Can anyone here help me make prediction - Al-Anon Family Group

suzydawn · Member

Can anyone here help me make prediction

carolinagirl · ~*Service Worker*~

The past is an excellent predictor of the future. It is difficult to see your situation when you are emotionally tied to someone and your emotions get brought into it and much easier to see as an outside observer. I would say that detaching and taking a look at the situation once emotions have died down is the best way to find clarity. I have had a lot of transormation in my life over the past few weeks and a lot of things have been revealed to me. It's a matter of slowing down and taking a big step back to see the picture from outside yourself. What would you tell the wife of one of your addicted clients?

Priscilla83 · Senior Member

Hi Suzy!!

Who knows what's gonna happen in the future? Take it One Day at a Time. If someone told you here, Yes he's gonna get another DUI for Sure, would that change anything? Would that give you any peace of mind really?
All I can say is that if he keeps driving while intoxicated, most likely he''s have to face serious consequuences. And when that happens He's gonna have to deal with them, not you.
Take care of yourself. And please please please don't drive with him when he's drunk.

Hoot Nanny · ~*Service Worker*~

SUZY:
I AM GLAD YOU ARE BACK POSTING AFTER 3 YEARS. I MUST'VE STARTED AFTER YOU STOPPED.
ANYWAY, I DON'T HAVE A LOT OF ESH FOR YOU BUT I DO KNOW THAT YOU CAN'T PREDICT THE FUTURE BUT YOU CAN HOPE FOR THE BEST & PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!
THAT'S IT!
IN ALANON LOVE & SUPPORT,
KATHLEEN AKA HOOT

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

"Nothing changes, until something changes." This came into my mind.

Seems since I have been here reading for about nine years, dui's, the roller coaster, the Jekyll and Hyde have all been mentioned hundreds of times.

When the disease progresses seems all good sense goes away.

hugs,debilyn

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha SuzyDawn; All of my predictions have ifs, ands, buts in them not very good
huh? I can be wrong and have been my share of the time soooo I don't give
advise and I don't predict anymore. If you keep doing the same thing over
and over again you'll keep getting the same results. When we use to read the
definition of alcoholism in early program it use to include that the alcoholic had
three choices Sobriety, Insanity or death. Part of the insanity for me was
watching my alcoholic drink and drink more even after it was coming closer to
claiming her life. She did get sober for a while back and then I surrendered it
all and started rebuilding my own life. This program works "if" you work it.

Keep coming back (((((hugs))))) smile

suzydawn · Member

Thank you everyone for replying to my question and sharing what you know. I have not actually been involved with Al-Anon meetings before can someone tell me if the meetings are of value even if you don't claim a higher power? I want to ask this questions from those of you actually attending meetings not from one of my therapist co-workers. Thanks!

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Dawn)))
The simple answer to your question is yes. We have a member of my group that had the same concern as you when she came to her first meeting. There are no requirements for membership, only that you are affected by someone elses drinking. The lady I referred to after attending meetings for over a year now calls the group itself her higher power. A higher power is a power greater than yourself. By attending Al-Anon meetings you are surrounded by people who care about you and can relate to what you are going through. They understand as perhaps no one else can. Your friends and co-workers care a lot about you, and in most cases will tell you exactly what you should do.They think they have your best interest in mind, and usually express what they would do under the same circumstances, but most of them have never lived with the disease or walked in your shoes. In Al-Anon no one will tell you what you should do or give you advice, only give you their experience, strength, and hope, how they have dealt with simular situations in their lives. No one but you knows what you are going through, and you are the only one who can decide what is best for you.

Please consider going to at least 6 Al-Anon meetings, if you don't think the program is right for you, we will gladly refund your "Misery". LOL

HUGS,
RLC

-- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 16th of December 2009 06:22:29 PM

suzydawn · Member

Thanks RLC :) I'll look into a local meeting.

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