Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

SwitchedOnLotus · SwitchedOnLotus

Just found out my AA sister is being forced to go into rehab. Trying to find out more, just posting for T-Day support. Also beginning to see (thanks to Getting Them Sober) how huge and far-reaching the personal aspects of living in an A family are for all of us in my family group, and how these traits wil...

glad · glad

I saw a little bird on my back patio this morning and these thoughts came to mind. That wonderful "in love" feeling that makes humans feel like they are walking on clouds can only truely be achieved by the relationship I have with my higher power and the knowledge that he values me personal...

clep · clep

I have been waiting on pins and needles for my new materials to come in. After the few emotional blows that this week has brought I found myself in a place I have never been in. It was quite scary and I was not too happy about it. My home group wasn't until last night so I have been reading off here lots, lis...

roxie13 · roxie13

new here, married to an alcoholic, daughter of an alcoholic

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was really really struggling with letting go of my illusion of "control" over my A, and her drinking.... I was a "fixer" at work, and many of us (perhaps men even moreso) are "fixers" in everyday life, and are often rewarded as such.... So after a couple of years of...

clep · clep

Three posts in a few days now. Now the smoking issue comes up again. I recently took back the finances. All the credit is in my name as are the bills. He doesn't have a bank account and deposits his work cheques into mine so he does not have a week hold. I can deposit and withdraw lots at a time. I made...

clep · clep

Well I have been living and breathing my al-anon program consistently. It is the only thing keeping me sane living with the A in my life. I have seen the signs of relapse as they are happening for about six months now. In the last eight years or so he has always had a preoccupation with other women. He...

clep · clep

The sober A in my life started his new job yesterday. I have another post up about it. His sponsor told him it turns out that as long as he is not doing anything to arouse suspicion or jealousy with his behavior all is well. When he has regained his need to stare at other women he starts his new job back in...

living_with_my_a · living_with_my_a

Praying for myself and anyone else on here who is not having Thanksgiving with their family or who has no one to be with on Thanksgiving. Sending you virtual goodies and blessings. Carol

Karilynn · Karilynn

"Gratitude is the sign of noble souls." ~ Aesop ((((Family)))), Wanted to wish all of you & your families a very Happy Thanksgiving. I am beyond grateful for everyone of you and this amazing recovery program. Today I am keeping it simple. This was my holiday with my beloved Tim and I m...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Happy Thanksgiving MIP Family go create some stuff to be grateful for and of course do some Turkey and fixings and all of that. LOL I am on a diet and I will break it on Thanksgiving. I will be with family...my sons and daughter and grand sons and grand daughters and one great grand daughter who I'll be a...

stomoxys · stomoxys

I am new to the forum but have been attending al-anon since late June. My AH joined AA in June and has been working his program. I have been working through al-anon and was just beginning to think that things were getting different before they get better. My AH told me there weeks ago he was quiting AA. An...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Several folks here have described using this tool...tending to one's own side of the street. I am finding this to be extremely helpful, and it's something I've been actually visualizing today as I work to get past some neuroses. I plan to use it, and many other tools you all have taught me, as I enjoy thi...

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

Hey everyone. I haven't posted in a while. I stopped talking to my a ex about a week ago. I broke up with him a while ago but we were still talking. His using was getting out of control so I stopped talking to him altogether. It's probably the most painful thing I've ever had to do. I'm dealing with it pretty w...

lyndebi · lyndebi

Not a good one of Brimley but he looks like her but white. These guys keep me sane with their insanity. Since A left I have only lived with my animals. My dogs are a HUGE part of my world. To be honest sare, I have lost two men I loved very much, one to death and one to insanity from a brain surgery/med relapse' M...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

Once my AH said that AA tells its members to "accidentally" leave things around for the non-drinkers to read. For months I have come home to find the internet open to a certain page, a print out on the table, a book lying on the bed, etc. It drives me crazy. Tonight I was looking at our email and t...

RockaBetty · RockaBetty

Hello, I am new to this message board. I joined quite a while ago and chatted with some extremely helpful and supportive members but I let myself get swept up in my husband's lies. Whether they were intentional lies or not, I believed him when he said he could get better on his own. I'd tell you what happe...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Hi all; with the holidays coming, I'm looking for some ESH on affirmations and serenity statements you say to yourselves when things get tough. I find myself generally looking foward to the weekend, and I feel good about how I have been detaching and refusing to enter into meaningless conflict. I'...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

Just looking for some ES&H on this subject... how did you/do you q-tip? I tend to do that so much of the time.... I am trying to find out what you do to not take things personally. As a codependent person like myself, with a history of childhood sexual abuse and witnessing other abuse that happene...

MargaretK · MargaretK

I have been wanting to ask this question in my chat room but got disconnected. I am really having connection problems, maybe because I am far away and using a proxy server. Anyway, I am new to this program and want to know how you cope with situations that your AH creates that are embarrassing. For exa...

Momof2Jacks · Momof2Jacks

My husband and I have been married for 11 years (and together for 19). Just over two years we split up for a year after he hit rock bottom and ended up in rehab for alcoholism. His mother, brother, and sister all blamed me for this. Which I KNOW is untrue. So we are back together and doing really well for all t...

logan · logan

Hi, Just signed into the website, I am really hoping I'll find some direction here. I don't where to begin to get some help in handling my AH. I just seem to fight about his drinking with him everynight and it is getting worse. I don't want our marriage to end but I think that is our future. Hopefully I...

melissimala · melissimala

I have several new books and have comitted to a regular exercise program. That's some me progress and it feels good. My new books are Of Course You're Angry by Rosellini/Worden and Emotional Sobriety and Trauma & Addiction by Tian Dayton. Started reading Trauma & Addiction. Just as ou...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I was at a meeting not long ago where the topic was Listen and Learn. Although it's one of our slogans on the wall, I guess I'd kinda just read over it and focused on the more widely repeated "Let go and let God" and "One day at a time." Listen and learn is a great slogan, and it was a gr...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I know this can be a tuff time of year for many of us. Myself included... But I will be strong and know that my Higher Power is handling what needs to be handled. I really don`t know how to elaborate on my HP but I know I must believe that there is something out there bigger than me that controls things in this...

kath · kath

I spoke up today in the kitchen at a church function. Usually when they start their gossip, I just listen and get mad, sometimes I join in with it. I also meant what I said without saying it mean. My first reaction in my head to their gossip was to scream at them and say how wrong they were. Instead I said tha...

living_with_my_a · living_with_my_a

Hi, Carol, here, alanon member. I have been coming to online alanon for a little over a year now and would like to lead meetings, however I understand there are criteria for me to meet first. I think I heard about having to do face to face for six months? I've done that. Been online for six months, but not...

Aloha · Aloha

I was really floored last night by my feelings. It's really silly, for the most part, because I experienced these feelings just from watching a reality TV show! I've been watching "Ice Road Truckers - Deadliest Roads" (I find it fascinating... they're driving these scary dangerous road...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Made my first online meeting yesterday and stayed to chat and was accosted and given a hw assignment (kidding about being accosted....I never got so much attention in my life!) Anyway I was asked to write a list of ten things I am powerless over and those that I have power over. It was suggested that I th...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

I have learned in alanon that I am not supposed to keep track of how much AH drinks. I have found this to be a hard thing not to do for some reason. I kind of got a taste of my own medicine so to speak last night. Both AH and I smoke cigarettes, however, AH has decided to cut down a lot so he can eventually quit...

kitty · kitty

wow, ok - that was great. I just had a real conversation with my bf, in the moment. It was great. He did what I do and sat down on the kitchen step stool to process in the moment. I did interrupt when he said, ' "...and that makes me feel... : ' - I said no the doctor told me at 16 - you have to own your own r...

eyeswideopen · eyeswideopen

I got an email from my husband this a.m. about his behaviour this weekend. He says we aren't 'integrating' as a couple, which is a lie.He never apologized, he never said thank you for all I did this weekend. He seemed to throw me aside, he wants to pretend that I never existed. He wants less stress in his l...

sarebaer · sarebaer

This site has been such a God send to me. I seem to come here three or four times a day and read post to gain understanding. I'm actually starting to feel a peace and calmness that hasn't been there in so very, very long. Its an awesome feeling. I used to get severe anxiety attacks on my drive home from work ne...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

I managed to survive yesterday's early Thanksgiving celebration. AH drank as anticipated, but for the most part I was able to detach. He drank quite a bit of wine, as that is what he reeked of the most when I would be near him. There were a couple of times he tried to get me to drink with him. I just gave a...

wife2010 · wife2010

I made a post earlier about my big issue, my husband has a fetish for a physical part of women body, how delicate this could be if anyone knows? can this be categorize as a fetish? if it's something that the person take to the extreme to view it everyday? My husband has the weirdest fetish which I really ca...

glad lee · glad lee

Dear Family, I just want to share my ESH regarding sex addiction since it has come up a couple of times here on the board. First of all, an addictive personality may use more than one "drug." In my experience, there are many things we can grab onto in an attempt to escape reality. Since...

giantsfan · giantsfan

So I am supposed to write a letter about how his addiction has affected me. I am not that introspective and not sure what the mood of the letter should be, so I just started writing. It kind of came out rather negative, so I wanted to get an opinion from others that have had to do this or know something about r...

xeno59 · xeno59

I am unable to chair this Tuesday's Morning meeting ( 11/23) I will be traveling for the Holiday and am hoping someone can step in a cover me. Thank you If I happen to have internet access at the vacation home we are renting will be able to see you all on Thursday. If not then would like to wish all of you a Very...

tlynna · tlynna

Hi all, I wrote back in March about cutting off the finances from my husband (search on "cutting off the finances" and just wanted to drop a line that I followed through with the "plan" I added to the end of the post, but pretty soon, I got lax, things got a bit better/then a bit wors...

assh8 · assh8

I am 22 year old young girl and I have some severe issue with my smoking habit. My mom wants me to quit it,I really dont know how to. I feel depressed and lost when I try stopping it for a day even. I wish I get out of this deadly habit soon. Pls advice.

Jozie · Jozie

Welp, Coming up on Year two since I lost my Afather to this Gut Stabbin Disease, and yes I know all was his choices, and all was his Disease, however, knowing these things does not lesson the fact that Tomorrow I will have to yet again, Celebrate his birthday with out him... Tomorrow My Afather would have...

clep · clep

Well I write this having decided to leave my spouse. We reconciled ten months ago after a year apart. He is a recovered addict and alcoholic. I have let him know I am leaving him and it breaks my heart to be doing so. He has been going through the mental and emotional process of relapse but has not physic...

tlcate · tlcate

Well - here I am on the other side of a LOT of big things happening. Daughter turned 18, graduated, I just turned 40 2 days ago, we both applied and were accepted to college and am still in the process of unpacking my first house that I bought completely on my own. Wow. Exhausted, exhilarated, scared, ang...

melissimala · melissimala

Thanks to everyone who replied to my last post. I am thinking a lot these days and keep repeating the serenity prayer to myself. About sharing my recovery with bf. I guess I just want to share anything that is meaningful to me because there has been a real lack of sharing and communication because of t...

eyeswideopen · eyeswideopen

I went to my very first Al Anon meeting, it was good it helped dispel the panic and anger I felt. I got back to the apartment and I wasn't feeling good, I'm struggling with a bad cold. He called me and wanted to know if I would be meeting him with my boys for lunch with his aunt. I was really looking forward t...

wife2010 · wife2010

Well, let me see how I joined this site at the beginning of the month, which I explained my issue. Married for closed to 9 years and two years after living together with husband I discovered his drug addiction. But I decided to continue in the relationship hoping he woudl let go crack cocaine and commit...

eyeswideopen · eyeswideopen

I feel so overwhelmed and over my head here and I hope that someone can give me some advice. I was married to an alcoholic that did nothing to hide his addiction. In fact, he used it as a weapon: we both knew how violent he would get when he was drunk, so to 'put me in my place' whenever I tried to talk to him ab...

Tony_A · Tony_A

Hello, I'm a 36 year-old male who grew up in a reasonably non-alcoholic household. My parents divorced when I was 13. My dad was a heavy social drinker but quit cold turkey about 10 years ago for health reasons. My mom rarely drank but started to drink when her second husband retired and started seekin...

maire rua · maire rua

Ex-a rattled my chain this evening, and I verbally abused him. I have apologised as I do not like to get like that. I am resentful because he does nothing for our son who is a great kid and I am not well at the moment. It is not serious, just a touch of flu but I really could have done with some help. My cat, yes, h...

Cloudsea · Cloudsea

Hi, all: Any tips for this situation? Friends from out of town are coming to our house to stay the Friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving. Long story short -- they 'invited themselves.' I did establish a boundary and told them we couldn't host them until AFTER Thanksgiving. Perhaps I should hav...

RLC · RLC

On August 9th I posted asking for prayers for my best friends wife who was diaganosed with stomach cancer. I just received a call will the wonderful news that all cancer cells are gone. Thank you HP. Gearld was aware that I had asked members of MIP for their prayers and he told me to thank each and every...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Well surgery went well....strange thing though, my wife pointed out that there was no script for antibiotics. though that was automatic with surgery. Now they did have an IV antibiotic going before and during surgery, it is arthroscopic as well...but I'll call tomorrow...we didnt' realize it u...

member922 · member922

So my Abf has now made the decision that he wants to quit smoking and drinking and grow up. I am very supportive and once in awhile make reference to our future, but do not ask how he is doing as we live separately and I am not around to see how it's going. If he wants to update me, then he can. I am not in cont...

movinforward · movinforward

After reading the first two "Getting Them Sober" there in those pages I found the root of my broken relationship. I feel so exhausted, physically, mentally and emotionally. I have cried a lot this morning, greiving the loss of an idea, facing the reality. I figure I need to let these feelin...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I feel bad that her daughter (my grandaughter) is once again witnessing me breaking down in tears when her mother starts in with the threats and starts tearing me down. It all started when she asked if I would meet her at 3:00 today to pick up my gd. She was to be at a gas station at that time. I hurried to be d...

kath · kath

I have been sick with the flu for a week. I need to get up and around to doing things I need to do. I feel drained and useless. I really want to crawl in bed and go back to sleep. I resent the fact that my husband and my dad get to do whatever they want at my expense. It feels like they have to beat me down in order to d...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Hi everyone...I'm hoping for some feedback from you all, since I value your experiences so much on this journey. Although I am here largely because of my AH, my brother also has a long history of addiction. Amazingly, I learned to detach on my own from him several years ago. He does not bring his subst...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

I don't know why I am struggling tonight, but I am. I am trying very hard to detach, but I am finding myself getting really angry, but it isn't doing me any good. To start off, my AH told me he took off work at 3pm today, but he didn't get home till 5:30pm because he went out with a co-worker to shoot pool and d...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am feeling so much better now that I am recovering very well. Since I last posted, I have been feeling better every day! I am also attending my Weds. night meeting after not going for awhile. I am so grateful that I have a few meetings to go to plus this wonderful forum. Nothing seems to be going wrong late...

brb446 · brb446

My loved one binge drinks and he has been on one for over a week. Fortunately, he is away - so I haven't had to see him. I was quite upset earlier this week- but went to a F to F meeting on Wed and my higher power just got the detachment thing going for me. I'm staying out of it. My son who is a recovering alcoh...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	AA Sister is Going into Rehab Today - T-Day Surprise (Preview) Just found out my AA sister is being forced to go into rehab. Trying to find out more, just posting for T-Day support. Also beginning to see (thanks to Getting Them Sober) how huge and far-reaching the personal aspects of living in an A family are for all of us in my family group, and how these traits wil...	SwitchedOnLotus	5	729	Nov 26, 2010 by SwitchedOnLotus
	Peace and Love what it means to me today (Preview) I saw a little bird on my back patio this morning and these thoughts came to mind. That wonderful "in love" feeling that makes humans feel like they are walking on clouds can only truely be achieved by the relationship I have with my higher power and the knowledge that he values me personal...	glad	2	706	Nov 26, 2010 by Jerry F
	Finally they are here. (Preview) I have been waiting on pins and needles for my new materials to come in. After the few emotional blows that this week has brought I found myself in a place I have never been in. It was quite scary and I was not too happy about it. My home group wasn't until last night so I have been reading off here lots, lis...	clep	3	838	Nov 26, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	im new here, need support (Preview) new here, married to an alcoholic, daughter of an alcoholic	roxie13	5	857	Nov 26, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Step One - the weather analogy (Preview) I was really really struggling with letting go of my illusion of "control" over my A, and her drinking.... I was a "fixer" at work, and many of us (perhaps men even moreso) are "fixers" in everyday life, and are often rewarded as such.... So after a couple of years of...	canadianguy	5	1259	Nov 26, 2010 by SwitchedOnLotus
	Finances. Man this is getting hard now. (Preview) Three posts in a few days now. Now the smoking issue comes up again. I recently took back the finances. All the credit is in my name as are the bills. He doesn't have a bank account and deposits his work cheques into mine so he does not have a week hold. I can deposit and withdraw lots at a time. I made...	clep	13	730	Nov 25, 2010 by clep
	This is just too much now. (Preview) Well I have been living and breathing my al-anon program consistently. It is the only thing keeping me sane living with the A in my life. I have seen the signs of relapse as they are happening for about six months now. In the last eight years or so he has always had a preoccupation with other women. He...	clep	4	743	Nov 25, 2010 by danielle0516
	I can't quit crying. (Preview) The sober A in my life started his new job yesterday. I have another post up about it. His sponsor told him it turns out that as long as he is not doing anything to arouse suspicion or jealousy with his behavior all is well. When he has regained his need to stare at other women he starts his new job back in...	clep	6	677	Nov 25, 2010 by danielle0516
	Happy or Sad, Happy Thanksgiving, board (Preview) Praying for myself and anyone else on here who is not having Thanksgiving with their family or who has no one to be with on Thanksgiving. Sending you virtual goodies and blessings. Carol	living_with_my_a	6	896	Nov 25, 2010 by living_with_my_a
	Happy Thanksgiving! (Preview) "Gratitude is the sign of noble souls." ~ Aesop ((((Family)))), Wanted to wish all of you & your families a very Happy Thanksgiving. I am beyond grateful for everyone of you and this amazing recovery program. Today I am keeping it simple. This was my holiday with my beloved Tim and I m...	Karilynn	3	1050	Nov 25, 2010 by Jerry F
	Reaching out...reaching in (Preview) Happy Thanksgiving MIP Family go create some stuff to be grateful for and of course do some Turkey and fixings and all of that. LOL I am on a diet and I will break it on Thanksgiving. I will be with family...my sons and daughter and grand sons and grand daughters and one great grand daughter who I'll be a...	Jerry F	14	1237	Nov 25, 2010 by ythannah
	How to Detach (Preview) I am new to the forum but have been attending al-anon since late June. My AH joined AA in June and has been working his program. I have been working through al-anon and was just beginning to think that things were getting different before they get better. My AH told me there weeks ago he was quiting AA. An...	stomoxys	11	2060	Nov 25, 2010 by tlcate
	Tending to My Side of the Street (Preview) Several folks here have described using this tool...tending to one's own side of the street. I am finding this to be extremely helpful, and it's something I've been actually visualizing today as I work to get past some neuroses. I plan to use it, and many other tools you all have taught me, as I enjoy thi...	stephaniej	5	1039	Nov 24, 2010 by hotrod
	Lonely (Preview) Hey everyone. I haven't posted in a while. I stopped talking to my a ex about a week ago. I broke up with him a while ago but we were still talking. His using was getting out of control so I stopped talking to him altogether. It's probably the most painful thing I've ever had to do. I'm dealing with it pretty w...	Brookiebabe222	8	982	Nov 24, 2010 by Bettina
	Jellyhead for Sarah (Preview) Not a good one of Brimley but he looks like her but white. These guys keep me sane with their insanity. Since A left I have only lived with my animals. My dogs are a HUGE part of my world. To be honest sare, I have lost two men I loved very much, one to death and one to insanity from a brain surgery/med relapse' M...	lyndebi	8	543	Nov 24, 2010 by hotrod
	Is this REALLY an AA thing? (Preview) Once my AH said that AA tells its members to "accidentally" leave things around for the non-drinkers to read. For months I have come home to find the internet open to a certain page, a print out on the table, a book lying on the bed, etc. It drives me crazy. Tonight I was looking at our email and t...	looking_for_peace	9	881	Nov 24, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Introducing Myself (Preview) Hello, I am new to this message board. I joined quite a while ago and chatted with some extremely helpful and supportive members but I let myself get swept up in my husband's lies. Whether they were intentional lies or not, I believed him when he said he could get better on his own. I'd tell you what happe...	RockaBetty	5	910	Nov 24, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Need some ESH regarding (Preview) Hi all; with the holidays coming, I'm looking for some ESH on affirmations and serenity statements you say to yourselves when things get tough. I find myself generally looking foward to the weekend, and I feel good about how I have been detaching and refusing to enter into meaningless conflict. I'...	stephaniej	5	805	Nov 24, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Please help me... how do you QTIP????? (Preview) Just looking for some ES&H on this subject... how did you/do you q-tip? I tend to do that so much of the time.... I am trying to find out what you do to not take things personally. As a codependent person like myself, with a history of childhood sexual abuse and witnessing other abuse that happene...	sunflowergirl	10	1485	Nov 24, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Embarrassing situations (Preview) I have been wanting to ask this question in my chat room but got disconnected. I am really having connection problems, maybe because I am far away and using a proxy server. Anyway, I am new to this program and want to know how you cope with situations that your AH creates that are embarrassing. For exa...	MargaretK	8	965	Nov 24, 2010 by MargaretK
	Home for the Holidays? (Preview) My husband and I have been married for 11 years (and together for 19). Just over two years we split up for a year after he hit rock bottom and ended up in rehab for alcoholism. His mother, brother, and sister all blamed me for this. Which I KNOW is untrue. So we are back together and doing really well for all t...	Momof2Jacks	4	794	Nov 24, 2010 by Momof2Jacks
	New to website (Preview) Hi, Just signed into the website, I am really hoping I'll find some direction here. I don't where to begin to get some help in handling my AH. I just seem to fight about his drinking with him everynight and it is getting worse. I don't want our marriage to end but I think that is our future. Hopefully I...	logan	8	945	Nov 24, 2010 by Momof2Jacks
	Got some new books to help me get back in touch with me. Work in progress. (Preview) I have several new books and have comitted to a regular exercise program. That's some me progress and it feels good. My new books are Of Course You're Angry by Rosellini/Worden and Emotional Sobriety and Trauma & Addiction by Tian Dayton. Started reading Trauma & Addiction. Just as ou...	melissimala	3	1068	Nov 24, 2010 by tlcate
	Listen and Learn (Preview) I was at a meeting not long ago where the topic was Listen and Learn. Although it's one of our slogans on the wall, I guess I'd kinda just read over it and focused on the more widely repeated "Let go and let God" and "One day at a time." Listen and learn is a great slogan, and it was a gr...	White Rabbit	5	4391	Nov 24, 2010 by tlcate
	Happy Thanksgiving Everyone (Preview) I know this can be a tuff time of year for many of us. Myself included... But I will be strong and know that my Higher Power is handling what needs to be handled. I really don`t know how to elaborate on my HP but I know I must believe that there is something out there bigger than me that controls things in this...	Samsgram	2	771	Nov 23, 2010 by Jerry F
	I spoke up (Preview) I spoke up today in the kitchen at a church function. Usually when they start their gossip, I just listen and get mad, sometimes I join in with it. I also meant what I said without saying it mean. My first reaction in my head to their gossip was to scream at them and say how wrong they were. Instead I said tha...	kath	5	833	Nov 23, 2010 by living_with_my_a
	I would like to help out here sometimes at meetings. But I don't meet all the criteria. (Preview) Hi, Carol, here, alanon member. I have been coming to online alanon for a little over a year now and would like to lead meetings, however I understand there are criteria for me to meet first. I think I heard about having to do face to face for six months? I've done that. Been online for six months, but not...	living_with_my_a	3	689	Nov 23, 2010 by living_with_my_a
	Feeling responsible for others... ! (Preview) I was really floored last night by my feelings. It's really silly, for the most part, because I experienced these feelings just from watching a reality TV show! I've been watching "Ice Road Truckers - Deadliest Roads" (I find it fascinating... they're driving these scary dangerous road...	Aloha	3	1942	Nov 23, 2010 by Jerry F
	Hw assignment.... (Preview) Made my first online meeting yesterday and stayed to chat and was accosted and given a hw assignment (kidding about being accosted....I never got so much attention in my life!) Anyway I was asked to write a list of ten things I am powerless over and those that I have power over. It was suggested that I th...	mjhyankees	2	422	Nov 23, 2010 by Samsgram
	Now I know what it feels like (Preview) I have learned in alanon that I am not supposed to keep track of how much AH drinks. I have found this to be a hard thing not to do for some reason. I kind of got a taste of my own medicine so to speak last night. Both AH and I smoke cigarettes, however, AH has decided to cut down a lot so he can eventually quit...	kimmy1975	5	947	Nov 23, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	think I need to... (Preview) wow, ok - that was great. I just had a real conversation with my bf, in the moment. It was great. He did what I do and sat down on the kitchen step stool to process in the moment. I did interrupt when he said, ' "...and that makes me feel... : ' - I said no the doctor told me at 16 - you have to own your own r...	kitty	2	576	Nov 23, 2010 by tlcate
	I got an email (Preview) I got an email from my husband this a.m. about his behaviour this weekend. He says we aren't 'integrating' as a couple, which is a lie.He never apologized, he never said thank you for all I did this weekend. He seemed to throw me aside, he wants to pretend that I never existed. He wants less stress in his l...	eyeswideopen	17	701	Nov 23, 2010 by eyeswideopen
	Anxiety is starting to lift! (Preview) This site has been such a God send to me. I seem to come here three or four times a day and read post to gain understanding. I'm actually starting to feel a peace and calmness that hasn't been there in so very, very long. Its an awesome feeling. I used to get severe anxiety attacks on my drive home from work ne...	sarebaer	5	610	Nov 23, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	I survived yesterday (Preview) I managed to survive yesterday's early Thanksgiving celebration. AH drank as anticipated, but for the most part I was able to detach. He drank quite a bit of wine, as that is what he reeked of the most when I would be near him. There were a couple of times he tried to get me to drink with him. I just gave a...	kimmy1975	7	831	Nov 23, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	IS A FETISH to a physical part of the body be an ADDICTION... (Preview) I made a post earlier about my big issue, my husband has a fetish for a physical part of women body, how delicate this could be if anyone knows? can this be categorize as a fetish? if it's something that the person take to the extreme to view it everyday? My husband has the weirdest fetish which I really ca...	wife2010	7	952	Nov 23, 2010 by wife2010
	sex addiction (Preview) Dear Family, I just want to share my ESH regarding sex addiction since it has come up a couple of times here on the board. First of all, an addictive personality may use more than one "drug." In my experience, there are many things we can grab onto in an attempt to escape reality. Since...	glad lee	2	2595	Nov 22, 2010 by Aloha
	Writing a letter to my husband in rehab (Preview) So I am supposed to write a letter about how his addiction has affected me. I am not that introspective and not sure what the mood of the letter should be, so I just started writing. It kind of came out rather negative, so I wanted to get an opinion from others that have had to do this or know something about r...	giantsfan	10	7642	Nov 22, 2010 by giantsfan
	Tuesday Morning Meeting 11/23 (Preview) I am unable to chair this Tuesday's Morning meeting ( 11/23) I will be traveling for the Holiday and am hoping someone can step in a cover me. Thank you If I happen to have internet access at the vacation home we are renting will be able to see you all on Thursday. If not then would like to wish all of you a Very...	xeno59	1	565	Nov 22, 2010 by Samsgram
	cutting off the finances - take 2 (Preview) Hi all, I wrote back in March about cutting off the finances from my husband (search on "cutting off the finances" and just wanted to drop a line that I followed through with the "plan" I added to the end of the post, but pretty soon, I got lax, things got a bit better/then a bit wors...	tlynna	2	473	Nov 22, 2010 by lyndebi
	how to quit smoking????? (Preview) I am 22 year old young girl and I have some severe issue with my smoking habit. My mom wants me to quit it,I really dont know how to. I feel depressed and lost when I try stopping it for a day even. I wish I get out of this deadly habit soon. Pls advice.	assh8	4	913	Nov 22, 2010 by nmike
	The Pain Begins again... (Preview) Welp, Coming up on Year two since I lost my Afather to this Gut Stabbin Disease, and yes I know all was his choices, and all was his Disease, however, knowing these things does not lesson the fact that Tomorrow I will have to yet again, Celebrate his birthday with out him... Tomorrow My Afather would have...	Jozie	5	888	Nov 22, 2010 by tlynna
	Smoking, relapse and separation. (Preview) Well I write this having decided to leave my spouse. We reconciled ten months ago after a year apart. He is a recovered addict and alcoholic. I have let him know I am leaving him and it breaks my heart to be doing so. He has been going through the mental and emotional process of relapse but has not physic...	clep	11	1692	Nov 22, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Literally taking Inventory (Preview) Well - here I am on the other side of a LOT of big things happening. Daughter turned 18, graduated, I just turned 40 2 days ago, we both applied and were accepted to college and am still in the process of unpacking my first house that I bought completely on my own. Wow. Exhausted, exhilarated, scared, ang...	tlcate	7	1378	Nov 22, 2010 by Karilynn
	alcoholism causes communication problems (Preview) Thanks to everyone who replied to my last post. I am thinking a lot these days and keep repeating the serenity prayer to myself. About sharing my recovery with bf. I guess I just want to share anything that is meaningful to me because there has been a real lack of sharing and communication because of t...	melissimala	3	594	Nov 21, 2010 by GailMichelle
	he's mad at me? really? (Preview) I went to my very first Al Anon meeting, it was good it helped dispel the panic and anger I felt. I got back to the apartment and I wasn't feeling good, I'm struggling with a bad cold. He called me and wanted to know if I would be meeting him with my boys for lunch with his aunt. I was really looking forward t...	eyeswideopen	6	1169	Nov 21, 2010 by eyeswideopen
	Husband keeps breaking promises (Preview) Well, let me see how I joined this site at the beginning of the month, which I explained my issue. Married for closed to 9 years and two years after living together with husband I discovered his drug addiction. But I decided to continue in the relationship hoping he woudl let go crack cocaine and commit...	wife2010	5	1426	Nov 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Urgent advice needed for a newbie (Preview) I feel so overwhelmed and over my head here and I hope that someone can give me some advice. I was married to an alcoholic that did nothing to hide his addiction. In fact, he used it as a weapon: we both knew how violent he would get when he was drunk, so to 'put me in my place' whenever I tried to talk to him ab...	eyeswideopen	10	1210	Nov 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	I'm losing my parents and need advice (Preview) Hello, I'm a 36 year-old male who grew up in a reasonably non-alcoholic household. My parents divorced when I was 13. My dad was a heavy social drinker but quit cold turkey about 10 years ago for health reasons. My mom rarely drank but started to drink when her second husband retired and started seekin...	Tony_A	3	909	Nov 21, 2010 by lyndebi
	Feeling impatient (Preview) Ex-a rattled my chain this evening, and I verbally abused him. I have apologised as I do not like to get like that. I am resentful because he does nothing for our son who is a great kid and I am not well at the moment. It is not serious, just a touch of flu but I really could have done with some help. My cat, yes, h...	maire rua	4	719	Nov 21, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Big drinkers staying with me for Thanksgiving (Preview) Hi, all: Any tips for this situation? Friends from out of town are coming to our house to stay the Friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving. Long story short -- they 'invited themselves.' I did establish a boundary and told them we couldn't host them until AFTER Thanksgiving. Perhaps I should hav...	Cloudsea	8	932	Nov 21, 2010 by Cloudsea
	Update On My Best Friends Wife (Preview) On August 9th I posted asking for prayers for my best friends wife who was diaganosed with stomach cancer. I just received a call will the wonderful news that all cancer cells are gone. Thank you HP. Gearld was aware that I had asked members of MIP for their prayers and he told me to thank each and every...	RLC	5	1086	Nov 21, 2010 by Karilynn
	surgey update..... (Preview) Well surgery went well....strange thing though, my wife pointed out that there was no script for antibiotics. though that was automatic with surgery. Now they did have an IV antibiotic going before and during surgery, it is arthroscopic as well...but I'll call tomorrow...we didnt' realize it u...	mjhyankees	6	599	Nov 21, 2010 by Suzannah
	On to the next stage... (Preview) So my Abf has now made the decision that he wants to quit smoking and drinking and grow up. I am very supportive and once in awhile make reference to our future, but do not ask how he is doing as we live separately and I am not around to see how it's going. If he wants to update me, then he can. I am not in cont...	member922	4	634	Nov 20, 2010 by tlcate
	Feeling absolutely steam rolled with the realization of alcoholic (Preview) After reading the first two "Getting Them Sober" there in those pages I found the root of my broken relationship. I feel so exhausted, physically, mentally and emotionally. I have cried a lot this morning, greiving the loss of an idea, facing the reality. I figure I need to let these feelin...	movinforward	5	661	Nov 20, 2010 by tlcate
	I allowed my daughter to get ahold of my emotions today. (Preview) I feel bad that her daughter (my grandaughter) is once again witnessing me breaking down in tears when her mother starts in with the threats and starts tearing me down. It all started when she asked if I would meet her at 3:00 today to pick up my gd. She was to be at a gas station at that time. I hurried to be d...	Samsgram	6	1324	Nov 20, 2010 by Bettina
	stuck (Preview) I have been sick with the flu for a week. I need to get up and around to doing things I need to do. I feel drained and useless. I really want to crawl in bed and go back to sleep. I resent the fact that my husband and my dad get to do whatever they want at my expense. It feels like they have to beat me down in order to d...	kath	2	807	Nov 20, 2010 by Jerry F
	Need some ESH, and possibly a reality check (Preview) Hi everyone...I'm hoping for some feedback from you all, since I value your experiences so much on this journey. Although I am here largely because of my AH, my brother also has a long history of addiction. Amazingly, I learned to detach on my own from him several years ago. He does not bring his subst...	stephaniej	7	883	Nov 20, 2010 by kitty
	Having a difficult time tonight (Preview) I don't know why I am struggling tonight, but I am. I am trying very hard to detach, but I am finding myself getting really angry, but it isn't doing me any good. To start off, my AH told me he took off work at 3pm today, but he didn't get home till 5:30pm because he went out with a co-worker to shoot pool and d...	kimmy1975	8	1129	Nov 20, 2010 by kimmy1975
	Feeling so much better--recovery is an option! (Preview) I am feeling so much better now that I am recovering very well. Since I last posted, I have been feeling better every day! I am also attending my Weds. night meeting after not going for awhile. I am so grateful that I have a few meetings to go to plus this wonderful forum. Nothing seems to be going wrong late...	Hoot Nanny	3	718	Nov 19, 2010 by clep
	detachment (Preview) My loved one binge drinks and he has been on one for over a week. Fortunately, he is away - so I haven't had to see him. I was quite upset earlier this week- but went to a F to F meeting on Wed and my higher power just got the detachment thing going for me. I'm staying out of it. My son who is a recovering alcoh...	brb446	4	604	Nov 19, 2010 by clep
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