Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Rora · Rora

As a new member and someone who is still learning about Alanon and codependancy, forgive me if this has been said already, but it's where I am at today.... I had a thought the other day, that my chaotic codependant behaviour(s) have much to do with fear, in that, I try to control a situation or the behavio...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM SO GLAD MIP HAS BEEN AROUND FOR 10 YEARS! I HAVE BEEN ON FOR MAYBE A YEAR--NOT SURE! ANYWAY, I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED & APPRECIATED PAR- TICIPATING IN THE WHOLE SITE. EVERYONE HAS HELPED ME THAT HAS RESPONDED TO MY POSTS. I HOPE THOSE I HAVE GIVEN SOME HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS TO OTHERS. I WILL CONTINUE...

Antigua · Antigua

I posted here once about a year ago. Shortly after that my husband stopped drinking for a little while because I asked him to. I fooled myself into thinking everything was ok. I was wrong. He started drinking again quite a while ago. Slowly at first...and then progressively more. I started find...

kellys_angels · kellys_angels

Hi my name is Kelly and I have been sapareted from my ah about 5 weeks now. We have two little girls who are very hurt by daddy moving out. I can not believe how I found this beautiful family to help my start a recovery that I didn't even know I needed. I have never been alone before and never thought I would...

Sincerely · Sincerely

My A hubby and I have been together for 10 years. I feel like our relationship has been an uphill battle. A battle of drugs and alchol, weight (me),cancers, deaths, step children, xwife, child support, affair, mother in law (my A Mom), and I am sure if i dug deep enough i could fine more. All an uphill b...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Family I have been out of touch for a little while and have not one excuse for it either. Things have been going well. As far as living with a docile AH can go. He works many more hours recently, which actually helps me deal with the entire situation. I do have my bad times though and wonder what the heck I am d...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Next Sunday is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingNovember 2, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Approval of October...

alyse39 · alyse39

Hello everyone,I am new to this forum.I have been married to an alcoholic for 23 yrs. and have 5 kids with him.I have been to hell and back in this marriage already,but the latest hell is by far the worst.He betrayed me in the cruelest wayhe cheated on me with someone we both knew,and were trying to "...

Diva · Diva

I have decided that AlAnon is not the program for me. I will never accept the premise that alcoholism is a disease. If I cannot get past that, I can never accept the other tenets of AlAnon. I have listened to all of you, and I have loved and respected you, mostly in silent disagreement. I thought that...

IndieThinker · IndieThinker

This is a long one...pull up a chair! LOL Hi all; I just discovered this site and thought I'd give it a try. I've been to a few Al-Anon meetings, but I live in a VERY small town (moved here from a big city) and everyone knows everyone...and I haven't connected with anyone like that here...so it hasn't been...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Just for today I will not let anything steal my joy. Just for today I will relax knowing my HP is looking out for me. Just for today I will take care of myself and do what's best for me to get healthy. Just for today I will be grateful for everything I have. Just for today I will not worry about tomorrow or obses...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), Just wanted to wish all of you a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! To those of you who have youngsters going trick or treating - have a ball! I'll be taking my traditional walk around the neighborhood looking at all the decorations along with the ghosts, goblins and politicians running amok...

John · John

2008 Hello Family and Friends of Alcoholics! On November 8th, 2008 the Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group will turn 10 years old. On this date in 1999, the group held its first online group business meeting. This business meeting started what has turned out to be the spring board for our cont...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I have spent soooo very much of my life taking care of and focusing on everyone else and their life and problems, and trying to be the World's Best Mom, and the World's Best Daughter, and the World's Best Everything that I am not sure quite where to begin just focusing on me. I am in love with a sober Aboyfr...

o2bnormal · o2bnormal

Hi Ya'll, Is anyone besides me having trouble getting into the chatroom? I am just getting a blank white page. Thanks, o2bnormal

debilyn · debilyn

Hey red flags went up for me when I read in the October minutes about considering a fundraiser. See of the "Twelve Traditions" Number 7 is very specific:"Every AA group to be self-supportiving,declining outside contributions." There would be no way to do this anonymously pl...

Rora · Rora

I woke up this morning and this thought of alcoholism being progressive came to me. I look at my current situation and I think , why the * did I have a child with him, when I knew all this? Why didn't I sever the relationship months/years ago? How did I come to be in this situation? While I realize that my Ah h...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Thanks for all your kind responses and for all the shares I've read today. I know I need to just take it one day one step at a time. Life can seem so overwhelming but as long as I do the best I can and take it one day at a time I will be ok. I also need to spend more time with my HP. I realized I've been neglecting that...

blender_girl · blender_girl

It's been an up and down week for me so far, but I'll have to say between attending the online meetings and lurking on this message board I have sooo benefited from all of the love and ESH that is out here. It's so comforting to know that I can safely spew out what ever's going on in my life and no one here will j...

buick23 · buick23

Wanted to update everyone on how things are going. Even though there were a few rough days when my mom first got here, everything worked out just fine. Guess we had to get used to eachother again after not seing eachother for a year. We really had a great few weeks together. We even briefly talked about my...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Well I collected the A-brother's stuff on monday, unfortunately I gave him money that I shouldn't really have, my father has started to collect people at the airport though I did ring to offer to bring a guest back for thursday. I am not needed and this is good at present, no drama or trouble. I h...

nmike · nmike

I have money in the bank. I checked my 401K/investments, etc. I have lost much money less than some and more than others. My relationships at work are crap. My personal relationships are crap too. My relationship with my AHSober is next to nothing. My three sons are off on their life paths. Don't forget...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Hi, My name is Christina. I'm new to these message borads. I've been attending meetings for about two weeks now. I've already found so much help through peoples shares and the al-anon literature. I've been going through the steps and am still really working with the first 3. I have just started explor...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Today has been a stressful day for me. I went to work and my boss who is also my aunt is very stressful for me to be around. I know I need the courage to change what I can and find another job away from her because all she does is complain (I know I am right now) but she is so negative. She is also verbally and emoti...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Well, its been well over a month since Ive spoken with my ex A b/f. Once in a while I receive an email from him. Kinda sappy emails but I dont let it get to me. Ive stayed strong and havent given into my desire to call him. My dilemma is this: Any day now he should be starting his jail sentence. Althou...

Rora · Rora

If you don't mind, I'd just like to "blah" a little and if something strikes you to respond, I always appreciate it. Some of the wisest people I know visit this site!! Brief background, my Ah and I have been married 7 years, we have a 4 yr old son. We've struggled for many years, we've been des...

nocontrol · nocontrol

As some of you may know I am new to alanon & this forum, but am sure glad it's been here. Here's my dilemma: I had to have my A boyfriend arrested last night, as he went from happy and calm to crazy & raged . . . like flipping a light switch on and off (yes he was drunk). He is being released this afte...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Just got off the phone with abf. He is in a treatment center in Florida working on his recovery. He went into detox two weeks ago, and from there went to an inpatient facility. He has been gone for exactly two weeks today. I received two letters in the mail from him today and have spoken to him twice, on...

Gared · Gared

It took me a while to feel like I could be alone. Truth is that I still feel compelled to reach out to others to fill the void that my ex and his drinking left behind when he moved out. It hasn't been easy figuring out who I am and what I want out of life. There's sex (finally after 4 years), going out, travel...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hello, it's me again. I feel like I'm posting a lot lately. Long story short, I have been diagnosed with a few things all in one day. Turns out that I not only have Lymes, but I have been walking around with strep throat undiagnosed, and it has gone into my kidneys. I have had no symptoms other than absolu...

Nicole · Nicole

I have issues surrounding my Mother in law who is possibly an addict, not sure yet. But she will do anything to suck us into her life. She has begun this thing of giving us gifts on a monthly basis. I don't want the gifts because anything she does for us comes with too many strings attached. She always has a...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

Tonight my AH left again. Saying he needed to "sleep" and although he slept all last night and all day today he insisted on leaving. I feel like such a sucker. He has broken so many of his promises to stop drinking or drugs. I've finally started trying to go to meetings and of course he hates it a...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), Good Sunday morning to you all. I hope you are enjoying your weekend. I wanted to share this story with you. Even though I no longer have an A in my life due to my hubby's passing, I still need to use my program. The program doesn't leave us because we no longer have As in our life. Th...

andica · andica

Hi, My AH is just getting started in AA but still drinking some (is that possible?). I had to put our son in day care since AH was drinking and deteriorating quickly and I no longer felt safe with him as caregiver. He knows he can't be a stay at home dad unless he is sober - no alcohol and I won't give him a timef...

joyoma · joyoma

This is the only place I can express myself and my anxieties. My post on TH and FRI of last week re: my latest cancer diagnosis has brought me many responses; thanks to everyone. I have had no contact with EXDIL since she stopped by Friday with the grandbaby. She and I had horrible words last week via ph...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I absolutely LOVE quotes, and use them often in my photo editing, etc... While reading today I came across one that really touched me and made me stop and count my blessings. "The purpose of life, is a life of purpose". I have no idea who said it first but they were obviously a very wise person...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hello everyone. I have a bad habit--and I could use a little help. On my facebook account, I have two "friends" who are close to my ex ABF. Every now and then, I cannot help but check their pages or comments (which pop up under my account). This is how I "check up" on the A. Mind yo...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Yes, it's come to me, another startling, yet painfully obvious moment of truth: I feel like I have too much responsibility and I can't handle it. Real life stuff like kids, house, car, pets, ect. Insurance and taxes on all of the above. I was thinking about getting pet insurance. I'm not going to, but it...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

just a short note to let y'all know that I am getting better! The stress is starting to lift. I am so grateful. My HP is in the center of my life & I have gratitude that comes from him. Keep coming back--it will work! Kathleen

lastchance · lastchance

I am very new to this and have been reading some posts and not sure I can or will find help here. All I really know is that I have been living my life like this for so long that the depression meds and everything else I try dont even work anylonger. I have been here for so long that I have no self esteem, respec...

jewely · jewely

i woke up this morning with old thoughts in my new [alanon] head. memories of stories i had been told, memories of stories i had lived. it began a long time ago. a young woman known as N, married at age 18 a man twenty years her senior. this union, was to be the beginnig of a short life for her and a long life for...

debilyn · debilyn

I know you would think by now I would be "over it" or "cured" sadly no. The last two months of surgeries, tooth pulled, injury to my leg and on and on. I have to take pain med. HATE it. Feels so frustrating that nothing works, I mean legs, fingers, hands, head. Fixing a fence gate, wha...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Up and down like a yoyo. One minute I am okay, the next I am sobbing. So much unfinished business between me and my papa. Each time I eat I am sick, so I am trying to keep the fluids up. Feel empty and lost and lacklustre. It is hard enough just getting up everyday and my crutches feel like they weigh ten tons r...

kevbo65 · kevbo65

Just found this forum. two weeks ago I got a DUI and then plead guuilty. I now realize that I need treatment. I go in next Saturday. Im a successful high school teacher and a father. I guess I need some advice on what to tell my children and my students about my treatment. Thanks

Rora · Rora

I've been here before, but not for a while now... though the story remains the same. My Ah left again tonight. This time though I don't have a clue where he went. Things have been rough, for a long time, but the past week, lots and lots of sadness within me and hopeless "discussions" with him....

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have some court-related divorce stuff to deal with this week. I have a judge who is siding with my ex, massively and unfairly. I have an attny who costs alot and doesnt give a rip. I live 1000 miles from where all the court stuff is happening and cannot get there to deal with stuff more directly w/o quitti...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

The morning started at 8am with one of our renters filing a "formal complaint" against me-accusing me of calling Animal Control on his dog (I did not, and in fact am a VERY big animal lover-3 cats, 4 kittens and 3 dogs to date reside in my bed (s) nightly. It went from that to "trying&qu...

soconfused · soconfused

Well, here's a new one he's come up w/, and I'm either too dumb to accept it as an excuse or is it valid? ABF has always been lazy, sleeps 90 % of the day, blows off work and me and children and then can be the overactive attentive BF. Well he relapsed a couple weeks a go. Lost yet another job and is now wanting to...

soconfused · soconfused

Being a huge co-dependent I heard this song the other day...boy does it strike a soft spot for me...If interested, google it and listen. Alter Bridge "Watch over you"

Owl · Owl

Hi, new here but not new to alcoholism. A little background: my mom is an A (for 14 years)....not sure how she's still alive actually. About 3 years ago we build a MIL suite in our backyard for her. She could no longer take care of herself, and do the necessary things that go along with living on your own. I a...

reef999 · reef999

Hi everyone, So I've only been going to Al Anon meetings for about 6 weeks now and my Abf has been sober for about 2 weeks....longest since we've been together. Life is great.....but now I find I'm even more scared!! Why???!!!! I keep waiting for that first drink to happen. Even though his drinking...

joyoma · joyoma

I received bad news today after I had the MRI done on my leg. The tumor I had removed back in June 2007 (synovial sarcoma) is back.....different position and very small right now. It has developed in my right buttock just at the point where the original incision began. I am upset, of course, but I shou...

maire rua · maire rua

I have had quite a bad night, with thoughts running away from me and feelings somewhat out of control. It started with two phone calls from my father's house. It was not his terminally ill wife that was the problem but my A brother who is being rendered homeless as his place is a fire hazard. He has been sor...

stariana · stariana

Hi all - it's been a while since I've been on here, but it's so nice to know I can sign on at a moments notice, and will find a group of understanding people any time. Brief background for those who don't know me... daughter and wife of alcoholic/addicts. Grew up resentful, and married due to extenuatin...

maresie · maresie

The holidays are coming and I am working on making better choices. Last night I was in a store which was full of the Thanksgiving fare. How I craved to have a decent Thanskgiving with the ex. I would always ask him every year to try to make it special, he never ever could of course but I asked! I went full fo...

kellys_angels · kellys_angels

I've been married to my soulmate for 16 years. The past 10 years the lies and mood swings have been sucking every inch of life out of me. I know I need to get better for me and our children. I know I am taking one step at a time. I know my HP has given me the strength to come this far. I know I am opening a new do...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hello everyone, I wasn't able to make my F2F meeting last night bc I am not feeling well. I was diagnosed with Lymes in September, treated for it, and I think I am relapsing. The DR wanted to put me in the hospital today for two days to run all sorts of tests, etc. I am not in the hospital now, nor do I plan on g...

Christy · Christy

My husband and son are going to upper Michigan to go hunting together. To most people it's pretty uneventful. To me, it's pure joy :) My son has waited for this for a literal lifetime. To be with his Dad. Some background: I didn't allow my son to go anywhere with his Dad because of the drinking. Whe...

joyoma · joyoma

Today marks almost the end of very hard week. I have had the grandbaby since Friday afternoon; his Dad (my son) moved in lock, stock, and barrel to be here also. My spouse had back to back surgeries last Wednesday/Thursday; he came home weak and spent Friday. So here I am with a very active toddler wea...

nocontrol · nocontrol

Im new to alanon & to this forum, but not new to alcoholism. I was married 21 years to an A & it took me 15 years to get the courage to leave. Now I am again with an A, who does not like my teenage son & vice versa. When I met him he was in recovery & was a wonderful man. However, he is back to th...

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	Protection from hurt..... (Preview) As a new member and someone who is still learning about Alanon and codependancy, forgive me if this has been said already, but it's where I am at today.... I had a thought the other day, that my chaotic codependant behaviour(s) have much to do with fear, in that, I try to control a situation or the behavio...	Rora	4	498	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	SO GLAD MIP IS HERE! (Preview) I AM SO GLAD MIP HAS BEEN AROUND FOR 10 YEARS! I HAVE BEEN ON FOR MAYBE A YEAR--NOT SURE! ANYWAY, I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED & APPRECIATED PAR- TICIPATING IN THE WHOLE SITE. EVERYONE HAS HELPED ME THAT HAS RESPONDED TO MY POSTS. I HOPE THOSE I HAVE GIVEN SOME HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS TO OTHERS. I WILL CONTINUE...	Hoot Nanny	1	348	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Back after a year (Preview) I posted here once about a year ago. Shortly after that my husband stopped drinking for a little while because I asked him to. I fooled myself into thinking everything was ok. I was wrong. He started drinking again quite a while ago. Slowly at first...and then progressively more. I started find...	Antigua	3	469	Nov 1, 2008 by gknee
	Getting stronger from a safe distance (Preview) Hi my name is Kelly and I have been sapareted from my ah about 5 weeks now. We have two little girls who are very hurt by daddy moving out. I can not believe how I found this beautiful family to help my start a recovery that I didn't even know I needed. I have never been alone before and never thought I would...	kellys_angels	1	395	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Top of the Hill (Preview) My A hubby and I have been together for 10 years. I feel like our relationship has been an uphill battle. A battle of drugs and alchol, weight (me),cancers, deaths, step children, xwife, child support, affair, mother in law (my A Mom), and I am sure if i dug deep enough i could fine more. All an uphill b...	Sincerely	1	428	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Thank you MIP for being here, thank you! (Preview) Family I have been out of touch for a little while and have not one excuse for it either. Things have been going well. As far as living with a docile AH can go. He works many more hours recently, which actually helps me deal with the entire situation. I do have my bad times though and wonder what the heck I am d...	wildthang86	2	307	Nov 1, 2008 by maresie
	November Business Meeting (Preview) Hi all, Next Sunday is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingNovember 2, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Approval of October...	Mandy123	1	302	Nov 1, 2008 by mia_kay28
	How Do I get Over The Pain & Sorrow of Cheating,especially when he refuses to help me? (Preview) Hello everyone,I am new to this forum.I have been married to an alcoholic for 23 yrs. and have 5 kids with him.I have been to hell and back in this marriage already,but the latest hell is by far the worst.He betrayed me in the cruelest wayhe cheated on me with someone we both knew,and were trying to "...	alyse39	13	1287	Nov 1, 2008 by alyse39
	After much soul-searching... (Preview) I have decided that AlAnon is not the program for me. I will never accept the premise that alcoholism is a disease. If I cannot get past that, I can never accept the other tenets of AlAnon. I have listened to all of you, and I have loved and respected you, mostly in silent disagreement. I thought that...	Diva	18	643	Nov 1, 2008 by leo
	New Here...with a GREAT need to talk (Preview) This is a long one...pull up a chair! LOL Hi all; I just discovered this site and thought I'd give it a try. I've been to a few Al-Anon meetings, but I live in a VERY small town (moved here from a big city) and everyone knows everyone...and I haven't connected with anyone like that here...so it hasn't been...	IndieThinker	4	546	Oct 31, 2008 by gknee
	Just for today (Preview) Just for today I will not let anything steal my joy. Just for today I will relax knowing my HP is looking out for me. Just for today I will take care of myself and do what's best for me to get healthy. Just for today I will be grateful for everything I have. Just for today I will not worry about tomorrow or obses...	christinajeanne	7	543	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Happy Halloween! (Preview) (((((Family))))), Just wanted to wish all of you a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! To those of you who have youngsters going trick or treating - have a ball! I'll be taking my traditional walk around the neighborhood looking at all the decorations along with the ghosts, goblins and politicians running amok...	Karilynn	1	341	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group Turns 10 years old! (Preview) 2008 Hello Family and Friends of Alcoholics! On November 8th, 2008 the Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group will turn 10 years old. On this date in 1999, the group held its first online group business meeting. This business meeting started what has turned out to be the spring board for our cont...	John	5	601	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Feeling down... (Preview) I have spent soooo very much of my life taking care of and focusing on everyone else and their life and problems, and trying to be the World's Best Mom, and the World's Best Daughter, and the World's Best Everything that I am not sure quite where to begin just focusing on me. I am in love with a sober Aboyfr...	shellyj123	7	422	Oct 31, 2008 by Karilynn
	Anyone having trouble getting into chat? (Preview) Hi Ya'll, Is anyone besides me having trouble getting into the chatroom? I am just getting a blank white page. Thanks, o2bnormal	o2bnormal	3	522	Oct 31, 2008 by aunitedway
	to the wonderful business meeting people (Preview) Hey red flags went up for me when I read in the October minutes about considering a fundraiser. See of the "Twelve Traditions" Number 7 is very specific:"Every AA group to be self-supportiving,declining outside contributions." There would be no way to do this anonymously pl...	debilyn	3	419	Oct 31, 2008 by serendipity
	A progressive disease/problem, what-have-you (Preview) I woke up this morning and this thought of alcoholism being progressive came to me. I look at my current situation and I think , why the * did I have a child with him, when I knew all this? Why didn't I sever the relationship months/years ago? How did I come to be in this situation? While I realize that my Ah h...	Rora	7	407	Oct 31, 2008 by Jean4444
	one day at a time (Preview) Thanks for all your kind responses and for all the shares I've read today. I know I need to just take it one day one step at a time. Life can seem so overwhelming but as long as I do the best I can and take it one day at a time I will be ok. I also need to spend more time with my HP. I realized I've been neglecting that...	christinajeanne	1	409	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	So glad MIP is here (Preview) It's been an up and down week for me so far, but I'll have to say between attending the online meetings and lurking on this message board I have sooo benefited from all of the love and ESH that is out here. It's so comforting to know that I can safely spew out what ever's going on in my life and no one here will j...	blender_girl	3	441	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	hello alanon family (Preview) Wanted to update everyone on how things are going. Even though there were a few rough days when my mom first got here, everything worked out just fine. Guess we had to get used to eachother again after not seing eachother for a year. We really had a great few weeks together. We even briefly talked about my...	buick23	4	464	Oct 30, 2008 by nmike
	Easing of rescuing (Preview) Dear All, Well I collected the A-brother's stuff on monday, unfortunately I gave him money that I shouldn't really have, my father has started to collect people at the airport though I did ring to offer to bring a guest back for thursday. I am not needed and this is good at present, no drama or trouble. I h...	maire rua	3	302	Oct 30, 2008 by nmike
	My reality today (Preview) I have money in the bank. I checked my 401K/investments, etc. I have lost much money less than some and more than others. My relationships at work are crap. My personal relationships are crap too. My relationship with my AHSober is next to nothing. My three sons are off on their life paths. Don't forget...	nmike	7	525	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Introduction (Preview) Hi, My name is Christina. I'm new to these message borads. I've been attending meetings for about two weeks now. I've already found so much help through peoples shares and the al-anon literature. I've been going through the steps and am still really working with the first 3. I have just started explor...	christinajeanne	2	319	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Tuesday Share (Preview) Today has been a stressful day for me. I went to work and my boss who is also my aunt is very stressful for me to be around. I know I need the courage to change what I can and find another job away from her because all she does is complain (I know I am right now) but she is so negative. She is also verbally and emoti...	christinajeanne	3	457	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Tick Tock Tick Tock (Preview) Well, its been well over a month since Ive spoken with my ex A b/f. Once in a while I receive an email from him. Kinda sappy emails but I dont let it get to me. Ive stayed strong and havent given into my desire to call him. My dilemma is this: Any day now he should be starting his jail sentence. Althou...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	7	464	Oct 29, 2008 by HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
	Another day down! ... (Preview) If you don't mind, I'd just like to "blah" a little and if something strikes you to respond, I always appreciate it. Some of the wisest people I know visit this site!! Brief background, my Ah and I have been married 7 years, we have a 4 yr old son. We've struggled for many years, we've been des...	Rora	4	503	Oct 28, 2008 by Rora
	I am in need of your input (Preview) As some of you may know I am new to alanon & this forum, but am sure glad it's been here. Here's my dilemma: I had to have my A boyfriend arrested last night, as he went from happy and calm to crazy & raged . . . like flipping a light switch on and off (yes he was drunk). He is being released this afte...	nocontrol	10	702	Oct 28, 2008 by maresie
	Speechless (Preview) Just got off the phone with abf. He is in a treatment center in Florida working on his recovery. He went into detox two weeks ago, and from there went to an inpatient facility. He has been gone for exactly two weeks today. I received two letters in the mail from him today and have spoken to him twice, on...	liljeannie	6	308	Oct 28, 2008 by liljeannie
	Sailing with Capt. Morgan - Higher Power at work (Preview) It took me a while to feel like I could be alone. Truth is that I still feel compelled to reach out to others to fill the void that my ex and his drinking left behind when he moved out. It hasn't been easy figuring out who I am and what I want out of life. There's sex (finally after 4 years), going out, travel...	Gared	4	522	Oct 28, 2008 by liljeannie
	Just a sad case... (Preview) Hello, it's me again. I feel like I'm posting a lot lately. Long story short, I have been diagnosed with a few things all in one day. Turns out that I not only have Lymes, but I have been walking around with strep throat undiagnosed, and it has gone into my kidneys. I have had no symptoms other than absolu...	hopeful123	4	469	Oct 28, 2008 by abbyal
	Need a suggestion (Preview) I have issues surrounding my Mother in law who is possibly an addict, not sure yet. But she will do anything to suck us into her life. She has begun this thing of giving us gifts on a monthly basis. I don't want the gifts because anything she does for us comes with too many strings attached. She always has a...	Nicole	8	588	Oct 27, 2008 by nmike
	Feeling desperate & anxious (Preview) Tonight my AH left again. Saying he needed to "sleep" and although he slept all last night and all day today he insisted on leaving. I feel like such a sucker. He has broken so many of his promises to stop drinking or drugs. I've finally started trying to go to meetings and of course he hates it a...	angelchar375	4	686	Oct 27, 2008 by angelchar375
	Alanon at work & passing it on. (Preview) (((((Family))))), Good Sunday morning to you all. I hope you are enjoying your weekend. I wanted to share this story with you. Even though I no longer have an A in my life due to my hubby's passing, I still need to use my program. The program doesn't leave us because we no longer have As in our life. Th...	Karilynn	7	649	Oct 27, 2008 by nmike
	how to encourage with detachment? (Preview) Hi, My AH is just getting started in AA but still drinking some (is that possible?). I had to put our son in day care since AH was drinking and deteriorating quickly and I no longer felt safe with him as caregiver. He knows he can't be a stay at home dad unless he is sober - no alcohol and I won't give him a timef...	andica	6	709	Oct 27, 2008 by blender_girl
	Just need to "talk" (Preview) This is the only place I can express myself and my anxieties. My post on TH and FRI of last week re: my latest cancer diagnosis has brought me many responses; thanks to everyone. I have had no contact with EXDIL since she stopped by Friday with the grandbaby. She and I had horrible words last week via ph...	joyoma	3	600	Oct 27, 2008 by Karilynn
	"The purpose of life" (Preview) I absolutely LOVE quotes, and use them often in my photo editing, etc... While reading today I came across one that really touched me and made me stop and count my blessings. "The purpose of life, is a life of purpose". I have no idea who said it first but they were obviously a very wise person...	shellyj123	5	502	Oct 27, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	Having a hard time... (Preview) Hello everyone. I have a bad habit--and I could use a little help. On my facebook account, I have two "friends" who are close to my ex ABF. Every now and then, I cannot help but check their pages or comments (which pop up under my account). This is how I "check up" on the A. Mind yo...	hopeful123	5	557	Oct 26, 2008 by Fifi
	Revelation #9672 (Preview) Yes, it's come to me, another startling, yet painfully obvious moment of truth: I feel like I have too much responsibility and I can't handle it. Real life stuff like kids, house, car, pets, ect. Insurance and taxes on all of the above. I was thinking about getting pet insurance. I'm not going to, but it...	RainyJamie	3	649	Oct 26, 2008 by Christy
	I am getting well again! (Preview) just a short note to let y'all know that I am getting better! The stress is starting to lift. I am so grateful. My HP is in the center of my life & I have gratitude that comes from him. Keep coming back--it will work! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	3	452	Oct 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	HELP (Preview) I am very new to this and have been reading some posts and not sure I can or will find help here. All I really know is that I have been living my life like this for so long that the depression meds and everything else I try dont even work anylonger. I have been here for so long that I have no self esteem, respec...	lastchance	3	507	Oct 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	forgive (Preview) i woke up this morning with old thoughts in my new [alanon] head. memories of stories i had been told, memories of stories i had lived. it began a long time ago. a young woman known as N, married at age 18 a man twenty years her senior. this union, was to be the beginnig of a short life for her and a long life for...	jewely	10	563	Oct 26, 2008 by ddub
	no one else would understand (Preview) I know you would think by now I would be "over it" or "cured" sadly no. The last two months of surgeries, tooth pulled, injury to my leg and on and on. I have to take pain med. HATE it. Feels so frustrating that nothing works, I mean legs, fingers, hands, head. Fixing a fence gate, wha...	debilyn	8	567	Oct 26, 2008 by ddub
	Just here... (Preview) Up and down like a yoyo. One minute I am okay, the next I am sobbing. So much unfinished business between me and my papa. Each time I eat I am sick, so I am trying to keep the fluids up. Feel empty and lost and lacklustre. It is hard enough just getting up everyday and my crutches feel like they weigh ten tons r...	Suzannah	5	506	Oct 26, 2008 by ddub
	Going to treatment (Preview) Just found this forum. two weeks ago I got a DUI and then plead guuilty. I now realize that I need treatment. I go in next Saturday. Im a successful high school teacher and a father. I guess I need some advice on what to tell my children and my students about my treatment. Thanks	kevbo65	6	756	Oct 25, 2008 by debilyn
	It's been a while... (Preview) I've been here before, but not for a while now... though the story remains the same. My Ah left again tonight. This time though I don't have a clue where he went. Things have been rough, for a long time, but the past week, lots and lots of sadness within me and hopeless "discussions" with him....	Rora	5	464	Oct 25, 2008 by Rora
	I really need your prayers this week... (Preview) I have some court-related divorce stuff to deal with this week. I have a judge who is siding with my ex, massively and unfairly. I have an attny who costs alot and doesnt give a rip. I live 1000 miles from where all the court stuff is happening and cannot get there to deal with stuff more directly w/o quitti...	Jean4444	17	636	Oct 25, 2008 by Jerry F
	Another trip to my "happy place" (Preview) The morning started at 8am with one of our renters filing a "formal complaint" against me-accusing me of calling Animal Control on his dog (I did not, and in fact am a VERY big animal lover-3 cats, 4 kittens and 3 dogs to date reside in my bed (s) nightly. It went from that to "trying&qu...	shellyj123	3	495	Oct 25, 2008 by Christy
	Bipolar excuse? (Preview) Well, here's a new one he's come up w/, and I'm either too dumb to accept it as an excuse or is it valid? ABF has always been lazy, sleeps 90 % of the day, blows off work and me and children and then can be the overactive attentive BF. Well he relapsed a couple weeks a go. Lost yet another job and is now wanting to...	soconfused	11	1818	Oct 25, 2008 by soconfused
	song for co-dependents like me (Preview) Being a huge co-dependent I heard this song the other day...boy does it strike a soft spot for me...If interested, google it and listen. Alter Bridge "Watch over you"	soconfused	1	424	Oct 25, 2008 by Christy
	Need advice about what to tell young children (Preview) Hi, new here but not new to alcoholism. A little background: my mom is an A (for 14 years)....not sure how she's still alive actually. About 3 years ago we build a MIL suite in our backyard for her. She could no longer take care of herself, and do the necessary things that go along with living on your own. I a...	Owl	5	4254	Oct 25, 2008 by Mobirdie
	Not sure if this is OK.....? (Preview) Hi everyone, So I've only been going to Al Anon meetings for about 6 weeks now and my Abf has been sober for about 2 weeks....longest since we've been together. Life is great.....but now I find I'm even more scared!! Why???!!!! I keep waiting for that first drink to happen. Even though his drinking...	reef999	7	617	Oct 25, 2008 by Karilynn
	I need your prayers, please! (Preview) I received bad news today after I had the MRI done on my leg. The tumor I had removed back in June 2007 (synovial sarcoma) is back.....different position and very small right now. It has developed in my right buttock just at the point where the original incision began. I am upset, of course, but I shou...	joyoma	12	656	Oct 24, 2008 by serendipity
	Bad night (Preview) I have had quite a bad night, with thoughts running away from me and feelings somewhat out of control. It started with two phone calls from my father's house. It was not his terminally ill wife that was the problem but my A brother who is being rendered homeless as his place is a fire hazard. He has been sor...	maire rua	6	535	Oct 24, 2008 by Jean4444
	Numb or dumb? (Preview) Hi all - it's been a while since I've been on here, but it's so nice to know I can sign on at a moments notice, and will find a group of understanding people any time. Brief background for those who don't know me... daughter and wife of alcoholic/addicts. Grew up resentful, and married due to extenuatin...	stariana	4	501	Oct 24, 2008 by stariana
	Choices (Preview) The holidays are coming and I am working on making better choices. Last night I was in a store which was full of the Thanksgiving fare. How I craved to have a decent Thanskgiving with the ex. I would always ask him every year to try to make it special, he never ever could of course but I asked! I went full fo...	maresie	4	449	Oct 23, 2008 by nmike
	Ups and Downs of being separated from AH (Preview) I've been married to my soulmate for 16 years. The past 10 years the lies and mood swings have been sucking every inch of life out of me. I know I need to get better for me and our children. I know I am taking one step at a time. I know my HP has given me the strength to come this far. I know I am opening a new do...	kellys_angels	5	708	Oct 23, 2008 by Marshmallow
	Not well and want to make contact (Preview) Hello everyone, I wasn't able to make my F2F meeting last night bc I am not feeling well. I was diagnosed with Lymes in September, treated for it, and I think I am relapsing. The DR wanted to put me in the hospital today for two days to run all sorts of tests, etc. I am not in the hospital now, nor do I plan on g...	hopeful123	4	591	Oct 23, 2008 by maresie
	Dad and son :) (Preview) My husband and son are going to upper Michigan to go hunting together. To most people it's pretty uneventful. To me, it's pure joy :) My son has waited for this for a literal lifetime. To be with his Dad. Some background: I didn't allow my son to go anywhere with his Dad because of the drinking. Whe...	Christy	11	741	Oct 23, 2008 by leo
	Having strength (Preview) Today marks almost the end of very hard week. I have had the grandbaby since Friday afternoon; his Dad (my son) moved in lock, stock, and barrel to be here also. My spouse had back to back surgeries last Wednesday/Thursday; he came home weak and spent Friday. So here I am with a very active toddler wea...	joyoma	4	596	Oct 23, 2008 by leo
	New here and struggling (Preview) Im new to alanon & to this forum, but not new to alcoholism. I was married 21 years to an A & it took me 15 years to get the courage to leave. Now I am again with an A, who does not like my teenage son & vice versa. When I met him he was in recovery & was a wonderful man. However, he is back to th...	nocontrol	5	581	Oct 23, 2008 by nocontrol
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