Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jozie · Jozie

Hi All... Sorry I haven't been "Present" ON the Board Lately, but I have had a Pretty Crappy Go of things these Last 2-3 weeks... And Tho I am Doing my Best to Patient for HP's Will, I know at times I Slip and Need to Dust off & Start again... Cant Say I like it Much at All Really, but I'm Still Mo...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

So I'm trying so hard to turn off the obssession wheel that spins in my mind .. I am tired of being tired but as from my shares, I'm getting so much .. It's so funny that when I show up at meetings I really don't have to do anything but listen .. Recovery just comes and yet I feel the work of working through the em...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I've been going to Al Anon meetings for just over a year now. And this is really one of the most important things I've learned--if you are not happy with your life right now, in spite of all of the horrible things that may be happening, it is your problem and no one else's. It's that simple. Now, that being...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

i don't exactly remember my last share but i've been sharing in face to face meetings on feelings and recognising the inner child in me who stopped growing when she was obssessing on the alcoholics which you know woulda been like about 5 ? I love this program .. I've recognised so much through the awaren...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, I just wanted to share that I'm starting to see my part in the relationships I have. It is not easy seeing that I have caused as much pain and suffering , as they have done to myself. It is not good. This may be time to start my inventory work. Oh my goodness, what a start. Tracey

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It was about five years ago that I first visited this board and it was a lifesaver for me. I found that in devoting all my time and energy to my then husband/addict I had no one else to talk to. This board gave me a place to come and share and learn that I wasn't alone, that everyone's story was almost the sam...

respect · respect

My husband and I are supposed to be separated. I got my own apartment in July but he has nowhere to stay so has been at my place the last week. Here I am at work. While he is home alone in my place (which makes me uncomfortable due to his past of stealing my things to sell). I am already mad because I go to work eve...

kris10 · kris10

So I usually do the online meetings here most mornings... My Abf knows I do them... Yesterday morning we got woke up by a 7am phone call from his "friend" wanting to go out for "breakfast".... I knew what it was really about, whatever, nothing I can do.. So he went and I jumped on my m...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

I had a recognition this week that I can read from the courage to change books, how alanon works, hope for today, one day at a time, 12 steps 12 traditions, etc.. over and over and always and still i hear something new .. it never siezes to amaze me .. the spiritual piece of this program .. well this week I had...

MDK · MDK

This past weekend I went to an Alanon retreat or round up. My first ever!!!! I was chosen to be a speaker and share my story. OMG!!! I started freaking!!! Not only was it my first round up it was my first time sharing my story!!!! I had RLC's books with me so I read and prayed. I felt him in the room with me when I...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I'm not here as much as I like, and only seem to be able to check in once a week or so. So many new members since I joined a few years back, and the reason I came isn't devasting my life anymore. I have come to acceptance about my ex. I never thought I'd be able to say that. My brother is an addict.. pot/pres...

nyc018 · nyc018

Surfingirl's post about mourning the life you wanted got me thinking. I've been in a low grade depression over the past few days. Ive been separated from my AH for 6 months. Last summer he was on a steep decline, culminating in a binge that drove him insane. And, after many warnings for absenteeism (a r...

whitedove · whitedove

I was married to an alcoholic for 40 years. He died two years ago and I thought that my problems with alcohol were over. I started a relationship with a recovering alcoholic just two months after I became a widow. I did not realize that just because he was not drinking that he was still an alcoholic. I co...

Kestrel57 · Kestrel57

I've become complacent recently working my program, I know I need to get back to working it dilligently. An exchange with my spouse today made me realize that I'm not as far along as I thought. Things have been going well, we're communicating nicely, we have a loving relationship. But I think I've be...

Julie3310 · Julie3310

So for most of you guys that replied to my previous post. It has been about a week and a half since I cut it off with my DA boyfriend. He has tried to get in touch with me but I ignore his 3rd party messangers. I have been happy because he has been out of sight and out of mind. I have kept telling myself there is b...

thetmdp · thetmdp

Hello, I don't really know how to start this. I'm not even sure if I should be here. But in my heart, I know there is a problem. My husband and I have been married for almost three years. When we first got together and after we got married, we would both drink, mostly socially and for fun. I obviously stoppe...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I feel filled with creativity. I have come alive. Too many coincidences have pushed me in this direction that can only be described as God showing me its okay to start... living. I am actually living. I am feeling so much. I have been watching alot of youtube videos of this band I really like and their mu...

tschanmm · tschanmm

I asked someone to be my sponsor last Sunday at my meeting. I called her on Monday at 8:00 p.m. as previously arranged, and no one answered, and so I left a message that I was hoping we could talk. She hasn't called back, and her daughter's voice was on the voice mail prompt. Her daughter said she'd ge...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all.... we were all rocked a couple of months ago with the sudden passing of our friend Rodney (RLC), and continue to miss him so much. Betty and I wanted to add another moderator to the mix early in the New Year, and the time now seems right.... Really pleased to announce that we have a new Board Modera...

Pushka · Pushka

This is probably one of my biggest character defects that I am staring in the face at the moment. Literally in my top 3 of keeps me from living life. Thankfully today is a good day for me on that level I did a lot of things to get misc stuff dealt with. It's not a minor issue as in let's put this off for a day th...

glad lee · glad lee

I thought I'd ask everyone what they do for FUN? (Remember that?!) Early in my recovery, my sponsor told me to stop my obsessive thinking... stop doing that squirrel cage thing-y, round and round in my head.... and do something "fun" instead. At the time, I was so clueless, growing up an...

MelB · MelB

I woke up today. So that's a start. I can't express my feelings of longing and desire. I can't express them because sometimes I don't think they matter. Is it normal for the alcoholic to shut down. To be unable to give what I need. Maybe it's not what I need. Maybe it's only what I want. I have been so sad rece...

stefani74 · stefani74

I have been lurking around and I have finally decided that YES maybe I do need Al-Anon more that I wanted to admit. I have an ABF who is really struggling right now and I am finding it hard to cope. He gets to wanting a drink really bad and he just shuts himself out from the rest of the world. He feels like I am...

MidwesternMom · MidwesternMom

I posted last week that I asked my husband to leave our house for awhile. This weekend we had a long talk. I agreed to let him come back home if he would go to rehab. We did a lot of research online over the weekend and drove past a few of the local centers. He promised to make calls about his insurance cove...

1 day at a time · 1 day at a time

im in a rut and want to get out.co-dependancy.my husband is now 9 months sober by the grace of god.my kids are now teens and dont need me as much.and my grandparents whom i spent many years looking after passed away this year.my kids are busy having there own lives my husband has his meeting(which i am hap...

LostToday · LostToday

Reading this was extremely helpful for me. This explains all my AH's bad behaviors.... http://www.youarenotcrazy.com/

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

earlier this week I posted for the first time about my (musician) AH; he just got back to town, has a gig in the city where we live (he'd been gone a week) and slipped in that there's a good chance the guys would hang out after the gig (they're done playing by 12:30am). I think he is paving the way to stay out a...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

My best friend died, leaving behind her husband and seven year old. This is so devastating, and is making me realize again how powerless we are over others. There is nothing anyone could have done to make her stay. We can't control other people at all. I just feel life is so unpredictable and not turning...

rehprof · rehprof

after crying most of the weekend...I got a text during a meeting yesterday from AH. "I want to end this" -- I tried to talk to him over the weekend (big mistake) -- and all he kept saying was that he had to protect himself -- and that is why his lawyer demanded more than half my income in alimony. H...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hey there, Hubby has been down on work lately. Not much on for him. I have been thinking.. well that means the smoking increases. I accepted that for what it is. I was wrong. I am not 100% sure cos I haven't really been checking up that much but since we got back from holidays I think he has maybe smoked t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Real quick: I have been struggling w/ muscle pain & aches for over a week now. I am hoping that it is a minor condition. Other than that, I am doing very well these days. I am just grateful for the life I live & the opportunities I have to grow! Kathleen

stephaniej · stephaniej

So this morning my AH really, really fought getting out of bed to be with our son so I could get to work (he did this last week, too, every single day--so I would wait and wait and wait, and finally just take the boy to day care myself). I was pleasant but firm about my need to leave, saying that he had promise...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Some people watch TV; I watch youtube videos. I ran across a youtuve video this evening that I think takes the woo-woo out of meditation. So many think it's where you wrap yourself in a loin cloth and lie on a bed of nails Okay, I'm stretching the truth. But you get my drift. This young woman seems to be a...

apesgirl · apesgirl

I did it!! Tonight I went to my first meeting. I was so scared walking in, but I want to heal so bad that I took a deep breath and walked in

(YAY me!) I have never felt so welcomed, so much love and understanding from complete strangers... Today my Q told me she might go stay with her mom for a while until she...

cider · cider

My husband of 5 years (we're both 37) suffered from depression for donkeys years. His mother emotioanlly abused him and she was an alcoholic. He has been drinking for past 3 years (in the evenings and daytime at weekends), normally cider, but it clashes with his depression tablets and he acts weird af...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

but feel like i have been doing 20 yrs before major life change! I am seriously considering leaving my marriage of 20 yrs. Binge drinker AH; we have 3 kids and it's tough for me to decide to make this change. He is a musician and is constantly around booze--that definitely ups the ante! I am trying to l...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I'm sick with cold symptoms, didn't go to church. A few minutes ago my 26y.o. grandson called and asked me if I could pick him up from the hospital, said he had gone there this morning by ambulance. I told him I was to sick and to call his mother, she is A/A and they don't get alone. I called her after it kep...

parfait624 · parfait624

I haven't been on here in a while. I've been taking time to myself. Detaching from my exABF and trying to live my life in a positive and constructive way. I haven't had a conversation with him in six months and that was also the last time I seen him in person. Our last break up was not a good one. He told m...

km93 · km93

I'm worried my mom has a drinking problem. Every late afternoon/early evening she starts drinking, and usually has about 3 glasses of wine. If you don't say anything to her she's ok, but if you say even the smallest thing to contradict her it sets her off. She starts shouting and being sarcastic and cyn...

glad · glad

God has a plan, it hurts my head with I try to figure it out, he wants me just to trust him... MY mind gets all this 100% ,, MY feelings are a different matter, tears still come sometimes when I don't want them to,, I wish it would stop, it's been a year and a half since he moved out and 9 mths since we stopped eve...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

So I did my step 4-7 a while back and was ready to start moving on but then these character defects come popping up like stubborn weeds. This woman at work has been talking about how much she dislikes me and this really urks me.. I feel like we are in highschool and she is at least twenty years older than me....

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

This website that I share with you today is not Al-Anon. I ran across this website during my initial separation with my now ex-husband (we are now reunited after divorcing). I recall sitting in my sparsely furnishes apartment, early in the morning with my favorite cup of tea, kicking back and viewi...

apesgirl · apesgirl

For the past two days I have been feeling so alone. I finally sat down with my partner what was going on with us. She told me that she has to focus on herself right now, she said she needs to be selfish about her recovery... I have given her nothing but my support and understanding, helping her find meeting p...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

Wondering if anyone has ever taken anti-anxiety pills .. It's been several years in my program and I have gotten alot and I still Feel the way I do ..., etc.. The obssessions are still here and sometimes .. I can't shut them off; it's balance in that it's not Just a matter of choice. If I couldn't do it mysel...

vicky7214 · vicky7214

My 17 year old son justed entered rehab for the 3rd time. As you know each time things are worse than the last. I need someone to talk to who I can relate. I have scanned through the topics on this site. Most topics are on A and are with the spouses. Can anybody help

rehprof · rehprof

I'm still reeling from mediation yesterday. Here I am taking care of EVERYTHING...paying ALL the bills...doing all the repairs on the house, working 60 hours a week....and barely making it on my salary (I owe my parents 7k for loans for a new refrig and my divorce lawyer) Meanwhile, my AH has been unem...

stephaniej · stephaniej

On Sunday, after my husband's horrible outburst of Saturday night, he was clearly in a shame spiral. He apologized repeatedly for his behavior (I told him I appreciated his apology, and made it clear I didn't want to keep discussing it over and over again). At one point he asked me "do you still...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I come here and read daily and not always able to post, but it helps keep my mind straight and I meet with my sponsor one night a week. I have 2 weekly meetings, but lately I have worked those days without going. Now my internet provider went bankrupt it is really sad and no one else is up and running out by me y...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

My 2 adult A/A children both live nearby, as a matter of fact they live together. I'm a retired 71 y.o. woman who live alone and love it. My 16 y.o. grandson just recently moved back home with his mother. My son is on ssi due to a disability, (progressively crippling) he is far from that now. He uses al...

johnmarcia · johnmarcia

Our 17 year old son is a HS junior and will be 18 in May. This year he changed. He smokes pot. Keep sodd hours. Does not clean his room, do his chores, never gets himself up and most upsetting he is very disrespectful to my wife and me. He seems very anxious about college process but doesn't so too much to i...

MelB · MelB

Sometimes, at night, I cry myself to sleep. It used to be because I was worried I couldn't go through another relapse or deal with another lie etc. Now I cry because he's doing better and I'm still sick. That we can't be a "healthy" couple because of me. I didn't even realize I was sick...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

It's way past my usual bedtime. I'm all wired up from staying up to bake! So here I am on the Net. I ran across a website about what to never regret and it got me thinking about what I never regret. I never regret - - reading to my sons when they were young. I have such good memories of back then. I never reg...

atheos · atheos

Already told my sponsor the "positive traits" part of my step 4... tomorrow's time for the scary part! My list of things to tell my sponsor is ready... 15 things to discuss in all... one character defect I am terrified of discussing, followed by 13 that aren't that hard to admit to, and then o...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

My HP is guiding me to proceed with my passions in life. I used to think what's the point? I used to think if no one read my poetry or saw my photographs or bought my paintings then what was the point? I feel so entirely different now. I am creating for me and for me, alone. A friend once told me "you sh...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

So I have shared I have an Intern. I have shared I stopped growing when I began obssessing on the addicts and alcoholics in my life and that for me that was around 5. Seeing how I stayed stuck in feeling 5. My siblings moved out (My parenting came from them) I was alone. For years I thought I was abandoned and...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP Family I have posted the 5 th Step to the Step Work Board one day early Please join us there: http://stepwork.activeboard.com/. It is a powerful experience to read and share your ESH. The Steps are the road to recovery. I heard a quote once (cannot remember the source) it goes like this...

rehprof · rehprof

Divorce is a long process in my state...and this week, on Friday I have mandatory mediation. AH will get (by law) 1/2 my retirement...which he intends to live on since he has not worked in 2 years (he lives with his sister since I told him to leave a year ago november). He tells me he is entitled to alimony (...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

How are you at setting boundaries and how well do you communicate them? I went to dinner with a friend last night and she said the first thing I need to do is forgive. Well, yea, that would probably be helpful, LOL. But, we really spent a lot of time talking about forgiveness and how hard it is for 2 broke...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Winter is finally here! I am frustrated by the fact that it has almost been a week since I have been on here. I am suffering from too much snow & unable to get out much. I haven't been to a decent meeting in a week either. Does anyone out there feel like I do? I was worried that I was going to end up like a bear...

Hope4Peace · Hope4Peace

My AH has been sober nearly one year after drinking since his teenage years. He's had clinical depression for nearly as long, though he was officially diagnosed well into our marriage. He drank despite warnings from his therapist. He stopped seeing the therapist. I admit to years of enabling both th...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Sometimes Barely Gettin By.... (Preview) Hi All... Sorry I haven't been "Present" ON the Board Lately, but I have had a Pretty Crappy Go of things these Last 2-3 weeks... And Tho I am Doing my Best to Patient for HP's Will, I know at times I Slip and Need to Dust off & Start again... Cant Say I like it Much at All Really, but I'm Still Mo...	Jozie	3	376	Jan 28, 2012 by hotrod
	Obssession (Preview) So I'm trying so hard to turn off the obssession wheel that spins in my mind .. I am tired of being tired but as from my shares, I'm getting so much .. It's so funny that when I show up at meetings I really don't have to do anything but listen .. Recovery just comes and yet I feel the work of working through the em...	MeTwo2	3	417	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	If you're not happy, it's on you... (Preview) I've been going to Al Anon meetings for just over a year now. And this is really one of the most important things I've learned--if you are not happy with your life right now, in spite of all of the horrible things that may be happening, it is your problem and no one else's. It's that simple. Now, that being...	usedtobeanyer	6	479	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Sharing (Preview) i don't exactly remember my last share but i've been sharing in face to face meetings on feelings and recognising the inner child in me who stopped growing when she was obssessing on the alcoholics which you know woulda been like about 5 ? I love this program .. I've recognised so much through the awaren...	MeTwo2	3	391	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	My Part!!!!! (Preview) Hi, I just wanted to share that I'm starting to see my part in the relationships I have. It is not easy seeing that I have caused as much pain and suffering , as they have done to myself. It is not good. This may be time to start my inventory work. Oh my goodness, what a start. Tracey	Tracey C	4	557	Jan 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Been a long time... (Preview) It was about five years ago that I first visited this board and it was a lifesaver for me. I found that in devoting all my time and energy to my then husband/addict I had no one else to talk to. This board gave me a place to come and share and learn that I wasn't alone, that everyone's story was almost the sam...	carolinagirl	5	539	Jan 27, 2012 by Michelle814
	Husbands demands (Preview) My husband and I are supposed to be separated. I got my own apartment in July but he has nowhere to stay so has been at my place the last week. Here I am at work. While he is home alone in my place (which makes me uncomfortable due to his past of stealing my things to sell). I am already mad because I go to work eve...	respect	9	681	Jan 27, 2012 by pinkchip
	Is this ME??? (Preview) So I usually do the online meetings here most mornings... My Abf knows I do them... Yesterday morning we got woke up by a 7am phone call from his "friend" wanting to go out for "breakfast".... I knew what it was really about, whatever, nothing I can do.. So he went and I jumped on my m...	kris10	10	599	Jan 27, 2012 by kris10
	Missing my past tonight .. But then .. (Preview) I had a recognition this week that I can read from the courage to change books, how alanon works, hope for today, one day at a time, 12 steps 12 traditions, etc.. over and over and always and still i hear something new .. it never siezes to amaze me .. the spiritual piece of this program .. well this week I had...	MeTwo2	2	302	Jan 27, 2012 by lightblue2
	I hiked a mountain!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) This past weekend I went to an Alanon retreat or round up. My first ever!!!! I was chosen to be a speaker and share my story. OMG!!! I started freaking!!! Not only was it my first round up it was my first time sharing my story!!!! I had RLC's books with me so I read and prayed. I felt him in the room with me when I...	MDK	10	309	Jan 27, 2012 by MDK
	"I'm dying..." or not (Preview) I'm not here as much as I like, and only seem to be able to check in once a week or so. So many new members since I joined a few years back, and the reason I came isn't devasting my life anymore. I have come to acceptance about my ex. I never thought I'd be able to say that. My brother is an addict.. pot/pres...	Loupiness	4	449	Jan 27, 2012 by Loupiness
	Conflicting Feelings (Preview) Surfingirl's post about mourning the life you wanted got me thinking. I've been in a low grade depression over the past few days. Ive been separated from my AH for 6 months. Last summer he was on a steep decline, culminating in a binge that drove him insane. And, after many warnings for absenteeism (a r...	nyc018	9	625	Jan 27, 2012 by Jerry F
	New to Al-Anon (Preview) I was married to an alcoholic for 40 years. He died two years ago and I thought that my problems with alcohol were over. I started a relationship with a recovering alcoholic just two months after I became a widow. I did not realize that just because he was not drinking that he was still an alcoholic. I co...	whitedove	10	327	Jan 27, 2012 by Jerry F
	Back Sliding (Preview) I've become complacent recently working my program, I know I need to get back to working it dilligently. An exchange with my spouse today made me realize that I'm not as far along as I thought. Things have been going well, we're communicating nicely, we have a loving relationship. But I think I've be...	Kestrel57	5	399	Jan 27, 2012 by Kestrel57
	His trial is tomorrow, trying to keep strong (Preview) So for most of you guys that replied to my previous post. It has been about a week and a half since I cut it off with my DA boyfriend. He has tried to get in touch with me but I ignore his 3rd party messangers. I have been happy because he has been out of sight and out of mind. I have kept telling myself there is b...	Julie3310	7	491	Jan 27, 2012 by carolinagirl
	New here... (Preview) Hello, I don't really know how to start this. I'm not even sure if I should be here. But in my heart, I know there is a problem. My husband and I have been married for almost three years. When we first got together and after we got married, we would both drink, mostly socially and for fun. I obviously stoppe...	thetmdp	6	350	Jan 27, 2012 by danni
	The more I let go, the more I receive. (Preview) I feel filled with creativity. I have come alive. Too many coincidences have pushed me in this direction that can only be described as God showing me its okay to start... living. I am actually living. I am feeling so much. I have been watching alot of youtube videos of this band I really like and their mu...	Michelle814	2	524	Jan 27, 2012 by Very Very Tired
	sponsorship (Preview) I asked someone to be my sponsor last Sunday at my meeting. I called her on Monday at 8:00 p.m. as previously arranged, and no one answered, and so I left a message that I was hoping we could talk. She hasn't called back, and her daughter's voice was on the voice mail prompt. Her daughter said she'd ge...	tschanmm	9	360	Jan 26, 2012 by tschanmm
	New Board Moderator (Preview) Hi all.... we were all rocked a couple of months ago with the sudden passing of our friend Rodney (RLC), and continue to miss him so much. Betty and I wanted to add another moderator to the mix early in the New Year, and the time now seems right.... Really pleased to announce that we have a new Board Modera...	canadianguy	13	515	Jan 26, 2012 by Christy
	Procrastination (Preview) This is probably one of my biggest character defects that I am staring in the face at the moment. Literally in my top 3 of keeps me from living life. Thankfully today is a good day for me on that level I did a lot of things to get misc stuff dealt with. It's not a minor issue as in let's put this off for a day th...	Pushka	15	1642	Jan 26, 2012 by hotrod
	What do you do for FUN? (Preview) I thought I'd ask everyone what they do for FUN? (Remember that?!) Early in my recovery, my sponsor told me to stop my obsessive thinking... stop doing that squirrel cage thing-y, round and round in my head.... and do something "fun" instead. At the time, I was so clueless, growing up an...	glad lee	15	940	Jan 26, 2012 by Green Eyes
	Why do I want so much? (Preview) I woke up today. So that's a start. I can't express my feelings of longing and desire. I can't express them because sometimes I don't think they matter. Is it normal for the alcoholic to shut down. To be unable to give what I need. Maybe it's not what I need. Maybe it's only what I want. I have been so sad rece...	MelB	9	593	Jan 25, 2012 by amills4294
	New and confused! (Preview) I have been lurking around and I have finally decided that YES maybe I do need Al-Anon more that I wanted to admit. I have an ABF who is really struggling right now and I am finding it hard to cope. He gets to wanting a drink really bad and he just shuts himself out from the rest of the world. He feels like I am...	stefani74	8	556	Jan 25, 2012 by stefani74
	He (Reluctantly) Agreed To Rehab (Preview) I posted last week that I asked my husband to leave our house for awhile. This weekend we had a long talk. I agreed to let him come back home if he would go to rehab. We did a lot of research online over the weekend and drove past a few of the local centers. He promised to make calls about his insurance cove...	MidwesternMom	11	495	Jan 25, 2012 by pinkchip
	lost (Preview) im in a rut and want to get out.co-dependancy.my husband is now 9 months sober by the grace of god.my kids are now teens and dont need me as much.and my grandparents whom i spent many years looking after passed away this year.my kids are busy having there own lives my husband has his meeting(which i am hap...	1 day at a time	5	397	Jan 25, 2012 by 1 day at a time
	Good Info About Bad Behavior (Preview) Reading this was extremely helpful for me. This explains all my AH's bad behaviors.... http://www.youarenotcrazy.com/	LostToday	1	346	Jan 25, 2012 by Tracey C
	fair warning... (Preview) earlier this week I posted for the first time about my (musician) AH; he just got back to town, has a gig in the city where we live (he'd been gone a week) and slipped in that there's a good chance the guys would hang out after the gig (they're done playing by 12:30am). I think he is paving the way to stay out a...	yanksfan51	4	396	Jan 25, 2012 by yanksfan51
	Death of a friend (Preview) My best friend died, leaving behind her husband and seven year old. This is so devastating, and is making me realize again how powerless we are over others. There is nothing anyone could have done to make her stay. We can't control other people at all. I just feel life is so unpredictable and not turning...	GreenerGrass	12	518	Jan 24, 2012 by grammie
	update (Preview) after crying most of the weekend...I got a text during a meeting yesterday from AH. "I want to end this" -- I tried to talk to him over the weekend (big mistake) -- and all he kept saying was that he had to protect himself -- and that is why his lawyer demanded more than half my income in alimony. H...	rehprof	4	380	Jan 24, 2012 by stephaniej
	where was my reaction? (Preview) Hey there, Hubby has been down on work lately. Not much on for him. I have been thinking.. well that means the smoking increases. I accepted that for what it is. I was wrong. I am not 100% sure cos I haven't really been checking up that much but since we got back from holidays I think he has maybe smoked t...	Lindaoakford	2	336	Jan 24, 2012 by LostToday
	Pain & more pain! (Preview) Real quick: I have been struggling w/ muscle pain & aches for over a week now. I am hoping that it is a minor condition. Other than that, I am doing very well these days. I am just grateful for the life I live & the opportunities I have to grow! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	0	262	Jan 23, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Sent my regrets to that fight I was invited to (Preview) So this morning my AH really, really fought getting out of bed to be with our son so I could get to work (he did this last week, too, every single day--so I would wait and wait and wait, and finally just take the boy to day care myself). I was pleasant but firm about my need to leave, saying that he had promise...	stephaniej	10	355	Jan 24, 2012 by pineapple
	Meditation - A Pathway to Inner Peace - Interested? (Preview) Some people watch TV; I watch youtube videos. I ran across a youtuve video this evening that I think takes the woo-woo out of meditation. So many think it's where you wrap yourself in a loin cloth and lie on a bed of nails Okay, I'm stretching the truth. But you get my drift. This young woman seems to be a...	GailMichelle	5	499	Jan 24, 2012 by GailMichelle
	My first al-anon meeting (Preview) I did it!! Tonight I went to my first meeting. I was so scared walking in, but I want to heal so bad that I took a deep breath and walked in (YAY me!) I have never felt so welcomed, so much love and understanding from complete strangers... Today my Q told me she might go stay with her mom for a while until she...	apesgirl	9	317	Jan 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Husband hiding alcohol causing my depression / anxiety (Preview) My husband of 5 years (we're both 37) suffered from depression for donkeys years. His mother emotioanlly abused him and she was an alcoholic. He has been drinking for past 3 years (in the evenings and daytime at weekends), normally cider, but it clashes with his depression tablets and he acts weird af...	cider	13	4432	Jan 24, 2012 by John
	new here, trying to do 6 mos before major life change.... (Preview) but feel like i have been doing 20 yrs before major life change! I am seriously considering leaving my marriage of 20 yrs. Binge drinker AH; we have 3 kids and it's tough for me to decide to make this change. He is a musician and is constantly around booze--that definitely ups the ante! I am trying to l...	yanksfan51	9	486	Jan 24, 2012 by yanksfan51
	Trying to keep my serenity (Preview) I'm sick with cold symptoms, didn't go to church. A few minutes ago my 26y.o. grandson called and asked me if I could pick him up from the hospital, said he had gone there this morning by ambulance. I told him I was to sick and to call his mother, she is A/A and they don't get alone. I called her after it kep...	Highlyfavored	3	318	Jan 24, 2012 by Highlyfavored
	What is going on?! (Preview) I haven't been on here in a while. I've been taking time to myself. Detaching from my exABF and trying to live my life in a positive and constructive way. I haven't had a conversation with him in six months and that was also the last time I seen him in person. Our last break up was not a good one. He told m...	parfait624	10	791	Jan 24, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	Help with Mom (Preview) I'm worried my mom has a drinking problem. Every late afternoon/early evening she starts drinking, and usually has about 3 glasses of wine. If you don't say anything to her she's ok, but if you say even the smallest thing to contradict her it sets her off. She starts shouting and being sarcastic and cyn...	km93	4	351	Jan 23, 2012 by danni
	As if I can hear God's voice. (Preview) God has a plan, it hurts my head with I try to figure it out, he wants me just to trust him... MY mind gets all this 100% ,, MY feelings are a different matter, tears still come sometimes when I don't want them to,, I wish it would stop, it's been a year and a half since he moved out and 9 mths since we stopped eve...	glad	8	508	Jan 23, 2012 by glad lee
	"someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality." (Preview) So I did my step 4-7 a while back and was ready to start moving on but then these character defects come popping up like stubborn weeds. This woman at work has been talking about how much she dislikes me and this really urks me.. I feel like we are in highschool and she is at least twenty years older than me....	Michelle814	4	1260	Jan 23, 2012 by Jackie11
	A Nice Website that Reinforces Al-Anon Teachings (Preview) This website that I share with you today is not Al-Anon. I ran across this website during my initial separation with my now ex-husband (we are now reunited after divorcing). I recall sitting in my sparsely furnishes apartment, early in the morning with my favorite cup of tea, kicking back and viewi...	GailMichelle	3	3804	Jan 23, 2012 by sookie
	Feelimg lonley and like I no longer matter (Preview) For the past two days I have been feeling so alone. I finally sat down with my partner what was going on with us. She told me that she has to focus on herself right now, she said she needs to be selfish about her recovery... I have given her nothing but my support and understanding, helping her find meeting p...	apesgirl	7	567	Jan 23, 2012 by glad
	Anyone ever been on Anti_anxiety pills ? (Preview) Wondering if anyone has ever taken anti-anxiety pills .. It's been several years in my program and I have gotten alot and I still Feel the way I do ..., etc.. The obssessions are still here and sometimes .. I can't shut them off; it's balance in that it's not Just a matter of choice. If I couldn't do it mysel...	MeTwo2	5	429	Jan 23, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	Help (Preview) My 17 year old son justed entered rehab for the 3rd time. As you know each time things are worse than the last. I need someone to talk to who I can relate. I have scanned through the topics on this site. Most topics are on A and are with the spouses. Can anybody help	vicky7214	3	403	Jan 22, 2012 by pinkchip
	How long before he can't hurt me anymore? (Preview) I'm still reeling from mediation yesterday. Here I am taking care of EVERYTHING...paying ALL the bills...doing all the repairs on the house, working 60 hours a week....and barely making it on my salary (I owe my parents 7k for loans for a new refrig and my divorce lawyer) Meanwhile, my AH has been unem...	rehprof	9	583	Jan 22, 2012 by kael1539
	"Do you still want to be married to me?" (Preview) On Sunday, after my husband's horrible outburst of Saturday night, he was clearly in a shame spiral. He apologized repeatedly for his behavior (I told him I appreciated his apology, and made it clear I didn't want to keep discussing it over and over again). At one point he asked me "do you still...	stephaniej	8	747	Jan 22, 2012 by yanksfan51
	I will be without internet for awhile and am worried (Preview) I come here and read daily and not always able to post, but it helps keep my mind straight and I meet with my sponsor one night a week. I have 2 weekly meetings, but lately I have worked those days without going. Now my internet provider went bankrupt it is really sad and no one else is up and running out by me y...	Breakingfree	5	365	Jan 22, 2012 by Debilyn
	What is wrong with this picture? (Preview) My 2 adult A/A children both live nearby, as a matter of fact they live together. I'm a retired 71 y.o. woman who live alone and love it. My 16 y.o. grandson just recently moved back home with his mother. My son is on ssi due to a disability, (progressively crippling) he is far from that now. He uses al...	Highlyfavored	3	829	Jan 22, 2012 by Debilyn
	What boundaries for a 17 year old son (Preview) Our 17 year old son is a HS junior and will be 18 in May. This year he changed. He smokes pot. Keep sodd hours. Does not clean his room, do his chores, never gets himself up and most upsetting he is very disrespectful to my wife and me. He seems very anxious about college process but doesn't so too much to i...	johnmarcia	4	1247	Jan 22, 2012 by Debilyn
	I need to express myself AGAIN (Preview) Sometimes, at night, I cry myself to sleep. It used to be because I was worried I couldn't go through another relapse or deal with another lie etc. Now I cry because he's doing better and I'm still sick. That we can't be a "healthy" couple because of me. I didn't even realize I was sick...	MelB	8	420	Jan 22, 2012 by Debilyn
	Never Regret (Preview) It's way past my usual bedtime. I'm all wired up from staying up to bake! So here I am on the Net. I ran across a website about what to never regret and it got me thinking about what I never regret. I never regret - - reading to my sons when they were young. I have such good memories of back then. I never reg...	GailMichelle	3	669	Jan 22, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Doing step 5 tomorrow... (Preview) Already told my sponsor the "positive traits" part of my step 4... tomorrow's time for the scary part! My list of things to tell my sponsor is ready... 15 things to discuss in all... one character defect I am terrified of discussing, followed by 13 that aren't that hard to admit to, and then o...	atheos	4	341	Jan 22, 2012 by Pushka
	I'm the Love of my Life (Preview) My HP is guiding me to proceed with my passions in life. I used to think what's the point? I used to think if no one read my poetry or saw my photographs or bought my paintings then what was the point? I feel so entirely different now. I am creating for me and for me, alone. A friend once told me "you sh...	Michelle814	10	640	Jan 22, 2012 by Michelle814
	Obssession & frozen fear (Ideals) Inner child (Preview) So I have shared I have an Intern. I have shared I stopped growing when I began obssessing on the addicts and alcoholics in my life and that for me that was around 5. Seeing how I stayed stuck in feeling 5. My siblings moved out (My parenting came from them) I was alone. For years I thought I was abandoned and...	MeTwo2	6	853	Jan 21, 2012 by lightblue2
	5th Step (Preview) Hi MIP Family I have posted the 5 th Step to the Step Work Board one day early Please join us there: http://stepwork.activeboard.com/. It is a powerful experience to read and share your ESH. The Steps are the road to recovery. I heard a quote once (cannot remember the source) it goes like this...	hotrod	1	250	Jan 21, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Lawyer today (Preview) Divorce is a long process in my state...and this week, on Friday I have mandatory mediation. AH will get (by law) 1/2 my retirement...which he intends to live on since he has not worked in 2 years (he lives with his sister since I told him to leave a year ago november). He tells me he is entitled to alimony (...	rehprof	12	512	Jan 21, 2012 by stopandchat
	Boundaries and communication (Preview) How are you at setting boundaries and how well do you communicate them? I went to dinner with a friend last night and she said the first thing I need to do is forgive. Well, yea, that would probably be helpful, LOL. But, we really spent a lot of time talking about forgiveness and how hard it is for 2 broke...	ilovedogs	11	854	Jan 21, 2012 by likemyheart
	do you feel like I do! (Preview) Winter is finally here! I am frustrated by the fact that it has almost been a week since I have been on here. I am suffering from too much snow & unable to get out much. I haven't been to a decent meeting in a week either. Does anyone out there feel like I do? I was worried that I was going to end up like a bear...	Hoot Nanny	0	279	Jan 21, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Sober Alcoholic with Depression (Preview) My AH has been sober nearly one year after drinking since his teenage years. He's had clinical depression for nearly as long, though he was officially diagnosed well into our marriage. He drank despite warnings from his therapist. He stopped seeing the therapist. I admit to years of enabling both th...	Hope4Peace	7	608	Jan 21, 2012 by Hope4Peace
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