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He is doing great today. The drug is really helping, he seems much more better then today. The doctor will be called if he gets worse. But right now he is doing great. YOu would never know he was withdrawing. The med he is on is supposed to help the withdraw it says it in the brochure. The name of the drug suboxone it working great. I am watching him and he don't seem to be acting wied i been every min with him.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
As you know I find myself very concerned about you.
In my experience, to be so involved in A's personal journey would only end in heartbreak for me.
I learned that when he seemed the most ok, was when he was on heroin. Thought I was with him every moment, no way could he have used.
They know what they are doing, they are protecting the most important thing to them, drugs. Mine had it hid all over. I did not follow him into the bathroom. I was asleep sometimes.
I had to let go. The ups and downs were his not mine.
Makes me concerned for you to be monitoring his disease. But that is your journey. He will be an addict forever. Maybe not using at times, but an addict. He will relapse and go thru all kinds of things we do not relate to.
Part of the high is deception, being mischevious, and getting away with it. Does not mean they don't want to stop. They can tell you to get some as they are out, but they have a stash somewhere else. Plus now they have more.
Just my experience. I have been where you are. I knew with most A's, unless they get to meetings, they are trying to use their own power. Stopping the drug is just the beginning. Using is only a symptom of the problem.
A's like/need to change their reality, they manipulate, they pitty pot, they lie. They always think of themselves first. I am talking an A not on a program.
On a program they retrain themselves to be who they want to be, at the same time staying away from what they love most in the world, their drugs.
so what are you doing for you? How are you taking care of you? How are you feeling? Are you eating well? Getting out? Did the doctor talk to you and how to help yourself?
When an A "shares" their disease with their loved one, they are using them. They use us in ways we never even know. When we allow this, we are enabling them.
If they keep us close, they think they can fool us, and they usually do. For awhile anyway.
But we who love our A's learn at our own pace, we get hurt and then we grow some more. The rest of us are here for each other no matter what, no matter where YOU are in YOUR recovery. We love you, we see where we used to be.
