Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

smileycat · smileycat

Hi all I am having a bad moment at this time. my A of 21 years thinks that just because he is in recovery that all the problems for the past need to stay in the past. that the reaction of the other poeple in the house has nothing to to with the fact that me live in the family diesae of A. he wants to think that are...

mzkels · mzkels

Hello all I am new to your forum... I figured I needed some help.. but meetings in my area are hours away. I dont know who to talk to - or where to turn. I cant seem to figure out when its safe to trust that my world willnot be upset by my alcholic husband. I am freaked... because I know my anger and need to cont...

weggie · weggie

I physically can't take it anymore. I have been away from this board for awhile, thinking I know all and can handle it. I have realized,,not so much. I have given everything over to my God and I trust him completely. I have come to the end,,,I have found out that my husband is not only an alcholic but a g...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I'm a newbie here so you'll have to forgive all the questions-lol, but I'm still learning....and probally always will be. My question is this......is there a workbook or a certain book/tool for working the steps??? Want to begin but not quite sure where or how.....any input would be appreciated...

Diva · Diva

This is a phrase I hear time and time again. "His/her drinking is none of my business." Who came up with THAT bright idea? Let's say ABF/GF wrecks your car and injures someone in the process. You better believe this is your business. If you don't believe it, just wait and see who gets sue...

gknee · gknee

Hi MIP family-Its been a long time since I've been on here-- not that life has been a bowl of cherries or anything. Here's the long and short of it. My AH of 18 years is still using (with brief episodes of abstinence) During a summer bingefest he hooked up with someone, caught crabs and shared them with me...

Ash · Ash

Ok so my lack of trust and abundance of fear have gotten me into a position of lockdown - almost making myself physically sick. So it occurred to me that some if not most of the thoughts and beliefs in my mind must be wrong. My husband and I are both Alcoholic - I haven't had a drink in over 7 years. I am extr...

Robinks · Robinks

please send me a private message, I want to stay in touch.

Rocky38 · Rocky38

You may have noticed already, but your missing post is back! Regards, Rocky

Codependent · Codependent

Do I trust my higher power to work it out? Do I trust my Higher Power to take care of my A? Do I trust my Higher Power to protect and not just punish my A? Do I trust my higher power to send me someone to share my life...?

Sincerely · Sincerely

Last night was the 1st time in a while that I have been to a meeting. Ya'll are wonderful. Just like bestfriends, I came in late, sat on the sofa and just picked up where we left off a month ago. WONDERFUL, absoutely WONDERFUL! Thanks for being my friends. Sincerely, Tonya

nicegirl · nicegirl

I never really thought of this as a major issue until recently. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we are now thinking about moving in together. He goes out a few times a night to hang with his friends and drink. I used to drink a little with my friends but not to the extent that he does. H...

LEEA · LEEA

There was a point where my daugher, my sister and my boy friend were all living in my house. My boy friend was drinking, and having alot of problems with it. My daughter was not doing what she needed to do to be a productive member of the adult world. She was lying, stealing, refusing to work, and flunki...

intothewoods · intothewoods

Hey everyone! It's been a long time since I've posted, but I'm back with another question. When he's wandering around, beer in hand, and he asks me "What's wrong?" What the heck do I tell him? LOL I'm trying to do my own thing and live for me and have a good night doing what I want to do and letting...

smileycat · smileycat

I am Adult Child of a Alcoholic, a wife of an alcoholic that is in recovery. He has a counsler but where he gose they do not have counsler for the other part of the family disease. I have been going to an al-anon meeting one time a week but would like to find an online meeting to get in to on the other day of the...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Today I feel like my HP is really guiding me along to get stuff done. I've been surrendering to the Lord all the situations in my life. Yesterday I had a good conversation with my A fiance. It went really well. He respected my boundaries and I was using the program. Not telling him what to do. I didn't discu...

Jerry F · Jerry F

When you let go and let God take over. Ruby Blue at 7 months. I'm wishin I could live forever. (((((hugs)))))

Nicole · Nicole

I am discovering how important it is for me to separate the disease from the person. I am finding that I get into really insane behavior when I forget that I am dealing with sick people. When our literature talks about the family disease of alcoholism, they are literally saying everyone is affect...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Well it finally happened. He crashed again. This time to his all time low (I think). He's drinking, doing drugs and running with the pole dancing strippers again. To top it off, in the last month, he's been pulled over 3, not once, not twice, but 3 friggen times for DUI. 2 times he's been involved in...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

TODAY IS A GOOD DAY! I SLEPT IN & GOT A PRETTY GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP WHICH IS SOMETIMES RARE FOR ME. I GUESS I AM FINALLY TURNING SOME THINGS OVER. SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED IN THE LAST MONTH. I HAVE FINALLY SETTLED IN BUT THERE IS STILL A LOT TO BE DONE. I JUST TAKE ONE THING AT A TIME, ONE DAY AT A TIME. MY HP SOMET...

smileycat · smileycat

How do you get one and how dose it work?

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))), May I offer a gentle suggestion to the OPs? This is not to criticize the wonderful and hard work you all do. I am very glad that you are here protecting us and guiding us. I so appreciate all the time and dedication you put into this amazing place. You do not get thanked enough. Pe...

debilyn · debilyn

When my whole family passed on, except my two kids, a wonderful gal adopted me. She became mom. I was very very blessed. I lost her two years ago. Her husband is my Dad. He has Ms. and is miserable in pain of all sorts.So far they don't know why. He had an emergency going to the hospital. I could not find him, h...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family, It's been a while since I last posted or replied to other posts - my apologies - I got the blue screen of death on my personal computer and it has taken me quite a while to get it working again. I'm so happy I finally got it working! Overall, I would say that the last few months for me have been str...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

The three A's Awareness, acceptance, and then action are helping me to be aware of myself and my actions towards my ABF. I have to accept he is an A but also that I make my own choices. I have to take actions that are going to help me by putting my HP and myself first. I have to accept that there are things I cann...

Codependent · Codependent

I went to a funeral today for a mutual friend who overdosed. I saw the A there. We hugged, etc. Apparently before I got to the funeral he, my A, passed out in the parking lot and they called an ambulance. He was sober. They said his blood pressure was a little high but that he was okay. I must admit tha...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi strangers! It's been I-don't-know-how-long since I last posted here, and I had time tonight to finally log on and visit! I hope everyone is doing well - I've been involved in "life", and trying to get used to being single again. Ex-A and I do get along now, but I don't have to have his a...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I spent a lot of time forgetting a lot of my past due to a very abusive marriage to a A. Spent so much time blocking out the past that it's hard to look back and remember enough to be grateful for where I am now. I'm a single mom and have raised my son by myself for 10yrs with no help from his father. I have f...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

For me worry and obsessive thinking go hand in hand. When I get worried and start to think obsessively about things and all my irrational fears I try to come on here and read peoples shares and share myself. I watch a favorite TV show and have a cup of tea. I do my yoga and meditations. I spend time with my HP....

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, situation with A step moms illness has deteriorated. She needs to go to a hospice this monday. I did as much as I could yesterday without going into fix mode, though martyr mode was near at times as none of her daughters are here and one considers it too financial a burden at this time and has seen...

Rora · Rora

Today represents one week since my Ah left. I find myself, like many here, wavering btw great sadness about the break up and all that represents and great excitement for a much healthier future. In general, I have a tendancy to seemingly not really deal with emotions very well or deny myself having em...

curlee-girl · curlee-girl

Greetings, I am new to this board and kinda-sorta new to al anon. I have been attending face to face meetings about 2 times a week and am grateful to find these forums. In a nutshell, on 5/2/08 ABF told me he was having and affair. Shortly afterward he was diagnosed w/A and then started therapy and join...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello family, Abf has been in treatment now for almost 3 weeks. They have been some of the most peaceful, stress free weeks I have had in a loooong time. I am keeping busy and working on myself. I feel I am doing pretty well until the phone rings. Even from over 1000 miles away, he is still using his mani...

Jennifer · Jennifer

And I need to send out a large THANK YOU to everyone. While I did not reply or post I did turn to MIP at times and read your words. They helped as always. Thank You all again. The big updates on my life, my divorce is final. I lived with a family member taking a break from her husband for a year ... it was extremel...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I've been struggling a lot lately with worry and fear. I've had anxiety that plagues me every single day. It gives me comfort knowing that even though I cannot control others and what they do or say I can control my reactions. I'm a people please and for a long time I really went along with everyone else ou...

mia_kay28 · mia_kay28

Im having some monetary issues and was wondering if anybody has a "Courage to Change" that I can have or borrow or even buy relatively cheap. Thank you so much. mia

thisisme · thisisme

My A (also an N) is my sister. There are other A's in my family but this one is the topic of this post. She has been sober for around 15 years but many of her behaviors remained, which is common with sober A's. I need to first say that I have a mental disorder and a mood disorder, and because the family has, for m...

Rora · Rora

As a new member and someone who is still learning about Alanon and codependancy, forgive me if this has been said already, but it's where I am at today.... I had a thought the other day, that my chaotic codependant behaviour(s) have much to do with fear, in that, I try to control a situation or the behavio...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM SO GLAD MIP HAS BEEN AROUND FOR 10 YEARS! I HAVE BEEN ON FOR MAYBE A YEAR--NOT SURE! ANYWAY, I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED & APPRECIATED PAR- TICIPATING IN THE WHOLE SITE. EVERYONE HAS HELPED ME THAT HAS RESPONDED TO MY POSTS. I HOPE THOSE I HAVE GIVEN SOME HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS TO OTHERS. I WILL CONTINUE...

Antigua · Antigua

I posted here once about a year ago. Shortly after that my husband stopped drinking for a little while because I asked him to. I fooled myself into thinking everything was ok. I was wrong. He started drinking again quite a while ago. Slowly at first...and then progressively more. I started find...

kellys_angels · kellys_angels

Hi my name is Kelly and I have been sapareted from my ah about 5 weeks now. We have two little girls who are very hurt by daddy moving out. I can not believe how I found this beautiful family to help my start a recovery that I didn't even know I needed. I have never been alone before and never thought I would...

Sincerely · Sincerely

My A hubby and I have been together for 10 years. I feel like our relationship has been an uphill battle. A battle of drugs and alchol, weight (me),cancers, deaths, step children, xwife, child support, affair, mother in law (my A Mom), and I am sure if i dug deep enough i could fine more. All an uphill b...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Family I have been out of touch for a little while and have not one excuse for it either. Things have been going well. As far as living with a docile AH can go. He works many more hours recently, which actually helps me deal with the entire situation. I do have my bad times though and wonder what the heck I am d...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Next Sunday is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingNovember 2, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Approval of October...

alyse39 · alyse39

Hello everyone,I am new to this forum.I have been married to an alcoholic for 23 yrs. and have 5 kids with him.I have been to hell and back in this marriage already,but the latest hell is by far the worst.He betrayed me in the cruelest wayhe cheated on me with someone we both knew,and were trying to "...

Diva · Diva

I have decided that AlAnon is not the program for me. I will never accept the premise that alcoholism is a disease. If I cannot get past that, I can never accept the other tenets of AlAnon. I have listened to all of you, and I have loved and respected you, mostly in silent disagreement. I thought that...

IndieThinker · IndieThinker

This is a long one...pull up a chair! LOL Hi all; I just discovered this site and thought I'd give it a try. I've been to a few Al-Anon meetings, but I live in a VERY small town (moved here from a big city) and everyone knows everyone...and I haven't connected with anyone like that here...so it hasn't been...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Just for today I will not let anything steal my joy. Just for today I will relax knowing my HP is looking out for me. Just for today I will take care of myself and do what's best for me to get healthy. Just for today I will be grateful for everything I have. Just for today I will not worry about tomorrow or obses...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), Just wanted to wish all of you a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! To those of you who have youngsters going trick or treating - have a ball! I'll be taking my traditional walk around the neighborhood looking at all the decorations along with the ghosts, goblins and politicians running amok...

John · John

2008 Hello Family and Friends of Alcoholics! On November 8th, 2008 the Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group will turn 10 years old. On this date in 1999, the group held its first online group business meeting. This business meeting started what has turned out to be the spring board for our cont...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I have spent soooo very much of my life taking care of and focusing on everyone else and their life and problems, and trying to be the World's Best Mom, and the World's Best Daughter, and the World's Best Everything that I am not sure quite where to begin just focusing on me. I am in love with a sober Aboyfr...

o2bnormal · o2bnormal

Hi Ya'll, Is anyone besides me having trouble getting into the chatroom? I am just getting a blank white page. Thanks, o2bnormal

debilyn · debilyn

Hey red flags went up for me when I read in the October minutes about considering a fundraiser. See of the "Twelve Traditions" Number 7 is very specific:"Every AA group to be self-supportiving,declining outside contributions." There would be no way to do this anonymously pl...

Rora · Rora

I woke up this morning and this thought of alcoholism being progressive came to me. I look at my current situation and I think , why the * did I have a child with him, when I knew all this? Why didn't I sever the relationship months/years ago? How did I come to be in this situation? While I realize that my Ah h...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Thanks for all your kind responses and for all the shares I've read today. I know I need to just take it one day one step at a time. Life can seem so overwhelming but as long as I do the best I can and take it one day at a time I will be ok. I also need to spend more time with my HP. I realized I've been neglecting that...

blender_girl · blender_girl

It's been an up and down week for me so far, but I'll have to say between attending the online meetings and lurking on this message board I have sooo benefited from all of the love and ESH that is out here. It's so comforting to know that I can safely spew out what ever's going on in my life and no one here will j...

buick23 · buick23

Wanted to update everyone on how things are going. Even though there were a few rough days when my mom first got here, everything worked out just fine. Guess we had to get used to eachother again after not seing eachother for a year. We really had a great few weeks together. We even briefly talked about my...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Well I collected the A-brother's stuff on monday, unfortunately I gave him money that I shouldn't really have, my father has started to collect people at the airport though I did ring to offer to bring a guest back for thursday. I am not needed and this is good at present, no drama or trouble. I h...

nmike · nmike

I have money in the bank. I checked my 401K/investments, etc. I have lost much money less than some and more than others. My relationships at work are crap. My personal relationships are crap too. My relationship with my AHSober is next to nothing. My three sons are off on their life paths. Don't forget...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Hi, My name is Christina. I'm new to these message borads. I've been attending meetings for about two weeks now. I've already found so much help through peoples shares and the al-anon literature. I've been going through the steps and am still really working with the first 3. I have just started explor...

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	need to vent (Preview) Hi all I am having a bad moment at this time. my A of 21 years thinks that just because he is in recovery that all the problems for the past need to stay in the past. that the reaction of the other poeple in the house has nothing to to with the fact that me live in the family diesae of A. he wants to think that are...	smileycat	7	722	Nov 6, 2008 by smileycat
	help please (Preview) Hello all I am new to your forum... I figured I needed some help.. but meetings in my area are hours away. I dont know who to talk to - or where to turn. I cant seem to figure out when its safe to trust that my world willnot be upset by my alcholic husband. I am freaked... because I know my anger and need to cont...	mzkels	12	764	Nov 6, 2008 by christinajeanne
	When is enough, enough (Preview) I physically can't take it anymore. I have been away from this board for awhile, thinking I know all and can handle it. I have realized,,not so much. I have given everything over to my God and I trust him completely. I have come to the end,,,I have found out that my husband is not only an alcholic but a g...	weggie	8	617	Nov 6, 2008 by maresie
	Question about Steps (Preview) I'm a newbie here so you'll have to forgive all the questions-lol, but I'm still learning....and probally always will be. My question is this......is there a workbook or a certain book/tool for working the steps??? Want to begin but not quite sure where or how.....any input would be appreciated...	shellyj123	4	1115	Nov 6, 2008 by shellyj123
	Not every situation is "none of my business." (Preview) This is a phrase I hear time and time again. "His/her drinking is none of my business." Who came up with THAT bright idea? Let's say ABF/GF wrecks your car and injures someone in the process. You better believe this is your business. If you don't believe it, just wait and see who gets sue...	Diva	15	1674	Nov 6, 2008 by kitty
	detached and detaching (Preview) Hi MIP family-Its been a long time since I've been on here-- not that life has been a bowl of cherries or anything. Here's the long and short of it. My AH of 18 years is still using (with brief episodes of abstinence) During a summer bingefest he hooked up with someone, caught crabs and shared them with me...	gknee	3	573	Nov 6, 2008 by kitty
	Need some clarity... (Preview) Ok so my lack of trust and abundance of fear have gotten me into a position of lockdown - almost making myself physically sick. So it occurred to me that some if not most of the thoughts and beliefs in my mind must be wrong. My husband and I are both Alcoholic - I haven't had a drink in over 7 years. I am extr...	Ash	10	608	Nov 6, 2008 by LEEA
	Mary Poppins (Preview) please send me a private message, I want to stay in touch.	Robinks	0	324	Nov 5, 2008 by Robinks
	BUCKY - your post is back! It's way down the bottom of the page. (Preview) You may have noticed already, but your missing post is back! Regards, Rocky	Rocky38	0	350	Nov 5, 2008 by Rocky38
	Higher Power (Preview) Do I trust my higher power to work it out? Do I trust my Higher Power to take care of my A? Do I trust my Higher Power to protect and not just punish my A? Do I trust my higher power to send me someone to share my life...?	Codependent	5	640	Nov 5, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Warm and Fuzzy Friends (Preview) Last night was the 1st time in a while that I have been to a meeting. Ya'll are wonderful. Just like bestfriends, I came in late, sat on the sofa and just picked up where we left off a month ago. WONDERFUL, absoutely WONDERFUL! Thanks for being my friends. Sincerely, Tonya	Sincerely	4	731	Nov 5, 2008 by Karilynn
	He drinks...and I don't (Preview) I never really thought of this as a major issue until recently. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we are now thinking about moving in together. He goes out a few times a night to hang with his friends and drink. I used to drink a little with my friends but not to the extent that he does. H...	nicegirl	6	701	Nov 5, 2008 by maresie
	Now that the cloud of denial is lifting, I can see myself more clearly (Preview) There was a point where my daugher, my sister and my boy friend were all living in my house. My boy friend was drinking, and having alot of problems with it. My daughter was not doing what she needed to do to be a productive member of the adult world. She was lying, stealing, refusing to work, and flunki...	LEEA	6	1244	Nov 5, 2008 by Mariner
	Need some ESH - what do I say to him? (Preview) Hey everyone! It's been a long time since I've posted, but I'm back with another question. When he's wandering around, beer in hand, and he asks me "What's wrong?" What the heck do I tell him? LOL I'm trying to do my own thing and live for me and have a good night doing what I want to do and letting...	intothewoods	9	700	Nov 5, 2008 by blender_girl
	need help (Preview) I am Adult Child of a Alcoholic, a wife of an alcoholic that is in recovery. He has a counsler but where he gose they do not have counsler for the other part of the family disease. I have been going to an al-anon meeting one time a week but would like to find an online meeting to get in to on the other day of the...	smileycat	11	656	Nov 5, 2008 by smileycat
	monday share/just for today/delivered from fear (Preview) Today I feel like my HP is really guiding me along to get stuff done. I've been surrendering to the Lord all the situations in my life. Yesterday I had a good conversation with my A fiance. It went really well. He respected my boundaries and I was using the program. Not telling him what to do. I didn't discu...	christinajeanne	3	712	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Look what happens... (Preview) When you let go and let God take over. Ruby Blue at 7 months. I'm wishin I could live forever. (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	14	962	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Detachment keeps me sane (Preview) I am discovering how important it is for me to separate the disease from the person. I am finding that I get into really insane behavior when I forget that I am dealing with sick people. When our literature talks about the family disease of alcoholism, they are literally saying everyone is affect...	Nicole	2	541	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	He crashed... he burned... but I am 98% detached (today at least) ! (Preview) Well it finally happened. He crashed again. This time to his all time low (I think). He's drinking, doing drugs and running with the pole dancing strippers again. To top it off, in the last month, he's been pulled over 3, not once, not twice, but 3 friggen times for DUI. 2 times he's been involved in...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	4	1087	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Today is a good day! (Preview) TODAY IS A GOOD DAY! I SLEPT IN & GOT A PRETTY GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP WHICH IS SOMETIMES RARE FOR ME. I GUESS I AM FINALLY TURNING SOME THINGS OVER. SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED IN THE LAST MONTH. I HAVE FINALLY SETTLED IN BUT THERE IS STILL A LOT TO BE DONE. I JUST TAKE ONE THING AT A TIME, ONE DAY AT A TIME. MY HP SOMET...	Hoot Nanny	3	470	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Sponsor? (Preview) How do you get one and how dose it work?	smileycat	4	844	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Suggestion from an old timer. (Preview) (((((((Family)))))), May I offer a gentle suggestion to the OPs? This is not to criticize the wonderful and hard work you all do. I am very glad that you are here protecting us and guiding us. I so appreciate all the time and dedication you put into this amazing place. You do not get thanked enough. Pe...	Karilynn	2	869	Nov 4, 2008 by canadianguy
	my adoptive father is sick (Preview) When my whole family passed on, except my two kids, a wonderful gal adopted me. She became mom. I was very very blessed. I lost her two years ago. Her husband is my Dad. He has Ms. and is miserable in pain of all sorts.So far they don't know why. He had an emergency going to the hospital. I could not find him, h...	debilyn	4	533	Nov 4, 2008 by debilyn
	Progress not perfection (Preview) Hi MIP family, It's been a while since I last posted or replied to other posts - my apologies - I got the blue screen of death on my personal computer and it has taken me quite a while to get it working again. I'm so happy I finally got it working! Overall, I would say that the last few months for me have been str...	Rocky38	6	1088	Nov 4, 2008 by Karilynn
	The 3 A's (Preview) The three A's Awareness, acceptance, and then action are helping me to be aware of myself and my actions towards my ABF. I have to accept he is an A but also that I make my own choices. I have to take actions that are going to help me by putting my HP and myself first. I have to accept that there are things I cann...	christinajeanne	4	5356	Nov 3, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Seeing Him- Depressed (Preview) I went to a funeral today for a mutual friend who overdosed. I saw the A there. We hugged, etc. Apparently before I got to the funeral he, my A, passed out in the parking lot and they called an ambulance. He was sober. They said his blood pressure was a little high but that he was okay. I must admit tha...	Codependent	4	859	Nov 3, 2008 by hopeful123
	HELLO!!! (Preview) Hi strangers! It's been I-don't-know-how-long since I last posted here, and I had time tonight to finally log on and visit! I hope everyone is doing well - I've been involved in "life", and trying to get used to being single again. Ex-A and I do get along now, but I don't have to have his a...	lmt123	3	424	Nov 3, 2008 by Karilynn
	A little bit of gratitude..... (Preview) I spent a lot of time forgetting a lot of my past due to a very abusive marriage to a A. Spent so much time blocking out the past that it's hard to look back and remember enough to be grateful for where I am now. I'm a single mom and have raised my son by myself for 10yrs with no help from his father. I have f...	shellyj123	3	603	Nov 3, 2008 by ddub
	obsessive thinking (Preview) For me worry and obsessive thinking go hand in hand. When I get worried and start to think obsessively about things and all my irrational fears I try to come on here and read peoples shares and share myself. I watch a favorite TV show and have a cup of tea. I do my yoga and meditations. I spend time with my HP....	christinajeanne	7	1560	Nov 2, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Tough times and alanon tools (Preview) Dear All, situation with A step moms illness has deteriorated. She needs to go to a hospice this monday. I did as much as I could yesterday without going into fix mode, though martyr mode was near at times as none of her daughters are here and one considers it too financial a burden at this time and has seen...	maire rua	5	661	Nov 2, 2008 by christinajeanne
	how do you decipher from distraction and "not dealing"...? (Preview) Today represents one week since my Ah left. I find myself, like many here, wavering btw great sadness about the break up and all that represents and great excitement for a much healthier future. In general, I have a tendancy to seemingly not really deal with emotions very well or deny myself having em...	Rora	6	1941	Nov 2, 2008 by Loupiness
	Should I call my ex-ABF? - longish (Preview) Greetings, I am new to this board and kinda-sorta new to al anon. I have been attending face to face meetings about 2 times a week and am grateful to find these forums. In a nutshell, on 5/2/08 ABF told me he was having and affair. Shortly afterward he was diagnosed w/A and then started therapy and join...	curlee-girl	6	1086	Nov 2, 2008 by Diva
	Clarity peppered with confusion.. (Preview) Hello family, Abf has been in treatment now for almost 3 weeks. They have been some of the most peaceful, stress free weeks I have had in a loooong time. I am keeping busy and working on myself. I feel I am doing pretty well until the phone rings. Even from over 1000 miles away, he is still using his mani...	liljeannie	7	543	Nov 2, 2008 by liljeannie
	It's been about year since I spoke here (Preview) And I need to send out a large THANK YOU to everyone. While I did not reply or post I did turn to MIP at times and read your words. They helped as always. Thank You all again. The big updates on my life, my divorce is final. I lived with a family member taking a break from her husband for a year ... it was extremel...	Jennifer	4	550	Nov 2, 2008 by maire rua
	Friday worry/fear (Preview) I've been struggling a lot lately with worry and fear. I've had anxiety that plagues me every single day. It gives me comfort knowing that even though I cannot control others and what they do or say I can control my reactions. I'm a people please and for a long time I really went along with everyone else ou...	christinajeanne	4	770	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Courage to Change--need book (Preview) Im having some monetary issues and was wondering if anybody has a "Courage to Change" that I can have or borrow or even buy relatively cheap. Thank you so much. mia	mia_kay28	2	680	Nov 1, 2008 by mia_kay28
	A tricky situation. (Preview) My A (also an N) is my sister. There are other A's in my family but this one is the topic of this post. She has been sober for around 15 years but many of her behaviors remained, which is common with sober A's. I need to first say that I have a mental disorder and a mood disorder, and because the family has, for m...	thisisme	3	569	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Protection from hurt..... (Preview) As a new member and someone who is still learning about Alanon and codependancy, forgive me if this has been said already, but it's where I am at today.... I had a thought the other day, that my chaotic codependant behaviour(s) have much to do with fear, in that, I try to control a situation or the behavio...	Rora	4	575	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	SO GLAD MIP IS HERE! (Preview) I AM SO GLAD MIP HAS BEEN AROUND FOR 10 YEARS! I HAVE BEEN ON FOR MAYBE A YEAR--NOT SURE! ANYWAY, I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED & APPRECIATED PAR- TICIPATING IN THE WHOLE SITE. EVERYONE HAS HELPED ME THAT HAS RESPONDED TO MY POSTS. I HOPE THOSE I HAVE GIVEN SOME HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS TO OTHERS. I WILL CONTINUE...	Hoot Nanny	1	425	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Back after a year (Preview) I posted here once about a year ago. Shortly after that my husband stopped drinking for a little while because I asked him to. I fooled myself into thinking everything was ok. I was wrong. He started drinking again quite a while ago. Slowly at first...and then progressively more. I started find...	Antigua	3	549	Nov 1, 2008 by gknee
	Getting stronger from a safe distance (Preview) Hi my name is Kelly and I have been sapareted from my ah about 5 weeks now. We have two little girls who are very hurt by daddy moving out. I can not believe how I found this beautiful family to help my start a recovery that I didn't even know I needed. I have never been alone before and never thought I would...	kellys_angels	1	473	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Top of the Hill (Preview) My A hubby and I have been together for 10 years. I feel like our relationship has been an uphill battle. A battle of drugs and alchol, weight (me),cancers, deaths, step children, xwife, child support, affair, mother in law (my A Mom), and I am sure if i dug deep enough i could fine more. All an uphill b...	Sincerely	1	508	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Thank you MIP for being here, thank you! (Preview) Family I have been out of touch for a little while and have not one excuse for it either. Things have been going well. As far as living with a docile AH can go. He works many more hours recently, which actually helps me deal with the entire situation. I do have my bad times though and wonder what the heck I am d...	wildthang86	2	378	Nov 1, 2008 by maresie
	November Business Meeting (Preview) Hi all, Next Sunday is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingNovember 2, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Approval of October...	Mandy123	1	376	Nov 1, 2008 by mia_kay28
	How Do I get Over The Pain & Sorrow of Cheating,especially when he refuses to help me? (Preview) Hello everyone,I am new to this forum.I have been married to an alcoholic for 23 yrs. and have 5 kids with him.I have been to hell and back in this marriage already,but the latest hell is by far the worst.He betrayed me in the cruelest wayhe cheated on me with someone we both knew,and were trying to "...	alyse39	13	1367	Nov 1, 2008 by alyse39
	After much soul-searching... (Preview) I have decided that AlAnon is not the program for me. I will never accept the premise that alcoholism is a disease. If I cannot get past that, I can never accept the other tenets of AlAnon. I have listened to all of you, and I have loved and respected you, mostly in silent disagreement. I thought that...	Diva	18	722	Nov 1, 2008 by leo
	New Here...with a GREAT need to talk (Preview) This is a long one...pull up a chair! LOL Hi all; I just discovered this site and thought I'd give it a try. I've been to a few Al-Anon meetings, but I live in a VERY small town (moved here from a big city) and everyone knows everyone...and I haven't connected with anyone like that here...so it hasn't been...	IndieThinker	4	627	Oct 31, 2008 by gknee
	Just for today (Preview) Just for today I will not let anything steal my joy. Just for today I will relax knowing my HP is looking out for me. Just for today I will take care of myself and do what's best for me to get healthy. Just for today I will be grateful for everything I have. Just for today I will not worry about tomorrow or obses...	christinajeanne	7	618	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Happy Halloween! (Preview) (((((Family))))), Just wanted to wish all of you a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! To those of you who have youngsters going trick or treating - have a ball! I'll be taking my traditional walk around the neighborhood looking at all the decorations along with the ghosts, goblins and politicians running amok...	Karilynn	1	417	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group Turns 10 years old! (Preview) 2008 Hello Family and Friends of Alcoholics! On November 8th, 2008 the Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group will turn 10 years old. On this date in 1999, the group held its first online group business meeting. This business meeting started what has turned out to be the spring board for our cont...	John	5	674	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Feeling down... (Preview) I have spent soooo very much of my life taking care of and focusing on everyone else and their life and problems, and trying to be the World's Best Mom, and the World's Best Daughter, and the World's Best Everything that I am not sure quite where to begin just focusing on me. I am in love with a sober Aboyfr...	shellyj123	7	494	Oct 31, 2008 by Karilynn
	Anyone having trouble getting into chat? (Preview) Hi Ya'll, Is anyone besides me having trouble getting into the chatroom? I am just getting a blank white page. Thanks, o2bnormal	o2bnormal	3	594	Oct 31, 2008 by aunitedway
	to the wonderful business meeting people (Preview) Hey red flags went up for me when I read in the October minutes about considering a fundraiser. See of the "Twelve Traditions" Number 7 is very specific:"Every AA group to be self-supportiving,declining outside contributions." There would be no way to do this anonymously pl...	debilyn	3	489	Oct 31, 2008 by serendipity
	A progressive disease/problem, what-have-you (Preview) I woke up this morning and this thought of alcoholism being progressive came to me. I look at my current situation and I think , why the * did I have a child with him, when I knew all this? Why didn't I sever the relationship months/years ago? How did I come to be in this situation? While I realize that my Ah h...	Rora	7	476	Oct 31, 2008 by Jean4444
	one day at a time (Preview) Thanks for all your kind responses and for all the shares I've read today. I know I need to just take it one day one step at a time. Life can seem so overwhelming but as long as I do the best I can and take it one day at a time I will be ok. I also need to spend more time with my HP. I realized I've been neglecting that...	christinajeanne	1	485	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	So glad MIP is here (Preview) It's been an up and down week for me so far, but I'll have to say between attending the online meetings and lurking on this message board I have sooo benefited from all of the love and ESH that is out here. It's so comforting to know that I can safely spew out what ever's going on in my life and no one here will j...	blender_girl	3	530	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	hello alanon family (Preview) Wanted to update everyone on how things are going. Even though there were a few rough days when my mom first got here, everything worked out just fine. Guess we had to get used to eachother again after not seing eachother for a year. We really had a great few weeks together. We even briefly talked about my...	buick23	4	540	Oct 30, 2008 by nmike
	Easing of rescuing (Preview) Dear All, Well I collected the A-brother's stuff on monday, unfortunately I gave him money that I shouldn't really have, my father has started to collect people at the airport though I did ring to offer to bring a guest back for thursday. I am not needed and this is good at present, no drama or trouble. I h...	maire rua	3	378	Oct 30, 2008 by nmike
	My reality today (Preview) I have money in the bank. I checked my 401K/investments, etc. I have lost much money less than some and more than others. My relationships at work are crap. My personal relationships are crap too. My relationship with my AHSober is next to nothing. My three sons are off on their life paths. Don't forget...	nmike	7	602	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Introduction (Preview) Hi, My name is Christina. I'm new to these message borads. I've been attending meetings for about two weeks now. I've already found so much help through peoples shares and the al-anon literature. I've been going through the steps and am still really working with the first 3. I have just started explor...	christinajeanne	2	401	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
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