Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

okwitt · okwitt

I need lot's of advice. I've been enabling my son for years. I thought I was protecting him. Do I keep this up and let him die? Do I stop and let him die? He has had two DWI's. One was given because of an auto accident that resulted in injuries. He had his hand remade which does not work well and needs more...

coffeegrounds · coffeegrounds

Hello all! I am so glad I found this site, I have been going crazy for the past week. My AH will be coming home from rehab soon and I am so afraid. I know I need to find a group in my home town but I thought I would jump on here while I find one. I went to family week at the rehab and spent a lot of time asking questi...

punkydoodah · punkydoodah

...I feel I'm being dishonest to people. Inside, I'm grieving, fearful, etc. People think I'm so "happy", but putting up a good front is getting exhausting. Is it okay to detach from the world as well as the AH? I am around many people every day. Thanks for listening.

Simba · Simba

I feel like Im running as fast as I can on a treadmill financially and emotionally because of the A one miss step and my house of cards will collapse. This is craziness; 10 years ago I had a great job and a fat bank account. When does it stop? When do I get to rest?

RLC · RLC

Three Men friends from an Al-Anon group decided to spend a Saturday hiking and enjoying nature. By mid afternoon they were tired, frustrated, and even though they all knew it.... none of the three would admit to being lost. They continued to walk until they stumbled across a raging river. They re...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I like to watch movies or tv to wind down at night. I'm pretty busy during the weekdays and by the time I get home, eat dinner, put the kids to bed... I'm ready to unwind... have a hard time reading, so I was thinking instead of surfing my tv guide trying to find something I like, I'd rent some alanon/12 step...

Simba · Simba

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions.Just ponder on them. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point. 1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world. 2. Name the last fiv...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Dear MIP family and friends - I am very sorry for not being available to chair the past 2 Friday morning meetings and for not making prior arrangements to ensure that the meeting was covered. For last week, I have no excuse other than just poor planning on my part. I was attending camp with my son that w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

TO ALL OF THOSE WHO SAID TAKE A BATH:I cant do that even! crazy! I have 2 showers & only one bathtub & the bathtub is cracked & out of commision. We just got the one shower fixed but not the bathtub! As far as candles go: I will definitely use them if I have to just in a dark room! My life is so crazy t...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

This will be my first time to tell my story and I have no clue where to start. Do I start off with the day I was born, events that shaped the woman I am today OR Start with when I was first introduced to the disease and the outcome of how I handled those situations and the emotions that were left behind?

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family)))), Good morning! The 3rd annual: BLAME IT ON KARILYNN DAY is here. Only this year I have decided to turn it into a weekend. This has become an annual tradition. I have upped the anty this time and turned into a weekend. For all of the newbies who think I have lost my mind... well I have. ...

Jozie · Jozie

Fun how people react to things so much differantly, My Husband & I have been plannin a trip to go see a lady I Met on the net about 4 yrs ago I guess... I have never "Spoken" a word to this women, but we email/FB/Myspace that kinda stuff all the time.. Send Cards on Holidays & Birthdays...

Katy · Katy

Well I have to watch I don't get too passive with all that I read, and that I take what I like and leave the rest, if I belive I am an A magnet I will possibly resemble that remark, however, at times I am guilty of picking only the bits I like and applying them to me, because I haven't yet learned to open my mind fu...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Actually all I really need is love & understanding: is that too much to ask PMS! To those who haven't been with us long; there is hope! We are all in this together! I am hoping that someone who isn't so selfish will come my way actually! It seems like everyone is focusing on THEM sometimes & don't s...

never going back · never going back

After 2 weeks of procrastinating, I finally made it to my first F2F meeting last night. It was okay, the people were pretty nice, but I'm just not sure this is going to be for me. They meet once a week and suggest that you try to make at least 6 meetings before you decide for or against continuing, so that's w...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Something has been bothering me for a long time and I am hoping that if I put this "out there" maybe I can get over it. Been married to AH for many years and had tons of "friends", our house was always full of people. I seldom ever shared a drink with any of them, but truly enjoyed their...

Simba · Simba

Can anyone help me find an AL-ANON meeting in Sarajevo? I have spent hours searching the web with no luck.... I did find an AA meeting here and asked a member about AL-ANON but no luck. I don't know If I could handle being in an AA meeting right now. I am stressed enough with one AH.

Bettina · Bettina

Friends, A week ago, I think I told you the XAH almost bled to death he had a bleeding ulcer and he ruptured his esophagus . He had 7 blood transfusions. Took two days to get him stable where he wasnt loosing blood. Well, he is being released tomorrow as good as new. Dr. told him he cannot have one more drink...

miss_carol · miss_carol

We are behind on everything and my A has now decided I should be the one talking to them. I really just want to tell them this: I am not working, my husband is not reliable and I don't know when or if you will ever get your money. Thank you and have a nice day. (or come and get the truck). We just moved but it is mo...

abbyal · abbyal

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xter · xter

i'm thinking of going to a CODA meeting tonight. i'm in a new-ish relationship with a man who doesn't need fixing (well, there are plenty of things i can find to fix if i start thinking that way) who doesn't need caretaking (except that i want to take care of his every imagined need and help him overcome s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope this finds everyone well & with some sense of serenity! I am struggling still but it seems to be a little better! I will make it brief: living ODAT & going to some meetings! Got some issues but they seem to always work out somehow! Sometimes even the worse problems I have aren't as bad as I ma...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

So I'm finally learning to let go of the AH..........I love him enough to let him go, because my life has been unmanagable for the past 5 years..... I know I cannot be in control, but I know that I do want a managable, PRODUCTIVE life...I want to be healthy in mind for my children,....I know I'm not perfect...

never going back · never going back

My AH and I finally talked a bit last night after a week of being civil but distant (mostly on my part). He says he has quit drinking again. ( I just found out Monday that he had been drinking again for about 4 months after a year and a half of sobriety. this following successful surgery for prostate cancer...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I'm looking forward to leaving my supposedly sober *special AH*........only not too much...... this is the millionth time my heart hurts to leave...... He's more than an addict.....I'm beleiving strongly got an antisocial type personality disorder because even though they might be sober, they...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I don't know why it takes so much courage to help myself sometimes. I am so glad I went. They were all so wonderful. It felt good to know I am not crazy and I am not alone. I always hope for quick answers and easy fixes. I don't think this is one of those times. Thanks, this site helped me get the courage to go t...

never going back · never going back

Just wanted to share a good experience, because since I've been on here, all I've related are the bad. Actually, since I've been on here, that's all I've HAD to relate! I just found out a week ago tha my AH of 30 years was drinking again after a year and a half of AA and sobriety (after a lifetime of being an al...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

And I am feeling it not only mentally, but now very physically. I can't eat without stomach pains, my mouth is so dry I have to keep gum so that my mouth will not blister. I feel like I could throw up any minute. I want my life back, I can remember when I loved getting up in the morning, I kissed my children an...

RJMorgan · RJMorgan

I've been reduced to a ball of tears within the last few hours and can't seem to stop crying. The hurt of abandonment is so great and powerful it's so overcoming. My A went off to treatment about an hour away and after about 30 days we discussed it would be more beneficial if we moved to that area and to get a...

Karilynn · Karilynn

It's our Rita's birthday today! WOOHOO! So let's send out as many pink birthday wishes to her. HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET RITA! Hope it is extra pink and special just like you. Remember calories don't count on your birthday week. So go ahead, have your and eat it too! Pipers is out looking for a pink mous...

jewel91 · jewel91

I feel sick, anxious, and depressed. I don't know why everytime we get into an arguement I feel this way. Is it because I know that the first thing he'll do is try to get a drink? Hopefully he doesn't still have any change left over after running to the store for me yesterday... but then again he probably we...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

I am really confused with the volume of meetings. Are they different kinds of meetings or simply chaired by different people? Can anybody point me towards one until I have navigated around this site for a while? Thanks in advance for your help.

belle1 · belle1

wp =sweet lady celebrates a birthday this week xxxx

Daisychain · Daisychain

I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...

moonunit · moonunit

This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...

kitty · kitty

So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...

maresie · maresie

This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...

smartkat · smartkat

I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...

never going back · never going back

It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...

CatherineR · CatherineR

I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...

chauri · chauri

Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...

malady · malady

What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...

shimo · shimo

I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Happy Fathers Day to all of you wonderful father's out there. May you day be filled with joy, love and happiness....Have a wonderful day you deserve it. With Love, Andrea

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish all you Dads a very Happy Father's Day. I hope it is happy, joyous and perfect in every way for you. On this day I think of both my Dad & my beloved Tim whom I lost on the same day 10 years apart. I know they are looking down on me, along with my grandd...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

samantha and kendra birthday number 2

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is still rough, but I am pulling through the no sleep, crying period! I really do need to remember to be grateful & not so damn pissed off! I just need a break & it seems like every time I do, another issue disturbs my sleep. I was really pissed off this morning! Now that I am sitting here @ this...

kerling · kerling

Hi, all. I am not quite new in online AA groups, I joined first many years ago, but since the U.S.A. can be so different to where I used to live, I somehow didn't feel comfortable. Anyway, I am an alcoholic, free from Baccus for 8 years now (before, in 1991 I had 3-4 years sober). I have been living with an alc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So much is going on & I feel somewhat overwhelmed! My mind has been somewhat absent & my emotions are on my sleeve lately! I need a long bath & a break! Unfortunately, I have no bath tub to sit in--cracks on the tub... what can I do? accept the things I cannot change. so, I go for a walk, get on t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having a really bad day today! Since the beginning of this week I have had a bunch of reasons to cry & I do mean cry! I am losing my serenity & don't know what to do! So much is going on that I feel trapped in my head & can't get out! This week has been pretty difficult because the plumber calle...

Gailey · Gailey

My son's ex-wife has decided to let my A son pick his daughters up today and bring them to my house. I am feeling a little angst about this but am trying to turn it over. She has a boundary in place which is a good thing. The only way he is allowed to take them in the car is if she is the one who sees him when he pick...

mavis · mavis

This board is so full of perspective and kindness, maybe you can help. My husband who had been sober on and off for five years, is drinking again. For months, he had been "hiding" his drinking which is pretty pitiful since he was falling down drunk on several occassions. But I didn't real...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have just been to see my councillor this morning. She gave me a book that she might think will help me to read in this week. It's called "Codependency No More" by Melody Beattie. I have already started absorbing the book at it seems to describe me and how I feel like I have never seen before....

arizona · arizona

My mom is in AA and is something like 4 months sober, and honestly, this is the first step I've taken to trying to understand everything. Right now, my mom and I aren't speaking. But here's some history - sorry if it's long, I'll try to only hit the important points. Growing up, she would be what I would pro...

TampaGirl · TampaGirl

Okay. So, I joined last week. So glad I did. Also went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. My A was released from rehab on Friday, June 11. I picked him up from the airport on Saturday, June 12. He was drunk. We spent Sunday together. I told him people make mistakes, and he said he was going to make his 90 in 90...

Ness · Ness

My son is still waiting on bedspace becoming available in the detox unit. Yes, due to cutbacks, there are only so many beds in one unit to cover a radius of around 200 miles where alcoholism is probably the major disease. Anyway I am powerless over that, he is top of the list and hopefully next week.All is...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Enabler to my 39 year old son (Preview) I need lot's of advice. I've been enabling my son for years. I thought I was protecting him. Do I keep this up and let him die? Do I stop and let him die? He has had two DWI's. One was given because of an auto accident that resulted in injuries. He had his hand remade which does not work well and needs more...	okwitt	21	1344	Jun 27, 2010 by okwitt
	Brand spanking new! (Preview) Hello all! I am so glad I found this site, I have been going crazy for the past week. My AH will be coming home from rehab soon and I am so afraid. I know I need to find a group in my home town but I thought I would jump on here while I find one. I went to family week at the rehab and spent a lot of time asking questi...	coffeegrounds	5	833	Jun 27, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Bright and perky makes most people feel good, yet... (Preview) ...I feel I'm being dishonest to people. Inside, I'm grieving, fearful, etc. People think I'm so "happy", but putting up a good front is getting exhausting. Is it okay to detach from the world as well as the AH? I am around many people every day. Thanks for listening.	punkydoodah	5	958	Jun 27, 2010 by Jennifer
	Running as fast as I can... (Preview) I feel like Im running as fast as I can on a treadmill financially and emotionally because of the A one miss step and my house of cards will collapse. This is craziness; 10 years ago I had a great job and a fat bank account. When does it stop? When do I get to rest?	Simba	8	1137	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Humor and Credit Where Credit Is Due. (Preview) Three Men friends from an Al-Anon group decided to spend a Saturday hiking and enjoying nature. By mid afternoon they were tired, frustrated, and even though they all knew it.... none of the three would admit to being lost. They continued to walk until they stumbled across a raging river. They re...	RLC	13	1186	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	movies? (Preview) I like to watch movies or tv to wind down at night. I'm pretty busy during the weekdays and by the time I get home, eat dinner, put the kids to bed... I'm ready to unwind... have a hard time reading, so I was thinking instead of surfing my tv guide trying to find something I like, I'd rent some alanon/12 step...	angelchar375	6	4623	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	BEEEE Yourself (Preview) The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions.Just ponder on them. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point. 1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world. 2. Name the last fiv...	Simba	3	749	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Apologies for being MIA at the past 2 Friday morning meetings (Preview) Dear MIP family and friends - I am very sorry for not being available to chair the past 2 Friday morning meetings and for not making prior arrangements to ensure that the meeting was covered. For last week, I have no excuse other than just poor planning on my part. I was attending camp with my son that w...	blender_girl	3	593	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	can you believe it? (Preview) TO ALL OF THOSE WHO SAID TAKE A BATH:I cant do that even! crazy! I have 2 showers & only one bathtub & the bathtub is cracked & out of commision. We just got the one shower fixed but not the bathtub! As far as candles go: I will definitely use them if I have to just in a dark room! My life is so crazy t...	Hoot Nanny	7	925	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	I've been asked to speak at a meeting next week (Preview) This will be my first time to tell my story and I have no clue where to start. Do I start off with the day I was born, events that shaped the woman I am today OR Start with when I was first introduced to the disease and the outcome of how I handled those situations and the emotions that were left behind?	Mobirdie	8	1224	Jun 27, 2010 by Mobirdie
	Blame it on Karilynn weekend is here! (Preview) (((Family)))), Good morning! The 3rd annual: BLAME IT ON KARILYNN DAY is here. Only this year I have decided to turn it into a weekend. This has become an annual tradition. I have upped the anty this time and turned into a weekend. For all of the newbies who think I have lost my mind... well I have. ...	Karilynn	14	873	Jun 27, 2010 by Karilynn
	His Anixity is Chokin me!!! (Preview) Fun how people react to things so much differantly, My Husband & I have been plannin a trip to go see a lady I Met on the net about 4 yrs ago I guess... I have never "Spoken" a word to this women, but we email/FB/Myspace that kinda stuff all the time.. Send Cards on Holidays & Birthdays...	Jozie	8	878	Jun 26, 2010 by Mynameismom
	To be an A magnet or not to be! (Preview) Well I have to watch I don't get too passive with all that I read, and that I take what I like and leave the rest, if I belive I am an A magnet I will possibly resemble that remark, however, at times I am guilty of picking only the bits I like and applying them to me, because I haven't yet learned to open my mind fu...	Katy	1	681	Jun 26, 2010 by Jerry F
	All you need is love... (Preview) Actually all I really need is love & understanding: is that too much to ask PMS! To those who haven't been with us long; there is hope! We are all in this together! I am hoping that someone who isn't so selfish will come my way actually! It seems like everyone is focusing on THEM sometimes & don't s...	Hoot Nanny	5	714	Jun 26, 2010 by Tattyhead
	My first F2F (Preview) After 2 weeks of procrastinating, I finally made it to my first F2F meeting last night. It was okay, the people were pretty nice, but I'm just not sure this is going to be for me. They meet once a week and suggest that you try to make at least 6 meetings before you decide for or against continuing, so that's w...	never going back	13	936	Jun 26, 2010 by canadianguy
	friends???? (Preview) Something has been bothering me for a long time and I am hoping that if I put this "out there" maybe I can get over it. Been married to AH for many years and had tons of "friends", our house was always full of people. I seldom ever shared a drink with any of them, but truly enjoyed their...	Sweet Stanley	12	991	Jun 26, 2010 by canadianguy
	Al-ANON in Sarajevo, Bosnia? (Preview) Can anyone help me find an AL-ANON meeting in Sarajevo? I have spent hours searching the web with no luck.... I did find an AA meeting here and asked a member about AL-ANON but no luck. I don't know If I could handle being in an AA meeting right now. I am stressed enough with one AH.	Simba	6	1607	Jun 26, 2010 by Andrea12
	The Universe is not done with the XAH (Preview) Friends, A week ago, I think I told you the XAH almost bled to death he had a bleeding ulcer and he ruptured his esophagus . He had 7 blood transfusions. Took two days to get him stable where he wasnt loosing blood. Well, he is being released tomorrow as good as new. Dr. told him he cannot have one more drink...	Bettina	10	878	Jun 26, 2010 by Ness
	What do I tell our creditors? (Preview) We are behind on everything and my A has now decided I should be the one talking to them. I really just want to tell them this: I am not working, my husband is not reliable and I don't know when or if you will ever get your money. Thank you and have a nice day. (or come and get the truck). We just moved but it is mo...	miss_carol	11	967	Jun 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	THIS IS JUST FOR ME = WELL MAYBE A FEW OTHERS TOO . (Preview) *------------------------------------------------------------*	abbyal	8	1199	Jun 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	CODA anyone? (Preview) i'm thinking of going to a CODA meeting tonight. i'm in a new-ish relationship with a man who doesn't need fixing (well, there are plenty of things i can find to fix if i start thinking that way) who doesn't need caretaking (except that i want to take care of his every imagined need and help him overcome s...	xter	4	1209	Jun 25, 2010 by kablisnow
	another day...it seems to be getting better! (Preview) I hope this finds everyone well & with some sense of serenity! I am struggling still but it seems to be a little better! I will make it brief: living ODAT & going to some meetings! Got some issues but they seem to always work out somehow! Sometimes even the worse problems I have aren't as bad as I ma...	Hoot Nanny	2	679	Jun 25, 2010 by never going back
	wow....no nagging today :) (Preview) So I'm finally learning to let go of the AH..........I love him enough to let him go, because my life has been unmanagable for the past 5 years..... I know I cannot be in control, but I know that I do want a managable, PRODUCTIVE life...I want to be healthy in mind for my children,....I know I'm not perfect...	RoseODAT	5	640	Jun 24, 2010 by White Rabbit
	He sure knows how to push my buttons (Preview) My AH and I finally talked a bit last night after a week of being civil but distant (mostly on my part). He says he has quit drinking again. ( I just found out Monday that he had been drinking again for about 4 months after a year and a half of sobriety. this following successful surgery for prostate cancer...	never going back	7	1469	Jun 24, 2010 by maresie
	need major STRENGTH to leave.....momentum please.... (Preview) I'm looking forward to leaving my supposedly sober special AH........only not too much...... this is the millionth time my heart hurts to leave...... He's more than an addict.....I'm beleiving strongly got an antisocial type personality disorder because even though they might be sober, they...	RoseODAT	12	1165	Jun 24, 2010 by Kiki52
	Went to my first alanon meeting today. (Preview) I don't know why it takes so much courage to help myself sometimes. I am so glad I went. They were all so wonderful. It felt good to know I am not crazy and I am not alone. I always hope for quick answers and easy fixes. I don't think this is one of those times. Thanks, this site helped me get the courage to go t...	miss_carol	6	933	Jun 24, 2010 by nmike
	MIP?? YES, they ARE!! (Preview) Just wanted to share a good experience, because since I've been on here, all I've related are the bad. Actually, since I've been on here, that's all I've HAD to relate! I just found out a week ago tha my AH of 30 years was drinking again after a year and a half of AA and sobriety (after a lifetime of being an al...	never going back	7	670	Jun 24, 2010 by kitty
	Tough Week.... (Preview) And I am feeling it not only mentally, but now very physically. I can't eat without stomach pains, my mouth is so dry I have to keep gum so that my mouth will not blister. I feel like I could throw up any minute. I want my life back, I can remember when I loved getting up in the morning, I kissed my children an...	DreamsOver	10	947	Jun 23, 2010 by GailMichelle
	Thrown a curve ball............... (Preview) I've been reduced to a ball of tears within the last few hours and can't seem to stop crying. The hurt of abandonment is so great and powerful it's so overcoming. My A went off to treatment about an hour away and after about 30 days we discussed it would be more beneficial if we moved to that area and to get a...	RJMorgan	5	861	Jun 23, 2010 by xeno59
	Pink Birrthday Wishes for our Rita (Preview) It's our Rita's birthday today! WOOHOO! So let's send out as many pink birthday wishes to her. HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET RITA! Hope it is extra pink and special just like you. Remember calories don't count on your birthday week. So go ahead, have your and eat it too! Pipers is out looking for a pink mous...	Karilynn	6	1184	Jun 23, 2010 by Rita G
	This is getting old (Preview) I feel sick, anxious, and depressed. I don't know why everytime we get into an arguement I feel this way. Is it because I know that the first thing he'll do is try to get a drink? Hopefully he doesn't still have any change left over after running to the store for me yesterday... but then again he probably we...	jewel91	5	879	Jun 23, 2010 by jewel91
	Meetings (Preview) I am really confused with the volume of meetings. Are they different kinds of meetings or simply chaired by different people? Can anybody point me towards one until I have navigated around this site for a while? Thanks in advance for your help.	Mynameismom	3	758	Jun 22, 2010 by lyndebi
	Happy Birthday Sweet Lady (Preview) wp =sweet lady celebrates a birthday this week xxxx	belle1	5	3957	Jun 22, 2010 by Karilynn
	Confused and despairing (Preview) I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...	Daisychain	9	955	Jun 22, 2010 by Daisychain
	My mother is an alcoholic. (Preview) This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...	moonunit	9	887	Jun 22, 2010 by cuteamy7
	Hello, My Name is Mom and my daughter is an alcoholic (Preview) I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...	Mynameismom	14	1625	Jun 21, 2010 by never going back
	words to live by (Preview) So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...	kitty	5	1682	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Update on me (Preview) Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...	White Rabbit	7	657	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	drunkeness (Preview) This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...	maresie	5	820	Jun 21, 2010 by hotrod
	I need help in dealing with ANGER anger verbal abuse neglect (Preview) I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...	smartkat	10	9452	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	your compassion has rocked my world (Preview) It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...	never going back	10	997	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	New Here (Preview) I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...	CatherineR	11	593	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	My fault ot is it? (Preview) Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...	chauri	6	861	Jun 21, 2010 by chauri
	The importance in "Keep coming back" (Preview) I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...	RoseODAT	4	1107	Jun 21, 2010 by barisax
	serenity and me (Preview) What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...	malady	3	1107	Jun 21, 2010 by Bettina
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	439	Jun 20, 2010 by shimo
	Happy Fathers Day (Preview) Happy Fathers Day to all of you wonderful father's out there. May you day be filled with joy, love and happiness....Have a wonderful day you deserve it. With Love, Andrea	Andrea12	3	799	Jun 20, 2010 by RLC
	Happy Father's Day! (Preview) ((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish all you Dads a very Happy Father's Day. I hope it is happy, joyous and perfect in every way for you. On this day I think of both my Dad & my beloved Tim whom I lost on the same day 10 years apart. I know they are looking down on me, along with my grandd...	Karilynn	2	668	Jun 20, 2010 by RLC
	My beautiful girls. (Preview) samantha and kendra birthday number 2	Andrea12	6	1285	Jun 20, 2010 by Andrea12
	time will tell... (Preview) It is still rough, but I am pulling through the no sleep, crying period! I really do need to remember to be grateful & not so damn pissed off! I just need a break & it seems like every time I do, another issue disturbs my sleep. I was really pissed off this morning! Now that I am sitting here @ this...	Hoot Nanny	2	771	Jun 19, 2010 by Bettina
	DSM psychopath or just plain alcoholic? (Preview) Hi, all. I am not quite new in online AA groups, I joined first many years ago, but since the U.S.A. can be so different to where I used to live, I somehow didn't feel comfortable. Anyway, I am an alcoholic, free from Baccus for 8 years now (before, in 1991 I had 3-4 years sober). I have been living with an alc...	kerling	14	4222	Jun 19, 2010 by shebear
	what do I do with all this anxiety...? (Preview) So much is going on & I feel somewhat overwhelmed! My mind has been somewhat absent & my emotions are on my sleeve lately! I need a long bath & a break! Unfortunately, I have no bath tub to sit in--cracks on the tub... what can I do? accept the things I cannot change. so, I go for a walk, get on t...	Hoot Nanny	3	667	Jun 19, 2010 by Mobirdie
	having a bad day--can't stop crying! (Preview) I am having a really bad day today! Since the beginning of this week I have had a bunch of reasons to cry & I do mean cry! I am losing my serenity & don't know what to do! So much is going on that I feel trapped in my head & can't get out! This week has been pretty difficult because the plumber calle...	Hoot Nanny	5	1085	Jun 19, 2010 by Karilynn
	turning it over (Preview) My son's ex-wife has decided to let my A son pick his daughters up today and bring them to my house. I am feeling a little angst about this but am trying to turn it over. She has a boundary in place which is a good thing. The only way he is allowed to take them in the car is if she is the one who sees him when he pick...	Gailey	3	807	Jun 19, 2010 by Karilynn
	Dry Drunk - Drinking again...need advice. (Preview) This board is so full of perspective and kindness, maybe you can help. My husband who had been sober on and off for five years, is drinking again. For months, he had been "hiding" his drinking which is pretty pitiful since he was falling down drunk on several occassions. But I didn't real...	mavis	5	1540	Jun 19, 2010 by JimmyX
	I'm feeling better than I have done for ages! (Preview) Hi I have just been to see my councillor this morning. She gave me a book that she might think will help me to read in this week. It's called "Codependency No More" by Melody Beattie. I have already started absorbing the book at it seems to describe me and how I feel like I have never seen before....	Cosmos	3	817	Jun 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	This is where I'm starting - can you help me understand? (Preview) My mom is in AA and is something like 4 months sober, and honestly, this is the first step I've taken to trying to understand everything. Right now, my mom and I aren't speaking. But here's some history - sorry if it's long, I'll try to only hit the important points. Growing up, she would be what I would pro...	arizona	10	843	Jun 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Wow. Where to begin. I really need some guidance right now. (Preview) Okay. So, I joined last week. So glad I did. Also went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. My A was released from rehab on Friday, June 11. I picked him up from the airport on Saturday, June 12. He was drunk. We spent Sunday together. I told him people make mistakes, and he said he was going to make his 90 in 90...	TampaGirl	7	866	Jun 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Update (Preview) My son is still waiting on bedspace becoming available in the detox unit. Yes, due to cutbacks, there are only so many beds in one unit to cover a radius of around 200 miles where alcoholism is probably the major disease. Anyway I am powerless over that, he is top of the list and hopefully next week.All is...	Ness	7	949	Jun 18, 2010 by Ness
	i THINK THEY ARE LOVELY (Preview)	Andrea12	8	874	Jun 18, 2010 by Katy
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