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tea2 · tea2

12.06.09 Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes: The Chair opened the meeting with "The Serenity Prayer" First Item:Approval of November's Minutes -Vote was held and the Minutes were approved as posted on Message Board.- - Next Item:Rundown of the Agenda Topics - Review of Nove...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Saturday I went to a BBQ with some "friends" and with my AH. I was having a terrible time cause I was still upset about the fact he didn't spent X-Mas with us, but with his friends getting drunk. I made the HORRIBLE mistake to confide in a "friend" that I was very tired of the situatio...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

I think he's drunk. But the sick part is that I can't even confirm it. I think I smell it, his behavior is not normal, and he's doing things that he would normally do if he had been drinking (smoking too much, using the bathroom a lot, "falling asleep" while playing a computer game). As al a...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Our f2f group decided that the first Friday meeting of everymonth we would now devote to a Step Meeting. A step a month for 2010. We all loveeee the idea....This was decided AFTER I had already signed up to lead that night as it will be my one year anniversary. I did my first round through the steps with a...

Maria123 · Maria123

Happy Birthday (((Tea))) I think this is a milestone birthday, so I hope your day is going to be a special one with decadent wishes and joy, Maria

Samsgram · Samsgram

Its me the new gal who posted just the other day about my daughter who is abusive to me and who is off with her 6 year old daughter for 4 days in the mountians with others. I was worried about the drinking etc and how she cared for my gd, etc. Tonight I got a call and my gd was crying in the background. My daughter...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, the A went to his dad and his dad turned down the rehab- stating he needed to get over his addiction on his own- go figure. So the A calls me in the middle of the night telling me he fears he will die without rehab soon. So today I call the rehab and have his mom call the rehab. I spoke with his mom tonigh...

cindyb21 · cindyb21

Hello All, just need to vent a little. I've been going to al-anon for a couple of months now and am trying to "let go and let god" , trying to work the program but my daughter in law keeps trying to get me to force my son, (they've been separated for a year) the A, to stop drinking. She thinks th...

jennyre · jennyre

Hi everyone, I'm new to the forums and I'm not sure how to deal with an alcoholic spouse. I've been with him for 12 years now and in April will (would have been?) our 10th wedding anniversary, we have 2 children together aged 8 and 2...my 8 year old has Asperger's Syndrome (for those that don't know, it's...

tricia · tricia

Hello, My husband is coming home from rehab on Tuesday (1st time) and I have been told to go to al-anon meetings. I cannot find any that are less than 100 miles away. Can I use this site instead? Tricia

pineapple · pineapple

It's hard to believe I just found this site last week (when AH was in 2nd day of his last binge). I've been coming here every day and even made it to two online meetings. There is so much to learn but I think I'm beginning to understand how al anon works to help people help themselves. That said, my A has been s...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

hi, it's Carol again. It is Xmas Eve. I have expectations toward myself and others today and I am trying to drop them. My a wants special diet cookies and I don' tfeel like baking right now. My sponsor and i had gone shopping and bought regular cookies, but did not expect a to want diet ones so badly. also, I...

lost5909 · lost5909

I have been married to an alcoholic for 14 years. In the beginning we were so in love I thought. We did things together,go to Disney, he showed me the ocean for the first time.Yes we partied together too. The years went by don't even know how many. One night at one of our drinking hang outs. I got sick and wen...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I was just sitting here thinking about what if my AH supported me, had his name on the house, cars etc. As I sit here, middle aged, feeling the pain of getting older, what would make me stay. Besides being disabled, I broke my rib again. Same one, just leaned over a fence. Anyway if he even brought in the gro...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I have had probably the worst week of my life over this past week. It all started the weekend before last when oldest daughter told ex AH you're not my dad I don't have to f'ing listen to you and refused to do anything he said. He tried to take the phone from her and she threw it against the wall and broke i...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I've found myself in a little fear these last 2 days about the next few months. My husband told me yesterday that his work schedule is changing next week. Instead of working from 8 - 3 monday through friday, he'll be working from 12 - 5 two days a week and 8 - 3 the other days. So he'll be home alone 2 mornin...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Made it through the holiday and out the other side, almost without any family drama, but that wasn't meant to be. The drama that occured will take some time to heal from as there were many hurt feelings, mostly my son's-which in turn meant mine-there is nothing harder that watching your child hurt and...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

(((((Hello everyone))))) I bought my AS (age 29) a $200.00 gift card so that he could buy him some much needed new clothes. I bought the cards because I knew the store had a policy of not giving cash back for returned items. He came by to see me this morning and I ask him what did he buy with his gift card, he p...

Jerry F · Jerry F

just like I've slipped into another world. No atmospheric noise...no traffic...no family noise...no dog noise. It is spiritually quiet at the moment just as if everyone in my world is sitting down quiet, relax and still and just being peaceful and happy. I am getting just what I want for the fir...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I posted here yesterday as a newbie and I find its really holding me together today. My daughter & grandaughter is off for 4 days w/ boyfriend and his kids and others in the mountains. I know there will be drinking going on and I find myself worried about my grandaughter and how her mother and if her m...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

What would the holidays be without family of origin issues, right? ;) To make a very long story short (or try to, at least), my ex-husband is an active alcoholic. He and I have an 8 year old son. My ex is on probation for DUI and working a minimum wage job. He keeps getting evicted from places and not bei...

maresie · maresie

Last year I spent days feverishly cooking and cleaning and organizing and of course shopping. Needless to say none of the people who I cooked for (all alcoholics, addicts or people mired in the alcoholics lifes) helped to clean up. They ate and then went back to their TV, drinking, arguging, scapeg...

Tracy · Tracy

hi everyone, hope you all had a lovely christmas and hope you all have a happy and peacful new years in 2010. I have not posted for week or so I am in Benidorm in spain on a family holiday. I went away with my parents and kids as my ABF lost his job after last slip and all the promises of a holiday together cou...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I`am sorry but I`am in a bad place... I have a daughter who has been a drug addict most of her life. When she had her lttle girl I believed she had stopped. When the child was 2 my daughter became mean and nasty and rageful. The childs father went to prison and my daughter took off and got married to another pi...

fishinmama · fishinmama

I had posted long ago about my alanon books being in a box in the closet. However when I went to dig them out they were an AA big book and AA Daily relections. At the time I thought what a bummer. Last posting I noted my daughter was in jail. She wrecked her car and reported it stolen, there was also marajua...

CapriMom65 · CapriMom65

I just spent 90 mins this morning, trying to find help/information..anything. My son uses alcohol, but he's more of a substance abuser...so I still don't know if I found the right place. Last night was arrested for shoplifting and possession. He's 23. I thought he was doing OK lately! I'm sur...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and as I was giving my youngest son his birthday hug and looking over his great wife and two lovely daughters I felt old and the lost for not being close to him for 18 years. I don't do remorse well so that is about all of it there. He came over for his brithday gift and some birthday cupcakes and to "...

inhisarms · inhisarms

Hi MIP family, Only a few months ago I did not know how I would survive without my ABF and today i realized not only have I survived, I have thrived. Spent a wonderful Christmas Eve with my kids and a coworkers family. Last minute they invited us over and we had such an amazing time. This morning my kids an...

momoftwins24 · momoftwins24

I have been reading over this forum for a few weeks now. I have debated whether or not to sign up. I know that I need help I need people who understand what I am going through. I am married 30 yr old mother to two sets of twin girls. They are my life and my entire world. Their father is an alcoholic, he has b...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((Friends))))))), Merry Christmas to all of my wonderful MIP family, The highs are I am alive, It is 7 am and I am patiently awaiting for my g=daughter to get out of bed...I am so excited for her that I am about to go kiss her awake....lol she is 18 months old this year and OMG she is going to be smiles f...

Hawk120025 · Hawk120025

I've been posting now for about 5 months and one thing has really stood out to me - women really struggle with leaving the relationship. Why? Why do you feel you aren't worthy of something better? Why do continue to put up with the A behavior? What are you afraid of that keeps you in such horrible rela...

mc3 · mc3

This is what last night talk with my AB truly felt like to me it was like the devil was staring right back into my eyes. We had talks before about his drinking he said hed try and do better so i stayed but this time omg! The hair stood up on the back of my neck and I'm still shaking. I asked for a sign from my HP wel...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I talked the the psychiatrist today and he said that they did the MMPI on her but haven't scored it yet. I also got a call from the therapist asking to change her from involuntary to voluntary commitment which I'm waiting for a call back from her to get more understanding as to what that would mean. The d...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Carol, Alanon. I am entering a new friendship with a woman. We are already very close and I've only known her two weeks. My known pattern is to not have any boundaries and to not expect anyone to treat me with respect. this woman is very open with me. She is in recovery. We talk about stuff. But I am waitin...

Diva · Diva

and a sincere wish for all the world's good things to each of you in 2010!!! Diva

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I'm in a place right now that I can't seem to get out of. Feel like I am in a 10 foot hole and I keep pulling at the mud on the sides to try and get out and more just keeps tumbling in on me......soon I think I may be buried alive. The Dr's office called today with the pathology report from my surgery, and told me t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

IT WILL BE A QUIET BUT NICE CHRISTMAS WITHOUT MY MOM THIS YEAR--I CONVINCED HER TO GO HOME FOR CHRISTMAS & SHE DID IT! THIS MAKES ME HAPPY BECAUSE LAST YEAR SHE ALMOST SINGLE-HANDEDLY RUINED MY DAY LAST YEAR--BUT I LET HER! I LEARNED FROM LAST YEAR THAT I HAVE TO CREATE MY OWN HAPPINESS. SOMEONE LI...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just wanted to wish all my MIP friends a Happy Christmas and thank you all for being here when I needed you. Hope you will all still be here and willing to put up with me when I (inevitably) need you in 2010. Lots of love, Tish xx

pineapple · pineapple

My Christmas gift has been finding this forum yesterday. I am sure I'll be here often reading the posts and expressing my own questions and doubts (and maybe some triumphs). But for the first time in many months I feel hopeful and that indeed is a gift. Thank you so much.

Holly09 · Holly09

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL! Thank you to all the MIP family here that makes my sometimes unbearable life better! Have a safe holiday. Holly

belle1 · belle1

From Our House To Yours A Very Peaceful Christmas To Everyone

CJ · CJ

When I remember that each person is doing the "best" they can, I am able to forgive them and stay light and usually happy/fun. I also believe that if I'm worth being forgiven, so is everyone else I come into contact with, including toxic family members. If I'm finding behaviors hard to deal...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I just wanted to Thank those who took the time to read and respond to my post. As you can tell my life has been anything but "level" as of late and it seems that as soon as I try to pull myself up, something else is thrown back at me, but again I try to get up. Today started out with ripping loose some...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Good morning family, Just got a call from the county jail, seems my daughter got in a wreck last night. I didn't get all the details as only the first minute was free. Then I was prompted to enter my debit card to buy more talking time. Could it be....Some Alanon prompting???? I thought why should I pay...

Nodaybut2day · Nodaybut2day

My cell phone died on Sunday, after my visit with XAH. I didn't think to charge it up on Monday morning. I plugged it in Monday afternoon at work and forgot it there until this morning. This is what came up on the screen once I turned it back on: 5 text messages from XAH. Monday, 9:04 p.m. If you're awake, I re...

pineapple · pineapple

hello, I am new here and don't know where to start. I have finally realized that the man I live with is an alcoholic. At first I thought he just had a ¨problem¨ that he would sometimes drink too much. That would be like every 3 or 4 months. But it´s been getting worse and the past few months he goes on binges fo...

Maria123 · Maria123

Happy Birthday David !!! You are finally as old as I am It's a gift to me (ha ha) to have been part of your recovery. Hope your day is a great one, Maria

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just wondering how to get rid of this feeling in the pit of my stomach that Christmas will all fall apart this year. My daughter and her fiance and my sister-in-law are all coming for Christmas lunch so should be jolly - but what if AH doesn't behave - what if he decides to be ill - needs to go to hospital or ma...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi. MIP family. This is the flip side of my previous post. I would love to hear more from people who left and what the outcome was. Hugs Rocky

Gailey · Gailey

For the past couple of years I could depend on my son not drinking on the weekends while his daughters were visiting. I even said recently that he never drinks when they are coming up. Well, Friday he was drunk when I brought them to my house. I made him leave and go somewhere for the night. My husband took h...

Overcome · Overcome

Christmas can be a hard time of year for some because of bad memories, current alcoholic situations, financial hardships, struggles with the commercialism of the holiday or just an overabundance of "too much yuletide joy". I have put together a "Christmas Survival List" f...

ythannah · ythannah

Not even a week has passed since my post in Hollie's "Why do they stay?" thread about how I loved my ABF.... and I'm dumping him. I guess what I'm looking for is confirmation that I've done the right thing, and how to feel better about it. The backstory: I'm a child of two alcoholic parents. My...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I HAD ANOTHER HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE ON SAT. REMEMBER I SAID THAT THE WEEK WOULDN'T BE RIGHT WITHOUT A FEW BAD DAYS? WELL..I AM KICKING MYSELF FOR SAYING THAT NOW! WITHOUT TOO MANY DETAILS; SOME PEOPLE IN MY TOWN THINK I AM A THIEF AND THEY BELIEVE THAT THEY HAVE REASON TO BELIEVE THIS. I KNOW WHAT I DID &...

maresie · maresie

Today my TV blew out and I now have to go get another one even though my funds are low. Normally pre al anon this would be a huge crisis and I would feel like a victim. Today I see it as a task I have to do and one I can be quite good at. Obviously due to my limited funds I won't be getting a 40 inch screen but I will b...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Hi MIP family! Have missed you all tremendously! Sitting up is not the most comfortable right now so I will keep this brief and touch back later. The surgery experience from start to finish was a nightmare-which included waking up on the OR table, being dressed in someone else's underclothing, and c...

marmare · marmare

Haven't posted in so long. My AH has been for the most part in controlled drinking stage...the last year he has slipped more and more. I made the decision to move out of our home. When I told him in the begining of Nov. that I would be moving out come Feb or March ...he told me to GET OUT by the 1st of the year...

John · John

Still Amazed and Excited! 20 years laterReply Quote More Edit PostDelete PostBan IPReport Spam To celebrate an alcoholic that doesn't drink is like applauding a cowboy with hemroids for not riding his horse. When the darn things hurt enough and he has tried every way possible to ride without...

Overcome · Overcome

I have had several people request that I post my story so here goes: I myself did not grow up with alcoholic parents, but did have a very dysfunctional family in the way that we communicated with each other. There was much triangulation between my mom, my dad and me. My dad (probably a sober alcoholic) di...

Augustine · Augustine

This is my first time reaching out for help. After reading some of the posts I have to admit I am a litle intimidated. It's weird because on one hand I would have liked to think that I would never be in this position, but on the other hand I think I always knew I would. I am married to an unadmitted A and it is rea...

kerry5 · kerry5

I am having xmas eve tonight with my kids. As they will be with my ex this year for xmas. I will not be home in time to chair. if an op can please fill in.. thank you Kerry

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	12.06.09 MIP Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) 12.06.09 Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes: The Chair opened the meeting with "The Serenity Prayer" First Item:Approval of November's Minutes -Vote was held and the Minutes were approved as posted on Message Board.- - Next Item:Rundown of the Agenda Topics - Review of Nove...	tea2	0	763	Dec 29, 2009 by tea2
	History repeats itself (Preview) Saturday I went to a BBQ with some "friends" and with my AH. I was having a terrible time cause I was still upset about the fact he didn't spent X-Mas with us, but with his friends getting drunk. I made the HORRIBLE mistake to confide in a "friend" that I was very tired of the situatio...	Priscilla83	5	912	Dec 29, 2009 by maresie
	He's drunk right now, I think (Preview) I think he's drunk. But the sick part is that I can't even confirm it. I think I smell it, his behavior is not normal, and he's doing things that he would normally do if he had been drinking (smoking too much, using the bathroom a lot, "falling asleep" while playing a computer game). As al a...	Ragdolls	5	1095	Dec 29, 2009 by maresie
	Step One step meeting...........Need some insight (Preview) Our f2f group decided that the first Friday meeting of everymonth we would now devote to a Step Meeting. A step a month for 2010. We all loveeee the idea....This was decided AFTER I had already signed up to lead that night as it will be my one year anniversary. I did my first round through the steps with a...	shellyj123	6	1008	Dec 29, 2009 by shellyj123
	Today's Birthday - Tea2 (Preview) Happy Birthday (((Tea))) I think this is a milestone birthday, so I hope your day is going to be a special one with decadent wishes and joy, Maria	Maria123	7	746	Dec 29, 2009 by tea2
	So Upset (Preview) Its me the new gal who posted just the other day about my daughter who is abusive to me and who is off with her 6 year old daughter for 4 days in the mountians with others. I was worried about the drinking etc and how she cared for my gd, etc. Tonight I got a call and my gd was crying in the background. My daughter...	Samsgram	9	1189	Dec 29, 2009 by Samsgram
	Seeking to let go of ego (Preview) Well, the A went to his dad and his dad turned down the rehab- stating he needed to get over his addiction on his own- go figure. So the A calls me in the middle of the night telling me he fears he will die without rehab soon. So today I call the rehab and have his mom call the rehab. I spoke with his mom tonigh...	Codependent	3	1231	Dec 29, 2009 by Jen
	son out drinking - DIL blaming me (Preview) Hello All, just need to vent a little. I've been going to al-anon for a couple of months now and am trying to "let go and let god" , trying to work the program but my daughter in law keeps trying to get me to force my son, (they've been separated for a year) the A, to stop drinking. She thinks th...	cindyb21	13	1075	Dec 29, 2009 by wp
	I told my husband I am leaving him... (Long) (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the forums and I'm not sure how to deal with an alcoholic spouse. I've been with him for 12 years now and in April will (would have been?) our 10th wedding anniversary, we have 2 children together aged 8 and 2...my 8 year old has Asperger's Syndrome (for those that don't know, it's...	jennyre	7	1353	Dec 28, 2009 by jennyre
	Cannot find local meetings (Preview) Hello, My husband is coming home from rehab on Tuesday (1st time) and I have been told to go to al-anon meetings. I cannot find any that are less than 100 miles away. Can I use this site instead? Tricia	tricia	7	1364	Dec 28, 2009 by tricia
	being realistic (Preview) It's hard to believe I just found this site last week (when AH was in 2nd day of his last binge). I've been coming here every day and even made it to two online meetings. There is so much to learn but I think I'm beginning to understand how al anon works to help people help themselves. That said, my A has been s...	pineapple	6	827	Dec 28, 2009 by Debilyn
	ups and downs of holiday eve (Preview) hi, it's Carol again. It is Xmas Eve. I have expectations toward myself and others today and I am trying to drop them. My a wants special diet cookies and I don' tfeel like baking right now. My sponsor and i had gone shopping and bought regular cookies, but did not expect a to want diet ones so badly. also, I...	Carol_Lynn	5	978	Dec 28, 2009 by maresie
	I am new and totally confused (Preview) I have been married to an alcoholic for 14 years. In the beginning we were so in love I thought. We did things together,go to Disney, he showed me the ocean for the first time.Yes we partied together too. The years went by don't even know how many. One night at one of our drinking hang outs. I got sick and wen...	lost5909	8	1016	Dec 28, 2009 by maresie
	Leaving the A (Preview) I was just sitting here thinking about what if my AH supported me, had his name on the house, cars etc. As I sit here, middle aged, feeling the pain of getting older, what would make me stay. Besides being disabled, I broke my rib again. Same one, just leaned over a fence. Anyway if he even brought in the gro...	Debilyn	11	1164	Dec 28, 2009 by Debilyn
	The week from hell (long) (Preview) So I have had probably the worst week of my life over this past week. It all started the weekend before last when oldest daughter told ex AH you're not my dad I don't have to f'ing listen to you and refused to do anything he said. He tried to take the phone from her and she threw it against the wall and broke i...	carolinagirl	11	584	Dec 28, 2009 by sharonk868
	A little fear (Preview) I've found myself in a little fear these last 2 days about the next few months. My husband told me yesterday that his work schedule is changing next week. Instead of working from 8 - 3 monday through friday, he'll be working from 12 - 5 two days a week and 8 - 3 the other days. So he'll be home alone 2 mornin...	White Rabbit	4	760	Dec 27, 2009 by White Rabbit
	Heading into 2010...........a bit of a ramble:) (Preview) Made it through the holiday and out the other side, almost without any family drama, but that wasn't meant to be. The drama that occured will take some time to heal from as there were many hurt feelings, mostly my son's-which in turn meant mine-there is nothing harder that watching your child hurt and...	shellyj123	2	912	Dec 27, 2009 by Jen
	Just Like When He Was Little....... (Preview) (((((Hello everyone))))) I bought my AS (age 29) a $200.00 gift card so that he could buy him some much needed new clothes. I bought the cards because I knew the store had a policy of not giving cash back for returned items. He came by to see me this morning and I ask him what did he buy with his gift card, he p...	DreamsOver	5	1071	Dec 27, 2009 by hotrod
	It is soooo still and peaceful now.... (Preview) just like I've slipped into another world. No atmospheric noise...no traffic...no family noise...no dog noise. It is spiritually quiet at the moment just as if everyone in my world is sitting down quiet, relax and still and just being peaceful and happy. I am getting just what I want for the fir...	Jerry F	4	1086	Dec 27, 2009 by Jen
	Really Glad To be Here (Preview) I posted here yesterday as a newbie and I find its really holding me together today. My daughter & grandaughter is off for 4 days w/ boyfriend and his kids and others in the mountains. I know there will be drinking going on and I find myself worried about my grandaughter and how her mother and if her m...	Samsgram	2	885	Dec 27, 2009 by Jen
	Family of Origin Issues (Preview) What would the holidays be without family of origin issues, right? ;) To make a very long story short (or try to, at least), my ex-husband is an active alcoholic. He and I have an 8 year old son. My ex is on probation for DUI and working a minimum wage job. He keeps getting evicted from places and not bei...	White Rabbit	4	1291	Dec 26, 2009 by White Rabbit
	one day at a time. (Preview) Last year I spent days feverishly cooking and cleaning and organizing and of course shopping. Needless to say none of the people who I cooked for (all alcoholics, addicts or people mired in the alcoholics lifes) helped to clean up. They ate and then went back to their TV, drinking, arguging, scapeg...	maresie	4	629	Dec 26, 2009 by maire rua
	Holiday/ birthday (Preview) hi everyone, hope you all had a lovely christmas and hope you all have a happy and peacful new years in 2010. I have not posted for week or so I am in Benidorm in spain on a family holiday. I went away with my parents and kids as my ABF lost his job after last slip and all the promises of a holiday together cou...	Tracy	3	802	Dec 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	I`am New (Preview) I`am sorry but I`am in a bad place... I have a daughter who has been a drug addict most of her life. When she had her lttle girl I believed she had stopped. When the child was 2 my daughter became mean and nasty and rageful. The childs father went to prison and my daughter took off and got married to another pi...	Samsgram	7	746	Dec 26, 2009 by Debilyn
	My Christmas grateful, grateful, grateful (Preview) I had posted long ago about my alanon books being in a box in the closet. However when I went to dig them out they were an AA big book and AA Daily relections. At the time I thought what a bummer. Last posting I noted my daughter was in jail. She wrecked her car and reported it stolen, there was also marajua...	fishinmama	3	853	Dec 26, 2009 by maresie
	New: Xmas Eve & son arrested last night =( (Preview) I just spent 90 mins this morning, trying to find help/information..anything. My son uses alcohol, but he's more of a substance abuser...so I still don't know if I found the right place. Last night was arrested for shoplifting and possession. He's 23. I thought he was doing OK lately! I'm sur...	CapriMom65	6	736	Dec 26, 2009 by maresie
	He's 39 and going strong (Preview) and as I was giving my youngest son his birthday hug and looking over his great wife and two lovely daughters I felt old and the lost for not being close to him for 18 years. I don't do remorse well so that is about all of it there. He came over for his brithday gift and some birthday cupcakes and to "...	Jerry F	9	917	Dec 26, 2009 by Maria123
	Grateful for a small but peaceful christmas (Preview) Hi MIP family, Only a few months ago I did not know how I would survive without my ABF and today i realized not only have I survived, I have thrived. Spent a wonderful Christmas Eve with my kids and a coworkers family. Last minute they invited us over and we had such an amazing time. This morning my kids an...	inhisarms	4	968	Dec 26, 2009 by Maria123
	New here my story (Preview) I have been reading over this forum for a few weeks now. I have debated whether or not to sign up. I know that I need help I need people who understand what I am going through. I am married 30 yr old mother to two sets of twin girls. They are my life and my entire world. Their father is an alcoholic, he has b...	momoftwins24	3	949	Dec 26, 2009 by Overcome
	Highs and Lows of the Holiday Merry Christmas (Preview) ((((((((Friends))))))), Merry Christmas to all of my wonderful MIP family, The highs are I am alive, It is 7 am and I am patiently awaiting for my g=daughter to get out of bed...I am so excited for her that I am about to go kiss her awake....lol she is 18 months old this year and OMG she is going to be smiles f...	Andrea12	2	738	Dec 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	Why do so many women stay? (Men, too?) (Preview) I've been posting now for about 5 months and one thing has really stood out to me - women really struggle with leaving the relationship. Why? Why do you feel you aren't worthy of something better? Why do continue to put up with the A behavior? What are you afraid of that keeps you in such horrible rela...	Hawk120025	37	2057	Dec 26, 2009 by neshema2
	a conversation with the devil (Preview) This is what last night talk with my AB truly felt like to me it was like the devil was staring right back into my eyes. We had talks before about his drinking he said hed try and do better so i stayed but this time omg! The hair stood up on the back of my neck and I'm still shaking. I asked for a sign from my HP wel...	mc3	6	903	Dec 26, 2009 by neshema2
	Update (Preview) I talked the the psychiatrist today and he said that they did the MMPI on her but haven't scored it yet. I also got a call from the therapist asking to change her from involuntary to voluntary commitment which I'm waiting for a call back from her to get more understanding as to what that would mean. The d...	carolinagirl	4	820	Dec 26, 2009 by neshema2
	scared (of good stuff!) (Preview) Carol, Alanon. I am entering a new friendship with a woman. We are already very close and I've only known her two weeks. My known pattern is to not have any boundaries and to not expect anyone to treat me with respect. this woman is very open with me. She is in recovery. We talk about stuff. But I am waitin...	Carol_Lynn	4	758	Dec 25, 2009 by inhisarms
	Merry Christmas to you all.... (Preview) and a sincere wish for all the world's good things to each of you in 2010!!! Diva	Diva	3	708	Dec 25, 2009 by inhisarms
	Feeling like my faith is being tested, and I'm not sure I'm strong enough to pass....ESH needed (Preview) I'm in a place right now that I can't seem to get out of. Feel like I am in a 10 foot hole and I keep pulling at the mud on the sides to try and get out and more just keeps tumbling in on me......soon I think I may be buried alive. The Dr's office called today with the pathology report from my surgery, and told me t...	shellyj123	8	2125	Dec 25, 2009 by masspedirn
	CHRISTMAS W/O MOM! (Preview) IT WILL BE A QUIET BUT NICE CHRISTMAS WITHOUT MY MOM THIS YEAR--I CONVINCED HER TO GO HOME FOR CHRISTMAS & SHE DID IT! THIS MAKES ME HAPPY BECAUSE LAST YEAR SHE ALMOST SINGLE-HANDEDLY RUINED MY DAY LAST YEAR--BUT I LET HER! I LEARNED FROM LAST YEAR THAT I HAVE TO CREATE MY OWN HAPPINESS. SOMEONE LI...	Hoot Nanny	3	873	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Happy Christmas! (Preview) Just wanted to wish all my MIP friends a Happy Christmas and thank you all for being here when I needed you. Hope you will all still be here and willing to put up with me when I (inevitably) need you in 2010. Lots of love, Tish xx	Tattyhead	3	588	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	My Christmas gift (Preview) My Christmas gift has been finding this forum yesterday. I am sure I'll be here often reading the posts and expressing my own questions and doubts (and maybe some triumphs). But for the first time in many months I feel hopeful and that indeed is a gift. Thank you so much.	pineapple	5	819	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Merry Christmas (Preview) MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL! Thank you to all the MIP family here that makes my sometimes unbearable life better! Have a safe holiday. Holly	Holly09	3	567	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Merry Christmas And Peace To All (Preview) From Our House To Yours A Very Peaceful Christmas To Everyone	belle1	3	647	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Holiday, Family and Forgiveness (Preview) When I remember that each person is doing the "best" they can, I am able to forgive them and stay light and usually happy/fun. I also believe that if I'm worth being forgiven, so is everyone else I come into contact with, including toxic family members. If I'm finding behaviors hard to deal...	CJ	4	1082	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Many thanks to my MIP family for the ESH (Preview) I just wanted to Thank those who took the time to read and respond to my post. As you can tell my life has been anything but "level" as of late and it seems that as soon as I try to pull myself up, something else is thrown back at me, but again I try to get up. Today started out with ripping loose some...	shellyj123	2	742	Dec 25, 2009 by shellyj123
	A call from the county jail - I am grateful for my alanon reaction (Preview) Good morning family, Just got a call from the county jail, seems my daughter got in a wreck last night. I didn't get all the details as only the first minute was free. Then I was prompted to enter my debit card to buy more talking time. Could it be....Some Alanon prompting???? I thought why should I pay...	fishinmama	6	1184	Dec 24, 2009 by White Rabbit
	A gift from my HP (Preview) My cell phone died on Sunday, after my visit with XAH. I didn't think to charge it up on Monday morning. I plugged it in Monday afternoon at work and forgot it there until this morning. This is what came up on the screen once I turned it back on: 5 text messages from XAH. Monday, 9:04 p.m. If you're awake, I re...	Nodaybut2day	2	755	Dec 24, 2009 by White Rabbit
	don't know what to do (Preview) hello, I am new here and don't know where to start. I have finally realized that the man I live with is an alcoholic. At first I thought he just had a ¨problem¨ that he would sometimes drink too much. That would be like every 3 or 4 months. But it´s been getting worse and the past few months he goes on binges fo...	pineapple	9	1042	Dec 24, 2009 by White Rabbit
	Today's Birthday Boy ~ David62 (Preview) Happy Birthday David !!! You are finally as old as I am It's a gift to me (ha ha) to have been part of your recovery. Hope your day is a great one, Maria	Maria123	10	963	Dec 24, 2009 by david62
	Worrying about Christmas (Preview) Just wondering how to get rid of this feeling in the pit of my stomach that Christmas will all fall apart this year. My daughter and her fiance and my sister-in-law are all coming for Christmas lunch so should be jolly - but what if AH doesn't behave - what if he decides to be ill - needs to go to hospital or ma...	Tattyhead	4	835	Dec 23, 2009 by Adelaide
	Should I stay or should I go? Please share your ESH on why you LEFT and what was the outcome for you? (Preview) Hi. MIP family. This is the flip side of my previous post. I would love to hear more from people who left and what the outcome was. Hugs Rocky	Rocky38	9	788	Dec 23, 2009 by Not2bforgot10
	NEVER SAY NEVER (Preview) For the past couple of years I could depend on my son not drinking on the weekends while his daughters were visiting. I even said recently that he never drinks when they are coming up. Well, Friday he was drunk when I brought them to my house. I made him leave and go somewhere for the night. My husband took h...	Gailey	4	867	Dec 23, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	My Christmas Survival list (Preview) Christmas can be a hard time of year for some because of bad memories, current alcoholic situations, financial hardships, struggles with the commercialism of the holiday or just an overabundance of "too much yuletide joy". I have put together a "Christmas Survival List" f...	Overcome	5	1384	Dec 23, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Support Badly Needed (Preview) Not even a week has passed since my post in Hollie's "Why do they stay?" thread about how I loved my ABF.... and I'm dumping him. I guess what I'm looking for is confirmation that I've done the right thing, and how to feel better about it. The backstory: I'm a child of two alcoholic parents. My...	ythannah	10	919	Dec 23, 2009 by ythannah
	I WILL NOT PLAY "VICTIM" (Preview) I HAD ANOTHER HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE ON SAT. REMEMBER I SAID THAT THE WEEK WOULDN'T BE RIGHT WITHOUT A FEW BAD DAYS? WELL..I AM KICKING MYSELF FOR SAYING THAT NOW! WITHOUT TOO MANY DETAILS; SOME PEOPLE IN MY TOWN THINK I AM A THIEF AND THEY BELIEVE THAT THEY HAVE REASON TO BELIEVE THIS. I KNOW WHAT I DID &...	Hoot Nanny	3	1648	Dec 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	Living life on lifes terms (Preview) Today my TV blew out and I now have to go get another one even though my funds are low. Normally pre al anon this would be a huge crisis and I would feel like a victim. Today I see it as a task I have to do and one I can be quite good at. Obviously due to my limited funds I won't be getting a 40 inch screen but I will b...	maresie	3	1259	Dec 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	An update........... (Preview) Hi MIP family! Have missed you all tremendously! Sitting up is not the most comfortable right now so I will keep this brief and touch back later. The surgery experience from start to finish was a nightmare-which included waking up on the OR table, being dressed in someone else's underclothing, and c...	shellyj123	4	789	Dec 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	Feel like this is home...(here) (Preview) Haven't posted in so long. My AH has been for the most part in controlled drinking stage...the last year he has slipped more and more. I made the decision to move out of our home. When I told him in the begining of Nov. that I would be moving out come Feb or March ...he told me to GET OUT by the 1st of the year...	marmare	2	817	Dec 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	Still Amazed - 20 years later... (Preview) Still Amazed and Excited! 20 years laterReply Quote More Edit PostDelete PostBan IPReport Spam To celebrate an alcoholic that doesn't drink is like applauding a cowboy with hemroids for not riding his horse. When the darn things hurt enough and he has tried every way possible to ride without...	John	10	1011	Dec 23, 2009 by drucilla06
	My Story (Preview) I have had several people request that I post my story so here goes: I myself did not grow up with alcoholic parents, but did have a very dysfunctional family in the way that we communicated with each other. There was much triangulation between my mom, my dad and me. My dad (probably a sober alcoholic) di...	Overcome	3	948	Dec 23, 2009 by hotrod
	Taking the 1st Step (Preview) This is my first time reaching out for help. After reading some of the posts I have to admit I am a litle intimidated. It's weird because on one hand I would have liked to think that I would never be in this position, but on the other hand I think I always knew I would. I am married to an unadmitted A and it is rea...	Augustine	3	1435	Dec 22, 2009 by abbyal
	Need an op to chair tonight 9pm meeting (Preview) I am having xmas eve tonight with my kids. As they will be with my ex this year for xmas. I will not be home in time to chair. if an op can please fill in.. thank you Kerry	kerry5	0	431	Dec 22, 2009 by kerry5
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