Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

be4yourii · be4yourii

this is more just a rant than anything . . . . on the 12th of this month my A crossed a line that I told him I would not tolerate by getting drunk and heading to the strip club alone. like magic $300 is gone (at a strip club that doesn't sell alcohol) and even though he is a blackout drinker he swears to me that not...

afglin · afglin

I've been in AlAnon for over 15 years, but at times this life I have chosen really gets me aggravated and frustrated. My spouse of nearly 40 years is an active alcoholic. He's been through 4 rehabs and several detox over the years. He attends AA every Friday night and meets with his sponsor on Saturday....

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I feel so alone. I feel like there is no one to help or even care. Today Marks nan told me Marks mum has told her not to talk to me about marks drinking and abusive behaviour because she is encouraging me to kick him out. So now I have no-one. I know you guys are here for me but it was nice to have some one in real li...

Mabeleileen · Mabeleileen

I know that you all don't give advice but I have to share about my issues This may be long. AH and I have been together for a long time. We have been married for 5 years and have 2 wonderful children 5 and 2. AH and I have drank and had fun together for a long time but all of a sudden I grew up. I have a beer once in a wh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yea, it is that time of year again! I am very happy after a long winter! Actually we had a very interesting spring, too! Anyway, I can't complain because I am not under water. I really feel for all of those who have really been hit hard! I know that our HP is handling our difficulties as He is in control. I ca...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

After kicking my A husband out for the first time, and having him endure being "homeless" for a week, I let him come back home...one reason - his family. Over the weekend, all of his sisters, mother and brother-n-laws did an "intervention" with him. They told him that if he didn...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

I feel I may need anti-depressants... it just hit me hard today, that i am really depressed... sometimes finding myself sad for no reason... i want to get back to the "happy" person i used to be... everything upsets me, and frustrates me... i was very upset at my daughter for disobeying me to...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

"abbyal has told me to post this for her...she says not to open ANYemail from her...hackers got into her computer and if you open it...you will have to change ur email etc..just don't open anything at all...from her email abbyal2003@yahoo.ca"Just delete her from your contacts pleaseee...

laurab · laurab

Hi All, I have been reading every day, but not responding because I don't feel too capable. My A Son wound up on the street for 2 weeks. We didn't know. He finally called his wife, (they have been separated for 2 years.) She picked him up. The next day she phoned to say they were moving in together in a rented...

be4yourii · be4yourii

it's been a long, long time since i've posted in here. i am still with my A and am wondering if anyone has been able to make it work living with an active A. the most recent incident has pushed me right up to the edge. part of me is so fed up and so done . . . . the other part just can't see living without him.

meagain · meagain

In my previous topic's I wrote about all the troubles between my son and daughter-in-law. this morning I called and almost "pleaded" for them to come for a bar-be-que---whenever it's "convient" for you...and could I please take the kids to a show.? Now this is about the 8t...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

My A just replapsed. We have been together for 6 months and when we got together I new he was an A because I met him at an AA meeting. He had been clean for almost 9 months. I have been clean and sober for over a year with no intention of ever repeating what I did. Of course I can only take it one day at a time fo...

AJ · AJ

I met my AH 20 yrs ago, went our separate ways, got reacquainted 5 yrs ago, married 4 yrs ago. I knew he had a drinking problem when I married him (he smokes weed too) I drank, but as a normal person would. I thought I could fix his addictions, it would only take time, because he's such a nice guy and worth savi...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

Hello all... Please help me... this is my last resource before I admit myself into the hospital for having a breakdown. History: I am married to an alcoholic who abuses cocaine, and he also has been diagnosed with Bipolar and Hypomania. I am a beautiful, self-sufficient, hardworking woman (govern...

Diva · Diva

Damn these alcoholics! Every one of them. I have been patient and loving; I have swallowed my pride; I have tried to keep mind and body together; I have tried to learn how to be happy and serene while he causes pain and havoc; I have tiptoed around the subject so as not to hurt him. What has HE done? DRINK!! I...

kimo · kimo

This is my first posting. I have been in a relationship with d for 9 yrs who is lovely when sober, but once he has a drink cannot stop! I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together who is 8. D insists that he hasn't a problem, that it's "all me" but is verbally abusive wh...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Hello "Family" I know it's been a while since I've posted. Things are going ok here. I almost "relapsed" but forced myself to talk to him about what was bothering me. Unfortunately, the conversation wound up being about HIM because he interuppted me when I was explaining what...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

Hi, I am new to this posting site and was looking for some guidance. I have been to one Al-Anon meeting, but haven't been to another. My BF & I live together and he is an Alcoholic/Addict that had almost put together nine months. However two weeks ago he slipped and went out. He started drinking and...

debilyn · debilyn

I finally decided to call her in England. She is changing servers.It was so cool hearing her beautiful English accent. Was such a relief that she is ok. She asked me to let you all know she misses everyone and sends her love. You know she could just say words that meant nothing but you would love to just hea...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

For those following my story about my A, he keeps calling me crying. He told me he spent the last 3 days living in the streets. He has never been homeless before in his life. I am the first person to put him out and stand up to him (in all his past relationships, he gave his partners the boot). I need clarity...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi All, I haven't posted in a while but I have been reading your posts. I'm really struggling with personal boundaries at present. My sister comes over with her three small children and lets them run all over my house exploring. This makes me very uncomfortable. They break things and spill things etc...

maresie · maresie

I just had to cancel my dental appointment again because I dont have the money to pay for it. This last year has been one of the hardest in my life financially. The first few months I was numb now I'm in the long long haul of getting through debilitating debt, health issues, isolation and more. I do what I...

canadianguy · canadianguy

The question was raised recently of where the awesome quote came from: He is either gonna drink, or he won't, what are YOU gonna do?? I may have been the first to post it on MIP, but it came to me from my wise old (online) sponsor, who has since passed away..... He had many gems, and here are a few of my favouri...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My dad who lives 900 miles away from me, is very special, he is definitely one of a kind. A few years ago I went for a visit. I stayed about two weeks and one day he said, I need a hug! Boy, was that weird but special, actually unusual. I spent almost one whole day or so it seems crying because he misunderstoo...

charr · charr

I am having a hard time with what my ah has been doing and now after all the internet porn chapter (thats what put into a rage in the session) my pshycologist made an appt with my phsyciatrist, i just went to see and i told her the celexa and xanax is not working, she said she heard about the episode and she is p...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I think I have figured out something really cool- my life is going along well! I have for the most part eliminated all drama and trauma from my life. I am content and peaceful. I no longer need to beg God for mercy; I now know that he is merciful, I know God is with me and working with me in my life, guiding me an...

queenie105 · queenie105

My AH lost his job of over 20 years yesterday, fired for being drunk on the job. I knew it was coming down the pike, and for years (before Alanon) I used to beg, plead, threaten, cry to try and make him stop drinking before losing his job. Take the beers out of his truck, etc. Did it work? No. What worked...

norwood · norwood

Hi all, I am going to the upcoming International convention and I think it would be great to meet and say hi as a group for dinner or something. If you are interested, let's see if we can plan something. Best - always -- Edited by norwood at 19:32, 2008-06-16

Loupiness · Loupiness

My son is almost 15 . The other night we were talking and he told me that when he grows up, he either wants to live in Barcelona, Spain or Utah. Of course, I asked him why, to which he replied that Barcelona is the skateboarding capital of the world and its located near the ocean. Okay, that made sense. As f...

queenie105 · queenie105

I just want to let you all know that even though I joined MIP last week, I have been reading so many posts, and I'll tell you, I am learning so much from all of you. I'm learning new tools and also sayings that make so much sense and put things in a new perspective. I may be a little down right now, but coming...

glad · glad

When I detach and focus on my work, my life, my program. I feel great and things get better when I do spend time with my ABF. But then they get a little better- he almost shares something or seems to care about something a little and I "forget" and act "normal" meaning forget to const...

stormie · stormie

My AH loves to fish. He and his fishing buddies, some are family members, have always planned a few weekend fishing trips per year, throughout several decades. Of course, alcohol is "always" a part of the weekend package. Last year was my AH's first year to pass on the trip to a particula...

akristab · akristab

Although, I haven't been very active posting on this board, I frequently read the posts and want to thank everyone and tell you how grateful I have been to read your words of encouragement to other members. The unwaiving support that I have read regularly provided me the foundation that I needed to ge...

queenie105 · queenie105

Well, I went away for the weekend w/my son, his girlfriend and my grandson. We had such a nice time. I figured AH would call me, so I wasn't planning on answering the phone. My grandson answered it while we were outside though, and it was AH. Of course, he was drunk. (If any of you remember, he was susp...

CABBYJ · CABBYJ

Hello. I'm new here. My AH and I have been together 15 years & married just 1. I postponed the marriage for a long time because of the drinking. Then I accepted my fate and decided I wasn't going to leave and decided to marry him, under the impression that God blesses marriage & all my problem...

SOSAD · SOSAD

hi this is my first time posting here. im so tired, so drained, so disgusted i could spit. I married my husband almost 19 years ago im in my mid 40,s. he hid his drinking quite well. As i have never drank I really didnt notice any of the red flags. I have 4 beautiful children who have not really had a Dad emot...

joyoma · joyoma

Yesterday I had my 3-month post-cancer treatment checkup once more; it has been 15 months since my initial diagnosis of sarcoma in upper thigh with four months of chemo, and one year exactly since surgery to remove tumor, and then I had three months of radiation treatment. Well, bad news yesterday...

ESH · ESH

Recap: Haven't seen A-bf since early February. He had broken up with me. I went through the grief process of loss. He went to 90-day rehab (April - July) and is now calling and acting as if nothing ever happened; acting as if we are still a couple. In short I stated, "You broke up with me." H...

China · China

It has been very difficult to deal with the ups and downs of alcoholism, drug addiction, bipolar. It is like beeing in the middle of the storm and unable to do anything. Finally, the A has calmed-down for a couple of days. He does not remember anythings: Yelling, beings hurtful to me and his son, destruc...

beth38 · beth38

I'm kind of new to the program. I was in alanon when I was married to my first husband but stopped going when we got divorced. The problem is my fifteen year old daughter. She got into trouble and got a ticket for being a minor in posession of alcohol. She has been unable to earn my trust and calls me terr...

stormie · stormie

Hello Everyone: I found this board last year about this time when my AH was very active and in deep denial. Messages on this board, coupled with the research I had done all last year helped me to make the personal choice of separating from him. After 3 weeks of separation, he crashed and went into to deto...

sdisnie · sdisnie

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DT1221 · DT1221

Hello, everyone! I am so frustrated I want to scream. I can't get on the chat room my Java isn't working. sounds like a good line in a commercial ) but it's not. I just want to pull my hair out and scream retty much. I know I let my AH get to me and I shouldn't but with that said I am also tired of the nasty person I l...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I'm numb and apalled, but relieved. My AH decided to take Father's Day as the opportunity to tell his children about his girlfriend. Yep, Father's Day, the day designed to celebrate the one who is the leader and protector of his family. What an idiot! As we were driving out of town tonight...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All. Happy Fathers Day to those of you who are qualified especially for the gals who are doing double duty. I kinda forgot it was Fathers Day even though the family started the celebration yesterday at the zoo. Three sons and a daughter doing double duty for now as her pilot husband just returne...

maresie · maresie

I am working on my 4th step which given I have been here 2/3 years is something. I am really finding it hard going as I'm now aware how much my people pleasing cost me and what a set up it was for me. I feel pretty raw about it. I also feel kind of stuck where I am. I am not making enough money and in theory would b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My kitties are doing well..except one who had an ingrown nail. She is doing well after a trip to the Vet and some antibiotics that we have to give her! She does like it but it smells like bubblegum or something like that! Anyway, I hope it is ok to send you a direct post. I wanted to make sure you got this mes...

JDel · JDel

Hi everyone! I am so happy to have found this board. I have been reading the posts and I don't feel alone anymore. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one in the world going through this. My husband is an addict. Mainly alcohol and rx pain pills, but what I'm learning is that he will abuse anything he can...

worriedgirl · worriedgirl

Hi to the group! So, I'm worried. I'm worried about my boyfriend. We've been dating for 8 months and I thought I'd found the one. I still think he's for me. However, the last couple months have been a roller coaster. We moved in together in April and now summer has begun (I'm a school teacher) and I'm...

dlookeast · dlookeast

My boyfriend is an Ah. I love him dearly. I have recently informed him that I couldn't deal with it anymore. It refering to coming home every night and wondering weather or not at one point or another he'd be standing over me yelling, cursing, and screaming. Basically I gave him a choice. He made a doctor...

debilyn · debilyn

where are you???

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family))))) Hubby and I went for our annual physical this week. The doctor found that hubby's blood pressure was elevated. Hubby has had high blood pressure, but the doctor also found that mine was elevated too. I have never had high blood pressure before. The doctor has ordered some tests for bo...

david62 · david62

For my Dad....... I wanted to do something special today for my dad. I wanted to try to express what he means to me now and how I feel about him. The obvious starting place is that without him..with a little help from my mom too of course, I would not exist. And I also believe "The King" my HP, has e...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Tonight I took a journey back to the room where I have met some wonderful friends over these few years. It felt like coming home everyone was so very warm and welcoming. It was absolutely wonderful. Sometimes along the road of Life, we can get lost, confused and just down right depre...

joyoma · joyoma

My husband, our son and his child, and I spent Father's Day weekend in a condo on a lovely beach. It was an attempt at celebrating a family holiday in a different way. My son continues to grieve over his now two-year old divorce...something he did not want but couldn't stop. His grief and depression...

junehouse · junehouse

Hello All, I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me because I am 'not' in contact with my father. I send photos of my son two times a year at Christmas and at his birthday. Since he is just two this year this is a fairly new idea I have had. I got the idea from someone in AA to send photos. Both my parents...

meagain · meagain

As I was saying my son treats me like his A father did to me. I have told my some I am not afraid physcially-but mentainally an emotionally.I have not heard back from him in this regard---but no more playing tag on the internet with him. Enough already. I am really sticking to my boundaries....I am reall...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((MIP Dads))))), To my MIP Dads: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! I thank you for all your love, strength and laughs you have given us. You are indeed a special bunch of men. I may tease you lots, but it comes from the . May your day be extra special filled with love and laughter. Do the things you and spend them...

China · China

Hi, It is my first time posting. I am very concerned. I have been thinking of moving out of the house. But my A always changes my mind. Telling me that it is best for the family to stay together that it will hurt our 8 year old son, that it is best finanacially etc... However, I can't control my temper anymore...

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	another excuse (Preview) this is more just a rant than anything . . . . on the 12th of this month my A crossed a line that I told him I would not tolerate by getting drunk and heading to the strip club alone. like magic $300 is gone (at a strip club that doesn't sell alcohol) and even though he is a blackout drinker he swears to me that not...	be4yourii	6	522	Jun 24, 2008 by maresie
	aggravated and frustrated (Preview) I've been in AlAnon for over 15 years, but at times this life I have chosen really gets me aggravated and frustrated. My spouse of nearly 40 years is an active alcoholic. He's been through 4 rehabs and several detox over the years. He attends AA every Friday night and meets with his sponsor on Saturday....	afglin	7	413	Jun 24, 2008 by laurab
	Feel Totaly Alone (Preview) I feel so alone. I feel like there is no one to help or even care. Today Marks nan told me Marks mum has told her not to talk to me about marks drinking and abusive behaviour because she is encouraging me to kick him out. So now I have no-one. I know you guys are here for me but it was nice to have some one in real li...	mum2leahnjosh	4	440	Jun 24, 2008 by stariana
	I just don't know what to do. (Preview) I know that you all don't give advice but I have to share about my issues This may be long. AH and I have been together for a long time. We have been married for 5 years and have 2 wonderful children 5 and 2. AH and I have drank and had fun together for a long time but all of a sudden I grew up. I have a beer once in a wh...	Mabeleileen	10	469	Jun 24, 2008 by stariana
	Summer is Here! (Preview) Yea, it is that time of year again! I am very happy after a long winter! Actually we had a very interesting spring, too! Anyway, I can't complain because I am not under water. I really feel for all of those who have really been hit hard! I know that our HP is handling our difficulties as He is in control. I ca...	Hoot Nanny	2	451	Jun 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	Praying for a Miracle (I let him back in) (Preview) After kicking my A husband out for the first time, and having him endure being "homeless" for a week, I let him come back home...one reason - his family. Over the weekend, all of his sisters, mother and brother-n-laws did an "intervention" with him. They told him that if he didn...	jaysbaby	9	729	Jun 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	fighting depression (Preview) I feel I may need anti-depressants... it just hit me hard today, that i am really depressed... sometimes finding myself sad for no reason... i want to get back to the "happy" person i used to be... everything upsets me, and frustrates me... i was very upset at my daughter for disobeying me to...	jaysbaby	2	495	Jun 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	WARNING WARNING PLEASE READ (Preview) "abbyal has told me to post this for her...she says not to open ANYemail from her...hackers got into her computer and if you open it...you will have to change ur email etc..just don't open anything at all...from her email abbyal2003@yahoo.ca"Just delete her from your contacts pleaseee...	Lauren ashley	2	552	Jun 23, 2008 by John
	I am a coward (Preview) Hi All, I have been reading every day, but not responding because I don't feel too capable. My A Son wound up on the street for 2 weeks. We didn't know. He finally called his wife, (they have been separated for 2 years.) She picked him up. The next day she phoned to say they were moving in together in a rented...	laurab	6	455	Jun 23, 2008 by Gailey
	living with an active A (Preview) it's been a long, long time since i've posted in here. i am still with my A and am wondering if anyone has been able to make it work living with an active A. the most recent incident has pushed me right up to the edge. part of me is so fed up and so done . . . . the other part just can't see living without him.	be4yourii	6	609	Jun 23, 2008 by Gared
	Am I doing the right thing?? (Preview) In my previous topic's I wrote about all the troubles between my son and daughter-in-law. this morning I called and almost "pleaded" for them to come for a bar-be-que---whenever it's "convient" for you...and could I please take the kids to a show.? Now this is about the 8t...	meagain	2	571	Jun 23, 2008 by Jen
	what I needed to read today... (Melody) (Preview) Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with...	Jean4444	3	564	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	One more chance (Preview) My A just replapsed. We have been together for 6 months and when we got together I new he was an A because I met him at an AA meeting. He had been clean for almost 9 months. I have been clean and sober for over a year with no intention of ever repeating what I did. Of course I can only take it one day at a time fo...	serenity041807	3	406	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	In a Nut Shell (Preview) I met my AH 20 yrs ago, went our separate ways, got reacquainted 5 yrs ago, married 4 yrs ago. I knew he had a drinking problem when I married him (he smokes weed too) I drank, but as a normal person would. I thought I could fix his addictions, it would only take time, because he's such a nice guy and worth savi...	AJ	4	489	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	New here... recovering from physical, verbal and emotional abuse (Preview) Hello all... Please help me... this is my last resource before I admit myself into the hospital for having a breakdown. History: I am married to an alcoholic who abuses cocaine, and he also has been diagnosed with Bipolar and Hypomania. I am a beautiful, self-sufficient, hardworking woman (govern...	jaysbaby	18	674	Jun 22, 2008 by stormie
	A drinking, drunk liar! What more could anyone want??? (Preview) Damn these alcoholics! Every one of them. I have been patient and loving; I have swallowed my pride; I have tried to keep mind and body together; I have tried to learn how to be happy and serene while he causes pain and havoc; I have tiptoed around the subject so as not to hurt him. What has HE done? DRINK!! I...	Diva	15	1715	Jun 21, 2008 by AJ
	binge drinker (Preview) This is my first posting. I have been in a relationship with d for 9 yrs who is lovely when sober, but once he has a drink cannot stop! I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together who is 8. D insists that he hasn't a problem, that it's "all me" but is verbally abusive wh...	kimo	7	840	Jun 21, 2008 by abbyal
	Learning Everyday (Preview) Hello "Family" I know it's been a while since I've posted. Things are going ok here. I almost "relapsed" but forced myself to talk to him about what was bothering me. Unfortunately, the conversation wound up being about HIM because he interuppted me when I was explaining what...	JenniferN	2	477	Jun 21, 2008 by Bettina
	New to postings (Preview) Hi, I am new to this posting site and was looking for some guidance. I have been to one Al-Anon meeting, but haven't been to another. My BF & I live together and he is an Alcoholic/Addict that had almost put together nine months. However two weeks ago he slipped and went out. He started drinking and...	serenity041807	6	421	Jun 21, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	susannah is ok (Preview) I finally decided to call her in England. She is changing servers.It was so cool hearing her beautiful English accent. Was such a relief that she is ok. She asked me to let you all know she misses everyone and sends her love. You know she could just say words that meant nothing but you would love to just hea...	debilyn	1	339	Jun 21, 2008 by david62
	Need reinforcement (Preview) For those following my story about my A, he keeps calling me crying. He told me he spent the last 3 days living in the streets. He has never been homeless before in his life. I am the first person to put him out and stand up to him (in all his past relationships, he gave his partners the boot). I need clarity...	jaysbaby	11	517	Jun 21, 2008 by Karilynn
	boundaries (Preview) Hi All, I haven't posted in a while but I have been reading your posts. I'm really struggling with personal boundaries at present. My sister comes over with her three small children and lets them run all over my house exploring. This makes me very uncomfortable. They break things and spill things etc...	annmarie	5	469	Jun 20, 2008 by jaysbaby
	leaving is such a hard thing to do (Preview) I just had to cancel my dental appointment again because I dont have the money to pay for it. This last year has been one of the hardest in my life financially. The first few months I was numb now I'm in the long long haul of getting through debilitating debt, health issues, isolation and more. I do what I...	maresie	7	689	Jun 20, 2008 by maresie
	"He is either gonna drink, or he won't......" (Preview) The question was raised recently of where the awesome quote came from: He is either gonna drink, or he won't, what are YOU gonna do?? I may have been the first to post it on MIP, but it came to me from my wise old (online) sponsor, who has since passed away..... He had many gems, and here are a few of my favouri...	canadianguy	6	990	Jun 19, 2008 by cookie1971
	MY DAD (Preview) My dad who lives 900 miles away from me, is very special, he is definitely one of a kind. A few years ago I went for a visit. I stayed about two weeks and one day he said, I need a hug! Boy, was that weird but special, actually unusual. I spent almost one whole day or so it seems crying because he misunderstoo...	Hoot Nanny	1	384	Jun 19, 2008 by Leetle
	i had an angry rage episode in MT and now what me to take Seroquel !!!!! (Preview) I am having a hard time with what my ah has been doing and now after all the internet porn chapter (thats what put into a rage in the session) my pshycologist made an appt with my phsyciatrist, i just went to see and i told her the celexa and xanax is not working, she said she heard about the episode and she is p...	charr	11	585	Jun 19, 2008 by serendipity
	I do not need to beg God anymore (Preview) I think I have figured out something really cool- my life is going along well! I have for the most part eliminated all drama and trauma from my life. I am content and peaceful. I no longer need to beg God for mercy; I now know that he is merciful, I know God is with me and working with me in my life, guiding me an...	Jean4444	5	715	Jun 19, 2008 by Jerry F
	Would you call this a moment of clarity? (Preview) My AH lost his job of over 20 years yesterday, fired for being drunk on the job. I knew it was coming down the pike, and for years (before Alanon) I used to beg, plead, threaten, cry to try and make him stop drinking before losing his job. Take the beers out of his truck, etc. Did it work? No. What worked...	queenie105	6	1049	Jun 19, 2008 by Christy
	International convention Pittsburgh PA 7/3-7/7 (Preview) Hi all, I am going to the upcoming International convention and I think it would be great to meet and say hi as a group for dinner or something. If you are interested, let's see if we can plan something. Best - always -- Edited by norwood at 19:32, 2008-06-16	norwood	4	2441	Jun 19, 2008 by Rita G
	Barcelona or Utah? (Preview) My son is almost 15 . The other night we were talking and he told me that when he grows up, he either wants to live in Barcelona, Spain or Utah. Of course, I asked him why, to which he replied that Barcelona is the skateboarding capital of the world and its located near the ocean. Okay, that made sense. As f...	Loupiness	8	532	Jun 19, 2008 by nmike
	Glad I'm Here! (Preview) I just want to let you all know that even though I joined MIP last week, I have been reading so many posts, and I'll tell you, I am learning so much from all of you. I'm learning new tools and also sayings that make so much sense and put things in a new perspective. I may be a little down right now, but coming...	queenie105	4	419	Jun 19, 2008 by Mabeleileen
	yuky weekend! (Preview) When I detach and focus on my work, my life, my program. I feel great and things get better when I do spend time with my ABF. But then they get a little better- he almost shares something or seems to care about something a little and I "forget" and act "normal" meaning forget to const...	glad	5	616	Jun 19, 2008 by round3
	Is This Even Possible? (Preview) My AH loves to fish. He and his fishing buddies, some are family members, have always planned a few weekend fishing trips per year, throughout several decades. Of course, alcohol is "always" a part of the weekend package. Last year was my AH's first year to pass on the trip to a particula...	stormie	15	536	Jun 19, 2008 by stormie
	Slowly but surely (Preview) Although, I haven't been very active posting on this board, I frequently read the posts and want to thank everyone and tell you how grateful I have been to read your words of encouragement to other members. The unwaiving support that I have read regularly provided me the foundation that I needed to ge...	akristab	4	397	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	Any tools to remain calm? Also a vent! Sorry. (Preview) Well, I went away for the weekend w/my son, his girlfriend and my grandson. We had such a nice time. I figured AH would call me, so I wasn't planning on answering the phone. My grandson answered it while we were outside though, and it was AH. Of course, he was drunk. (If any of you remember, he was susp...	queenie105	9	662	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	NEW HERE (Preview) Hello. I'm new here. My AH and I have been together 15 years & married just 1. I postponed the marriage for a long time because of the drinking. Then I accepted my fate and decided I wasn't going to leave and decided to marry him, under the impression that God blesses marriage & all my problem...	CABBYJ	2	392	Jun 18, 2008 by stariana
	please help AH (Preview) hi this is my first time posting here. im so tired, so drained, so disgusted i could spit. I married my husband almost 19 years ago im in my mid 40,s. he hid his drinking quite well. As i have never drank I really didnt notice any of the red flags. I have 4 beautiful children who have not really had a Dad emot...	SOSAD	12	503	Jun 18, 2008 by SOSAD
	Prayers definitely needed (Preview) Yesterday I had my 3-month post-cancer treatment checkup once more; it has been 15 months since my initial diagnosis of sarcoma in upper thigh with four months of chemo, and one year exactly since surgery to remove tumor, and then I had three months of radiation treatment. Well, bad news yesterday...	joyoma	8	538	Jun 18, 2008 by carosie
	I'm at a loss for words... speechless. (Preview) Recap: Haven't seen A-bf since early February. He had broken up with me. I went through the grief process of loss. He went to 90-day rehab (April - July) and is now calling and acting as if nothing ever happened; acting as if we are still a couple. In short I stated, "You broke up with me." H...	ESH	9	825	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	The storm has passed! (Preview) It has been very difficult to deal with the ups and downs of alcoholism, drug addiction, bipolar. It is like beeing in the middle of the storm and unable to do anything. Finally, the A has calmed-down for a couple of days. He does not remember anythings: Yelling, beings hurtful to me and his son, destruc...	China	4	401	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	need help (Preview) I'm kind of new to the program. I was in alanon when I was married to my first husband but stopped going when we got divorced. The problem is my fifteen year old daughter. She got into trouble and got a ticket for being a minor in posession of alcohol. She has been unable to earn my trust and calls me terr...	beth38	1	403	Jun 18, 2008 by CJ
	He Had a Relapse (Preview) Hello Everyone: I found this board last year about this time when my AH was very active and in deep denial. Messages on this board, coupled with the research I had done all last year helped me to make the personal choice of separating from him. After 3 weeks of separation, he crashed and went into to deto...	stormie	6	492	Jun 17, 2008 by maresie
	Understanding Alcoholism (Preview) http://www.healthmad.com/Addiction/Understanding-Addiction.139538	sdisnie	4	1257	Jun 17, 2008 by canadianguy
	Pulling my hair out! (Preview) Hello, everyone! I am so frustrated I want to scream. I can't get on the chat room my Java isn't working. sounds like a good line in a commercial ) but it's not. I just want to pull my hair out and scream retty much. I know I let my AH get to me and I shouldn't but with that said I am also tired of the nasty person I l...	DT1221	5	493	Jun 17, 2008 by maresie
	the elephant left the room (Preview) Hi Friends, I'm numb and apalled, but relieved. My AH decided to take Father's Day as the opportunity to tell his children about his girlfriend. Yep, Father's Day, the day designed to celebrate the one who is the leader and protector of his family. What an idiot! As we were driving out of town tonight...	Loupiness	7	1033	Jun 17, 2008 by junehouse
	Fathers Day experiences (Preview) Aloha All. Happy Fathers Day to those of you who are qualified especially for the gals who are doing double duty. I kinda forgot it was Fathers Day even though the family started the celebration yesterday at the zoo. Three sons and a daughter doing double duty for now as her pilot husband just returne...	Jerry F	6	563	Jun 17, 2008 by glad lee
	doing a 4th step (Preview) I am working on my 4th step which given I have been here 2/3 years is something. I am really finding it hard going as I'm now aware how much my people pleasing cost me and what a set up it was for me. I feel pretty raw about it. I also feel kind of stuck where I am. I am not making enough money and in theory would b...	maresie	4	576	Jun 17, 2008 by maresie
	Hey Karilyn! (Preview) My kitties are doing well..except one who had an ingrown nail. She is doing well after a trip to the Vet and some antibiotics that we have to give her! She does like it but it smells like bubblegum or something like that! Anyway, I hope it is ok to send you a direct post. I wanted to make sure you got this mes...	Hoot Nanny	1	381	Jun 17, 2008 by Karilynn
	Hi! New and glad to be here (Preview) Hi everyone! I am so happy to have found this board. I have been reading the posts and I don't feel alone anymore. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one in the world going through this. My husband is an addict. Mainly alcohol and rx pain pills, but what I'm learning is that he will abuse anything he can...	JDel	7	710	Jun 17, 2008 by JDel
	wondering if I should even be here (Preview) Hi to the group! So, I'm worried. I'm worried about my boyfriend. We've been dating for 8 months and I thought I'd found the one. I still think he's for me. However, the last couple months have been a roller coaster. We moved in together in April and now summer has begun (I'm a school teacher) and I'm...	worriedgirl	5	626	Jun 17, 2008 by JDel
	Feels Like A Lost Cause (Preview) My boyfriend is an Ah. I love him dearly. I have recently informed him that I couldn't deal with it anymore. It refering to coming home every night and wondering weather or not at one point or another he'd be standing over me yelling, cursing, and screaming. Basically I gave him a choice. He made a doctor...	dlookeast	3	746	Jun 16, 2008 by dlookeast
	Suzannah (Preview) where are you???	debilyn	0	330	Jun 16, 2008 by debilyn
	HAVING TESTS AND NEED PRAYERS (Preview) ((((Family))))) Hubby and I went for our annual physical this week. The doctor found that hubby's blood pressure was elevated. Hubby has had high blood pressure, but the doctor also found that mine was elevated too. I have never had high blood pressure before. The doctor has ordered some tests for bo...	cookie1971	2	505	Jun 16, 2008 by Maria123
	For My Dad (Preview) For my Dad....... I wanted to do something special today for my dad. I wanted to try to express what he means to me now and how I feel about him. The obvious starting place is that without him..with a little help from my mom too of course, I would not exist. And I also believe "The King" my HP, has e...	david62	9	550	Jun 16, 2008 by abbyal
	Coming Home (Preview) Hello Friends, Tonight I took a journey back to the room where I have met some wonderful friends over these few years. It felt like coming home everyone was so very warm and welcoming. It was absolutely wonderful. Sometimes along the road of Life, we can get lost, confused and just down right depre...	Andrea12	6	434	Jun 16, 2008 by queenie105
	family weekend (Preview) My husband, our son and his child, and I spent Father's Day weekend in a condo on a lovely beach. It was an attempt at celebrating a family holiday in a different way. My son continues to grieve over his now two-year old divorce...something he did not want but couldn't stop. His grief and depression...	joyoma	1	384	Jun 16, 2008 by Diva
	I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me... (Preview) Hello All, I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me because I am 'not' in contact with my father. I send photos of my son two times a year at Christmas and at his birthday. Since he is just two this year this is a fairly new idea I have had. I got the idea from someone in AA to send photos. Both my parents...	junehouse	2	449	Jun 16, 2008 by junehouse
	sons like fathers?? (Preview) As I was saying my son treats me like his A father did to me. I have told my some I am not afraid physcially-but mentainally an emotionally.I have not heard back from him in this regard---but no more playing tag on the internet with him. Enough already. I am really sticking to my boundaries....I am reall...	meagain	2	450	Jun 16, 2008 by Jerry F
	HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO MIP DADS! (Preview) (((((MIP Dads))))), To my MIP Dads: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! I thank you for all your love, strength and laughs you have given us. You are indeed a special bunch of men. I may tease you lots, but it comes from the . May your day be extra special filled with love and laughter. Do the things you and spend them...	Karilynn	2	603	Jun 16, 2008 by Jerry F
	What to do? (Preview) Hi, It is my first time posting. I am very concerned. I have been thinking of moving out of the house. But my A always changes my mind. Telling me that it is best for the family to stay together that it will hurt our 8 year old son, that it is best finanacially etc... However, I can't control my temper anymore...	China	7	470	Jun 16, 2008 by China
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