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CalamityJane · CalamityJane

Hi Again!!! I am living with my 2 alcoholic parents. I am in my mid twenties and can't afford to move out of home yet as saving for a deposit for a house. Both my parents have good jobs. they are both professionals. My father has never been involved in home finances. He just earns his money and spends what he...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm learning the hard way today what a total downer lack of sleep is on my ability to approach my day with a good and positive attitude and outlook. I've switched my schedule around so that I'm waking up earlier now to get my daily exercise in. Al-anon meeting schedules after work and various other pos...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Hi all, just a question. It seems to me that the best people in the world associate with al-anon, right? So, it might be perfectly natural for an al-anoner to date another al-anoner, right? Yet, when I think of this, I feel a conflict of interest, somehow. Like dating someone you work with, in your job- i...

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

I'm glad I have been reading up on this board (I have yet to attend a f2f) as I had to confront my AH tonight. He asked me what was bothering me and so I told him. I'm proud of myself that I didn't get angry nor did I cry. I just stated the facts--What I found, where I found it and why it made me unhappy. He denie...

maresie · maresie

One of my charactor traits is to be naive, too trusting, and then be bitterly disappointed. Recently one of my newer housemates was social with me. She suggested that she could help me out with my dogs as they seem to like her. I was enthused but cautious. This person is in recovery and I was happy to hea...

Christy · Christy

Have you ever wondered what one person can do? Here's your answer. http://www. earthhour. org On 31 March 2007, 2.2 million people and 2100 Sydney businesses turned off their lights for one hour - Earth Hour. This massive collective effort reduced Sydney's energy consumption by 10.2% for one hour...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I went to the attorney's office with the money and paid for the 3 typed pages that I could have done myself in five minutes. Of course I questioned myself and wanted to make SURE it was right. I wish I had more confidence in my abilities! So, he is filing the papers today, probably already done and my hu...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

My daughter has just telephoned to say that my xfather-in-law is dying and that they are just awaiting the news of his passing. Some years ago my father-in-law blamed me for his son's alcoholism and wrote me a terrible letter calling me a whore and much, much more. He quoted a passage from Jerimah 17, a...

MrsF · MrsF

Hi, I am not sure that I am in the right place, as I understand this is a forum for people living with loved ones that are alcoholics but I would like to share my story anyway. I have been married now for 10 years. Looking back now, my husband has always had an addictive personality. Before we got married...

serendipity · serendipity

I found the bracelet. It was under clean laundry on the other side of my bed, on the floor. Beats me how it got there, but I am so happy to have found it! No drama, no poilce, no having to engage on any level with the ex. YEA!! I had a girl come today to look at my room for rent. And I was nervous as I knew she was qui...

serendipity · serendipity

My 9 yr old woke me up this morning saying "Julia's mom said she saw dad in the paper the other day." Oh God, I thought I was going to get away with not having to explain this to the kids. So, I told her to give me a minute. And I said a prayer for God to let the right words come out of my mouth. These ki...

CalamityJane · CalamityJane

My A father is on a 2 week Easter Holiday (he is a teacher). He wants to be out by noon every day on the holiday season drinking however, as my parents don't get paid until Friday (tomorrow) there is no money for him to do this so he has been really abusive once again and stormed off to bed in a huff!! Mum is real...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello All, Been awhile since I have posted, I have seen the darkest side of hell and now am seeing a small slice of heaven again. Living in the wolrd of addiction is a crazy thing, I went from being married to an addict for 20 yrs to actually using myself. After the death of my husband I just totally lost my w...

silverbrumby · silverbrumby

Though I asked my Ah to move out and he did, I have been confused how to show him that I still love him but can't live with him. He has been around to visit a lot always sober, which is nice, I am not sure that it is playing games or not. I don't want to completely ignore him and end all contact, as I don't feel it pr...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi All I just wanted to request from you some prayers for me if you dont mind. I need my life to get on track. I know the road i am going down is not the one that i want to live in yet i have been doing it for 6 months, i have been praying but i am not consistant in the things i say.. No means no, not to everyone though....

LaLea · LaLea

Hey Everyone. I've finally realized that I cannot do this alone. I have a husband who abuses alcohol and two small children who witness it. He doesn't become violent with us or anyone else, but I'm sick and tired of dealing with his hangovers... not to mention the waste of money on booze. He drinks 6...

maresie · maresie

I've started seeing a counselor (its short term) and am going to work on my anger and resentment. I'm really seeing now there is so much that plays into my anger. I can't load it all up from the past or the A. Some of it is my own rigid self defeating behavior. Over giving is a huge issue for me. I over give...

Becky1 · Becky1

Once I got busy, I got better. Simple words. True words. I was so wrapped up in my AH, I almost lost myself. Those of you who know me, know the pain I was in. I did not want to even live at one point. Couldn't imagine life without him, he didn't want me. Somehow my HP knew deep down I did want to live. I hav...

LaLea · LaLea

I've known my husband since highschool. We were sweethearts and got married 8 years after the fact. I'm starting to feel like that was a mistake. He makes me feel so sad and unappreciated. I finally got an appointment for myself at the doctor this morning, b/c I'm really needing some help for my dep...

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

I'm new to the site and was delighted to find it. I plan to attend a local meeting for some f2f support about my AH, but wanted to get started right away. Upfront, his problem is not alcohol but recreational drugs, the preferred drug of choice being pot. (I noted on the board that it doesn't make a diffe...

Maria123 · Maria123

I came across this while looking up some information and thought I'd share it with you all. I'll never underestimate the power of alcohol and am so grateful for the experience, strength and courage of people in Alanon. The way I see it, each time any one of us is practicing some type of recovery, using...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, First of all thank you for all the support from my last post. I have the best family here. Thank you all for the outpouring of love to a very hurt person. I am not sure of the outcome of last night from what he did. He and I have a pretty strong connection and when I had a feeling that things happened in th...

round3 · round3

I heard back from the A and we had a very long phone conversation last night. He seemed depressed. He didn't bring up anything about being depressed, but he just seemed so different. Melancholy. Serious. Worried. Stressed. Not his usual self at all. He told me he was scared about his upcoming s...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I just want to introduce myself I am Kirsty. I have 2 children leah (2) Josh (3 months). My Partner is an Alcoholic. He has addmitted he needs alcohol like a drug but he wont get help till he hits me. I really feel like im falling out of love with him. He has let me down so much. I care about him but I dont think I l...

FEARFULL88 · FEARFULL88

HELLO ALL, I HAVE KNOWN MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YEARS (MARRIED 4). THE PAST FEW YEARS, HE HAS STARTED DRINKING 6-10 BEERS A NIGHT AND MORE ON THE WEEKENDS. HE STILL IS A HARD WORKER AND MAINTAINS A STEEDY 50-60 HOURS A WEEK. HE HAS NEVER HIT ME OR EVEN ACTED LIKE HE WANTED TOO. EVERYTHING STARTED GOING DOWN HI...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

I'm in need of a little support today. Friday night when I was going to bed I noticed some papers that were laying on a dressing table that is shared by my husband and I. There was a name writen on one of the papers that is someone both my husband and I know. My first thought was, 'Oh, he is doing some work for...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

This one has been driving about four of us from my f2f meeting more nuts than we already were . We knew they were in one of the daily readers but none of us could find them. They are in the "Hope For Today" at the bottom of page 122 Get off his back Get out of his way Get onto yourself Get to meetings...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I'm not sure if he sees it, and I'm not sure if it matters to me if he does or doesn't see it. I see it, and I feel it. Example: there is a district picnic at the end of April at one of the beautiful state parks in east Tennessee, I wasn't sure if he knew about it, there was a flyer about it at our meeting hall, I was m...

Maria123 · Maria123

http://www.ma-al-anon-alateen.org/pdfs/2008_convention_registration.pdf

ally · ally

((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) What's that saying "Feelings are not facts" or vice verser. So, when your feeling something, How do you know what It is you are feeling. I have things going on in my life and I don't know how i should be feeling. I know i care for people, too much if that's pos...

omajoy · omajoy

I haven't posted in nearly two weeks. Just returned from my mom's funeral and helping dad to re-group. Her passing was a blessing as she was so terribly ill with end-stage heart failure and at age 88, had had a wonderful life up until last three years. I was able to be with her for a couple days prior to he...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

I have been on quite a helter-skelter ride of late, and yet I know that I am taking more steps forward on my journey of recovery, thanks to this wonderful family and my sponsor. Fear seems to be being conquered at long last and as I lose that, so my serenity seems to be kicking in. However, I...

ESH · ESH

This happened a while back... but it was significant for me. All along during my relationship with A-bf, he would tell me how horrible his emotionally abusive father was (he worked for good ole Dad), and how rotten his brother was (his brother is an addict, too, who also "worked" for dear o...

LittleChef · LittleChef

Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...

LittleChef · LittleChef

Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...

mel123 · mel123

So we were with family tonight to celebrate Easter, and my brother-in-law, who has been a heavy, long time smoker announced that he has not smoked now for 8 months. He has tried to quit so many times and has tried everything. But this time he used a drug......chantix, I think it is. He also mentioned t...

debilyn · debilyn

Going to try to make this short. Hard for me, stop laughing I know who you are....(o: Ok I rent a little house and my main house on my property. LIttle one mt, need new tenants. Main, the people are not sticking to the agreement. Tools, gave it to hp, thought of it as business, did not get emotional. could ha...

berly · berly

I posted yesturday that my AH is in detox and I am very happy with that. He is doing well as expected. But here I sit writing this and having a glass of wine. How wrong is this.?... it is so wrong I feel, does anybody else have a drink while their AH is in rehab? When he does come out of rehab I will absolutley hav...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I'm finally getting off the pot! I have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow. Funny to think that I have been away from him for 19 months and it still makes me a little nervous to think about going in there! I was so excited that he was back in jail so I could get this done and the thought crossed my m...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I saw the lawyer this morning. It is going to cost me $660 and that includes the filing fee. I imagined it to be a joyful relieving feeling but I feel kind of sad. I guess because in the back of my mind there was always that hope that he'd get better and we could still have that elusive happily ever after. ...

maresie · maresie

I heard in the past few days of a friend of mine I was in another recovery grouip with who has now received news she has another cancer. She had two different kinds of cancer before, had sugery, chemo and was very ill for a long time. Now she has another bout of cancer. In my recovery from codependency I do...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), For those of you who have signed up for the free dailey meditation reading from www.hazelden.org and haven't been getting them for a few days I contacted them. If your email ends with rr.com (i.e.) ksie&@rr.com (not a real email) they are trying to remedy the problem. It se...

serendipity · serendipity

I saw it Friday, it ws on my dresser with some other jewlery. And it was after I recieved my papers about child support and what day I have to go to court for that and the thought crossed my mind.."Better hide my jewlery incase he decides to give his GF a diamond tennis bracelet for Easter...." a...

maresie · maresie

As you all know I had to take a huge step backwards and stop pretty much all my activity for a while in order to work on my health. My level of fatigue was so much that I was disabled. I could barely put one foot in front of another. The good news is that my dogs and my cat seem to be thriving under the new regimen...

Aloha · Aloha

Last night was yet another ACA meeting. And, as always, it was just so POWERFUL. I love this group and the dynamic therein. I love that there are alcoholics in this group as well as us al-anoners. I love all the wealth of experience these people from both walks of life bring to each meeting. Every night...

Lady · Lady

Well Easter's not that great. I had another relapse of thinking to much of AH, after finding his scripts. Got into arguments with him on the phone the past 2 days. I called him today to say I was sorry for swearing at him, but most of the things I said I meant. He said he wants to be off of pills, said he wou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to take a moment and wish you all a Happy & Blessed Easter. May your day be filled with love, joy, peace, peeps and chocolate. If you are alone today, enjoy the serenity and remember you are not alone today as long as you have your Alanon family. Today, we ar...

nikki247 · nikki247

Hi, I am new. I need some feed back. I was planning to offer an ultimatum that my AH stop drinking. It was going to be neat and clean. The kids were going to be out of school. Perfect time to sell the house. I was prepared to be percieved as the bad guy by people on the outside. I did not want to end o...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Hello little "family" I'm still here! I've just been VERY busy this weekend which is AWESOME. I went to work Saturday just for the day at a local factory for about 10 hours. And while working, standing on my feet for 9 of those 10 hours, I was reminded exactly WHY I went to school to start a diff...

Aloha · Aloha

I officially became a sponsee Friday evening. YAY. I'm happy I finally got a Sponsor, and I'm happy with the Sponsor I chose. She's like a ray of sunshine. She just has this aura of positivity about her that I really admire and hope to have for myself. At the same time, she's not just this bubbly "...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

"All requirements have been met" Wright State's way of saying... I'm an official college graduate! I did it! OMG!!!!!! I am SO excited. And OMG so RELIEVED. I DID IT! OMG I DID IT! And ok, you guys were SO right. It was worth it. I don't want to do it again, at least not any time soon, b/c it was soo...

barisax · barisax

There was a time in my life when I couldn't imagine saying something like the title of this thread. I really existed from one crisis/problem to the next, and if there was a lull in the problems, you could count on me to create one. I really felt that life was a battle, and the object was to win. Or rather,...

MIDGET · MIDGET

Well another Easter has come and gone.Again I worked my butt off cooking,and my sisters came over ate , burped and left.Didnt even offer to help clean up. My middle sister made me very mad . My 10 yr old daughter was avoiding a project sees supposed to be doing for school.So my sister says something about...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

Will someone make this roller coaster I'm on stop? The last couple days I have viewed this world as an awfully scary place. I am sabataging everything. I am reacting instead of reacting. I know this doesn't work but I am just in a self destructive mood. Everyone is a bad guy and I am feeling helpless again...

maire rua · maire rua

Haven't posted for a while but have been reading posts most days, they have been a big help. At the moment I am working on three projects, two of them with someone I think is dabbling in cocaine. Yes I have learned to spot these things. I have been caught for rather a lot of money and resources in the deal, la...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I got the call on Friday that he is back in jail. I know...surprise surprise, heartbreaking.... Anyway, I have been waiting for this so that I can file for custody and divorce and now my opportunity has arisen. I called a few lawyers on Friday but of course everyone was closed for the holiday so I'm hop...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

I haven't seen you post for awhile and am concerned. I continue to keep you and yours in my prayers ((((hugs))))

marmare · marmare

Not my Alanon birthday, my real birthday!!! I have had people ask me "oh your 29?" LOL NO I'M 45 AND PROUD OF IT!!! I wouldn't want to go through all those years again, I am really right where I'm supposed to be!!! My A has run to the store, we are doing potluck dinner at his parents with the whole f...

ddub · ddub

So kids are either sleepy, cranky or gone to the store and A is not talking much either today. Trying hard to hold on to that thought: just because everyone else is grumpy doesn't mean I have to let them drag me down too. I've been busy boiling eggs, making salads, folding clean clothes and just staying b...

Codependent · Codependent

So it turns out that I was paranoid about the whole other girl visiting thing. He didn't get a visit on Sunday. I know this through other sources. Also his mom asked him about it and even said that I thought the other girl was visiting. He said of course not, she is in Florida. He just didn't want a vis...

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	How can I stop lending them money? (Preview) Hi Again!!! I am living with my 2 alcoholic parents. I am in my mid twenties and can't afford to move out of home yet as saving for a deposit for a house. Both my parents have good jobs. they are both professionals. My father has never been involved in home finances. He just earns his money and spends what he...	CalamityJane	7	711	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	DON'T Neglect your PHYSICAL being (Preview) I'm learning the hard way today what a total downer lack of sleep is on my ability to approach my day with a good and positive attitude and outlook. I've switched my schedule around so that I'm waking up earlier now to get my daily exercise in. Al-anon meeting schedules after work and various other pos...	Aloha	11	560	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	Has anyone dated a fellow al-anoner? (Preview) Hi all, just a question. It seems to me that the best people in the world associate with al-anon, right? So, it might be perfectly natural for an al-anoner to date another al-anoner, right? Yet, when I think of this, I feel a conflict of interest, somehow. Like dating someone you work with, in your job- i...	Jean4444	10	1438	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	Confrontation tonight about the stash discovery... (Preview) I'm glad I have been reading up on this board (I have yet to attend a f2f) as I had to confront my AH tonight. He asked me what was bothering me and so I told him. I'm proud of myself that I didn't get angry nor did I cry. I just stated the facts--What I found, where I found it and why it made me unhappy. He denie...	BooBoo313	5	600	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	doing things differently (Preview) One of my charactor traits is to be naive, too trusting, and then be bitterly disappointed. Recently one of my newer housemates was social with me. She suggested that she could help me out with my dogs as they seem to like her. I was enthused but cautious. This person is in recovery and I was happy to hea...	maresie	4	458	Mar 29, 2008 by Andrea12
	(Off topic) Earth Hour (Preview) Have you ever wondered what one person can do? Here's your answer. http://www. earthhour. org On 31 March 2007, 2.2 million people and 2100 Sydney businesses turned off their lights for one hour - Earth Hour. This massive collective effort reduced Sydney's energy consumption by 10.2% for one hour...	Christy	3	491	Mar 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	The deed is done... (Preview) I went to the attorney's office with the money and paid for the 3 typed pages that I could have done myself in five minutes. Of course I questioned myself and wanted to make SURE it was right. I wish I had more confidence in my abilities! So, he is filing the papers today, probably already done and my hu...	carolinagirl	14	664	Mar 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	In shock and needing your prayers, please...... (Preview) My daughter has just telephoned to say that my xfather-in-law is dying and that they are just awaiting the news of his passing. Some years ago my father-in-law blamed me for his son's alcoholism and wrote me a terrible letter calling me a whore and much, much more. He quoted a passage from Jerimah 17, a...	Heartbroken	15	735	Mar 29, 2008 by cookie1971
	newbie (Preview) Hi, I am not sure that I am in the right place, as I understand this is a forum for people living with loved ones that are alcoholics but I would like to share my story anyway. I have been married now for 10 years. Looking back now, my husband has always had an addictive personality. Before we got married...	MrsF	9	453	Mar 28, 2008 by MrsF
	I found the bracelet and other good news! (Preview) I found the bracelet. It was under clean laundry on the other side of my bed, on the floor. Beats me how it got there, but I am so happy to have found it! No drama, no poilce, no having to engage on any level with the ex. YEA!! I had a girl come today to look at my room for rent. And I was nervous as I knew she was qui...	serendipity	11	2318	Mar 28, 2008 by Diva
	Saying the right thing to the kids (Preview) My 9 yr old woke me up this morning saying "Julia's mom said she saw dad in the paper the other day." Oh God, I thought I was going to get away with not having to explain this to the kids. So, I told her to give me a minute. And I said a prayer for God to let the right words come out of my mouth. These ki...	serendipity	8	650	Mar 27, 2008 by wp
	He has now stormed off to bed in a sulk!! (Preview) My A father is on a 2 week Easter Holiday (he is a teacher). He wants to be out by noon every day on the holiday season drinking however, as my parents don't get paid until Friday (tomorrow) there is no money for him to do this so he has been really abusive once again and stormed off to bed in a huff!! Mum is real...	CalamityJane	5	639	Mar 27, 2008 by Aloha
	Life is full os change (Preview) Hello All, Been awhile since I have posted, I have seen the darkest side of hell and now am seeing a small slice of heaven again. Living in the wolrd of addiction is a crazy thing, I went from being married to an addict for 20 yrs to actually using myself. After the death of my husband I just totally lost my w...	Andrea12	10	785	Mar 27, 2008 by Lexie
	no change of attitude yet (Preview) Though I asked my Ah to move out and he did, I have been confused how to show him that I still love him but can't live with him. He has been around to visit a lot always sober, which is nice, I am not sure that it is playing games or not. I don't want to completely ignore him and end all contact, as I don't feel it pr...	silverbrumby	5	586	Mar 27, 2008 by maresie
	Reaching Out (Preview) Hi All I just wanted to request from you some prayers for me if you dont mind. I need my life to get on track. I know the road i am going down is not the one that i want to live in yet i have been doing it for 6 months, i have been praying but i am not consistant in the things i say.. No means no, not to everyone though....	kerry5	7	410	Mar 27, 2008 by aunitedway
	Just a Newbie, Saying Hello (Preview) Hey Everyone. I've finally realized that I cannot do this alone. I have a husband who abuses alcohol and two small children who witness it. He doesn't become violent with us or anyone else, but I'm sick and tired of dealing with his hangovers... not to mention the waste of money on booze. He drinks 6...	LaLea	13	488	Mar 27, 2008 by maresie
	Over giving (Preview) I've started seeing a counselor (its short term) and am going to work on my anger and resentment. I'm really seeing now there is so much that plays into my anger. I can't load it all up from the past or the A. Some of it is my own rigid self defeating behavior. Over giving is a huge issue for me. I over give...	maresie	8	855	Mar 27, 2008 by Jean4444
	If I Can, SO CAN YOU! (Preview) Once I got busy, I got better. Simple words. True words. I was so wrapped up in my AH, I almost lost myself. Those of you who know me, know the pain I was in. I did not want to even live at one point. Couldn't imagine life without him, he didn't want me. Somehow my HP knew deep down I did want to live. I hav...	Becky1	7	711	Mar 27, 2008 by aunitedway
	The Silence is Killing Me (Preview) I've known my husband since highschool. We were sweethearts and got married 8 years after the fact. I'm starting to feel like that was a mistake. He makes me feel so sad and unappreciated. I finally got an appointment for myself at the doctor this morning, b/c I'm really needing some help for my dep...	LaLea	12	692	Mar 27, 2008 by BooBoo313
	Newbie (Preview) I'm new to the site and was delighted to find it. I plan to attend a local meeting for some f2f support about my AH, but wanted to get started right away. Upfront, his problem is not alcohol but recreational drugs, the preferred drug of choice being pot. (I noted on the board that it doesn't make a diffe...	BooBoo313	3	392	Mar 27, 2008 by DeadOrAlive
	Alcohol Always Lied to Me (Preview) I came across this while looking up some information and thought I'd share it with you all. I'll never underestimate the power of alcohol and am so grateful for the experience, strength and courage of people in Alanon. The way I see it, each time any one of us is practicing some type of recovery, using...	Maria123	7	758	Mar 27, 2008 by carosie
	RE: He decided to use sex to end our marriage (Preview) Hi all, First of all thank you for all the support from my last post. I have the best family here. Thank you all for the outpouring of love to a very hurt person. I am not sure of the outcome of last night from what he did. He and I have a pretty strong connection and when I had a feeling that things happened in th...	Mandy123	6	943	Mar 27, 2008 by Karilynn
	Still confused.... (Preview) I heard back from the A and we had a very long phone conversation last night. He seemed depressed. He didn't bring up anything about being depressed, but he just seemed so different. Melancholy. Serious. Worried. Stressed. Not his usual self at all. He told me he was scared about his upcoming s...	round3	10	361	Mar 27, 2008 by silverbrumby
	New here (Preview) I just want to introduce myself I am Kirsty. I have 2 children leah (2) Josh (3 months). My Partner is an Alcoholic. He has addmitted he needs alcohol like a drug but he wont get help till he hits me. I really feel like im falling out of love with him. He has let me down so much. I care about him but I dont think I l...	mum2leahnjosh	8	422	Mar 27, 2008 by mum2leahnjosh
	NEWBIE (Preview) HELLO ALL, I HAVE KNOWN MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YEARS (MARRIED 4). THE PAST FEW YEARS, HE HAS STARTED DRINKING 6-10 BEERS A NIGHT AND MORE ON THE WEEKENDS. HE STILL IS A HARD WORKER AND MAINTAINS A STEEDY 50-60 HOURS A WEEK. HE HAS NEVER HIT ME OR EVEN ACTED LIKE HE WANTED TOO. EVERYTHING STARTED GOING DOWN HI...	FEARFULL88	5	452	Mar 26, 2008 by Maria123
	I want revenge (Preview) I'm in need of a little support today. Friday night when I was going to bed I noticed some papers that were laying on a dressing table that is shared by my husband and I. There was a name writen on one of the papers that is someone both my husband and I know. My first thought was, 'Oh, he is doing some work for...	Denoraphy	11	725	Mar 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Found the five G's (Preview) This one has been driving about four of us from my f2f meeting more nuts than we already were . We knew they were in one of the daily readers but none of us could find them. They are in the "Hope For Today" at the bottom of page 122 Get off his back Get out of his way Get onto yourself Get to meetings...	Mobirdie	1	516	Mar 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	Growth=Change (Preview) I'm not sure if he sees it, and I'm not sure if it matters to me if he does or doesn't see it. I see it, and I feel it. Example: there is a district picnic at the end of April at one of the beautiful state parks in east Tennessee, I wasn't sure if he knew about it, there was a flyer about it at our meeting hall, I was m...	JenniferN	3	508	Mar 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Massachusetts Alanon/Alateen Convention - Steps to Wisdom - This Weekend (Preview) http://www.ma-al-anon-alateen.org/pdfs/2008_convention_registration.pdf	Maria123	1	4196	Mar 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	THE NOT KNOWING IS KILLING ME (Preview) ((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) What's that saying "Feelings are not facts" or vice verser. So, when your feeling something, How do you know what It is you are feeling. I have things going on in my life and I don't know how i should be feeling. I know i care for people, too much if that's pos...	ally	5	628	Mar 26, 2008 by kismetstrand
	updating last 12 days (Preview) I haven't posted in nearly two weeks. Just returned from my mom's funeral and helping dad to re-group. Her passing was a blessing as she was so terribly ill with end-stage heart failure and at age 88, had had a wonderful life up until last three years. I was able to be with her for a couple days prior to he...	omajoy	8	544	Mar 26, 2008 by round3
	Helter-skelter... (Preview) I have been on quite a helter-skelter ride of late, and yet I know that I am taking more steps forward on my journey of recovery, thanks to this wonderful family and my sponsor. Fear seems to be being conquered at long last and as I lose that, so my serenity seems to be kicking in. However, I...	Heartbroken	7	482	Mar 26, 2008 by Heartbroken
	An "Aha!" Moment (Preview) This happened a while back... but it was significant for me. All along during my relationship with A-bf, he would tell me how horrible his emotionally abusive father was (he worked for good ole Dad), and how rotten his brother was (his brother is an addict, too, who also "worked" for dear o...	ESH	7	470	Mar 26, 2008 by Jean4444
	Hi There, I'm new. (Preview) Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...	LittleChef	7	565	Mar 26, 2008 by maresie
	Hi There, I'm new. (Preview) Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...	LittleChef	1	544	Mar 26, 2008 by Christy
	New Meds to stop addiction.... (Preview) So we were with family tonight to celebrate Easter, and my brother-in-law, who has been a heavy, long time smoker announced that he has not smoked now for 8 months. He has tried to quit so many times and has tried everything. But this time he used a drug......chantix, I think it is. He also mentioned t...	mel123	7	671	Mar 26, 2008 by BatonRougian
	Alanon tools are gold (Preview) Going to try to make this short. Hard for me, stop laughing I know who you are....(o: Ok I rent a little house and my main house on my property. LIttle one mt, need new tenants. Main, the people are not sticking to the agreement. Tools, gave it to hp, thought of it as business, did not get emotional. could ha...	debilyn	4	1116	Mar 25, 2008 by debilyn
	Here I sit (Preview) I posted yesturday that my AH is in detox and I am very happy with that. He is doing well as expected. But here I sit writing this and having a glass of wine. How wrong is this.?... it is so wrong I feel, does anybody else have a drink while their AH is in rehab? When he does come out of rehab I will absolutley hav...	berly	8	411	Mar 25, 2008 by berly
	Appointment with lawyer tomorrow! (Preview) Well, I'm finally getting off the pot! I have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow. Funny to think that I have been away from him for 19 months and it still makes me a little nervous to think about going in there! I was so excited that he was back in jail so I could get this done and the thought crossed my m...	carolinagirl	5	562	Mar 25, 2008 by MIDGET
	Doesn't feel as good as I imagined. (Preview) I saw the lawyer this morning. It is going to cost me $660 and that includes the filing fee. I imagined it to be a joyful relieving feeling but I feel kind of sad. I guess because in the back of my mind there was always that hope that he'd get better and we could still have that elusive happily ever after. ...	carolinagirl	12	562	Mar 25, 2008 by debilyn
	Fatigue /self neglect (Preview) I heard in the past few days of a friend of mine I was in another recovery grouip with who has now received news she has another cancer. She had two different kinds of cancer before, had sugery, chemo and was very ill for a long time. Now she has another bout of cancer. In my recovery from codependency I do...	maresie	3	422	Mar 25, 2008 by java
	Hazelden FYI (Preview) (((((Family)))), For those of you who have signed up for the free dailey meditation reading from www.hazelden.org and haven't been getting them for a few days I contacted them. If your email ends with rr.com (i.e.) ksie&@rr.com (not a real email) they are trying to remedy the problem. It se...	Karilynn	1	325	Mar 25, 2008 by barisax
	Ok, now my diamond braclet is missing.... (Preview) I saw it Friday, it ws on my dresser with some other jewlery. And it was after I recieved my papers about child support and what day I have to go to court for that and the thought crossed my mind.."Better hide my jewlery incase he decides to give his GF a diamond tennis bracelet for Easter...." a...	serendipity	6	1012	Mar 25, 2008 by Jen
	changes (Preview) As you all know I had to take a huge step backwards and stop pretty much all my activity for a while in order to work on my health. My level of fatigue was so much that I was disabled. I could barely put one foot in front of another. The good news is that my dogs and my cat seem to be thriving under the new regimen...	maresie	4	330	Mar 25, 2008 by Lady
	I think I've finally figured out my "Home" group (Preview) Last night was yet another ACA meeting. And, as always, it was just so POWERFUL. I love this group and the dynamic therein. I love that there are alcoholics in this group as well as us al-anoners. I love all the wealth of experience these people from both walks of life bring to each meeting. Every night...	Aloha	0	448	Mar 25, 2008 by Aloha
	He makes me feel ill. (Preview) Well Easter's not that great. I had another relapse of thinking to much of AH, after finding his scripts. Got into arguments with him on the phone the past 2 days. I called him today to say I was sorry for swearing at him, but most of the things I said I meant. He said he wants to be off of pills, said he wou...	Lady	5	554	Mar 25, 2008 by Lady
	Happy & Blessed Easter! (Preview) ((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to take a moment and wish you all a Happy & Blessed Easter. May your day be filled with love, joy, peace, peeps and chocolate. If you are alone today, enjoy the serenity and remember you are not alone today as long as you have your Alanon family. Today, we ar...	Karilynn	4	296	Mar 25, 2008 by maresie
	Forgiveness (Preview) Hi, I am new. I need some feed back. I was planning to offer an ultimatum that my AH stop drinking. It was going to be neat and clean. The kids were going to be out of school. Perfect time to sell the house. I was prepared to be percieved as the bad guy by people on the outside. I did not want to end o...	nikki247	8	472	Mar 25, 2008 by maresie
	What A Weekend!!! (Preview) Hello little "family" I'm still here! I've just been VERY busy this weekend which is AWESOME. I went to work Saturday just for the day at a local factory for about 10 hours. And while working, standing on my feet for 9 of those 10 hours, I was reminded exactly WHY I went to school to start a diff...	JenniferN	3	430	Mar 25, 2008 by glad
	Got a sponsor... and an assignment! (Preview) I officially became a sponsee Friday evening. YAY. I'm happy I finally got a Sponsor, and I'm happy with the Sponsor I chose. She's like a ray of sunshine. She just has this aura of positivity about her that I really admire and hope to have for myself. At the same time, she's not just this bubbly "...	Aloha	5	760	Mar 25, 2008 by Jerry F
	I did it! I graduated! (Preview) "All requirements have been met" Wright State's way of saying... *I'm an official college graduate! I did it! OMG!!!!!!* I am SO excited. And OMG so RELIEVED. *I DID IT! OMG I DID IT!* And ok, you guys were SO right. It was worth it. I don't want to do it again, at least not any time soon, b/c it was soo...	Tiger2006	20	783	Mar 24, 2008 by Maria123
	Too Much Of a Good Thing (Preview) There was a time in my life when I couldn't imagine saying something like the title of this thread. I really existed from one crisis/problem to the next, and if there was a lull in the problems, you could count on me to create one. I really felt that life was a battle, and the object was to win. Or rather,...	barisax	10	707	Mar 24, 2008 by barisax
	meloncoly Easter (Preview) Well another Easter has come and gone.Again I worked my butt off cooking,and my sisters came over ate , burped and left.Didnt even offer to help clean up. My middle sister made me very mad . My 10 yr old daughter was avoiding a project sees supposed to be doing for school.So my sister says something about...	MIDGET	5	501	Mar 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	triggers (Preview) Will someone make this roller coaster I'm on stop? The last couple days I have viewed this world as an awfully scary place. I am sabataging everything. I am reacting instead of reacting. I know this doesn't work but I am just in a self destructive mood. Everyone is a bad guy and I am feeling helpless again...	seekingserenity	5	472	Mar 24, 2008 by Jean4444
	getting off the rollercoaster (Preview) Haven't posted for a while but have been reading posts most days, they have been a big help. At the moment I am working on three projects, two of them with someone I think is dabbling in cocaine. Yes I have learned to spot these things. I have been caught for rather a lot of money and resources in the deal, la...	maire rua	2	329	Mar 24, 2008 by maresie
	I got a call on Friday... (Preview) I got the call on Friday that he is back in jail. I know...surprise surprise, heartbreaking.... Anyway, I have been waiting for this so that I can file for custody and divorce and now my opportunity has arisen. I called a few lawyers on Friday but of course everyone was closed for the holiday so I'm hop...	carolinagirl	3	445	Mar 24, 2008 by maresie
	Omajoy? (Preview) I haven't seen you post for awhile and am concerned. I continue to keep you and yours in my prayers ((((hugs))))	Tenderheartsks	1	351	Mar 24, 2008 by Heartbroken
	Happy Birthday to Me!! (Preview) Not my Alanon birthday, my real birthday!!! I have had people ask me "oh your 29?" LOL NO I'M 45 AND PROUD OF IT!!! I wouldn't want to go through all those years again, I am really right where I'm supposed to be!!! My A has run to the store, we are doing potluck dinner at his parents with the whole f...	marmare	5	376	Mar 24, 2008 by Heartbroken
	holiday weekend funk (Preview) So kids are either sleepy, cranky or gone to the store and A is not talking much either today. Trying hard to hold on to that thought: just because everyone else is grumpy doesn't mean I have to let them drag me down too. I've been busy boiling eggs, making salads, folding clean clothes and just staying b...	ddub	6	407	Mar 23, 2008 by Heartbroken
	I was wrong and now feel bad.... (Preview) So it turns out that I was paranoid about the whole other girl visiting thing. He didn't get a visit on Sunday. I know this through other sources. Also his mom asked him about it and even said that I thought the other girl was visiting. He said of course not, she is in Florida. He just didn't want a vis...	Codependent	7	590	Mar 23, 2008 by carolinagirl
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