overdosed on Friday night and then while the family was preparing to attend the services, they were notified that C. had done the same thing. Now only God knows if either was intention or accident...

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

I think for the first time in my 47 years I'm realizing it's not my job to save the world, what a relief!! All kidding aside, I am seeing that in leaving my AH I am seeing hope in my own future and excited about living a life of truth, serenity and faith. I know I have a lot of work ahead of me and it isn't going to b...

Fifi · Fifi

Hi all Just wanted to share what made my day today. My 6 year old daughter was showing me her schoolwork folder and in it was something she had written at school....she is learning to write by herself and sounds out the words without asking for help...those of you with kids probably remember th...

Klynn · Klynn

I have not been on the past few days!! I came to realize somethings and I can smile now!! I guess it could be considered an awakening!?!? I was given a book at my first f2f by a member who I think felt really bad for me cause I cried....OK balled the whole time!! I was ment to go there and he was ment to give me the...

leo · leo

I feel I have to respond to both John and Isabela about the topic that is being pursued at the moment. The word FEAR is paramount here it is what brought Isabela to write her post in the first place. Was she naive NO, probably the same as the rest of us just feeling very vulnerable and wo...

Diva · Diva

I certainly did. "They" say that the two top resolutions are lose weight and quit smoking. Well, since I am very slim and do not smoke, I thought of something else. So far I am sticking to my resolution like glue. Here it is...DON'T BE PUSHED AROUND BY ANYONE ANYMORE!!! My A doesn't push me aroun...

Christy · Christy

This last ice storm killed my tree!! whaaaaa Hosted on Fotki [URL=http...

sandie123 · sandie123

My thinking has gone totally astray. I want to know too much, need to know it all. By this thinking I have stopped thinking at all. I've struggled with a HP. I am now at a point where I really don't know what spirituality is or what a spriitual journey is. I can understand that a spiritual journey means that...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

"...And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is suppos...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just had a phone conversation with a sponsee who's alcoholic is near terminal. He is feeling lonely, helpless and lots (but not all) the things I used to feel when I was new to Al-Anon. He has chosen to hang on and be supportive to his alcoholic while they ride the roller coaster together an...

snoopy · snoopy

isabela40 wrote: The research I have done has shown that many many people turn to other addictions to solve the initial addiction. That is why many many people in AA are some serious smokers, including Bill W. who was a severe chain smoker. That is also why "13th steppin" is notori...

bev · bev

just got a call from AH,he called from jail they got him on dui or dwi not sure which,he goes brian{son in law}called the cops and they got me,he is blaming son in law..i told him that it isnt his fault or mine or my daughters,it is his fault..he said well i dont need to hear this right now that i have other thi...

snoopy · snoopy

I have come to the conclusion that I have an addiction also. I am addicted to Loren. And, believe me, that addiction is just as dangerous and deadly as if it were meth. People die of broken hearts, sometimes looking like a natural death, and sometimes it is not a natural death. But make no mistake, it is...

Fifi · Fifi

so tonight i am at the bottom of the barrel....no place lower to go. i feel like i am unlovable and there is no possibility for anyone to see the real me and be able to stand it. i lost a 15 yr relationship/10 yr marriage....i know it always takes two but i think it was my lack of strength,codependency, l...

jewely · jewely

i have had some kind of a major slip or a break of some sort or something. i am feeling afraid and vulnerable. all i can think of is step 2......, "came to believe in a power GREATER than ourselves [myself] that could restore us [me] to sanity" jewely

benedetta · benedetta

I am so out of touch of what is right/wrong anymore. So sick of everyone's advice. Sick of being sick and tired. I am sick of being a doormat. I am sick of coping with day to day life. I am sick of needy people who can't cope with everyday life and extremely sick of know it all's. Sick of the passive-aggressiv...

bev · bev

my daughter and son in law just got back from the store,they said that the store down the road has about 4 cop cars sitting there{prolly waiting for drunk drivers}my AH has to go right by that store to come home,they just left to go back to that store to tell the cops about my AH OUT somewhere drinking and wi...

cwheel · cwheel

I'm probably covering much of the same ground other posts have covered, but from what I've read on the message board, it doesn't seem like anyone minds that too much, so I'm going to tell my story, with the hope that the writing of it helps bring me out of the numb, dead feeling I have much of the time, and th...

bev · bev

it is now midnite and he isnt home yet,he started drinking very early this morning{10am}my daughter and i left to go set up for a yard sale that we were having that was down the road at a friends car sale busniness,around 1;30 he shows up and nocticed that his bike helmet was gone wanted to know wher...

bev · bev

i am finally making changes to my life,my daughter and her family r moving back to ny in a few weeks,and im moving back with them..i need to get as many miles between me and the AH as i can..his drinking is getting worse,and the verbal abuse is getting worse by each passing weekend..since i decided to move...

lmw · lmw

You may recall my husband was arrested for DUI on 12/30. He hit another car, and a telephone pole, then made it back to our house, where he was arrested. This is his 3rd in the last 4 years, 4th lifetime. I was pretty sure he was going to jail. I am now solely responsible for suppo...

bev · bev

he asked again tonite if i would buy him a circuler saw for him i said no,he has had 2 since last feb,and i told him i am not going to go and spend 150.00 on another one cuase he dont know how to take care of it..he got mad,he said fine i will take my pay checkand and go buy one, i said go ahead,like i told you...

gardengal · gardengal

Clearly a loved ones sobriety does not solve all our problems ,,,,nor does physical separation, or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by this family disease. In short, the effects of alcoholism---------- obs...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Ok, I don't do a lot of post but i do repley to others post....... I am in a place rightnow that I feel scared..... When I was working my program I felt really good until I got to step 9 about making amends now when I went over my list with my Sponsor I felt really good like a new person when I got done... Bu...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Tiger and BlueCloud have inspired me to explore how well I am dealing with what is acceptable to me. Then I ran across the mySpace page for a friend of mine because I lost track of his phone number. (You lose touch with folks when you bury your head in your A-spouses sa...

kerry5 · kerry5

Agenda for Sunday January 14th 2006 Group Business Meeting at 9pm est Old Business Newcomers Meeting SChedule New Business Mipathon Mip Donations If any of you have any new business to be added please let me know or reply to this post thanks kerry

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Insights (Preview) Its been a very perplexing couple of years in dealing wth yet another view of the affects of the disease of alcoholism within the family. It has been four years since my ah and I have separated yet during the course of that time our 13 yo son has picked up where his father has left off. Even arm...	Cilla	2	276	Jan 17, 2007 by fluffy
	he's drinking again and I slipped,too (Preview) He started this past Friday late afternoon an hour after he told me he was feeling sick, couldn't eat dinner with me and daughter, and was going to go home to his place to lay down. And he said his phone wouldn't be on that night because it needed to b...	jaja	7	417	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	Had a terrible weekend (Preview) (((Hello MIP Friends))) No sugar coating it, my weekend was aweful. Just when I begin to feel secure in my relationship and homelife, my AH turns into a raving lunatic!! This weekend he spent most of the weekend bashing me because he's sick and tired of me talking down to him, talking to...	twinmom2	6	415	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	controlling others decisions (Preview) I have felt very controlling the last couple of days. I want the people in my life to make the decisions that I want for them. I want to control how they spend their money and what they do with their day. It is very hard to take care of me when I am still trying to control issues that are not mine to control....	Gailey	3	391	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	Progress not perfection (Preview) The A's mother paid a visit. As some of you will recall I had a lot of feelings around her up and running off in a marriage. The A spent days cleaning and organizing and gearing up for her visit. I did very little in terms of talking to him about it. I used to totally obsess about her and ef...	maresie2	3	358	Jan 17, 2007 by hersh
	What tools do you use? (Preview) This is such a great place for us to learn how to handle life and work on our own self-improvement. Sometimes, however, I find it hard to remember all of the tools we have at our disposal thanks to this program. This is especially important for newcomers who don't know much about al-anon. I thought it wou...	babysteps	8	575	Jan 17, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Moving (With my A) and he's feeling the itch (Preview) Hi Everyone I need some......stories. I know people try not to give advice, so I was wondering if any people here could tell me about their experiences living with their A's and some things they did to cope, or "live with it". I'm specificlly talking about when they've gone drinking....what did...	alora_red	4	343	Jan 17, 2007 by carolinagirl
	decisions (Preview) the details: my dad died in may. his house has been on the market since june. his friend/excutor has been living there and taking care of it before and since dad died. i am renting a little house and my lease is up in march. so my dad's friend has suggested that the kids and i move in there and he'll move out. b...	serendipity	5	277	Jan 17, 2007 by autumn
	Chaotic twist to my A leaving which I thought was for good (Preview) Well, He showed right back up about 25 minutes later, claimining that he was trying to help me deal with a nosy, snoopy neighbor who I really don't want in my house. I would not have let her in anyway, but she was acting like some kind of crackhead--strange. Charlie really does love me, but when he showed b...	hippietrippiechick	13	550	Jan 17, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Alot of you know me :) (Preview) I am back now, but as fluffy. I have family members that may run across this site and know my other name. This was not a problem before. They will not notice if they see the name fluffy. I changed my name so they don't run across my posts that are from my heart and very open. If you w...	fluffy	13	477	Jan 17, 2007 by fluffy
	he has been gone for days (Preview) he has been gone for days........................, and, i find my mind slipping back into old thought patterns. where is he? is he okay? in jail? got his own place? out at the campround? the other morning, it was thirty below zero. when i went out to start my vehicle the stingi...	jewely	4	544	Jan 17, 2007 by jewely
	TO HIPPIETRIPPIECHICK... (Preview) Just curious what you were just wondering...your post titled "was just wondering" doesn't have any text in it. Kathi	lmt123	0	246	Jan 16, 2007 by lmt123
	WAS JUST WONDERING..... (Preview)	hippietrippiechick	0	251	Jan 16, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	ESH? (Preview) Hi - I read and reply a lot, but don't start new threads often. This situation has me stumped, however. My AH went to rehab a year and a half ago. For a few months prior to going he turned yellow, his liver function tests were off the chart (in the 400's when they should be in the 40's), he was anemic due to maln...	babysteps	7	355	Jan 16, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Just needed familiar faces (Preview) I am in my new state/town. I just needed to touch base with someone, something familiar. It is so comforting to be able to come here and get that. It is wonderful to be with hubby again. I did miss him. I don't like being away from my boys though. But they are all on their own for a long time now and they nee...	doxie	10	359	Jan 16, 2007 by doxie
	Bill W, saint or creep (Preview) I just read some information about Bill W. Frankly, I was shocked that he would do the things he did even after sobering up. What's your take on this? Do you think it is even true? He is held up as some sort of a pagan god when it sounds like he was a womanizing creep.	snoopy	30	7039	Jan 16, 2007 by snoopy
	Tools and Talk (Preview) One of the best things to me about having a program is that no matter what is going on in my life, good, bad, or just another day, I always have someone I can talk to about it. Not looking for advice, but someone who can listen, and more importantly so I can hear myself saying what is on my mind. Of...	barisax	3	361	Jan 16, 2007 by maresie2
	Those with a "strong" program (Preview) There are certain "veteran" members out there and there are very few of them, so please don't take offense to this if this doesn't apply to you. Certain people who've made mistake after mistake and have learned to twist and turn the principles of the program to fit their situation and make it okay inste...	benedetta	14	884	Jan 16, 2007 by aunitedway
	So, it'll be interesting to see how THIS posts.... (Preview) OMG it's been a weekend...But I want to talk to you anyway, so here goes. I swore when I left Wittenberg behind me I was gonna have a whole new life, a whole new being, a whole new thinking. A whole new...yeah. That idea? hasn't panned out. I'm finding out the more "writing intensiv...	Tiger2006	8	509	Jan 16, 2007 by Tiger2006
	went to rehab (Preview) he decided yesterday,that he wanted to go to rehab,but he had to get drunk first before going..he says that is the only way he can into detox is if he is drunk..him going into rehab is going to make moving back north a little harder,cause now i have a whole house to pack and figure out where i am going to put h...	bev	4	451	Jan 16, 2007 by lin0606
	Oh my--prayers please! (Preview) O.k. for those who know a little of my history--you are going to say "not again", but it seems yes again. I have taken a pregnancy test and it would appear- I am yet again! I need prayers please that I can handle whatever comes. I doubt this one will "come to fruitition" I'm sorry I do...	hudsond	7	304	Jan 16, 2007 by hudsond
	reading posts from last to first (Preview) I have changed my" post by" at the bottom of the page to "last modofied" but it keeps going back to "start date". Am I doing something wrong? When I click on a post to read, I have to start at the bottom where the original post is. Thanks for help in advance...Gail	Gailey	3	281	Jan 16, 2007 by hudsond
	My prayer is answered and it hurts so bad (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I was away for the weekend working on some things for my new living arrangements. When I came home yesterday I found bail papers on the kitchen counter, seems my A went to jail was bailed out and went back again all in one night. I've been praying for this to happen since I learned of t...	Jennifer	6	488	Jan 16, 2007 by carosie
	trying to let go of a friend (Preview) I have a problem with a women friends i told her to day that i need to break away from her on the phone i told her i love her but she says she dont love me,i have push my feeling for her to the back of my head more times than you can count but it builds up and drive me nuts about, in the past i have post...	marty	1	337	Jan 16, 2007 by lin0606
	Quick and easy questions about this board (I think!) (Preview) I used to see all the new posts sorted to the top...now it seems each post is "locked" in the order it was orignally started, regardless of when any replies were added. I kinda liked to see the new posts sorted to the top. I've dug around for a setting, but can't seem to find it. Has someth...	DebiDeb	10	562	Jan 16, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	woke up middle of night and had a major outburst--no reason (Preview) It is 4:49 am, and I am just now calming down. I woke up and was the most major "Oscar the Grouch" to my A and life itself. I just bitched and whined. I don't know why. I just went off.. I am feeling tired. My body hurts and I know I need to get to the doctor but I have no way to get there. Maybe mom or dad will take me t...	hippietrippiechick	1	260	Jan 16, 2007 by fluffy
	SAD/Seas. Affective Disorder/ Mood DIsorders (Preview) HI....It's that time of year. I am a SAD sufferer and married to a now sober alcoholic. Anyway, there is a new book released in 2005 by Dr. Norman Rosenthal on Seasonal Affective Disorder. www.normanrosenthal.com I was able to check one...	wallsal55	2	280	Jan 16, 2007 by fluffy
	Reflecting, Smelling the Roses (Preview) (((((((Friends))))))))), Today is a meloncollie type of day for me....just can't seem to shake it....I am still really liking my job...kids seem to be getting better.....zach has even been getting out of the house and started weight lifting at school again...so happy about that..... the chi...	Andrea12	6	331	Jan 16, 2007 by mel123
	LOLOLOLOL...... (Preview) Ok, so I thought I was going nutso when I replied to someone's post, and it posted as if they replied to mine...go figure... Then I read a post and started seeing that it is happening to everyone else! Yayyyyy!!!!! I've not lost my mind AFTER ALL! ...	lmt123	3	316	Jan 16, 2007 by Christy
	Backsliding (Preview) Why do I do it to myself? On Saturday night I went out with a girl friend and her boyfriend, to catch up and listen to some good live music. I had been waiting to hear from my A just before I left home to tell him that I was sorry for the way I had reacted to him that morning and that I wanted to give things...	mama_nz	4	302	Jan 15, 2007 by Fifi
	My A wants to have a talk-- I just want to to alone (Preview) Hello everyone, I haven't posted for a while. I like to be able to share good stuff and the problems too, so first of all, I would like to give you all a little gift before I get into my topic: Maybe writing this can help me too: This is for today, Jan, 14, and I am rewrting it some to not break copywright...	hippietrippiechick	7	386	Jan 15, 2007 by tea2
	NEWBIE: I AM SO CONFUSED... (Preview) I AM SO CODEPENDANT THAT I JUST WANT TO SCREAM! I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING BUT I CANT ALWAYS CHANGE MY REACTIONS. MY HUSBAND IS OR WAS LIKE HE SAYS ADDICTED TO SEX. HE WAS FIANLLY AFTER YEARS OF THIS GOING ON AND GOING THROUGH SO MUCH THERAPY HE FINALLY HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED BI-POLAR. I AM EXHAUSTED AND LOST. I WENT T...	why	4	279	Jan 15, 2007 by why
	question about site and what actually "goes out there" (Preview) Just a question... i understand now that the information posted on this board is put out there into cyberspace. I guess I never really thought much about it, but yeah, it does make sense. My question is...and forgive my ignorance, but... Is all that is said in chat available as easily???...	confused	2	414	Jan 15, 2007 by confused
	he is home (Preview) well he is home,how he got out of paying a bond i dont know,first thing he said when he walked in was im sorry,i didnt say anything..he went in the bedroom..i went in awhile later and asked him if he still had the watch{it cost 300.00 ayear ago,and wanted to make sure he didnt pawn it}he still had it,but rem...	bev	5	302	Jan 15, 2007 by jaja
	The disease takes two more (Preview) Yesterday, a good family friends laid to rest two sons - Q. 23 yrs old & C. 30 yrs old - Q. overdosed on Friday night and then while the family was preparing to attend the services, they were notified that C. had done the same thing. Now only God knows if either was intention or accident...	Rita G	13	526	Jan 15, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Coming out of the codependent cloud (Preview) I think for the first time in my 47 years I'm realizing it's not my job to save the world, what a relief!! All kidding aside, I am seeing that in leaving my AH I am seeing hope in my own future and excited about living a life of truth, serenity and faith. I know I have a lot of work ahead of me and it isn't going to b...	tryingtoheal	7	441	Jan 15, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	6 year old self love (Preview) Hi all Just wanted to share what made my day today. My 6 year old daughter was showing me her schoolwork folder and in it was something she had written at school....she is learning to write by herself and sounds out the words without asking for help...those of you with kids probably remember th...	Fifi	5	258	Jan 15, 2007 by Fifi
	an update!! (Preview) I have not been on the past few days!! I came to realize somethings and I can smile now!! I guess it could be considered an awakening!?!? I was given a book at my first f2f by a member who I think felt really bad for me cause I cried....OK balled the whole time!! I was ment to go there and he was ment to give me the...	Klynn	3	268	Jan 15, 2007 by carosie
	Fear (Preview) I feel I have to respond to both John and Isabela about the topic that is being pursued at the moment. The word FEAR is paramount here it is what brought Isabela to write her post in the first place. Was she naive NO, probably the same as the rest of us just feeling very vulnerable and wo...	leo	1	359	Jan 15, 2007 by leo
	Did you make a New Year's Resolution? (Preview) I certainly did. "They" say that the two top resolutions are lose weight and quit smoking. Well, since I am very slim and do not smoke, I thought of something else. So far I am sticking to my resolution like glue. Here it is...DON'T BE PUSHED AROUND BY ANYONE ANYMORE!!! My A doesn't push me aroun...	Diva	8	378	Jan 15, 2007 by gardengal
	Yeesh!!!! my poor tree (Preview) This last ice storm killed my tree!! whaaaaa Hosted on Fotki [URL=http...	Christy	12	482	Jan 15, 2007 by gardengal
	Spirituality and Spiritual Journey~ Help Needed! (Preview) My thinking has gone totally astray. I want to know too much, need to know it all. By this thinking I have stopped thinking at all. I've struggled with a HP. I am now at a point where I really don't know what spirituality is or what a spriitual journey is. I can understand that a spiritual journey means that...	sandie123	7	536	Jan 15, 2007 by leo
	"....And acceptence is the answer to all of my problems today..." (Preview) "...And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is suppos...	Tiger2006	3	414	Jan 15, 2007 by John
	A miracle in progress (Preview) Just had a phone conversation with a sponsee who's alcoholic is near terminal. He is feeling lonely, helpless and lots (but not all) the things I used to feel when I was new to Al-Anon. He has chosen to hang on and be supportive to his alcoholic while they ride the roller coaster together an...	Jerry F	3	1895	Jan 15, 2007 by nmike
	Trading one addiction for another (Preview) isabela40 wrote: The research I have done has shown that many many people turn to other addictions to solve the initial addiction. That is why many many people in AA are some serious smokers, including Bill W. who was a severe chain smoker. That is also why "13th steppin" is notori...	snoopy	9	1360	Jan 15, 2007 by Cucamonga
	he is in jail (Preview) just got a call from AH,he called from jail they got him on dui or dwi not sure which,he goes brian{son in law}called the cops and they got me,he is blaming son in law..i told him that it isnt his fault or mine or my daughters,it is his fault..he said well i dont need to hear this right now that i have other thi...	bev	5	430	Jan 15, 2007 by lin0606
	addicted to my husband (Preview) I have come to the conclusion that I have an addiction also. I am addicted to Loren. And, believe me, that addiction is just as dangerous and deadly as if it were meth. People die of broken hearts, sometimes looking like a natural death, and sometimes it is not a natural death. But make no mistake, it is...	snoopy	10	419	Jan 14, 2007 by Klynn
	can't do it (Preview) so tonight i am at the bottom of the barrel....no place lower to go. i feel like i am unlovable and there is no possibility for anyone to see the real me and be able to stand it. i lost a 15 yr relationship/10 yr marriage....i know it always takes two but i think it was my lack of strength,codependency, l...	Fifi	7	453	Jan 14, 2007 by Klynn
	i have had a major slip or......... something (Preview) i have had some kind of a major slip or a break of some sort or something. i am feeling afraid and vulnerable. all i can think of is step 2......, "came to believe in a power GREATER than ourselves [myself] that could restore us [me] to sanity" jewely	jewely	3	264	Jan 14, 2007 by jewely
	Sick and tired (Preview) I am so out of touch of what is right/wrong anymore. So sick of everyone's advice. Sick of being sick and tired. I am sick of being a doormat. I am sick of coping with day to day life. I am sick of needy people who can't cope with everyday life and extremely sick of know it all's. Sick of the passive-aggressiv...	benedetta	4	285	Jan 14, 2007 by cwheel
	something else (Preview) my daughter and son in law just got back from the store,they said that the store down the road has about 4 cop cars sitting there{prolly waiting for drunk drivers}my AH has to go right by that store to come home,they just left to go back to that store to tell the cops about my AH OUT somewhere drinking and wi...	bev	1	224	Jan 14, 2007 by cwheel
	New here, but with old theme (Preview) I'm probably covering much of the same ground other posts have covered, but from what I've read on the message board, it doesn't seem like anyone minds that too much, so I'm going to tell my story, with the hope that the writing of it helps bring me out of the numb, dead feeling I have much of the time, and th...	cwheel	10	463	Jan 14, 2007 by cwheel
	he went the bar at 3 this afternoon (Preview) it is now midnite and he isnt home yet,he started drinking very early this morning{10am}my daughter and i left to go set up for a yard sale that we were having that was down the road at a friends car sale busniness,around 1;30 he shows up and nocticed that his bike helmet was gone wanted to know wher...	bev	0	278	Jan 14, 2007 by bev
	making changes (Preview) i am finally making changes to my life,my daughter and her family r moving back to ny in a few weeks,and im moving back with them..i need to get as many miles between me and the AH as i can..his drinking is getting worse,and the verbal abuse is getting worse by each passing weekend..since i decided to move...	bev	6	261	Jan 13, 2007 by peewee
	HP works in mysterious ways (Preview) You may recall my husband was arrested for DUI on 12/30. He hit another car, and a telephone pole, then made it back to our house, where he was arrested. This is his 3rd in the last 4 years, 4th lifetime. I was pretty sure he was going to jail. I am now solely responsible for suppo...	lmw	5	386	Jan 13, 2007 by peewee
	again he asked if i could buy him a new saw (Preview) he asked again tonite if i would buy him a circuler saw for him i said no,he has had 2 since last feb,and i told him i am not going to go and spend 150.00 on another one cuase he dont know how to take care of it..he got mad,he said fine i will take my pay checkand and go buy one, i said go ahead,like i told you...	bev	3	255	Jan 13, 2007 by debilyn
	Seeking solutions for ourselves (Preview) Clearly a loved ones sobriety does not solve all our problems ,,,,nor does physical separation, or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by this family disease. In short, the effects of alcoholism---------- obs...	gardengal	2	277	Jan 13, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Question of can you fall out of love with yourself???? (Preview) Ok, I don't do a lot of post but i do repley to others post....... I am in a place rightnow that I feel scared..... When I was working my program I felt really good until I got to step 9 about making amends now when I went over my list with my Sponsor I felt really good like a new person when I got done... Bu...	bubbles1990	3	302	Jan 13, 2007 by drucilla06
	Happiness isn't a goal... its a choice! (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Tiger and BlueCloud have inspired me to explore how well I am dealing with what is acceptable to me. Then I ran across the mySpace page for a friend of mine because I lost track of his phone number. (You lose touch with folks when you bury your head in your A-spouses sa...	rtexas	7	407	Jan 13, 2007 by aunitedway
	Business Meeting Agenda For Sunday JAnuary 14 (Preview) Agenda for Sunday January 14th 2006 Group Business Meeting at 9pm est Old Business Newcomers Meeting SChedule New Business Mipathon Mip Donations If any of you have any new business to be added please let me know or reply to this post thanks kerry	kerry5	0	245	Jan 13, 2007 by kerry5
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