Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Well it finally happened. He crashed again. This time to his all time low (I think). He's drinking, doing drugs and running with the pole dancing strippers again. To top it off, in the last month, he's been pulled over 3, not once, not twice, but 3 friggen times for DUI. 2 times he's been involved in...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

TODAY IS A GOOD DAY! I SLEPT IN & GOT A PRETTY GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP WHICH IS SOMETIMES RARE FOR ME. I GUESS I AM FINALLY TURNING SOME THINGS OVER. SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED IN THE LAST MONTH. I HAVE FINALLY SETTLED IN BUT THERE IS STILL A LOT TO BE DONE. I JUST TAKE ONE THING AT A TIME, ONE DAY AT A TIME. MY HP SOMET...

smileycat · smileycat

How do you get one and how dose it work?

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))), May I offer a gentle suggestion to the OPs? This is not to criticize the wonderful and hard work you all do. I am very glad that you are here protecting us and guiding us. I so appreciate all the time and dedication you put into this amazing place. You do not get thanked enough. Pe...

debilyn · debilyn

When my whole family passed on, except my two kids, a wonderful gal adopted me. She became mom. I was very very blessed. I lost her two years ago. Her husband is my Dad. He has Ms. and is miserable in pain of all sorts.So far they don't know why. He had an emergency going to the hospital. I could not find him, h...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family, It's been a while since I last posted or replied to other posts - my apologies - I got the blue screen of death on my personal computer and it has taken me quite a while to get it working again. I'm so happy I finally got it working! Overall, I would say that the last few months for me have been str...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

The three A's Awareness, acceptance, and then action are helping me to be aware of myself and my actions towards my ABF. I have to accept he is an A but also that I make my own choices. I have to take actions that are going to help me by putting my HP and myself first. I have to accept that there are things I cann...

Codependent · Codependent

I went to a funeral today for a mutual friend who overdosed. I saw the A there. We hugged, etc. Apparently before I got to the funeral he, my A, passed out in the parking lot and they called an ambulance. He was sober. They said his blood pressure was a little high but that he was okay. I must admit tha...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi strangers! It's been I-don't-know-how-long since I last posted here, and I had time tonight to finally log on and visit! I hope everyone is doing well - I've been involved in "life", and trying to get used to being single again. Ex-A and I do get along now, but I don't have to have his a...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I spent a lot of time forgetting a lot of my past due to a very abusive marriage to a A. Spent so much time blocking out the past that it's hard to look back and remember enough to be grateful for where I am now. I'm a single mom and have raised my son by myself for 10yrs with no help from his father. I have f...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

For me worry and obsessive thinking go hand in hand. When I get worried and start to think obsessively about things and all my irrational fears I try to come on here and read peoples shares and share myself. I watch a favorite TV show and have a cup of tea. I do my yoga and meditations. I spend time with my HP....

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, situation with A step moms illness has deteriorated. She needs to go to a hospice this monday. I did as much as I could yesterday without going into fix mode, though martyr mode was near at times as none of her daughters are here and one considers it too financial a burden at this time and has seen...

Rora · Rora

Today represents one week since my Ah left. I find myself, like many here, wavering btw great sadness about the break up and all that represents and great excitement for a much healthier future. In general, I have a tendancy to seemingly not really deal with emotions very well or deny myself having em...

curlee-girl · curlee-girl

Greetings, I am new to this board and kinda-sorta new to al anon. I have been attending face to face meetings about 2 times a week and am grateful to find these forums. In a nutshell, on 5/2/08 ABF told me he was having and affair. Shortly afterward he was diagnosed w/A and then started therapy and join...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello family, Abf has been in treatment now for almost 3 weeks. They have been some of the most peaceful, stress free weeks I have had in a loooong time. I am keeping busy and working on myself. I feel I am doing pretty well until the phone rings. Even from over 1000 miles away, he is still using his mani...

Jennifer · Jennifer

And I need to send out a large THANK YOU to everyone. While I did not reply or post I did turn to MIP at times and read your words. They helped as always. Thank You all again. The big updates on my life, my divorce is final. I lived with a family member taking a break from her husband for a year ... it was extremel...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I've been struggling a lot lately with worry and fear. I've had anxiety that plagues me every single day. It gives me comfort knowing that even though I cannot control others and what they do or say I can control my reactions. I'm a people please and for a long time I really went along with everyone else ou...

mia_kay28 · mia_kay28

Im having some monetary issues and was wondering if anybody has a "Courage to Change" that I can have or borrow or even buy relatively cheap. Thank you so much. mia

thisisme · thisisme

My A (also an N) is my sister. There are other A's in my family but this one is the topic of this post. She has been sober for around 15 years but many of her behaviors remained, which is common with sober A's. I need to first say that I have a mental disorder and a mood disorder, and because the family has, for m...

Rora · Rora

As a new member and someone who is still learning about Alanon and codependancy, forgive me if this has been said already, but it's where I am at today.... I had a thought the other day, that my chaotic codependant behaviour(s) have much to do with fear, in that, I try to control a situation or the behavio...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM SO GLAD MIP HAS BEEN AROUND FOR 10 YEARS! I HAVE BEEN ON FOR MAYBE A YEAR--NOT SURE! ANYWAY, I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED & APPRECIATED PAR- TICIPATING IN THE WHOLE SITE. EVERYONE HAS HELPED ME THAT HAS RESPONDED TO MY POSTS. I HOPE THOSE I HAVE GIVEN SOME HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS TO OTHERS. I WILL CONTINUE...

Antigua · Antigua

I posted here once about a year ago. Shortly after that my husband stopped drinking for a little while because I asked him to. I fooled myself into thinking everything was ok. I was wrong. He started drinking again quite a while ago. Slowly at first...and then progressively more. I started find...

kellys_angels · kellys_angels

Hi my name is Kelly and I have been sapareted from my ah about 5 weeks now. We have two little girls who are very hurt by daddy moving out. I can not believe how I found this beautiful family to help my start a recovery that I didn't even know I needed. I have never been alone before and never thought I would...

Sincerely · Sincerely

My A hubby and I have been together for 10 years. I feel like our relationship has been an uphill battle. A battle of drugs and alchol, weight (me),cancers, deaths, step children, xwife, child support, affair, mother in law (my A Mom), and I am sure if i dug deep enough i could fine more. All an uphill b...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Family I have been out of touch for a little while and have not one excuse for it either. Things have been going well. As far as living with a docile AH can go. He works many more hours recently, which actually helps me deal with the entire situation. I do have my bad times though and wonder what the heck I am d...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Next Sunday is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingNovember 2, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Approval of October...

alyse39 · alyse39

Hello everyone,I am new to this forum.I have been married to an alcoholic for 23 yrs. and have 5 kids with him.I have been to hell and back in this marriage already,but the latest hell is by far the worst.He betrayed me in the cruelest wayhe cheated on me with someone we both knew,and were trying to "...

Diva · Diva

I have decided that AlAnon is not the program for me. I will never accept the premise that alcoholism is a disease. If I cannot get past that, I can never accept the other tenets of AlAnon. I have listened to all of you, and I have loved and respected you, mostly in silent disagreement. I thought that...

IndieThinker · IndieThinker

This is a long one...pull up a chair! LOL Hi all; I just discovered this site and thought I'd give it a try. I've been to a few Al-Anon meetings, but I live in a VERY small town (moved here from a big city) and everyone knows everyone...and I haven't connected with anyone like that here...so it hasn't been...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Just for today I will not let anything steal my joy. Just for today I will relax knowing my HP is looking out for me. Just for today I will take care of myself and do what's best for me to get healthy. Just for today I will be grateful for everything I have. Just for today I will not worry about tomorrow or obses...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), Just wanted to wish all of you a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! To those of you who have youngsters going trick or treating - have a ball! I'll be taking my traditional walk around the neighborhood looking at all the decorations along with the ghosts, goblins and politicians running amok...

John · John

2008 Hello Family and Friends of Alcoholics! On November 8th, 2008 the Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group will turn 10 years old. On this date in 1999, the group held its first online group business meeting. This business meeting started what has turned out to be the spring board for our cont...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I have spent soooo very much of my life taking care of and focusing on everyone else and their life and problems, and trying to be the World's Best Mom, and the World's Best Daughter, and the World's Best Everything that I am not sure quite where to begin just focusing on me. I am in love with a sober Aboyfr...

o2bnormal · o2bnormal

Hi Ya'll, Is anyone besides me having trouble getting into the chatroom? I am just getting a blank white page. Thanks, o2bnormal

debilyn · debilyn

Hey red flags went up for me when I read in the October minutes about considering a fundraiser. See of the "Twelve Traditions" Number 7 is very specific:"Every AA group to be self-supportiving,declining outside contributions." There would be no way to do this anonymously pl...

Rora · Rora

I woke up this morning and this thought of alcoholism being progressive came to me. I look at my current situation and I think , why the * did I have a child with him, when I knew all this? Why didn't I sever the relationship months/years ago? How did I come to be in this situation? While I realize that my Ah h...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Thanks for all your kind responses and for all the shares I've read today. I know I need to just take it one day one step at a time. Life can seem so overwhelming but as long as I do the best I can and take it one day at a time I will be ok. I also need to spend more time with my HP. I realized I've been neglecting that...

blender_girl · blender_girl

It's been an up and down week for me so far, but I'll have to say between attending the online meetings and lurking on this message board I have sooo benefited from all of the love and ESH that is out here. It's so comforting to know that I can safely spew out what ever's going on in my life and no one here will j...

buick23 · buick23

Wanted to update everyone on how things are going. Even though there were a few rough days when my mom first got here, everything worked out just fine. Guess we had to get used to eachother again after not seing eachother for a year. We really had a great few weeks together. We even briefly talked about my...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Well I collected the A-brother's stuff on monday, unfortunately I gave him money that I shouldn't really have, my father has started to collect people at the airport though I did ring to offer to bring a guest back for thursday. I am not needed and this is good at present, no drama or trouble. I h...

nmike · nmike

I have money in the bank. I checked my 401K/investments, etc. I have lost much money less than some and more than others. My relationships at work are crap. My personal relationships are crap too. My relationship with my AHSober is next to nothing. My three sons are off on their life paths. Don't forget...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Hi, My name is Christina. I'm new to these message borads. I've been attending meetings for about two weeks now. I've already found so much help through peoples shares and the al-anon literature. I've been going through the steps and am still really working with the first 3. I have just started explor...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Today has been a stressful day for me. I went to work and my boss who is also my aunt is very stressful for me to be around. I know I need the courage to change what I can and find another job away from her because all she does is complain (I know I am right now) but she is so negative. She is also verbally and emoti...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Well, its been well over a month since Ive spoken with my ex A b/f. Once in a while I receive an email from him. Kinda sappy emails but I dont let it get to me. Ive stayed strong and havent given into my desire to call him. My dilemma is this: Any day now he should be starting his jail sentence. Althou...

Rora · Rora

If you don't mind, I'd just like to "blah" a little and if something strikes you to respond, I always appreciate it. Some of the wisest people I know visit this site!! Brief background, my Ah and I have been married 7 years, we have a 4 yr old son. We've struggled for many years, we've been des...

nocontrol · nocontrol

As some of you may know I am new to alanon & this forum, but am sure glad it's been here. Here's my dilemma: I had to have my A boyfriend arrested last night, as he went from happy and calm to crazy & raged . . . like flipping a light switch on and off (yes he was drunk). He is being released this afte...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Just got off the phone with abf. He is in a treatment center in Florida working on his recovery. He went into detox two weeks ago, and from there went to an inpatient facility. He has been gone for exactly two weeks today. I received two letters in the mail from him today and have spoken to him twice, on...

Gared · Gared

It took me a while to feel like I could be alone. Truth is that I still feel compelled to reach out to others to fill the void that my ex and his drinking left behind when he moved out. It hasn't been easy figuring out who I am and what I want out of life. There's sex (finally after 4 years), going out, travel...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hello, it's me again. I feel like I'm posting a lot lately. Long story short, I have been diagnosed with a few things all in one day. Turns out that I not only have Lymes, but I have been walking around with strep throat undiagnosed, and it has gone into my kidneys. I have had no symptoms other than absolu...

Nicole · Nicole

I have issues surrounding my Mother in law who is possibly an addict, not sure yet. But she will do anything to suck us into her life. She has begun this thing of giving us gifts on a monthly basis. I don't want the gifts because anything she does for us comes with too many strings attached. She always has a...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

Tonight my AH left again. Saying he needed to "sleep" and although he slept all last night and all day today he insisted on leaving. I feel like such a sucker. He has broken so many of his promises to stop drinking or drugs. I've finally started trying to go to meetings and of course he hates it a...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), Good Sunday morning to you all. I hope you are enjoying your weekend. I wanted to share this story with you. Even though I no longer have an A in my life due to my hubby's passing, I still need to use my program. The program doesn't leave us because we no longer have As in our life. Th...

andica · andica

Hi, My AH is just getting started in AA but still drinking some (is that possible?). I had to put our son in day care since AH was drinking and deteriorating quickly and I no longer felt safe with him as caregiver. He knows he can't be a stay at home dad unless he is sober - no alcohol and I won't give him a timef...

joyoma · joyoma

This is the only place I can express myself and my anxieties. My post on TH and FRI of last week re: my latest cancer diagnosis has brought me many responses; thanks to everyone. I have had no contact with EXDIL since she stopped by Friday with the grandbaby. She and I had horrible words last week via ph...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I absolutely LOVE quotes, and use them often in my photo editing, etc... While reading today I came across one that really touched me and made me stop and count my blessings. "The purpose of life, is a life of purpose". I have no idea who said it first but they were obviously a very wise person...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hello everyone. I have a bad habit--and I could use a little help. On my facebook account, I have two "friends" who are close to my ex ABF. Every now and then, I cannot help but check their pages or comments (which pop up under my account). This is how I "check up" on the A. Mind yo...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Yes, it's come to me, another startling, yet painfully obvious moment of truth: I feel like I have too much responsibility and I can't handle it. Real life stuff like kids, house, car, pets, ect. Insurance and taxes on all of the above. I was thinking about getting pet insurance. I'm not going to, but it...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

just a short note to let y'all know that I am getting better! The stress is starting to lift. I am so grateful. My HP is in the center of my life & I have gratitude that comes from him. Keep coming back--it will work! Kathleen

lastchance · lastchance

I am very new to this and have been reading some posts and not sure I can or will find help here. All I really know is that I have been living my life like this for so long that the depression meds and everything else I try dont even work anylonger. I have been here for so long that I have no self esteem, respec...

jewely · jewely

i woke up this morning with old thoughts in my new [alanon] head. memories of stories i had been told, memories of stories i had lived. it began a long time ago. a young woman known as N, married at age 18 a man twenty years her senior. this union, was to be the beginnig of a short life for her and a long life for...

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	He crashed... he burned... but I am 98% detached (today at least) ! (Preview) Well it finally happened. He crashed again. This time to his all time low (I think). He's drinking, doing drugs and running with the pole dancing strippers again. To top it off, in the last month, he's been pulled over 3, not once, not twice, but 3 friggen times for DUI. 2 times he's been involved in...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	4	1007	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Today is a good day! (Preview) TODAY IS A GOOD DAY! I SLEPT IN & GOT A PRETTY GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP WHICH IS SOMETIMES RARE FOR ME. I GUESS I AM FINALLY TURNING SOME THINGS OVER. SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED IN THE LAST MONTH. I HAVE FINALLY SETTLED IN BUT THERE IS STILL A LOT TO BE DONE. I JUST TAKE ONE THING AT A TIME, ONE DAY AT A TIME. MY HP SOMET...	Hoot Nanny	3	413	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Sponsor? (Preview) How do you get one and how dose it work?	smileycat	4	785	Nov 5, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Suggestion from an old timer. (Preview) (((((((Family)))))), May I offer a gentle suggestion to the OPs? This is not to criticize the wonderful and hard work you all do. I am very glad that you are here protecting us and guiding us. I so appreciate all the time and dedication you put into this amazing place. You do not get thanked enough. Pe...	Karilynn	2	815	Nov 4, 2008 by canadianguy
	my adoptive father is sick (Preview) When my whole family passed on, except my two kids, a wonderful gal adopted me. She became mom. I was very very blessed. I lost her two years ago. Her husband is my Dad. He has Ms. and is miserable in pain of all sorts.So far they don't know why. He had an emergency going to the hospital. I could not find him, h...	debilyn	4	475	Nov 4, 2008 by debilyn
	Progress not perfection (Preview) Hi MIP family, It's been a while since I last posted or replied to other posts - my apologies - I got the blue screen of death on my personal computer and it has taken me quite a while to get it working again. I'm so happy I finally got it working! Overall, I would say that the last few months for me have been str...	Rocky38	6	1035	Nov 4, 2008 by Karilynn
	The 3 A's (Preview) The three A's Awareness, acceptance, and then action are helping me to be aware of myself and my actions towards my ABF. I have to accept he is an A but also that I make my own choices. I have to take actions that are going to help me by putting my HP and myself first. I have to accept that there are things I cann...	christinajeanne	4	5003	Nov 3, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Seeing Him- Depressed (Preview) I went to a funeral today for a mutual friend who overdosed. I saw the A there. We hugged, etc. Apparently before I got to the funeral he, my A, passed out in the parking lot and they called an ambulance. He was sober. They said his blood pressure was a little high but that he was okay. I must admit tha...	Codependent	4	800	Nov 3, 2008 by hopeful123
	HELLO!!! (Preview) Hi strangers! It's been I-don't-know-how-long since I last posted here, and I had time tonight to finally log on and visit! I hope everyone is doing well - I've been involved in "life", and trying to get used to being single again. Ex-A and I do get along now, but I don't have to have his a...	lmt123	3	364	Nov 3, 2008 by Karilynn
	A little bit of gratitude..... (Preview) I spent a lot of time forgetting a lot of my past due to a very abusive marriage to a A. Spent so much time blocking out the past that it's hard to look back and remember enough to be grateful for where I am now. I'm a single mom and have raised my son by myself for 10yrs with no help from his father. I have f...	shellyj123	3	545	Nov 3, 2008 by ddub
	obsessive thinking (Preview) For me worry and obsessive thinking go hand in hand. When I get worried and start to think obsessively about things and all my irrational fears I try to come on here and read peoples shares and share myself. I watch a favorite TV show and have a cup of tea. I do my yoga and meditations. I spend time with my HP....	christinajeanne	7	1494	Nov 2, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Tough times and alanon tools (Preview) Dear All, situation with A step moms illness has deteriorated. She needs to go to a hospice this monday. I did as much as I could yesterday without going into fix mode, though martyr mode was near at times as none of her daughters are here and one considers it too financial a burden at this time and has seen...	maire rua	5	601	Nov 2, 2008 by christinajeanne
	how do you decipher from distraction and "not dealing"...? (Preview) Today represents one week since my Ah left. I find myself, like many here, wavering btw great sadness about the break up and all that represents and great excitement for a much healthier future. In general, I have a tendancy to seemingly not really deal with emotions very well or deny myself having em...	Rora	6	1381	Nov 2, 2008 by Loupiness
	Should I call my ex-ABF? - longish (Preview) Greetings, I am new to this board and kinda-sorta new to al anon. I have been attending face to face meetings about 2 times a week and am grateful to find these forums. In a nutshell, on 5/2/08 ABF told me he was having and affair. Shortly afterward he was diagnosed w/A and then started therapy and join...	curlee-girl	6	1024	Nov 2, 2008 by Diva
	Clarity peppered with confusion.. (Preview) Hello family, Abf has been in treatment now for almost 3 weeks. They have been some of the most peaceful, stress free weeks I have had in a loooong time. I am keeping busy and working on myself. I feel I am doing pretty well until the phone rings. Even from over 1000 miles away, he is still using his mani...	liljeannie	7	483	Nov 2, 2008 by liljeannie
	It's been about year since I spoke here (Preview) And I need to send out a large THANK YOU to everyone. While I did not reply or post I did turn to MIP at times and read your words. They helped as always. Thank You all again. The big updates on my life, my divorce is final. I lived with a family member taking a break from her husband for a year ... it was extremel...	Jennifer	4	489	Nov 2, 2008 by maire rua
	Friday worry/fear (Preview) I've been struggling a lot lately with worry and fear. I've had anxiety that plagues me every single day. It gives me comfort knowing that even though I cannot control others and what they do or say I can control my reactions. I'm a people please and for a long time I really went along with everyone else ou...	christinajeanne	4	710	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Courage to Change--need book (Preview) Im having some monetary issues and was wondering if anybody has a "Courage to Change" that I can have or borrow or even buy relatively cheap. Thank you so much. mia	mia_kay28	2	621	Nov 1, 2008 by mia_kay28
	A tricky situation. (Preview) My A (also an N) is my sister. There are other A's in my family but this one is the topic of this post. She has been sober for around 15 years but many of her behaviors remained, which is common with sober A's. I need to first say that I have a mental disorder and a mood disorder, and because the family has, for m...	thisisme	3	507	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Protection from hurt..... (Preview) As a new member and someone who is still learning about Alanon and codependancy, forgive me if this has been said already, but it's where I am at today.... I had a thought the other day, that my chaotic codependant behaviour(s) have much to do with fear, in that, I try to control a situation or the behavio...	Rora	4	514	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	SO GLAD MIP IS HERE! (Preview) I AM SO GLAD MIP HAS BEEN AROUND FOR 10 YEARS! I HAVE BEEN ON FOR MAYBE A YEAR--NOT SURE! ANYWAY, I HAVE REALLY ENJOYED & APPRECIATED PAR- TICIPATING IN THE WHOLE SITE. EVERYONE HAS HELPED ME THAT HAS RESPONDED TO MY POSTS. I HOPE THOSE I HAVE GIVEN SOME HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS TO OTHERS. I WILL CONTINUE...	Hoot Nanny	1	363	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Back after a year (Preview) I posted here once about a year ago. Shortly after that my husband stopped drinking for a little while because I asked him to. I fooled myself into thinking everything was ok. I was wrong. He started drinking again quite a while ago. Slowly at first...and then progressively more. I started find...	Antigua	3	484	Nov 1, 2008 by gknee
	Getting stronger from a safe distance (Preview) Hi my name is Kelly and I have been sapareted from my ah about 5 weeks now. We have two little girls who are very hurt by daddy moving out. I can not believe how I found this beautiful family to help my start a recovery that I didn't even know I needed. I have never been alone before and never thought I would...	kellys_angels	1	411	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Top of the Hill (Preview) My A hubby and I have been together for 10 years. I feel like our relationship has been an uphill battle. A battle of drugs and alchol, weight (me),cancers, deaths, step children, xwife, child support, affair, mother in law (my A Mom), and I am sure if i dug deep enough i could fine more. All an uphill b...	Sincerely	1	445	Nov 1, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Thank you MIP for being here, thank you! (Preview) Family I have been out of touch for a little while and have not one excuse for it either. Things have been going well. As far as living with a docile AH can go. He works many more hours recently, which actually helps me deal with the entire situation. I do have my bad times though and wonder what the heck I am d...	wildthang86	2	321	Nov 1, 2008 by maresie
	November Business Meeting (Preview) Hi all, Next Sunday is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingNovember 2, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Approval of October...	Mandy123	1	316	Nov 1, 2008 by mia_kay28
	How Do I get Over The Pain & Sorrow of Cheating,especially when he refuses to help me? (Preview) Hello everyone,I am new to this forum.I have been married to an alcoholic for 23 yrs. and have 5 kids with him.I have been to hell and back in this marriage already,but the latest hell is by far the worst.He betrayed me in the cruelest wayhe cheated on me with someone we both knew,and were trying to "...	alyse39	13	1299	Nov 1, 2008 by alyse39
	After much soul-searching... (Preview) I have decided that AlAnon is not the program for me. I will never accept the premise that alcoholism is a disease. If I cannot get past that, I can never accept the other tenets of AlAnon. I have listened to all of you, and I have loved and respected you, mostly in silent disagreement. I thought that...	Diva	18	657	Nov 1, 2008 by leo
	New Here...with a GREAT need to talk (Preview) This is a long one...pull up a chair! LOL Hi all; I just discovered this site and thought I'd give it a try. I've been to a few Al-Anon meetings, but I live in a VERY small town (moved here from a big city) and everyone knows everyone...and I haven't connected with anyone like that here...so it hasn't been...	IndieThinker	4	565	Oct 31, 2008 by gknee
	Just for today (Preview) Just for today I will not let anything steal my joy. Just for today I will relax knowing my HP is looking out for me. Just for today I will take care of myself and do what's best for me to get healthy. Just for today I will be grateful for everything I have. Just for today I will not worry about tomorrow or obses...	christinajeanne	7	558	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Happy Halloween! (Preview) (((((Family))))), Just wanted to wish all of you a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! To those of you who have youngsters going trick or treating - have a ball! I'll be taking my traditional walk around the neighborhood looking at all the decorations along with the ghosts, goblins and politicians running amok...	Karilynn	1	356	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group Turns 10 years old! (Preview) 2008 Hello Family and Friends of Alcoholics! On November 8th, 2008 the Miracles In Progress Al-Anon Family Group will turn 10 years old. On this date in 1999, the group held its first online group business meeting. This business meeting started what has turned out to be the spring board for our cont...	John	5	616	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Feeling down... (Preview) I have spent soooo very much of my life taking care of and focusing on everyone else and their life and problems, and trying to be the World's Best Mom, and the World's Best Daughter, and the World's Best Everything that I am not sure quite where to begin just focusing on me. I am in love with a sober Aboyfr...	shellyj123	7	437	Oct 31, 2008 by Karilynn
	Anyone having trouble getting into chat? (Preview) Hi Ya'll, Is anyone besides me having trouble getting into the chatroom? I am just getting a blank white page. Thanks, o2bnormal	o2bnormal	3	537	Oct 31, 2008 by aunitedway
	to the wonderful business meeting people (Preview) Hey red flags went up for me when I read in the October minutes about considering a fundraiser. See of the "Twelve Traditions" Number 7 is very specific:"Every AA group to be self-supportiving,declining outside contributions." There would be no way to do this anonymously pl...	debilyn	3	431	Oct 31, 2008 by serendipity
	A progressive disease/problem, what-have-you (Preview) I woke up this morning and this thought of alcoholism being progressive came to me. I look at my current situation and I think , why the * did I have a child with him, when I knew all this? Why didn't I sever the relationship months/years ago? How did I come to be in this situation? While I realize that my Ah h...	Rora	7	422	Oct 31, 2008 by Jean4444
	one day at a time (Preview) Thanks for all your kind responses and for all the shares I've read today. I know I need to just take it one day one step at a time. Life can seem so overwhelming but as long as I do the best I can and take it one day at a time I will be ok. I also need to spend more time with my HP. I realized I've been neglecting that...	christinajeanne	1	424	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	So glad MIP is here (Preview) It's been an up and down week for me so far, but I'll have to say between attending the online meetings and lurking on this message board I have sooo benefited from all of the love and ESH that is out here. It's so comforting to know that I can safely spew out what ever's going on in my life and no one here will j...	blender_girl	3	457	Oct 31, 2008 by christinajeanne
	hello alanon family (Preview) Wanted to update everyone on how things are going. Even though there were a few rough days when my mom first got here, everything worked out just fine. Guess we had to get used to eachother again after not seing eachother for a year. We really had a great few weeks together. We even briefly talked about my...	buick23	4	479	Oct 30, 2008 by nmike
	Easing of rescuing (Preview) Dear All, Well I collected the A-brother's stuff on monday, unfortunately I gave him money that I shouldn't really have, my father has started to collect people at the airport though I did ring to offer to bring a guest back for thursday. I am not needed and this is good at present, no drama or trouble. I h...	maire rua	3	319	Oct 30, 2008 by nmike
	My reality today (Preview) I have money in the bank. I checked my 401K/investments, etc. I have lost much money less than some and more than others. My relationships at work are crap. My personal relationships are crap too. My relationship with my AHSober is next to nothing. My three sons are off on their life paths. Don't forget...	nmike	7	539	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Introduction (Preview) Hi, My name is Christina. I'm new to these message borads. I've been attending meetings for about two weeks now. I've already found so much help through peoples shares and the al-anon literature. I've been going through the steps and am still really working with the first 3. I have just started explor...	christinajeanne	2	334	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Tuesday Share (Preview) Today has been a stressful day for me. I went to work and my boss who is also my aunt is very stressful for me to be around. I know I need the courage to change what I can and find another job away from her because all she does is complain (I know I am right now) but she is so negative. She is also verbally and emoti...	christinajeanne	3	472	Oct 29, 2008 by christinajeanne
	Tick Tock Tick Tock (Preview) Well, its been well over a month since Ive spoken with my ex A b/f. Once in a while I receive an email from him. Kinda sappy emails but I dont let it get to me. Ive stayed strong and havent given into my desire to call him. My dilemma is this: Any day now he should be starting his jail sentence. Althou...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	7	479	Oct 29, 2008 by HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
	Another day down! ... (Preview) If you don't mind, I'd just like to "blah" a little and if something strikes you to respond, I always appreciate it. Some of the wisest people I know visit this site!! Brief background, my Ah and I have been married 7 years, we have a 4 yr old son. We've struggled for many years, we've been des...	Rora	4	516	Oct 28, 2008 by Rora
	I am in need of your input (Preview) As some of you may know I am new to alanon & this forum, but am sure glad it's been here. Here's my dilemma: I had to have my A boyfriend arrested last night, as he went from happy and calm to crazy & raged . . . like flipping a light switch on and off (yes he was drunk). He is being released this afte...	nocontrol	10	717	Oct 28, 2008 by maresie
	Speechless (Preview) Just got off the phone with abf. He is in a treatment center in Florida working on his recovery. He went into detox two weeks ago, and from there went to an inpatient facility. He has been gone for exactly two weeks today. I received two letters in the mail from him today and have spoken to him twice, on...	liljeannie	6	323	Oct 28, 2008 by liljeannie
	Sailing with Capt. Morgan - Higher Power at work (Preview) It took me a while to feel like I could be alone. Truth is that I still feel compelled to reach out to others to fill the void that my ex and his drinking left behind when he moved out. It hasn't been easy figuring out who I am and what I want out of life. There's sex (finally after 4 years), going out, travel...	Gared	4	543	Oct 28, 2008 by liljeannie
	Just a sad case... (Preview) Hello, it's me again. I feel like I'm posting a lot lately. Long story short, I have been diagnosed with a few things all in one day. Turns out that I not only have Lymes, but I have been walking around with strep throat undiagnosed, and it has gone into my kidneys. I have had no symptoms other than absolu...	hopeful123	4	483	Oct 28, 2008 by abbyal
	Need a suggestion (Preview) I have issues surrounding my Mother in law who is possibly an addict, not sure yet. But she will do anything to suck us into her life. She has begun this thing of giving us gifts on a monthly basis. I don't want the gifts because anything she does for us comes with too many strings attached. She always has a...	Nicole	8	607	Oct 27, 2008 by nmike
	Feeling desperate & anxious (Preview) Tonight my AH left again. Saying he needed to "sleep" and although he slept all last night and all day today he insisted on leaving. I feel like such a sucker. He has broken so many of his promises to stop drinking or drugs. I've finally started trying to go to meetings and of course he hates it a...	angelchar375	4	701	Oct 27, 2008 by angelchar375
	Alanon at work & passing it on. (Preview) (((((Family))))), Good Sunday morning to you all. I hope you are enjoying your weekend. I wanted to share this story with you. Even though I no longer have an A in my life due to my hubby's passing, I still need to use my program. The program doesn't leave us because we no longer have As in our life. Th...	Karilynn	7	666	Oct 27, 2008 by nmike
	how to encourage with detachment? (Preview) Hi, My AH is just getting started in AA but still drinking some (is that possible?). I had to put our son in day care since AH was drinking and deteriorating quickly and I no longer felt safe with him as caregiver. He knows he can't be a stay at home dad unless he is sober - no alcohol and I won't give him a timef...	andica	6	725	Oct 27, 2008 by blender_girl
	Just need to "talk" (Preview) This is the only place I can express myself and my anxieties. My post on TH and FRI of last week re: my latest cancer diagnosis has brought me many responses; thanks to everyone. I have had no contact with EXDIL since she stopped by Friday with the grandbaby. She and I had horrible words last week via ph...	joyoma	3	615	Oct 27, 2008 by Karilynn
	"The purpose of life" (Preview) I absolutely LOVE quotes, and use them often in my photo editing, etc... While reading today I came across one that really touched me and made me stop and count my blessings. "The purpose of life, is a life of purpose". I have no idea who said it first but they were obviously a very wise person...	shellyj123	5	517	Oct 27, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	Having a hard time... (Preview) Hello everyone. I have a bad habit--and I could use a little help. On my facebook account, I have two "friends" who are close to my ex ABF. Every now and then, I cannot help but check their pages or comments (which pop up under my account). This is how I "check up" on the A. Mind yo...	hopeful123	5	572	Oct 26, 2008 by Fifi
	Revelation #9672 (Preview) Yes, it's come to me, another startling, yet painfully obvious moment of truth: I feel like I have too much responsibility and I can't handle it. Real life stuff like kids, house, car, pets, ect. Insurance and taxes on all of the above. I was thinking about getting pet insurance. I'm not going to, but it...	RainyJamie	3	665	Oct 26, 2008 by Christy
	I am getting well again! (Preview) just a short note to let y'all know that I am getting better! The stress is starting to lift. I am so grateful. My HP is in the center of my life & I have gratitude that comes from him. Keep coming back--it will work! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	3	467	Oct 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	HELP (Preview) I am very new to this and have been reading some posts and not sure I can or will find help here. All I really know is that I have been living my life like this for so long that the depression meds and everything else I try dont even work anylonger. I have been here for so long that I have no self esteem, respec...	lastchance	3	522	Oct 26, 2008 by Jerry F
	forgive (Preview) i woke up this morning with old thoughts in my new [alanon] head. memories of stories i had been told, memories of stories i had lived. it began a long time ago. a young woman known as N, married at age 18 a man twenty years her senior. this union, was to be the beginnig of a short life for her and a long life for...	jewely	10	580	Oct 26, 2008 by ddub
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