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Dear All, Today I got another doozie of an email from one of my bosses. He says his higher ups are making him do these things which involve changing the title of my job which was sanctioned by all these higher ups. I rang him back and was very direct. I told him I was insulted by the email and had not received a professional email like it before which is the truth. I also told him I would have to think about whether or not I wanted to continue working for him. I am going to take the weekend to think about this. I know I would lose out financially but I do need to work in a less stressful environment and I am not coping well with getting emails like ' I have been told to forcefully tell you' . My friend thinks he is threatened by how well I have done the job as it has been noticed by several people. I think I should cut my losses and run. It makes me laugh though, run out of a job because of being too good at it. This is a first for me. I'm going to leave it in my HPs hands.
Just a suggestion? Rather than cut and run, try patience, communications and negotiation. If you don't arrive, with them, at a solution then arrive somewhere else without them. Recovery has taught me alot and one of the things was that I was neither all black or white and was capable of living within grey areas and still being the best I could be.
They are, he is and you are all human or just a bunch of imperfect people trying to do the best you all can with what you have available. Why not negotiate? "The goal of all negotiation is not a "no" or a "yes" but maybe."
I have had similar experiences. I think its great you set limits.
Evaluate your options.
The thing with leaving is you don't get unemployment generally.
Review what you can do, evaluate, make a plan b.
I don't think many plan b's include cutting and running.
you can give yourself more time than one weekend.
Option, option, option option option option keep that in the forefront.
Personally I think we codependents know crisis, we have to find another way of dealing with this stuff. And this stuff is everywhere. If not him, someone else.
It doesn't mean you put up with it but you do set limits, evaluate, look at options, plan be and more.
If I'm going to cut and run from a job, either they will have to fire me or I'll have to have a nest egg.
Detaching is hard when we're up the wall but its the only option.
