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Heartbroken · Heartbroken

My son was 13 years old when his father and me ended our marriage. I was reading for my degree with the intention that, I would be the main bread winner in the family because of my AH's habit and the financial difficulty he had got us into; we had lost our home and had had to move to MOD married quarters - but t...

serendipity · serendipity

I no longer have to worry about the A comming home with drugs or drunk, or not comming home at all. I no longer sit by the window (literally) and feel my stomach drop whenevr I see headlights round the corner. I do not have to wonder who he is talking to, or who he is sleeping with. And the big one is I do not have...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Did you know a 2 year old can say "daddy can we go pub" Yes my 2 year old APARENTLY said this yesterday. It was a nice day and I said to mark take Leah outside and play football. Well after 10 mins it went quiet I looked outside and no one was there. When he came back I asked where ahve you been he said L...

sdoody00 · sdoody00

I have been reading the posts in this message board for some time now. It has been very helpful to me. My bipolar AH and I are currently living apart, both of us support this arrangement. He is actively using and not medicated for his bipolar. I have taken the stand that I would not have any contact with h...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I never thought it would happen, but it has: I wasn't surprised today by my A. I have talked to him almost everyday this week. Mostly due to him "needing" a wake up call for work. I put that in quotes because I KNOW he doesn't NEED one, he just says/thinks he does. Anyways, I've borrowed the truc...

norwood · norwood

Hi ((everyone)), I just returned form the Massachusetts annual alanon convention. I have 3 words - WOW, WOW, WOW!!!. I had a spiritual awakening and it was amazing. Thank you all for your support in my recovery. Paul

Maria123 · Maria123

What I learned . . . I went to an Alanon conference this weekend and as someone was sharing this morning in the unconditional love workshop, she said what I felt but did not know I was feeling at the time. When we walk through the doors of the conference, its with a sigh of relief. We arent facing the outsi...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

what does this mean and how do I fix it?

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

I just came across my AH's drug stash. This wasn't one of those times where I was tearing up the house, looking in every box, nook and cranny, it was almost out in the open. I only stumbled across it because it was hidden in a shoe and the shoes were in a rather unlikely spot, so I went to move them and the s...

angel123 · angel123

The Butterfly Story Before this great change comes about,the fuzzy little worm withdraws from it's caterpillar world,and finds itself a place alone,and there painfully,and with struggling,it wraps itself tightly into a cocoon of its own making;it leterally seals itself off from the world...

angel123 · angel123

Hi Carol, My first husband and I got a divorce many years ago. He never had contact with the children. When my daughter turned of age she wanted to find him. Her brother did from the internet. He was in the VA hospital with cancer. My daughter did not know him. But took it on her self to have him sent here to a V...

glad lee · glad lee

Dear Family, I could use some ESH.... I am confused about a shift in my relationship with my sponsor. Actually, I have a resentment... I haven't seen her or talked with her as much since my divorce was final 2 wks ago... But, her birthday was Thursday. So on Wednesday, I called and expressed how I wa...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello my family, I am reaching out right now becuase I need some ESH from alanoners. I have talked to a few nonalanons and they have at least helped me dry my tears and keep somewhat of a focus on the tasks at hand. My husband and I are seperated and have been for about 3 weeks. This is the second seperation si...

suzydawn · suzydawn

It's been over a year since I last posted. Briefly, I was living with a BF (and father to my now 2yr old son) whom has a Hx of 4 DUIs, has lost his DL for life and is currently still of probation for his last DUI. He has always been a weekend binge drinker. When I met him he was in recovery - but court ordered. ...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Oh the things you can think...and disillusion yourself with! I few months ago, I quit attending Alanon...but would at least try to make it online and push myself forward. My AH quit things....quit trying to drink...then began...the quit...RoLLeRcoASteRinG. My private prayers seeming endle...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, A few weeks back I created a myspace page at the request (yeah right) of our Allygirl. I am having issues with making it all pretty and fancy. Way beyond my know how and I haven't taken the time to figure it out. But if any of you all are in that world feel free to add me if ya want. http://www.myspace.c...

CalamityJane · CalamityJane

Hi Again!!! I am living with my 2 alcoholic parents. I am in my mid twenties and can't afford to move out of home yet as saving for a deposit for a house. Both my parents have good jobs. they are both professionals. My father has never been involved in home finances. He just earns his money and spends what he...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm learning the hard way today what a total downer lack of sleep is on my ability to approach my day with a good and positive attitude and outlook. I've switched my schedule around so that I'm waking up earlier now to get my daily exercise in. Al-anon meeting schedules after work and various other pos...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Hi all, just a question. It seems to me that the best people in the world associate with al-anon, right? So, it might be perfectly natural for an al-anoner to date another al-anoner, right? Yet, when I think of this, I feel a conflict of interest, somehow. Like dating someone you work with, in your job- i...

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

I'm glad I have been reading up on this board (I have yet to attend a f2f) as I had to confront my AH tonight. He asked me what was bothering me and so I told him. I'm proud of myself that I didn't get angry nor did I cry. I just stated the facts--What I found, where I found it and why it made me unhappy. He denie...

maresie · maresie

One of my charactor traits is to be naive, too trusting, and then be bitterly disappointed. Recently one of my newer housemates was social with me. She suggested that she could help me out with my dogs as they seem to like her. I was enthused but cautious. This person is in recovery and I was happy to hea...

Christy · Christy

Have you ever wondered what one person can do? Here's your answer. http://www. earthhour. org On 31 March 2007, 2.2 million people and 2100 Sydney businesses turned off their lights for one hour - Earth Hour. This massive collective effort reduced Sydney's energy consumption by 10.2% for one hour...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I went to the attorney's office with the money and paid for the 3 typed pages that I could have done myself in five minutes. Of course I questioned myself and wanted to make SURE it was right. I wish I had more confidence in my abilities! So, he is filing the papers today, probably already done and my hu...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

My daughter has just telephoned to say that my xfather-in-law is dying and that they are just awaiting the news of his passing. Some years ago my father-in-law blamed me for his son's alcoholism and wrote me a terrible letter calling me a whore and much, much more. He quoted a passage from Jerimah 17, a...

MrsF · MrsF

Hi, I am not sure that I am in the right place, as I understand this is a forum for people living with loved ones that are alcoholics but I would like to share my story anyway. I have been married now for 10 years. Looking back now, my husband has always had an addictive personality. Before we got married...

serendipity · serendipity

I found the bracelet. It was under clean laundry on the other side of my bed, on the floor. Beats me how it got there, but I am so happy to have found it! No drama, no poilce, no having to engage on any level with the ex. YEA!! I had a girl come today to look at my room for rent. And I was nervous as I knew she was qui...

serendipity · serendipity

My 9 yr old woke me up this morning saying "Julia's mom said she saw dad in the paper the other day." Oh God, I thought I was going to get away with not having to explain this to the kids. So, I told her to give me a minute. And I said a prayer for God to let the right words come out of my mouth. These ki...

CalamityJane · CalamityJane

My A father is on a 2 week Easter Holiday (he is a teacher). He wants to be out by noon every day on the holiday season drinking however, as my parents don't get paid until Friday (tomorrow) there is no money for him to do this so he has been really abusive once again and stormed off to bed in a huff!! Mum is real...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello All, Been awhile since I have posted, I have seen the darkest side of hell and now am seeing a small slice of heaven again. Living in the wolrd of addiction is a crazy thing, I went from being married to an addict for 20 yrs to actually using myself. After the death of my husband I just totally lost my w...

silverbrumby · silverbrumby

Though I asked my Ah to move out and he did, I have been confused how to show him that I still love him but can't live with him. He has been around to visit a lot always sober, which is nice, I am not sure that it is playing games or not. I don't want to completely ignore him and end all contact, as I don't feel it pr...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi All I just wanted to request from you some prayers for me if you dont mind. I need my life to get on track. I know the road i am going down is not the one that i want to live in yet i have been doing it for 6 months, i have been praying but i am not consistant in the things i say.. No means no, not to everyone though....

LaLea · LaLea

Hey Everyone. I've finally realized that I cannot do this alone. I have a husband who abuses alcohol and two small children who witness it. He doesn't become violent with us or anyone else, but I'm sick and tired of dealing with his hangovers... not to mention the waste of money on booze. He drinks 6...

maresie · maresie

I've started seeing a counselor (its short term) and am going to work on my anger and resentment. I'm really seeing now there is so much that plays into my anger. I can't load it all up from the past or the A. Some of it is my own rigid self defeating behavior. Over giving is a huge issue for me. I over give...

Becky1 · Becky1

Once I got busy, I got better. Simple words. True words. I was so wrapped up in my AH, I almost lost myself. Those of you who know me, know the pain I was in. I did not want to even live at one point. Couldn't imagine life without him, he didn't want me. Somehow my HP knew deep down I did want to live. I hav...

LaLea · LaLea

I've known my husband since highschool. We were sweethearts and got married 8 years after the fact. I'm starting to feel like that was a mistake. He makes me feel so sad and unappreciated. I finally got an appointment for myself at the doctor this morning, b/c I'm really needing some help for my dep...

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

I'm new to the site and was delighted to find it. I plan to attend a local meeting for some f2f support about my AH, but wanted to get started right away. Upfront, his problem is not alcohol but recreational drugs, the preferred drug of choice being pot. (I noted on the board that it doesn't make a diffe...

Maria123 · Maria123

I came across this while looking up some information and thought I'd share it with you all. I'll never underestimate the power of alcohol and am so grateful for the experience, strength and courage of people in Alanon. The way I see it, each time any one of us is practicing some type of recovery, using...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, First of all thank you for all the support from my last post. I have the best family here. Thank you all for the outpouring of love to a very hurt person. I am not sure of the outcome of last night from what he did. He and I have a pretty strong connection and when I had a feeling that things happened in th...

round3 · round3

I heard back from the A and we had a very long phone conversation last night. He seemed depressed. He didn't bring up anything about being depressed, but he just seemed so different. Melancholy. Serious. Worried. Stressed. Not his usual self at all. He told me he was scared about his upcoming s...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I just want to introduce myself I am Kirsty. I have 2 children leah (2) Josh (3 months). My Partner is an Alcoholic. He has addmitted he needs alcohol like a drug but he wont get help till he hits me. I really feel like im falling out of love with him. He has let me down so much. I care about him but I dont think I l...

FEARFULL88 · FEARFULL88

HELLO ALL, I HAVE KNOWN MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YEARS (MARRIED 4). THE PAST FEW YEARS, HE HAS STARTED DRINKING 6-10 BEERS A NIGHT AND MORE ON THE WEEKENDS. HE STILL IS A HARD WORKER AND MAINTAINS A STEEDY 50-60 HOURS A WEEK. HE HAS NEVER HIT ME OR EVEN ACTED LIKE HE WANTED TOO. EVERYTHING STARTED GOING DOWN HI...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

I'm in need of a little support today. Friday night when I was going to bed I noticed some papers that were laying on a dressing table that is shared by my husband and I. There was a name writen on one of the papers that is someone both my husband and I know. My first thought was, 'Oh, he is doing some work for...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

This one has been driving about four of us from my f2f meeting more nuts than we already were . We knew they were in one of the daily readers but none of us could find them. They are in the "Hope For Today" at the bottom of page 122 Get off his back Get out of his way Get onto yourself Get to meetings...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I'm not sure if he sees it, and I'm not sure if it matters to me if he does or doesn't see it. I see it, and I feel it. Example: there is a district picnic at the end of April at one of the beautiful state parks in east Tennessee, I wasn't sure if he knew about it, there was a flyer about it at our meeting hall, I was m...

Maria123 · Maria123

http://www.ma-al-anon-alateen.org/pdfs/2008_convention_registration.pdf

ally · ally

((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) What's that saying "Feelings are not facts" or vice verser. So, when your feeling something, How do you know what It is you are feeling. I have things going on in my life and I don't know how i should be feeling. I know i care for people, too much if that's pos...

omajoy · omajoy

I haven't posted in nearly two weeks. Just returned from my mom's funeral and helping dad to re-group. Her passing was a blessing as she was so terribly ill with end-stage heart failure and at age 88, had had a wonderful life up until last three years. I was able to be with her for a couple days prior to he...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

I have been on quite a helter-skelter ride of late, and yet I know that I am taking more steps forward on my journey of recovery, thanks to this wonderful family and my sponsor. Fear seems to be being conquered at long last and as I lose that, so my serenity seems to be kicking in. However, I...

ESH · ESH

This happened a while back... but it was significant for me. All along during my relationship with A-bf, he would tell me how horrible his emotionally abusive father was (he worked for good ole Dad), and how rotten his brother was (his brother is an addict, too, who also "worked" for dear o...

LittleChef · LittleChef

Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...

LittleChef · LittleChef

Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...

mel123 · mel123

So we were with family tonight to celebrate Easter, and my brother-in-law, who has been a heavy, long time smoker announced that he has not smoked now for 8 months. He has tried to quit so many times and has tried everything. But this time he used a drug......chantix, I think it is. He also mentioned t...

debilyn · debilyn

Going to try to make this short. Hard for me, stop laughing I know who you are....(o: Ok I rent a little house and my main house on my property. LIttle one mt, need new tenants. Main, the people are not sticking to the agreement. Tools, gave it to hp, thought of it as business, did not get emotional. could ha...

berly · berly

I posted yesturday that my AH is in detox and I am very happy with that. He is doing well as expected. But here I sit writing this and having a glass of wine. How wrong is this.?... it is so wrong I feel, does anybody else have a drink while their AH is in rehab? When he does come out of rehab I will absolutley hav...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I'm finally getting off the pot! I have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow. Funny to think that I have been away from him for 19 months and it still makes me a little nervous to think about going in there! I was so excited that he was back in jail so I could get this done and the thought crossed my m...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I saw the lawyer this morning. It is going to cost me $660 and that includes the filing fee. I imagined it to be a joyful relieving feeling but I feel kind of sad. I guess because in the back of my mind there was always that hope that he'd get better and we could still have that elusive happily ever after. ...

maresie · maresie

I heard in the past few days of a friend of mine I was in another recovery grouip with who has now received news she has another cancer. She had two different kinds of cancer before, had sugery, chemo and was very ill for a long time. Now she has another bout of cancer. In my recovery from codependency I do...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), For those of you who have signed up for the free dailey meditation reading from www.hazelden.org and haven't been getting them for a few days I contacted them. If your email ends with rr.com (i.e.) ksie&@rr.com (not a real email) they are trying to remedy the problem. It se...

serendipity · serendipity

I saw it Friday, it ws on my dresser with some other jewlery. And it was after I recieved my papers about child support and what day I have to go to court for that and the thought crossed my mind.."Better hide my jewlery incase he decides to give his GF a diamond tennis bracelet for Easter...." a...

maresie · maresie

As you all know I had to take a huge step backwards and stop pretty much all my activity for a while in order to work on my health. My level of fatigue was so much that I was disabled. I could barely put one foot in front of another. The good news is that my dogs and my cat seem to be thriving under the new regimen...

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	There's the truth and then there's the truth... (Preview) My son was 13 years old when his father and me ended our marriage. I was reading for my degree with the intention that, I would be the main bread winner in the family because of my AH's habit and the financial difficulty he had got us into; we had lost our home and had had to move to MOD married quarters - but t...	Heartbroken	10	634	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	I never have to do this again!!! (Preview) I no longer have to worry about the A comming home with drugs or drunk, or not comming home at all. I no longer sit by the window (literally) and feel my stomach drop whenevr I see headlights round the corner. I do not have to wonder who he is talking to, or who he is sleeping with. And the big one is I do not have...	serendipity	7	648	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Did you know (Preview) Did you know a 2 year old can say "daddy can we go pub" Yes my 2 year old APARENTLY said this yesterday. It was a nice day and I said to mark take Leah outside and play football. Well after 10 mins it went quiet I looked outside and no one was there. When he came back I asked where ahve you been he said L...	mum2leahnjosh	2	325	Mar 31, 2008 by Suzannah
	Treatment discussion with AH (Preview) I have been reading the posts in this message board for some time now. It has been very helpful to me. My bipolar AH and I are currently living apart, both of us support this arrangement. He is actively using and not medicated for his bipolar. I have taken the stand that I would not have any contact with h...	sdoody00	8	557	Mar 31, 2008 by sdoody00
	Not Surprised Anymore (Preview) I never thought it would happen, but it has: I wasn't surprised today by my A. I have talked to him almost everyday this week. Mostly due to him "needing" a wake up call for work. I put that in quotes because I KNOW he doesn't NEED one, he just says/thinks he does. Anyways, I've borrowed the truc...	JenniferN	1	406	Mar 31, 2008 by Mandy123
	Massachusetts annual alanon convention (Preview) Hi ((everyone)), I just returned form the Massachusetts annual alanon convention. I have 3 words - WOW, WOW, WOW!!!. I had a spiritual awakening and it was amazing. Thank you all for your support in my recovery. Paul	norwood	3	354	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	What I learned . . . (Preview) What I learned . . . I went to an Alanon conference this weekend and as someone was sharing this morning in the unconditional love workshop, she said what I felt but did not know I was feeling at the time. When we walk through the doors of the conference, its with a sigh of relief. We arent facing the outsi...	Maria123	3	373	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	can't enter room/unknown host exception? (Preview) what does this mean and how do I fix it?	seekingserenity	1	331	Mar 30, 2008 by getoverit
	I just found his stash.... (Preview) I just came across my AH's drug stash. This wasn't one of those times where I was tearing up the house, looking in every box, nook and cranny, it was almost out in the open. I only stumbled across it because it was hidden in a shoe and the shoes were in a rather unlikely spot, so I went to move them and the s...	BooBoo313	23	875	Mar 30, 2008 by getoverit
	The butterfly story (Preview) The Butterfly Story Before this great change comes about,the fuzzy little worm withdraws from it's caterpillar world,and finds itself a place alone,and there painfully,and with struggling,it wraps itself tightly into a cocoon of its own making;it leterally seals itself off from the world...	angel123	4	3397	Mar 30, 2008 by Peggy7
	((hugs)) (Preview) Hi Carol, My first husband and I got a divorce many years ago. He never had contact with the children. When my daughter turned of age she wanted to find him. Her brother did from the internet. He was in the VA hospital with cancer. My daughter did not know him. But took it on her self to have him sent here to a V...	angel123	3	427	Mar 30, 2008 by Peggy7
	Sponsor problems (Preview) Dear Family, I could use some ESH.... I am confused about a shift in my relationship with my sponsor. Actually, I have a resentment... I haven't seen her or talked with her as much since my divorce was final 2 wks ago... But, her birthday was Thursday. So on Wednesday, I called and expressed how I wa...	glad lee	7	772	Mar 30, 2008 by glad lee
	He has decided to use sex to end our marriage (Preview) Hello my family, I am reaching out right now becuase I need some ESH from alanoners. I have talked to a few nonalanons and they have at least helped me dry my tears and keep somewhat of a focus on the tasks at hand. My husband and I are seperated and have been for about 3 weeks. This is the second seperation si...	Mandy123	14	814	Mar 30, 2008 by norwood
	relapse experience? (Preview) It's been over a year since I last posted. Briefly, I was living with a BF (and father to my now 2yr old son) whom has a Hx of 4 DUIs, has lost his DL for life and is currently still of probation for his last DUI. He has always been a weekend binge drinker. When I met him he was in recovery - but court ordered. ...	suzydawn	5	491	Mar 30, 2008 by lin0606
	Fell from my rocker (Preview) Oh the things you can think...and disillusion yourself with! I few months ago, I quit attending Alanon...but would at least try to make it online and push myself forward. My AH quit things....quit trying to drink...then began...the quit...RoLLeRcoASteRinG. My private prayers seeming endle...	Just For Now	7	498	Mar 30, 2008 by Karilynn
	Ally made me do it, she really did lol. (Preview) Hi all, A few weeks back I created a myspace page at the request (yeah right) of our Allygirl. I am having issues with making it all pretty and fancy. Way beyond my know how and I haven't taken the time to figure it out. But if any of you all are in that world feel free to add me if ya want. http://www.myspace.c...	Mandy123	0	423	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	How can I stop lending them money? (Preview) Hi Again!!! I am living with my 2 alcoholic parents. I am in my mid twenties and can't afford to move out of home yet as saving for a deposit for a house. Both my parents have good jobs. they are both professionals. My father has never been involved in home finances. He just earns his money and spends what he...	CalamityJane	7	775	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	DON'T Neglect your PHYSICAL being (Preview) I'm learning the hard way today what a total downer lack of sleep is on my ability to approach my day with a good and positive attitude and outlook. I've switched my schedule around so that I'm waking up earlier now to get my daily exercise in. Al-anon meeting schedules after work and various other pos...	Aloha	11	624	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	Has anyone dated a fellow al-anoner? (Preview) Hi all, just a question. It seems to me that the best people in the world associate with al-anon, right? So, it might be perfectly natural for an al-anoner to date another al-anoner, right? Yet, when I think of this, I feel a conflict of interest, somehow. Like dating someone you work with, in your job- i...	Jean4444	10	1516	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	Confrontation tonight about the stash discovery... (Preview) I'm glad I have been reading up on this board (I have yet to attend a f2f) as I had to confront my AH tonight. He asked me what was bothering me and so I told him. I'm proud of myself that I didn't get angry nor did I cry. I just stated the facts--What I found, where I found it and why it made me unhappy. He denie...	BooBoo313	5	658	Mar 29, 2008 by maresie
	doing things differently (Preview) One of my charactor traits is to be naive, too trusting, and then be bitterly disappointed. Recently one of my newer housemates was social with me. She suggested that she could help me out with my dogs as they seem to like her. I was enthused but cautious. This person is in recovery and I was happy to hea...	maresie	4	523	Mar 29, 2008 by Andrea12
	(Off topic) Earth Hour (Preview) Have you ever wondered what one person can do? Here's your answer. http://www. earthhour. org On 31 March 2007, 2.2 million people and 2100 Sydney businesses turned off their lights for one hour - Earth Hour. This massive collective effort reduced Sydney's energy consumption by 10.2% for one hour...	Christy	3	555	Mar 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	The deed is done... (Preview) I went to the attorney's office with the money and paid for the 3 typed pages that I could have done myself in five minutes. Of course I questioned myself and wanted to make SURE it was right. I wish I had more confidence in my abilities! So, he is filing the papers today, probably already done and my hu...	carolinagirl	14	736	Mar 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	In shock and needing your prayers, please...... (Preview) My daughter has just telephoned to say that my xfather-in-law is dying and that they are just awaiting the news of his passing. Some years ago my father-in-law blamed me for his son's alcoholism and wrote me a terrible letter calling me a whore and much, much more. He quoted a passage from Jerimah 17, a...	Heartbroken	15	797	Mar 29, 2008 by cookie1971
	newbie (Preview) Hi, I am not sure that I am in the right place, as I understand this is a forum for people living with loved ones that are alcoholics but I would like to share my story anyway. I have been married now for 10 years. Looking back now, my husband has always had an addictive personality. Before we got married...	MrsF	9	524	Mar 28, 2008 by MrsF
	I found the bracelet and other good news! (Preview) I found the bracelet. It was under clean laundry on the other side of my bed, on the floor. Beats me how it got there, but I am so happy to have found it! No drama, no poilce, no having to engage on any level with the ex. YEA!! I had a girl come today to look at my room for rent. And I was nervous as I knew she was qui...	serendipity	11	2377	Mar 28, 2008 by Diva
	Saying the right thing to the kids (Preview) My 9 yr old woke me up this morning saying "Julia's mom said she saw dad in the paper the other day." Oh God, I thought I was going to get away with not having to explain this to the kids. So, I told her to give me a minute. And I said a prayer for God to let the right words come out of my mouth. These ki...	serendipity	8	722	Mar 27, 2008 by wp
	He has now stormed off to bed in a sulk!! (Preview) My A father is on a 2 week Easter Holiday (he is a teacher). He wants to be out by noon every day on the holiday season drinking however, as my parents don't get paid until Friday (tomorrow) there is no money for him to do this so he has been really abusive once again and stormed off to bed in a huff!! Mum is real...	CalamityJane	5	701	Mar 27, 2008 by Aloha
	Life is full os change (Preview) Hello All, Been awhile since I have posted, I have seen the darkest side of hell and now am seeing a small slice of heaven again. Living in the wolrd of addiction is a crazy thing, I went from being married to an addict for 20 yrs to actually using myself. After the death of my husband I just totally lost my w...	Andrea12	10	847	Mar 27, 2008 by Lexie
	no change of attitude yet (Preview) Though I asked my Ah to move out and he did, I have been confused how to show him that I still love him but can't live with him. He has been around to visit a lot always sober, which is nice, I am not sure that it is playing games or not. I don't want to completely ignore him and end all contact, as I don't feel it pr...	silverbrumby	5	646	Mar 27, 2008 by maresie
	Reaching Out (Preview) Hi All I just wanted to request from you some prayers for me if you dont mind. I need my life to get on track. I know the road i am going down is not the one that i want to live in yet i have been doing it for 6 months, i have been praying but i am not consistant in the things i say.. No means no, not to everyone though....	kerry5	7	471	Mar 27, 2008 by aunitedway
	Just a Newbie, Saying Hello (Preview) Hey Everyone. I've finally realized that I cannot do this alone. I have a husband who abuses alcohol and two small children who witness it. He doesn't become violent with us or anyone else, but I'm sick and tired of dealing with his hangovers... not to mention the waste of money on booze. He drinks 6...	LaLea	13	548	Mar 27, 2008 by maresie
	Over giving (Preview) I've started seeing a counselor (its short term) and am going to work on my anger and resentment. I'm really seeing now there is so much that plays into my anger. I can't load it all up from the past or the A. Some of it is my own rigid self defeating behavior. Over giving is a huge issue for me. I over give...	maresie	8	920	Mar 27, 2008 by Jean4444
	If I Can, SO CAN YOU! (Preview) Once I got busy, I got better. Simple words. True words. I was so wrapped up in my AH, I almost lost myself. Those of you who know me, know the pain I was in. I did not want to even live at one point. Couldn't imagine life without him, he didn't want me. Somehow my HP knew deep down I did want to live. I hav...	Becky1	7	784	Mar 27, 2008 by aunitedway
	The Silence is Killing Me (Preview) I've known my husband since highschool. We were sweethearts and got married 8 years after the fact. I'm starting to feel like that was a mistake. He makes me feel so sad and unappreciated. I finally got an appointment for myself at the doctor this morning, b/c I'm really needing some help for my dep...	LaLea	12	764	Mar 27, 2008 by BooBoo313
	Newbie (Preview) I'm new to the site and was delighted to find it. I plan to attend a local meeting for some f2f support about my AH, but wanted to get started right away. Upfront, his problem is not alcohol but recreational drugs, the preferred drug of choice being pot. (I noted on the board that it doesn't make a diffe...	BooBoo313	3	479	Mar 27, 2008 by DeadOrAlive
	Alcohol Always Lied to Me (Preview) I came across this while looking up some information and thought I'd share it with you all. I'll never underestimate the power of alcohol and am so grateful for the experience, strength and courage of people in Alanon. The way I see it, each time any one of us is practicing some type of recovery, using...	Maria123	7	827	Mar 27, 2008 by carosie
	RE: He decided to use sex to end our marriage (Preview) Hi all, First of all thank you for all the support from my last post. I have the best family here. Thank you all for the outpouring of love to a very hurt person. I am not sure of the outcome of last night from what he did. He and I have a pretty strong connection and when I had a feeling that things happened in th...	Mandy123	6	1030	Mar 27, 2008 by Karilynn
	Still confused.... (Preview) I heard back from the A and we had a very long phone conversation last night. He seemed depressed. He didn't bring up anything about being depressed, but he just seemed so different. Melancholy. Serious. Worried. Stressed. Not his usual self at all. He told me he was scared about his upcoming s...	round3	10	425	Mar 27, 2008 by silverbrumby
	New here (Preview) I just want to introduce myself I am Kirsty. I have 2 children leah (2) Josh (3 months). My Partner is an Alcoholic. He has addmitted he needs alcohol like a drug but he wont get help till he hits me. I really feel like im falling out of love with him. He has let me down so much. I care about him but I dont think I l...	mum2leahnjosh	8	486	Mar 27, 2008 by mum2leahnjosh
	NEWBIE (Preview) HELLO ALL, I HAVE KNOWN MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YEARS (MARRIED 4). THE PAST FEW YEARS, HE HAS STARTED DRINKING 6-10 BEERS A NIGHT AND MORE ON THE WEEKENDS. HE STILL IS A HARD WORKER AND MAINTAINS A STEEDY 50-60 HOURS A WEEK. HE HAS NEVER HIT ME OR EVEN ACTED LIKE HE WANTED TOO. EVERYTHING STARTED GOING DOWN HI...	FEARFULL88	5	545	Mar 26, 2008 by Maria123
	I want revenge (Preview) I'm in need of a little support today. Friday night when I was going to bed I noticed some papers that were laying on a dressing table that is shared by my husband and I. There was a name writen on one of the papers that is someone both my husband and I know. My first thought was, 'Oh, he is doing some work for...	Denoraphy	11	796	Mar 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Found the five G's (Preview) This one has been driving about four of us from my f2f meeting more nuts than we already were . We knew they were in one of the daily readers but none of us could find them. They are in the "Hope For Today" at the bottom of page 122 Get off his back Get out of his way Get onto yourself Get to meetings...	Mobirdie	1	576	Mar 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	Growth=Change (Preview) I'm not sure if he sees it, and I'm not sure if it matters to me if he does or doesn't see it. I see it, and I feel it. Example: there is a district picnic at the end of April at one of the beautiful state parks in east Tennessee, I wasn't sure if he knew about it, there was a flyer about it at our meeting hall, I was m...	JenniferN	3	598	Mar 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Massachusetts Alanon/Alateen Convention - Steps to Wisdom - This Weekend (Preview) http://www.ma-al-anon-alateen.org/pdfs/2008_convention_registration.pdf	Maria123	1	4596	Mar 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	THE NOT KNOWING IS KILLING ME (Preview) ((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) What's that saying "Feelings are not facts" or vice verser. So, when your feeling something, How do you know what It is you are feeling. I have things going on in my life and I don't know how i should be feeling. I know i care for people, too much if that's pos...	ally	5	692	Mar 26, 2008 by kismetstrand
	updating last 12 days (Preview) I haven't posted in nearly two weeks. Just returned from my mom's funeral and helping dad to re-group. Her passing was a blessing as she was so terribly ill with end-stage heart failure and at age 88, had had a wonderful life up until last three years. I was able to be with her for a couple days prior to he...	omajoy	8	612	Mar 26, 2008 by round3
	Helter-skelter... (Preview) I have been on quite a helter-skelter ride of late, and yet I know that I am taking more steps forward on my journey of recovery, thanks to this wonderful family and my sponsor. Fear seems to be being conquered at long last and as I lose that, so my serenity seems to be kicking in. However, I...	Heartbroken	7	548	Mar 26, 2008 by Heartbroken
	An "Aha!" Moment (Preview) This happened a while back... but it was significant for me. All along during my relationship with A-bf, he would tell me how horrible his emotionally abusive father was (he worked for good ole Dad), and how rotten his brother was (his brother is an addict, too, who also "worked" for dear o...	ESH	7	528	Mar 26, 2008 by Jean4444
	Hi There, I'm new. (Preview) Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...	LittleChef	7	630	Mar 26, 2008 by maresie
	Hi There, I'm new. (Preview) Hello. I've recently started looking at this page and quietly reading the forums without repling or signing up as a member. I've got the night off from work tonight and I think I'm ready to talk about my situation. I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We met a year and a half ago and have lived togethe...	LittleChef	1	605	Mar 26, 2008 by Christy
	New Meds to stop addiction.... (Preview) So we were with family tonight to celebrate Easter, and my brother-in-law, who has been a heavy, long time smoker announced that he has not smoked now for 8 months. He has tried to quit so many times and has tried everything. But this time he used a drug......chantix, I think it is. He also mentioned t...	mel123	7	730	Mar 26, 2008 by BatonRougian
	Alanon tools are gold (Preview) Going to try to make this short. Hard for me, stop laughing I know who you are....(o: Ok I rent a little house and my main house on my property. LIttle one mt, need new tenants. Main, the people are not sticking to the agreement. Tools, gave it to hp, thought of it as business, did not get emotional. could ha...	debilyn	4	1181	Mar 25, 2008 by debilyn
	Here I sit (Preview) I posted yesturday that my AH is in detox and I am very happy with that. He is doing well as expected. But here I sit writing this and having a glass of wine. How wrong is this.?... it is so wrong I feel, does anybody else have a drink while their AH is in rehab? When he does come out of rehab I will absolutley hav...	berly	8	475	Mar 25, 2008 by berly
	Appointment with lawyer tomorrow! (Preview) Well, I'm finally getting off the pot! I have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow. Funny to think that I have been away from him for 19 months and it still makes me a little nervous to think about going in there! I was so excited that he was back in jail so I could get this done and the thought crossed my m...	carolinagirl	5	623	Mar 25, 2008 by MIDGET
	Doesn't feel as good as I imagined. (Preview) I saw the lawyer this morning. It is going to cost me $660 and that includes the filing fee. I imagined it to be a joyful relieving feeling but I feel kind of sad. I guess because in the back of my mind there was always that hope that he'd get better and we could still have that elusive happily ever after. ...	carolinagirl	12	626	Mar 25, 2008 by debilyn
	Fatigue /self neglect (Preview) I heard in the past few days of a friend of mine I was in another recovery grouip with who has now received news she has another cancer. She had two different kinds of cancer before, had sugery, chemo and was very ill for a long time. Now she has another bout of cancer. In my recovery from codependency I do...	maresie	3	481	Mar 25, 2008 by java
	Hazelden FYI (Preview) (((((Family)))), For those of you who have signed up for the free dailey meditation reading from www.hazelden.org and haven't been getting them for a few days I contacted them. If your email ends with rr.com (i.e.) ksie&@rr.com (not a real email) they are trying to remedy the problem. It se...	Karilynn	1	387	Mar 25, 2008 by barisax
	Ok, now my diamond braclet is missing.... (Preview) I saw it Friday, it ws on my dresser with some other jewlery. And it was after I recieved my papers about child support and what day I have to go to court for that and the thought crossed my mind.."Better hide my jewlery incase he decides to give his GF a diamond tennis bracelet for Easter...." a...	serendipity	6	1075	Mar 25, 2008 by Jen
	changes (Preview) As you all know I had to take a huge step backwards and stop pretty much all my activity for a while in order to work on my health. My level of fatigue was so much that I was disabled. I could barely put one foot in front of another. The good news is that my dogs and my cat seem to be thriving under the new regimen...	maresie	4	427	Mar 25, 2008 by Lady
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