ive been in recovery for long enough that my son was born when i was 5years sober..the program carried me through many difficulties...got more into alanon after my husband left us and I got together with old bf from past (ran into him at AA dance) after we got hooked up found him to be chronic relapse guy and 5 years of "learning" ensued..my son hits age15, slides into depression and phychosis, suicidal..making a long story short come home to find him severely overdosed on his meds and off to hospital for him..get him all hooked in with a "team" of professionals and things have smoothed out...i HAD to step back and let my son take responsibility for his illness..i cant save him from commiting suicide if he really focused on it..for a year i drove myself crazy trying to protect him and it was when i thought he was having a good day and chanced to go grocery shopping that i came home and found him almost too late..now i tell him his recovery and selfcare is his job..to call any member of his team and talk to them about his concerns ect. i had a what u could call a spiritual awakening when i was standing beside the bed in emergency and watched him slip into a coma..utter powerlessness..he was in my higher power hands and boy did i know it...a year later he is doing much better and has found his own idea of a higher power and gets to his appointments ..makes sure he sees his Dr. ect..its a great team and they love working with him cause he is willing...if he hadnt been willing i would have sent him to a "house/group home" for kids with severe mental illness where he would have been safe..boundaries comes in so many sometimes shocking forms..i need to set them to survive..life is very good today..i have so much peace in my heart and proud of what i accomplished..never in a million years would i have thought i could get through stuff like this..the one day at a time book and other readings helped big time....Big Hugs to u all !!