Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

melissimala · melissimala

I have several new books and have comitted to a regular exercise program. That's some me progress and it feels good. My new books are Of Course You're Angry by Rosellini/Worden and Emotional Sobriety and Trauma & Addiction by Tian Dayton. Started reading Trauma & Addiction. Just as ou...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I was at a meeting not long ago where the topic was Listen and Learn. Although it's one of our slogans on the wall, I guess I'd kinda just read over it and focused on the more widely repeated "Let go and let God" and "One day at a time." Listen and learn is a great slogan, and it was a gr...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I know this can be a tuff time of year for many of us. Myself included... But I will be strong and know that my Higher Power is handling what needs to be handled. I really don`t know how to elaborate on my HP but I know I must believe that there is something out there bigger than me that controls things in this...

kath · kath

I spoke up today in the kitchen at a church function. Usually when they start their gossip, I just listen and get mad, sometimes I join in with it. I also meant what I said without saying it mean. My first reaction in my head to their gossip was to scream at them and say how wrong they were. Instead I said tha...

living_with_my_a · living_with_my_a

Hi, Carol, here, alanon member. I have been coming to online alanon for a little over a year now and would like to lead meetings, however I understand there are criteria for me to meet first. I think I heard about having to do face to face for six months? I've done that. Been online for six months, but not...

Aloha · Aloha

I was really floored last night by my feelings. It's really silly, for the most part, because I experienced these feelings just from watching a reality TV show! I've been watching "Ice Road Truckers - Deadliest Roads" (I find it fascinating... they're driving these scary dangerous road...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Made my first online meeting yesterday and stayed to chat and was accosted and given a hw assignment (kidding about being accosted....I never got so much attention in my life!) Anyway I was asked to write a list of ten things I am powerless over and those that I have power over. It was suggested that I th...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

I have learned in alanon that I am not supposed to keep track of how much AH drinks. I have found this to be a hard thing not to do for some reason. I kind of got a taste of my own medicine so to speak last night. Both AH and I smoke cigarettes, however, AH has decided to cut down a lot so he can eventually quit...

kitty · kitty

wow, ok - that was great. I just had a real conversation with my bf, in the moment. It was great. He did what I do and sat down on the kitchen step stool to process in the moment. I did interrupt when he said, ' "...and that makes me feel... : ' - I said no the doctor told me at 16 - you have to own your own r...

eyeswideopen · eyeswideopen

I got an email from my husband this a.m. about his behaviour this weekend. He says we aren't 'integrating' as a couple, which is a lie.He never apologized, he never said thank you for all I did this weekend. He seemed to throw me aside, he wants to pretend that I never existed. He wants less stress in his l...

sarebaer · sarebaer

This site has been such a God send to me. I seem to come here three or four times a day and read post to gain understanding. I'm actually starting to feel a peace and calmness that hasn't been there in so very, very long. Its an awesome feeling. I used to get severe anxiety attacks on my drive home from work ne...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

I managed to survive yesterday's early Thanksgiving celebration. AH drank as anticipated, but for the most part I was able to detach. He drank quite a bit of wine, as that is what he reeked of the most when I would be near him. There were a couple of times he tried to get me to drink with him. I just gave a...

wife2010 · wife2010

I made a post earlier about my big issue, my husband has a fetish for a physical part of women body, how delicate this could be if anyone knows? can this be categorize as a fetish? if it's something that the person take to the extreme to view it everyday? My husband has the weirdest fetish which I really ca...

glad lee · glad lee

Dear Family, I just want to share my ESH regarding sex addiction since it has come up a couple of times here on the board. First of all, an addictive personality may use more than one "drug." In my experience, there are many things we can grab onto in an attempt to escape reality. Since...

giantsfan · giantsfan

So I am supposed to write a letter about how his addiction has affected me. I am not that introspective and not sure what the mood of the letter should be, so I just started writing. It kind of came out rather negative, so I wanted to get an opinion from others that have had to do this or know something about r...

xeno59 · xeno59

I am unable to chair this Tuesday's Morning meeting ( 11/23) I will be traveling for the Holiday and am hoping someone can step in a cover me. Thank you If I happen to have internet access at the vacation home we are renting will be able to see you all on Thursday. If not then would like to wish all of you a Very...

tlynna · tlynna

Hi all, I wrote back in March about cutting off the finances from my husband (search on "cutting off the finances" and just wanted to drop a line that I followed through with the "plan" I added to the end of the post, but pretty soon, I got lax, things got a bit better/then a bit wors...

assh8 · assh8

I am 22 year old young girl and I have some severe issue with my smoking habit. My mom wants me to quit it,I really dont know how to. I feel depressed and lost when I try stopping it for a day even. I wish I get out of this deadly habit soon. Pls advice.

Jozie · Jozie

Welp, Coming up on Year two since I lost my Afather to this Gut Stabbin Disease, and yes I know all was his choices, and all was his Disease, however, knowing these things does not lesson the fact that Tomorrow I will have to yet again, Celebrate his birthday with out him... Tomorrow My Afather would have...

clep · clep

Well I write this having decided to leave my spouse. We reconciled ten months ago after a year apart. He is a recovered addict and alcoholic. I have let him know I am leaving him and it breaks my heart to be doing so. He has been going through the mental and emotional process of relapse but has not physic...

tlcate · tlcate

Well - here I am on the other side of a LOT of big things happening. Daughter turned 18, graduated, I just turned 40 2 days ago, we both applied and were accepted to college and am still in the process of unpacking my first house that I bought completely on my own. Wow. Exhausted, exhilarated, scared, ang...

melissimala · melissimala

Thanks to everyone who replied to my last post. I am thinking a lot these days and keep repeating the serenity prayer to myself. About sharing my recovery with bf. I guess I just want to share anything that is meaningful to me because there has been a real lack of sharing and communication because of t...

eyeswideopen · eyeswideopen

I went to my very first Al Anon meeting, it was good it helped dispel the panic and anger I felt. I got back to the apartment and I wasn't feeling good, I'm struggling with a bad cold. He called me and wanted to know if I would be meeting him with my boys for lunch with his aunt. I was really looking forward t...

wife2010 · wife2010

Well, let me see how I joined this site at the beginning of the month, which I explained my issue. Married for closed to 9 years and two years after living together with husband I discovered his drug addiction. But I decided to continue in the relationship hoping he woudl let go crack cocaine and commit...

eyeswideopen · eyeswideopen

I feel so overwhelmed and over my head here and I hope that someone can give me some advice. I was married to an alcoholic that did nothing to hide his addiction. In fact, he used it as a weapon: we both knew how violent he would get when he was drunk, so to 'put me in my place' whenever I tried to talk to him ab...

Tony_A · Tony_A

Hello, I'm a 36 year-old male who grew up in a reasonably non-alcoholic household. My parents divorced when I was 13. My dad was a heavy social drinker but quit cold turkey about 10 years ago for health reasons. My mom rarely drank but started to drink when her second husband retired and started seekin...

maire rua · maire rua

Ex-a rattled my chain this evening, and I verbally abused him. I have apologised as I do not like to get like that. I am resentful because he does nothing for our son who is a great kid and I am not well at the moment. It is not serious, just a touch of flu but I really could have done with some help. My cat, yes, h...

Cloudsea · Cloudsea

Hi, all: Any tips for this situation? Friends from out of town are coming to our house to stay the Friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving. Long story short -- they 'invited themselves.' I did establish a boundary and told them we couldn't host them until AFTER Thanksgiving. Perhaps I should hav...

RLC · RLC

On August 9th I posted asking for prayers for my best friends wife who was diaganosed with stomach cancer. I just received a call will the wonderful news that all cancer cells are gone. Thank you HP. Gearld was aware that I had asked members of MIP for their prayers and he told me to thank each and every...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Well surgery went well....strange thing though, my wife pointed out that there was no script for antibiotics. though that was automatic with surgery. Now they did have an IV antibiotic going before and during surgery, it is arthroscopic as well...but I'll call tomorrow...we didnt' realize it u...

member922 · member922

So my Abf has now made the decision that he wants to quit smoking and drinking and grow up. I am very supportive and once in awhile make reference to our future, but do not ask how he is doing as we live separately and I am not around to see how it's going. If he wants to update me, then he can. I am not in cont...

movinforward · movinforward

After reading the first two "Getting Them Sober" there in those pages I found the root of my broken relationship. I feel so exhausted, physically, mentally and emotionally. I have cried a lot this morning, greiving the loss of an idea, facing the reality. I figure I need to let these feelin...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I feel bad that her daughter (my grandaughter) is once again witnessing me breaking down in tears when her mother starts in with the threats and starts tearing me down. It all started when she asked if I would meet her at 3:00 today to pick up my gd. She was to be at a gas station at that time. I hurried to be d...

kath · kath

I have been sick with the flu for a week. I need to get up and around to doing things I need to do. I feel drained and useless. I really want to crawl in bed and go back to sleep. I resent the fact that my husband and my dad get to do whatever they want at my expense. It feels like they have to beat me down in order to d...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Hi everyone...I'm hoping for some feedback from you all, since I value your experiences so much on this journey. Although I am here largely because of my AH, my brother also has a long history of addiction. Amazingly, I learned to detach on my own from him several years ago. He does not bring his subst...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

I don't know why I am struggling tonight, but I am. I am trying very hard to detach, but I am finding myself getting really angry, but it isn't doing me any good. To start off, my AH told me he took off work at 3pm today, but he didn't get home till 5:30pm because he went out with a co-worker to shoot pool and d...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am feeling so much better now that I am recovering very well. Since I last posted, I have been feeling better every day! I am also attending my Weds. night meeting after not going for awhile. I am so grateful that I have a few meetings to go to plus this wonderful forum. Nothing seems to be going wrong late...

brb446 · brb446

My loved one binge drinks and he has been on one for over a week. Fortunately, he is away - so I haven't had to see him. I was quite upset earlier this week- but went to a F to F meeting on Wed and my higher power just got the detachment thing going for me. I'm staying out of it. My son who is a recovering alcoh...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

This weekend we are celebrating Thanksgiving early. We have family coming in from out of town (all AH's side of the family). We are hosting it at our house. We started this tradition last year. Everyone comes to our house, and everyone helps out in preparing the meal. We don't eat a traditional Th...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok I had told ya's about finding a childhood friend and that I was Nervous about meeting her, because she was one of the Very Few "Kids" that were in my alcoholic home and seen and knew how my family worked... because her family was not far from the same... WELL, I had put off calling her, and wo...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

Yesterday was a hard day. I started out being yelled at my ex-husband for something dumb. I fell for it and joined the arguement when I shouldn't have. I realized through talking with my sponsor that I needed to find a boundary and to not fall into the trap of letting him hook me in to the fight. I am not...

melissimala · melissimala

Went to the the first meeting last night and it went well. Lots of heartbreaking stories there and lots of people that know exactly what you are going through and they are not judgemental. What a nice thing. I almost backed out but pushed myself to go. My alcoholic boyfirend, while he says he has qui...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Tricia's post that had a couple sentences about movies made me think of this - I didn't want to hijack her thread so I'm starting my own. :) Seems like that my whole life, I haven't been able to cry in front of most other people. I can cry by myself, and I can cry in front of my AH, but not my mother or other peo...

Kaysi · Kaysi

Long story short my Dad is currently on a major binge. I don't know if he is still drinking or tying to "come down" as he refers to it. Currently he is alone in one of our vacant rental properties just drinking and drinking. I told my mother and sister that I would go today and check on him to see if...

Cloudsea · Cloudsea

Hi, everyone: I have been coming here for several months and find the posts and the dialogue and support here so beneficial. I also go to f2f meetings. I thought I would share something I struggled with and which I have had a realization about -- validation. My AH is now in recovery. When he first went...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

For the kind thoughts, words and ideas. Surgery is 6 Am tomorrow!!!! Just found out the time. Of course things are more hectic than usual today as Murphy's Law has once again reared it's ugly head. Wife late from school, have to drive daughter to MIL then race back to work. Daughter does all her hom...

sarebaer · sarebaer

I have been with my AH for 11 years. Through the first few years he was very physically and mentaly abusive and would disappear while on a binge with friends for days. After a few arrest for domestic violance and short tme in jail he did stop the physical abuse. He still drank everyday but certain thi...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well this past weekend was our AlAnon conference. I do believe we had over 350 in attendance and it was a beautiful, faith filled weekend....actually that was the topic-FAITH-Fantasic Adventures in Trusting Higher Power. Well due to where I am with my uncle's health situation, I have been questio...

Pilgrim Girl · Pilgrim Girl

Hi, This is my first post in this forum. I have been in Alanon for 6 years. Making progress slowly, but surely. This is the time of the year we always start talking about preparing for the holidays. I use to busy myself decorating and baking and building myself up for the wonderful holiday that never...

Gailey · Gailey

This morning I was feeling generally happy. I feel like that more now since my son has moved away. The problem is this. As soon as I noticed I was feeling happy I turned my focus on to his life and his problems. Well, needless to say, that sent my happy feeling right down the drain. Why do you think I did that?...

tlcate · tlcate

So I can't deal with or express anger. Period. No gray areas. I can watch a bloody war movie and not flinch. I watch a chick flic, like I did tonight - Love Happens - and I see someone about to get mad - I don't just cover my eyes - I leave the room. Funny thing is - my reaction to sadness or fear or anything unco...

Imogen421 · Imogen421

He made the appointment, to help our relationship and get an official word on the issue. We're going together, at his therapist's suggestion (eval. is not with his therapist). I'm really nervous and hope it will go well, be useful, be healing, etc. Anyone been through this, know what to expect? Advic...

Suzannah · Suzannah

After yesterday's debarcle I can report that further communications with my daughter led to my succeeding in getting a turn around and a half apology...I say half because she may have said the words but it needs to be actioned too and I have to wait and see for that. However, I realise I am being too harsh...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

I am learning to keep my body language in check. Each moment is a moment that I have to do this though. I hope to one day not have to constantly check in with myself and say "don't give away so much info with what your body is saying". I also have become more conscious of other people's body lan...

RLC · RLC

A man had been going to his therapist for over a year twice a week at $80 per visit. His problem, since his childhood he had reocurring nightmares that someone or something was sleeping under his bed at night. His concern had taken a tremendous toll on him he never got a good nights sleep. His therapist...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

I seem to be having a lot of breakthroughs recently, a couple of which I've already posted about. Last night was another breakthrough night for me. I went to my f2f meeting last night (which was an excellent meeting on the topic of taking care of yourself), and when I came home, AH didn't seem like hims...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I get to go out and play. Aloha Ohana (family) and just had to post this before finishing up the day here on the Big Island. I was thinking about all the fun I got to have in the past several years of the Al-Anon program. Why I feel sooo much freer, happy and confident. It's because when you practice, pr...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I've been feeling ok, grateful even lately and generally satisfied and happy. But I'm feeling my mood turn little by little....some things I think are causing it are: 1. i"m having knee surgery (arthro, torn cartlidge) on Thursday and I'm a little afraid. Also I feel concerned that I'll be si...

failte · failte

Hi, my son is 23 still lives at home and for the last 3 years has been drinking 7 nights a week, he works part time but had the oppurtunity to work full time for the last 6 years and has repeatedly turned it down, he pays minimal board and lodging, and says his life is comforatable, he wont acknowledge any res...

Tracy · Tracy

My ABF is in recovery and really trying to fight his illness. He is doing really well and sems to be committed to his recovery. My resentmets are getting hold og me again he has been in there 3 months and has another 3 months to go it is quite an intense programme. He is allowed home now at weekends and we ar...

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	Got some new books to help me get back in touch with me. Work in progress. (Preview) I have several new books and have comitted to a regular exercise program. That's some me progress and it feels good. My new books are Of Course You're Angry by Rosellini/Worden and Emotional Sobriety and Trauma & Addiction by Tian Dayton. Started reading Trauma & Addiction. Just as ou...	melissimala	3	1028	Nov 24, 2010 by tlcate
	Listen and Learn (Preview) I was at a meeting not long ago where the topic was Listen and Learn. Although it's one of our slogans on the wall, I guess I'd kinda just read over it and focused on the more widely repeated "Let go and let God" and "One day at a time." Listen and learn is a great slogan, and it was a gr...	White Rabbit	5	4163	Nov 24, 2010 by tlcate
	Happy Thanksgiving Everyone (Preview) I know this can be a tuff time of year for many of us. Myself included... But I will be strong and know that my Higher Power is handling what needs to be handled. I really don`t know how to elaborate on my HP but I know I must believe that there is something out there bigger than me that controls things in this...	Samsgram	2	734	Nov 23, 2010 by Jerry F
	I spoke up (Preview) I spoke up today in the kitchen at a church function. Usually when they start their gossip, I just listen and get mad, sometimes I join in with it. I also meant what I said without saying it mean. My first reaction in my head to their gossip was to scream at them and say how wrong they were. Instead I said tha...	kath	5	793	Nov 23, 2010 by living_with_my_a
	I would like to help out here sometimes at meetings. But I don't meet all the criteria. (Preview) Hi, Carol, here, alanon member. I have been coming to online alanon for a little over a year now and would like to lead meetings, however I understand there are criteria for me to meet first. I think I heard about having to do face to face for six months? I've done that. Been online for six months, but not...	living_with_my_a	3	652	Nov 23, 2010 by living_with_my_a
	Feeling responsible for others... ! (Preview) I was really floored last night by my feelings. It's really silly, for the most part, because I experienced these feelings just from watching a reality TV show! I've been watching "Ice Road Truckers - Deadliest Roads" (I find it fascinating... they're driving these scary dangerous road...	Aloha	3	1904	Nov 23, 2010 by Jerry F
	Hw assignment.... (Preview) Made my first online meeting yesterday and stayed to chat and was accosted and given a hw assignment (kidding about being accosted....I never got so much attention in my life!) Anyway I was asked to write a list of ten things I am powerless over and those that I have power over. It was suggested that I th...	mjhyankees	2	384	Nov 23, 2010 by Samsgram
	Now I know what it feels like (Preview) I have learned in alanon that I am not supposed to keep track of how much AH drinks. I have found this to be a hard thing not to do for some reason. I kind of got a taste of my own medicine so to speak last night. Both AH and I smoke cigarettes, however, AH has decided to cut down a lot so he can eventually quit...	kimmy1975	5	912	Nov 23, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	think I need to... (Preview) wow, ok - that was great. I just had a real conversation with my bf, in the moment. It was great. He did what I do and sat down on the kitchen step stool to process in the moment. I did interrupt when he said, ' "...and that makes me feel... : ' - I said no the doctor told me at 16 - you have to own your own r...	kitty	2	539	Nov 23, 2010 by tlcate
	I got an email (Preview) I got an email from my husband this a.m. about his behaviour this weekend. He says we aren't 'integrating' as a couple, which is a lie.He never apologized, he never said thank you for all I did this weekend. He seemed to throw me aside, he wants to pretend that I never existed. He wants less stress in his l...	eyeswideopen	17	661	Nov 23, 2010 by eyeswideopen
	Anxiety is starting to lift! (Preview) This site has been such a God send to me. I seem to come here three or four times a day and read post to gain understanding. I'm actually starting to feel a peace and calmness that hasn't been there in so very, very long. Its an awesome feeling. I used to get severe anxiety attacks on my drive home from work ne...	sarebaer	5	575	Nov 23, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	I survived yesterday (Preview) I managed to survive yesterday's early Thanksgiving celebration. AH drank as anticipated, but for the most part I was able to detach. He drank quite a bit of wine, as that is what he reeked of the most when I would be near him. There were a couple of times he tried to get me to drink with him. I just gave a...	kimmy1975	7	790	Nov 23, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	IS A FETISH to a physical part of the body be an ADDICTION... (Preview) I made a post earlier about my big issue, my husband has a fetish for a physical part of women body, how delicate this could be if anyone knows? can this be categorize as a fetish? if it's something that the person take to the extreme to view it everyday? My husband has the weirdest fetish which I really ca...	wife2010	7	913	Nov 23, 2010 by wife2010
	sex addiction (Preview) Dear Family, I just want to share my ESH regarding sex addiction since it has come up a couple of times here on the board. First of all, an addictive personality may use more than one "drug." In my experience, there are many things we can grab onto in an attempt to escape reality. Since...	glad lee	2	2553	Nov 22, 2010 by Aloha
	Writing a letter to my husband in rehab (Preview) So I am supposed to write a letter about how his addiction has affected me. I am not that introspective and not sure what the mood of the letter should be, so I just started writing. It kind of came out rather negative, so I wanted to get an opinion from others that have had to do this or know something about r...	giantsfan	10	7560	Nov 22, 2010 by giantsfan
	Tuesday Morning Meeting 11/23 (Preview) I am unable to chair this Tuesday's Morning meeting ( 11/23) I will be traveling for the Holiday and am hoping someone can step in a cover me. Thank you If I happen to have internet access at the vacation home we are renting will be able to see you all on Thursday. If not then would like to wish all of you a Very...	xeno59	1	527	Nov 22, 2010 by Samsgram
	cutting off the finances - take 2 (Preview) Hi all, I wrote back in March about cutting off the finances from my husband (search on "cutting off the finances" and just wanted to drop a line that I followed through with the "plan" I added to the end of the post, but pretty soon, I got lax, things got a bit better/then a bit wors...	tlynna	2	435	Nov 22, 2010 by lyndebi
	how to quit smoking????? (Preview) I am 22 year old young girl and I have some severe issue with my smoking habit. My mom wants me to quit it,I really dont know how to. I feel depressed and lost when I try stopping it for a day even. I wish I get out of this deadly habit soon. Pls advice.	assh8	4	872	Nov 22, 2010 by nmike
	The Pain Begins again... (Preview) Welp, Coming up on Year two since I lost my Afather to this Gut Stabbin Disease, and yes I know all was his choices, and all was his Disease, however, knowing these things does not lesson the fact that Tomorrow I will have to yet again, Celebrate his birthday with out him... Tomorrow My Afather would have...	Jozie	5	847	Nov 22, 2010 by tlynna
	Smoking, relapse and separation. (Preview) Well I write this having decided to leave my spouse. We reconciled ten months ago after a year apart. He is a recovered addict and alcoholic. I have let him know I am leaving him and it breaks my heart to be doing so. He has been going through the mental and emotional process of relapse but has not physic...	clep	11	1640	Nov 22, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Literally taking Inventory (Preview) Well - here I am on the other side of a LOT of big things happening. Daughter turned 18, graduated, I just turned 40 2 days ago, we both applied and were accepted to college and am still in the process of unpacking my first house that I bought completely on my own. Wow. Exhausted, exhilarated, scared, ang...	tlcate	7	1333	Nov 22, 2010 by Karilynn
	alcoholism causes communication problems (Preview) Thanks to everyone who replied to my last post. I am thinking a lot these days and keep repeating the serenity prayer to myself. About sharing my recovery with bf. I guess I just want to share anything that is meaningful to me because there has been a real lack of sharing and communication because of t...	melissimala	3	554	Nov 21, 2010 by GailMichelle
	he's mad at me? really? (Preview) I went to my very first Al Anon meeting, it was good it helped dispel the panic and anger I felt. I got back to the apartment and I wasn't feeling good, I'm struggling with a bad cold. He called me and wanted to know if I would be meeting him with my boys for lunch with his aunt. I was really looking forward t...	eyeswideopen	6	1130	Nov 21, 2010 by eyeswideopen
	Husband keeps breaking promises (Preview) Well, let me see how I joined this site at the beginning of the month, which I explained my issue. Married for closed to 9 years and two years after living together with husband I discovered his drug addiction. But I decided to continue in the relationship hoping he woudl let go crack cocaine and commit...	wife2010	5	1385	Nov 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Urgent advice needed for a newbie (Preview) I feel so overwhelmed and over my head here and I hope that someone can give me some advice. I was married to an alcoholic that did nothing to hide his addiction. In fact, he used it as a weapon: we both knew how violent he would get when he was drunk, so to 'put me in my place' whenever I tried to talk to him ab...	eyeswideopen	10	1169	Nov 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	I'm losing my parents and need advice (Preview) Hello, I'm a 36 year-old male who grew up in a reasonably non-alcoholic household. My parents divorced when I was 13. My dad was a heavy social drinker but quit cold turkey about 10 years ago for health reasons. My mom rarely drank but started to drink when her second husband retired and started seekin...	Tony_A	3	869	Nov 21, 2010 by lyndebi
	Feeling impatient (Preview) Ex-a rattled my chain this evening, and I verbally abused him. I have apologised as I do not like to get like that. I am resentful because he does nothing for our son who is a great kid and I am not well at the moment. It is not serious, just a touch of flu but I really could have done with some help. My cat, yes, h...	maire rua	4	678	Nov 21, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Big drinkers staying with me for Thanksgiving (Preview) Hi, all: Any tips for this situation? Friends from out of town are coming to our house to stay the Friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving. Long story short -- they 'invited themselves.' I did establish a boundary and told them we couldn't host them until AFTER Thanksgiving. Perhaps I should hav...	Cloudsea	8	891	Nov 21, 2010 by Cloudsea
	Update On My Best Friends Wife (Preview) On August 9th I posted asking for prayers for my best friends wife who was diaganosed with stomach cancer. I just received a call will the wonderful news that all cancer cells are gone. Thank you HP. Gearld was aware that I had asked members of MIP for their prayers and he told me to thank each and every...	RLC	5	1044	Nov 21, 2010 by Karilynn
	surgey update..... (Preview) Well surgery went well....strange thing though, my wife pointed out that there was no script for antibiotics. though that was automatic with surgery. Now they did have an IV antibiotic going before and during surgery, it is arthroscopic as well...but I'll call tomorrow...we didnt' realize it u...	mjhyankees	6	560	Nov 21, 2010 by Suzannah
	On to the next stage... (Preview) So my Abf has now made the decision that he wants to quit smoking and drinking and grow up. I am very supportive and once in awhile make reference to our future, but do not ask how he is doing as we live separately and I am not around to see how it's going. If he wants to update me, then he can. I am not in cont...	member922	4	595	Nov 20, 2010 by tlcate
	Feeling absolutely steam rolled with the realization of alcoholic (Preview) After reading the first two "Getting Them Sober" there in those pages I found the root of my broken relationship. I feel so exhausted, physically, mentally and emotionally. I have cried a lot this morning, greiving the loss of an idea, facing the reality. I figure I need to let these feelin...	movinforward	5	624	Nov 20, 2010 by tlcate
	I allowed my daughter to get ahold of my emotions today. (Preview) I feel bad that her daughter (my grandaughter) is once again witnessing me breaking down in tears when her mother starts in with the threats and starts tearing me down. It all started when she asked if I would meet her at 3:00 today to pick up my gd. She was to be at a gas station at that time. I hurried to be d...	Samsgram	6	1282	Nov 20, 2010 by Bettina
	stuck (Preview) I have been sick with the flu for a week. I need to get up and around to doing things I need to do. I feel drained and useless. I really want to crawl in bed and go back to sleep. I resent the fact that my husband and my dad get to do whatever they want at my expense. It feels like they have to beat me down in order to d...	kath	2	768	Nov 20, 2010 by Jerry F
	Need some ESH, and possibly a reality check (Preview) Hi everyone...I'm hoping for some feedback from you all, since I value your experiences so much on this journey. Although I am here largely because of my AH, my brother also has a long history of addiction. Amazingly, I learned to detach on my own from him several years ago. He does not bring his subst...	stephaniej	7	843	Nov 20, 2010 by kitty
	Having a difficult time tonight (Preview) I don't know why I am struggling tonight, but I am. I am trying very hard to detach, but I am finding myself getting really angry, but it isn't doing me any good. To start off, my AH told me he took off work at 3pm today, but he didn't get home till 5:30pm because he went out with a co-worker to shoot pool and d...	kimmy1975	8	1086	Nov 20, 2010 by kimmy1975
	Feeling so much better--recovery is an option! (Preview) I am feeling so much better now that I am recovering very well. Since I last posted, I have been feeling better every day! I am also attending my Weds. night meeting after not going for awhile. I am so grateful that I have a few meetings to go to plus this wonderful forum. Nothing seems to be going wrong late...	Hoot Nanny	3	679	Nov 19, 2010 by clep
	detachment (Preview) My loved one binge drinks and he has been on one for over a week. Fortunately, he is away - so I haven't had to see him. I was quite upset earlier this week- but went to a F to F meeting on Wed and my higher power just got the detachment thing going for me. I'm staying out of it. My son who is a recovering alcoh...	brb446	4	565	Nov 19, 2010 by clep
	Nervous about this weekend (Preview) This weekend we are celebrating Thanksgiving early. We have family coming in from out of town (all AH's side of the family). We are hosting it at our house. We started this tradition last year. Everyone comes to our house, and everyone helps out in preparing the meal. We don't eat a traditional Th...	kimmy1975	2	904	Nov 19, 2010 by abbyal
	So Glad I Said Yes! (Preview) Ok I had told ya's about finding a childhood friend and that I was Nervous about meeting her, because she was one of the Very Few "Kids" that were in my alcoholic home and seen and knew how my family worked... because her family was not far from the same... WELL, I had put off calling her, and wo...	Jozie	4	507	Nov 19, 2010 by hotrod
	Learning more and more to detach from the disease (Preview) Yesterday was a hard day. I started out being yelled at my ex-husband for something dumb. I fell for it and joined the arguement when I shouldn't have. I realized through talking with my sponsor that I needed to find a boundary and to not fall into the trap of letting him hook me in to the fight. I am not...	sunflowergirl	5	700	Nov 19, 2010 by ythannah
	Made it to the first meeting (Preview) Went to the the first meeting last night and it went well. Lots of heartbreaking stories there and lots of people that know exactly what you are going through and they are not judgemental. What a nice thing. I almost backed out but pushed myself to go. My alcoholic boyfirend, while he says he has qui...	melissimala	6	582	Nov 19, 2010 by SteppingUp
	Crying in front of others (Preview) Tricia's post that had a couple sentences about movies made me think of this - I didn't want to hijack her thread so I'm starting my own. :) Seems like that my whole life, I haven't been able to cry in front of most other people. I can cry by myself, and I can cry in front of my AH, but not my mother or other peo...	White Rabbit	9	822	Nov 19, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Advice.. (Preview) Long story short my Dad is currently on a major binge. I don't know if he is still drinking or tying to "come down" as he refers to it. Currently he is alone in one of our vacant rental properties just drinking and drinking. I told my mother and sister that I would go today and check on him to see if...	Kaysi	6	589	Nov 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Validation (Preview) Hi, everyone: I have been coming here for several months and find the posts and the dialogue and support here so beneficial. I also go to f2f meetings. I thought I would share something I struggled with and which I have had a realization about -- validation. My AH is now in recovery. When he first went...	Cloudsea	13	1040	Nov 18, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Thanks everyone.... (Preview) For the kind thoughts, words and ideas. Surgery is 6 Am tomorrow!!!! Just found out the time. Of course things are more hectic than usual today as Murphy's Law has once again reared it's ugly head. Wife late from school, have to drive daughter to MIL then race back to work. Daughter does all her hom...	mjhyankees	4	397	Nov 18, 2010 by xeno59
	Still very new to the process (Preview) I have been with my AH for 11 years. Through the first few years he was very physically and mentaly abusive and would disappear while on a binge with friends for days. After a few arrest for domestic violance and short tme in jail he did stop the physical abuse. He still drank everyday but certain thi...	sarebaer	4	796	Nov 18, 2010 by xeno59
	Always growing in this program (Preview) Well this past weekend was our AlAnon conference. I do believe we had over 350 in attendance and it was a beautiful, faith filled weekend....actually that was the topic-FAITH-Fantasic Adventures in Trusting Higher Power. Well due to where I am with my uncle's health situation, I have been questio...	shellyj123	2	482	Nov 18, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Truly enjoying the holidays (Preview) Hi, This is my first post in this forum. I have been in Alanon for 6 years. Making progress slowly, but surely. This is the time of the year we always start talking about preparing for the holidays. I use to busy myself decorating and baking and building myself up for the wonderful holiday that never...	Pilgrim Girl	3	870	Nov 18, 2010 by kitty
	something I noticed about the way I was feeling (Preview) This morning I was feeling generally happy. I feel like that more now since my son has moved away. The problem is this. As soon as I noticed I was feeling happy I turned my focus on to his life and his problems. Well, needless to say, that sent my happy feeling right down the drain. Why do you think I did that?...	Gailey	7	763	Nov 18, 2010 by Jerry F
	Post regarding anger - anyone like this? (Preview) So I can't deal with or express anger. Period. No gray areas. I can watch a bloody war movie and not flinch. I watch a chick flic, like I did tonight - Love Happens - and I see someone about to get mad - I don't just cover my eyes - I leave the room. Funny thing is - my reaction to sadness or fear or anything unco...	tlcate	9	896	Nov 18, 2010 by dori711
	Chemical Dependency assessment for a. fiance today - ESH appreciated (Preview) He made the appointment, to help our relationship and get an official word on the issue. We're going together, at his therapist's suggestion (eval. is not with his therapist). I'm really nervous and hope it will go well, be useful, be healing, etc. Anyone been through this, know what to expect? Advic...	Imogen421	11	916	Nov 17, 2010 by Imogen421
	Gently gently...I am too hard on myself (Preview) After yesterday's debarcle I can report that further communications with my daughter led to my succeeding in getting a turn around and a half apology...I say half because she may have said the words but it needs to be actioned too and I have to wait and see for that. However, I realise I am being too harsh...	Suzannah	6	825	Nov 17, 2010 by mjhyankees
	More on body language (Preview) I am learning to keep my body language in check. Each moment is a moment that I have to do this though. I hope to one day not have to constantly check in with myself and say "don't give away so much info with what your body is saying". I also have become more conscious of other people's body lan...	sunflowergirl	3	741	Nov 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Al-Anon Is A Common Sense Program (Humor) (Preview) A man had been going to his therapist for over a year twice a week at $80 per visit. His problem, since his childhood he had reocurring nightmares that someone or something was sleeping under his bed at night. His concern had taken a tremendous toll on him he never got a good nights sleep. His therapist...	RLC	7	912	Nov 17, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	More progress (Preview) I seem to be having a lot of breakthroughs recently, a couple of which I've already posted about. Last night was another breakthrough night for me. I went to my f2f meeting last night (which was an excellent meeting on the topic of taking care of yourself), and when I came home, AH didn't seem like hims...	kimmy1975	5	666	Nov 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Homework's done... (Preview) I get to go out and play. Aloha Ohana (family) and just had to post this before finishing up the day here on the Big Island. I was thinking about all the fun I got to have in the past several years of the Al-Anon program. Why I feel sooo much freer, happy and confident. It's because when you practice, pr...	Jerry F	7	754	Nov 17, 2010 by canadianguy
	Feel a negative mood coming on.... (Preview) I've been feeling ok, grateful even lately and generally satisfied and happy. But I'm feeling my mood turn little by little....some things I think are causing it are: 1. i"m having knee surgery (arthro, torn cartlidge) on Thursday and I'm a little afraid. Also I feel concerned that I'll be si...	mjhyankees	7	653	Nov 17, 2010 by xeno59
	desperately need advice (Preview) Hi, my son is 23 still lives at home and for the last 3 years has been drinking 7 nights a week, he works part time but had the oppurtunity to work full time for the last 6 years and has repeatedly turned it down, he pays minimal board and lodging, and says his life is comforatable, he wont acknowledge any res...	failte	8	866	Nov 17, 2010 by hotrod
	at war with resentment (Preview) My ABF is in recovery and really trying to fight his illness. He is doing really well and sems to be committed to his recovery. My resentmets are getting hold og me again he has been in there 3 months and has another 3 months to go it is quite an intense programme. He is allowed home now at weekends and we ar...	Tracy	6	935	Nov 17, 2010 by kitty
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