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Ness · Ness

As the turn of the year approaches I want to give thanks to all of you who have supported and inspired me on my healing journey. Everyone who posts here has my love and gratitude, oldies and newbies, I cant do it without you. I hit rock bottom this time last year. As the bells chimed out at midnight bringin...

belle1 · belle1

My Friend Laura Was Finally Laid To Rest This Morning God Grant Her To Eternal Life And May She And All The Faithfully Departed Rest In Peace. Its Been A Long Road For Us All Esp her poor dad and sons This Is The 4th Child Her Dad Has Had To Bury(her 2 brothers older and a younger sis all had an illness) Please...

CJ recovery · CJ recovery

Hello Al Anon family! I just found this website, and hope to gain a lot, and maybe help some too... As an intro, here's my story... Five years ago today I was independent, strong, and single. I was on a remote Pacific island studying butterflies; when the big tsunami hit the Pacific I had no idea, since w...

RLC · RLC

2010 is upon us. With each new year it gives us a chance to start over. But, it only comes once a year. I make and break a lot of New Year's resolutions each year as I am sure some of you do also. With that in mind, I was thinking what a great program Al-Anon really is because the program allows us to start over e...

Jerry F · Jerry F

So a part of my family have all been wearing body explosives and setting themselves off at very weird times while trying to find a time when they can do a coordinated blast. When did I think the tape of my past was totally destroyed and would not earn re-run status? Of course one part of the family runs t...

RLC · RLC

On Dec. 24th my AW became active again. She had been sober for over 8 months. I don't know why the holidays and in particular Christmas seems to bring that miserable beast out of hiding. I feel like the disease is laughing saying, I'm back, I won, I'm in control again. Truth be known, that is the case with m...

jasobel · jasobel

I haven't been posting much the past few weeks. My alcoholic boyfriend had left me to binge with another woman at her place. He called me in a horrible place to pick him up and I did, brought him home to detox - he stayed with me - said he wanted to be with me again, until he painfully left 2 weeks later and now i...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

For the past week or so my anxiety has been in over-drive. At first I thought perhaps it was hormones because I was off my BC pill. But I'm back on now and still have the anxiety. In 2 weeks, my husband is supposed to be going into jail for 45 days for a DUI and I'm pretty sure that's the source of my anxiety. ...

wgredgray · wgredgray

So here I am 27 years old. I watched my mom marry and divorce my recovering-alcoholic step dad, who relapsed in 1999 and never made it back to the place of recovery. I now watch that same stepdad play mind games with my brother. I have always sat back and watched it waiting for someone to ask me how it all...

Gailey · Gailey

I am going to really work at this new year to be the best that I can make it. It is going to be a year of taking care of myself, finding my own happiness within and diving more into Alanon then I ever have. I am going to do whatever I have to do to stay out of the drama of my A son and just have hope without any expecta...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

I have noticed that many people are beginning to post real pictures of themselves and their children here, which show up when they post. To each his own I know, but I am wondering, aren't they afraid that their alcoholic or drug addict may figure out they are on here and easily find their posts? I know t...

Codependent · Codependent

It has been quite a while since I wrote last. The holidays seem to be really hard on me. It brings out my loneliness as, yes, I am still alone. Well, I say that but my little boy is 5 now and the joy of my life. My sister and her family still live with me as well. The A in my life is still around. We have conta...

fishinmama · fishinmama

One fact must be kept in mind, namely, the need to distinguish between submission and surrender . In submission, an individual accepts reality consciously, but not unconsciously. He or she accepts as a practical fact that he or she cannot at that moment lick reality, but lurking in the unconscious i...

maresie · maresie

I haven't seen you post in a while and know that this time of the year is a very busy one for you. I hope you and Pipers Kitty had a peaceful holiday and I'm praying 2010 will be a peaceful loving, profitable year for you. Your program has been a great inspiration and guide for me in difficult times. Maresi...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Just glad to be here on Christmas day. I spent an hour here answering posts and seeing who is posting on this joyous day. I love seeing other alanon's coping with and celebrating holidays! I am doing the same. Peace! Carol

Courage · Courage

Business meeting Sunday, January 3, 2010 9 p.m. Eastern (6 p.m. Pacific) Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please pm me if you have any additional items Thank you. Courage

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I am so sick of mindgames. My "A" and I are seperated. Divorce is set to be final 03/02/10. He left the state last Sunday because he was mad at me. He sent me a text saying he never wanted to hear from me again and that he was sure he would never see his kids again. I didn't reply since he said h...

tea2 · tea2

12.06.09 Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes: The Chair opened the meeting with "The Serenity Prayer" First Item:Approval of November's Minutes -Vote was held and the Minutes were approved as posted on Message Board.- - Next Item:Rundown of the Agenda Topics - Review of Nove...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Saturday I went to a BBQ with some "friends" and with my AH. I was having a terrible time cause I was still upset about the fact he didn't spent X-Mas with us, but with his friends getting drunk. I made the HORRIBLE mistake to confide in a "friend" that I was very tired of the situatio...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

I think he's drunk. But the sick part is that I can't even confirm it. I think I smell it, his behavior is not normal, and he's doing things that he would normally do if he had been drinking (smoking too much, using the bathroom a lot, "falling asleep" while playing a computer game). As al a...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Our f2f group decided that the first Friday meeting of everymonth we would now devote to a Step Meeting. A step a month for 2010. We all loveeee the idea....This was decided AFTER I had already signed up to lead that night as it will be my one year anniversary. I did my first round through the steps with a...

Maria123 · Maria123

Happy Birthday (((Tea))) I think this is a milestone birthday, so I hope your day is going to be a special one with decadent wishes and joy, Maria

Samsgram · Samsgram

Its me the new gal who posted just the other day about my daughter who is abusive to me and who is off with her 6 year old daughter for 4 days in the mountians with others. I was worried about the drinking etc and how she cared for my gd, etc. Tonight I got a call and my gd was crying in the background. My daughter...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, the A went to his dad and his dad turned down the rehab- stating he needed to get over his addiction on his own- go figure. So the A calls me in the middle of the night telling me he fears he will die without rehab soon. So today I call the rehab and have his mom call the rehab. I spoke with his mom tonigh...

cindyb21 · cindyb21

Hello All, just need to vent a little. I've been going to al-anon for a couple of months now and am trying to "let go and let god" , trying to work the program but my daughter in law keeps trying to get me to force my son, (they've been separated for a year) the A, to stop drinking. She thinks th...

jennyre · jennyre

Hi everyone, I'm new to the forums and I'm not sure how to deal with an alcoholic spouse. I've been with him for 12 years now and in April will (would have been?) our 10th wedding anniversary, we have 2 children together aged 8 and 2...my 8 year old has Asperger's Syndrome (for those that don't know, it's...

tricia · tricia

Hello, My husband is coming home from rehab on Tuesday (1st time) and I have been told to go to al-anon meetings. I cannot find any that are less than 100 miles away. Can I use this site instead? Tricia

pineapple · pineapple

It's hard to believe I just found this site last week (when AH was in 2nd day of his last binge). I've been coming here every day and even made it to two online meetings. There is so much to learn but I think I'm beginning to understand how al anon works to help people help themselves. That said, my A has been s...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

hi, it's Carol again. It is Xmas Eve. I have expectations toward myself and others today and I am trying to drop them. My a wants special diet cookies and I don' tfeel like baking right now. My sponsor and i had gone shopping and bought regular cookies, but did not expect a to want diet ones so badly. also, I...

lost5909 · lost5909

I have been married to an alcoholic for 14 years. In the beginning we were so in love I thought. We did things together,go to Disney, he showed me the ocean for the first time.Yes we partied together too. The years went by don't even know how many. One night at one of our drinking hang outs. I got sick and wen...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I was just sitting here thinking about what if my AH supported me, had his name on the house, cars etc. As I sit here, middle aged, feeling the pain of getting older, what would make me stay. Besides being disabled, I broke my rib again. Same one, just leaned over a fence. Anyway if he even brought in the gro...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I have had probably the worst week of my life over this past week. It all started the weekend before last when oldest daughter told ex AH you're not my dad I don't have to f'ing listen to you and refused to do anything he said. He tried to take the phone from her and she threw it against the wall and broke i...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I've found myself in a little fear these last 2 days about the next few months. My husband told me yesterday that his work schedule is changing next week. Instead of working from 8 - 3 monday through friday, he'll be working from 12 - 5 two days a week and 8 - 3 the other days. So he'll be home alone 2 mornin...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Made it through the holiday and out the other side, almost without any family drama, but that wasn't meant to be. The drama that occured will take some time to heal from as there were many hurt feelings, mostly my son's-which in turn meant mine-there is nothing harder that watching your child hurt and...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

(((((Hello everyone))))) I bought my AS (age 29) a $200.00 gift card so that he could buy him some much needed new clothes. I bought the cards because I knew the store had a policy of not giving cash back for returned items. He came by to see me this morning and I ask him what did he buy with his gift card, he p...

Jerry F · Jerry F

just like I've slipped into another world. No atmospheric noise...no traffic...no family noise...no dog noise. It is spiritually quiet at the moment just as if everyone in my world is sitting down quiet, relax and still and just being peaceful and happy. I am getting just what I want for the fir...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I posted here yesterday as a newbie and I find its really holding me together today. My daughter & grandaughter is off for 4 days w/ boyfriend and his kids and others in the mountains. I know there will be drinking going on and I find myself worried about my grandaughter and how her mother and if her m...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

What would the holidays be without family of origin issues, right? ;) To make a very long story short (or try to, at least), my ex-husband is an active alcoholic. He and I have an 8 year old son. My ex is on probation for DUI and working a minimum wage job. He keeps getting evicted from places and not bei...

maresie · maresie

Last year I spent days feverishly cooking and cleaning and organizing and of course shopping. Needless to say none of the people who I cooked for (all alcoholics, addicts or people mired in the alcoholics lifes) helped to clean up. They ate and then went back to their TV, drinking, arguging, scapeg...

Tracy · Tracy

hi everyone, hope you all had a lovely christmas and hope you all have a happy and peacful new years in 2010. I have not posted for week or so I am in Benidorm in spain on a family holiday. I went away with my parents and kids as my ABF lost his job after last slip and all the promises of a holiday together cou...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I`am sorry but I`am in a bad place... I have a daughter who has been a drug addict most of her life. When she had her lttle girl I believed she had stopped. When the child was 2 my daughter became mean and nasty and rageful. The childs father went to prison and my daughter took off and got married to another pi...

fishinmama · fishinmama

I had posted long ago about my alanon books being in a box in the closet. However when I went to dig them out they were an AA big book and AA Daily relections. At the time I thought what a bummer. Last posting I noted my daughter was in jail. She wrecked her car and reported it stolen, there was also marajua...

CapriMom65 · CapriMom65

I just spent 90 mins this morning, trying to find help/information..anything. My son uses alcohol, but he's more of a substance abuser...so I still don't know if I found the right place. Last night was arrested for shoplifting and possession. He's 23. I thought he was doing OK lately! I'm sur...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and as I was giving my youngest son his birthday hug and looking over his great wife and two lovely daughters I felt old and the lost for not being close to him for 18 years. I don't do remorse well so that is about all of it there. He came over for his brithday gift and some birthday cupcakes and to "...

inhisarms · inhisarms

Hi MIP family, Only a few months ago I did not know how I would survive without my ABF and today i realized not only have I survived, I have thrived. Spent a wonderful Christmas Eve with my kids and a coworkers family. Last minute they invited us over and we had such an amazing time. This morning my kids an...

momoftwins24 · momoftwins24

I have been reading over this forum for a few weeks now. I have debated whether or not to sign up. I know that I need help I need people who understand what I am going through. I am married 30 yr old mother to two sets of twin girls. They are my life and my entire world. Their father is an alcoholic, he has b...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((Friends))))))), Merry Christmas to all of my wonderful MIP family, The highs are I am alive, It is 7 am and I am patiently awaiting for my g=daughter to get out of bed...I am so excited for her that I am about to go kiss her awake....lol she is 18 months old this year and OMG she is going to be smiles f...

Hawk120025 · Hawk120025

I've been posting now for about 5 months and one thing has really stood out to me - women really struggle with leaving the relationship. Why? Why do you feel you aren't worthy of something better? Why do continue to put up with the A behavior? What are you afraid of that keeps you in such horrible rela...

mc3 · mc3

This is what last night talk with my AB truly felt like to me it was like the devil was staring right back into my eyes. We had talks before about his drinking he said hed try and do better so i stayed but this time omg! The hair stood up on the back of my neck and I'm still shaking. I asked for a sign from my HP wel...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I talked the the psychiatrist today and he said that they did the MMPI on her but haven't scored it yet. I also got a call from the therapist asking to change her from involuntary to voluntary commitment which I'm waiting for a call back from her to get more understanding as to what that would mean. The d...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Carol, Alanon. I am entering a new friendship with a woman. We are already very close and I've only known her two weeks. My known pattern is to not have any boundaries and to not expect anyone to treat me with respect. this woman is very open with me. She is in recovery. We talk about stuff. But I am waitin...

Diva · Diva

and a sincere wish for all the world's good things to each of you in 2010!!! Diva

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I'm in a place right now that I can't seem to get out of. Feel like I am in a 10 foot hole and I keep pulling at the mud on the sides to try and get out and more just keeps tumbling in on me......soon I think I may be buried alive. The Dr's office called today with the pathology report from my surgery, and told me t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

IT WILL BE A QUIET BUT NICE CHRISTMAS WITHOUT MY MOM THIS YEAR--I CONVINCED HER TO GO HOME FOR CHRISTMAS & SHE DID IT! THIS MAKES ME HAPPY BECAUSE LAST YEAR SHE ALMOST SINGLE-HANDEDLY RUINED MY DAY LAST YEAR--BUT I LET HER! I LEARNED FROM LAST YEAR THAT I HAVE TO CREATE MY OWN HAPPINESS. SOMEONE LI...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just wanted to wish all my MIP friends a Happy Christmas and thank you all for being here when I needed you. Hope you will all still be here and willing to put up with me when I (inevitably) need you in 2010. Lots of love, Tish xx

pineapple · pineapple

My Christmas gift has been finding this forum yesterday. I am sure I'll be here often reading the posts and expressing my own questions and doubts (and maybe some triumphs). But for the first time in many months I feel hopeful and that indeed is a gift. Thank you so much.

Holly09 · Holly09

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL! Thank you to all the MIP family here that makes my sometimes unbearable life better! Have a safe holiday. Holly

belle1 · belle1

From Our House To Yours A Very Peaceful Christmas To Everyone

CJ · CJ

When I remember that each person is doing the "best" they can, I am able to forgive them and stay light and usually happy/fun. I also believe that if I'm worth being forgiven, so is everyone else I come into contact with, including toxic family members. If I'm finding behaviors hard to deal...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I just wanted to Thank those who took the time to read and respond to my post. As you can tell my life has been anything but "level" as of late and it seems that as soon as I try to pull myself up, something else is thrown back at me, but again I try to get up. Today started out with ripping loose some...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Thank you and Happy New Year (Preview) As the turn of the year approaches I want to give thanks to all of you who have supported and inspired me on my healing journey. Everyone who posts here has my love and gratitude, oldies and newbies, I cant do it without you. I hit rock bottom this time last year. As the bells chimed out at midnight bringin...	Ness	7	908	Jan 1, 2010 by hotrod
	Finally Laid To Rest (Preview) My Friend Laura Was Finally Laid To Rest This Morning God Grant Her To Eternal Life And May She And All The Faithfully Departed Rest In Peace. Its Been A Long Road For Us All Esp her poor dad and sons This Is The 4th Child Her Dad Has Had To Bury(her 2 brothers older and a younger sis all had an illness) Please...	belle1	5	971	Jan 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	Hi! New guy here! (Preview) Hello Al Anon family! I just found this website, and hope to gain a lot, and maybe help some too... As an intro, here's my story... Five years ago today I was independent, strong, and single. I was on a remote Pacific island studying butterflies; when the big tsunami hit the Pacific I had no idea, since w...	CJ recovery	5	926	Jan 1, 2010 by pineapple
	HAPPY NEW YEAR MIP FAMILY !!! (Preview) 2010 is upon us. With each new year it gives us a chance to start over. But, it only comes once a year. I make and break a lot of New Year's resolutions each year as I am sure some of you do also. With that in mind, I was thinking what a great program Al-Anon really is because the program allows us to start over e...	RLC	3	930	Dec 31, 2009 by Jerry F
	Day jaw voo all over again....LOL (Preview) So a part of my family have all been wearing body explosives and setting themselves off at very weird times while trying to find a time when they can do a coordinated blast. When did I think the tape of my past was totally destroyed and would not earn re-run status? Of course one part of the family runs t...	Jerry F	6	1064	Dec 31, 2009 by Jerry F
	The Disease Only Lays Dormant, It Never Dies !! (Preview) On Dec. 24th my AW became active again. She had been sober for over 8 months. I don't know why the holidays and in particular Christmas seems to bring that miserable beast out of hiding. I feel like the disease is laughing saying, I'm back, I won, I'm in control again. Truth be known, that is the case with m...	RLC	9	1303	Dec 31, 2009 by blender_girl
	God I hope this helps - finally got a sponsor (Preview) I haven't been posting much the past few weeks. My alcoholic boyfriend had left me to binge with another woman at her place. He called me in a horrible place to pick him up and I did, brought him home to detox - he stayed with me - said he wanted to be with me again, until he painfully left 2 weeks later and now i...	jasobel	3	868	Dec 31, 2009 by abbyal
	Let the Anxiety Begin (again) (Preview) For the past week or so my anxiety has been in over-drive. At first I thought perhaps it was hormones because I was off my BC pill. But I'm back on now and still have the anxiety. In 2 weeks, my husband is supposed to be going into jail for 45 days for a DUI and I'm pretty sure that's the source of my anxiety. ...	N8SMOM	6	1012	Dec 31, 2009 by Mattie
	Once the kid watching, now the adult denying first time (Preview) So here I am 27 years old. I watched my mom marry and divorce my recovering-alcoholic step dad, who relapsed in 1999 and never made it back to the place of recovery. I now watch that same stepdad play mind games with my brother. I have always sat back and watched it waiting for someone to ask me how it all...	wgredgray	9	1119	Dec 30, 2009 by hotrod
	2010 (Preview) I am going to really work at this new year to be the best that I can make it. It is going to be a year of taking care of myself, finding my own happiness within and diving more into Alanon then I ever have. I am going to do whatever I have to do to stay out of the drama of my A son and just have hope without any expecta...	Gailey	3	770	Dec 30, 2009 by DreamsOver
	Anonymity? (Preview) I have noticed that many people are beginning to post real pictures of themselves and their children here, which show up when they post. To each his own I know, but I am wondering, aren't they afraid that their alcoholic or drug addict may figure out they are on here and easily find their posts? I know t...	MaryPoppins	4	816	Dec 30, 2009 by MaryPoppins
	I'm back and while so much as changed so much still the same. (Preview) It has been quite a while since I wrote last. The holidays seem to be really hard on me. It brings out my loneliness as, yes, I am still alone. Well, I say that but my little boy is 5 now and the joy of my life. My sister and her family still live with me as well. The A in my life is still around. We have conta...	Codependent	3	959	Dec 30, 2009 by jasobel
	The power of a post (Preview) One fact must be kept in mind, namely, the need to distinguish between submission and surrender . In submission, an individual accepts reality consciously, but not unconsciously. He or she accepts as a practical fact that he or she cannot at that moment lick reality, but lurking in the unconscious i...	fishinmama	5	994	Dec 30, 2009 by fishinmama
	Karilyn (Preview) I haven't seen you post in a while and know that this time of the year is a very busy one for you. I hope you and Pipers Kitty had a peaceful holiday and I'm praying 2010 will be a peaceful loving, profitable year for you. Your program has been a great inspiration and guide for me in difficult times. Maresi...	maresie	3	727	Dec 30, 2009 by Andrea12
	glad to see so many posting at Christmas! (Preview) Just glad to be here on Christmas day. I spent an hour here answering posts and seeing who is posting on this joyous day. I love seeing other alanon's coping with and celebrating holidays! I am doing the same. Peace! Carol	Carol_Lynn	2	751	Dec 30, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	January Business Meeting Agenda (Preview) Business meeting Sunday, January 3, 2010 9 p.m. Eastern (6 p.m. Pacific) Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please pm me if you have any additional items Thank you. Courage	Courage	0	586	Dec 30, 2009 by Courage
	Mindgames UGH! (Preview) Hi all, I am so sick of mindgames. My "A" and I are seperated. Divorce is set to be final 03/02/10. He left the state last Sunday because he was mad at me. He sent me a text saying he never wanted to hear from me again and that he was sure he would never see his kids again. I didn't reply since he said h...	Mandy123	5	906	Dec 29, 2009 by maresie
	12.06.09 MIP Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) 12.06.09 Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes: The Chair opened the meeting with "The Serenity Prayer" First Item:Approval of November's Minutes -Vote was held and the Minutes were approved as posted on Message Board.- - Next Item:Rundown of the Agenda Topics - Review of Nove...	tea2	0	838	Dec 29, 2009 by tea2
	History repeats itself (Preview) Saturday I went to a BBQ with some "friends" and with my AH. I was having a terrible time cause I was still upset about the fact he didn't spent X-Mas with us, but with his friends getting drunk. I made the HORRIBLE mistake to confide in a "friend" that I was very tired of the situatio...	Priscilla83	5	981	Dec 29, 2009 by maresie
	He's drunk right now, I think (Preview) I think he's drunk. But the sick part is that I can't even confirm it. I think I smell it, his behavior is not normal, and he's doing things that he would normally do if he had been drinking (smoking too much, using the bathroom a lot, "falling asleep" while playing a computer game). As al a...	Ragdolls	5	1171	Dec 29, 2009 by maresie
	Step One step meeting...........Need some insight (Preview) Our f2f group decided that the first Friday meeting of everymonth we would now devote to a Step Meeting. A step a month for 2010. We all loveeee the idea....This was decided AFTER I had already signed up to lead that night as it will be my one year anniversary. I did my first round through the steps with a...	shellyj123	6	1083	Dec 29, 2009 by shellyj123
	Today's Birthday - Tea2 (Preview) Happy Birthday (((Tea))) I think this is a milestone birthday, so I hope your day is going to be a special one with decadent wishes and joy, Maria	Maria123	7	823	Dec 29, 2009 by tea2
	So Upset (Preview) Its me the new gal who posted just the other day about my daughter who is abusive to me and who is off with her 6 year old daughter for 4 days in the mountians with others. I was worried about the drinking etc and how she cared for my gd, etc. Tonight I got a call and my gd was crying in the background. My daughter...	Samsgram	9	1276	Dec 29, 2009 by Samsgram
	Seeking to let go of ego (Preview) Well, the A went to his dad and his dad turned down the rehab- stating he needed to get over his addiction on his own- go figure. So the A calls me in the middle of the night telling me he fears he will die without rehab soon. So today I call the rehab and have his mom call the rehab. I spoke with his mom tonigh...	Codependent	3	1320	Dec 29, 2009 by Jen
	son out drinking - DIL blaming me (Preview) Hello All, just need to vent a little. I've been going to al-anon for a couple of months now and am trying to "let go and let god" , trying to work the program but my daughter in law keeps trying to get me to force my son, (they've been separated for a year) the A, to stop drinking. She thinks th...	cindyb21	13	1149	Dec 29, 2009 by wp
	I told my husband I am leaving him... (Long) (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the forums and I'm not sure how to deal with an alcoholic spouse. I've been with him for 12 years now and in April will (would have been?) our 10th wedding anniversary, we have 2 children together aged 8 and 2...my 8 year old has Asperger's Syndrome (for those that don't know, it's...	jennyre	7	1428	Dec 28, 2009 by jennyre
	Cannot find local meetings (Preview) Hello, My husband is coming home from rehab on Tuesday (1st time) and I have been told to go to al-anon meetings. I cannot find any that are less than 100 miles away. Can I use this site instead? Tricia	tricia	7	1447	Dec 28, 2009 by tricia
	being realistic (Preview) It's hard to believe I just found this site last week (when AH was in 2nd day of his last binge). I've been coming here every day and even made it to two online meetings. There is so much to learn but I think I'm beginning to understand how al anon works to help people help themselves. That said, my A has been s...	pineapple	6	916	Dec 28, 2009 by Debilyn
	ups and downs of holiday eve (Preview) hi, it's Carol again. It is Xmas Eve. I have expectations toward myself and others today and I am trying to drop them. My a wants special diet cookies and I don' tfeel like baking right now. My sponsor and i had gone shopping and bought regular cookies, but did not expect a to want diet ones so badly. also, I...	Carol_Lynn	5	1048	Dec 28, 2009 by maresie
	I am new and totally confused (Preview) I have been married to an alcoholic for 14 years. In the beginning we were so in love I thought. We did things together,go to Disney, he showed me the ocean for the first time.Yes we partied together too. The years went by don't even know how many. One night at one of our drinking hang outs. I got sick and wen...	lost5909	8	1121	Dec 28, 2009 by maresie
	Leaving the A (Preview) I was just sitting here thinking about what if my AH supported me, had his name on the house, cars etc. As I sit here, middle aged, feeling the pain of getting older, what would make me stay. Besides being disabled, I broke my rib again. Same one, just leaned over a fence. Anyway if he even brought in the gro...	Debilyn	11	1240	Dec 28, 2009 by Debilyn
	The week from hell (long) (Preview) So I have had probably the worst week of my life over this past week. It all started the weekend before last when oldest daughter told ex AH you're not my dad I don't have to f'ing listen to you and refused to do anything he said. He tried to take the phone from her and she threw it against the wall and broke i...	carolinagirl	11	661	Dec 28, 2009 by sharonk868
	A little fear (Preview) I've found myself in a little fear these last 2 days about the next few months. My husband told me yesterday that his work schedule is changing next week. Instead of working from 8 - 3 monday through friday, he'll be working from 12 - 5 two days a week and 8 - 3 the other days. So he'll be home alone 2 mornin...	White Rabbit	4	838	Dec 27, 2009 by White Rabbit
	Heading into 2010...........a bit of a ramble:) (Preview) Made it through the holiday and out the other side, almost without any family drama, but that wasn't meant to be. The drama that occured will take some time to heal from as there were many hurt feelings, mostly my son's-which in turn meant mine-there is nothing harder that watching your child hurt and...	shellyj123	2	982	Dec 27, 2009 by Jen
	Just Like When He Was Little....... (Preview) (((((Hello everyone))))) I bought my AS (age 29) a $200.00 gift card so that he could buy him some much needed new clothes. I bought the cards because I knew the store had a policy of not giving cash back for returned items. He came by to see me this morning and I ask him what did he buy with his gift card, he p...	DreamsOver	5	1153	Dec 27, 2009 by hotrod
	It is soooo still and peaceful now.... (Preview) just like I've slipped into another world. No atmospheric noise...no traffic...no family noise...no dog noise. It is spiritually quiet at the moment just as if everyone in my world is sitting down quiet, relax and still and just being peaceful and happy. I am getting just what I want for the fir...	Jerry F	4	1160	Dec 27, 2009 by Jen
	Really Glad To be Here (Preview) I posted here yesterday as a newbie and I find its really holding me together today. My daughter & grandaughter is off for 4 days w/ boyfriend and his kids and others in the mountains. I know there will be drinking going on and I find myself worried about my grandaughter and how her mother and if her m...	Samsgram	2	959	Dec 27, 2009 by Jen
	Family of Origin Issues (Preview) What would the holidays be without family of origin issues, right? ;) To make a very long story short (or try to, at least), my ex-husband is an active alcoholic. He and I have an 8 year old son. My ex is on probation for DUI and working a minimum wage job. He keeps getting evicted from places and not bei...	White Rabbit	4	1370	Dec 26, 2009 by White Rabbit
	one day at a time. (Preview) Last year I spent days feverishly cooking and cleaning and organizing and of course shopping. Needless to say none of the people who I cooked for (all alcoholics, addicts or people mired in the alcoholics lifes) helped to clean up. They ate and then went back to their TV, drinking, arguging, scapeg...	maresie	4	705	Dec 26, 2009 by maire rua
	Holiday/ birthday (Preview) hi everyone, hope you all had a lovely christmas and hope you all have a happy and peacful new years in 2010. I have not posted for week or so I am in Benidorm in spain on a family holiday. I went away with my parents and kids as my ABF lost his job after last slip and all the promises of a holiday together cou...	Tracy	3	873	Dec 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	I`am New (Preview) I`am sorry but I`am in a bad place... I have a daughter who has been a drug addict most of her life. When she had her lttle girl I believed she had stopped. When the child was 2 my daughter became mean and nasty and rageful. The childs father went to prison and my daughter took off and got married to another pi...	Samsgram	7	821	Dec 26, 2009 by Debilyn
	My Christmas grateful, grateful, grateful (Preview) I had posted long ago about my alanon books being in a box in the closet. However when I went to dig them out they were an AA big book and AA Daily relections. At the time I thought what a bummer. Last posting I noted my daughter was in jail. She wrecked her car and reported it stolen, there was also marajua...	fishinmama	3	924	Dec 26, 2009 by maresie
	New: Xmas Eve & son arrested last night =( (Preview) I just spent 90 mins this morning, trying to find help/information..anything. My son uses alcohol, but he's more of a substance abuser...so I still don't know if I found the right place. Last night was arrested for shoplifting and possession. He's 23. I thought he was doing OK lately! I'm sur...	CapriMom65	6	803	Dec 26, 2009 by maresie
	He's 39 and going strong (Preview) and as I was giving my youngest son his birthday hug and looking over his great wife and two lovely daughters I felt old and the lost for not being close to him for 18 years. I don't do remorse well so that is about all of it there. He came over for his brithday gift and some birthday cupcakes and to "...	Jerry F	9	987	Dec 26, 2009 by Maria123
	Grateful for a small but peaceful christmas (Preview) Hi MIP family, Only a few months ago I did not know how I would survive without my ABF and today i realized not only have I survived, I have thrived. Spent a wonderful Christmas Eve with my kids and a coworkers family. Last minute they invited us over and we had such an amazing time. This morning my kids an...	inhisarms	4	1034	Dec 26, 2009 by Maria123
	New here my story (Preview) I have been reading over this forum for a few weeks now. I have debated whether or not to sign up. I know that I need help I need people who understand what I am going through. I am married 30 yr old mother to two sets of twin girls. They are my life and my entire world. Their father is an alcoholic, he has b...	momoftwins24	3	1049	Dec 26, 2009 by Overcome
	Highs and Lows of the Holiday Merry Christmas (Preview) ((((((((Friends))))))), Merry Christmas to all of my wonderful MIP family, The highs are I am alive, It is 7 am and I am patiently awaiting for my g=daughter to get out of bed...I am so excited for her that I am about to go kiss her awake....lol she is 18 months old this year and OMG she is going to be smiles f...	Andrea12	2	818	Dec 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	Why do so many women stay? (Men, too?) (Preview) I've been posting now for about 5 months and one thing has really stood out to me - women really struggle with leaving the relationship. Why? Why do you feel you aren't worthy of something better? Why do continue to put up with the A behavior? What are you afraid of that keeps you in such horrible rela...	Hawk120025	37	2163	Dec 26, 2009 by neshema2
	a conversation with the devil (Preview) This is what last night talk with my AB truly felt like to me it was like the devil was staring right back into my eyes. We had talks before about his drinking he said hed try and do better so i stayed but this time omg! The hair stood up on the back of my neck and I'm still shaking. I asked for a sign from my HP wel...	mc3	6	973	Dec 26, 2009 by neshema2
	Update (Preview) I talked the the psychiatrist today and he said that they did the MMPI on her but haven't scored it yet. I also got a call from the therapist asking to change her from involuntary to voluntary commitment which I'm waiting for a call back from her to get more understanding as to what that would mean. The d...	carolinagirl	4	903	Dec 26, 2009 by neshema2
	scared (of good stuff!) (Preview) Carol, Alanon. I am entering a new friendship with a woman. We are already very close and I've only known her two weeks. My known pattern is to not have any boundaries and to not expect anyone to treat me with respect. this woman is very open with me. She is in recovery. We talk about stuff. But I am waitin...	Carol_Lynn	4	828	Dec 25, 2009 by inhisarms
	Merry Christmas to you all.... (Preview) and a sincere wish for all the world's good things to each of you in 2010!!! Diva	Diva	3	791	Dec 25, 2009 by inhisarms
	Feeling like my faith is being tested, and I'm not sure I'm strong enough to pass....ESH needed (Preview) I'm in a place right now that I can't seem to get out of. Feel like I am in a 10 foot hole and I keep pulling at the mud on the sides to try and get out and more just keeps tumbling in on me......soon I think I may be buried alive. The Dr's office called today with the pathology report from my surgery, and told me t...	shellyj123	8	2205	Dec 25, 2009 by masspedirn
	CHRISTMAS W/O MOM! (Preview) IT WILL BE A QUIET BUT NICE CHRISTMAS WITHOUT MY MOM THIS YEAR--I CONVINCED HER TO GO HOME FOR CHRISTMAS & SHE DID IT! THIS MAKES ME HAPPY BECAUSE LAST YEAR SHE ALMOST SINGLE-HANDEDLY RUINED MY DAY LAST YEAR--BUT I LET HER! I LEARNED FROM LAST YEAR THAT I HAVE TO CREATE MY OWN HAPPINESS. SOMEONE LI...	Hoot Nanny	3	948	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Happy Christmas! (Preview) Just wanted to wish all my MIP friends a Happy Christmas and thank you all for being here when I needed you. Hope you will all still be here and willing to put up with me when I (inevitably) need you in 2010. Lots of love, Tish xx	Tattyhead	3	652	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	My Christmas gift (Preview) My Christmas gift has been finding this forum yesterday. I am sure I'll be here often reading the posts and expressing my own questions and doubts (and maybe some triumphs). But for the first time in many months I feel hopeful and that indeed is a gift. Thank you so much.	pineapple	5	886	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Merry Christmas (Preview) MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL! Thank you to all the MIP family here that makes my sometimes unbearable life better! Have a safe holiday. Holly	Holly09	3	642	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Merry Christmas And Peace To All (Preview) From Our House To Yours A Very Peaceful Christmas To Everyone	belle1	3	712	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Holiday, Family and Forgiveness (Preview) When I remember that each person is doing the "best" they can, I am able to forgive them and stay light and usually happy/fun. I also believe that if I'm worth being forgiven, so is everyone else I come into contact with, including toxic family members. If I'm finding behaviors hard to deal...	CJ	4	1165	Dec 25, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	Many thanks to my MIP family for the ESH (Preview) I just wanted to Thank those who took the time to read and respond to my post. As you can tell my life has been anything but "level" as of late and it seems that as soon as I try to pull myself up, something else is thrown back at me, but again I try to get up. Today started out with ripping loose some...	shellyj123	2	810	Dec 25, 2009 by shellyj123
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