Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

perfectlyimperfect · perfectlyimperfect

I've been involved in AlAnon off and on several times, the last time remaining true and realizing I can't be cured-Im a LIFER, and I'm ok with that. I've been reading the posts for several days and am so glad to see all of the ESH here. I'm actually at a good place right now in my recovery, beginning the Twel...

JimmyX · JimmyX

I recently (June 9 2010) wrote about the misery I have encountered for the past few months concerning my alcoholic and dry drunk girlfriend who I have known (or rather not known) for the past four years. She relapsed again some six weeks ago and again I took her back. I tried to make another go of this mad r...

Junko · Junko

First of all, let me update - after having read wonderful responses to my post, I have no doubt that I am in the right place with Alanon so thank you! Secondly, expectation. I am having a problem with it at the moment and would like to hear any experience on it.. Ever since my AH started going to AA and stoppe...

Typ0 · Typ0

I have just realized I have been an alcoholic for 25 years. I have had monumental realizations in just the past few weeks about this about my thinking and behavior due to my alocholism. I'm going to get counseling and work through the 12 step program. I'm wondering if there is anyone out there who has...

JPMyra · JPMyra

Is the book 'Courage to Change" Online? If not, is there a place where you can read the daily sayings or a place where you can sign up to receive them. Thank you! Myra is 139 days Sober

Taffy · Taffy

I just found this message board... I have had an alcoholic friend for 5 years. The friendship turned into a relationship (I thought) This week he told me he only saw me when he felt bad about himself, and he knew how much I cared for him... He would come and go, every couple of months, and then contact me aga...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I hope and pray that somebody out there can relate to my story. I have yet to attend an Al Anon meeting but I intend to do so soon. I am a 40 years old, married, and mother to the most wonderful 11 yr old boy. We have a wonderful life, drive nice cars, have a nice middle class home, and have a bit of money in the...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Well, I survived telling my story for the first time last night in a combined open AA/Alanon meeting! YAY! Actually, I found that I was not even nervous the whole day yesterday about it. I was amazed at how many people came to talk to me after the meeting and thank me for sharing or say that they could re...

Ness · Ness

Dear Friends, I have a dilemma, I've been obsessing over it for a week now and can't seem to resolve it. I would really appreciate your perspective. Long story short, I have discovered I have a half sibling so we have been getting to know each other via email. They have now asked me about alcoholism...

lyndebi · lyndebi

If you have ever done research on kicking this poison, you will be shocked. Soo many stories of the exact same symptoms. One main one being "brain shivers." In my head I will hear a, flap flap flap. Plus my right hand is tingly and numb. I know kicking heroin one of the symptoms is a cold like t...

pax · pax

I was wondering what techniques you are using for bringing down your level of stress during difficult periods. Some things that come to mind are prayer, deep breathing, word puzzles, emailing a friend, and going to bed early with a good book. I wish that things like cleaning out a drawer would help,...

JenLynMo · JenLynMo

I met my partner about 5 years ago. . . He has been using since 13 I've been an enabler for my whole life i suppose, I was taught to be one apparently i'm learning. we broke up, still seeing one another i became pregnant. I then found out he was sleeping with the bosses daughter/ who is also his co worker. . . he...

RLC · RLC

(((To All MIP Members))) My best friends wife just found out today she has stomach cancer. Gerald is one of the reasons I got in the Al-Anon program. He has been sober for almost 4 years. He and his wife are wonderful people. I was told years ago by someone I had tremendous respect for that if you can go thr...

DareToDream · DareToDream

So, it has been 2 weeks since he pcked a suitcase and I still do not know where he is. He has called a few times (the first time was after being gone a week) but I did not answer as I am very angry and hurt and not ready to talk to him. The last message was on Thursday and he said he did not know what to say but he hopes...

Sara Tamar · Sara Tamar

The feeling I am getting reading the messages on this board is that once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic -- that no matter how long an alcoholic has been in recovery, by and by s/he going to slip up and destroy their life and the lives of every one else around them. So, is the answer to stay far away fro...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Well it didn't go as expected at all. First thing A said to me was where is our son .. LMAO yeah kids don't go to court ... He asked if I got a memo stating that .. I just ignored him. He sat right next to me waiting for lawyer and whatever .. I kept repeating the serenity prayer in my head. We wont be going to court...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

Hi everyone, I've been in the alanon program for almost 2 years now... or is it 3. Well I have a 2 and 3 year old at home and it's hard to keep track of most things. It's nice that in the program I can give myself a break and realize it's not really important to keep track of everything anyways. So, I think it's b...

John · John

Two men had passed away and were standing at the Pearly Gates. St. Peter asked the first man, "What did you do for a living that had value to others?" The man replied, "I have driven a Taxi cab most of my life" St. Peter stood back, then walked away, returning with a Golden shaft and a Golden candle holder an...

AK222 · AK222

I have been married 19 years to an A who has been sober that many years. We have had our ups and downs as I have learned when the person gets sober it is a new set of battles. Lately we have been struggling in our marriage over finances. He blames me for bad management and withholding things. I have adm...

rainbojo66 · rainbojo66

Hello friends, I went to my first meeting last night. Stange experience for me. I spent 10 years in AA knowing I wasn't an alcoholic (staying sober wasn't so hard lol) but I firgured I had had some bad experiences drinking, my family were all lunatics...I MUST BE an alcoholic, so I didnt try anything mor...

M_Hannah · M_Hannah

Shadows creep across an empty spaceBut all I see is your angry faceI try to intercept your penetrating stareI am invisible; youre the only one there. You laugh at my joke and smile without a careLeaning back in your old deck chairIts you and I against it allThe higher we climb, the further well fall. D...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Came across this quote from the Dalai Lama today: "If indeed the qualities such as love, patience, tolerance, and forgiveness are what happiness consists in, and if it is also true that compassion, defined as concern for others, is both the source and the fruit of these qualiti...

Aloha · Aloha

As many know, my AH and I are in the process of getting a divorce. It's uncontested, thankfully, and we're ending things on amicable terms. I was telling my sponsor the other day that I don't hate HIM, I just hate all the things he did. Some if it still makes my stomach churn if I choose to remember those pie...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just need to vent about AH who has had a recent hospital admission for nearly 3 weeks with severe weight loss, dehydration, vomiting and diaorrhea. Forcibly kept away from his brandy he improved considerably. He has been home for nearly 4 weeks now and has been a lot better. He has been eating, which he...

Ri · Ri

Okay, I've posted previously about my sober ABF and I getting back together. He is, thankfully, back to work and it's time. Probably be another month or so until it actually happens. The part I'm having trouble with is actually telling my family that I am leaving. I have been staying with my parents sin...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I have a family trip coming up soon and experiencing alot of anxiety. Worries about he cost (i can't really afford this trip now, but it's too late...just becomes another part of debt)....about losing or screwing up the airline tickets, forgetting something, forgetting to lock a door or setup a tim...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi, just thought I'd come and share, just looking for some connection I think. My addict boyfriend is in the middle of a very long string of constant relapses (maybe 1-2 days sober in between each), and I'm starting to feel very lonely. There are pockets of honesty in between the relapses, where I feel l...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

Well, the ups and downs of his moods, I don't know his true feelings at all and I blame it on the "disease". I'm supportive of his healing......but I also have to be supportive of myself and my children. Last night after seven months, he finally admitted to me he was using drugs again. So I was r...

Maize · Maize

My boyfriend (qualifier--we have known each other for a year and dating for 6 months) has been in rehab for the last 6 weeks and tomorrow his parents and I are flying to go to the family program. I have spent the last couple weeks reading here, reading Alanon literature, attending meetings and really w...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

A year and half since I filed for child support/custody and many reschedules (court rescheduled) court is finally tomorrow afternoon. :) I don't really know what to expect. The past dates said child support and visitation this one just says child support. I called my lawyer she said she wasn't sure a...

kath · kath

I am feeling guilty for wasting so much time trying to fix and control my husband's behavior. I am feeling the devastation of this separation from him. We moved nine months ago. I am feeling sad because I have always chosen men that were bad for me. I feel mortified at the thought of any of my three daught...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Well the time has finally come. Tomorrow I start a new position at work. After 11 years with the company and 9 in this department, I decided to leave it. Thanks to this program I found the courage to do it. Now as a Taurus I HATE change. I like my own comfy world, in a certain order on a cer...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

For the encouragement I receive on this board. If I couldn't come here to read and post I would be so much worse off. Bless you all. Dreams

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been writing many times before here about how I entered Al-Anon, first while still dating a girl in England that is an alcoholic in recovery. She broke up with me just over three months ago and since then we have had little contact. While she was doing the steps she was advised by the sponsor she...

rainbojo66 · rainbojo66

I'm looking for guidance here. I was told by someone to just feel a feelign...try not to react right away. OK got that...so what happens when if you feel the feeling it gets bigger until you realize WHAT the feeling is (in my case i am REALLY angry) over things that happened YEARS ago that i had completel...

Christy · Christy

I haven't posted in a long while. I've been REALLY busy. I'll attempt to recap the last few mo. I decided to leave my home of 18 yrs. and move to the Gulf coast. For years I have dreamed of living near the ocean. I decided to just "do it"! I rented a wonderful apartment on a pond, 2 miles from t...

Leila1 · Leila1

Hi out there I just realy need to shout a bit today, Im sure most of you understand that. I come from a family of violent alcoholics and my sibs 3 became alcoholics. I swore I would never fall into the trap of booze, yet here I am at 34 newly divorced and engaged to a man who drinks..Gets better, I moved 8000 m...

Lizz · Lizz

Hello my name is Liz, I am not an alcoholic but the man I love and adore is....here's my story.. I first met him some 20 years ago, I would've only been about 20...he was quiet and reserved and I liked him straight away...he worked at my local petrol station, so I saw him pretty much everyday, as my bus stop w...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Since my son has been removed from our deceased mother's home for many reason's, not the least of which was using it for drug use for himself and his friends. He is thirty years old and since finishing high school it has been one long slide downward into someone I don't even know any longer. Last night ju...

Maize · Maize

I just loved this: Pity is the deadliest feeling that can be offered to a woman. --Vicki Baum We must move forward with confidence, trusting that the strength we need will be given us, having faith in our visions to guide us. Problems need not daunt us. Rather, they can spur us on to more creative activi...

Christie92 · Christie92

Hi. I'm back. I posted on here once before about a month ago. My son had come home so drunk I almost took him to the hospital, but didn't. Rather I watched him for hours to make sure he'd be ok in the morning. He started work, a good hard working job, with his cousin who is trying to start his own concrete bu...

Danielle07 · Danielle07

This is my first post here and I'm so grateful to have found you all. I spent the weekend having a pity party for myself but once I realized that there is someplace to go and others who have been where I am I felt empowered and inspired. So for that I'd like to say thank you to everyone for sharing themsel...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I was reading in the Courage to Change book this evening and it was very interesting today. It talks of change and not having to rush it. Just identifying that you want to change is one of the steps. I feel so much better after reading that. I am working so hard at trying to change old habits that have been wi...

kablisnow · kablisnow

I heard something the other day that I wanted to share with everyone. It said " forgiveness is a tribute to the strong ". I love that statement. Hope everyone has a wonderful day!

Adabnu · Adabnu

I went to Alanon face to face meeting once a week in the last five weeks, I don't know how people can go to meetings so many times because I just could not do it, at least, at the moment. Every time when I go to Alanon meetings, if I am not sad before the meeting, then I will be most likely sad after the meeting as...

nh girl · nh girl

Last year I attended several f2f meetings (kicking and screaming) with a friend. After every meeting, I was annoyed that my friend had wasted my time and I was very angry that my day had been stolen from me. I couldn't understand why people would sit around in their own negativity and keep stirring up th...

Jozie · Jozie

Today for some reason the Word "Cluttered" will not leave my thoughts... it started when I look around my house this morning, and just feel Drug down from all the things I SHOULD be doing, instead of sitting around dwelling on it not Being done... But as I started to dig into this thinking I re...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM SO FRUSTRATED WITH MY SNAIL MAIL! ON SAT. MY SIS CALLS MY MOM & SAYS THAT HER SON'S B-DAY CARD WAS NOT IN THE MAIL & THE CHECK WASN'T EITHER: SHE RECEIVED AN ENVELOPE WITH NOTHING IN IT. I AM SURE THAT I SEALED THE ENVELOPE BUT I GUESS THE STUPID THING DIDN'T SEAL RIGHT! ANYHOW, I AM OK TODAY BUT...

Adabnu · Adabnu

Dear all, Recently, I start to feel so resentful to everything. My friends no longer care about me anymore, it seemed to them that the break up is months ago, I should be fine and move on right now. I don't enjoy working, don't like seeing strangers as I am doing right now (I am doing a lot of social network...

maresie · maresie

I overheard one of my roommates having a conversation with his daughter on the phone (as he has no boundaries he broadcast it everywhere). Somehow in a enquiry about her going back to school he made the conversation about that he was alone and had no one! Of course he has a girlfriend (who is superglue...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Well ... I guess the time has come. I went to an open AA meeting on Friday (8/6). It is a speaker meeting, and generally there is an Alanon speaker that speaks the first half and an AA speaker that speaks the second half. The chair of the meeting asked if I would speak this coming Friday (8/13). The last...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok... So Most Know that I lost My Afather to this Disease, going on 2 Years this coming Nov. Well I have been on an up and down roller coaster of emotions, and at times I catch myself "Blocking" those thoughts, because of "My resentments in our Relationship, My regrets of our time toget...

wp · wp

What's up with the business meeting for Aug 8? I thought I heard someone say the July meeting was postponed to tonight. ?? wp

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday Al-Anon meeting. Hoping someone might be able to step up for me. Thanks. Shimo

Greenvalleygal · Greenvalleygal

My 29 year old son has been sober for a couple of weeks and looking for a job. He rents our garage apartment that belongs to my husband, his step-dad. Rent was due on the first and he does not have it but my ex needed some help today cutting up a downed tree which gave him the opportunity to work off some of th...

glad · glad

I started step work then chickened out as I got closer to to making the list of "wrongs" and then having the share them. there just seeem to be to many - in my life growing up tasting the peanut butter with your finger was punishable by a full day of "time out" back before time out was i...

glad · glad

I typing what was supposed to be a short note to my A on my computer - unsure if i shoud be putting that in writting or not upexpectedly the power went out and I "lost" all I had entered into the computer-- I smiled and thanked God for his patience with me> I have been praying to him for years...

Karilynn · Karilynn

I received an email from Hazelden for families with children who are addicted. I thought I would pass it along to those who need it. Another resource for this terrible disease: www.FamiliesFacingAddiction.org

kath · kath

I am raising my children, 8,9, and 18 mos by myself because I choose not to live with my AH. He is out playing golf, getting high and living the single life. I am going back to school in a few weeks to finish my degree, which will be no easy task while he gets to sit around and party and have fun. Why in the h*** di...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Now I know I was doing pretty good with not asking my mother to see if she could help my daughter out in her time of need since she is behind on the rent and I also didn`t cave fall the loan business. But last week she was out with friend and don`t you know she twists her ankle and shes on crutches this week and ca...

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	New here but not to program (Preview) I've been involved in AlAnon off and on several times, the last time remaining true and realizing I can't be cured-Im a LIFER, and I'm ok with that. I've been reading the posts for several days and am so glad to see all of the ESH here. I'm actually at a good place right now in my recovery, beginning the Twel...	perfectlyimperfect	3	959	Aug 16, 2010 by hotrod
	I Had to End it . . . . . Didn't I? (Preview) I recently (June 9 2010) wrote about the misery I have encountered for the past few months concerning my alcoholic and dry drunk girlfriend who I have known (or rather not known) for the past four years. She relapsed again some six weeks ago and again I took her back. I tried to make another go of this mad r...	JimmyX	10	1946	Aug 16, 2010 by Rocky38
	Is it too much to expect to be listened? (Preview) First of all, let me update - after having read wonderful responses to my post, I have no doubt that I am in the right place with Alanon so thank you! Secondly, expectation. I am having a problem with it at the moment and would like to hear any experience on it.. Ever since my AH started going to AA and stoppe...	Junko	8	769	Aug 16, 2010 by Junko
	Help from an alcoholic (Preview) I have just realized I have been an alcoholic for 25 years. I have had monumental realizations in just the past few weeks about this about my thinking and behavior due to my alocholism. I'm going to get counseling and work through the 12 step program. I'm wondering if there is anyone out there who has...	Typ0	9	2054	Aug 15, 2010 by Typ0
	Courage to change Book (Preview) Is the book 'Courage to Change" Online? If not, is there a place where you can read the daily sayings or a place where you can sign up to receive them. Thank you! Myra is 139 days Sober	JPMyra	4	5384	Aug 15, 2010 by JPMyra
	Please help me understand (Preview) I just found this message board... I have had an alcoholic friend for 5 years. The friendship turned into a relationship (I thought) This week he told me he only saw me when he felt bad about himself, and he knew how much I cared for him... He would come and go, every couple of months, and then contact me aga...	Taffy	10	797	Aug 15, 2010 by Taffy
	New here. I have a long story! (Preview) I hope and pray that somebody out there can relate to my story. I have yet to attend an Al Anon meeting but I intend to do so soon. I am a 40 years old, married, and mother to the most wonderful 11 yr old boy. We have a wonderful life, drive nice cars, have a nice middle class home, and have a bit of money in the...	ilovedogs	16	1378	Aug 15, 2010 by ilovedogs
	Survived Telling My Story (Preview) Well, I survived telling my story for the first time last night in a combined open AA/Alanon meeting! YAY! Actually, I found that I was not even nervous the whole day yesterday about it. I was amazed at how many people came to talk to me after the meeting and thank me for sharing or say that they could re...	White Rabbit	7	1316	Aug 15, 2010 by rainbojo66
	Dilemma re anonymity of the family disease (Preview) Dear Friends, I have a dilemma, I've been obsessing over it for a week now and can't seem to resolve it. I would really appreciate your perspective. Long story short, I have discovered I have a half sibling so we have been getting to know each other via email. They have now asked me about alcoholism...	Ness	19	838	Aug 15, 2010 by Ness
	Effexor Anon (Preview) If you have ever done research on kicking this poison, you will be shocked. Soo many stories of the exact same symptoms. One main one being "brain shivers." In my head I will hear a, flap flap flap. Plus my right hand is tingly and numb. I know kicking heroin one of the symptoms is a cold like t...	lyndebi	11	1296	Aug 14, 2010 by Jennifer
	how do you reduce stress? (Preview) I was wondering what techniques you are using for bringing down your level of stress during difficult periods. Some things that come to mind are prayer, deep breathing, word puzzles, emailing a friend, and going to bed early with a good book. I wish that things like cleaning out a drawer would help,...	pax	14	1042	Aug 14, 2010 by pax
	I'm new here and to this process, Need of prospective (Preview) I met my partner about 5 years ago. . . He has been using since 13 I've been an enabler for my whole life i suppose, I was taught to be one apparently i'm learning. we broke up, still seeing one another i became pregnant. I then found out he was sleeping with the bosses daughter/ who is also his co worker. . . he...	JenLynMo	8	748	Aug 14, 2010 by Mattie
	Please Keep My Best Friends Wife In Your Prayers (Preview) (((To All MIP Members))) My best friends wife just found out today she has stomach cancer. Gerald is one of the reasons I got in the Al-Anon program. He has been sober for almost 4 years. He and his wife are wonderful people. I was told years ago by someone I had tremendous respect for that if you can go thr...	RLC	20	3614	Aug 14, 2010 by grammie
	Still Gone (Preview) So, it has been 2 weeks since he pcked a suitcase and I still do not know where he is. He has called a few times (the first time was after being gone a week) but I did not answer as I am very angry and hurt and not ready to talk to him. The last message was on Thursday and he said he did not know what to say but he hopes...	DareToDream	18	1010	Aug 14, 2010 by DareToDream
	Is it really foolish to hope? (Preview) The feeling I am getting reading the messages on this board is that once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic -- that no matter how long an alcoholic has been in recovery, by and by s/he going to slip up and destroy their life and the lives of every one else around them. So, is the answer to stay far away fro...	Sara Tamar	11	823	Aug 14, 2010 by maresie
	Court is over (Preview) Well it didn't go as expected at all. First thing A said to me was where is our son .. LMAO yeah kids don't go to court ... He asked if I got a memo stating that .. I just ignored him. He sat right next to me waiting for lawyer and whatever .. I kept repeating the serenity prayer in my head. We wont be going to court...	Melissa21	8	812	Aug 14, 2010 by maresie
	Mom here looking for some ESH (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been in the alanon program for almost 2 years now... or is it 3. Well I have a 2 and 3 year old at home and it's hard to keep track of most things. It's nice that in the program I can give myself a break and realize it's not really important to keep track of everything anyways. So, I think it's b...	angelchar375	5	1142	Aug 14, 2010 by maresie
	God loves alkies... (Preview) Two men had passed away and were standing at the Pearly Gates. St. Peter asked the first man, "What did you do for a living that had value to others?" The man replied, "I have driven a Taxi cab most of my life" St. Peter stood back, then walked away, returning with a Golden shaft and a Golden candle holder an...	John	4	823	Aug 14, 2010 by Karilynn
	20 years sober..still same characteristics (Preview) I have been married 19 years to an A who has been sober that many years. We have had our ups and downs as I have learned when the person gets sober it is a new set of battles. Lately we have been struggling in our marriage over finances. He blames me for bad management and withholding things. I have adm...	AK222	4	1519	Aug 13, 2010 by Jerry F
	My first meeting...and I dont feel like killing anyone :) yippee! (Preview) Hello friends, I went to my first meeting last night. Stange experience for me. I spent 10 years in AA knowing I wasn't an alcoholic (staying sober wasn't so hard lol) but I firgured I had had some bad experiences drinking, my family were all lunatics...I MUST BE an alcoholic, so I didnt try anything mor...	rainbojo66	5	755	Aug 13, 2010 by maresie
	Feeling alone (Preview) Shadows creep across an empty spaceBut all I see is your angry faceI try to intercept your penetrating stareI am invisible; youre the only one there. You laugh at my joke and smile without a careLeaning back in your old deck chairIts you and I against it allThe higher we climb, the further well fall. D...	M_Hannah	9	813	Aug 13, 2010 by Rocky38
	Wow! (Preview) (((Family))), Came across this quote from the Dalai Lama today: "If indeed the qualities such as love, patience, tolerance, and forgiveness are what happiness consists in, and if it is also true that compassion, defined as concern for others, is both the source and the fruit of these qualiti...	Karilynn	3	475	Aug 13, 2010 by Andrea12
	It's not the alcoholic's behaviors that are surprising... it's my own behavior that throws me off. (Preview) As many know, my AH and I are in the process of getting a divorce. It's uncontested, thankfully, and we're ending things on amicable terms. I was telling my sponsor the other day that I don't hate HIM, I just hate all the things he did. Some if it still makes my stomach churn if I choose to remember those pie...	Aloha	4	1127	Aug 12, 2010 by Rocky38
	Feeling like rubbish (Preview) Just need to vent about AH who has had a recent hospital admission for nearly 3 weeks with severe weight loss, dehydration, vomiting and diaorrhea. Forcibly kept away from his brandy he improved considerably. He has been home for nearly 4 weeks now and has been a lot better. He has been eating, which he...	Tattyhead	8	920	Aug 12, 2010 by Rocky38
	It's time...now the hard part (Preview) Okay, I've posted previously about my sober ABF and I getting back together. He is, thankfully, back to work and it's time. Probably be another month or so until it actually happens. The part I'm having trouble with is actually telling my family that I am leaving. I have been staying with my parents sin...	Ri	12	799	Aug 12, 2010 by maresie
	Travel anxiety...Help!!! (Preview) I have a family trip coming up soon and experiencing alot of anxiety. Worries about he cost (i can't really afford this trip now, but it's too late...just becomes another part of debt)....about losing or screwing up the airline tickets, forgetting something, forgetting to lock a door or setup a tim...	mjhyankees	8	668	Aug 12, 2010 by abbyal
	Really struggling today (Preview) Hi, just thought I'd come and share, just looking for some connection I think. My addict boyfriend is in the middle of a very long string of constant relapses (maybe 1-2 days sober in between each), and I'm starting to feel very lonely. There are pockets of honesty in between the relapses, where I feel l...	Sangyaa	6	801	Aug 12, 2010 by xeno59
	Child Support (Preview) Well, the ups and downs of his moods, I don't know his true feelings at all and I blame it on the "disease". I'm supportive of his healing......but I also have to be supportive of myself and my children. Last night after seven months, he finally admitted to me he was using drugs again. So I was r...	RoseODAT	2	715	Aug 11, 2010 by Jerry F
	Heading out for the Family program... (Preview) My boyfriend (qualifier--we have known each other for a year and dating for 6 months) has been in rehab for the last 6 weeks and tomorrow his parents and I are flying to go to the family program. I have spent the last couple weeks reading here, reading Alanon literature, attending meetings and really w...	Maize	6	704	Aug 11, 2010 by hotrod
	Court tomorrow (Preview) A year and half since I filed for child support/custody and many reschedules (court rescheduled) court is finally tomorrow afternoon. :) I don't really know what to expect. The past dates said child support and visitation this one just says child support. I called my lawyer she said she wasn't sure a...	Melissa21	4	795	Aug 11, 2010 by hotrod
	feelings (Preview) I am feeling guilty for wasting so much time trying to fix and control my husband's behavior. I am feeling the devastation of this separation from him. We moved nine months ago. I am feeling sad because I have always chosen men that were bad for me. I feel mortified at the thought of any of my three daught...	kath	9	769	Aug 11, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Change (Preview) ((((Family))), Well the time has finally come. Tomorrow I start a new position at work. After 11 years with the company and 9 in this department, I decided to leave it. Thanks to this program I found the courage to do it. Now as a Taurus I HATE change. I like my own comfy world, in a certain order on a cer...	Karilynn	8	832	Aug 11, 2010 by Junko
	Thank you, thank you... (Preview) For the encouragement I receive on this board. If I couldn't come here to read and post I would be so much worse off. Bless you all. Dreams	DreamsOver	3	745	Aug 11, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	We are talking again... (Preview) Hi I have been writing many times before here about how I entered Al-Anon, first while still dating a girl in England that is an alcoholic in recovery. She broke up with me just over three months ago and since then we have had little contact. While she was doing the steps she was advised by the sponsor she...	Cosmos	8	929	Aug 11, 2010 by DreamXL
	What do you do with your anger? (Preview) I'm looking for guidance here. I was told by someone to just feel a feelign...try not to react right away. OK got that...so what happens when if you feel the feeling it gets bigger until you realize WHAT the feeling is (in my case i am REALLY angry) over things that happened YEARS ago that i had completel...	rainbojo66	14	747	Aug 11, 2010 by rainbojo66
	Choosing my focus (Preview) I haven't posted in a long while. I've been REALLY busy. I'll attempt to recap the last few mo. I decided to leave my home of 18 yrs. and move to the Gulf coast. For years I have dreamed of living near the ocean. I decided to just "do it"! I rented a wonderful apartment on a pond, 2 miles from t...	Christy	12	876	Aug 10, 2010 by tlcate
	New Here and Mad as hell.. (Preview) Hi out there I just realy need to shout a bit today, Im sure most of you understand that. I come from a family of violent alcoholics and my sibs 3 became alcoholics. I swore I would never fall into the trap of booze, yet here I am at 34 newly divorced and engaged to a man who drinks..Gets better, I moved 8000 m...	Leila1	17	1018	Aug 10, 2010 by tlcate
	Thought I'd found the love of my life......... (Preview) Hello my name is Liz, I am not an alcoholic but the man I love and adore is....here's my story.. I first met him some 20 years ago, I would've only been about 20...he was quiet and reserved and I liked him straight away...he worked at my local petrol station, so I saw him pretty much everyday, as my bus stop w...	Lizz	8	761	Aug 10, 2010 by Bettina
	Wish I Had A Life Coach.... (Preview) Since my son has been removed from our deceased mother's home for many reason's, not the least of which was using it for drug use for himself and his friends. He is thirty years old and since finishing high school it has been one long slide downward into someone I don't even know any longer. Last night ju...	DreamsOver	8	974	Aug 10, 2010 by Ness
	Todays gift (Preview) I just loved this: Pity is the deadliest feeling that can be offered to a woman. --Vicki Baum We must move forward with confidence, trusting that the strength we need will be given us, having faith in our visions to guide us. Problems need not daunt us. Rather, they can spur us on to more creative activi...	Maize	2	576	Aug 10, 2010 by Maize
	Son - 17 (Preview) Hi. I'm back. I posted on here once before about a month ago. My son had come home so drunk I almost took him to the hospital, but didn't. Rather I watched him for hours to make sure he'd be ok in the morning. He started work, a good hard working job, with his cousin who is trying to start his own concrete bu...	Christie92	8	543	Aug 10, 2010 by Maize
	Ugg...he's healthy and sober but now I'm the problem (Preview) This is my first post here and I'm so grateful to have found you all. I spent the weekend having a pity party for myself but once I realized that there is someplace to go and others who have been where I am I felt empowered and inspired. So for that I'd like to say thank you to everyone for sharing themsel...	Danielle07	5	895	Aug 10, 2010 by Danielle07
	Change (Preview) I was reading in the Courage to Change book this evening and it was very interesting today. It talks of change and not having to rush it. Just identifying that you want to change is one of the steps. I feel so much better after reading that. I am working so hard at trying to change old habits that have been wi...	Sweet Stanley	3	610	Aug 10, 2010 by Maize
	Blessed Monday to you all... (Preview) I heard something the other day that I wanted to share with everyone. It said " forgiveness is a tribute to the strong ". I love that statement. Hope everyone has a wonderful day!	kablisnow	3	486	Aug 10, 2010 by Maize
	Alanon meeting puzzle (Preview) I went to Alanon face to face meeting once a week in the last five weeks, I don't know how people can go to meetings so many times because I just could not do it, at least, at the moment. Every time when I go to Alanon meetings, if I am not sad before the meeting, then I will be most likely sad after the meeting as...	Adabnu	10	1117	Aug 10, 2010 by Maize
	Losing it all... (Preview) Last year I attended several f2f meetings (kicking and screaming) with a friend. After every meeting, I was annoyed that my friend had wasted my time and I was very angry that my day had been stolen from me. I couldn't understand why people would sit around in their own negativity and keep stirring up th...	nh girl	11	1220	Aug 10, 2010 by Jozie
	Looking for Insight... ESH... All of it... (Preview) Today for some reason the Word "Cluttered" will not leave my thoughts... it started when I look around my house this morning, and just feel Drug down from all the things I SHOULD be doing, instead of sitting around dwelling on it not Being done... But as I started to dig into this thinking I re...	Jozie	6	783	Aug 10, 2010 by nh girl
	what's up w/ my snail mail? (Preview) I AM SO FRUSTRATED WITH MY SNAIL MAIL! ON SAT. MY SIS CALLS MY MOM & SAYS THAT HER SON'S B-DAY CARD WAS NOT IN THE MAIL & THE CHECK WASN'T EITHER: SHE RECEIVED AN ENVELOPE WITH NOTHING IN IT. I AM SURE THAT I SEALED THE ENVELOPE BUT I GUESS THE STUPID THING DIDN'T SEAL RIGHT! ANYHOW, I AM OK TODAY BUT...	Hoot Nanny	2	521	Aug 9, 2010 by Rocky38
	Hate everything (Preview) Dear all, Recently, I start to feel so resentful to everything. My friends no longer care about me anymore, it seemed to them that the break up is months ago, I should be fine and move on right now. I don't enjoy working, don't like seeing strangers as I am doing right now (I am doing a lot of social network...	Adabnu	9	484	Aug 9, 2010 by Rocky38
	poor me (Preview) I overheard one of my roommates having a conversation with his daughter on the phone (as he has no boundaries he broadcast it everywhere). Somehow in a enquiry about her going back to school he made the conversation about that he was alone and had no one! Of course he has a girlfriend (who is superglue...	maresie	8	928	Aug 9, 2010 by maresie
	My story (Preview) Well ... I guess the time has come. I went to an open AA meeting on Friday (8/6). It is a speaker meeting, and generally there is an Alanon speaker that speaks the first half and an AA speaker that speaks the second half. The chair of the meeting asked if I would speak this coming Friday (8/13). The last...	White Rabbit	6	929	Aug 9, 2010 by xeno59
	WOW... Slap in the face... (Preview) Ok... So Most Know that I lost My Afather to this Disease, going on 2 Years this coming Nov. Well I have been on an up and down roller coaster of emotions, and at times I catch myself "Blocking" those thoughts, because of "My resentments in our Relationship, My regrets of our time toget...	Jozie	7	1242	Aug 9, 2010 by Jozie
	business meeting? (Preview) What's up with the business meeting for Aug 8? I thought I heard someone say the July meeting was postponed to tonight. ?? wp	wp	2	350	Aug 8, 2010 by wp
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday Al-Anon meeting. Hoping someone might be able to step up for me. Thanks. Shimo	shimo	1	403	Aug 8, 2010 by DreamXL
	Whats a Mother to do (Preview) My 29 year old son has been sober for a couple of weeks and looking for a job. He rents our garage apartment that belongs to my husband, his step-dad. Rent was due on the first and he does not have it but my ex needed some help today cutting up a downed tree which gave him the opportunity to work off some of th...	Greenvalleygal	3	774	Aug 8, 2010 by Greenvalleygal
	Want to be the real me--soon ! (Preview) I started step work then chickened out as I got closer to to making the list of "wrongs" and then having the share them. there just seeem to be to many - in my life growing up tasting the peanut butter with your finger was punishable by a full day of "time out" back before time out was i...	glad	9	810	Aug 8, 2010 by Jerry F
	God Protects and guides (Preview) I typing what was supposed to be a short note to my A on my computer - unsure if i shoud be putting that in writting or not upexpectedly the power went out and I "lost" all I had entered into the computer-- I smiled and thanked God for his patience with me> I have been praying to him for years...	glad	2	567	Aug 8, 2010 by Jerry F
	FYI Children & Addiction (Preview) I received an email from Hazelden for families with children who are addicted. I thought I would pass it along to those who need it. Another resource for this terrible disease: www.FamiliesFacingAddiction.org	Karilynn	2	932	Aug 8, 2010 by Jerry F
	just need to vent... (Preview) I am raising my children, 8,9, and 18 mos by myself because I choose not to live with my AH. He is out playing golf, getting high and living the single life. I am going back to school in a few weeks to finish my degree, which will be no easy task while he gets to sit around and party and have fun. Why in the h*** di...	kath	4	626	Aug 8, 2010 by kath
	Having a Hard Time Today (Preview) Now I know I was doing pretty good with not asking my mother to see if she could help my daughter out in her time of need since she is behind on the rent and I also didn`t cave fall the loan business. But last week she was out with friend and don`t you know she twists her ankle and shes on crutches this week and ca...	Samsgram	3	828	Aug 8, 2010 by Jerry F
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